EBR 062: I Unfriended My Ex Boyfriend On Facebook… What Do I Do?

It’s funny, I still remember the days when MySpace was a thing.

(If you don’t know what that is don’t worry, I got your back)

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But then Facebook came along and took over as the social media giant!

And as the years ticked by and Facebook became more and more mainstream it started to work it’s way into relationships. Heck, I suppose I do owe Facebook a debt of gratitude because without it I wouldn’t have met my wife.

(FYI: we met on Facebook!)

Don’t believe me?

Well, here is our very first conversation ever,

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Honestly it’s really funny looking back at it but I don’t want to get too off topic here.

As Facebook has worked it’s way into dating there are certain rules that you need to abide by if you want to achieve the maximum results with it.

And that leads us to today’s episode.

A few days ago a woman contacted me and asked a relatively simple question,

I have unfriended my ex on Facebook as a result of the advice of my friends but when I found your website I noticed that you advised against unfriending your ex. What am I supposed to do?

I’m not going to lie.

This is a question that I get all the time and in this episode I tackle it!

Video Of Episode 62 (I Unfriended My Ex Boyfriend On Facebook…)

Let me know in the comments what you think of this episode. I love getting feedback from you guys. What are we doing right? What are we doing wrong?

Please, let us know.

The Situation At Hand

  • The breakup was relatively recent
  • Anonymous (the woman who called in to the podcast) says that his reasoning for the breakup was that work was a big issue
  • He claims “he’s feeling lost.”
  • Her friends suggested that she should unfriend him on Facebook
  • So she did just that
  • She is currently in the midst of a no contact rule
  • She wonders if she should “friend” him on Facebook again

What I Talk About In This Episode

  • Facebook is a tool that you can use during the no contact rule
  • In fact, all social media is a tool that you can use
  • The uninformed giving advice
  • Taking what your friend say with a grain of salt
  • The stereotypes that society has about getting an ex back
  • An embarrassing story about me
  • What you should do now that you have unfriended your ex

Important Links Mentioned In This Episode

Interview Transcript

  • Hey there and welcome to another episode of the exboyfriend recovery podcast.

    As always, excited to have you here. I feel like a broken record every time I start one of this episodes. It’s like the go to phrase. I probably should switch it up a bit huh?

    Anyways we have really, really good episode playing for you today because we’re going to be talking about social media which is something that’s gained a lot of steam and popularity in our specific niche. So, the thing we’re going to talk about specifically is Facebook and we had a woman call in and asked a really, really simple question but I have a lot to say about it.

    I have a pretty really, maybe a little embarrassing story to tell you about it. So, stay tuned for that and let’s just not beat around the bush today. Let’s just get right to it.

    Lets’ hear the woman’s question who called in about Facebook.

  • My boyfriend and I recently broke up because he wasn’t able to be in a relationship right now due to work and work stress and saying that he’s feeling lost.

    As per my friend’s request or suggestions, I unfriended him on Facebook. I read your article just about an hour ago about how I should not have done that. I don’t even know if he and I can get back together and by the way I am doing the no contact right now.

    And if there’s–should I– I don’t know what to do about Facebook. If you could help me, do I just let it go and re-friend him after the 30 day no contact rule? I would appreciate your guidance.

    Thanks.

  • Alright. Well, I’m really glad you brought this question is up because it’s a question that I get a lot.

    As you can imagine we have a half a million people coming to exboyfriend recovery every single month and every single day we get this exact question where you have unfriended your exboyfriend on Facebook or he’s unfriended you and you don’t know how to go about it. So, that’s what I’m going to do for you today. I’m going to tell you exactly what you should do and I also have some thoughts and like I said an embarrassing story to tell you.

    So, first up, let’s do a quick recap of your situation. You called in and you didn’t give your name. So, I’m just going to assume that you want to remain anonymous.

    You have just went through a break up so, it’s a very, very recent which is an important thing to note because generally speaking the longer you are away from your break up and the longer you haven’t had a real conversation with your ex, the harder it is to get him back.

    He says that work was the biggest issue and he couldn’t really have a relationship because of his work. He was feeling lost blah, blah, blah.

    We’ve all heard that story and your friends suggested that you do something really interesting I suppose. I’ll put it that way. Your friends suggested that you should unfriend him on Facebook. So, you did. You unfriended him on Facebook and then you read my article and you saw that I said not to do that and now you kind of find yourself between a rock and a hard place.

    You don’t know what to do.

    Should you re-friend him? Should you wait until after the no contact rule which you mentioned that you just started to try to refriend him and you also had a really interesting question. I think really the gist of this, you want to kind of gauge your chances of getting him back. So, we’ll talk a little bit about that.

    Alright, so the first that thing that I want to really cover is your friends.

    So, your friends gave you some very poor advice. Now, everyone knows that if you’ve coming to my website, reading my website, that I am big on staying friends with your ex after social media because statistics have shown that your ex will probably snoop around your Facebook or your Twitter or whatever other social, Snapchat or whatever other, Instagram– I keep thinking of them, of new social medias as I’m talking.

    Well, chances are your ex is probably going to snoop around those and you can kind of control the narrative and control what he sees and that’s an important thing to do because not only can you project the way you want to be projected to him. It also will give you some quiet confidence I’ve found but your friends gave you some bad advice and I’m really actually glad that you brought this up because this is something that I see a lot of.

    I have dedicated about half a decade to researching break ups and trying to understand the male psyche and what goes through his mind during a break up and why he acts the way he acts. I suppose, if you look at it from a bird’s eye view, I am what you would call a very informed individual when it comes to break ups. It’s something that I deal with pretty much everyday of my life for the last 5 years.

    Now, your friends do not have that ability. They are uninformed when it comes to break ups and the interesting thing about break ups is that there is always this negative stereotypes. Especially when it comes to getting an ex back. People don’t want you to succeed. It’s a weird thing but there’s this negative stereotype behind it.

    You’ve always heard the phrase,

    “Hey, there’s other fish in the sea.”

    or,

    “Oh it’s ok. You’ll find another one. There are a zillion men out there.”

    But you, when you come to the realization that, “No, I want this one man.” Your friends aren’t always going to be supportive. Now, I had an interview which I’ll make sure I’ll write a note to link to it.

    It was with a gentleman by the name of Neil Sattin. He is a professional relationship coach and I interviewed him for this podcast.

    Now, the really cool thing about Neil is he is really into self-healing and he agrees that sometimes it’s really important for two people to be apart in order for them to come to the realization that they need to be together.
    And he mentioned that one of the best things you can do after a break up is to kind of rely on your friends and family.

    And I think this is great advice but he said something and I’m really glad that he said it because I am definitely aligned with him on this. He said take everything that they say to you with a grain of salt. These are people that aren’t dedicated to this area.

    They aren’t dedicated to breakups. They don’t understand the tendencies that people tend to act out when they go through a break up and one of those tendencies and one of those stereotypes is the fact that everyone thinks that you should unfriend your ex on Facebook. Block him on Facebook but in a research and in my personal experience, this is not the way to go.

    Now, you read an article where I mentioned that and I’m really glad that you had the foresight to read the article to get to the point where I did mention that. But it is very important that you not unfriend your ex on Facebook or any other social media because it is a tool for getting him back, assuming that’s what you want to do. Now, your friends are uninformed.

    So, here’s what I want you to do, I want you to rely on them for support but when it comes to your ex in advising you, “Hey, say this.” or “Hey, do this.” Take everything they say with a grain of salt. This are uninformed individuals. I’m not saying that they’re dumb. I’m not saying that their advice is bad. What I’m saying is they are uninformed. They haven’t been doing this for half a decade and I’m trying to think of a really great analogy for you.

    So,  a great analogy would be kind of like if a- if you wanted to become a professional baseball player, would you go to someone who’s just been doing–just started playing baseball for a year or you would go to a professional major league baseball player? Chances are you take the advice from the professional major league baseball player and that’s kind of what we’re doing with here.

    I’m here telling you, “Ok, not a good idea to unfriend your ex. I have experience in this. I’ve dedicated half a decade of my life to this art.” Your friends haven’t dedicated anything. They just probably have their own experience as to go off of and chances are not many of them have gotten their exes back. Now, like I said, it’s not to say that they’re dumb and their advice is bad. Sometimes your friends will have the greatest advice ever but just remember take everything with a grain of salt before you take any action.

    Now, let’s move on to what you should do about the Facebook dilemma that you found yourself in. So, you asked the question, “Ok, what do I do to remedy this situation? Should I just try refriend him right now or wait until a little bit of time goes by?” And my thoughts on this are pretty clear. You’re off to a great start. You’re in the midst of a no contact rule and that no contact rule usually is where you want to utilize the Facebook and all of the social media but here’s the thing. You cannot take your action back of unfriending him on Facebook.

    That is an action that you have basically done. You can’t take it back and it is going to appear to him–because he is going to be paying attention. Make no mistake about it anonymous. If you were to refriend him during the no contact rule when you’re not talking about him, it is a clear action that you are taking that prove to him that you are still thinking about him.

    And one of the reasons that the no contact rule is kind of effective is it projects this persona where it appears to him like you’re not thinking about him and you’ve always heard that phrase, “Men want what they can’t have.” Well, that kind of plays into that. So, it is important that you do not refriend him during the no contact rule.

    Instead, here is my recommendation. I want you to eventually refriend but only after you’ve built rapport after the no contact rule. It’s a natural way of getting him to accept your friend request. Why? Well, imagine this. Imagine you’ve gone through a no contact rule.

    Ok so far so good right there and you’ve started rebuilding rapport through text messages and you’re texting back and forth every single day and he’s enjoying the conversations and you’re enjoying the conversations. Well, re-friending him on Facebook is going to be a lot easier to get him to accept that friend request as opposed to doing it when you’re ignoring him and he could still be angry at you.

    Now, I promised you that I was going to tell an embarrassing story. So, here it is. I mentioned that–maybe I should back up and rephrase this. One of the things that people don’t seem to believe when I tell them that, yes, your ex is going to snoop around your Facebook profile, is they believe that that’s a lie. They don’t believe that he is going to do that. Except research has pointed out that 90% of exes have been proven to do this, Facebook creep on you. So, I’m going to tell you a story about my very first break up and essentially what I did.

    So, I was in a similar situation to you anonymous. My ex and I, even though your break up sounds a little bit amicable and mine was really, really bad. There was yelling, fighting. Nothing was thrown or anything violent like that but inside, mentally, it hurt my feelings and things have been going pretty stale between the two of us for a long time.

    So, the break up was a long time coming and I remember being so upset after the break up that I decided to unfriend my ex after. Like almost immediately after the break up. And I remember thinking to myself, “I am not going to talk to her. I am not going to look at her profile or anything.”

    But of course, it took a full day, one full day. I lasted for one full day without looking at her Facebook profile and then I did. I looked at her Facebook profile. Essentially what I wanted to see was that she was depressed. That she couldn’t live without me.

    That would have given me the greatest satisfaction. And really, it was kind of nothing. She didn’t update her profile for like a week or two which I supposed meant something because this was a girl who updated her Facebook profile pretty much every single day but that–even though it’s embarrassing for me to talk about that.

    Yes, I even stooped to a level where I unfriended my ex. It was very vindictive and the fact that yes, I wanted her to suffer and I did this to hurt her. It is something that I did. It does prove my point that exes do snoop around your Facebook profile.

    So, that is going to do it for this episode of the ex boyfriend recovery podcast. If you have any question or comments, please feel free to visit the show notes of this episode and ask your questions or comments there.

    If you’re watching this on Youtube and you have a question about Facebook or just exes in general, feel free to comment on our Facebook profile.

    We do our best to respond to every single comment that we get.

    This was a blast! Thank you so much! I’ll see you next time.

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Kyntiew
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Hey, me and my ex boyfriend broke up because he was not ready to be committed. So the next two days after the break up he went out with a girl. That freaks me out and the next day I saw him since we are working together I asked him back the phone I gifted him on his birthday and he don’t wanna give it back to me instead he asked me to pay him back every penny he spend on me. So I gave him alot alot of cash and I got the phone back and he told me… Read more »
Kyntiew
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Yes, Chris but I still miss him and I want him back for good… We planned for marriage sometime this year and I just can’t forget him just like that… Should I do the “No contact “?

Kyntiew
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Not officially engaged…. My family have approved our love but he haven’t introduced me to his mom yet.

Kyntiew
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Of course ! I would love to…

Kyntiew
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Yup….right

Kyntiew
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Chris is it right to leave my job since he is now the boss in our office…. I’m thinking of resigning… I just can’t take it anymore its been more than 30 days that we didn’t talk I’ve been in no contact but since nothing changed I just want to forget him forever now….coz I know that it’s impossible for us I guess to get back. I love him way too much I’m confused now don’t know what to do.. I need help!

Kyntiew
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Thanks for your suggestion.

Kyntiew
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Hi, Chris once again so after everything. I had some official work to deal with him. So I spoke to him and he was ready to help me out. He came to my place and helped. After that I received a message from him in Skype saying that you smell good. And I responded thank you. And then I had to call him again for some work and I gave him my seat he was like its hot like u. After our work he came out and he saw me sitting he told me can I join you and I… Read more »
Felicia
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I unfriended him on Facebook about a few days ago. He broke up with me on the 5th of March. He stated that he needed to spend time alone but later texted me that he feels that we lost what we had. I had thought we were on break when he said time alone. Context for this, we’d been a bit rocky for a month. He said he felt pushed to a dark place and couldn’t handle being there again. He said it was too much stress being there for me, during a depressive period of mine. We fought over… Read more »
Patricia
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My ex and I were together for almost 4 years. It was an off an on relationship but either way for this last period we were doing so well.. Then the fights started so we broke up in a “mutual agreement” (actually he didn’t want to break up initially so I broke up with him and after a few hours he told me that maybe it was for the best.) . It’s been two months since the break up. At first I was doing the NC period. He reach out to me a few times after a few weeks of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Patricia,

Just do everything right. Make your posts public.. If it doesn’t work out, move on.

Patricia
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My ex and I were together for almost 4 years. It was an off an on relationship but either way for this last period we were doing so well.. Then the fights started so we broke up in a “mutual agreement” (actually he didn’t want to break up initially so I broke up with him and after a few hours he told me that maybe it was for the best.) . It’s been two months since the break up. At first I was doing the NC period. He reach out to me a few times after a few weeks of… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

HI Patricia,

Just do everything right. Make your posts public.. If it doesn’t work out, move on.

Waga
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So…I unfriended my ex a few months ago; due to the fact I had became unhealthily obsessed with his online ness that I couldn’t heal or move on with anything. Our break up completely floored me and it was sort of left uncertain about future reconciliation too. Then I seen something that upset me so my friends urged me to do it to help myself. He reached out to me despite it to apologise for how he’d treated me in the break up. I stupidly rose to it thinking it might mean there something there but he has since made… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Waga,

do you want to do the no contact rule?

Waga
Guest

I’m currently like 16 days in to it. I’m not sure what it’ll achieve since there’s distance involved. And the split was six months ago

EBR Team Member: Amor
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EBR Team Member: Amor

your improvement… That’s the most important aspect of it.. Whether you gwt him back or not, you still have your better self.. The improvement is what will increase the chanes of hin regretting the break up.. That’s why it needs to be genuine…

waga
Guest

Thank you. Yes that is what I’m doing..however how will this improvement be portrayed if we don’t have any contact. His ‘gut’ tells him I’m not the one..yet i was also his first gf so he’s pretty inexperienced.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you need to be active in posting in social media..that’s your indirect way of showing it..

Waga
Guest

Thank you, but I unfriended him on social media, almost three months ago to aid my recovery….I’m missing him a lot but on day 22 of making no contact. This is the longest period we have gone without messaging to date, so it’s upsetting.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

make your posts public

Waga
Guest
So…I unfriended my ex a few months ago; due to the fact I had became unhealthily obsessed with his online ness that I couldn’t heal or move on with anything. Our break up completely floored me and it was sort of left uncertain about future reconciliation too. Then I seen something that upset me so my friends urged me to do it to help myself. He reached out to me despite it to apologise for how he’d treated me in the break up. I stupidly rose to it thinking it might mean there something there but he has since made… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Waga,

do you want to do the no contact rule?

Waga
Guest

I’m currently like 16 days in to it. I’m not sure what it’ll achieve since there’s distance involved. And the split was six months ago

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

your improvement… That’s the most important aspect of it.. Whether you gwt him back or not, you still have your better self.. The improvement is what will increase the chanes of hin regretting the break up.. That’s why it needs to be genuine…

waga
Guest

Thank you. Yes that is what I’m doing..however how will this improvement be portrayed if we don’t have any contact. His ‘gut’ tells him I’m not the one..yet i was also his first gf so he’s pretty inexperienced.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

you need to be active in posting in social media..that’s your indirect way of showing it..

Waga
Guest

Thank you, but I unfriended him on social media, almost three months ago to aid my recovery….I’m missing him a lot but on day 22 of making no contact. This is the longest period we have gone without messaging to date, so it’s upsetting.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

make your posts public

Hana
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we were in distance relation for 3years and suddenly broke up with me in june.2016 and in october .2016 we inter NC . and unfriend each other from social media. he blocked me on whats app but one month ago he unblock me. yesterday i sent him a text via whats app and he replied directly. is it mean any thing ??? by the ways, it was like a cold texts

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hana,

what was the text you sent? It could mean he just unblocked you so that it doesn’t seem like he’s still angry with you.

Hana
Guest

we were in distance relation for 3years and suddenly broke up with me in june.2016 and in october .2016 we inter NC . and unfriend each other from social media. he blocked me on whats app but one month ago he unblock me. yesterday i sent him a text via whats app and he replied directly. is it mean any thing ??? by the ways, it was like a cold texts

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Hana,

what was the text you sent? It could mean he just unblocked you so that it doesn’t seem like he’s still angry with you.

JS
Guest
Hi there, I was really upset with my ex. He broke up with me but wants to stay friends. I made it very clear to him that I don’t want to stay friends. I started NC of 30 days. But in 3 days he texted me when I didn’t respond he called and eventually I had to answer his calls. He said he cannot do without talking to me but we don’t have a future together. He wants to be friends with me. I don’t want to be friends with him. i got so annoyed with the whole on-off relationship… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Js,

nope, just make your posts public..

JS
Guest

Amor, It is really difficult to do NC. I am breaking down each day. I broke the NC in 5 days and texted him if he wants to meet on Valentine’s day and he said NO. he is not angry with me. we broke up because of his parents. so e just wants to move on now.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well, the more you do nc, the less it can help you. So, it’s either you stick to it, or move on.

JS
Guest
Hi there, I was really upset with my ex. He broke up with me but wants to stay friends. I made it very clear to him that I don’t want to stay friends. I started NC of 30 days. But in 3 days he texted me when I didn’t respond he called and eventually I had to answer his calls. He said he cannot do without talking to me but we don’t have a future together. He wants to be friends with me. I don’t want to be friends with him. i got so annoyed with the whole on-off relationship… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Js,

nope, just make your posts public..

JS
Guest

Amor, It is really difficult to do NC. I am breaking down each day. I broke the NC in 5 days and texted him if he wants to meet on Valentine’s day and he said NO. he is not angry with me. we broke up because of his parents. so e just wants to move on now.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well, the more you do nc, the less it can help you. So, it’s either you stick to it, or move on.

Erica
Guest

What if he unfriend on Facebook me during NC? Should I just wait until NC end and then rebuild the rapport and maybe after that befriend him? It is my 10th day now. i sent my last message 10 days ago but no reply. I heard from him last time three weeks ago. Normally I am not so active on Facebook but now I try being more active but I worry if he unfriends me.

Thanks for a great site!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Erica,

yes, that’s the right approach if he unfriends you..

Erica
Guest

What if he unfriend on Facebook me during NC? Should I just wait until NC end and then rebuild the rapport and maybe after that befriend him? It is my 10th day now. i sent my last message 10 days ago but no reply. I heard from him last time three weeks ago. Normally I am not so active on Facebook but now I try being more active but I worry if he unfriends me.

Thanks for a great site!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Erica,

yes, that’s the right approach if he unfriends you..

Dee
Guest
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me during an unexpected fight. We are long distance currently and I isit came back from a good visit. The phone call was 15 minutes of I love you miss you can’t wait to see you and ended with a random fight and him ending things. I melted down and asked him not to end it to talk tomorrow when we aren’t upset and he cancelled my plane ticket while on the phone. It’s been a week and a half and he hasn’t changed his relationship status on Facebook. I’m wondering when… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dee,

if you’re going to do the no contact rule, set aside changing the status.Since it’s also hidden, it wouldn’t really matter that much.. What’s more important is that your active in posting your activities

Dee
Guest

It still shows on his page tho? Is changing the status considered a “contact?”

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

not really but if you’re wanting him back, that’s just a small detail.. and if you ever get him back then you would have to change it again

Dee
Guest

Wouldn’t changing it show I’m moving on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes thats right.. but it could also make him think you’re purposely doing it for him since he’s the only one who can see it right?

Dee
Guest

Well – everyone on his page can?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

ah.. ok! if you want to do it foe the purpose of conveying you’re moving on, go..but just a friendly reminder to prepare yourself emotionally if he ever gets angry or does something to match that, just ignore it

Dee
Guest
So I decided not to change it just to see what happened. We were long distance and I was supposed to be there this weekend so I was thinking maybe he’d miss me and reach out. He didn’t. But he changed his Facebook status tonight ! He took us out of a relationship and then hid the relationship on his page so at least it’s not blaring that it’s single I haven’t heard from him since the breakup it has been 18 nights I did melt down during the breakup convo but I didn’t reach out to him since. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if he’s waiting for you then he would be happy once you initiate after nc

Dee
Guest

Isn’t there such thing as a window of opportunity for reconciliation? Like why does it have to Be no contact and let’s play a game and see if we get back together
Like what if I missed the reconciliation period ?? And that’s why he waited 2+ weeks to change his status ??

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it depends but more likely if he wasn’t really sure, the nc period would have made him realize that early on, made him panic and asked for you back because he can see he’s losing you because of an unsure move..

He could have taken 2 weeks because he wants to avoid drama or there was still some feelings but it was not enough to want you back

Dee
Guest
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me during an unexpected fight. We are long distance currently and I isit came back from a good visit. The phone call was 15 minutes of I love you miss you can’t wait to see you and ended with a random fight and him ending things. I melted down and asked him not to end it to talk tomorrow when we aren’t upset and he cancelled my plane ticket while on the phone. It’s been a week and a half and he hasn’t changed his relationship status on Facebook. I’m wondering when… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dee,

if you’re going to do the no contact rule, set aside changing the status.Since it’s also hidden, it wouldn’t really matter that much.. What’s more important is that your active in posting your activities

Dee
Guest

It still shows on his page tho? Is changing the status considered a “contact?”

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

not really but if you’re wanting him back, that’s just a small detail.. and if you ever get him back then you would have to change it again

Dee
Guest

Wouldn’t changing it show I’m moving on?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

yes thats right.. but it could also make him think you’re purposely doing it for him since he’s the only one who can see it right?

Dee
Guest

Well – everyone on his page can?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

ah.. ok! if you want to do it foe the purpose of conveying you’re moving on, go..but just a friendly reminder to prepare yourself emotionally if he ever gets angry or does something to match that, just ignore it

Dee
Guest
So I decided not to change it just to see what happened. We were long distance and I was supposed to be there this weekend so I was thinking maybe he’d miss me and reach out. He didn’t. But he changed his Facebook status tonight ! He took us out of a relationship and then hid the relationship on his page so at least it’s not blaring that it’s single I haven’t heard from him since the breakup it has been 18 nights I did melt down during the breakup convo but I didn’t reach out to him since. I… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if he’s waiting for you then he would be happy once you initiate after nc

Dee
Guest

Isn’t there such thing as a window of opportunity for reconciliation? Like why does it have to Be no contact and let’s play a game and see if we get back together
Like what if I missed the reconciliation period ?? And that’s why he waited 2+ weeks to change his status ??

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

it depends but more likely if he wasn’t really sure, the nc period would have made him realize that early on, made him panic and asked for you back because he can see he’s losing you because of an unsure move..

He could have taken 2 weeks because he wants to avoid drama or there was still some feelings but it was not enough to want you back

Dreida
Guest
Hello, My ex-boyfriend and I dated for approximately 2 years and officially broke up on October 30, 2016, but stayed as “friends” to start from scratch. However, that didn’t work out and we ended everything on January 1, 2017 and I have been doing the NC for 13 days, after begging him for 3 days to not do this (I feel ashamed for this). Out of a few things, the big issue was that we fought a lot, I have a lot of insecurities that came out while we were dating, and he was emotionally unavailable (we lost our emotional… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dreida,

approach it like he has moved on.. take this as a restart and think of it as attracting him back..you’re right, he has to think you have moved on..So be active in improving yourself

Dredia
Guest

I am still undecided if to go for 30 or 45 days in the NC, but when it’s over, should I reach out to him even though he hasn’t contacted me, or just let things be and keep moving on? And how we’ll he think that I have moved on if I unfriended him from social media?

Thank you for your help, Amor.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Don’t send a friend request during nc.. Do it after nc when you’ve built enough rapport. I think you should make it 45 days.. Make your posts public, so that he can see it through mutual friends or when he gets curious. That’s your indirect way of showing your improvements.

Dreida
Guest
Hello, My ex-boyfriend and I dated for approximately 2 years and officially broke up on October 30, 2016, but stayed as “friends” to start from scratch. However, that didn’t work out and we ended everything on January 1, 2017 and I have been doing the NC for 13 days, after begging him for 3 days to not do this (I feel ashamed for this). Out of a few things, the big issue was that we fought a lot, I have a lot of insecurities that came out while we were dating, and he was emotionally unavailable (we lost our emotional… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Dreida,

approach it like he has moved on.. take this as a restart and think of it as attracting him back..you’re right, he has to think you have moved on..So be active in improving yourself

Dredia
Guest

I am still undecided if to go for 30 or 45 days in the NC, but when it’s over, should I reach out to him even though he hasn’t contacted me, or just let things be and keep moving on? And how we’ll he think that I have moved on if I unfriended him from social media?

Thank you for your help, Amor.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Don’t send a friend request during nc.. Do it after nc when you’ve built enough rapport. I think you should make it 45 days.. Make your posts public, so that he can see it through mutual friends or when he gets curious. That’s your indirect way of showing your improvements.

Jorda
Guest
Hello ex-boyfriend recovery! After the breakup and me begging him to not leave, I went into no contact. I responded to some important letters (my address, business stuff) to get things out of the way. A month after the breakup, he decided he wants to talk to me an arrange to meet up. I was very down-to-earth and didn’t let emotions rule over me. I was pretty neutral, saying ”yeah, sure we can hang out and grab a coffee, smoke together, sure we can remain friends”. He wrote me a few days after with some book recommendation and I ignored… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jorda,

You can say:

I’m sorry I didn’t address that immediately. I didn’t do it to upset you, but I had to do it to completely move on.

Jorda
Guest
Hello ex-boyfriend recovery! After the breakup and me begging him to not leave, I went into no contact. I responded to some important letters (my address, business stuff) to get things out of the way. A month after the breakup, he decided he wants to talk to me an arrange to meet up. I was very down-to-earth and didn’t let emotions rule over me. I was pretty neutral, saying ”yeah, sure we can hang out and grab a coffee, smoke together, sure we can remain friends”. He wrote me a few days after with some book recommendation and I ignored… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jorda,

You can say:

I’m sorry I didn’t address that immediately. I didn’t do it to upset you, but I had to do it to completely move on.

kay
Guest

okay so I haven’t unfounded my ex on Facebook but i am STRONGLY considering deleting him on instagram. I can see every time he likes a female’s photo and it honestly bothers me way too much, and is really starting to hurt my self esteem. I am in no contact and trying not to think about him but Instagram bothers me almost everyday. Can I delete him? I dont see why not? Maybe it will piss him off and thats what he needs.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if it helps you emotionally, sure.

Krissy d
Guest

But do you think it will harm my chances with him?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You can add him back when you’ve built rapport later on.. because if it helps you more when you delete, go for it. But if you can find a way around it,not deleting him, then better.

kay
Guest

okay so I haven’t unfounded my ex on Facebook but i am STRONGLY considering deleting him on instagram. I can see every time he likes a female’s photo and it honestly bothers me way too much, and is really starting to hurt my self esteem. I am in no contact and trying not to think about him but Instagram bothers me almost everyday. Can I delete him? I dont see why not? Maybe it will piss him off and thats what he needs.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

if it helps you emotionally, sure.

Krissy d
Guest

But do you think it will harm my chances with him?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

You can add him back when you’ve built rapport later on.. because if it helps you more when you delete, go for it. But if you can find a way around it,not deleting him, then better.

Lexi
Guest
Hi, So I’ve been in this back and forth relationship with this guy since the beginning of February (like 6-8 months). We met in February, but didn’t date till March because I found out when we started seeing each other that he had a girlfriend. Were together for three weeks when I found out he was talking to other girls on Tinder, I forgave him, and then a week later he broke up with me because he felt he shouldn’t be in a relationship at the moment (this is at the end of April). Two weeks go by and we’re… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lexi,

that’s good that you’re in no contact..be active in improving yourself and be activw in social media too..for us, the longest most of the time 45 days..Try that first, so you can reflect if you really want him back.. Do new things too. Join a short course or volunteer or a club to make new friends..

Lexi
Guest
Hi, So I’ve been in this back and forth relationship with this guy since the beginning of February (like 6-8 months). We met in February, but didn’t date till March because I found out when we started seeing each other that he had a girlfriend. Were together for three weeks when I found out he was talking to other girls on Tinder, I forgave him, and then a week later he broke up with me because he felt he shouldn’t be in a relationship at the moment (this is at the end of April). Two weeks go by and we’re… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Lexi,

that’s good that you’re in no contact..be active in improving yourself and be activw in social media too..for us, the longest most of the time 45 days..Try that first, so you can reflect if you really want him back.. Do new things too. Join a short course or volunteer or a club to make new friends..

Liz
Guest

Initially, I received messages about something going on between the two of them apparent sent by her. He lied about things, wasn’t forthcoming with info, and walked away without explaining all of this. That’s the reason I went the family (they knew the other girl). He go upset with me because I let them know what he was doing basically and his game was up. So, he apparently let her go along with blaming me and let me go too. Or has he really let her go? Either way, he’s not communicating with me.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well whatever he did with her,.it looks like he’s ok with starting out as friends but not now.. I think he wants to be sure that you’ve moved on..

Liz
Guest

Initially, I received messages about something going on between the two of them apparent sent by her. He lied about things, wasn’t forthcoming with info, and walked away without explaining all of this. That’s the reason I went the family (they knew the other girl). He go upset with me because I let them know what he was doing basically and his game was up. So, he apparently let her go along with blaming me and let me go too. Or has he really let her go? Either way, he’s not communicating with me.

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well whatever he did with her,.it looks like he’s ok with starting out as friends but not now.. I think he wants to be sure that you’ve moved on..

Jenn
Guest
My ex and I got into a fight a little over a week ago, when he broke up with me. He wanted to stay friends, but I told him that wasn’t possible. He was upset with me, and he deleted me from FB right away. Then he told me to lose his number and never text to call him again, then told me I was blocked. He then calmed down, and he friend requested me again on FB. I had already read your articles about NC, and so far I am on day 9. I did not accept his friend… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jenn,

that’s good that you didn’t approve it now.. It would be better to approve when you’ve already started building rapport.

Jenn
Guest
My ex and I got into a fight a little over a week ago, when he broke up with me. He wanted to stay friends, but I told him that wasn’t possible. He was upset with me, and he deleted me from FB right away. Then he told me to lose his number and never text to call him again, then told me I was blocked. He then calmed down, and he friend requested me again on FB. I had already read your articles about NC, and so far I am on day 9. I did not accept his friend… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Jenn,

that’s good that you didn’t approve it now.. It would be better to approve when you’ve already started building rapport.

Alicja
Guest
Hello everyone ! I am not English, so I’m sorry for my possibly mistakes in text. When I have been looking for advice what to do, to make my Ex back ( he left me about 3 weeks ago) I found your page. Please, tell me – does No Contact Rule work even then if my boyfriend told me that he has stoped love me?? < He doesnt need realtionship with anybody, he prefer to live alone . what to do now? Is any chance to get him back ? ps. No there isn’t another woman in his live
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alicja,

if he said he doesn’t love you anymore, that more probably means he lost desire. There’s not guarantee that the no contact rule will work but it would be better if you try it. So, that you won’t look like you’re chasing him and that you start to heal and improve yourself. That means you can’t like his posts too. Just focus in improving yourself.. be active in posting in social media but don’t stalk his account.

Alicja
Guest
Hello everyone ! I am not English, so I’m sorry for my possibly mistakes in text. When I have been looking for advice what to do, to make my Ex back ( he left me about 3 weeks ago) I found your page. Please, tell me – does No Contact Rule work even then if my boyfriend told me that he has stoped love me?? < He doesnt need realtionship with anybody, he prefer to live alone . what to do now? Is any chance to get him back ? ps. No there isn’t another woman in his live
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Alicja,

if he said he doesn’t love you anymore, that more probably means he lost desire. There’s not guarantee that the no contact rule will work but it would be better if you try it. So, that you won’t look like you’re chasing him and that you start to heal and improve yourself. That means you can’t like his posts too. Just focus in improving yourself.. be active in posting in social media but don’t stalk his account.

riley
Guest

I deleted my ex on the day he broke up with me a week ago. What if my ex tries to re-add me on facebook during NC? Should I accept it? He wants to get back together but it’s only been a week. I am afraid he will continue to be hot and cold, and I feel we need more time apart. Should I ignore his emails and friend request?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Riley,

since he asked for you back,.talk to him.. tell him why you’re having second thoughts on taking him back

Liz
Guest
Hi Chris, I just watched your podcast about unfriending your ex…a week too late. My ex and I were together for almost 2 years. However, there was some dishonesty on his part and he wouldn’t talk to me, he walked away. I have a relationship with his sister and asked her for advice (my intentions were just to get answers) with the situation (she knew the person). When he found out he was angry. We broke up officially. He said he doesn’t hate me, could never hate me, but resents what I did. Even though he wouldn’t address the problem.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Liz,

I think he was irritated because he doesnt want you to get his family involved with your relationship problems.. just let him cool down by staying in nc

Liz
Guest

Thank you! How long do I stay in no contact mode? Do I eventually reach out to him if he doesn’t?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Do at least 30 days and be active in improving yourself during and after it.. you can initiate a text after 30 days

Liz
Guest
So Amor, I have been in NC for 24 days now. His birthday came and went without me contacting him. Unfortunately, now the so-called other girl (the reason we broke up along with his dishonesty about it) has been harassing me via FB under different accounts. I was told to get a photo of her, so I contacted him (found out I was blocked) for the info. He eventually responded via text and email, gave me the info, we emailed back and forth a few times. I mentioned I hoped we could talk one day. His response was “We’ll see… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

how did the other girl harass you? I think it’s too early to say..but dont break nc again

Liz
Guest
She has created multiple FB accounts, pretends to be these people and has sent me messages about him. This time, she mentioned things about my job which has caused me to inform my boss. Clearly, there’s some reason she’s doing this. I just don’t know why he would block me. I have not tried to contact him since being in NC except for needing to know who she is, that’s how I found out he has me blocked. Is he just playing games by the whole “always your friend”, “we’ll see what the future holds”, sending the picture, and blocking… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well whatever he did with her,.it looks like he’s ok with starting out as friends but not now.. I think he wants to be sure that you’ve moved on..

riley
Guest

I deleted my ex on the day he broke up with me a week ago. What if my ex tries to re-add me on facebook during NC? Should I accept it? He wants to get back together but it’s only been a week. I am afraid he will continue to be hot and cold, and I feel we need more time apart. Should I ignore his emails and friend request?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Riley,

since he asked for you back,.talk to him.. tell him why you’re having second thoughts on taking him back

Liz
Guest
Hi Chris, I just watched your podcast about unfriending your ex…a week too late. My ex and I were together for almost 2 years. However, there was some dishonesty on his part and he wouldn’t talk to me, he walked away. I have a relationship with his sister and asked her for advice (my intentions were just to get answers) with the situation (she knew the person). When he found out he was angry. We broke up officially. He said he doesn’t hate me, could never hate me, but resents what I did. Even though he wouldn’t address the problem.… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Liz,

I think he was irritated because he doesnt want you to get his family involved with your relationship problems.. just let him cool down by staying in nc

Liz
Guest

Thank you! How long do I stay in no contact mode? Do I eventually reach out to him if he doesn’t?

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Do at least 30 days and be active in improving yourself during and after it.. you can initiate a text after 30 days

Liz
Guest
So Amor, I have been in NC for 24 days now. His birthday came and went without me contacting him. Unfortunately, now the so-called other girl (the reason we broke up along with his dishonesty about it) has been harassing me via FB under different accounts. I was told to get a photo of her, so I contacted him (found out I was blocked) for the info. He eventually responded via text and email, gave me the info, we emailed back and forth a few times. I mentioned I hoped we could talk one day. His response was “We’ll see… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

how did the other girl harass you? I think it’s too early to say..but dont break nc again

Liz
Guest
She has created multiple FB accounts, pretends to be these people and has sent me messages about him. This time, she mentioned things about my job which has caused me to inform my boss. Clearly, there’s some reason she’s doing this. I just don’t know why he would block me. I have not tried to contact him since being in NC except for needing to know who she is, that’s how I found out he has me blocked. Is he just playing games by the whole “always your friend”, “we’ll see what the future holds”, sending the picture, and blocking… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

well whatever he did with her,.it looks like he’s ok with starting out as friends but not now.. I think he wants to be sure that you’ve moved on..

Ali
Guest
Hi- I’m hoping you can help me. I broke up with my Boyfriend 7 months ago. We were together 4 years. We lived together for a year, but he cheated on me for 5 months, and though we tried to work through it, the fighting got too much, and he moved out. Since then it’s been a roller coaster. Sometimes we get along great, there have been a few weeks where we didn’t talk because I told him I couldn’t be friends (then ones of us will reach out) , and we’ve slept together multiple times. Sometimes I miss him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ali,

you can’t force him to change so the best you can do is to be strict with yourself. Don’t enable him. Don’t sleep with him again. DO 45 days no contact and just focus in improving yourself. After it, slowly build rapport with him. If it doesn’t work out, move on.

Ali
Guest
Hi- I’m hoping you can help me. I broke up with my Boyfriend 7 months ago. We were together 4 years. We lived together for a year, but he cheated on me for 5 months, and though we tried to work through it, the fighting got too much, and he moved out. Since then it’s been a roller coaster. Sometimes we get along great, there have been a few weeks where we didn’t talk because I told him I couldn’t be friends (then ones of us will reach out) , and we’ve slept together multiple times. Sometimes I miss him… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Ali,

you can’t force him to change so the best you can do is to be strict with yourself. Don’t enable him. Don’t sleep with him again. DO 45 days no contact and just focus in improving yourself. After it, slowly build rapport with him. If it doesn’t work out, move on.

Vera
Guest
Hi Chris, I’m on day 24 of nc after months of kind of being in the friend zone with my ex. We had a phenomenal relationship, but were never officially dating. We stopped seeing each other because he says he’s not happy with himself and wants to figure out some stuff before he gets into another (he’s never really had casual) relationship. After ghosting me for a month, we met and he apologized, saying that he couldn’t hang out with me one on one because things between us were too “effortlessly intimate” and the chemistry was “undeniably powerful and very… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vera,

No contact will not change his mind. It will not make him commit. It can help but it certainly is not the reason he will commit. And I’m pretty sure it will take some time after no contact for him to do that because you already had a 5 month text only relationship, so if he’s going to go back, he’ll probably try it that way again. I think you should extend to 45 and then slowly build rapport after that.. Try dating others too.. whether or groups or just one on one dates

Vera
Guest
Hi Chris, I’m on day 24 of nc after months of kind of being in the friend zone with my ex. We had a phenomenal relationship, but were never officially dating. We stopped seeing each other because he says he’s not happy with himself and wants to figure out some stuff before he gets into another (he’s never really had casual) relationship. After ghosting me for a month, we met and he apologized, saying that he couldn’t hang out with me one on one because things between us were too “effortlessly intimate” and the chemistry was “undeniably powerful and very… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vera,

No contact will not change his mind. It will not make him commit. It can help but it certainly is not the reason he will commit. And I’m pretty sure it will take some time after no contact for him to do that because you already had a 5 month text only relationship, so if he’s going to go back, he’ll probably try it that way again. I think you should extend to 45 and then slowly build rapport after that.. Try dating others too.. whether or groups or just one on one dates

Vera
Guest

Hi Amor,

That’s excellent advice and thank you for replying.
I am already dating other people, because I don’t think I should have to wait around for him to figure himself out. It’s just hard when I know that we both feel the same way about each other, but the timing is all wrong.
I’ll definitely give it a shot and see what happens anyway, as there’s no harm in trying…

Will let you know how it pans out.
Thanks again!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

we’ll love to hear what happens anx thank you too!

Vera
Guest
Hi Chris, I’m on day 24 of nc after months of kind of being in the friend zone with my ex. We had a phenomenal relationship, but were never officially dating. We stopped seeing each other because he says he’s not happy with himself and wants to figure out some stuff before he gets into another (he’s never really had casual) relationship. After ghosting me for a month, we met and he apologized, saying that he couldn’t hang out with me one on one because things between us were too “effortlessly intimate” and the chemistry was “undeniably powerful and very… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vera,

No contact will not change his mind. It will not make him commit. It can help but it certainly is not the reason he will commit. And I’m pretty sure it will take some time after no contact for him to do that because you already had a 5 month text only relationship, so if he’s going to go back, he’ll probably try it that way again. I think you should extend to 45 and then slowly build rapport after that.. Try dating others too.. whether or groups or just one on one dates

Vera
Guest
Hi Chris, I’m on day 24 of nc after months of kind of being in the friend zone with my ex. We had a phenomenal relationship, but were never officially dating. We stopped seeing each other because he says he’s not happy with himself and wants to figure out some stuff before he gets into another (he’s never really had casual) relationship. After ghosting me for a month, we met and he apologized, saying that he couldn’t hang out with me one on one because things between us were too “effortlessly intimate” and the chemistry was “undeniably powerful and very… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi Vera,

No contact will not change his mind. It will not make him commit. It can help but it certainly is not the reason he will commit. And I’m pretty sure it will take some time after no contact for him to do that because you already had a 5 month text only relationship, so if he’s going to go back, he’ll probably try it that way again. I think you should extend to 45 and then slowly build rapport after that.. Try dating others too.. whether or groups or just one on one dates

Vera
Guest

Hi Amor,

That’s excellent advice and thank you for replying.
I am already dating other people, because I don’t think I should have to wait around for him to figure himself out. It’s just hard when I know that we both feel the same way about each other, but the timing is all wrong.
I’ll definitely give it a shot and see what happens anyway, as there’s no harm in trying…

Will let you know how it pans out.
Thanks again!

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

we’ll love to hear what happens anx thank you too!

Kevyn
Guest

I wanted to add something as well
I’m still in the rapport building process with my ex, but in the meantime I’ve set my Facebook profile posts to be viewable by “friends of friends” instead of fully public, since we have mutuals. So if you aren’t comfortable going fully public, that is an alternative so it’ll allow him to see what you’re doing.

Kevyn
Guest

I wanted to add something as well
I’m still in the rapport building process with my ex, but in the meantime I’ve set my Facebook profile posts to be viewable by “friends of friends” instead of fully public, since we have mutuals. So if you aren’t comfortable going fully public, that is an alternative so it’ll allow him to see what you’re doing.

Lisa
Guest
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. Everytime we talk we will argue over little things and he’ll flip flop his mind on what he wants. He will go to my friends saying he wants to be with me but he dosent know what his parents will think about it (he’s really close to his family and likes their approval on everything). Then the other day he’s all asking my friends what I was doing over the weekend and asking who I hung out with. I guess he got mad because he found out I was… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi lisa,

how old is your ex and how long were you together?

Lisa
Guest

I’m 18 and he’s 19. And we were together for a little more than 4 months

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Ah, that’s why. He’s still young. He doesn’t have the capacity or the maturity to stand up on his own yet. You can’t force him to do that. That’s for him to learn. The best you can do is try the no contact rule, and just focus in improving yourself.

Lisa
Guest

I don’t understand why he had to block me and everything. The only thing he didn’t block me on was snapchat and through text. But I’m blocked through Facebook and snapchat

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

more likely it’s to help him hurt less

Lisa
Guest
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up about a month ago. Everytime we talk we will argue over little things and he’ll flip flop his mind on what he wants. He will go to my friends saying he wants to be with me but he dosent know what his parents will think about it (he’s really close to his family and likes their approval on everything). Then the other day he’s all asking my friends what I was doing over the weekend and asking who I hung out with. I guess he got mad because he found out I was… Read more »
EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Hi lisa,

how old is your ex and how long were you together?

Lisa
Guest

I’m 18 and he’s 19. And we were together for a little more than 4 months

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

Ah, that’s why. He’s still young. He doesn’t have the capacity or the maturity to stand up on his own yet. You can’t force him to do that. That’s for him to learn. The best you can do is try the no contact rule, and just focus in improving yourself.

Lisa
Guest

I don’t understand why he had to block me and everything. The only thing he didn’t block me on was snapchat and through text. But I’m blocked through Facebook and snapchat

EBR Team Member: Amor
Guest
EBR Team Member: Amor

more likely it’s to help him hurt less