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Samantha
October 23, 2016 at 8:03 pm
My boyfriend and I broke up a week ago and I moved out. Alot happened one night in April he went out for his mates birthday and he got soo drunk thst he started private messaging a collegue through Facebook. Neither her or her partner was impressed and let me know. I received all the evidence I needed and confronted him. It broke my heart and trust. He made me insecure but I still loved him. Few months down the line we moved in together and I got depression. He supported me through the thick of it and from what I remember I was an awful person but in reality it wasn’t me. We fought alot as soon as I went back to work and after 2 weeks of me being back at work he didn’t know if he loved me . He stopped all affection unless he wanted intercourse. I couldn’t live like that so I said it’s over and moved out within 2 days. Even though it’s only been a week I was texting him as I was missing him and it was difficult not to text my favourite person. His been out three times in the last week. I stopped texting him 2 days ago just trying to see if he misses me. I went out last night and so did he and he text me when he was drunk around 11pm telling me how his going to see me later for fun. I was furious . It totally wrecked my night. Then today we texted quite abit. He was asking if i” pulled anyone” . I didn’t go out to pull anyone , I went out to let off some steam. So now I have decided to play the social media game. I’m going to go out and do things these next two weeks and try my hardest not to text him and ignore him if he texts me. It really is a challenge not to text him. He just seems to be a totally different person I fell in love with. Is there anything else I could do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 25, 2016 at 1:04 pm
Hi Samantha,
check this one, so you’ll have an idea on what to do during no contact..and I think you should do 30 days
Zoe
October 23, 2016 at 6:07 pm
Hi me and my ex broke up just over a week ago I’m a week into no contact. He is 30 I’m 26. Our relationship was really good, in my eyes,he ended it because he said he wants to be on his own. A month before that he was telling me I’m not independent enough etc but when he broke up with me he said I’d been a great gf the last month,I’d improved on the issues he had with me but he had been a awful boyfriend the past month i find this very odd and I highly doubt his met someone else as he is not the type to cheat at all. I would just like to know your views and if I have a good chance of us reconciling. Also he didn’t change his relationship status until I unfriended him on social media which was a couple of days after he broke up with me.
Zoe
October 27, 2016 at 6:18 am
OK thank you
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 28, 2016 at 10:02 pm
You’re welcome!
Zoe
October 25, 2016 at 9:38 pm
We had started discussing long term such as moving in together etc
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 26, 2016 at 11:39 pm
if he said he wanted to be his own anf then he also said you were not independent, that can mean he found you needy and clingy.. But if you really worked out on that, then there’s a different reason that he’s not telling you.. but whatever it is,.use this no contact to improve yourself.. do at least 30 days before initiating contact and rebuilding rapport
Zoe
October 25, 2016 at 9:32 pm
A year
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 25, 2016 at 12:34 pm
Hi Zoe,
how long were together?
H
October 23, 2016 at 11:23 am
We were happy in our relationship until the day he suddenly broke up. Two weeks prior to that he had been saying breakup everyday but for no reason at all. Finally, on the 5th he broke up and said i don’t want to be answerable and I want to be single. He was very disrespectful and said, “I don’t owe you anything ” when I asked for a reason. We were together for 10.5 months. He blocked me on whatsapp too. I don’t have any fb account or anything but he hasn’t removed me from Snapchat though. I let him go that day and the next day after calling multiple times he picked up once and said he wants no contact and even if i would call a million times he wouldn’t pick up. I thought this would calm cause there was no reason to breakup. That entire day i din’t call him except in the evening i ended up calling out of habit. He din’t answer but called back at night and said it’s hard for me too and that he hasn’t done anything with another girl. I asked him how it came up but he said just before you think i broke up for that. Post that i maintained the no contact rule as he wanted it. He called on the 11th day after the breakup which was a missed call. I called back and he ended up saying it was by mistake. A few days later i sent him a mail saying the unsaid things. He ended up calling after that mail and we spoke normally discussing all the things we had done in the past three weeks. It seemed like we hadn’t broken up only. After that call i called him back to tell him ily so that i wouldn’t regret not saying it and i cut the call. He immediately called back and that call went on for more than an hour. He had even asked me if i wanted to get back and after i said yes, he din’t say anything. I called him that night but as usual he din’t pick up so i left a thank you mail for calling me that day and i answered a question he had asked. Post that he replied the next day talking about a movie i should watch which was not even related to the mail i sent. I replied to that mail to which i got no reply back. He called a few days later saying his mom was asking about me and all. He also mentioned that my birthday was coming and he din’t want me to be sad. I spoke a little too rudely that day but then i sent him a sorry mail with a happy teacher’s day. He din’t reply and directly messaged me on my birthday wishing me. I replied to that. Two days after that i called to ask how he was. Since then i maintained the no contact rule. It has been 30 days since then. A few days back i was outside college and that’s the first time i got his glance post breakup. My friend saw him and he saw her. My back was facing him. He recognised my bag and put his head down and walked off fast. I was so hurt that i cried so much that day. I saw him the next day too and this time i wasn’t much affected. Infact i was with my friends and was joking around. He noticed me and after sometime went and stood on the other side of the road from where i saw him noticing me. But both times we never spoke. Yesterday i got a whatsapp call from his mom’s number (i have deleted her no. ) and after a few rings when i picked up and said hello, someone cut the call. It was weird. Since the breakup, i’ve kept myself busy but i do miss him and get affected by his snapchat stories a lot. So i deleted snapchat. Do you think he is gonna come back? What should i do now? He is going to be in my tuits from the 3rd of november. What am i supposed to do? He had told me that he would ignore me. It’s been 2.5 months since the breakup. He’s got close girl friends now and also he had mentioned to one of his friends that things don’t remain the same post breakup so we should later in life find new people. His friend had told me this and also that after the first 5 days of the breakup he mentioned to him that he hadn’t remembered me much. I am super confused now.
H
December 2, 2016 at 6:37 am
So i had decided not to talk but then i changed my mind and after class i waited below for him to come. I took his whole first name(which i’ve never taken) and he stopped. I told him i wanted to talk and he was smiling. I told him that at the party which i don’t think you remember but your friend said you wanted to say… And before i completed he said i don’t want to say anything. He was yet smiling. He said my friends dragged me into it. And and then i told him you’re scared they said but i don’t hate you and genuinely don’t have anything against you. So there’s no need to be scared. He said i have nothing to say my friends dragged me. And i said okay and we parted ways.
Also i called the host of the party and asked her why did she lie and all and she said he wanted to talk and he was scared but now when she asks him to talk he says he doesn’t want to talk to me anymore.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 2, 2016 at 7:04 pm
Then move on from that.. If he really wanted to say something, he’ll say it
H
December 1, 2016 at 9:04 am
Tomorrow i’ll see him in class.. Should i just ask face to face? Because on call i won’t be able to see his facial expressions. I have class so i can stop him after that. Plus we haven’t spoken only so face to face will be more effective?
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 1, 2016 at 12:25 pm
Well, face to face or not can be risky. What’s good with face to face is that, you can control the tone of your voice and non verbal actions. You can convey that you’re not angry, just curious.
H
November 30, 2016 at 10:51 am
No no… I left because it was awkward then. So the host of the party and his other friend both of then told me that he wants to talk to you but he freaks out and he’s scared. Looking at him even i get the vibe that he wants to say something. Even my best friend feels he wants to say because he gives that vibe. The silence speaks i feel. Do you think i should asl him if he wants to say something? And if so then should i call or make it face to face? I can ask him that i get the vibe that he wants to say something… Should i?
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 30, 2016 at 9:36 pm
Hmm.. that’s risky.. but I think you wouldn’t have peace of mind if you don’t try. So, just call… be calm, listen.. If he gets angry or defensive.. just let it pass. At least you gave him the chance to say something if he wanted to.
H
November 28, 2016 at 5:37 pm
I went an hour late for the party and i even dressed up differently than i usaully do. He wasn’t gonna be there but he was and i saw him when i entered. I was socializing and dancing and he was drinking. Well, he never usually gets drunk but i thought he was making sure i noticed that he’s drinking cause i used to ask him to drink less. After approx 30 minutes of my entry he was completely high. He couldn’t stand or anything but he continued drinking. Later a friend of his, came and dragged me out saying, hi, he’s wants to talk to you. She dragged me out and pushed me on him. He was standing and smilimg with his eyes shut and so i came back in. She got him in and made him dance next to me. When i asked her what was all that she said that he kept saying where’s she where’s she so she took me there. After sometime when i was leaving, the host (she was high too) got him and pushed him on me, which eventually led to her falling on me rather than him. Again she made us dance next to each other and then it got weird so i left. The next day she clearly mentioned she was blank and so was he. They don’t remember what happened. He couldn’t talk while he was drunk so i doubt he would be interested to talk when he’s sober. I don’t see any progress and i’ve lost all hopes too.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 29, 2016 at 2:02 pm
You mean you’re moving on?
H
November 25, 2016 at 5:28 am
So today the place i usually sit at in class was occupied and so my friend and i ended up sitting at the place where he usually does. He hadn’t come so assuming he wouldn’t we sat there. Now he came and sat on the same bench with one person sitting between us. Post break that person shifted and we were next to each other. The pen cap and bottle cap also fell. Everything was conincidental but i feel he thinks i do it on purpose to show him.. Like sitting where he sat… The caps falling… Talking to make him hear and all… What should i do so that he doesn’t feel that.. Oh and tomorrow is the party… Should i talk? Because he never initiates anything but if i do he’ll definitely feel all the coincidental things are done on purpose by me. It’s getting so awkward now. Plus i don’t feel he’s interested to talk.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 27, 2016 at 3:31 pm
just chill.. the more you act that it’s awkward, the more that it will feel awkward. Did you talk to him in the party?
H
November 20, 2016 at 11:36 am
So should i go and talk or wait for him to come and say something? Because i highly doubt he will. Also at class today i saw his wallet.. he yet uses the things i gifted him. He was sitting two benches aahead. Post the break when i went and sat a bench ahead because if the AC flow… He shifted his place.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 22, 2016 at 7:38 pm
Yes, you should initiate..just make it casual and light
H
November 17, 2016 at 4:59 pm
Yes, everyone keeps telling me that it doesn’t seem like i’ve broken up. I even dress up different but idk how to show him that i’ve emotionally improved too.
So today what happened was that his friend has invited me to her bday party to which i politely replied with a no. She forced me for it in which even he is going to be there. Over the phone she told me that he gets affected by me. And that he stalks my dp and my snapstories. But he isn’t willing to talk. He also mentioned that i look happy and i keep smiling to her. She told me that he is affected and freaks out because i sit just two benches behind him. When she told him i’ll be going for the party she refused to come. So now what should i do? Go or not go? I’m thinking of going amd dressing super hot. You think i have a chance to get him?
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 18, 2016 at 10:53 pm
Go.. Use that opportunity to have fun and if he’s there to build rapport. You can only prove you’ve emotionally changed once you remain calm when you talk
H
November 15, 2016 at 6:25 am
Oh and i forogt to mention.. I act all normal and talk to my friends and all. He sits a bench ahead of me. But he changed his place and went a bench more ahead. I don’t think my being there affects him or he may want me back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
November 15, 2016 at 8:09 pm
Well, do you look like you’ve moved on and improved too?
H
November 15, 2016 at 6:16 am
It’s been 3.5months since the breakup and i have to see him four times a week as we are in the same class. He never looks at me, nor have we spoken since the class started that was two weeks ago. He seems to have moved on and looks happy. I have done the no contact rule and haven’t spoken since 20th sept which includes improving myself. What should i do? I’ve lost all hope… I don’t know how to initiate contact because he only ignores me.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 24, 2016 at 11:49 pm
Hi H,
what do you think the possible reason could be? There’s no guarantee that the no contact rule will work, but there’s no harm in trying it at this point..He even said, he’s going to ignore you in class..so, do the same..just be civil with him..During no contact, focus in improving yourself, continue that routine after nc, while you slowly rebuild rapport with him.. Take this as a restart..Do not ask him if he wants to get back with you..It would be better if he thinks you’ve moved on, improved and just being friendly
Monica
October 22, 2016 at 10:28 pm
Boyfriend of 2 months asked me to move in, planned to spend Thanksgiving together and take a cross country trip next year. Then he ghosted me. We’ve talked twice since October 1.
He had some big/stressful things happen around the same time…but I still can’t wrap my head around moving in one weekend to ghosting the next.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 24, 2016 at 5:27 pm
Hi Monica,
how much do you know him Monica? You need to check this one :
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Ghosted You
Nafi
October 22, 2016 at 10:25 am
Hello
I really appreciate of this website.Im on the day 4 of texting message,i wanted to know if instead of 4messages ,he sends me a bit more that i have to reply it,should i expand the conversation?(in other hand im afraid the day after ,he doesnt reply me)
Thanks for helping in advance
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 23, 2016 at 1:11 pm
if you have already said goodbye at a high point stick to it instead of letting conversation get boring
Mary
October 20, 2016 at 5:33 pm
He broke up with me a few months ago after a 4 year relationship. We had trust issues and he said he couldn’t be with me now. He said that maybe there will be a chance for us again. We haven’t talked for 78 days. I deleted him from facebook, because he was constantly appearing on my news feed and he seemed quite happy. As time passes by, I find it harder and harder to stop missing him. I’m afraid that he’s moved on.. I don’t know if I should text him or wait for him to do something. This weekend I’m going out with my friends and I find out that maybe he’ll be there (not because of me, but because we both loved the place). I’ll try to look great and be positive, but I’m afraid that he won’t notice because I don’t know if he still cares. Also, I don’t know if i should greet him, try to talk to him (we ran into each other a few times, but we didn’t even say hello..). I don’t know if I should do anything at all. Should I be the one to make the first step or should I wait more? I’m afraid if more time passes, he’ll move on (if he hasn’t yet). What should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 21, 2016 at 4:25 pm
hi Mary,
it has been 78 days, more likely he has moved on..either you initiate contact or try to do nc first..because even if you didnt talk, the past dags were not focused in improving yourself
Lillie
October 19, 2016 at 5:35 pm
Hi , my question is what if the reason I broke up with my ex of 7 months is because he didnt want to get married right away . He never told me he loved me after 7 months and he made it clear to me that marriage was not on his mind right now and that he knew it was on mine. So I broke up with him but I want him back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 21, 2016 at 3:35 pm
Hi Lillie,
it’s either you change your mind about gettting married now, or you move on to meet the right guy
Hailey
October 19, 2016 at 4:56 pm
Hey, I have commented here before, but there has been (somewhat) progress since then I think. My ex boyfriend, Call him ¨C,¨Almost got into a fist fight with another guy. The thing is, this guy had been trying to get with me (although i dont think C knew about that part) and was telling me lies about C, like that he left me for another girl that C is good friends with. I believed him, and asked around but i never mentioned it to C. It got back around to C, and so he and the other girl came to me and told me how it was not true. I said ok, and went on. But, after i left, C started a fight with the guy for telling rumors about him. I thought it was odd. When I see C around I can tell he looks at me and glances at me when he sees me but if i catch him he looks away. He still doesn´t try to talk to me (nor i, him) , but hes more receptive to me, to an extent, i guess. He still seems to be doing fine if not better on the surface; a few days ago the same guy he tried to fight brought something up that C supposedly did while we were together in April and i didnt believe it, but some friends and some other acquaintances confirmed it. thought i already knew about. It affects me directly, so i asked if C and I could speak privately and he was actually kind about it. I told him about the other guy trying to get with me and telling lies and stuff, and he made a pretty disgusted face but it only lasted a few seconds. I politely smiled and said thank you and walked away. The next day, he actually approached me and asked if i had ¨sorted it out¨ with the other guy, to which i replied, ¨ I told you i already blocked him, what is there to sort out?¨ C replies, ¨Well did you tell him to fuck off and stuff?¨ I said no, i bocked him, he said good and that was basically the end. This was yesterday, but throughout the rest of the day he seemed fine, exactly like he has been acting. Also yesterday, my two friends ¨hooked me up¨ with another guy, who is on a sports team with C and I and he is also friends (not super close, though, just buddies) with C. C doesn´t know about it as its very recent… but I´m hoping that maybe this could get a reaction out of C? I dont know if the conversation he started about the other guy who spread rumors was honestly him wanting the guy to shut his mouth, or if he was maybe jealous… or maybe both. I don´t know, but the whole thing really messed with my feelings. Im just trying not to give myself false hope. Advice? 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 21, 2016 at 2:52 pm
Hi Hailey,
to be safe, let’s just lean more on the side that he’s just reacting and doing damage control because he’s character is on the line..
Alaynasam
October 19, 2016 at 10:10 am
It was a one tear relationship, and we are married for 2 months. After the narriage i felt like he has taken me for granted. We both are 19 and dont live together yet. We had on and off problems. I doubt is he was cheating on me although i have no proves. So it was yesterday night that i realised he doesnt love me anymore, because of an incident. I always gave my 100% but somehow i didnt feel he was much into me. So i asked him to forget me and after one hour of begging he stopped and didnt message. What should i do to make realise. I loved him truly. Im a bit overweight should i lose weight?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 21, 2016 at 1:13 am
hi Alaynasam,
You’re both so young.. Yes, you need to improve yourself.. but if you’re married, why arent you living together?
Didou
October 18, 2016 at 9:18 pm
Hi
My ex is just back from an other country. He broke up with me a year ago 13 September 2015.we were together for nine years. Last night he text me asking for when and where we can met…but this hurt me too much because he didn’t call me. I don’t know what to do?? I don’t think he will ask me back he just want me to stay friends even he is telling me that he love me and he will never love but me.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 20, 2016 at 7:02 pm
Hi Didou,
how different are you now from the person he broke up with?
Sanky
October 18, 2016 at 3:25 pm
Hello, my boyfriend of a year broke up with me on 22/9 after stating that he can’t stand it that I keep blaming him whenever something wrong arises… But I’m someone who likes to talk things out then and there.. To me if I want to talk things out I would tell him “what he did that hurt me” which might seem as though I am blaming him but definitely I am not… After our breakup he did text me then and there, we even met twice.. But eversince he saw my friend(the one he hates because he disrespected me) comment on my Facebook post he got angry and told me to cut all ties.. I really don’t know what to do? Ever since then, I didn’t text or call him. It’s been 5 days.. I really miss him what should I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 20, 2016 at 1:39 pm
Hi Sanky,
Try doing the no contact rule for 30 days. Focus in improving yourself… Follow the advice above to increase your chances of making him miss you.. and then slowly build rapport after it.
Nafi
October 18, 2016 at 5:08 am
I think i improved with NC .I really appreciate the links about First Texting Message but i think i have to erase his mind from what i said to him.
After my first visiting,when i get back to my country,he said to me “I didnt have special feeling in bed (although it wasnt sex) your touch wasnt good .We should keep on talking to know you more cause 8 months relationship is short”
I said “so you want a b***h besides yours is small but it is not a big deal for me”
He got upset and never accepted my apology.He said we can be friend ,never Skype,time will tell what will happen”after that he replied me shortly that made me to choose NC.
My question is :If he doesnt want to Skype after the duration of sending message,should i tell him this??
“I have to tell you a truth ,i was just putting you in a test by saying that cause i wanted to check some items in your manner .
on the contrary,it wasnt and you know your p***s is big. I was surprised you believe that”
Thanks in advance
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 19, 2016 at 10:43 am
he probably just said that out of anger.. if you really changed it will show, and he will notice it.. he probably doesnt want to talk about what he said when he was angry..
Laura
October 18, 2016 at 4:47 am
This is crazy I have so many questions and I am the type of person that needs answers!
My bf and I met and got together in Aug of last year and we dated for about seven months then he dumped me for the person he broke up with for me (which I didn’t know at time him was in a relationship) anyway, I fought not only once but twice for that relationship with him and he cheated on me with the ex so it was back and forth between me and this other girl…he is mad at me and blocked me from phone, texting and Facebook because he would lie to me about other person so I went through his phone…so my question is even though I haven’t contacted him and he is mad about the phone thing do you think there is a chance that he could still love me or miss me? I fought for the relationship but this time I haven’t put up a fight do you think that could be weighing on his mind and he is with his ex and all they ever did was fight and argue but she did things in bed that I wouldn’t do because I have class and she is just nasty! Help please
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 19, 2016 at 10:39 am
Hi Laura,
there could be a chance if they always fought but if he went back to her that means he realized that you’re a rebound and that he still loved his ex
Maggie
October 17, 2016 at 11:18 pm
Hi my boy friend broke up with me after my dad and him had a fall out we were in the relationship for almost 8months. I was devastated and immediately started begging him to take me back saying I’d do anything, we have seen each other a couple of times and he has requested that we remain the same as we were In the relationship without us actually being in a relationship.
I told that I feel uncomfortable with this and he just said that I am impatient and that I should wait until he is in a better place to give me an answer but now today he has requested that I visit him on Friday to talk things through it sounded more like finalising the break up than anything else.
So should I go or start my NC period from now.
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 18, 2016 at 8:44 pm
Hi Maggie,
I think you should just start the no contact period
B
October 17, 2016 at 5:33 pm
Hey,
so my ex and I dated for 2 years. I went away for an internship over the summer and he was constantly jealous and getting angry with me if I went out and dressed cute. He was always asking if other guys hit on me and what they said and I hated that because I didnt care what the other guys thought just what he did. After 2 months of fighting, he picked me up and we were fine for about a week. I started to stress out hard about it being my last semester of college and trying to figure out what I wanted to do and where I wanted to go. I was having mental breakdowns and stressing out a lot. He left me because he wanted to make more money and focus on his job. He said he didnt know how to balance work and me at the same time (new job). After about 2 weeks he called and said he wanted me back. I never had enough time to heal from him leaving the first time so even though I told him I understood and supported him I was still hurt and broken he left me. Needless to say he came back, found out another boy kissed me and he lost it. Then he started throwing things at me that felt like he was purposely hurting me telling me how all of these other girls wanted him…bla bla bla. I didnt care at first i just laughed and said well too bad you’re with me. Well it didn’t stop any girl that wanted him he had to tell me about. After seeing these beautiful blonde girls I lost all confidence in myself and started wondering if he even wanted to be with me, was I even good enough anymore? So i told him I needed reassurance because I was still hurt and my wall was still up. My birthday came around and he didn’t seem to give to damns about it. The next day I was talking to one of my best friends from home ( a guy) and he was just asking me how my bday went and I said it was okay I just got homesick and would have been nice to have gone home. My ex saw me texting him ( I thought he was sleeping that’s why I decided to start responding to anyone who may have texted me) and he got so angry and jealous of this guy i have told him time after time he had nothing to worry about. There was lots of crying and yelling. Then he promised he would never ever leave me. I was it. I was all he wanted. The next morning I lost my mind over school. I was depressed and needed him, he said I needed professional help and to call my mom because he was too busy golfing to want to talk to me. I got mad and broke my phone. I tried to call to say sorry a few hours later… nothing… i wrote a note and left it on his door saying sorry and all the reasons I loved him… no response 24 hours later I rode my bike to his place and told him I was sorry and I know I was dramatic and messed up and I was going to get my shit together. He said nothing. A few hours later he came over and all he said is he loved me but cannot be with me.. Two days later he blocked me on FB… then about 5 days after that I was unblocked and told he was CONSTANTLY checking my page by a fellow friend.. then 3 days later I was blocked again. I have been told he constantly looks up the boy I Kissed thinking I am probably with him when I am not. Is there any hope for him to come back again… I have gone almost 2 weeks no contact but I think he is waiting for me to reach out first like I did last time… I miss him like crazy and I dont want him to think he isnt good enough or w.e What on Earth do I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 18, 2016 at 6:12 pm
Hi B,
try another week of no contact..be active in improving yourself and then initiate contact
Karel
October 17, 2016 at 5:30 pm
Hi, my boyfriend cheated on me several times, I tried so hard to make the relationship work, but i the end the relationship was ended by him because he said he was not inlove and happy anymore. He broke up with me through a text message, days after I was discharged from the hospital when I got sick. I didnt respond to him. And after two weeks, he sent me a message again asking that he lied when he told me he didhnt have feelings for me anymore. He told me that still loves me and he feels sorry for everything. I didn’t reply. A day after he sent another message again that ‘no matter how many women he talked to, he still longs for me after a long day’ and I tried calling him up but he didn’t answer my call. So i just texted hin that ‘I tried calling you but it seems like you blocked my number’ and he never replied. I am confused and it made me felt like I just gave in to his last text message and lost everything that I did with the no contact rule. 🙁
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 18, 2016 at 6:05 pm
Hi Karel,
how long did you do the no contact rule?
jessica
October 15, 2016 at 8:47 am
hi
i had crush on a boy and i texted him.everything went well for a month and i confessed that i love him. and after knowing that this girl is serious he told me he cant marry me he have family reasons even i didnt say him to marry me.then he started ignoring me and i begged him to talk and he didnt listen me.now its been 6 days i am applying NC rule but i want him back because i love him.i love him alot and i want to be with him even just friends. can you please help how can i get over him
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 16, 2016 at 3:25 pm
Hi Jessica,
Who is the girl that you’re pertaining to? Did you mean yourself? I think you went too fast.. How old are you both? Did you meet online?
Nafi
October 15, 2016 at 4:46 am
Hello,
I visited my boy friend for the first time in another country 3 months ago.then something happened that he got upset from me and never accepted my apology and told me we should be just friend.Now its been 6 weeks that im in “No contact ” period.
If after “No contact” period ,i send message to my boy friend and im sure he would be respond me nice cause he thinks we should be friends,should i send him message the day after ?( like the past every day?)
I meant how often should i send him message?cause i know he wont start conversation ,unless i start.
Thanks in advance
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 16, 2016 at 2:43 pm
Hi Nafi,
that’s good that you have completed your no contact period, but did you improve yourself? how much?
I’ll paste a link below for a first contact message and also another link on how to text him..
EBR 053: Deconstructing The Perfect First Contact Text Message
Texting An Ex Boyfriend (The New Rules)
Serenity
October 15, 2016 at 12:56 am
Okay, me and my ex broke up in September. The break up was kind of mutual I’m guessing, well I told my boyfriend to leave and he pack up his belongings and left but it was because we got into a really bad argument!… So after he left, we didn’t really talk much, well when we did try to talk it was bad and than he would ignore me when I did text him so after a while o just stop texting him…. Well for like the last two weeks we have started to talk again! He will text me good morning or if he didn’t get to a message of mines right away, he will say I’m sorry for not responding… But any who, is it just me or what but I want him to tell me where is this going! Or is it too soon for questions like that? He told me on his next day off which he was off for like three days, that we should go out to eat or hang out… But when he got the day’s off work… He didn’t make no effort of trying to hang out with me… What should I do? Or I’m over thinking it too much?
EBR Team Member: Amor
October 15, 2016 at 4:15 am
Hi Serenity,
you’re over thinking.. how long were you together and are you on and off?
Katy
October 14, 2016 at 2:52 am
When ur ex doesnt talk to u at all at school so u jus stop going pass him and stop. Paying attention to him and then he finally realize that u have moved on and then out of nowwhere he wants to start hugging u and u try to give him a side hug what does that mean like why would he want to hug u after not talking to u for so long