Will My Ex Forget Me If I Do No Contact?

100 thoughts on “Will My Ex Forget Me If I Do No Contact”

chloe

January 4, 2018 at 8:49 pm

Hello

My boyfriend of 8 years ended it over text the other day saying he loves me but isn’t in love with me anymore, he showed no signs of this happening and can’t give me any explanation other than he wants to be on his own, he swears to me that there is no one else. I’ve started NC but do you think it will work?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 6, 2018 at 12:18 am

Hi Chloe,

It’s not a guarantee that it will work in any situation, but it will help increase your chances.

HF

January 4, 2018 at 8:26 pm

Hello

My boyfriend finished with me over text about a week ago said he loves me but is not in love with me anymore and just wants to be on his own, it was so out of the blue but he said he has felt like it a while but didn’t want to hurt me, I texted so much abuse afterwards but have now commenced NC do you think it will work? And if so how long do I keep NC ongoing?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 6, 2018 at 12:15 am

Hi Hf,

it’s not a guarantee to work in any situation but it helps increase your chances.. how long were you together? And how many times have you broken up?

Sandra

December 30, 2017 at 10:24 am

Hi,
I’ve been in a relationship for 4 years. And he broke up coz his family was not approving of our inter caste marriage. He mistreated me a lot while explaining me to break this relation in the notion that I’ll hate him and that will be the best thing for me to move on. I however gave it time but he dint stop insulting me and keeping me badly. I finally one day when I saw him text a random girl blocked him on my whatsaap. It’s been a month he’s not reacted to that but has spoken to mutual friends about how upset he is. He stalks my profiles every single day. However I’ve made it all Private in the past week. Should I continue no contact? I don’t want to initiate speaking again at any cost until he does. Is he forgetting me if I make my social media private?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 10:26 pm

Hi Sandra,

it would be better if you make it public again.

Linda

December 25, 2017 at 11:30 am

We have went on other trips other than the two mentioned. I had been able to address his stressing behaviour before when it doesn’t involve me. I feel like he is just being stubborn, and not wanting to resolve things. It has been 4 months since our original breakup. I am not sure what he wants. Could you please shed some light on this?

Thank you team!!

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 5:58 pm

Hi Linda,
It sounds like he’s disrespectful but you see it as your fault because you were upset every time he tells you off..I think you should move on from him..

Linda

December 25, 2017 at 11:16 am

Hi Chris, My ex and I have dated for 1 year and 3 months before we broke it off. I am a newbie, and he has had 3 short term relationships. Our main problem is that we have different ideas on how to communicate. I find it stressful when he stresses over new situations/ unexpected circumstances, or tells me off when he thinks I am wrong or to blame. Sometimes I might be, other times it might just be a matter of opinion and understanding of situations. There had been two days in our entire relationship to date that has set the tone.

The first was while we went on a holiday where there were tight schedules with lots of activities and new adventures. He had felt the pressure and responsibility on his shoulders with assisting me while we went snorkeling, and started to tell me off about things which I felt was unfair so I had reacted indignantly. I know it was not my finest hour. I yelled and cried for him to understand and clarify but he just proceed to calling me names. We ended it a month after, but communicated daily, met every other weekend. We were on the road to recovery, until we recently went on another prearranged trip and something similar happened (I had wanted to talk and prevent things from happening, but he had refused to spare me the time). I know I overreacted, and said as much. He called me mental, and is refusing to hear or understand that there are triggers. I asked for his patience and understanding that I am not used to be told off. In retrospect, I think I overreacted due to the buildup of tiredness, stress from not being comfortable in deep open water, stress from his stressing and telling off. I really want to communicate that to him. He is however not listening, and had said since that there is nothing more to discuss because we are just friends. He definitely acted and said we were more than friends, and could work things out before the incident happen. However, he still wanted to meet to exchange presents. I have no idea why. Is there any chance? Should I do NC? I have done a week of NC before, and he was furious.
Ms. Full of Hope

November 20, 2017 at 4:53 pm

Day 9 of no contact and I’m holding it together just for the simple fact that I’ve used this program before and it worked! And i want this to work more than ever and I know if i reach out i’ll have to start my days over with no contact…and plus i know the biggest thing is I trust it and i hope this time it works! Love you baby! I’m changing for both of us! I’m so sorry i wasnt the woman you deserved.

4 years- &1 kid later… he met me when i first had my son and helped me raise him.

Everyone out there trust in this program and still with no contact no matter how much you miss and love him!
Peace!
A.S.

October 31, 2017 at 3:24 pm

Hello,

I was in a gay dating relationship. This is the second time my ex broke up with me. Last time, I stopped contacting him for 2 weeks, then he asked me out for a movie and we restarted dating. But this time, it’s been over 2 weeks of no contact, he still hasn’t reached out to me. I was wondering if he’s moved on or forgotten about me. I also find him on those gay dating apps, well, aka, hookup apps on and off. One more thing, after the breakup, he stopped liking my Instagram posts, but is watching my Instagram live videos. I want him to reach out to me, instead of me reaching out to him. I really don’t what to do. Could you please give me some advice or analysis on my case based on my current situation.

Thank you very much.

Sincerely,
A.S.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 1, 2017 at 8:50 pm

Hi A.S,

It’s common that the ex doesn’t reacg out during nc.. What’s more important is that you keep improving yourself and being active in posting during and after nc.. If you don’t want to initiate, you have to set a limit until when you would wait for him initiate before moving on..

Carla

October 29, 2017 at 10:29 am

Day 25 of NC. Still haven’t heard from my ex long distance boyfriend. Do you think he forgot about me? Cutting my long story short, we were “dating” for a year, long distance, my sister found out that he was dating another girl back home (he travels a lot for work and we met at one of the cities he traveled to) then told him to tell me. He did, I asked him what he wanted from me, told him to figure out what he wants and if he’s going to sort out things with her tell me, if he wants to try and fix things between us then we can talk. But I told him I have to back off. No response from him. I actually think he started NC before I did. What do you think I should do? Continue NC or move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 30, 2017 at 2:51 pm

Hi Carla,

He didn’t start nc.. Because that means if he did, he has the goal tp initiate contact and get you back.. He’s trying to guage how long you can hold off before going back to him or he chose the other girl..check this one:
My Boyfriend Says He Wants To Date Me and Another Girl

SK

October 24, 2017 at 6:32 pm

Thanks for the response. So according to the article you shared in reply to my comment, I have decided upon something. I am planning to take up the offer from him but on my terms. Whatever will happen, will happen on my terms. Am I doing this right? What should be my next move??

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 26, 2017 at 7:21 pm

Nope..actually what the article meant to say is, girls who want to get their ex back by sleeping with them thinks it’s ok if it’s in their terms but it’s not.. Especially in your case, he wants to be fb, then agreeing to it means you’re agreeing that’s all you’ll be..

Elissa Veronica

October 23, 2017 at 7:31 am

Hi! I broke up with my boyfriend who treats me like a doormat. I want him to realize his mistake.

Is it okay if i switch my phone off for a month of no contact? It’s impossible to keep it on and avoid his calls because once he starts calling, he calls continuously and i melt but when i get back, he again treats me like trash. please help. Can i switch off my phone?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 5:13 pm

Hi Elissa,

Yes, you can..

Elissa Veronica

October 23, 2017 at 7:28 am

Hi! I’m starting No contact today after breaking up with my bf who treats me like a doormat. I love him and want him back so I’m implementing no contact.

My question is that can i switch my phone off to implement no contact? It’s unbearable to keep it on and not take his calls because he’s the kind who starts calling the day I leave, only to again treat me like trash once I’m back with him? Is it okay if I switch my phone off for a month of No contact?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2017 at 5:13 pm

Hi Elissa,

Yes, you can..

SK

October 20, 2017 at 4:16 pm

Hello Team.
I had completed my 30 days No contact rule. I did even before I knew about this website. And suddenly one day my ex drunk calls me. But as I was at my friend’s place I couldn’t talk to him. So I told him to call the next day. And same thing happened. I was again busy with my friends and so we couldn’t talk. So after 2-3 days post this, I called him and we talked like we used to talk while we were dating. This went on for 2-3 days. At the end of the 3rd day we agreed even to meet. But then as he was again busy, we couldn’t meet. And then 2 days went by without any message from him. And then suddenly I realized he did the same thing again. Earlier also he had broken up in this fashion only. Without giving any clarifications. He had unfollowed me on Twitter. Tho I am still following him. He keeps tabs on me on Twitter. He checks every tweet of mine. And replies in sly. So I kept on texting him. Bugging him. He even used to reply. His responses were somewhat positive and neutral. The last we talked he told me it’s all over between us. And I should leave him alone. Also he asked me “Tell me something..Are you enjoying my pessimistic replies and attitude towards you??”. To which I replied “I am trying to get hurt from you so that it’ll be easy for me to move on.” And so at the end he dropped a bomb. That he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone. He just wants his desires ( read as lust) to be fulfilled. And so he proposed me a friends with benefits relationship. Which he clearly knew, I won’t accept. And which I declined the moment he asked.

Now the thing is when were dating he had told me many a times that he is into some mess and which he cannot tell me. So I am guessing that he is into some problem which he doesn’t want me to be a part of and so he is making me away on purpose.

Can you please help? What should I do? I am planning of accepting his offer of with benefits relationship just to be sure that if he is really into the only sex part or he really is in a mess. And what can be my next move?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 23, 2017 at 11:41 pm

Hi Sk,

Check this one:
Sleeping with Your Ex Boyfriend… Does It Work?

SK

October 18, 2017 at 5:05 pm

Hello Team.
I had completed my 30 days No contact rule. I did even before I knew about this website. And suddenly one day my ex drunk calls me. But as I was at my friend’s place I couldn’t talk to him. So I told him to call the next day. And same thing happened. I was again busy with my friends and so we couldn’t talk. So after 2-3 days post this, I called him and we talked like we used to talk while we were dating. This went on for 2-3 days. At the end of the 3rd day we agreed even to meet. But then as he was again busy, we couldn’t meet. And then 2 days went by without any message from him. And then suddenly I realized he did the same thing again. Earlier also he had broken up in this fashion only. Without giving any clarifications. He had unfollowed me on Twitter. Tho I am still following him. He keeps tabs on me on Twitter. He checks every tweet of mine. And replies in sly. So I kept on texting him. Bugging him. He even used to reply. His responses were somewhat positive and neutral. The last we talked he told me it’s all over between us. And I should leave him alone. Also he asked me “Tell me something..Are you enjoying my pessimistic replies and attitude towards you??”. To which I replied “I am trying to get hurt from you so that it’ll be easy for me to move on.” And so at the end he dropped a bomb. That he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with anyone. He just wants his desires ( read as lust) to be fulfilled. And so he proposed me a friends with benefits relationship. Which he clearly knew, I won’t accept. And which I declined the moment he asked.

Now the thing is when were dating he had told me many a times that he is into some mess and which he cannot tell me. So I am guessing that he is into some problem which he doesn’t want me to be a part of and so he is making me away on purpose.

Can you please help? What should I do? I am planning of accepting his offer of with benefits relationship just to be sure that if he is really into the only sex part or he really is in a mess. And what can be my next move?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 22, 2017 at 6:49 pm

Hi Sk,

check this one:
Sleeping with Your Ex Boyfriend… Does It Work?

Anonymous vk

October 17, 2017 at 3:09 am

But i badly want him back. I can’t live without him. We did so many things together n everything just reminds me of him. Please help me out. What should i do next?
Should i talk to him directly?
I hope I’m not bugging you guys by asking for suggestions daily, as there’s no one to share it with n my friends don’t understand me.

Anonymous vk

October 19, 2017 at 9:17 am

UPDATE: he came back!!! On 18th day at night, he said he wants me n never wanted a breakup but didn’t have the courage to stop me as he was all tangled in his own life (read as work pressure & also he’s preparing for a job for future so he’s quite messed up with it).
So he admitted he loves me a lot n he hated it when he saw me posting on Facebook check-ins with guy friends.
So now im thinking of taking it slow so that he doesn’t lose interest over me again n I’ll be less available. Any tips?
And also i wanna know, if he’s too active on social media should i be worried about it? As I don’t think there’s some other girl in his life. He confessed everything last night n was sorry for not being there.
He asked for some time so that he can be settled well n so that after that we can stay together.

Thanks a lot team!
Lots of love. Xx
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 19, 2017 at 3:37 pm

Yup you should take it slow.. observe first, don’t jump into conclusions.
Anonymous Vk

October 18, 2017 at 6:22 am

Thanks a lot team. Im listening to your podcasts too. I’ll find myself now. No more desperation. I’ll work upon it. Also I’ll unfollow him on Facebook so that I cannot see his online status. Thanks a ton. I’ll go with the flow, if he’ll come its gonna be his choice, if not, I don’t give a damn now. ❤️
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 17, 2017 at 8:37 pm

The more reason you should do it for yourself.. Being desperate is not attractive..check this one:
EBR 003: Does Having Your Own Life Help You Get Your Ex Back?

Anonymous vk

October 16, 2017 at 6:32 pm

Also, now i think from today, he has set his eyes on some new girl of his office as they recently became friends on Facebook n today after coming from work he was online for 4 hours straight (THAT NEVER HAPPENED. Not even when we were together).
I’m so broke right now. Maybe I’ll start the NC period over again from tomorrow & I’ve decided to stay away from social media for a couple of days n i will find a new job. It hurts when i see him active on social media n he doesn’t talk to me. 15 days of Nc was a waste i guess as it doesn’t affect him in any way. i hope he’ll regret it someday!

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 16, 2017 at 11:23 pm

Yep, you broke it.. If you’re going to restart it, do it for yourself..

Anonymous VK

October 16, 2017 at 3:56 am

Hey team,
Yesterday was my 15th day. And i got to know from a friend that there’s some guy who’s trying to win me over so he was disgracing me in front of my ex by saying things which i never said to him, about him.
So i texted him yesterday to say that do not listen to him, he’s just hyping things.
My ex did replied after 2 hours saying, “alright I’ll not listen baby”.
He called me BABY! It means he wants to show there’s still love left for me.
But after that i just said thanks (after 10 mins) and said okay (instant reply) and I just said hmm after 2 mins n didn’t text him after that, neither he did n he didn’t even came online after that.
What should i do next?
Maybe i broke the NC rule but he still replied. And i had to drop the msg as the other person was trying to take my ex’s place in my life by simply hyping things n making him think im bitching about him behind his back.
i want him badly in my life n when i saw his reply, my heart exploded.
Please reply. Im planning to drop him a text after 4 days as there’s a festival coming soon which is his favourite one. And i strongly believe he loves me a lot. Just want to know how to ask him to come back in my life. I’m restless!!!
Anonymous

October 16, 2017 at 3:07 am

Im trying every bit to improve myself. I’m working out, talking n going out with friends but stil i end up missing him. Always. 24/7! And i end up crying.
Anonymous VK

October 15, 2017 at 3:15 am

Hey team,
I am trying everything but just couldn’t get over him. Yesterday one of our friends tried and asked him what went wrong between us and he said its a long story, will tell you some other day.
When i broke up with him, i said a lot of things in frustration n anger n i guess he’s hurt. A lot.
Should i talk to him 15th day today.
Also, 4 days prior, i was there outside his office for some work, he saw me n avoided me because he didn’t want to come in front of me. What should i do. I love him a lot. He rarely comes on social media. Maybe just for a few minutes on fb and whatsapp. I’m feeling guilty now. We broke up because he was too busy for me. Please help. It feels like im dying

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 15, 2017 at 8:19 pm

Hi Anonymous,

Even if he’s not much into social media, you should be active in posting..how active are you in improving yourself?

Anonymous VK

October 14, 2017 at 11:09 am

Its my 14th day of NC. I get to know from our common friends that my ex is enjoying with his friends in office and is all chilled out (i used to work in the same office). It feels like he doesn’t care about us anymore. What should i do? Should I continue with NC? Will it actually work? I badly need him back in my life. Please help me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 14, 2017 at 12:06 pm

Hi Anonymous,

You should do the same.. How active are you in improving yourself and in posting?

MissAGA

October 11, 2017 at 3:08 pm

I deleted all of my social media accounts while my ex and I were together and am not really interested in getting them back. I still have snapchat, on which he and I are friends so I can post stories he can see and we also have a daughter together so once no contact is over I will be interacting with him some in regards to that (right now we are communicating through his mother, and since I am living with family since moving out I can plan to not be home when he comes to get her– trying to do no contact the right way!). Is this enough or do I really need to bite the bullet and make a new IG or FB?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 12, 2017 at 12:07 pm

HI MissAGA,

you mean with your family and not his right? Yes, it would be better to open FB and IG because posts that lasts or stays in your account are better..

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