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Why Would An Ex Boyfriend Want To Meet Up?

It happened. You never thought it would, but it did.

Your ex boyfriend reached out to you and he wants to meet up.

You’re excited, but also hesitant. He took your heart, threw it to the ground, stomped on it, and then took a sledgehammer to crush the remaining pieces to dust. Why would he want to meet up?

Well, there is the obvious – you have things you need to exchange, or other business that needs to be tied up. But what if that stuff has already been taken care of? Why would an ex want to meet up?

Let’s explore some possible reasons!

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He misses you

Honestly, this is probably the most likely.

If your ex wants to meet up to “catch up” it’s likely that he has felt an emptiness in his life since you exited it, and simply wants to meet up to see you, talk with you, be with you.

You are in a prime position if this is the case. Missing you is the first step to getting him back.

I know how stressful the first meet up can be. I basically had a panic attack on the way to mine and had to do some breathing exercises with my head between my knees to keep myself from hyperventilating. The most important thing to remember is that you have the power. He asked to meet up with you, which means that you hold all the cards going into this meeting.

So go in there, and crush it.

He wants to flaunt his new life without you

It’s a sad but true fact that there are winners and losers in break ups – or at least, that’s how both parties perceive it. The winner takes the breakup and uses it as a tool to make themselves and their life better. The loser is stuck in a rut, having a hard time moving on.

One of my favorite examples of this is in season 6 of Buffy the Vampire Slayer.

In As You Were, Buffy’s second boyfriend, Riley Finn, returns to Sunnydale on a mission and recruits Buffy. On the way to catch and kill the demon, they have the following exchange in the car:

Riley: I hear ya. Got some, uh, big stories to tell you, too, if we even get half a second.

Buffy: Did you die?

Riley: No.

Buffy: I’m gonna win.

Humorous, sure, but the point still stands that whoever accomplished the most or has the best story (like dying) over the course of the breakup automatically “wins” the breakup.

The person who does the dumping is usually in a better place to be the winner, because they saw the opportunity for change coming well in advance. The person who was blindsided by the breakup usually has a harder time recovering.

It’s possible that your ex thinks that they are the winner of the breakup. Maybe they have a new woman they are dating (or maybe they got married, like Riley), maybe they got a new job, or lost a lot of weight/built up a lot of muscle.

This is why it is absolutely imperative that you utilize No Contact appropriately and are the best Ungettable Girl you can be at the time of the meet up. We’ll go into more detail on how to conduct yourself when you finally do meet up later in this article.

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He is curious about you

This is kind of tied to the above, but also not. Sure, maybe he wants to compare where you are at, but maybe he also wants to know if you’re seeing anyone else.

My ex was certainly curious about that. He asked me about it point blank not even an hour into our first meet up. I was casual, said that I was “talking” to some people, but nothing serious. He seemed relieved to hear that. I did not ask the same question back to him, because Ungettable Girls don’t care who their ex boyfriend may or may not be seeing.

As much as a guy may want to breakup, he wants to know that it impacts you in some way. He wants to see evidence of the hole he left in your life. He may not want to be with you, but he wants to know that you want to be with him.

Human beings are messed up like that. We girls are guilty of it, too.

Okay, so it’s possible that your ex wants to meet up because they want the ego boost of seeing how desolate and alone you are, and how empty your life is without them.

So imagine the shock that they will have when you walk is looking absolutely amazing, and regale him with how fantastic your life without him is.

He will be stunned.

And your success will only succeed in making him want you more.

He wants to gauge how you feel about him

This is kinda-sorta related to the above points, but in a more serious way. It could be that your ex has realized what an idiot he is for letting a woman like you go, and wants to gauge where you are at in regards to your feelings about him.

This meeting could be a test run, of sorts, to see if the two of you mesh as well as you used to, to see if you’re seeing anyone new, and to gauge how interested you are in rekindling a relationship with him.

Now, there’s not really an easy way to tell if this is the case going in (unless he is super direct and says it – unlikely), and he’ll likely keep his cards close to his chest through the meeting. You may get subtle hints though: reminiscing about your past relationship, commenting on how good you look, and how well you’re doing, admitting and owning up to past mistakes are a couple of prime examples.

You can’t really know if this is his mindset going in, so the best thing to do is get into total Ungettable Girl mode and blow his mind with how fantastic you look, and how great your life is going.

Again, if he already wants you back, seeing how stunning and successful you are will only solidify his feelings that he made a mistake in letting you go.

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The meet up

Chris has a great article about what you should do when the time comes to meet up with your ex, and it is covered in detail in Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro, so I definitely recommend you check that out.

My advice, though, is to remain as collected and confident as possible through the meeting. Keep your emotions in check, and don’t let your ex know where your mind is at any time. Mystery is a wonderful tool that you can use, and it will drive you crazy.

I should mention that if you are in No Contact that you should absolutely, under no circumstances break it to meet up with your ex. Remember, the only reason that you should break No Contact is if he says the words “I want to get back together.” (Unless, of course, your situation falls into one of the “Limited No Contact” categories).

So it’s time to meet up. I would say that the main points to keep in mind fall under two umbrellas: Physical and Mental. These tips include a mix of what I’ve learned from Ex Boyfriend Recovery, advice from the facebook group, and my own personal insights.


Physical tips for the meet up include:

  • Wear red – Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro mentions that red is a great attention-getting color. It exudes sex and confidence. Wearing red will draw all of the attention to you, and hopefully will also make you feel more confident.
  • Wear something flattering and that you feel good in – It is important that you feel confident going in. So if you’re not a dress girl, go with pants and a flattering top. Just be sure what you wear isn’t over the top. The key to successful jealousy is that it is subtle.
  • Smell great – Smell is the most powerful scent when it comes to memory. If there was a scent you wore when you were dating your ex that he liked a lot, be sure to spritz some of it on before leaving the house. He may not realize it, but when he smells it, positive memories related to the scent will come rushing back into his mind.
  • Good, confident posture – I have awful posture and it makes me look less confident than I am. Try to work on your posture before you enter the venue where you are meeting your ex, and remind yourself periodically thorough the meeting. I’ve found a good tool for this is to listen to some music that makes you feel powerful as you head to the meetup. I recommend “Red High Heels” – the lyrics “I’m about to show you just how missing me feels” put me in exactly the right, confident mindset for the meeting with my ex.
  • Don’t overdo the makeup or hair too much from what you would normally do – As stated above, successful jealousy is subtle. You don’t want him to know what you’re doing. You want your Ungettable Girl qualities to come off as absolutely effortless. If you tend to wear natural makeup, don’t go overboard for the meetup. You don’t want to look like a totally different person from the girl he dated – just a slightly improved version.


Mental/Emotional tips for the meet up include:

  • Confidence – Listen to music to help you get into the confident, Ungettable Girl mindset. It is very important that you come off as confident and collected. What breakup? Oh that? That’s old news – SO three weeks ago.
  • Don’t go overboard using the jealousy tool – It’s easy to slip into trying to make your ex jealous by talking about all the people you’re seeing and how in demand you are. Trust me, my ex falls into it every time we hang out, and it’s hilarious to watch the look on his face when I change the subject, totally unfazed. Subtle jealousy is okay, but don’t go overboard – remember, you’re just living your life for you, not to make him think or feel anything.
  • Keep your emotions in check – It’s possible that your ex may something that upsets you. If this happens, keep the smile plastered on your face and breathe steadily. He must not see you lose your cool. If the conversation starts going in a direction that you don’t want it to go in, or that upsets you, excuse yourself to the bathroom and when you come back, reset the conversations. It is also important to not drink too much, so that you have total control.
  • Keep the meeting short – The key to the first meet up is to leave him wanting more. Leave the meeting on a high note, and then bolt. If you leave him with positive emotions, he’ll be thinking of you nonstop and will want to set a date for another meeting sooner rather than later.
  • Know that he wants you – More than anything the key to a successful meet up is to have in the back of your head at all times that your ex is desperate for you. Ingrain in into your being so that it is not even a question. Write out a mantra for yourself and repeat it in your head whenever you feel your confidence waver.

My final tip is this: After every meet up with my ex, I write down all the details I can remember as soon as I leave (which I then post to the private support group for my friend’s opinions). Writing down the details when they are fresh help, because then you can go back and dissect the behavior of both you and your ex, and get a sense of where his mind is.

“You are a hell of a woman”

Ultimately, it doesn’t matter why your ex boyfriend wants to meet up with you, what matters is what you do once you get there. His reasons likely are one of the above, if not a mixture. If you’ve implemented No Contact correctly, and are feeling like the best Ungettable Girl you can be, go for the meetup, and blow him away with your accomplishments.

In the same episode of Buffy, after killing the demon, Riley and Buffy are discussing where she is at in her life and how she is unhappy with it (to be fair, the girl just came back from the dead – give her a break).

And Riley says to her something to her that is true about life and breakups, and it’s exactly the right mentality to have when considering meeting up with your ex:

“And so you’re not in the greatest place right now […] The wheel never stops turning, Buffy. You’re up, you’re down… It doesn’t change what you are. You are a hell of a woman.”

Know it. Live it. Be it.


Written by EBR Teamate

Chris Seiter

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40 thoughts on “Why Would An Ex Boyfriend Want To Meet Up?”

  1. alison

    February 7, 2018 at 8:38 pm

    i had recently said to my boyfriend that i was getting kind of bored, two days later he saw messages of me talking to another guy. this guy was completely random, he just messaged me on instagram and said whenre you coming to visit me at school, i literally only answered because i was bored, i said never i live in ny come to ny, he said im playing ball there in a month come watch and i said thats like two hours from me, he said something else and i never answered then i deleted the conversation because i knew i shouldnt of had it (i didnt really think anything of it because i knew this guy lived far and id never actually meet up with him, which was wrong of me because i shouldnt of had the conversation period but anyways. the night after i asked my ex to talk in person and he said he thought it was a good idea for closure, but i didnt want that, i wanted to get back together. i ended up balling my eyes out and begging for him back for like three hours. (terrible i know) he said i was getting bored and the messages, he just felt like i was going to cheat and he didnt want to end like that. (id never cheat) he basically said wed never get back together. its been five days since that and i asked him to meet up thursday which he agreed to. i wanted to give him a genuine apology but i also wanted to bring up getting back together somehow. i also figured that because i begged his the other day and he had to go through that, that if he was really over it he wouldnt of agreed to meet up with me. im also assuming he has to kind of know that i want to meet up has something to do with me wanting to get back together right? i just want someones opinion on the whole thing.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 9, 2018 at 11:23 am


      Have you met by now? If no, just look your best and don’t beg for him back.. You can apologize and ask if you can get back together but do it with dignity. If he doesn’t want to , tell him you understand and then follow the advice on this one:
      This Is How To Make Him Trust You Again

  2. W

    December 14, 2017 at 5:20 pm

    Hi Amor, does it mean that he might move on when im doing NC ? How can i see that have he move on or not ? He did double text me on week 1 of NC . I tried NC once before too and he also text me during the week 2 of NC and i broke it and went out with him. But this time i did not break it and reply him .

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 15, 2017 at 5:00 pm

      honestly, he wouldn’t have broken up or distanced himself from you in the first place if he didn’t fall out of love from you.. so, since the start he is moving on.. keeping in contact with you more likely just means he’s doing it because that’s what he’s used to do.. If he really wanted to get back with you, he had already done it.

  3. w

    December 12, 2017 at 3:30 pm

    Hi Amor, am not sure that have he moved on … he hasnt tripple text me anymore since the time he double text me asking why did i ignore him. Not sure am i moving on too …. maybe just making myself happier and becoming an ungettable girl so that i’ll be more attractive. Is it still possible to get back an ex who had move on ? Or no …

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 14, 2017 at 1:58 pm

      It’s possible but it’s a small chance

  4. W

    December 9, 2017 at 10:41 am

    Hi amor , i really feel like replying him 🙁 can i reply him alil and disappear again ? Haih . The no contact rule is really killing me , but it doesnt seem like it’s killing him also . I go on trips with my family , i post pictures of me going out happily with my friends . It really hurts seeing him happy , im happy nowadays too but whenever i see his snapchats , whether is he doing something new or what i’ll still get upset.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 12, 2017 at 1:58 am

      you know what’s going to help you more, especially, with what you’re saying, you also know he has moved on.. the question is, is it starting to look like you are too, or you’re still chasing him?

  5. W

    December 5, 2017 at 3:42 pm

    Hi Amor, but im the one who broke up with him …. 🙁 But kinda true i guess, from all those pleading and ‘being there’ throughout the whole after breakup time, he still dont wanna commit, and i felt myself so unattractive for chasing, guess i would only reply him only when i know i can not chase after him and fish him … hmm

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2017 at 8:51 pm

      yup.. chasing lessens your chances… even if you’re the one who broke up with him, if he didn’t get back with you when the opportunity lets it, it doesn’t matter who broke up with how.. bottom line is, he didn’t get back with you..

  6. W

    December 3, 2017 at 3:55 pm

    Hi Amor, what if i continue to ignore him and he felt like he alr double text me and i still ignore and felt like im not worth it? So he gave up on me hmm

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      December 5, 2017 at 1:50 am

      Frankly, if he didn’t want to give up, he wouldn’t have broken up with you in the first place.. We earn the good things we have.. if you want a guy to treat you with respect, you have to make him earn your respect.. If you have let him be friends with you easily after hurting, that shows you’re ok with him disregarding how you feel

  7. W

    November 30, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    Hi Amor, im doing no contact again because i broke it that time and now it’s one week alr. My ex texted me in between and i did not reply. After few days he texted me again today and ask why did i ignore him tho. What should i do now amor ? Shohld i ignore and not reply until the end ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 30, 2017 at 8:48 pm

      Yup..focus in improving yourself

  8. W

    November 24, 2017 at 5:20 am

    Hi Amor, what should i do to stop chasing him then ? If i go into nc right now again, will it work ? This time i wouldnt break it in any way. He brought me home ytd btw and we had dinner with his parents. He’s giving me all those mixed signals. And end up telling me all those. If he really felt like we dont share the same value and future, so why not just leave me alone when im doing nc for 2 weeks alr, why text me out of a sudden for movie and hug me in the cinema. He told me that he thinks that 3 years is more than enough to grow tgt but we still couldnt make it through and he have diff values. I dont wanna be fwb, it’s either girlf or a stranger. Thats it. What can i do more Amor?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 24, 2017 at 2:49 pm

      It’s not a guarantee that it would work but it raises your chances.. Do at least 30 days..after that don’t do intimate stuff with him like sex if you’re not really together..

  9. W

    November 23, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    Hi Amor, i sent the re-breakup text. He told me that he wouldnt want to end our friendship throughout so long and he would take my words into consideration, he’ll think abt it. What should i do now Amor, im starting my nc again. Do you think it’s still possible for me to get him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 24, 2017 at 3:39 am

      Yeah, but he doesn’t want commitment.. Trying to be friends with you means later on he will try to be fwb.. So, be careful with that..because right now you’re chasing him..

  10. W

    November 23, 2017 at 4:27 pm

    Hi Amor, we went out today and we made things clear. He asked me if i think that having the title girlf and boyf is that important or not. He said we could go out, go movie, go sport tgt but without all the kissing and hugging. He told ne that not to say that he dont love me but he just felt like the girlf title is very important to him. What the girlf do will affect him. He told me that prev when we coupled when we’re just 18, he didnt think much of being tgt for the rest of the life but just felt like we can click so just get tgt. And now he’s being more serious into a relationship alr and he felt like he needs to get a girlf that have same values with him. Our values were always diff tbh at that 2 years plus, we’re arguing and broke up once too. Because we’re really too young tbh, we’rw both immature. To me, more than half of our 2 years plus relationship is plain bullshit, because we argue for the smallest things on earth and very immature. I told him these and he said he’ll think abt it and he told me that he dint wanna leave me hanging too. I told him that i know what he meant but for my side i would prefer growing tgt because it’s really hard to get someone you love and he love you too at the same time. What should i do Amor? He told me he couldnt see my changes and im still the old me where he thinks that both of us couldnt work out in the future. Are we doomed? Help …..

  11. W

    November 22, 2017 at 5:55 am

    Hi Amor, not to say that he dint want me to meet his parents but just happen that his parents werent at home at that time therefore i couldnt make an observation abt it. When we’re a couple, he used to bring me over his house after dates. It’s the first date of us after we broke up. Previously was me driving over to his house, wanting to spend time with him. I guess he wouldnt mind me meeting his parents and relatives because before i started nc, i made things too available for him by keep going over to his place, asking if he’s free for a date and all and he is ok with me going over to his place that time. He would also leave me to social around with his family and relatives whereas him doing his own things. It’s actually weird that he hasnt been texting me after the day we went out, but he said he’ll pay for the movie tickets *next time*. Could it be he wants to start things fresh? Or Does nc help in this situation where you said that he could be slowly letting things go ?

  12. Lauren

    November 21, 2017 at 4:02 pm

    My ex and I go to the same college and have all of the same friends.we broke up about over a month ago. Though it was mutual, a lot was him feeling he couldn’t commit right now (we dated for a year). I’ve tried the NC rule (asides from him texting me random questions or snapping me). I tersely respond to text and not to snaps. I see him on weekends at parties but just say hi and happily mingle with others. He asked to meet and catch up this weekend (it’s been now 4-5 weeks since we’ve really sat down and spoke) and I’m confused what his motive is. We ended up grabbing lunch and talking for two hours. Btw we are also studying abroad together next semester and that makes things more confusing.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 24, 2017 at 12:52 am

  13. W

    November 21, 2017 at 5:09 am

    Hi Amor, we met up on the other day because he texted me again and ask if im free. He asked me for lunch with his few friends and movie after lunch. I dint get to join his friends for lunch but we went movie after that. He even hugged me in the cinema because both of us were cold. He offered to fetch me this time. But he hasnt been texting me since sunday. I thank him for the ride and say i’ll pay for the movie tickets. He just said thanks and he’ll pay the next time. Why would he text me halfway of my nc. I’ve done 2 weeks of nc and i knew i have to restart it again. He texted me on sat for a date and i couldnt make it so he texted on sun again. He even asked me if i wanna go lunch with him and his friends. But not a single text on monday alr. What does this probably mean Amor? Can see like this time he dint really want to bring me to go his house because he told me that his parents and relatives have been asking. But he wants to bring me to his friends instead. Could it be he is trying his way to gain back the rapport ? Or he wanna take some time to chill and try at the same time ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 22, 2017 at 1:01 am

      you need to be clear with him because yeah, he can be trying to get back with you but, the red flag there is that he doesn’t want you to meet with his family.. if he really wanted to be back with you why wouldn’t he want that? So, it looks more like he just misses you, but that doesn’t mean he wants to go back..It’s like satisfying a craving just for now, to eventually slowly let you go..

  14. W

    November 20, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    Hi Amor, we met up ytd and we went for a movie. Everything went well and we talked alot too. But he hasnt been texting me today. I thank him for fetching me home and his text were quite normal, not to say positive ytd night . What should i do ? What is he thinking ? Why would one ask me to join for lunch with his friends and movie out of a sudden ? But not texting me the next day ?

  15. W

    November 19, 2017 at 3:41 am

    Hi Amor, my ex texted me for a movie ytd as i mentioned in the previous post . But the plan ended up off because he dint wanna fetch me . I told him if he Is not free to fetch then next time then . He said next time and i replied okay! He dint reply my msg after that and not even bluetick. What does that mean?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 20, 2017 at 5:07 am

      You need to restart nc because when you’re in nc you shouldn’t initiate nor reply

  16. ginnygenie

    October 13, 2017 at 4:57 am

    Hi amor, I just recently broke up with my ex less than two months ago. We dated for eight months and everything was sweet at first although there’s a few fights here and there. In the end, he ended the relationship although I tried to talk it through with him, telling him we can work on it together. Still, he said no. He told me he doesn’t know how to love anymore and wants to be single. He sent me up to my house and we hugged for quite some time and I kissed him for the last time. He was in tears. Ever since we broke up our texts became lesser and he was not as enthusiastic in replying me as before. Sometimes he don’t even reply or reply very slowly and starts to like some relationship posts on facebook that not keeping someone who is not worth it blah blah blah but he still stalks my instagram story every time. He asked me out after breaking up less than a week. I asked him what was his purpose he said lets go out as a friend. So I tried the NC rule until on the 11th day I was in needed of help and he was there for me and actually went all the way just to help me. I wasn’t sure he was just being polite or what and we catch up with each other through text for 2 days and he went missing on me again.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 14, 2017 at 10:14 am

      Hi Ginny,
      Restart nc.. Stick to at least 30 days
      Be active in improving yourself during and after nc while slowly building rapport

    2. ginnygenie

      October 17, 2017 at 4:12 am

      Hi Amor,
      Thanks for replying me! Howver, he starts talking to me for the past few days again and we’ve been texting everyday since then just that he’s slow to replying sometimes. Do you suggest I ignore him and starts NC again? :/

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 17, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      Yup..tell him being friends for now is not workable for you and thank him for everything and then restart nc

  17. Jess

    July 16, 2017 at 12:37 am

    Hi my ex broke up with me in April it was a 4 months relationship. His reason was no deep emotions and spark with me after we went away for a short trip together. Also during the trip he felt there were too much emotional ups and downs when I asked him questions. Because I noticed things he said was not adding up and he hid all of his tagged photo in Instagram after I tagged him in one our dinner photo (just food not our face) he is 46 and I’m 33. He seem to dismiss women in their 40s base on shallow reason so that made me insecure about his intention with me and asked why he dislike women his age and his answer was evasive and made me feel even more untrusting towards him.

    2 days After the break up I sent him one email to express regrets and that I’m going to see psychologist for trust issues and wish we met at different timing.

    He responded that he likes me and we could have continued a comfortable relationship but deep down he knows it’s not gonna be forever. He said I’m a really attractive young woman who is full of energy, passion and integrity and he really wants me to take good care of myself. I replied to thank him for his honesty and that he inspired me to go to therapy and he hasn’t replied.

    Since then he view all of my Instagram stories he even got his best friend to view it sometimes. He also like each and every post of mine.

    I’ve been returning likes as usual but haven’t contacted him. After one month I reached out to ask him advise to break the ice. Then validate him by agreeing and praising him. However when I switch to personal topics like how you been? How’s your trip? If he is still surfing? He would ignore me.

    I tried this couple of times over a month. Then I stopped viewing his stories 3 weeks ago even when he viewed mind. After that he stopped posting stories. He also stopped posting photos for 2 months. All he does is liking my photos but doesn’t want to talk. He also seem to be using Instagram as his hunting place he is following lots of girls my age or younger who are local, they are not models just girls with small follower pools. He would try to get their attention by routinely liking their photos. None of them follows him back and he eventually unfollowed some.

    I have also temporarily disabled my Instagram for 3 weeks. I’m not sure when will I activate it again. Reason I’m doing this is because him not wanting to talk but liking eveything is really annoying. Also it gives him the permission to look into my life without talking.

    Why is he doing this? Also why he stopped posting stories just because I stopped viewing? Also him stopped posting photos for 2 months is unlike him.

    How should I move forward from here? If I send him another ice breaker doesn’t seem like it’s going to work?


    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 18, 2017 at 8:39 pm

      Hi Jess,

      Restart the count of nc, don’t like his posts if he does again be active in improving yourself and go back in being active in posting too.. Maybe he’s just posting before as a nod back to your posts for attention to feel validated

    2. Jess

      July 19, 2017 at 11:29 pm

      Thanks Amber. Already half way to NC. Yes he does need lots of validation as he loves following local young women and keep on liking their post to get attention. He would unfollow them if they start posting pics of their boyfriends.

      He stopped logging into dating site for almost a month. Not sure if he found someone or he is just taking a break as it’s not giving the result he wants.

      This week he only follow girls but not liking their post. I will reactive my account when NC is completed right it just look like I deleted my account or been blocking him.

      Once I reactIvate my account and get back into posting, should I keep on ignoring his likes and don’t send him anymore messages? As he was cold before and only seem to be seeking attention? Thanks

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 23, 2017 at 6:21 pm

      Dont react because nor reply because you’re still in nc

  18. sesilia

    July 12, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    I met my ex boyfriend last week and this week once because he asked me for help to fix his bracelet. so start to fixing and end up he asked me to make a new one for him. because I couldn’t refuse when someone ask for help (and he know this too) so I ended up make a new one for him. this Monday I asked to meet him just to check if the bracelet fits his srm or not. He looked so happy, he told me It’s the first time someone make a hand made stuff for him. and then he told me he will come back to his hometown end of the month. It’s ok, I can finish it before he comeback. he want it to wear it everyday. so I think at least our relationship not so akward anymore.he even joke around and ask me if I want him to bringme to his home town. which my replied was yeah I want to go because I need holiday. (meant to be a joke) but then he posted a photo on Instagram after 3 days and the caption said that he is very happy that he is going back to his hometown that he miss so much. but he will miss the summer festival here, but It’s ok since he don’t have girlfriend. he is really confusing me. he want to be friends or what? can u help me? thank you.

    1. sesilia

      July 12, 2017 at 10:49 pm

      I forgot to mention he asked me to met him first and check the bracelet. the first time we met after a month his word are “why u use make up today?” i always wear make up so I feel weird. why he asked me that.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 14, 2017 at 2:03 pm

      He’s friendly but that doesn’t mean he wants to be back together

    3. sesilia

      July 16, 2017 at 5:06 am

      Hi, Amor thank you for reply.
      so what should I do to get him back?
      or I can’t get any hope to come back together?

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 18, 2017 at 8:46 pm

      do you want to try the no contact rule? If yes, do at least 30 days.