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63 thoughts on “Why Would An Ex Boyfriend Want To Meet Up?”

  1. W

    November 30, 2017 at 5:16 pm

    Hi Amor, im doing no contact again because i broke it that time and now it’s one week alr. My ex texted me in between and i did not reply. After few days he texted me again today and ask why did i ignore him tho. What should i do now amor ? Shohld i ignore and not reply until the end ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 30, 2017 at 8:48 pm

      Yup..focus in improving yourself

  2. W

    November 24, 2017 at 5:20 am

    Hi Amor, what should i do to stop chasing him then ? If i go into nc right now again, will it work ? This time i wouldnt break it in any way. He brought me home ytd btw and we had dinner with his parents. He’s giving me all those mixed signals. And end up telling me all those. If he really felt like we dont share the same value and future, so why not just leave me alone when im doing nc for 2 weeks alr, why text me out of a sudden for movie and hug me in the cinema. He told me that he thinks that 3 years is more than enough to grow tgt but we still couldnt make it through and he have diff values. I dont wanna be fwb, it’s either girlf or a stranger. Thats it. What can i do more Amor?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 24, 2017 at 2:49 pm

      It’s not a guarantee that it would work but it raises your chances.. Do at least 30 days..after that don’t do intimate stuff with him like sex if you’re not really together..

  3. W

    November 23, 2017 at 5:15 pm

    Hi Amor, i sent the re-breakup text. He told me that he wouldnt want to end our friendship throughout so long and he would take my words into consideration, he’ll think abt it. What should i do now Amor, im starting my nc again. Do you think it’s still possible for me to get him back?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 24, 2017 at 3:39 am

      Yeah, but he doesn’t want commitment.. Trying to be friends with you means later on he will try to be fwb.. So, be careful with that..because right now you’re chasing him..

  4. W

    November 23, 2017 at 4:27 pm

    Hi Amor, we went out today and we made things clear. He asked me if i think that having the title girlf and boyf is that important or not. He said we could go out, go movie, go sport tgt but without all the kissing and hugging. He told ne that not to say that he dont love me but he just felt like the girlf title is very important to him. What the girlf do will affect him. He told me that prev when we coupled when we’re just 18, he didnt think much of being tgt for the rest of the life but just felt like we can click so just get tgt. And now he’s being more serious into a relationship alr and he felt like he needs to get a girlf that have same values with him. Our values were always diff tbh at that 2 years plus, we’re arguing and broke up once too. Because we’re really too young tbh, we’rw both immature. To me, more than half of our 2 years plus relationship is plain bullshit, because we argue for the smallest things on earth and very immature. I told him these and he said he’ll think abt it and he told me that he dint wanna leave me hanging too. I told him that i know what he meant but for my side i would prefer growing tgt because it’s really hard to get someone you love and he love you too at the same time. What should i do Amor? He told me he couldnt see my changes and im still the old me where he thinks that both of us couldnt work out in the future. Are we doomed? Help …..

  5. W

    November 22, 2017 at 5:55 am

    Hi Amor, not to say that he dint want me to meet his parents but just happen that his parents werent at home at that time therefore i couldnt make an observation abt it. When we’re a couple, he used to bring me over his house after dates. It’s the first date of us after we broke up. Previously was me driving over to his house, wanting to spend time with him. I guess he wouldnt mind me meeting his parents and relatives because before i started nc, i made things too available for him by keep going over to his place, asking if he’s free for a date and all and he is ok with me going over to his place that time. He would also leave me to social around with his family and relatives whereas him doing his own things. It’s actually weird that he hasnt been texting me after the day we went out, but he said he’ll pay for the movie tickets *next time*. Could it be he wants to start things fresh? Or Does nc help in this situation where you said that he could be slowly letting things go ?

  6. Lauren

    November 21, 2017 at 4:02 pm

    Hi,
    My ex and I go to the same college and have all of the same friends.we broke up about over a month ago. Though it was mutual, a lot was him feeling he couldn’t commit right now (we dated for a year). I’ve tried the NC rule (asides from him texting me random questions or snapping me). I tersely respond to text and not to snaps. I see him on weekends at parties but just say hi and happily mingle with others. He asked to meet and catch up this weekend (it’s been now 4-5 weeks since we’ve really sat down and spoke) and I’m confused what his motive is. We ended up grabbing lunch and talking for two hours. Btw we are also studying abroad together next semester and that makes things more confusing.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 24, 2017 at 12:52 am

      Hi Lauren,

      check this one:
      Why Does My Ex Boyfriend Want to Be Friends With Me?

  7. W

    November 21, 2017 at 5:09 am

    Hi Amor, we met up on the other day because he texted me again and ask if im free. He asked me for lunch with his few friends and movie after lunch. I dint get to join his friends for lunch but we went movie after that. He even hugged me in the cinema because both of us were cold. He offered to fetch me this time. But he hasnt been texting me since sunday. I thank him for the ride and say i’ll pay for the movie tickets. He just said thanks and he’ll pay the next time. Why would he text me halfway of my nc. I’ve done 2 weeks of nc and i knew i have to restart it again. He texted me on sat for a date and i couldnt make it so he texted on sun again. He even asked me if i wanna go lunch with him and his friends. But not a single text on monday alr. What does this probably mean Amor? Can see like this time he dint really want to bring me to go his house because he told me that his parents and relatives have been asking. But he wants to bring me to his friends instead. Could it be he is trying his way to gain back the rapport ? Or he wanna take some time to chill and try at the same time ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 22, 2017 at 1:01 am

      you need to be clear with him because yeah, he can be trying to get back with you but, the red flag there is that he doesn’t want you to meet with his family.. if he really wanted to be back with you why wouldn’t he want that? So, it looks more like he just misses you, but that doesn’t mean he wants to go back..It’s like satisfying a craving just for now, to eventually slowly let you go..

  8. W

    November 20, 2017 at 12:22 pm

    Hi Amor, we met up ytd and we went for a movie. Everything went well and we talked alot too. But he hasnt been texting me today. I thank him for fetching me home and his text were quite normal, not to say positive ytd night . What should i do ? What is he thinking ? Why would one ask me to join for lunch with his friends and movie out of a sudden ? But not texting me the next day ?

  9. W

    November 19, 2017 at 3:41 am

    Hi Amor, my ex texted me for a movie ytd as i mentioned in the previous post . But the plan ended up off because he dint wanna fetch me . I told him if he Is not free to fetch then next time then . He said next time and i replied okay! He dint reply my msg after that and not even bluetick. What does that mean?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      November 20, 2017 at 5:07 am

      You need to restart nc because when you’re in nc you shouldn’t initiate nor reply

  10. ginnygenie

    October 13, 2017 at 4:57 am

    Hi amor, I just recently broke up with my ex less than two months ago. We dated for eight months and everything was sweet at first although there’s a few fights here and there. In the end, he ended the relationship although I tried to talk it through with him, telling him we can work on it together. Still, he said no. He told me he doesn’t know how to love anymore and wants to be single. He sent me up to my house and we hugged for quite some time and I kissed him for the last time. He was in tears. Ever since we broke up our texts became lesser and he was not as enthusiastic in replying me as before. Sometimes he don’t even reply or reply very slowly and starts to like some relationship posts on facebook that not keeping someone who is not worth it blah blah blah but he still stalks my instagram story every time. He asked me out after breaking up less than a week. I asked him what was his purpose he said lets go out as a friend. So I tried the NC rule until on the 11th day I was in needed of help and he was there for me and actually went all the way just to help me. I wasn’t sure he was just being polite or what and we catch up with each other through text for 2 days and he went missing on me again.

    1. ginnygenie

      October 17, 2017 at 4:12 am

      Hi Amor,
      Thanks for replying me! Howver, he starts talking to me for the past few days again and we’ve been texting everyday since then just that he’s slow to replying sometimes. Do you suggest I ignore him and starts NC again? :/

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 17, 2017 at 8:45 pm

      Yup..tell him being friends for now is not workable for you and thank him for everything and then restart nc

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      October 14, 2017 at 10:14 am

      Hi Ginny,
      Restart nc.. Stick to at least 30 days
      Be active in improving yourself during and after nc while slowly building rapport

  11. Jess

    July 16, 2017 at 12:37 am

    Hi my ex broke up with me in April it was a 4 months relationship. His reason was no deep emotions and spark with me after we went away for a short trip together. Also during the trip he felt there were too much emotional ups and downs when I asked him questions. Because I noticed things he said was not adding up and he hid all of his tagged photo in Instagram after I tagged him in one our dinner photo (just food not our face) he is 46 and I’m 33. He seem to dismiss women in their 40s base on shallow reason so that made me insecure about his intention with me and asked why he dislike women his age and his answer was evasive and made me feel even more untrusting towards him.

    2 days After the break up I sent him one email to express regrets and that I’m going to see psychologist for trust issues and wish we met at different timing.

    He responded that he likes me and we could have continued a comfortable relationship but deep down he knows it’s not gonna be forever. He said I’m a really attractive young woman who is full of energy, passion and integrity and he really wants me to take good care of myself. I replied to thank him for his honesty and that he inspired me to go to therapy and he hasn’t replied.

    Since then he view all of my Instagram stories he even got his best friend to view it sometimes. He also like each and every post of mine.

    I’ve been returning likes as usual but haven’t contacted him. After one month I reached out to ask him advise to break the ice. Then validate him by agreeing and praising him. However when I switch to personal topics like how you been? How’s your trip? If he is still surfing? He would ignore me.

    I tried this couple of times over a month. Then I stopped viewing his stories 3 weeks ago even when he viewed mind. After that he stopped posting stories. He also stopped posting photos for 2 months. All he does is liking my photos but doesn’t want to talk. He also seem to be using Instagram as his hunting place he is following lots of girls my age or younger who are local, they are not models just girls with small follower pools. He would try to get their attention by routinely liking their photos. None of them follows him back and he eventually unfollowed some.

    I have also temporarily disabled my Instagram for 3 weeks. I’m not sure when will I activate it again. Reason I’m doing this is because him not wanting to talk but liking eveything is really annoying. Also it gives him the permission to look into my life without talking.

    Why is he doing this? Also why he stopped posting stories just because I stopped viewing? Also him stopped posting photos for 2 months is unlike him.

    How should I move forward from here? If I send him another ice breaker doesn’t seem like it’s going to work?

    Thanks
    Jess

    1. Jess

      July 19, 2017 at 11:29 pm

      Thanks Amber. Already half way to NC. Yes he does need lots of validation as he loves following local young women and keep on liking their post to get attention. He would unfollow them if they start posting pics of their boyfriends.

      He stopped logging into dating site for almost a month. Not sure if he found someone or he is just taking a break as it’s not giving the result he wants.

      This week he only follow girls but not liking their post. I will reactive my account when NC is completed right it just look like I deleted my account or been blocking him.

      Once I reactIvate my account and get back into posting, should I keep on ignoring his likes and don’t send him anymore messages? As he was cold before and only seem to be seeking attention? Thanks

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 23, 2017 at 6:21 pm

      Dont react because nor reply because you’re still in nc

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 18, 2017 at 8:39 pm

      Hi Jess,

      Restart the count of nc, don’t like his posts if he does again be active in improving yourself and go back in being active in posting too.. Maybe he’s just posting before as a nod back to your posts for attention to feel validated

  12. sesilia

    July 12, 2017 at 10:05 pm

    hi,
    I met my ex boyfriend last week and this week once because he asked me for help to fix his bracelet. so start to fixing and end up he asked me to make a new one for him. because I couldn’t refuse when someone ask for help (and he know this too) so I ended up make a new one for him. this Monday I asked to meet him just to check if the bracelet fits his srm or not. He looked so happy, he told me It’s the first time someone make a hand made stuff for him. and then he told me he will come back to his hometown end of the month. It’s ok, I can finish it before he comeback. he want it to wear it everyday. so I think at least our relationship not so akward anymore.he even joke around and ask me if I want him to bringme to his home town. which my replied was yeah I want to go because I need holiday. (meant to be a joke) but then he posted a photo on Instagram after 3 days and the caption said that he is very happy that he is going back to his hometown that he miss so much. but he will miss the summer festival here, but It’s ok since he don’t have girlfriend. he is really confusing me. he want to be friends or what? can u help me? thank you.

    1. sesilia

      July 16, 2017 at 5:06 am

      Hi, Amor thank you for reply.
      so what should I do to get him back?
      or I can’t get any hope to come back together?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 18, 2017 at 8:46 pm

      do you want to try the no contact rule? If yes, do at least 30 days.

    3. sesilia

      July 12, 2017 at 10:49 pm

      I forgot to mention he asked me to met him first and check the bracelet. the first time we met after a month his word are “why u use make up today?” i always wear make up so I feel weird. why he asked me that.

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 14, 2017 at 2:03 pm

      He’s friendly but that doesn’t mean he wants to be back together

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