By Chris Seiter

Updated on February 27th, 2021

As a professional relationship consultant there is only so much that I can bring to the table.

I know my strengths (teaching you about what goes on inside the mind of a man) and I know my weaknesses (what to wear on a date.)

But one of the amazing things about Ex Boyfriend Recovery now is that it’s grown so big that I can bring people in that shore up my weaknesses.

The End Result = Better Advice For You!

I’d like you to meet my wife, Jennifer who is going to be spending the day teaching you exactly what you should wear on a date with your ex boyfriend,

Video Transcript

Hey guys! Thanks for joining us at Ex Boyfriend Recovery. Today, I’m going to show you how to dress for you ex if you want them back.

So, I’d like to introduce myself. I’m Jennifer Seiter. I’m Chris’ wife and he’s asked me to do some videos for you and I’m really excited to spend the day with you, to talk to you about what to wear. Today, we’re going to be talking about what to wear and what colors to wear specifically.

So, the colors that I’m going to be recommending that you wear on your first date are Red, Blue, or Black and I’m going to break down each one and tell you the reasons behind that. So, you may be wondering why I picked those three colors. They’re actually going to drive the emotions you want to see from your ex. Here at Ex Boyfriend Recovery, we recommend that you wear Red the most. Now, you’re maybe wondering why. Red, represents passion and that’s what you want him to feel on that first date. I’ve done research on how the color Red affects people and in the Olympics, judges awarded more points to the teams that were wearing Red. Now, if you thought that was big deal. Listen to this. Waitresses in France wear red lipstick or red clothing because they receive the biggest tips that way, as much as 20%.

Okay, I’m going to give you a huge tip. When you’re wearing this color Red, it’s going to drive him crazy and he’s going to want you but don’t sleep with him. Whatever you do, do not sleep with him because you’re going to get stuck in that friends with benefits zone and you won’t be able to get out of it. I don’t know if you’ve noticed but, we’ve been watching the debates lately.Β  A lot of the politicians are either wearing Red or Blue. So, the Red is all about power. It’s all powerful. The Blue on the other hand is to help to get people to trust, to trust and the security of it. So, that will bring us to our next topic, Blue.

So, if your relationship ended in cheating, if you cheated on your ex and you’re trying to get him back , we recommend that you wear the color Blue. It’s going to help bring out that trust in him subconsciously. He’s not even going to know it but he’s going to trust you just a little bit more. I mean I can’t guarantee that he’s going to trust you a hundred percent but like I said the politicians, they wear Blue to get people to trust them and it works. I mean you just take a look at this example. I mean we have Hillary Clinton, Bill Clinton, George Bush wearing Blue, we have Kate Middleton. I mean you could go through the list. Every politician has worn blue at least a few times because they want to become trustworthy. If you ever look at the debates they’re either wearing red or blue because red is powerful and blue is trustworthy. I don’t know if you’ve noticed but we also used Blue for the website and also for the logo. We really want you to trust us and it’s also Chris favorite color so, it’s a win-win.

The third and last color that we recommend you to wear is Black. It’s sophisticated. And you know what, if you didn’t lose all the weight you wanted to lose during your 30 day no contact, you can wear Black. It makes you look just a little bit slimmer and it’s pretty nice. You can always pair it up with a color. So, say you cheated on your ex and you want to be trustworthy, you can wear blue and black together. I also recommend black if you are a text gnat. So, if you guys were fighting all the time because you were overwhelming to him, black implies that you are independent. So, he’s really going to start looking at you like, “Wow, she has it together. She’s not bothering me anymore. You know, I actually want to talk to her.” And black will help kind of portray that. Black also implies that you’re starting new, a new beginning. So, it’s a great color for this first date. So, you can forget all that old stuff, all the fights and all the issues that you had in the past and start your relationship fresh.

So, about 60-90% of decisions are influenced by colors alone. So, it’s really no surprise that Facebook, Twitter, Linked In are all Blue, –Ex Boyfriend Recovery, because it promotes trust and security.

We have Yellow like Best Buy. It likes yellow because it’s optimistic. Hooters, orange because it’s friendly. We have Hallmark for purple, it’s like creativity. Green would be like Whole Foods. It’s all about health and wellness and you know of course we have the red as the passion and excitement and that’s what we want to really push for on that first date. So, like Coca Cola picked Red because it’s justβ€”I’m thirsty just thinking about actually. [laughs]

And so, we have Red, Blue and then Black. So, Black is powerful and sleek and that would be like the car companies. A lot would do it. Infiniti does it, Nike, Adidas, a lot of the sports because they want to really show that powerfulness.
Thank you so much for making it to the end of this video and if you liked what you saw so far, please subscribe. So, we can give more quality videos and next Tuesday I will be doing a tutorial on hair extensions. So, we can spend the day together and have a little girl’s day. So, I will see you next Tuesday.

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19 thoughts on “What To Wear On A Date With Your Ex Boyfriend (Video)”

  1. rachel

    March 18, 2019 at 11:54 pm

    loved this video!! would love to see more from her πŸ™‚

    1. Chris Seiter

      March 19, 2019 at 9:34 pm

      Thank you. I have a lot of videos and podcasts that I hope you enjoy!

  2. Akemi

    April 5, 2016 at 3:38 am

    very nice video so love watching it. My Ex wants to meet up and I’m wondering what to wear on first meeting, actually I’m thinking to wear different colour like white because i always wear Black and blue when we were together. I think the white is more look fresh. So my question is it ok to wear white? and should we meet at the same place we used to go or pick different place? Thank you for the cool video.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 5, 2016 at 10:34 am

      HI Akemi,

      It’s okay to wear white, as long as you’re comfortable in it. And if you’re going to pick a new place, make sure that it’s comfortable there too and that both of you wouldn’t feel awkward.

  3. jennifer

    March 25, 2016 at 6:02 pm

    Nice video with great informations πŸ™‚
    I recently read an article about how colours influence the human mind and how policians use them. It’s good to know those facts πŸ˜€

    1. Jennifer Seiter

      March 26, 2016 at 3:21 am

      Thanks! Glad you liked it! *Great name by the way. πŸ˜‰

  4. Amber

    March 24, 2016 at 3:19 am

    Hi Chris/Amor,

    I posted about a month ago asking for advice and received some. At that time, I had just gone out with my ex and his friend as my ex had invited me to join them.

    Since then my ex and I have been texting every day and we have run into each other around campus and chatted, etc. Now, I am not sure what to do: our conversations have gotten to the point where he will reply with single word answers at times and they are not super interesting. Also, I am struggling making him feel attracted to me in a romantic way. I am hoping to ask him to go out sometime over the next month or two and would like to build some romantic attraction first.

    I am unsure if (1) I should go MIA and not text him for a while and if so how long and (2) how to build romantic attraction before I ask him to hang out in a more personal setting (just me and him).

    My ex and I have been broken up for many months now.

    Thanks πŸ™‚

    1. Amber

      March 31, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      I’ve taken your advice and implemented a shortened no contact period, but what do I do if my ex questions why I ignored him/asks if I am mad at him? Also, what if he doesn’t try to contact me again during this period.


    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 3, 2016 at 11:45 am


      sorry for the late reply.. Tell him you’ve been busy..if he sends 10 consecutive positive texts that day you can break nc, if he didn’t contact, just keep your cool.. that doesn’t mean you can’t text him again after nc

    3. Amber

      March 26, 2016 at 6:35 am

      Hi Jennifer,

      Thanks for your response! I think that is good advice and I will implement the no contact rule and then some jealousy into our conversations.

      My only concern is that I am not sure what to do if my ex questions why I am not responding to his texts/why I went MIA. I know from experience that he is likely to ask me why I stopped responding and if I am mad at him or if he said something that made me upset, etc. (I am quite busy at the moment with school and stuff but I am not sure if I should use this as an excuse or how I should reply.)


    4. Jennifer Seiter

      March 26, 2016 at 3:37 am

      Hi Amber, It sounds like you missed the window of asking him out on a date. I’d say go back into no contact for two weeks then try again. Make sure your not just running into him around campus if that is possible. You want that first encounter to be planned so your can look and feel your best. Also you will have prepared interesting things to talk about. Your going to have to use jealously at this point to win his affection over. There is a right and wrong way to do that though so make sure you read chris’ post. You have to do it very strategically.

  5. confused

    March 20, 2016 at 9:12 pm

    Okay so, I need some help here. He told me he didnt want to be with me anymore last week, I didnt take it very well of course. We only dated for a few months, but I really care about him. I did the begging for about a day, that didnt go very well obviously, but he insisted that we could still be friends so I tried to pretend like I was okay with that for about a day before I found this site, then I started my no contact. Well today is the second day of my NC, and yesterday he viewed my snapchat story and tagged me in something on facebook, and today I went to an event to see a friend and he just so happened to be there too – I was totally unaware about that. Anyways, he “liked” a picture I posted with the other person I was there to see, and then promptly deleted me off of facebook. Oh, he texted me this morning too – but I ignored it. Now I dont know if I should break the NC to talk to him personally about him deleting me because he IS the type of person who HATES being ignored, more than anything, and he is very stubborn so I am scared that this might just be working against me, I need help. I hope you respond fast lol

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 21, 2016 at 8:45 am

      Hi Confused,

      if you would continue to be friends would that influence him to get back with you?

  6. Excited!!

    March 18, 2016 at 9:48 am

    Hi, Well he asked me out for a drink today!! I was going to wear red and one of the new red tops I got when I revamped my wardrobe is a polo neck, I wearing a polo neck going to be covering up too much? do I need to have a little more skin on show?

    1. Julie

      March 22, 2016 at 8:13 pm

      I think you should leave it unbuttoned all the way, skinnies and pair it with heels/wedges. But if you are going out for drinks in a really nice and classy high end bar setting, maybe something a little sexier would be nice. Like a dress.
      That’s my opinion πŸ™‚ Good luck and hopefully this advice isn’t too late.

    2. Jennifer Seiter

      March 26, 2016 at 3:25 am

      Great Advice Julie. I’d say if your wearing a conservative top wear something that accentuates your legs/butt. There is a such thing as being to sexy and it will make it look like your trying to hard so I think your polo would be perfect for a coffee date. However, Like Julie said if your going to a restaurant or bar wear a red dress.

  7. Stephanie

    March 17, 2016 at 2:57 pm

    Hi EBR team! This video is so perfect timing because I’ll have the first “date” with my ex soon. I got the thing about the colors, my question is How much should I show? I mean talking about neckline or legs… I feel like if I’d dress too sexy he’ll think I’m planning something… Thanks so much for your time…

    Btw I love the page I’m such a fan and I’ve been doing almost everything that Chris recommend in the past 3 months seen the breakup… You don’t know how much you guys had help me! Thank you again!

    1. Jennifer Seiter

      March 26, 2016 at 3:30 am

      Your very welcome Stephanie, Please let us know how it went!

      Also, I’d say pick one or the other. You definitely want to look sexy but not like your trying to hard so either the lower neckline or legs but not both. Like Amor said to sexy would also distract him.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 17, 2016 at 5:06 pm

      Hi Stephanie,

      AS they say, less is more. Don’t wear too sexy clothes that would distract him.