What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,553 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Ashlee

April 10, 2014 at 9:52 am

Hi,Chris,I’m from Taiwan,sorry for poor English.
I was about to get into a relationship with this guy,we’ve dating(only weekend) and chatting for few months.
There were some family issues between us,well,his mom doesn’t like me because she doesn’t like my mom.That was a month ago.
Few days ago,he told me that he wants to stay friend.
He didn’t block me in anyway,he replies when I talk to him on Line,of course in a short phrase or sentence and whenever I mentioned about getting back together,he become silent until I ask him if he’s unhappy for what I said,and he said no he’s not angry,just never want to talk about that.
I’m starting to do the NC today,do you think it works? Since he’s not angry with me and he’s not blocking me,but the serious issues make him got stressed.*sigh

Thank you!

admin

April 11, 2014 at 3:57 am

Sounds like you have a good idea of what to do to be honest.

Em

April 10, 2014 at 2:25 am

Hey Chris , I have been noticing he is completely acting like he is okay and acting as if he doesn’t know me. He is liking other girls picture and stuff I’m trying not to panic you know I don’t know how to reattract him now. It’s been 6 months… I wrote a comment earlier my whole situation is there my question is do you think there’s a chance?

admin

April 11, 2014 at 3:46 am

I think he is liking those pictures because he knows you are watching and it will affect you.
Em

April 12, 2014 at 12:20 pm

He won’t catch feelings? I mean they are his old friends but maybe it’s because I have so much feelings for him that’s why I care but idk. It’s been so long to the point I just don’t know what to do anymore I don’t wanna give up because everything you have written I feel can really help my situation. Anyway i see him with his friends and acts as if he doesn’t care/know me but when he is alone he stares from down the hallway then when we pass each other he doesn’t make eye contact but has a saddish look on his face. His birthday is coming up should I say happy birthday? I mean he didn’t say it to me. My friends were in the same class and they were talking about it he said ” who is that, i don’t know her” I don’t know if deleted/blocked my number so… Anyway I might have more questions they just are not coming to me I have so much going on sorry for bothering you

Ann

April 9, 2014 at 12:10 pm

Hi Chris,

I had written to you before about my situation & without going into detail about what happened, my ex & I have not had any contact since I posted my story which was a little over a month ago. Since then, a lot has changed. I found your website to be very helpful & I don’t think I could have gotten through the rough times without reading your posts & the posts of others going through similar situations. My ex blocked on me Facebook & I’m not sure if he blocked my number, but I didn’t bother to try it because I am 99.9% sure he did (so why bother adding more disappointment to my life). We didn’t use very many apps but we did have Skype. I don’t think he had blocked me on there. However, I decided a while ago to just cut him out of my life & deleted him from everything we were friends on. We were in a long distance relationship & yes I did read the article on it. But it was kind of hard to be optimistic about things I knew wouldn’t change because I felt like he wasn’t willing to put in the same amount of effort as I was. It’s been almost 1.5 months & I think I’m in a better place. I’ve had my weak moments where I broke down, but those are not frequent anymore. I still have flashback moments where I can remember every detail of every moment we were together & although incredibly painful, I manage to shake it off. Friends have told me that the reason my ex hasn’t tried to contact me is because he is still trying to deal with things in his own way. Well, no offense to them but I could care less about how he’s dealing with things. Is it wrong for me to care so little about someone who didn’t value/appreciate all the things I did for him? I’m not a praise seeker, but it would have been nice to feel some kind of appreciation by the person who claims to have “loved” me. Since it all happened, I feel like I have moved on as best I could. Sure, I’m not ENTIRELY over him, otherwise I wouldn’t be talking about him, but I realized what I’m worth & that someone else will come along & be able to appreciate & love me in the way that I need. (Not to mention hopefully not cheat on me several times) Although it was incredibly difficult, I forgave myself AND him early on. I have come to realize that time truly is a beautiful thing, & although I completed NC successfully, it wasn’t being able to get him back that made me feel good. It was knowing I was strong enough to go that long without him. I know I’ll stumble from time to time, but just knowing that I’ve begun to move away from all my stupid behaviors (neediness, argumentative, jealous) makes me feel 10x better than getting him back. I do still have feelings for him, but those feelings are strong enough to push me back into being that text gnat or that “crazy” girlfriend I saw myself to be. Thank you SO much for your insight about so many situations us women find ourselves in when it comes to dealing with broken relationships. I never thought my heart would heal & I never thought I’d be able to move forward but your words helped with that. It is comforting to know that there are guys (LIKE YOU) who actually care about how women feel in a relationship & not just about themselves. You’re a great person & the next time I have a girl friend in need (or if I end up in another situation), this website will definitely be the first source I turn to.

Melissa

April 10, 2014 at 8:21 pm

hat was really nice Ann, I was also in LDR and after NC pretty much realise that I don’t want him anymore and quite frankly, I’m better off without him…and yes! they are days when you feel down but when you look at the bigger picture,you know and feel that letting go is the best thing to do…you’re not alone in that boat 🙂

Taraxx

April 9, 2014 at 2:26 am

My bf and I we’re suppose to meet out last Monday. He forced me to come although I had my exam the next day. I spared some time for him. He was so sure about meeting that I had to cancel other program’s of mine. The next day I called him left him msges and he didn’t reply. Around 6 in the evening he replied that I’m sorry I couldn’t come I was busy. I was really angry angry because I had gone crazy calling him. And he was freaking busy. He forgot we were supposed to meet? But I forgave home. Then we we had again planned to meet on Thursday. He said I’d call you before I leave. I said ok.i got dressed and then he calls me I can’t come I have an imp work to do. This time I was so fed up of excuses I sent him a long msg I which I wrote when you’re not sure when to meet just don’t start. Asking plans and he’ll with you and your work. I tired of understanding. He replied around 11 that I’m sorry(only once) and he told me the reason. I said ok. He said you just gave me a lot of taunts. Really? Hell with me and my work na? Fine I’ll leave you. He sent me a long msg saying idk why I am sayin this but I am leaving you. You’re not my gf anymore. Fuck off. Although that time I panicked and I stopped him for going but then heblockedme on whatsapp. It has been 6 days he hasn’t unblockedme?what exactly should Ido.i miss him terribly :/ Ik ow beloved me well I guess :/
Elisa

April 8, 2014 at 2:51 pm

Hello Chris,

My ex boyfriend blocked my phone number, then whatsapp also doesn’t work at the same time and he unfriend me on Facebook. He said it’s end between us, don’t contact him again when he did it one month ago, he was annoyed by my texts from time to time. But he still keeps me as a contact on Linkedin, another tool. I think he didn’t block my email as well. So I can still contact him actually. I have completed 30 days NC since that. I sent a short email yesterday, just asked how he is doing, and told him I got myself back since he blocked me which is true, mentioned how things went wrong with between us with a short sentence. then let him don’t feel bad to blocked me and said intense words, I’m ok. I didn’t know why I suddenly sent the email, I just woke up, and felt like must do it yesterday. After 30 days NC, I know I truly miss him, not because I’m alone. Should I go another NC? he hasn’t answer or unblocked me, I am not sure if he unblocked me on his phone or not, just still not able to see his status on Whatsapp. Do you think it’s a good sign that he didn’t block me completely? Is that ok I sent that email?

Elisa

April 9, 2014 at 5:17 am

Please respond, I would really appreciate your advice. Thanks.
Elisa

April 11, 2014 at 6:03 pm

How to make him unblock me?
admin

April 12, 2014 at 4:08 pm

Well, if he hasn’t already and its been a long time that isn’t a good sign. Do you have any other way of reaching out to him?
Elisa

April 13, 2014 at 5:50 pm

Facebook message still working, he just unfriend me on Facebook. I can reach him via email, linkedin message, other message applications. I sent a message to him on Facebook yesterday, he said don’t contact him again, he doesn’t want to see me or/and talk to me. So I asked him why he is so mad at me, let him talk to me when he is not angry anymore, don’t be strangers. He read my messages next day, he doesn’t want me text him, but he read my email and messages. What can I do now?
Elisa

April 19, 2014 at 5:43 pm

I want to contact him every day, but I’m controlling myself hard. There are still many ways to contact him, I don’t want to ruin anything more, make any mistake more. We have one common friend, should I talk to him about us? I met him cause of this friend. our friend doesn’t know anything about us yet, cause he lives in another country. I got a part-time job, but I got to know it’s just next to his place at first day work. And I got a job interview from a company, failed, but the company still offers me another chance, and the office is in the city where he is going to move… I don’t know if it’s coincidence or nothing. Could you tell me what to do? Thank you, looking forward to hear from you soon.
Elisa

April 20, 2014 at 3:10 am

Should I try to contact him after waiting for him longer?
admin

April 20, 2014 at 8:57 pm

I don think it can hurt.
Elisa

April 30, 2014 at 5:43 pm

He seems blocked me on Facebook, I can’t see his Facebook page anymore. There is nothing more I can do anymore, he won’t talk to me anymore, right?
Elisa

June 19, 2014 at 6:37 pm

Hello Chris,

It’s 50 days NC already. nothing change, he didn’t unblock me. Just saw a pic from our common friend, he is traveling in other country now. Sometime I think about him, like today when I saw the pic, felt not good. He seems have forgotten me completely, happy in his trip. I’m smiling as I can everyday, go to gym, take classes to learn something new, work hard, signed another contract with my company, more income as well. I don’t know if I should contact him or not, my friends said he doesn’t deserve me, let me forget him, meet someone new. I’m not meeting anyone new yet, but trying to not think about him now. Do you still think it’s working between us if I contact him now or later?
Elisa

June 1, 2014 at 2:36 pm

but he hasn’t unblocked me… still contact him?
Elisa

May 30, 2014 at 4:44 pm

I completed 30 days NC. What should I do? Keep NC?
admin

May 31, 2014 at 3:50 pm

Time to contact him.
Elisa

May 24, 2014 at 3:26 pm

Chris, It’s 24days NC now. He didn’t unblock me, maybe he has a new girl already.. I don’t know, it’s been almost 4 months now. What should I do, contact him after 6 days or keep on NC?
Elisa

May 15, 2014 at 5:45 pm

Do you still think I should contact him when I finish another 30 days NC? It’s 16 days NC already. Or just leave him alone for a long time.
Elisa

May 14, 2014 at 8:23 pm

He is not active for any social media usually. Use messages, post stuff rarely, just some football, music stuff sometimes, he use fb to message or keep in touch with friends. He use linkedin, just changed a profile pic which he never changed before, he might see I viewed his profile a few days ago, but didn’t delete me.
Elisa

May 13, 2014 at 5:13 pm

But why does he still keep me on Linkedin, he could just block me everywhere, he only blocked me the tools that I tried to contact him.
admin

May 14, 2014 at 3:53 pm

Is he super active on Linkedin?
Elisa

May 13, 2014 at 5:05 pm

What do you mean? What should I do tho?
Elisa

May 12, 2014 at 8:48 pm

It doesn’t work for him. He still hasn’t unblocked me from any, I am not sure if he unblock me from his phone, didn’t try anymore. Probably still block. If he doesn’t unblock me, then he still hasn’t changed his mind at all, am I right? How can I try to talk to him in the worst situation like this.. I really can’t see any hope now. Chris, you met a really tough case, I can’t do anything, can’t try to talk to him anymore, can’t talk to our common friend anything, just wait for miracle if that happens…
admin

May 13, 2014 at 4:42 pm

Not necessarily… he could just be too proud.
Elisa

May 10, 2014 at 3:56 am

How and what is more compelling text? His reaction is too strong, cold, and hurt me. I don’t really know what to do at all.
admin

May 12, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Have you read any of the guides where I dive in to that?
Elisa

May 9, 2014 at 5:55 am

Why do you still think I can contact him again? It’s 10 days NC now after I tried the second time. He blocked me on FB this time. I have told him I will not try anymore, leave him alone by email, if I contact him, won’t him think I am crazy etc.. Chris, miss him, but I’m afraid of contacting him now.
admin

May 9, 2014 at 3:44 pm

Because you probably just need a more compelling text.
Elisa

May 7, 2014 at 5:10 pm

No, I didn’t memorize his number, but I remember it. I can’t forget it, forget him or hate him at all, still worrying about him, thinking about him. I don’t contact him now, unless he does. I can’t see any hope that he will contact me again… but expect there is still hope. Do you think it will happen?
admin

May 8, 2014 at 4:21 pm

Isn’t that the same thing as memorizing it hahaha?

I think you can contact him as long as 30 days of NC have completed.
Elisa

May 6, 2014 at 7:00 pm

His phone number is on my head, saved it back to my phone, put the pic back into my wallet again. Because I miss him so much. But I don’t contact him at all now. Do you still think he will talk to me someday? Need your advice badly, Chris.
admin

May 7, 2014 at 3:25 pm

You memorized his number? Is that what you mean?
Elisa

April 30, 2014 at 6:55 pm

Chris, I think if I try to contact him with other tools, he will do the same, he still keeps me on linkedin. I just sent him an email, told him I have been trying to open his mind, apologized for everything whatever it is wrong or right, only because I like him truly. I pushed him away even if I didn’t mean to do it, I also told him I will leave him alone, not trying anymore, hope everything goes well with him, said goodbye to him. Then I deleted his phone number from my phone, didn’t block him like he did to me. I took out our picture from my wallet, put everything about him into a box, closed it. I don’t know, but it’s the only way for now. And I received an email from the company today, I failed on the test again. But they asked me to discuss about another position if I am interested. I will accept the position if they hire me after an interview, change my job, the office is in the city he will move in September, but I will still move to there if the company hires me. If it meant to be in this way, just leave it, let him go, let things go naturally, You said, all those women who get back with their exes after they block them do nothing to get them back, maybe it’s the only way not push him away forever. I don’t know what is going to happen to me, but I will do all I can do to live a better life.
Elisa

April 21, 2014 at 12:26 am

Actually I purchased your e-book about 2 months ago. I just couldn’t do NC completely. I did LC from time to time, use some texts that you mentioned, he thought I’m not moving on, he felt annoyed, told me he was going to block me, then he really did. Actually we looked at each other’s eyes for minutes, no words, and I saw his eyes wet when he was telling me break up, move on, meet people, meet someone else etc. I feel I will regret if I don’t fight for him, he is very cold, push me away, cut me out of his life now, but I can’t walk away this time. Chris, I really want to face it maturely, do whatever I can do in a right way. How long should I go NC this time? I did 30 days NC, and then tried to talk to him, didn’t work, he thought I was doing the same over and over again, asked don’t I realize that I’m getting the opposite of what I am trying to get. I stopped, didn’t try to talk to him after a week, now it’s another 10 days of NC. I have asked our common friend to make time for me, I think he can help me in some ways, cause they are fiends for years already. But I am also afraid that he will be angry at I tell the friend about us. Should I tell our friend? Thanks. I appreciate your replies.
Elisa

April 30, 2014 at 6:04 am

I sent a message on Facebook after 19days NC. He hasn’t read it, maybe he set my message to his junk box (other inbox)… I didn’t mentioned anything about me on message, because it didn’t work before. So just congrats his football team won again, and mentioned my students were very exciting and happy for it, they are fans of the team, said have a great holidays as well, it’s holidays here. He is very passionate about the football team and football. And I’m not able to access a project that we did before from yesterday, I don’t know if it’s system error or he canceled the invitation. Now I really don’t know what else I can do for him and myself. I’m sick the whole night till now, have a strong headache. Chris, do you still think he will talk to me, there will be a chance for me? What else I can do now?
Elisa

April 28, 2014 at 4:48 pm

How and what should I say to him? And when is a good time to contact him again? I tried after he blocked me when I finished 30 days NC, but failed, pushed him more far… I thought about unblock me on his phone or not the whole weekend, cause I ended the call after once ring at once, I was afraid of him mad at me call him.. I was used to not call him, didn’t want to bother him work before, just a few texts. I wanted to call one more time to make sure unblock or not, but not brave enough. I just remembered when I called him after blocking me, the phone didn’t go through at all, dropped off immediately… but whatsapp still being blocked for sure. Please advise me how to approach him again, thanks in advance.
Elisa

April 26, 2014 at 9:26 pm

I don’t know when he unblocked me on his phone, but what made him unblock me? Is it good sign? but whatsapp still seems blocked, why? I am confusing…
Elisa

April 26, 2014 at 3:32 pm

Chris, I didn’t know why I just wanted to call him today, I don’t really call him before. I had a dream last night, I was writing an email to him…two days ago, we were texting each other, I was on my way to go to meet him in my dream… anyway…I tried to call and cancel for 8 times, then the 9th time I didn’t cancel…my call went through…I was really nervous and surprised, ended the call immediately. He unblocked my number on his phone obviously. But I am still not able to see his status on whatsapp. Now I’m worrying if he found I called, he will block me again… What can I do?
Elisa

April 25, 2014 at 10:49 pm

Chris, then what is the next step for me? Wait for him talking to me? It’s 14days NC today since I tried to talk to him after I finish my first 30 days NC.
admin

April 28, 2014 at 4:08 pm

No, you need to strategize and come up with a great first contact text message.
Elisa

April 24, 2014 at 4:14 pm

Could you tell me why you think he will talk to me again?
admin

April 25, 2014 at 10:11 pm

I think the chances are high because in almost every case the two exes end up talking at some point.
Elisa

April 23, 2014 at 6:28 am

Then should I just wait till he starts to talk to me or give it a try after my second 30 days or longer NC? He is too cold now, even rude somehow. He said he can’t say it in a clear way, please don’t contact me again, I had to say I’m not trying to get anything now, then he said ok, don’t text him again… It was hurt, his words on my head every day. I’m afraid of loosing him forever now, hopeless, but try to think in a positive way.
Elisa

April 21, 2014 at 5:02 pm

I followed my mind, then I screwed up, like he said I’m getting the opposite of what I am trying to get. Chris, please advice me what to do, I can follow your advices, if I have to wait for months, I can wait as well. I don’t know what to do to get him talk to me again now honestly. Actually I tried to meet other guys, end it with him, but I was thinking about him the whole time when I was with other guys. I couldn’t open to anyone. Thanks in advance.
Elisa

April 21, 2014 at 4:42 pm

Do you think there is still a chance to get him talk to me again? Can I try to say Hi to him after another 30 days or longer NC? I am not sure what he is going to tell, I’m afraid of him telling me the same, maybe worst.
admin

April 22, 2014 at 4:24 pm

I think absolutely he will talk to you again.
Elisa

April 21, 2014 at 4:37 pm

The friend knows I have a problem with a guy, he asked who is the guy, I didn’t tell him before. If it’s not good to tell him about us, then I don’t want to make this step to screw up more. Then what should I do now?
admin

April 21, 2014 at 4:17 pm

I wouldnt tell the friend but you know your situation better than I do. Final decision is ultimately yours.

Taraxx

April 8, 2014 at 10:52 am

I hpanc my bf had planned out to go some where. He used to plan out Ben though I was busy but I still spared time for him and he didn’t show up once. This didn’t happen once but this has happened. Lot of times. I was tired of understanding how busy he was and I wrote him a long msg. Although he did say sorry but he told me the reason why he couldn’t make it. I replied rudely and then he said well enough of your anger I’m blocking you and breaking up with you, you give a damn right? So same case with me. Fuck off! He did this last Thursday and it’s Tuesday today. Missin him like hel. Although I did stop him once when he was blocking me but then I ldidnt contact him? I know he loves me I guess I do. Why isn’t he unblocking me?? :/

admin

April 8, 2014 at 6:20 pm

you hpanc??

sorry, what??
Taraxx

April 8, 2014 at 10:56 am

I thought he would make me up because that is what I always do when he is angry. Plus I wasn’t feeling well he could’ve asked me why are you so angry? Are you stressed? Are you feeling well? But he didn’t. He just wrote this long msg saying idk why im saying this but I’m breaking up with you, you’re no longer my girl friend. I cried my heads off and I can’t believe he’s enjoying his life without talking to me for 5 freaking days.i

Cat

April 8, 2014 at 3:07 am

his birthday is going to be on May…after all, would it still be advisable to
greet him…casually only to only let him know i don’t have grudges anymore and i’m okay…should i still greet him?

admin

April 8, 2014 at 6:10 pm

Hey, my birthday is in May!!
Cat

April 9, 2014 at 1:39 am

hahaha but should I greet him?
admin

April 10, 2014 at 1:21 am

Nope not on his bday sorry.
Cat

April 12, 2014 at 3:25 pm

but why do you think so? justify 😉

Cynthia

April 8, 2014 at 12:09 am

He blocked me everywhere after one month of NC, out of the blue. It hurts. Do you think he just wants to forget me? Is it hopeless?

admin

April 8, 2014 at 5:47 pm

No, it means he is still thinking about you haha.

Liz

April 7, 2014 at 11:59 pm

Chris – I love your site and you have the best and most sound advice out there. I just completed one week of NC and I feel myself becoming calmer and thinking clearer. I ended things with a guy I considered to be the one. The situation was difficult because of distance and he started to view the relationship as impossible. Emotionally he seemed unstable and unable to handle his feelings in a LDR. I started to miss him and tried to re-connect about a week later. It worked and then things got bad fast. I said goodbye and blocked him on FB. I wasn’t trying to hurt him but I would find myself crawling his page at odd hours to see what he was up too. Then I would get upset at little things on his page. It wasn’t healthy. I made the decision to block him, start NC, and mainly healing and fixing myself. I have a lot of things that I need to work on before I can contemplate a future with this person. He hasn’t contacted me either and I rather he didn’t until I’m ready.

Anyways – how would he perceive being blocked by me? Is this going to hurt our chances of re-connecting after NC? I’m sure he is hurt by some of the things I said and he is the type of guy that would be very hurt by me blocking him. Please advice.

admin

April 8, 2014 at 5:46 pm

Thanks for the kind words.

I don’t think you should block him I just think you should ignore him…. there is a subtle difference. Also, if you sense he is getting crazy without you, you can always lower your NC period.

Amy

April 7, 2014 at 9:50 pm

I’m still blocked from everything, but email. We were sending messages and we decided to meet up to visit his mom in the hospital and talk. I then get a message saying he’s sick and it might have to wait till tomorrow. Do you think this means anything?
Dominique

April 7, 2014 at 5:25 pm

Hello Chris,
I am blocked in 100%. I moved to his city and never been introduced to any of his friends. I know his mother but she relies on him completely so if he said not to contact me, she would do that. I haven’t been linked with him via social networks too.

He formally broke up with my last summer and cut me off from skype, google chat and his life once I moved out from his place in January.
I haven’t heard anything from him after 30-days NC, so I was careful when sending any text or email to him (it was sporadically done and negative result).
My brief email to him saying that I missed him caused that he eventually replied that “he has a new life and new direction, he cant in any way know or contact me because it just distracts him in his goals and dreams. He’s trying to do what is good in God’s view so really he wants to leave all in past and to respect his and Gods decision and not contact”.
He was not religious at all. Should I ultimately give up?
I am not sure if he is trustworthy any more. He called me his best friend when I was available around to support him and I was eliminated when I took my life in my hands.

admin

April 8, 2014 at 5:27 pm

Wait, you moved for him? And he wouldn’t introduce you to any of his friends?
Dominique

April 10, 2014 at 4:59 pm

I moved for him and for better job too as my company transferred me there.
When I moved, he promised to introduce me to his friends and it never happened. I just met his mother but he told me he had been forced by me to do it.
admin

April 11, 2014 at 4:06 am

When you moved did you live together?
Dominique

April 19, 2014 at 9:39 pm

We never lived together. At some time point he helped me and I was renting space in his second house (also after break-up initiated by him) so he could come and see me.

Cat

April 7, 2014 at 12:42 pm

you know what… i tried everything i can strictly following your ebook…and i think, it’s enough. i don’t deserve this kind of treatment anymore and i guess i’m just making a fool out of my self…within the process of this bargaining i realized that i deserved more…my worth is more than i can ever imagine…i just can’t understand why he has to post public pics with a girl publicly because we are not friends in fb anymore…on the other hand i did a lot of activities and focused on improving myself…but he still keeps on posting pics with the girl so i could see? well it doesnt affect me that much anymore and i’m done with degrading myself…i am more than this…i deserve the same love im giving…anyway, can you just interpret his actions why he keeps his photos with girl public but other photos of his fb private like his bike stuffs and all. is he trying to show me something here? please reply thanks

admin

April 7, 2014 at 5:19 pm

I am here.

I am sorry its been so tough. I love your attitude about this about not taking crap anymore. I agree that you deserve the same love you are getting. Often times you will find that an ex realizes when its too late how good he had it with you.

Annie

April 6, 2014 at 3:59 pm

Hi Chris,

Would like to ask for your opinion, my relationship currently going bad since my boyfriend lost his job and I think he’s depressed now. He doesn’t open up to me like before and keep distance. When I asked, he said there’s nothing wrong. That made me feel helpless and clueless of what to do. I’m afraid this eventually will affect my relationship badly.

What should I do?
1/ Will it be annoyed if I keep caring for him too much? or

2/ How should I leave him alone for a while without making him think that I don’t love him anymore?

Maybe you can come up with new guide about “what to do with a depressed ex boyfriend (or boyfriend in general) 😛

Thanks
honey

April 5, 2014 at 5:29 pm

Our mutual friend says he still misses me (after 3 month) and told me that he once said that I am the only true person that he knows for sure loved him so much and that he loves me too! They said he doesnt read my emails nor answering the phone cuz of hit would just hurt too bad! I did a lot of irritating in past after 1 month of nc…I sent him so many msgs, emails, acted jelous and desperate too. No reaction to nothing!!!
What do you recommend here??? Another nc time?? Nothing works!!!!!!!!

admin

April 6, 2014 at 5:14 pm

Are you still blocked? Like fully blocked?
honey

April 6, 2014 at 6:21 pm

No…just on chats…text msg, email and phone is unblocked. ..but they say he won’t read my emails!
admin

April 7, 2014 at 5:01 pm

Give him some time. He will mellow out. Give him time.
honey

April 7, 2014 at 10:13 pm

You mean I should wait until I see that something happens on the other side? Like unblocking or anything? So now I should just wait no matter how long it takes?
honey

April 6, 2014 at 6:22 pm

And he wont anser the phone too!!

rach

April 5, 2014 at 2:01 pm

Hey Chris! I decided to come check out all of your hard work since I haven’t been on here in a few months. Why haven’t I been on here? Cuz I’m happily back together with my ex of course!!!! We’ve been back together since January 10 and we’re doing great. You were a lot of help keeping me level headed and helping me think things through during everything. I really appreciate what you do.

admin

April 6, 2014 at 5:06 pm

Wow, this is fantastic! Congrats on getting back with your ex.

em

April 3, 2014 at 11:19 pm

Hey Chris, this is an amazing guide! i love it!
so heres my situation…
You have probably seen my story a lot sorry to be a bother, anyway I don’t know how long this will be but i will explain as best I can.. Both my ex and I are in high school. We dated for about three years and we broke up october 2, its been sixth months and I’m lost and don’t know where to go from here. I’m afraid to contact him because all he did was ignore me. It kills me every day just to see him walk by day by day acting as if we never met. Do you think there could be feelings there? Before the official break up, we broke up in July for a week but he came straight back. we have broken up in the past also and he has always come back. Recently I was talking to my friend of this situation and she said I should tell him i have still feelings for him. I don’t think its the best Idea but she said most people regret most is not telling the person, also, she said its never really to late to get your ex which was a little uplifting to hear that maybe not all my chances were gone, you know? Back on the topic, we have been in no contact for about 5 months, emotionally i am over the break up, but mentally not so sure, the feelings I have towards him is not an “Lonely I miss you” its a real I miss you where we were happy 80%-85% of the relationship maybe even 90%.

Do you think you could make a guide on “subtle signs your ex is still in love with you” because Im really not sure anymore. I don’t wanna see him go off with another girl and say i never even existed. On my birthday one of my Friend were talking and they asked him and he said “who is she, I don’t know her” Maybe he is trying to forget me to get rid of the feelings? I don’t know anymore Chris, What is the percentage after six months an ex still thinks of you when they dated for an extensive period of time? Ok so here is a question related to the guide: If you stated that it hurts to for them to much to talk to you then what would it mean if they follow you back but don’t talk to you? Well here is another (sorry:/) Is it still possible to get an ex back if they are being stubborn and if it seems hopeless after 6 months?

Please respond,
Thanks Chris all your guides are so helpful and uplifting!

admin

April 4, 2014 at 5:14 pm

Well, the next guide I am working on is on male psychology.

Umm… but signs he is still in love with you is very interesting. I think I may do it.

If they follow you back it means they want to keep an eye on you.

Amy

April 3, 2014 at 6:27 pm

I don’t see my comment. Do I have to wait to be approved or was it deleted?

admin

April 4, 2014 at 5:07 pm

I have to approve all comments. As you can imagine I get a lot of spammers. So, I try to figure out the legit comments from the bad ones.

Amy

April 2, 2014 at 11:51 pm

Chris,

Can all this work with an ex that has commitment issues and says that’s why he left? He has left multiple times and this past time he changed his phone number and blocked me on Facebook. The only way we can contact now is through email unless I show up somewhere he is at. He has responded through email and actually the last 2 messages were from him and I haven’t responded back yet.

admin

April 4, 2014 at 4:45 pm

Explain the commitment issues to me a little better.
Amy

April 4, 2014 at 5:47 pm

Chris,

I actually sent you a more in depth email on Facebook. I really hope you read it and get back to me. My boyfriend and I have been together for almost a year and living together 6 months. He has left a few times, but always came back after a day or two. (I guess this is where the commitment issue comes in. He said he was afraid of commitment, but it could be an excuse, because we were living together and had looked at engagement rings.) But this last time was different and horrible. To make things worse I lost my boyfriend and my job the same week and than the very next week I received some scary health news.. I gave more information in my email. I’m just lost and hurting. The person I thought would be by my side through everything bailed right before I needed him most.

Jackie

April 2, 2014 at 1:18 pm

My ex and I broke up about 5 weeks ago. I just finished my 30 days of no contact. A couple days ago he decides to unfriend me, over a month after we broke up. He hasn’t tried to reach out to me at all except a couple weeks ago when he texted my friend asking how I was. I know that he hasn’t been on facebook for 5 weeks until just recently, and that was when he unfriended me. He did not completely block me because I can still go to his page, message him, and see a lot of his wall. Another thing that was weird was I woke up with a notification on my phone that said that he sent me a friend request but when I got on my facebook it was gone. So i think he unfriended me, then sent me a friend request, and then decided to delete that request, but I still got the notification on my phone that he sent it. Also his birthday is in a week. When I talked to him last which was 30 days ago he said we shouldn’t talk again at least until the summer. So i guess my question is should I continue no contact? I was planning on doing it for another month or so. We had been dating for over 3 years prior so this was not a new relationship.
Mandy

April 2, 2014 at 8:41 am

I can’t say how much this website has helped me and Chris being very patient to the ladies.

I had a bad breakup last summer so I found this place and read a lot. I’ve tried to follow the instructions, though things didn’t work out. Then I’ve met someone new, he’s wonderful but too bad we didn’t work out either. Deep inside of course I want him back so badly, we still live together and we’ve been in on and off relationship, he just doesn’t love me and clearly told me that I’m not the one. Knowing keep holding on to him is stupid, and I’m not planning to get him back, because I understand when it’s done it’s done, I’m now reading this just for clean up and mind and try to be rational.

The story was, after last summer my ex broke up with me, I quickly moved on and fall in love with this guy, he could be my rebound but now he becomes the love of my life from time to time, I guess it’s because I never actually lived with somebody and this is technically the first real relationship I had. But I’ve done something very stupid. We had a fight last week, that’s when he said something hurtful it really broke my heart. Over the weekend we seem to be good again, I’ve keep checking if anything he said during the fight was all come from his mind and he actually meant it, the result was positive, and I’ve tried to talk to him about it but he wouldn’t. So out of rage and the gamble mind, I bought myself a ticket to someone far away, and I didn’t tell him that, it was all fine and yesterday morning he went to work he was so happy. But the moment he left to work I packed all my stuff and went to the airport. When waiting for the connecting flight I started to think about him, thinking about how sad he will be once he returned home, all I could think of was to go back and be with him, I didn’t even care about all those issues between us anymore, I was so in love and confident that we will work this through. I guess this is very not cool of me, and when I returned I told him the whole story and why I wanted to leave. Obviously he doesn’t understand me and all he sees me is being crazy, immature and irresponsible. It didn’t end up well, he’s really mad, even unfriended me on Facebook, says my actions already made it clear and no matter how many words I put in, we’re done.

I understand what I did was very horrible, but what upsets me more is that he doesn’t understand me at all. I’ve tried to understand him and apologized very hard, but still, he wouldn’t take it. I gotta admit I still hope there will be a chance for is but I’m really done try to make it happen. So if it’s not meant to be then it won’t be, I’m sure there will be someone out there can actually appreciate me and understands me, wouldn’t put me onto a situations that I’m sad enough to want to leave.

Anything thank you for reading this, I just really need a place to speak it out loud since no one around me seems to understand.

Wish you have a good day

admin

April 2, 2014 at 5:48 pm

I don’t understand you either… if a girlfriend did that to me I would have doubts about how serious she was about the relationship. It would really frustrate me.
Mandy

April 15, 2014 at 6:44 pm

I guess the way guys and girls really think different.

So we lived together for over half year, not trying to brag myself and make him look bad, but I do his laundry, cook for him, clean his room, he likes to being head scratched so I do it every night. Listen to his problems and always be supportive. I’ve tried very hard to make him happy and be good to him. His in an on call job, and the call comes in anytime during the day, it often happens in midnight so when he has to go on the job I’d wake up with him, make him coffee and sandwich and send him to work. Looks like I’m his maid and mom. I never started a fight with him, instead he often takes out his anger on me when he’s frustrated by job/social relationship/family etc,all I do just try to understand him and sort things out. I respect him in any way, I play video games with him sometimes, and when he plays I wouldn’t even nag a word out of it.

I’ve been trying so hard to be the perfect girlfriend, knowing being nice and all couldn’t trade love, but I still hope one day he will fall in love with me.

So then one day he made me realize that no matter how hard I try, it is not gonna happen. He told me that I’m not the one, he doesn’t appreciate everything I did to him even though I never asked anything back but his love. He will never fall in love with me, I’m not in his picture of future. He made all that clear, still wouldn’t break up with me because he enjoys it, til he has found someone else we will break up then. So I lost all my hope, thought I should move on. But what really hit me was at that airport thinking about if he would be sad, that’s all I care about, to make him happy, so I went back. Sadly all he sees was that I left, and never see the reasons behind it. I’ve been put out with all these for so long, I just feel like it’s too much I couldn’t handle anymore. If he has even show me a little attention or something close to love, I wouldn’t have done that.

And I tried to explain, still he doesn’t understand.

🙁
admin

April 16, 2014 at 4:12 pm

VAstly different.

and yes, that looks bad on him. He seems kind of ungrateful…

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