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2,484 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

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    Sophia

    March 31, 2014 at 11:21 pm

    article sent from heaven!! once again.

    He blocked me on whatsapp about 2 months ago and haven’t talked to me except a few emails since then, I’ve lost all hope but he still follows me on twitter, that’s a good sign right?

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      admin

      April 1, 2014 at 4:41 pm

      Sent from heaven huh?

      It is a good sign yes but don’t get too hung up on it.

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    Nic

    March 31, 2014 at 4:28 am

    So… what do you do when your ex, who has been contacting you, caught up a few times and wanting to catch up on a regular basis, NOW wants to “block” you, suddenly tells you that his current gf found something out about his past and is uncomfortable with your friendship, that she has said she’d be ok with it if we were to become acquainted, however for he and i to remain in contact, that would have to happen before or on, the next time we caught up. I had already gotten a text message from her, which blew me away, saying she’d found some stuff out that worried her about him and she was open to conversation/information, however i didn’t replay straight away as i was thrown for a loop to be honest and was trying to figure out how i felt about it. This text was a few days ago, i text my ex tonight to ask about a gift his mother had given his sister to pass on, and if he could get it and i could get it from him (i don’t really see his sister that much) and the response i first detailed in this message is what i got. Wtf? Seriously, the contact between he and i is sporadic at best, and mostly via text, there is nothing to it so i don’t understand why this all of a sudden. The only thing i can think of, is that she thinks i am a threat and i’ve no idea where that come from…

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    melissa

    March 30, 2014 at 5:15 pm

    Hi,
    I read your article and it is amazing, i hope that my ex unblocks me. We were not getting on much and when I went to his house on Friday night we had a massive argument and he told me he didn’t want to be with me. I know he didn’t mean it because he has said this in the past and when i asked him about it he said it is because he dosen’t like it when i am annoyed or upset with him. He wants to be with me when i am happy, but however I obviously wasn’t when we fell out, and we argued and then i was asked to leave his house.
    The next day i could not resist to text him, and I did that and he never replied. Then I found out he has blocked my texts. It had been 2 days with no contact from his side, but i have never considered no contact from my side. I am really really worried in case he dosen’t get back in contact, im 19 years old and we have been together since I was 15 and its really hard to have no contact.

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    Katie Lyon

    March 30, 2014 at 12:48 am

    my ex has contacted me now but over text messages and he called me and asked me in a text message if i wanted to have sex with him and I said yes to him. He told me to tell my parents that and I don’t want to tell them at all so if I do have it I will not tell them at all.

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    Adelle

    March 29, 2014 at 5:48 pm

    Chris, I’m stuck.

    I was the annoying girl who picked fights and made accusations all the time. That lasted about 6 months. We didn’t exactly break up but more sort of shifted to being ‘just friends’. That pissed me off because I didn’t understand what had happened and I kept on picking fights, etc. That lasted another 6 months before I pushed him too far and he stopped talking to me. After about another 6 months of occasional communication, I saw him briefly which seemed to go okay but afterwards he completely cut me off and blocked me (apps, that’s all as far as I know)

    I found out later that he finally cut me off because someone had said something awful to him behind my back. I realized I needed to do some serious work on myself and figure out why things kept going so wrong between us. I realized how badly I’d behaved and that I had taken out personal issues on him. I stopped trying and took a few months to deal with my problems and figure out my feelings towards him.

    Eventually, I worked up the courage to call and leave him a message apologizing for what had happened when I last saw him and told him that I’d realized my mistakes, I was sorry and I was working through them. A couple of weeks later he texted me to say he got my message and was happy about it. I tried texting him a few times but no response. About a month later, he called me out of the blue and we talked for awhile. We talked again a few days later and during that conversation he hinted around about what I’d been doing to deal with things. I thought I should keep things upbeat and ignored what he was hinting at.

    That was a couple of months ago and we haven’t spoken since. I’ve tried but he won’t answer the phone or call me back. I think when we last spoke he was looking for a reason to support that things really would be different this time and when I didn’t give him one, he retreated. I ended up sending him an email and tried my best to give him that reason but I don’t know if it was too late to have any impact.

    I’m scared of pushing too hard and seeming desperate but I really want the chance to show him that I’ve changed my ways and things can be different but don’t know what to do to do that. He has a Facebook account but never uses it. We don’t have friends in common. He’s terrible at responding to emails.
    I can’t call/text him because he doesn’t have his cell right now and I don’t have the number for his loaner phone.

    Is there hope that I can fix this? Any ideas on what I should do?

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    honey

    March 29, 2014 at 4:50 pm

    I have a question!
    What would go on your mind if your ex gf sends you some semi erotic pictures of herself…showing him thats shes working out and beeing very loving and caring to you. Without any begging…just good mooded and loving. Hmmm because this is what I just did. I know I was desperate and sent him so many emails, texts and never got any response after 1 month of NC. So my questions are
    1. What do you think goes in his mind about tge pictures (which were great btw haha)
    Does it look very desperate in his eyes?
    He always loved to get such pictures of me and couldn’t get enough of them so I think he misses it anyway
    2. What to do now?? Another month of NC
    I am blocked on several chats

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:22 pm

      I would think she is trying really hard to seduce me.

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    Interesting

    March 29, 2014 at 2:07 pm

    I have a question for you Chris. The graph you showed us on the mind of an ex that bkocks us, I was wondering, I know there is no actual specific timeframe, but based on what you’ve seen on this site and other women’s experiences, how long does it take an ex to go through this procress? Just based on what you’ve seen. My ex didn’t block me but he refuses to communicate w/ me and I know hes very angry at me so in a way it is like he has blocked me. So im interested in this graph you gave us.

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:53 pm

      Depends on the guy. Some guys it will happen in a week others a month.

      Thats really the best I can give you. I know its not the perfect answer but its the best I can do.

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    Nic

    March 29, 2014 at 12:26 pm

    So… what do you do when your ex, who has been contacting you, caught up a few times and wanting to catch up on a regular basis, suddenly tells you that his current gf found something out about his past and is uncomfortable with your friendship, that she has said she’d be ok with it if we were to become acquainted, however for he and i to remain in contact, that would have to happen before or on, the next time we caught up. I had already gotten a text message from her, which blew me away, saying she’d found some stuff out that worried her about him and she was open to conversation/information, however i didn’t replay straight away as i was thrown for a loop to be honest and was trying to figure out how i felt about it. This text was a few days ago, i text my ex tonight to ask about a gift his mother had given his sister to pass on, and if he could get it and i could get it from him (i don’t really see his sister that much) and the response i first detailed in this message is what i got. Wtf? Seriously, the contact between he and i is sporadic at best, and mostly via text, there is nothing to it so i don’t understand why this all of a sudden. The only thing i can think of, is that she thinks i am a threat and i’ve no idea where that come from…

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    Julia

    March 29, 2014 at 10:22 am

    Wow saw this email in the morning after a somewhat fight with a guy and a sleepless night. That’s kinda a call back to come and read your guides, they keep me motivated. So the thing is he confessed he’s been cheating, I felt that he was lying, I couldn’t believe a word he says. He confessed he’s been cheating with more than one, he just said it like “I go to clubs now and there are several chicks ready to serve me, girls like me, I met this girl and that girl bla bla bla” he was so nice before, but his attitude now is jerk one. When he said it he put lots of smileys like “;) 😉 ;)” so idk whether its true or not but rly hurt to hear after all we had. Or does he try to hurt me? (again, he was nice before but clearly it seems to be he lost interest in me, when I say I miss him, he’s like “mm ok”)
    So I decided to put him in NC. Wanted to do that earlier when he’s blocked me but being blocked is hard so couldn’t last..ended up aplogising for nothing (yeeeedammmmitttt!!!! HE must be the one to apologize)

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:50 pm

      Good for you! Put him in NC!

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    Yu

    March 29, 2014 at 8:19 am

    Hi Chris,
    My ex and I broke up for 1 month. When he broke up with me, i accepted. But one week later, i begged him, called him, texted him, and he had blocked my on phone and FB :(. Since he did that, i used NCR and didnt bother him anymore.
    Worse is that we are classmate. We see each other everyday. Since the break up, he rarely attends school. I also do not intend to approach him.
    Yesterday, after knew we registered the same class so he changed the school day to avoid me. I think he thought that i’m stalking him @@
    Since he blocked me, i havent seen him, tried contact or anything. Why does he act like that to me?

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:49 pm

      Wait, he is skipping school to avoid you?

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      Yu

      April 2, 2014 at 7:12 am

      Yes, i thought so. After i begged him, he disappeared one week. When i called him, texted him, we argued and he said he doesnt want me, need me or have feeling for me. then he blocked my phone & fb.
      He disappeared one week, just went to school one day a week and i had to act that i dont care anymore.
      Maybe he believe that im OK with it so this week he goes back to school. It’s so hard for me to act like i dont care 🙁

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    sandy

    March 28, 2014 at 10:44 pm

    Do all guys check their ex gfs fb profiles from time to time? Even if they unfriended you?

    I think my ex is the stubborn type.. he blocked me.. i wonder if he will ever look at my profile, kind of doubt it right now 🙁

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:38 pm

      Absolutely!!!!

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    Summer

    March 28, 2014 at 4:38 pm

    I did no contact for 30 days after an embarrassing breakup.. I was way too clingy at the end. But I kept in NC religiously until the time was up. then I texted him and he seemed neutral. he would reply a bit positively then stop. Then I posted a status on facebook expressing how worn out I was, it was about work but it was ambiguous and could be interpreted about life in general or him (STUPID MOVE!!) and he blocked me on FB! I got upset but entered into NC again. Then I noticed he’s blocked me on all chat apps that we both sign into every day (but probably not on phone, although I don’t know how to check.)

    what should I do? this sucks.

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:29 pm

      Well, as long as you have your phone unblocked that is a really good sign.

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    sarah

    March 28, 2014 at 4:01 pm

    The day after we broke up he deleted me off facebook, snapchat and instagram. Not on his phone as I was able to msg him about it. He said he doesbt hate me he just thinks we dont need to be fb friends..so I either annoy him/he doesn’t want reminders of me. He is meant to contact me to give my stuff back, and my birthday has past but he still hasnt contacted me. Its been 3 weeks. He still however talks to my cousin every couple days because he’s kinda depressed and most of his friends he had met from me. Im also fb friends with his mum. I really just want to be friends with him as I agree with our break up- we had an amazing relationship but after 10months realised we have no future as we have different values…. but im wondering what you think is going through his mind?

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:29 pm

      How long has it been since he blocked you?

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    Melissa

    March 28, 2014 at 1:23 pm

    Hi Chris, I just want to stay “THANK YOU” for helping women all over the world dealing with breakup, you have no idea how much knowledge i have gained by reading your articles…Thank You!

    I want to share my story..
    After a nasty fight, my ex and i broke up..I was the one who blocked and i guess because at that time I wanted to make him feel the pain that I was feeling. I should mentioned that we are in a LDR as well..Anyways after logic finally kicked in, I realized that I was still in love with him and it was a silly fight that lead to the breakup..After a few days, I reached out to him, Of course at that point, he was still angry and didn’t want to talk to me and said it was over. Like everyone on the planet, being rejected makes you reached out more and I pretty much begged for another chance and his response was clearly “No”. But then something amazing happened,I found your site and read all your articles and I must say I was totally amaze at the things you mentioned. So I started the NC rule, not because I was desperate of wanting him back… I did it for me… to really focus on myself as a person and try to improve me and be the best version of myself, basically be a woman that a man would want and not a woman that want a man….

    During the NC period I had an emergency and I had to contact my ex,we had brief conversation and he mentioned that the relationship was over but we can still talk. So i continue my NC and totally ignore his texts from then on…I am now in the last week of NC and he has been texting me every day for the past 4 days, I of course being true to NC just ignore those texts.. Life can be ironic at times, now I can’t help but smile because at one point that was me…the one reaching out. I am currently, working on my “First Text message” that i would sent at the end of NC.

    I also know that him reaching out to me doesn’t not necessarily mean that me wants to be with me again.. So Chris, do you think I have a good chance of getting him back? I should also say that he is suppose to come to my country next month for a wedding, which we were planning to attend before the breakup.

    Thank You Chris, you really empowered me in more ways that I can imagine…

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 5:02 pm

      I think the stars are slowly aligning… cant say you will get him back but you definitely have a shot.

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      Melissa

      April 2, 2014 at 7:25 pm

      Hi Chris, just an update..after NC and successfully accomplish the perfect first text…I spoke to my ex and he told me that he’s not willing to put anymore effort towards a relationship with me, because he doesn’t have the patience for one anymore and would not give me another chance… Yet after all that he texts me everyday asking how i am doing and when i ask him about it he says that I’m a good person..
      Can you please shed some light on what you think is going on with him and do you think I better cut my losses now and move on….honestly, I am prepared to let him go but if there a chance to fight for it I am also willing to do it…

      Thanks Mel

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    Clary

    March 28, 2014 at 11:17 am

    Hey chris,

    It’s been two months since my boyfriend of 4 years left me. Before i learnt about the no contact rule i did all the begging, texting and calling etc for about a month which causes my ex boyfriend to block me on all social media including whatsapp. Today marks the 17th day of NC and i’m feeling so much better. He told me that he has no more feelings for me and had told me to move on. He broke up with me because i was too clingy, jealous and needy all the time. After our break up i bumped into him twice in the church however he rolled his eyes and walked away once he saw me.

    We were happy most of the time and the only problem that caused the break up was because im not giving him the space he always wanted. His friends had told me that he is so much happier now.

    I have been hanging out with my friends recently and following all your guide lines on improving myself. I’m pretty sure i will not be making all these mistakes again if my ex boyfriend ever wants to get back with me.

    I believe he’s an angry and stubborn guy. Im afraid i will not get any respond from him after 30 days of NC. Do you suggest that i should do a longer NC instead?

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 5:00 pm

      What happened to cause the breakup?

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      Clary

      March 28, 2014 at 5:41 pm

      He said he was tired and bored of being in a relationship. He also mentioned that he wasnt happy being with me anymore. He needed the space to hang out with his friends and do whatever he likes (talking to girls etc). Ever since the break up he has been giving me the silent treatment thus i was wondering if i should do a longer NC before initiating contact again. What do you suggest chris? From what i understand he doesnt want to have anything to do with me anymore.

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    Juli

    March 28, 2014 at 5:05 am

    We broke up in good terms and had all to eventually get back together until we had a major disagreement and he blocked me from Fb, Whatsapp and Instagram. That was 7 months later. Every 30 days I would try to contact him by email and he would reply saying he wasn’t ready to reconnect. 6 months later I moved to my home country and before that I sent him a goodbye letter which seemed to have a good repercussion – he invited me for a coffee and all went well. He said he wasn’t mad at me anymore and even asked me to write him once I was in my country. We cuddled and kissed and I thought we’d at least be friends after that. Two months later, I am still blocked on Insta and Face and he hasn’t replied to my emails. Even today on my bday that I wrote him saying how much it would mean a message from him, no word back. What should I do? Although I still love him, I don’t want to get back together, I just really want to be in good terms! What’s going on and what should I do?

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      Juli

      March 28, 2014 at 5:10 am

      And on Instagram (which is on public mode) I have only been posting great things like you said… pics of me losing weight, traveling, doing things I love… If he does see it from other profiles, apparently it isn’t doing much on my favor anyway…

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 4:55 pm

      PERFECT!

      An ex boyfriend is like a detective. He will want to know everything his ex is up to. I guarantee you that he is seeing it somehow.

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      Juli

      March 30, 2014 at 5:07 am

      Eh, but I have done several “cycles” of NC for a month or more with few repercussions. Lately he simply doesn’t reply at all – not even to send me happy bday. Should I extend the NC for a few more months or give up for good? I just don’t get why he’s doing it when we finally seemed to be in good terms again..

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    Los Zapatos Negros

    March 28, 2014 at 4:46 am

    So my ex dumped me in Aug. We still hung out as friends for 2 months on occasion (no fooling around). So obviously he didn’t hate me. After 2 months I asked him if we could get back together and work things out and he said no. I told him I thought it was best if we just cut ties and move on with our lives alone. He agreed. I told him I was gonna remove and block him off Facebook so I could move on. He seemed annoyed but understood. Over a month later I calmed down emotionally and texted him. I got no reply. I then unblocked him and sent him a message on Facebook. He ignored the message, but deleted me off his Playstation friends list. He DID NOT block me back on fb tho.

    Its been 4 months since I sent him that message. Even though its been a long time since I messaged him I am terrified to do it again because i dont want to be labeled as “crazy” or “clingy” after being rejected twice. My ex is a coward to put it nicely. I had to ask him out first both times we dated, I had to make every single first move in our relationship and outside our relationship, so I know he does not have the balls to reach out even if he wanted to haha. So pretty much it is all on me.

    The only good thing is in the 7 months we’ve been broken up is he has not had a girlfriend, date, or really any girl action.

    a) why would he not block me on fb if he clearly wanted nothing to do with me anymore?
    b) is it possible he is too cowardly to reach out given how he rejected/ignored me and since he is kinda a coward?
    c)should i reach out again or see if he ever does?

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 4:54 pm

      Your name… zos zapatos.. it sounds like a mexican restaurant hahaha.

      A. Maybe it hurts too much to look at your pictures.
      B. It is cowardly and he may be a coward.
      C. I don’t think it would hurt.

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    Ms H

    March 28, 2014 at 4:37 am

    I blocked his number, not the other way round after he told me to leave him alone. That’s what he wanted, so that’s what he got … I also deleted him off Facebook, and he messaged me asking if I did. I didn’t respond, so he deactivated. Now he’s back, but I’m not blocked.

    I’ve been asked out twice by two different people since I initiated no contact. I’m going out for a drink with one, and I’m just chatting with the other. They are nice guys thus far. I’m not missing my ex. Not yet anyway …

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 4:53 pm

      So, you did the blocking.

      Well, good for you. You seem like you are moving on from him.

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      Ms H

      March 29, 2014 at 8:36 am

      Yes sir 🙂
      And my ex sent me a happy birthday message via Facebook.
      I saw it but didn’t respond … So he will see I saw it … 🙂
      I knew he would, he’s to predictable but he’s also the type who’d do this … So I don’t think it means anything … Just him being polite 🙂

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    Kaitlyn

    March 28, 2014 at 3:35 am

    My ex JUST added me on snapchat and followed me on twitter today after 3 months of blocking. Those are both apps where you have to physically “follow them back”. Should I? Or should I wait a few days before? Also, does this mean anything?

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 4:51 pm

      Wait a day before you follow back.It always means something.

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    Sabrina

    March 28, 2014 at 3:31 am

    Another great guide!
    I have a little experience from getting in touch with mutual friends with an ex.. I asked a guy (mutual friend, he is one of my Ex Bf friends) to hang out get some coffee and play console games, he replied “see you at 5 and i will text you”. 5PM came and i got no message from him or an explanation until now lol . I assumed that he told my Ex about it. We are still talking but i never brought up of him stood me up.

    2nd scenario is when my Ex Bf best friend hook me on a date with a stranger (i declined the offer) i told my Ex bf’s mom about it and 1 week later, there’s a picture of my Ex bf with the guy that i was supposed to have a date with! And the guy looked pissed in the photo lol

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      admin

      March 28, 2014 at 4:50 pm

      Hahahahaha man that is interesting that you had those experiences. Word gets around doesn’t it?

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      sabrina

      March 28, 2014 at 5:19 pm

      It does! 🙂 , its so crazy! as you said “spread like wildfire”. Im still puzzling who told him about the Facebook status, he was very specific hahaha! He even asked our college friend to get drinks with him, tryna get him drunk and talk him out for some information hahaha 🙂
      My ex is like “even we are not together I still know what you are doing..i…am…everywhere..” hahaha

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      admin

      March 30, 2014 at 8:27 pm

      Hahaha he does better research than the FBI

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      sabrina

      April 1, 2014 at 3:05 pm

      I do have a question, based on these experienced i had a friend of mine told me his opinion, that my exboyfriend is just doing all these, not to get me back, but to check or to know if these men, he would like for me to date or be in a relationship with. I hope im making sense. What do you think chris?

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      sabrina

      March 29, 2014 at 5:40 pm

      All these i experienced is with only one guy (1st boyfriend; 4 year relationship). I dont know why he’s doing this, he choose her and their still together, got No contact whatsoever (for 4mos). I wish this still continues hahaha

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      Sabrina

      March 28, 2014 at 3:36 am

      3rd scenario is when i tagged our college friend on my status in Facebook on March 13, 10 days later my exbf message our college friend and asked if him and I go out on march 13. My ex hasn’t talk to him for 2 years! Lol It is impossible for my ex to see my status because it is private and were not friends only his little brother and some of his friends are my mutual.

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