What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,553 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Sally

May 11, 2014 at 12:22 pm

Hey Chris! I have followed your advice. Finished the 30day NC and got unblocked.

Today we managed to get into an argument because of my mutual friend. Amidst the argument, I said I never wanted to be with him. Then he said that he actually wanted to get together again and said that I should never have grouped him and the mutual friend together.

Then he came over and we made up except that I gave him a BJ. Then after that he says he really regrets what he had done. He also says that he has let me go even though he loves me and feels terrible that he had done what he did. Do you have any idea what he means?

Should I use NC for a week or should I continue talking to him again? A

admin

May 12, 2014 at 6:34 pm

You shouldn’t have gotten that physical with him….
Sally

May 12, 2014 at 11:57 pm

I know. Should I do NC or continue talking?

macki

May 11, 2014 at 9:15 am

We communicate via Wechat and Whatsapp, it was him who insisted that i add him on Facebook when we first met. When he decided to let me go which i dont know why, i didnt go all gaga about it. There wasnt really a proper goodbye or anything he just disappeared. after a month i texted via whatsapp and told him that he look great on his profile pic (i didnt like his pic on fb). and he said that he missed me. but no communication after that. then after a month there was this MERS scare so i texted via whatsapp for him to be safe but with no reply, i know i wasnt blocked coz i can still see his time stamp and occasionally caught him being online but out of curiosity i checked his wechat and found out that he deleted me but not blocked. i was quite upset and a little drunk and so i texted and ask why he did it, but he didnt reply. then one day i just wanted to check his facebook and found out that he blocked me, between the two of us, it was him who constantly liked my pics on facebook but i didnt do the same thing. but when he blocked me on facebook i felt really bad. instanly, i delete his contact number. i dont want to feel bad again one day that he blocked me on whatsapp and i wanted to avoid on texting him. but i dont know why, after all the promises he did, why would someone be invisible. when i was the one who initially wanted to let go because i know i wasnt part of his plan, it was him who kept on promising, now i dont know. I trusted him too much and now it hurts big time.
Blessed

May 10, 2014 at 4:29 am

Great website thank you

My story is my ex and i fought alot about my son and how he could be more kinder, he has 3 kids i have 2. i have a baby and a toddler and his are much older. We always said i love you to one another, and we always made time at night for each other.

He would stay the night here but i could not there because he lived at home with his parents and my kids couldtn stay anywhere. He had to live their due to his divorce 3 years ago and filing bankruptcy.

Anyways, long story short, we fought a bit towards the end i was always tired and snappy i know i had my fair share in what went wrong. But when he told me he wasnt happy and couldtn make me happy it blew my mind i knew we were fighting, but in the beginning when i told him not to date me based on XYZ he said its why i love you and i want to be the best man for you, and then those were the reasons why we broke up because he said we had different parenting styles.

We met up and gave each others things back we talked, i didnt argue or lecture i thank him, i said kind words and i heard what he had to say and i apologized for my doing, we hugged i said im going to miss you, he said nothing back.

Now a week later he removed me from his facebook and is back on POF, his family still has me on their profiles and its been 2 weeks now, i havent contacted him, i did notice he removed me because i no longer saw him online, sorry i know we arent supposed to look at their profiles. And thats it he didnt say thank you for his kids bday gifts or easter gifts i gave him for them.

That was a short brief summary of what happened to not bore you, my question is, is their still a chance to get him back and be better than before, with him removing me from his profile, and what should i do when the 30 days are up?? especially since he didnt contact me or say he would miss me. April 17 he said i love you see you soon, april 20th he wanted out of the relationship.

I really need some advice my gfs just say move on, and seriously hes the first man ive ever respected to love and work on being a positive person. I messed up by not appreciating him more or being kinder more and vice versa. But i want to fix it,

So after this lengthy letter, is this possible?? has the battle been lost or should i keep trying? Also should i be looking at dating right now or at least speaking with other men or just keep trying after 30 days??

thank you for your time

Naomi~

admin

May 12, 2014 at 6:15 pm

You should be looking at dating and speaking to other man. You might get some jealous flowing that wya.

Cee

May 9, 2014 at 2:38 am

hi. so basically im on my second try of the NC. i tried the first time but there was no response from him…i gave it another month which is now…please help me on what should i tell him this time? on my first NC i tried recalling one of our happy moments and I didnt get any response. Now im so scared that i dont know a good one to say to him. Any suggestions? thank you

admin

May 9, 2014 at 3:41 pm

How long did you last the first time? Days wise?
Cee

May 12, 2014 at 1:38 am

a month ago…and i want to try again. is that okay?

abi

May 6, 2014 at 12:01 pm

Which is better in your opinion and why:

Blocked on whatsapp
Whatsapp App deleted

admin

May 6, 2014 at 7:14 pm

Blocked b/c you still have the option of being unblocked.

Mary

May 6, 2014 at 12:07 am

Hello. my ex and I were in a long distance relationship so he spends some weeks here, i go there to his country and the initial speech he used when he said he wanted to be my boyfriend was that he has everything planned to move to my country soon , I never consider possible to be with him due to the distance even though i was falling for hi even before he made his final move and i saw a possibility when he mention the moving, and that is why i accepted being in a relationship. It stared beautifully, and we both were into each other and in love. But then we broke up in march 24 when i left him. I was visiting him in his country and i was supposed to stay 3 months but left after 5 weeks as i didnt feel comfortable and a series of things happened including him being very temperamental, saying a lot of bad words and even asking me to leave….and next day asking me to stay..he goes up and down like nothing. I cant say i had an argument w him coz i am not the type of person who like fights, i was only crying. Before i left, we made out and fix things,we went all over every thing that bothered me and that upset him and clarify everything to the point that we even talked about getting married, and me moving with him in a few months but just temporarily until he finishes something personal and he is able to move to my country. When we say good bye, it was very emotional, he was crying i was crying…u can imagine. anyways, , when i was back to my country we exchanged some messages through facebook but i noticed he was distant and cold…. a few days later he blocked me in facebook after saying he was broken, sad, depress because i left him. BUt he can sees all my activity because her mom is on my contact list. I sent him an email expressing how sorry i was for everything that happened and apologizing for my part of contribution to it. He never responded. I know he went to thailand for 2 weeks, when he was back he replied my old email, that was on april 2rd, and the first communication was like…oh i feel broken, sad, because of u , you left me, i cry when i hear something that reminds me of u etc etc. I never got involved in giving hi an explanation or justifying my actions as i didn´t want his anger to grow, and most important i didn´want him to feel more sad or depress. In the latest emails he just tells me how his day was, and asks how my day was and i just try all the time to be positive in my emails. He hasn´t unblocked me yet but as i said he doesn´t need to do it in order to satisfy his curiosity about me as he can see all my moves from his mom´s facebook. He says he realizes his mistakes and that he should have handle many things differently but i believe he is hurt and still upset. it is so easy for me to get him upset. I know this is not a game but i cant win with him. I think he has strong feelings for me yet, and that is why he emails me and he didn´t block me also on his mom account. What do you think should be my attitude towards him, or my next move??? should i deactivate my facebook account? i don´t want to block his mom because i believe it can be taken as I don´t respect her or as a bad thing for sure. I know he has feelings for me, but i want him to regret letting me go and to ask me to be back. Any advise??? I am willing to provide any information in private. Today is the first time i visit this site, but i certainly have followed some of your break up rules just by common sense. We never used mobile texts or whatssup to communicate, not even email, just facebook or phone. and he is not a person who likes computers at all or savy on interent or web…so i can say he is doing a lot by opening his email to read my emails and reply. sometimes he sends a few lines in one email and one hour later or more sends a continuation, of previous email. and he has said he misses me very much…..

admin

May 6, 2014 at 7:08 pm

Have you read my LDR post?

Was there ever a plan in place to get closer together?

Wendy

April 29, 2014 at 12:20 am

Well I tried no contact with my ex for a month then I started to talk to him again. well tried to. It was just persuasion back and forth. Then I found out he asked a girl to prom when he knew I wanted to go with him since we got together(2 years ago) and well i lashed out on him and told him how hurt I was and I practically argued back adn forth with him intensely for a week or so. And he told me that he can’t believe he actually considered getting back with me but he wants to take it back now since I lashed out on him. So i tried to argue and tell him to get back with me, but he got really mad at me and yelled(put in caps) many hurtful things. For example he told me that im lucky he hasnt blocked me yet, that he wants me to leave him alone so he can live his life, that he cringes each time he sees my texts to him, that im annoying etc. I got so hurt so I cussed a few times because I was so emotional(I dont usually cuss and he knows that). But I now like last time we broke up he kept trying to move on and I’m scared he will this time since I annoyed him. Well I stopped talking to him since the day he hurt me. But I don’t know what to do noe! I want him to regret this adn get back with me (hopefully). He always checks my snapchat stories constantly. And even started a fight with me right after he broke up with me when I posted a snapchat of my walls free from his posters. But I feel like I may have went too far to make him come back. I dont know what to do cause im tired of being that desperate ex girlfriend but I really want him back. But people always tell me to stop hurting myself because I always go back into a weak state of mind and argue with him to get back and then get hurt when he gets emotional.
Clary

April 28, 2014 at 10:08 am

What if my ex unblocked me on whatsapp after one month of no contact but is still blocking me on other social networks? Does it mean that he has moved on?
Cee

April 25, 2014 at 8:14 am

can i use his birthday to do my second NC attempt? I tried talking to him last march for the first talk after NC he didn’t responded so I did another NC and I will try doing it on his birthday. Can I do that?

Cee

April 29, 2014 at 3:09 pm

what will i try for a week? greet him on his birthday?
admin

April 28, 2014 at 3:58 pm

Try again in about a week…

Taylor Ohlendorf

April 24, 2014 at 12:55 pm

Hi!
I’m going to fill you in on my situation and hopefully you can help me out.. Me and my ex boyfriend are both 20 years old. We met in college and because great friends. For months we would hangout in groups of friends, talked all the time, did everything together but I knew he was a player (always talking and dating 4 or more girls). As his friend, I would laugh it off and continue being friends with him. Around Christmas time las year (2013) I called him drunk and confessed that I had feelings for him. Then next day he came over and said he did too but never was going to act on them because he didn’t knew I felt the same way. Well for Christmas Break we were apart for a month but talked constantly, all day everyday. When we both returned to school at the beginning of this year, we started dating. It was amazing.. Best friends who now could kiss and cuddle. He always used to say that he couldn’t like one girl, that he didn’t cuddle, that he didn’t have feelings, etc. and I thought I changed him. He was always faithful to me and he would act so silly around me, telling me he’s never been able to be so relaxed around anyone. We fell into the spend 24/7 time together and I was staying with him or vice versa every night. We dated for 4 months and we always had little fights but we always said it meant we cared about each other more. He was always calm in a fight while I was the one who blew up. He said he’d never lay a hand on a woman, never would say disrespectful things towards me. He said he could see himself with me forever and I know we are meant to be. Well I had always said I would leave him if he started doing hard drugs (cocaine, crack, etc) and he always said he would never. So one day I see him texting and telling someone he snorted coke the night before.. I get upset and ask him about it. He looks me in the eye and says that he’s lying to his friends to sound cool and he wouldnt do it because he didn’t want to lose me. Well I believed him. So after a couple days I find out he DID do that and other times too so I tell him I’m done and can’t go on like this. He starts begging and drops the L bomb.. Says I can’t go because he loves me. Says he’s never told another girl, can’t see himself loving anyone else, blah blah. I fall right into it and after that things are perfect. We’re so lovey dovey and happy for about 2 weeks. Then one day we get in a small fight (like always) and he snaps.. Starts cursing at me, calling me names, telling me he’s done, all for no reason. I leave and he gives me a hug and says he loves me and we’ll talk soon. So after a day I try to call him and find out he blocked my number.. Then come to find out he blocked me on all social media. So I’m heartbroken and crying, of course. So after a day he sends me a snapchat that says “I love you so much” so the next morning I try to call him and he curses me telling me not to effing call him.. So then he reblocks me on everything. Later that day he unblocks me to tell me about his haircut (I always ragged on him about getting a haircut). So I reply and then get no reply and get blocked again. That was over a week ago and I’ll admit I kept trying to make contact but he has kept me blocked and has been posting about all the new girls he has.. I believed him when he said he loved me, I know he tried to be good for me. Months ago, when he said he didn’t know how to care about people.. Did that mean something? I’m going crazy, I miss him and I know we both had something amazing. Everyone says try the no contact rule but I dont see him contacting me, he’s great at being able to turn off his feelings and be cold. What do I do?
lisa

April 23, 2014 at 12:54 am

hey chris, this is a great guide and definitely very useful btw!

I have a few things that have been on my mind lately and i was wondering if you would be able to help give me some sort of answer to them. So first off i’ve sort of befriended my ex’s friend (a pretty good friend of my ex) un intentionally we just happened to start talking and got along well when we were hanging out with a bunch of friends one time. Anyways we only became friends quite recently so i was wondering if i became even better friends with my ex’s friend would it make my ex jealous in any way that he would realise what he has lost -and as you said ”men always want what they cant have” do you think this would be true in my case…? Also my ex messaged me a few weeks ago asking me if i had any guys in my life lately…. but he was trying to act all friendly like we were friends or something but we hadnt spoken in atleast 3 months lol.. And i dont even know why he asked me this..

admin

April 23, 2014 at 3:58 pm

It would definitely make him jealous.

NADIA PALI

April 21, 2014 at 6:56 pm

Many thanks Chris
Half way during the no contact period he unblocked me on fb and whatsap, wrote to me couple of messages like how i am doing, this and that .. but once he saw my new profile picture on both applications, and a video of me having fun by London river, he started asking who is out with me? why i am still out until midnight ? I didn’t reply .. and he blocked me again ! do you think his reactions are caused by jalousie (unblocking and blocking? do I have to do do NC again?

admin

April 22, 2014 at 4:38 pm

DEFINITELY!

Kimberly

April 13, 2014 at 8:14 pm

If doesn’t say anything back, or if he says something mean..should I just wait longer to contact him again?

admin

April 14, 2014 at 5:21 pm

Yup.

kim

April 13, 2014 at 7:55 pm

my ex blocked me on facebook but i was in no contact on the 10th day when he did so…and the day before he sent me picture texts from when we were dating like our facetime/skype pictures. (We were in an LDR) it’s just confusing because even when i was in no contact he still called left voicemails and texted me even facebook messaged me and even told me he loves me. I’m so confused because he blocked me and all i’ve been doing on facebook was posting status’ on how great life is and i’m grateful to have a loving family etc… (all of which is true) when he broke up with me i cried and he proceeded to play games and say “I love you” as he broke up with me over facetime. and than that was that and 4 days after he broke up with me i initiated the no contact rule. so now i’m on day 11 and I’m confused as what to do…I don’t really like to think i was annoying or anything. I didn’t post anything negative about him, in fact I never even talked to my friends complaining. I was hurt…but I know better than to complain and mope about in public. I don’t think I’d like to give anyone that satisfaction ever. I still love him…and I tried so hard to make it work and he broke up with me because I found out that he cheated on me 3 months prior. he was ashamed and than decided to break up with me. the weird thing is, i feel like if i never found out and brought it up he would not have broken up with me because the day before he broke up with me and even when he answered my phone call for when i was going to confront him about him not telling me he cheated he was all lovey dovey. even left me a voicemail the night before telling me he loves me and i am his world. and when i brought it up he decided to break up with me and said i deserve better and he couldnt be with me after me knowing about his “weakness”. But than an hour later he starts flirting with EVERY girl and adds a whole more and still continued to tell me that he loved me but that he feels stress free because he doesnt have to worry about a relationship and is focusing on his school work when in reality i know hes getting wasted every weekend and flirting with every girl and even asked a few of them for sex.

admin

April 14, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Did you read my long distance relationship website?
kim

April 14, 2014 at 3:01 am

basically my question is what do i do? How do i go about this and why did he block me if i wasn’t even contacting him? I don’t understand and im so confused

Suzanne

April 13, 2014 at 8:05 am

I think my ex has changed his mobile number and has blocked me from ringing his home phone :-(. Do you think I have any chance of getting this guy back????? It’s 4 weeks since we broke up and I’ve contacted him 3 times since then and only got a response the first time, I emailed him on Thursday and got no reply, should I start the NCR from now?? What’s the best way of contacting after the NCR ends???? I love the man and any advice you can offer will be gratefully appreciated….., I’m going into hospital this week and he hasn’t even called text to wish me luck – do you think he just doesn’t want anything more to do with me????

admin

April 13, 2014 at 5:00 pm

How long ago was the breakup?
Suzanne

April 13, 2014 at 6:29 pm

3 weeks ago today :-((( any advice would be gratefully appreciated
Suzanne

April 19, 2014 at 7:17 am

Please help!!! I’m confused as to what to do???

Cee

April 13, 2014 at 4:27 am

he’s having his birthday and i’ve tried the contact after the NC already and he didn’t respond…now im planning to take his birthday an opportunity for the next try…do you think it’s okay?
Kimberly

April 12, 2014 at 4:44 pm

I can do that. I have been pondering on what I should text him when I do. Tought about something along these lines. “I was watching Safe haven earlier and I was thibking about our Vday date last year wheb we went to see it, and how after the movie we walked outside to the perfect snow fall and it seemed so perfect like we were in a hallmark movie” but not sure if saying that woukd make him stay silent or if he will talk. Since before he ignored things like that or would get upset.

admin

April 13, 2014 at 4:34 pm

I think that will work!

Leeri

April 12, 2014 at 2:27 pm

hey chris,

My ex havent blocked me in his phone. But he blocked me in facebook. But I am still in grade 12 and we both go to the same residential school. And we are classmates. Are there any chance that we can get back?

p.s. He took a new girlfriend right after our break up. But she studies in a different state.
Kimberly

April 11, 2014 at 10:32 pm

My ex hasnt blocked me,but he did take me off his Facebook and untagged his self in our pictures, except the ones of our pets. Except one picture he still has on Facebook of us. But I’m not tagged in it. before when we would fight he did the swmething. I can text him and he will reply back, but I have been doing the nc rule for 13 days now and he still hasn’t text me. Knowing him hes probably angry because I have never stopped talking to him. His emotions have always ran high. His friends have no idea we broke up. Not sure what to think in this matter. BEFORE when he played these games I told him if he blocked me again its over for good..well he hasnt dont that just deleted me. What should I think of that? In the past ge would tell me when we fight it was hard to look at our pictures..after the no contact is up how should i approach him? Wr live in two different states. So all I yave is texting to use.

admin

April 12, 2014 at 4:20 pm

Well, ideally you want to be very casual after NC. Find a way to get in touch with him if you can’t through texting.

ailieif

April 11, 2014 at 6:57 am

Hi,

Thank you for the written article about this.

Need it so badly.

I broke up with my ex, my bad for mention, then my ex still talk so nicely and love me, but the day after a argument my ex went dating with another girl. Then they were attached 4 days after. I tried begging my ex back for 2 days, my ex told me that was in love with the current girlfriend now and I was blocked in whatsapp and call. How is it possible to love another person so fast?

Then I just read about your NC and blocked article.

What can I do? Today is only the 2nd day of NC. 3 years of relationship just gone, I really want to fight back this relationship.

admin

April 12, 2014 at 3:46 pm

How long has he been with the new girl?
ailieif

April 13, 2014 at 3:43 am

probably 30th march till now? I’m not sure.
Unblocked me, and asked me how am I.

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