What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,553 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Dima

June 21, 2014 at 12:48 am

My ex blocked me today for the first time in our four years relationship, he said he cant afford long distance relationship (1 year) almost 5 months left for him to get back here, he said that” i cant be with you if I dont see you for months” Then I was like ” i think you dont really love me, you gave up just because of distance” then he stopped replying and blocked me. Why?!!
Confused

June 20, 2014 at 10:34 am

Hello Chris:
I dated a guy for 8 months (LDR serious relationship) and after he dumped (left me for someone else but lied about it), he blocked and deleted me off Skype and G-mail chat a month after we broke up. I had read your guide in the past and followed NC for 60 days and eventually reached out to him through text. I asked him why he did something so drastic after telling me he loves me. I received no response. I did not want him back but just wanted to know why he went all Jerkyll and Hyde on me suddenly especially when he had proposed to me after 6 months of our relationship and we didn’t have any major fights or problems. So I went into No Contact again for another 30 days. I found out he changed his number. I want to know as to why he would act like this after dumping me when I did not even cheat on him and was very loyal and committed through out our relationship. I did not even contact his now girl friend or even him except for that single text that I sent to him. Is there any chance for me to contact him to understand his reasoning or do you think it is a lost cause? What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else? Please respond!
ana

June 19, 2014 at 3:31 pm

Dear Mr Chris

My ex boyfriend has blocked me from fb, He told me that I annoy him and I should leave him alone and he doesn’t care about me.

We broke up about three weeks ago and he already has a girlfriend. He told me that I am always mean to him, that I always accuse him of cheating on me and he can’t cope with me anymore (I suffer from depression btw ).

I found out that he has a girlfriend.(which at first he made up because his girlfriends has different names and he used the story to get back at me.) He told me it is non of my business and that I should p*** off. He said that he going to block me from his fb.

I don’t know what to do???!!! My heart hurts. About three weeks ago before the blocking, he told me that he has strong feelings for me and he needs me,that he wants to hurt me emotionally so that I don’t talk to him anymore, but he couldn’t do it to me. He has been angry with me for the past two weeks. I know he still has feelings for me I know it. This is all my fault because I hurt him really badly by insulting him and making up a story (that I have met some else last yr) I wanted to hurt him because he doesn’t pay attention to me.

We have been in a long distance relationship for 2-3 yrs because of being in different universities from each other. About 4weeks earlier before the break up, we were planning to go to Venice but once again I accused him and this time he was being sarcastic and tried to stir me up. I lost it with him and told him “we are nothing” he got angry and broke it off with me.

Btw I have deleted him four times and blocked before this all started. I know I messed up but we luv each other. I did something really stupid as well I insulted a female friend of his on fb (he told me, he was sleeping with her and she means nothing to him) now he is saying that is his girlfriend now.

Help me Mr Chris I am so lost in my heart. My ex is loving every minute of it.

Thank U (sorry for my long story but I really need ur help )

admin

June 21, 2014 at 7:18 pm

Well, were you annoying him on Faceobok or something?

First Snow

June 19, 2014 at 6:07 am

My exes blocked me when they had already moved on with someone. It’s more often the case and I think your article has made it sound too positive. NC or not I think when you get blocked the chances of getting back together is much lower than you described. Guys do move on faster than girls in general. It surely is more comforting to think there’s hope but I would suggest moving on without looking back.

admin

June 20, 2014 at 7:46 pm

Well, the article is meant to teach people the best way to get their exes to unblock them. I did say multiple times that there is no guarantees.

Confused

June 18, 2014 at 4:36 pm

Hello Chris:
I dated a guy for 8 months (LDR serious relationship) and after he dumped (left me for someone else but lied about it), he blocked and deleted me off Skype and G-mail chat a month after we broke up. I had read your guide in the past and followed NC for 60 days and eventually reached out to him through text. I asked him why he did something so drastic after telling me he loves me. I received no response. I did not want him back but just wanted to know why he went all Jerkyll and Hyde on me suddenly especially when he had proposed to me after 6 months of our relationship and we didn’t have any major fights or problems. So I went into No Contact again for another 30 days. I found out he changed his number. I want to know as to why he would act like this after dumping me when I did not even cheat on him and was very loyal and committed through out our relationship. I did not even contact his now girl friend or even him except for that single text that I sent to him. Is there any chance for me to contact him to understand his reasoning or do you think it is a lost cause? What could be the reason(s) why a guy would block/delete you so coldly after dumping you and leaving your for someone else? Please respond!

admin

June 20, 2014 at 7:06 pm

Why would he think you cheated? Where did that come from?
Confused

June 21, 2014 at 3:49 am

I never emotionally, mentally or physically cheated on him. It would make more sense if a guy blocks you and cuts you off so coldly if you had caused him some pain like cheating on him. That’s where that thinking was coming from. Why would someone act like I didn’t exist right away when in fact they are the one who were unfaithful?
Confused

June 22, 2014 at 4:02 pm

Please reply Chris to my last question!
admin

June 23, 2014 at 1:54 pm

Could you ask it again?

Jessica

June 18, 2014 at 12:36 am

Chris my bf blocked me and changed his number what should I do now

admin

June 18, 2014 at 1:42 pm

Well, can I ask if you read this article from start to finish?
Jessica

June 19, 2014 at 10:24 am

Yes I have should no contact work or you think this is over for good and I just should move on

Stacey

June 17, 2014 at 8:06 pm

I read this article from top to bottom and i found that my scenario isn’t anywhere on it. so i thought id ask what you think about it.
today makes it 5 weeks since the break up with my bf of two years. ive followed all the rules of a break up. I read a bunch of different articles before ending up here so i broke NC early since i was under the impression it was a two week span and not a month. i since have restarted NC.
I just discovered today ive been removed. or at least i thought i was after a bit of investigating ive come to the conclusion i haven’t been removed he DELETED his WHOLE Facebook! i asked a couple of my friends to check his profile and its completely gone! i considered maybe he went through the effort of blocking them all but he’s way too lazy for that besides. one wasn’t even Facebook friends with him and she still couldn’t find him. he never really used it a lot to begin with and he murmured once or twice about getting rid of it a while ago but i find this a strange phenomenon since just last week he was using it to “prowl” (liking ALOT of girls pictures ect.)
im not sure if this scenario fits the article above or not. i feel its a bit dramatic to completely delete. whats your opinion on it?

admin

June 18, 2014 at 1:29 pm

Meaning he completely erased his profile???
Stacey

June 19, 2014 at 1:21 am

i asked four people i know to look for him and they cant find him anymore so as far as i know he deleted his whole profile. Which leaves me baffled because just last week he was using it to scope girls out..

What do you think it means that hes deleted his whole profile? Cause to me it seems like he might be taking things very badly even tho hes the one who broke up with me.
Stacey

June 19, 2014 at 3:44 am

I know i just wrote a comment and i dont mean to be spammy im sure you have lots of other comments to read but i wanted to ask something. How do you know if you screwed the pooch? Cause I feel like ive blown it big time.
Ive followed all your advice so well if this was a class id be getting an A+. Started becoming a UG during NC. I havent made ANY of your “biggest mistakes women make”. But i feel they arent working to my advantage.
Im my exs first serious gf. When he broke up with me i told him i have a rule about exs. I dont go back. As you can see im here and i was totally bluffing. But thats not the point.
Ive been doing so well taking your advice. But i think he was expecting “icecream bucket on couch girl” not UG and i think he thinks im way over him and hes given up.
I think this because I saw in one of your articles a small list of things hell do if he misses you: calling, texting, contacting your family, reacting positively when he sees you in public. He did all that. Did being the key word. The first two weeks he did all those and then I broke NC after two weeks because i hadnt found yourr articles yet that said 30days but after i discovered the 30day rule i went back into NC its been 11 days and in this time he hasnt reached out. Like i said in my previous comments he deleted his whole facebook!!
I think im maybe doing too well and its upset him. Is there even a fix for that?? And do i have to reach out to him first since i said no take backs? Can i bounce back from being “too good” and “moved on”??

Lindsay

June 17, 2014 at 2:37 am

I have been reading this blog for a while now without comment, and from reading and looking and not seeing my question, I wanted to ask: What about blocking him?

Me and my ex-boyfriend broke up in January, after dating for 2.5 years. He grew up with a rocky childhood, and was used to feeling like he didn’t deserve anything, and that I could always do better than him. He made me completely happy, and he has just always been too down on himself to realize that he was doing a good job when it came to me. The relationship was going good for those 2.5 years, and then he started experiencing alot of family issues, bringing up his problems of insecurity from the past, and that’s when he started to get down on himself. He’s always questioned his ability to take care and love someone else, when he couldn’t even seem to love himself.

Throughout these almost 6 months, we have talked here and there, and we have seen each other a few times, always with the same outcome. One time, he even went as far as getting us a hotel room, many bouquets of flowers, petals all over the room, begging for me back, and it ended the same way it always does, with him disappearing a few days later. He always ends up confessing his feelings to me, how much he loves me and how much he wishes that he could make me happy, then the same thing always follows at the end: He is too confused, and he doesn’t think he can make me as happy as I deserve.

I get that this excuse is definitely an excuse, but I’ve tried all that I know of, keeping my distance, dating someone new, and both sides of being there for him, and then not letting him use these excuses on me. Nothing seems to work. I know he does love me, but I also see what he means when he wonders, “If you can’t love and take care of yourself, how can you do that to someone else?”

I have a hard time ignoring him, and every time that I seem to get a grip on our breakup, that will be when he texts me again, or calls, or wants to meet up, and I fall for it every time. In all of this, this is why I was wondering what your views were on the GIRL blocking the GUY, instead of being the person getting blocked. I am just tired of being fooled and pulled back in everytime, for his answer to always being he’s still crazy in love, but is just too lost in life right now. I just want to save myself some heartache, and I just want to know what you think about me considering blocking him and trying NC, or if I should just leave him unblocked, and test my resistance when trying NC. I just don’t want to be the putty in his hands like I usually am! I don’t want to miss out on anything if he tries to reach out to me and I have his number blocked, but I guess that’s the whole point of NC, to not talk to him no matter what!

All in all, he was my best friend, and it was the best relationship I have ever had in my life. It wasn’t a sad story, no one cheated, no one left because anything specific happened. It just came to a point where I couldn’t convince him that he made me happy, and that he was good enough for me. And I can assure you, I did everything I could to prove to him otherwise. I know that our breakup was a mistake, and I know it’s not a matter of “if” he will realize it, only a matter of “when.” I just need advice to get me through until then.

Any views on this? Has anyone out there tried blocking their ex, without being blocked yourself? How did it work? What are your views on this, Chris?

Ultimately, I know that in the end, either enough time will pass where he will come back to me and it will be great, or enough time will pass where he doesn’t come back, and I will have had enough time to finally figure out how to be happy on my own. I’m sorry it’s so long you guys, I just want to make sure you can try to get a little grasp on my situation! Should I block HIM?

admin

June 17, 2014 at 8:53 pm

I am not a fan actually b/c it robs you of important information like how often he is trying to get in touch.

Kitty

June 15, 2014 at 8:01 am

Since getting with my ex he kept finishing with me over really silly things he was very insecure which led me to blocking friends on Facebook and deleting their numbers just to show him I loved and and wanted to be with him. It then got to a point where no matter what I did it just didn’t seem good enough. I have him all my time and attention and always tried to make him happy. We got on so well then one little thing would trigger him off and I would get the blame everytime. Yes everyone will say why would I want to be in a relationship like that but the truth is he’s got into my head and I can’t stop thinking about him. We broke up over something silly again it was over a picture of his ex that I had seen. He wanted me to send it to him and I got a little annoyed at why he would want it. Really really silly but he finished with me over it. Since then I Tried to make things right again! I went to his house wrote him letters called him thinking that I was showing him how much I loved him bit all he was thinking is that I was crazy and it pushed him further away from me. I just feel so stupid. He text me to say he had cheated on me then on the night told me he hadn’t really he had just said it to hurt me and that he loves me. So I went to his house and we kind of made up then the next day he calls me and finishes it again! Since then he’s ignored me and changed his phone number. I don’t know what’s going on. I feel physically sick, can’t eat and I’m making myself really Ill 🙁 I think he just enjoys playing mind games. Since he’s changed his number I’ve not tried to contact him in anyway bit I do really miss him. He’s twisted everything to people making me out to be something I’m not. All I did was try and make things right and show him I loved him. With the kind of person he is and very stubborn do you think this is over for good now? Baring in mind he has finished with me loads then we have got back together (all over silly stuff) but has only ever blocked me now he’s changed his number. I’d just like to point out that this guy is 36 years of age too!!
Kat

June 12, 2014 at 1:08 am

So he’s not really my exe, but there was this one guy who I used to know before he switched schools, and anyways he was always super sweet and tried to get me to date him a lot, but I just wasn’t interested. He blocked me like 5 months ago and I’m really starting to miss him. The only way I could contact him was through Facebook but since he blocked me I can’t even talk to him at all! He was like my best friend and I really want to know what to do. 🙁

admin

June 15, 2014 at 3:21 pm

Did you read this article at all?

Shayne

June 7, 2014 at 9:26 pm

i broke up with my ex for 10years already… a month ago we exchange messages and asked permission if its ok with him. if i will. contact his family. since i didnt received any reply. i tried to reconnect with his family still. we missed each other to the extent they are posting status on facebook looking forward to see me and exchanging comments as well… after that i stop sending him messages coz am. thinking he doesnt care at all. 2days ago i found out he blocked me on facebook. i dont know why… i am curious…

admin

June 8, 2014 at 8:14 pm

He is probably thinking about you a lot if he decided to block you.

Isabel

June 7, 2014 at 4:30 am

Hey Chris,

Thank you for taking the time to write such a well-written, developed article! I’m going to try to make this as short as possible. My ex and I dated for about 6 months. He was one year younger than me, and I broke up with him shortly (a week or two) after I left for my first year of college.

Post breakup I still wanted to remain friends, but he was very cold and either gave me one worded responses or none at all. Additionally, he almost immediately got close with one of his girl friends and made this very public on Facebook (unfortunately making me jealous). At college a close friend confessed his feelings to me, and I became emotionally torn. At this point I was jealous of my ex and wanted him back, but also wanted to move on. During this time my ex and I blocked each other numerous times on Facebook, only to end up unblocking.

In short, I flew back for Thanksgiving (3 months after break up), we saw each other, and he confessed he still had feelings for me (amongst other confessions). I went back to school and we maintained a good friendship, but he became very cold again; I let it go. When I flew home for winter break, I realized I still had feelings for him and saw him a few times. He was very on and off during this time, and I became incredibly frustrated. I can admit during this time I was borderline crazy (bad academics, family/friend relationships etc.) and eventually made the poor decision to seek a final act of “revenge” on him before going back to school.

The last I spoke to him was 6 months ago; he told me I was a terrible person for what I did and blocked me on Facebook. He hasn’t unblocked me since. On my end, I deleted everything (emails, texts, photos) and successfully moved on; I haven’t made any effort to contact/stalk my ex in any way. I accidently ran into him a couple of weeks ago; he looked at me for a split second and turned around and walked away. I was very surprised at his reaction, and realize now that I regret how badly we ended. At this point, I would love to reconcile and make amends; I just don’t know how or where to start. (He has an outdated phone that he hardly uses, most contact was through facebook/skype; don’t think he uses skype anymore.) I’m also embarrassed by my “crazy” actions post breakup and don’t want to suddenly come on too strong by sending him an email out of nowhere etc.

He was honestly a great boyfriend and we had a great relationship; I was his first girlfriend, first love, he was very genuine and innocent. His rude/cold actions definitely took me by surprise. Any advice would be appreciated!

admin

June 7, 2014 at 4:51 pm

How old are the two of you.
Isabel

June 7, 2014 at 5:04 pm

He’s 18 right now and I’m 19. any suggestions on how to handle the situation? :/ or should I not attempt at all

L

June 5, 2014 at 9:08 pm

Hi Chris. I have a huge problem. My ex broke up with me more than a month ago thru text he said he was so tired of me and stressed and getting crazy so he decided to break up with me. I got tired of him too as he’s not the only one who got too stressed so I agreed to his decision . Few days after, i found out he blocked me on facebook and other social media. I lost my phone so I couldnt get in touch with him so I had no choice. I tried contacting him through a friend I borrowed my friend’s phone and texted him after a week. He said that he’s doing absolutely fine without me and saying that he feels appreciated now ( he really feels I don’t appreciate him even if i do which I couldnt change ) so I decided to not contact him anymore. 3 weeks after I found out he’s already dating another girl from a mutual friend. It crashed me as i burst into tears I started drinking alone and think about it. Why so fast? all of a sudden he sent me a message on facebook (he unblocked me then blocked again) saying that he’s now happy with his new gf and he hopes I move on then he said goodbye. Maybe our mutual friend told him that i asked about him so he decided to send me a message. Now, I don’t know what to do. I’m starting to lose hope since there’s no way to contact him anymore. I’m so down and depressed. :'( I want to talk to him but just a thought of him being with someone else makes me lose my guts. I’m afraid to be rejected if I talk to him. But I miss him so much. I’ve been trying to avoid dating other men these days and doing my best to make it myself. I still don’t know what to do. I want him back. Should I still talk to him? I want to move on.. But there are things that are still unclear to me. I can’t open up to my friends anymore. I regret letting him go. Is there still hope for us? :'(

admin

June 6, 2014 at 5:33 pm

Have you attempted the no contact rule yet?

Lauretta

June 3, 2014 at 4:48 am

Hi Chris
Basically I made all the mistakes we’re not suppose to after he broke up with me. I cried, I begged and when he didn’t respond the way I wanted him to I hurled insults his way. Needless to say he ended up changing his number and e-mail, unfriended me on facebook and all other social networks. It has been 2 weeks since we last interacted and my question is how will he even know that I’m ignoring him during the NC if he’s blocked me in every way possible. Is the situation redeemable?

admin

June 5, 2014 at 5:19 pm

Of course it is! It may take a little time though.

Roxy

June 2, 2014 at 2:24 pm

Even though my ex blocked last week on Whatsapp, he sent me a friend request on BBM last night. I have 7 days left to complete NC! My questions are:

1. Do I accept his request on BBM during my NC period?
2. Am I seeing progress or what?! 😀 haha
Roxy

May 26, 2014 at 4:54 pm

Hey Chris, I’m on day 17 of my NC. My ex boyfriend sent me a Whatsapp 2 weeks ago (while I was in NC), so I did not respond. Today, he’s blocked me on Whatsapp.

1. Is that a good sign?
2. Should I reduce my NC to 21 days?

admin

May 27, 2014 at 2:37 pm

1. Neutral id say.
2. No stay in 30.
Roxy

May 27, 2014 at 3:28 pm

I don’t understand what you mean by neutral. If he made the effort to block me then it must be an emotional trigger, right?

Vanessa

May 24, 2014 at 3:13 am

I guess broke up with me thru text no definitive I don’t wanna b with u. He did it thru text saying I can’t stand making u unhappy anymore.ur always mad at me for shit. I never complained. I just voiced disappointment with how i wished hed let me know he was off early when I went to his job to surprise him but he said he was coming to see me after he saw his dad. I asked how long bc i had seen him barely a fee hours that week he said an hour hopefully. I said ok and he took it like my tone was mad. He refused to answer my calls.I always told him how much I loved him and tried so hard to be supportive. That week before he tolf me know muxh he missed and lived me.When I ever said anything small it was always mw being negative when I barely asked for him to let me know someoen else needed him so I wasn’t waiting hours not knowing.he took it like I was mad like he always does. I get how busy he is and accepted.i told him if it was really over please leave my key under my mat which was 5 days ago.i told him how much I loved him and that I wasn’t mad never am just disappointed. No key. But he unfriended me at first on fb and posted how great his day 3 days later and the unfriended me. When he unfriended me i called and he was drunk as b*tter and I asked by unfriending me does that mean it’s over and he held out the phone ans I could tell he was at a bar and hung up a min later. I don’t know what to think.after unfriending me he blocked me .His mom is still friends with me ans I never ever voiced anything negative about him or what happened.i feel like all this hurt me who’s clueless more than him. I just Don’t know if he’ll cool down and talk to me or if it’s completely donw. No communication no nothing. Please help
abbi

May 22, 2014 at 3:29 pm

19 days no contact.
Nearly slipped today so I’ve decided to type here instead 😀
His whatsapp is still deleted but it doesn’t look like I’ve been blocked on anything

Does that suggest he LIKES the feeling/ego stroke of being contacted?
Almost back in my arms

May 22, 2014 at 1:53 am

After my last sad post where confessed that I spilled my guts in a FB message, Chris sent me an e-mail reminding me that I was acting desperate. Well, I will say that I felt so dumb after my spilled guts, that I finally got the patience to do a full NC. During this NC, I got the idea that he didn’t need to see all my FB posts “for free,” so I set them for friends only. About a week after my NC, HE RE-FRIENDED ME. I’m still playing it cool. Now I have to work on reeling him on in. PRAYER WORKS! THANK YOU CHRIS!

admin

May 22, 2014 at 4:05 pm

Your welcome.

Nicole

May 20, 2014 at 4:31 am

Hi chris! I been on here months ago talking about my situation that happened in October (I tried to contact you on google plus) but I have an interesting situation. So back in jan was the last time me and my ex talked, I don’t have Facebook and I unfollowed him on Instagram so I don’t see anything of us. So last week my ex liked this one photo of mine on Instagram that I posted weeks ago and this is what it said since it was a quote photo: “she moved on and I feel sorry for you. Because she thought you were the most amazing boy ever, if she could have any guy in the world she would have picked you, now your just another part of her past, a memory faded everyday and someday she’ll find the one she deserves and he will make her the happiest girl in the world.” Then right after he liked it he unfollowed me. I would understand if he did it right after the break up like I did but it’s been 7 months later and I know he was looking at my page. My page is still on public though. So what does that even mean if he has done that?? It’s not like the break up was fresh or anything. Could it be he’s sad on looking at my stuff now? I been posting fun photos of me with friends and pictures of me enjoying life in vet school too. What do you think??

Nicole

May 23, 2014 at 3:43 pm

Anything on what you think? It’s been bothering me since it happened.
Kandy

June 2, 2014 at 4:39 pm

That happened to me too, he suddenly deleted me on Facebook and Instagram after 7 months it happened….it might be him getting pissed off with all my happy (in your face) pictures or his new girlfriend forced him? He hadn’t blocked me on whatsapp etc so I guess he’s just sick of seeing my updates or his girlfriend can see I’m on those list (and not whatsapp)?

Ah no point losing sleep over this!
Let’s continue living our happy life 🙂
admin

June 5, 2014 at 4:59 pm

Either way I would look at it as a good sign.

If his new gf forced him to then that means she feels threatened and that insecurity will shine through.
If he blocked you/deleted you then that means you are still on his mind and seeing your pictures bugs him b/c he is a little jealous.

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