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2,553 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

  1. Isabel

    March 7, 2015 at 2:21 am

    You are the best! Thank you for giving such a great breakdown of nearly every possible reason and outcome for his actions. There is a part of me that hopes to get him back but it’s not the main goal. We work together (shoot me) and after my month vacation away from the workplace, I have to see him everyday. I love what I do for a living so reading this actually helped me realize he did me a favor. I think not contacting him will help me become better and I may not even want him back after that. Who knows! But either way it’s a win-win! Thanks again.
    – Isabel

    1. admin

      March 7, 2015 at 6:12 pm

      Wow thanks so much for commenting Isabel!

      You have a perfect attitude.

  2. Jennifer

    March 5, 2015 at 7:09 pm

    Hi Chris, my name is Jennifer and I am 25 years old. My boyfriend of 3 years, who is 27 years old, broke up with me about 2 weeks ago. He broke up with me because we had been fighting this past year about a few different things. I’m usually a quiet person, so he told me that he doesn’t always want to be the one talking in the relationship and he said that he wants someone who challenges his more, which I don’t completely understand. I also tried calling and texting him during the first week we broke up, but he told me to stop and said he doesn’t want to work on our relationship anymore. I even contacted his friends and family to see if they could help; they told me just to stay strong and that it’s between me and him. He even blocked me on Facebook and most likely blocked my phone number on iPhone. His reason for blocking me is that is how he deals with things. The very last thing I said to him was that I do understand and if he needs anything to let me know. He said likewise, just give me some time.
    I have been using the no contact rule and have been focusing on myself. But I would like to know when and how I should contact him, because I really do want him back.
    I do want to thank you so much for your help Chris! Your website has really been helping me through this difficult time!

    1. Jennifer

      March 8, 2015 at 11:15 pm

      Hi Chris! Just following up to see if you can give me any advice on what I should do about my situation. Thanks!

    2. admin

      March 13, 2015 at 3:42 pm

      Hi Jennifer, how can I help?

      I am getting around to answering everyone today.

    3. Jennifer

      March 19, 2015 at 11:42 pm

      Hi Chris, Thanks for asking how you can help! I can explain my situation again:
      My boyfriend of 3 years broke up with me recently, because he was bored with our relationship and told me that I don’t challenge him enough. Of course I begged him to come back after he broke up with me, but he told me to stop contacting him. He blocked me on Facebook and possibly my number (iPhone makes it hard to tell if you have been blocked or not). I am now currently on day 21 of no contact, and I have really been focusing on myself, and working on my awareness and acceptance.
      When I am ready to, do you think I should mail him a letter telling him that I accepted the breakup. And say that I also have had a lot of exciting things happen and would like to tell him about it when he’s ready? (A lot of positive things have really happened to me). I feel like a letter would be a little more effective, instead of texting since I don’t know if he blocked my number.
      I would really appreciate your help, because I do want him back, and I know working on myself would give my exboyfriend and I, a new relationship. Thanks so much in advance!

  3. val

    March 5, 2015 at 2:59 am

    Hi Chris,
    My ex bf broke up with me when we argued over text a month ago. He blocked me everywhere except whatsapp and told me not to contact him until May. Initially I continued to whatsapp him but stopped since a week ago. I don’t want to lose him and am taking small steps to improve myself until May comes. He is a stubborn and hotheaded guy when it comes to me being petty over trivial stuff. He forgave me time and again but I didn’t work being a better person. Is there a way for me to salvage this relationship when May comes? Thanks Chris.

    1. admin

      March 7, 2015 at 5:34 pm

      I wouldn’t put a timeframe on it to be honest…

      Once you do that you limit yourself.

  4. Ava

    March 4, 2015 at 7:37 am

    Hello, well my exboyfriend and i wwere living together up until recently, he had decided to move back home and his reasons were tosave on gas and to be closer to his job. So i was ok with that because we are expecting a baby girl soon. So a day goes by, and he hasn’t called me or text. The next day i text him and he still doesnt respond so immediately im outraged and hurt so i admit i keep texting him asking if he’s dealing with someone else and with surprise he text me back telling me he’s tired of me accusing him and that was that…its been almost a week now and he’s called me once and said he can’t say he loves me and for me to let go. I cried for hours wondering why did i push to that point. So i tried to call him to apologize only to find out that he has blocked from everything now im even more hurt. What should i do especially because im pregnant

    1. admin

      March 5, 2015 at 8:40 pm

      You are currently pregnant?

    2. Jazmine

      March 6, 2015 at 9:59 pm

      Hi! I was engaged 11 years ago to an amazing man and I pushed him away. I was only 21 years old, immature and didn’t know any better. After one year of engagement, I broke it off as I really wanted to finish college before anything else and because I started having fun too. Before college, I never went out to nightclubs with friends or anything like that. He stayed friends with me saying he’d be patient as he knew we belonged with each other (and I enjoyed having him around). But I started dating someone else about a year after I broke off the engagement but I never told him about it (we were still in communication). The guy I dated was a pshycho and the law had to get involved. During this time, my ex-fiance stayed with me and he even went with me to court. Then my mother passed away and he was there with me too! After that, I saw him once when he asked me for a book I had borrowed and that was the last time I saw him. We only talked briefly and he told me “I had changed”. Then he disconnected his phone and I was not able to get a hold of him. I let him be… then I found out he started his career (in 2009) so he started traveling a lot (and still does).
      I have dated other men but my ex-fiance is still in my mind. In 2011, he started e-mailing me (I no longer have a phone # for him or address and we’re not Facebook friends – no friends in common either). I was so happy to hear from him and I was more than happy thinking I could get another chance with him. During our e-mails he told me he still cared about me. I was so happy since it was going good (or so I thought). But then BOOM!! All communication stopped (it was only about 5 e-mails per year)! In 2013, I told him I would like to meet him and he said he couldn’t because of work (even when I offered to come to his location). That was the last time I was able to get a reply from him. I emailed him again in 2014 (twice) but didn’t get a response… is it too late for me? Your sincerity is greatly appreciated.

  5. Nafisa

    March 4, 2015 at 4:29 am

    Hi! So I’m really stressed out and this lead me to this website! I’m in a long distance relationship for almost two years and I visited my bf a few months back he was also going to come where I live. However we fight a lot, and we broke up a lot of times but we eventually got back together again. I feel like he doesn’t want me anymore and lost interest on me but then he shuts me up and gets mad if he hears this. We were talking though phone about a week ago and I was a bit cranky so we had a stupid and meaningless argument which was he was making faces to me on FaceTime and when I told him to talk to me he said he got nothing to say,then I said hang up and go sleep. He hung up on my face like he does all the time and he never called me again. After two days he blocked me from everywhere except facebook. I texted him on facebook I started freaking out after 5days cause I just can’t be without him he’s 5 years older than me btw and both of our families know about us. So yeah he did this to me for a really stupid reason we were not even fighting. It was his birthday today and when I wished him I found out I’m blocked from whatsapp too I felt really bad cause it’s always me who’s trying to hold on to it and he always gives up but I haven’t seen a guy cry like he does for me

    1. admin

      March 5, 2015 at 8:34 pm

      Did you read my long distance relationship page yet?

  6. Niki

    March 3, 2015 at 8:08 am

    Hello,
    My ex and I had a very strong relationship
    Now that we are not together
    He blocked me from instagram but yesterday night he unblocked but again blocked me when I had commented on his guy friends picture.
    What does that mean?

    1. admin

      March 3, 2015 at 10:07 pm

      It means he is watching you from afar and appears to be jealous.

  7. Laura

    March 2, 2015 at 5:18 am

    I posted a picture on snapchat of a random guy and myself I met a bar because I knew my ex was looking at the snaps. Immediately after he saw that picture he blocked me from all social media and I mean all. He still hasn’t blocked me from his phone though (I think). What do you think this means?

    1. admin

      March 2, 2015 at 9:56 pm

      It means he is jealous and upset and taking it out on you.

    2. Laura

      March 3, 2015 at 4:52 am

      Do you think I screwed up my chances by doing this? I wasn’t really thinking at the time about the consequences and I feel like I should’ve never done it.

  8. Sandra

    March 1, 2015 at 11:02 pm

    Hi chris.
    Thank you for this page I red it much before when I wanted my ex back. My ex is a long stort but after he broke up with me in april last year, he still had control over me and treated me so bad. But I loved him and would do anything to get him back, just found out that he was psychological abusing me.. Anyway. I have mooved on but still I think of my ex sometimes because I was so hurt by him. I moved on at last and this year I met a new guy. I felt better and my ex who told me that he was happy and that he would find a better girl got what he want, I moved on. Now, he has contantly blocked and unblocked me on Facebook. I Don’t know why. Then one day I took away the private thing on instagram because I were in a competition. I have a pribate instagram so that my ex can’t see what I am doing. But the same Night he went in om my page and liked an old meningfull picture on my mother and also unblocked me on fb.
    That was some weeks ago. And recently I had my birthday, that day, the guy that I am dating put up a photo of me and him on my Facebook page and wrote a cute text. I saw that my ex blocked me on Facebook that day and also on instagram. Why did he do that? And also the next day he tried to add my best friend on snapchat but she declined it. Then he came to my friends party when he wasn’t invited and I was out of town that day and then he followed my 2 best friends home in the night. Why does he do all those things? I really Don’t wanna think about it but i would be thankful for you answer… Why did he block me when I had my birthday and my friends and the guy I am dating putted up a picture of us?
    Hope you might have an answer to this

    1. admin

      March 2, 2015 at 9:33 pm

      He probably is hurt to see you happy.

      Thats my guess.

  9. Sky

    March 1, 2015 at 4:57 pm

    Hi Christ!
    My situation is weird. We really never have a break up we were having an awesome time together until he told me he needed to block me from facebook for a day or two saying that his kids were visiting him and he doesn’t want them to know about us yet. He blocked me in case I will send him a message or something and the kids were around. When they were gone he unblocks me and we continue like nothing happens.
    2 years long distance relationship with this guy, he visited me around 5 times in which we had a great time together, we never have a fight. He is very caring and respectful and treats me really nice. He lost his job and I lend him money and use my cc to pay for some bills. Well, I found out he used my credit card to order some pizza for his kids without my consent, and when I confronted him in a nice way he denied it even though I have all the proof that he ordered online and charge $75 to my card and the pizza was delivered to his place. Since I confronted him he is been acting cold and distant and doesn’t spend a lot of time in facebook like before. He told me he was going to pay me for everything but just to give him more time until he gets a better job. We used to talk for hours and hours and he is now only a few minutes on facebook. A week ago I receive an inbox message from his facebook, but this time it is his ex wife saying that he is been using me all this time and I will never see the money I lend him. That she doesn’t want him and to please take him with me and disappear from her life.
    When I send him messages asking him what is going on, the ex wife is the one responding, but I enter into his friend’s profiles and I see him having recent conversations with them. And he is not sending me any message at all, like I said she is the one sending them from his facebook and now she is asking me if I can give her some proof that we really met and that I know him in person, because it is very important for her to know that this is not an online relationship.
    I’m been ignoring the messages for the last 4 days. And the messages keep coming asking for the proofs.
    What to do? I really like this guy, there is no other way I can contact him but facebook, but I don’t want to look clingy or desperate. I don’t know if they are back together and he doesn’t have the guts to tell me. I don’t know if I should drive all the way to his house and confront him … this is driving me nuts because I really don’t want him to get away with it and be taken for granted. It is a lot of money that I lend him and it is not fair just to forget about it.
    Everything seemed so perfect between us and I don’t know what to do. Please advice…. Thanks

  10. Zahraa

    February 28, 2015 at 12:39 pm

    Firstly, let me say thanks for all the information on this website it’s been a great help for me as well for others I’m sure. Second, I’m not so “eager” to get my ex back, but more looking for a situation evaluation from a guy. My ex and I stopped talking to each other about a year a go, well he did. At the end we said hurtful things to each other which I’m sure none of us mean it, which resulted in me blocked him as you said “emotions run high logic run low”. After few months when I finally pulled my self together and have a clear mind, I realized what an immature thing that I did and things shouldn’t be ending this way, so I sent an email to my ex as this way less personal and more formal because of our “delicate” situation. I apologized for my behavior and the harmful words that came out of my mouth and how I never meant them, I also told him that I moved on and hoping that we deal with our situation in a better way and maybe we could be friends. A couple of days later I found out that he blocked me on Facebook and my family but kept my best friend on which they are not really friends (kinda strange), but didn’t block me on other applications like whatsapp, skype etc. and I don’t know about his phone I never actually tried to call after we stopped talking. Also a month ago I tried to contact him about something entirely different on whatsapp, it only said “hi” to start a conversation and he never replied. He saw it and kept checking like every 5 minutes if I’m still on ( I actually know that because I did it too) and just like that, he never replied in both times that I contacted him. Now, as I said before I’m not eager to get him back, I still have feelings and kinda miss him but the whole getting back thing, I’m just leaving it to chance. He wasn’t the first relationship I have but more like the first “serious relationship” I have. I’m in a good place and I feel good about myself. It’s just I don’t understand what happened back there, I need a guy to explain how guys think and you are the expert :).

    1. Zahraa

      March 17, 2015 at 12:37 pm

      Never mind, I got the answer.. It turned out he is engaged to be married. I’m very disappointed.

    2. admin

      March 18, 2015 at 8:49 pm

      Shucks…

      Well, do you need help moving on?

    3. Zahraa

      March 28, 2015 at 12:06 am

      yeah, I’d really use some advice now, if you can help 🙂 this was the deepest and most serious relationship I ever had (at least to me).

    4. admin

      March 29, 2015 at 2:32 pm

      Sure, what exactly can I help you with?

  11. Lyn

    February 26, 2015 at 1:51 pm

    Hi, I have dated this man for 2 years. We both planned to get married soon after I’ll finish my studies. However, he had met a girl few months back. To cut it short, he had cheated on me. When I found out, he told me that the girl was just a mistakes and we still on going with the relationship. However, he seems to be unhappy. Thus, I had made a contact to the girl and told her to be with him again. Seeing someone that you really love being unhappy is gonna hurt me more. However, the girl refused to because she felt bad about it and she does not even really into this man for he had been irresponsible of abandoning her before and choose to be with me. My boyfriend is more on dilemma and I give him space and time that he wants by applying the NC rule. He had approached the girl but the girl refused to entertain. He had not making any decision whether to break up with me or not. But, he told the girl that he had been single for quite a long time which we both women knows that it was untrue. The day he sent a lengthy messages to the girl which she had forwarded it to me. Subsequently, I’d forwarded the same message to him and asking for explanation. Despite of giving explanation, he was rude to me. I replied him in a rude way which I’d never did that to him before and I know he admitted it too. He knows that I was a very good girlfriend to him but for the first time I acted this way, he seems to point it out as my mistakes that he can’t resist. I was so sad and disappointed trying to point of the reason why I am doing this. I told him that we just wanted to know the truth. Unfortunately, he’s blamed me for ruined his plan of unable to get back to the girl that she cheated on me. The girl and I was only telling each other the truth. I told her that he didn’t end up this relationship well and the girl told me too few bad things about the guy that she don’t even trusted the man anymore. She had realized it long time ago but not only because what I had said. But, he seems to put the blame on me alone. What should I do, he seems to blocked me on FB now, which he never did it before. We had some mutual friends on FB and i was told that he was posted something saying I am give him a bad name. I do not know whether I need to explain the whole thing but I knew whatever I am going to say he still look at me as I am the bad one. But, didn’t he think about all his lies to both of us that cause all this consequences? To be honest, I still love him for who he is, and I want him back. He never gets this angry before.

    1. admin

      March 1, 2015 at 6:18 pm

      Did you listen to my podcast over this situation?

  12. Shravya

    February 26, 2015 at 10:14 am

    hey chris,
    i met this one guy (lets say A) last year in my coaching classes (april 2014). i fell for him at the sight. but i dint do anything hard to get him. i just sent him an fb request. he accepted immediately also sent a hi … i replied n this initiated our chat, it went on well and we used to chat 3 hours evryday.. he had jst comeout from a tragic love story where a girl said she loved him n he dint..later he fell for her and she refused to get along with him.. he was madly in love with her for the next 3 years, all his friends finally helped him get over her.. n i too joined in..i made sure that i’ll restore his happy days and so askd him to smile always n whenevr i enter the class i looked straight up at him first..n he tooo noticed and used to give me a cheerful smile… it all went on well and we became best friends… i caught him staring at me many a times. he never forgot to say hi n bye, waited till i left the place, kept track on where n wat was i doing..he noticed evrything about me too..i complimented him on his clothes n he wore the same pair of clothes for the whole next week…the best part was i n he were 99% similar in our likes and dislikes..our fav color, football player, hobbies, interests, caste, community and evrything of ours matched..except that he was a chess player and i was an artist…. we were all happy and cheerful about our friendship, n one fine day i couldnt resist and told two of his close friends ( one guy n the other gal) about my feelings for him.. we all four were online on fb n then they both askd him about me.. n his reply was ” i jst consider her as my friend, she is not soo pretty” ..our mutual friends informed me about this ..i was heartbroken, cse i deeply had a gut feeling that he too likes me the way i do.. i put myself togeda and said thm i jst wanted to kw the truth that i too dnt hav any feeling for him… i told him too..he dint talk properly to me the next day at class, and i got soo desperate that i asked him whether it was the same matter that was bothering him? he said yes. he told that one of my best friend (guy) had told him that i liked him..n this led to more confusion coz i claimed i dint like him but my besties n his besties told him i liked him… i immediately called my best friend and threatened him to tell who told him n y he did it..that too infront of the whole class… ‘A’ immediately tried to calm me down n told that he wont mind n letz forgo that matter….i agreed.. after a few days.. we still went well…but not like how we used to be in the beginning.. later one day during the break he n me n our friends togeda went down to snack during our break… we came back to class togeda.. he removed his footwear n kept it at a corner..i too kept it in the same rack but in the other corner… after the class he was searching his shoes n i called him n pointed the place where he had kept it… he thanked me n i cldnt help..i looked down n blushed pink! i came home n when we chatted on fb that day…he thanked me again for the shoes n askd me if i really care so much that i remember where he had kept his shoes… i said yep.. dn he askd y i was blushing…. n nw i cldnt resist anymore..i jst indirectly gav him soo many clues abt my feelings…. i askd him if he understood..he said yes..bt dint respond much…. after that he had a chess competion n he got busy…. i too dint bother him cse i was afraid of rejection in case i approach him… so i kept quite… we slowly lost contact and dint chat much..dint smile, dint see each ada..dint talk much..no hi n bye too…… after few days i gathered hopes n askd him to tell me if anything was bothering him..he replied saying he wanted to be left alone n that he wasnt in a mood to chat…i got kindoff offended n so askd him if he was showing me his otherwise attitude n told him to stop being annoyed easily …. he got frustrated..he said ‘i dont want ur advice..thankyou’….n then he dint reply…i lost control n tried to console him n askd him to c our previous texts n kw hw much i care about him n so i get angry when he shows attitude…!! he saw the text bt dint reply… i dn backed off…. later nxt day i spoke to his many close friends and asked thm y is he frustrated nowadays..they dint kw the reason n said he told thm to leave him alone…. after that his best friend (guy)who i had first told abt my feeling ..txtd me n askd me if i really liked him…i said “no…i hate him..” later maybe he sent this to ‘A’ … he told me that ‘A’ told him that he was going to block me….i told i dint care…
    after that day he blocked me… stopped talking n ignored me soo hard n made me feel i dint exist…. i thought i’ll giv him time…bt my feelings for him grew more n more… i too ignored him..bt secretly stared at him hoping evrything will be alright soon! it dint..n on friendship day i had made a special greeting card on chess theme that slides to show the message…i had written an apology poem..also bought a friendship band for him… that day before the class i stood outside waiting for him to arrive… he came…immediately i called him … he ignored…i called him again loudly… he acted deaf n when into the class….. ! completely dissapointed i went into the class n acted normal though i was crying inside…. i tied bands to all his friends n my friends except him!
    n i decided to forget him n move on…. i tried ..bt cldnt… bt i too yet act like he doesnt exist… i always smile bt put on a stern face incase our eyes meet by mistake…. he used to show me middlefinger incase eyes glance over him… i recently got to know he has a crush on a gal too…i kw her… she likes a guy who likes me… but i like ‘A’ he is my true love….plez help me get him back!

  13. Alexander

    February 25, 2015 at 8:06 pm

    So can the same rules apply If I am a guy and was Blocked by a female?

    1. admin

      February 25, 2015 at 10:10 pm

      Yes, but Alexander… you should check out my other site, Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

  14. Jennie

    February 25, 2015 at 1:59 pm

    Well I had a misunderstanding with this guy and I sent him Something on whatsapp, I only just downloaded the programme, this guy I am into has the app also, it said his last seen status when I joined Was One week earlier, I sent him a photo of the present a song and another photo of me, I had bought for him for Valentine’s day, was going to give him when I saw him, he lives overseas, he sent me a message I don’t care, I don’t want anything from you, You give me Space, and Peace, after sending it he logged back in 1 hour later, and then again later that night, he then came on the next day, and has been on everyday multiple times, I Wondered if he was coming on ever since he knows I have known got the programme, and Thats where I sent him photos etc, and before I installed it was a week earlier, so It seemed that he very rarely used the programme. Everytime he comes on he’s on 1 minute, sometimes less so not really long enough to do anything what do you think?

    1. admin

      February 25, 2015 at 10:04 pm

      Did you read the entire program?

    2. Jennie

      February 27, 2015 at 2:48 pm

      Forgot To add on my post,that after we had the misunderstanding/argument,he had blocked me the next day on facebook,that’s why I got Whatsapp,and his last seen status on whatsapp,after I installed the app,was a week earlier,so he was rarely on it,now he’s going on everyday,sometimes 6 times,or more,when before he never used,but after I sent him things on there,he’s now coming on all the time,sometimes only staying on a minute,sometimes slightly longer,but still only a few minutes

    3. Jennie

      February 27, 2015 at 2:50 pm

      Forgot to also add I have been doing what he said,I have not sent him anything else or said anything to him since Valentine’s day.

  15. blocked and broken

    February 24, 2015 at 9:14 pm

    my ex and i were on and off for 2 years and recentley he left and blocked me on facebook saying he hurts me to much and he cant do that anymore. so when i called him he said he was sorry but he cant do this… and that we fight way to much… i would say, yeah we fight but its not bad, its more of a cute argument… i get mad he says i look sexy when im mad and i laugh and get over it haha we were the typical “Notebook couple” but now idk if hes going to comeback… i love him so much… ive known him since 4th grade… i cant lose my baby… i just dont understand because i mean i moved to montana and he is in washington but he told me he was coming up this summer and that he had a ring and was going to propose and that we could make it though this and then that night he left… i dont know what to do… i cant text him but i can call… but i dont even know what i would say… “hey… what did i do?” idk… i just want him back…

    1. admin

      February 25, 2015 at 9:20 pm

      Well, calling is better than nothing. I might try a NC period before you call though. He may end up unblocking you on text.

  16. Camille

    February 24, 2015 at 9:14 am

    Great site! will share with friends. 🙂 what about the following scenario: he contacts you (apparently accidentally) and then blocks you right afterwards? I don’t know what to make of it. I just find it funny.

    1. admin

      February 24, 2015 at 9:47 pm

      Hahaha I find it funny too!

      Seems like he is just trying to get your attention to me.

  17. Wang

    February 23, 2015 at 4:55 am

    my ex broke up with me for 4 months already, but no contact since the end of January because i knew him was hanging out with a girl a lot, so I got jealous and told him I need to blocked him, otherwise I cannot treat him as real friend (i know i was so stupid, the fact I still in love with him) and told him i cannot be friends and tried to move on. I was hoping him to contact me but it never happened. after a month I unblocked him and try to be friend and he told me he doesn’t want to be friend at all. I know he is single and the girl is just a friend. I wanted to see him, but he doesn’t want to see me either. So after the last conversation, he was really cold to me and blocked me on gmail, but i can still message him on fb or call him if i want. But i never do so because i think he needs time to cool off the tension. However I think he is a very proud guy, he may never try to contact me himself, What should I do in my case? wait for couple months more before I contact him? I am afraid he will never be friend with me again. I don’t know what type of block he is thinking at all.

  18. LDR and blocked

    February 22, 2015 at 6:29 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I love the podcast and the website. I heard the entire podcast! 🙂
    I am in an icky situation- I met this guy through my cousin and clicked instantly. He lives on the East Coast, so it automatically was a “LDR” once I returned home to San Francisco. We had been talking for 5 months, and met twice during that period.

    We got into a disagreement/misunderstanding over texting 3 weeks ago. I called him right away, but he didn’t answer. I text him the next day. No answer. I decided to give him space and contacted him a week later. Nothing. Then again 5 days after that (I was a little annoyed and left a voicemail & 2 texts), but I think he had blocked me by then. 5 days after that he drops me as a friend on Facebook.

    I implemented the NC last week (considering he possibly blocked me). Now here’s the thing- I’m supposed to visit my cousin for St Patricks day. The NC ends right then, but I have 4 days to initiate contact & meet- because I don’t know when I’ll visit again. Any advice?
    2nd question- he was meant to be my date for an event in April. I don’t know how to go about it. He had already bought his ticket.

    Please help!!!

    1. admin

      February 23, 2015 at 9:18 pm

      Well, there is a new episode to the podcast today so technically you haven’t heart it all ;).

      I think I am going to do another long distance episode so you can stay tuned for that.

      Keep to that NC!

  19. hurt

    February 22, 2015 at 2:03 pm

    I was dumped 8 days ago. His birthday is in three days. Can I wish him for his birthday via text in NC phase? Thank you.

    1. blocked

      February 24, 2015 at 9:06 pm

      just say “happy birthday i hope your day goes great.” and be done with it. he may say thanks or say nothing but it doesnt sound needy so you wont seem desperate.

  20. captivating

    February 21, 2015 at 8:05 am

    hi me and my exboyfriend just broke up yesterday. we met through OKC. and then he always message me there.. and he ask for my number..we always text or fb message for one month.. until we decided to meet up. We got along so fine.. and the next day he decided to visit me at my house. and we become bf -gf. After a week he will go to a party with his friends and he wants me to fetch him and go to my place. And we make love… the next day he texted that he has a problem. he told me that i might get pregnant.. and he wants to break up with me.. and then he texted me and his last meassage i didn’t response to his message.. after one day… i decided to message him on facebook.. i told him if we can go for a coffee or lunch coz i wanted to talk to him. i told him that i need to be told in person. so he agreed. and he told me that he still loves me and miss me.. and on that night he wants to get back together.. and i agreed. So we get back together. We always text each other and call. we see each other twice a week.. he spends his time with me on my birthday and also on valentines day. and then.. last thursday night he told me that he really loves me so much and he can’t wait to see me.. and when i woke up i received a message from him that he wants to break up with me coz he is becoming a bad person. i told him i want to see him and talk to him and i want our break ups to be in a formal way.. but he didn’t agree. he told me he cant see me and told me that there’s nothing wrong with me . the proble is with him. he also told me that he still loves me but he can’t stay with me.. i didn’t reply to his last message. when i checked his fb.. he blocked me. which hurts me alot. i dont know what to do now.. please help.

    1. admin

      February 22, 2015 at 4:44 pm

      You should listen to my podcast on blocking!

      Seriously it would be incredibly helpful for you.

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