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guest
March 23, 2015 at 5:40 pm
this article is false. if your getting blocked, then im tried of dealing with your bullshit. I have no regrets, if your trying to get back with your ex then you have some serious issues with moving on and letting things go.
admin
March 24, 2015 at 9:06 pm
Hi There,
Thanks for your comment.
I understand your position but could you please not berate the people trying to repair their love lives. I understand your position but please show some respect to the other readers of this article.
stephanie
March 23, 2015 at 7:52 am
Hello , my name is stephanie, my ex broke up with me a week ago because i became a model and send the pictures to a bunch of my friends because i was so excited , some of them were guys , he went throw my phone and got very upset (although he didnt show it the day he saw the pics ) that i had send them to guys and the next morning he send me a message saying” ive seen u send the pictures that were suppose to be only for my eyes to hella guys , and all this other bs, dont ever talk to me again im so serious , dont even reply, im done with u and were offically through.” This came as a shock to me because for the past year i was madly in love woth him and he loved me every much to , after i read that message i broke down and blow up his phone , he blocked me from everthing (fb and instragram and phone ) i was very upset and desperate for his my first love i did the mistake to try to cobtact him every way possible but every phone i used he blocked n including visting him twice , he pushed me off and i feel so heart broken because i thought he was the one , i still think that . it there any hope for me ?
admin
March 24, 2015 at 8:49 pm
Have you attempted the NC rule?
LC2015
March 22, 2015 at 10:32 pm
I already buy your e book but i never get your response
admin
March 24, 2015 at 8:13 pm
Hi there,
I am so sorry I didn’t give you a response.
I am having trouble keeping up will all the inquries and your might have fallen through the cracks.
Caroline
March 22, 2015 at 7:39 pm
Well I’ve been reading this site for 10 months now! Apart from two genuine accidental running into each other in town there’s been NC since a text dump out of the blue. We never argued, just days before he was excited about our future plans, that were his idea! Mainly me moving in and I was making major life changes towards this goal.
I’ve had no chance to discuss why he broke it off with him (I could go to his house I suppose but that’s a bit bunny boiler), I can’t move on without knowing what was wrong, I feel we should learn and grow from experiences and relationships. I can’t move on when I want him back either!
He suggested we should be friends and he needed space. Which he got thanks to NC, he then a few months later blocked me on facebook out of the blue (we were no longer fb friends anyway).
Now soon I will be in the same room as him for a thing. I’m furious on one hand that he can be my friend for years, my lover for a couple of those and then discard me with no proper goodbye. So disrespectful. I wonder perhaps because I am so easy going he mistook this for being a doormat, he has never seen me cross. So perhaps I should let it out. Or do I just be sexy and indifferent in his presence? The latter will probably prolong the agony of me hanging on though. Without an answer there is still hope.
Thing is I’m so angry the sex would be mindblowing if I got him back. Such a missed opportunity.
admin
March 24, 2015 at 8:06 pm
10 months!
Wow, your a veteran.
Question, why do you want him back?
What is your reason for wanting him back?
I am curious.
Caroline
March 25, 2015 at 3:27 pm
Because when I am with him it feels like I’m finally home. I don’t trust easily. I finally met someone I could let in. I have just never known anyone like him. It was the happiest time of my life.
He made me a better person, challenged me and I could be the whole me. According to him I did the same for him, I do hope so. There’s a bit missing now.
I miss him as a friend terribly too.
And yeah the sex was out of this world.
Caroline
April 2, 2015 at 8:00 am
Well NC is broken!
It was flirty and happy, he was very complimentary on my looks and how I was in our relationship. Because he is currently having an awful time with the girl he left me for.
Told me he made a bad choice.
Then I saw him again a few days later. More flirting.
He smiles at me like he used to, it’s still there.
I need to work out my next move!
Sandra
March 21, 2015 at 9:05 pm
We had been dating for about four months. We were inseparable. We spoke of marriage, traveling, moving in together. He even said she’s a keeper and the one in front of his parents. I got pregnant, he wanted an abortion, I did it without him, then he started hating me because he felt I cut him off by not telling him the date or giving him a choice. We tried hanging out again but he was distant. For a month we fought on and off. A few nights ago he deleted me off fb, snapchat, unfollowed me on Instagram. I messaged him asking him what he gains from making me fall in love with him so deeply to cut me off so cold. He said he doesn’t love me anymore and wants nothing to do with me, not even friends. Wants to close all doors so I can move on and heal. I love him, and I can look past all the bad because the good was worth it.
I sent him a text, but it’s been two days he hasn’t read it. Does that mean he’s blocked me on his phone?
Is there any hope for me being back with him!
admin
March 22, 2015 at 5:31 pm
But he wanted the abortion?
I thought he’d be happy.
Not neccessarily. It might mean he is just ignoring you.
LC2015
March 20, 2015 at 3:51 am
Hi,
I dated my ex bf for 2 years.our 2nd year was awesome in the beginning but later i was so needy and demanding so much of him and finally he broke up with me. Normally i was the one who always threaten to break up with him many times but he didn’t want to till he had enough of me. He is a lot older than me. We had big fights a lot and swear a lot as well.I never did to anyone. Today is the 27th day of no contact with him. He was the one who told me not to contact him so i had cut off but the 3rd day i asked him back and crying. Then i will never do that again. After i broke up with him, he went back to his ex wife. Before i found ur website, i decided to really move on and will not contact him again because 1.he block my number and block some chats application but not all of them as he is using 3 cell phones.he jus block from main cell phone.because of this,I also block him too all of 3 cellphones because i had to make sure i wont contact him during no contact period 2. I thought i was pregnant with him so i asked him to do the test with me but he refuse.i was so stress out that my hormones level changed so i thought i was pregnat with him 3.he is my client that i have to talk on the phone with everyday and the way he talk to me not as nice as before.(btw i am from thailand).in thailand, there is a level of politeness in term of speaking but he sometimes doesnt speak too polite to me or instead of call me my name like he usually does, he call me hey! It is considered not polite in thai.I dont want to take care of his account anymore.So, i try to exchange him with other client in my team.However, he scold my team member the first day of changing and he didnt give me sales when other team was taken care of.so i have no choice.I took his account back. Not only he is my client he is also my business partner that we set up the company together a year ago. I had to talk to him so i send him message last week about withdrawing his name from the company but he never reply me back so far. Chris, do you think my ex boyfriend still has feeling for me? So far, he never contact me personally. He just chat with me in the group chat about work. I dont know if am wrong,since yesterday i saw the way he talk to me in the chat was nicer. He is a trader and i am his broker. His job is very busy. He normally don’t reply chat much i know because before we broke up he was too busy trading. May b i was wrong. Please help me get back my ex bf. I miss him very much. These day i am working out and trying to get fit. I didn’t want to just sit and wait. Will i have chance of getting him back? In the future I may have to meet him as he is my client. I wont ask him out for meal under company bill yet i dont think it is the right time. Is there a chance of me getting my ex bf bk? I sometimes scared to talk to him so I am just being silence.
LC2015
March 20, 2015 at 12:03 am
Hi,
I dated my ex bf for 2 years.our 2nd year was awesome in the beginning but later i was so needy and demanding so much of him and finally he broke up with me. Normally i was the one who always threathen to break up with him many times but he didnt want to till he had enough of me. He is a lot older than me. We had big fights a lot and swear a lot as well.I never did to anyone. Today is the 27th day of no contact with him. He was he one who told not to contact him so i had cut off but the 3rd day i asked him back and crying. Then i will never do that again. After i broke up with him, he went back to his ex wife. Before i found ur website, i decided to really move on and will not contact him again because 1.he block my number and block some chats application but not all of them as he is using 3 cell phones.he jus block from main cell phone.I also block all his 3 number and some of chatting applications as well 2. I thought i was pregnant with him so i asked him to do the test with me but he refuse.i was so stress out that my hormones level changed so i thought i was pregnant with him 3.he is my client that i have to talk on the phone with everyday and the way he talk to me not as nice as before.(btw i am from thailand).in thailand, there is a level of politeness in term of speaking but he sometimes doesnt speak polite to me or instead of call me my name like he usually does, he call me hey! It is considered not polite in thai. And i try to exchange him with other client in my team.However, he scold my team member the first day of changing so i have no choice.I took his account back4. Not only he is my client he is also my business partner that we set up the company together a year ago i had to talk to him so i send him message last week about withdrawling his name from the company but he nver reply me back so far. Chris, do you think my ex boyfriend still has feeling for me? So far, he never contact me personally. He just chat with me in the group chat about work. I dont know if am wrong,since yesterday i saw the way he talk to me in the chat was nicer. He is a trader and i am his broker. His job is very busy. He normally dont reply chat much i know because before we broke up he was too busy trading. May b i was wrong. Please help me get back my ex bf. I miss him very much. Theseday i am working out and trying to get fit. I didnt want to just sit and wait. Will i have chance of getting him back? I can tell you in the future i wi have to meet him as he is my client. I wont ask him out for meal under company bill yet i dont think it is the right time. Is there a chance of me getting my ex bf bk?
Jess
March 19, 2015 at 11:50 pm
I may have turned into a text gnat this week and sent him a message on Facebook highlighting some things like his commitment issues.. and my ex sent this
So insightful!! You’ve really got no idea. Grow up, I don’t want anything to do with you especially now. Stop messaging me and find your own friends and your own life. Stop clinging on to mine!
Then he blocked me from Facebook. That’s the first time he has been angry at me since the break up. We broke up 3 months ago.
Not sure if I’ll ever be able to speak to him again? I suppose he means it doesn’t he.
admin
March 22, 2015 at 3:59 pm
He blocked you out of anger and your gnattyness.
I am sure the two of you can get back on speaking terms down the road but for now just stay silent.
Sarah
March 22, 2015 at 10:30 pm
Hope so, he did a complete block, even from Instagram and we didn’t even have each other on Instagram! He must really hate me
GK
March 19, 2015 at 8:12 pm
I need your input ASAP.
I had been seeing my ex, things were going good we’ve been on/off for 1 years but something happened last week and I honestly can’t remember what happened because alcohol [I rarely drink] got in the way, I fell asleep etc and I can’t remember the night… But I remember waking up at 3am and him gone and messaging him asking him where he is why he left etc he said his friend had an emergency and because I was drunk I was so confused and blew him up and he blew up at me after blowing him up… so i went a bit loco and called him 50 times but he blocked my number and then he blocked me on watsapp… it’s been a week and I am in one of the worst places in my life. Do you think he will unblock me? When i did get thru to him he told me not to contact him he will contact me when he’s ready but I dont think he will. I also lent him money that night. I said in anger “I want my money back” but truthfully, I am not materialistic and do not care about it, he said “you’ll get it” but I know he gets paid at the end of the month and I have a feeling he will block me until then or keep me blocked for good. If he unblocks me and offers to meet me, I feel like saying, “If the only reason you want to see me is to give my money back then I don’t want to see you” on the other hand he might not unblock me at all and I would never get him nor it back. I’m in a confused and hurt place. He has a lot of anger issues, I know he’s the type of person who likes people to chase him but to an extent and he sounded very aggressive about me not contacting him that night and literally said “if you call me again im going to call the cops leave me alone i’ll contact u when im ready”. I’m confused as to what I actually done because he isn’t giving me any closure?! What do I do?
admin
March 22, 2015 at 3:48 pm
I definitely think you pushing for closure isn’t the smartest thing to do right now because I think time needs to pass for you to even have a chance at getting him back.
Lilly
March 19, 2015 at 5:26 am
I was on the phone with my then boyfriend 2 weeks ago and he hung up on me and texted me that he had enough of my disrespectful mouth for one night (wtf?) i told him not to talk to me ever 2 days later he calls i dont answer a day later i find he blocked me on whatsapp snapchat facebook(we werent even friends on fb!!) the next day i called him i find out he blocked my calls i was really shocked at how things escalated his sister is in town and i was supposed to meet here we’ve been dating for 5 months and it hasnt been easy at all but everytime i say we should break up (cause he does something asshole-ish)he would do a gesture and try to fix things so i was pretty surprised he blocked me i have no way to contact him so after a week i send him an email saying for someone who calls me immature hes the one whos immature and then 2 days later on sunday i send a super long email saying how what he did is not ok and how he treats me badly and i wish i never met him but i still love him i said i was calling to ask about him anyways i tried to make him feel guilty and that didnt work he never replied to both and i just kept thinking i dont understand why did he block me until i found your site which is super awesome but i need your help since that email which was this sunday i havent tried to contact him again maybe he blocked my emails i dont know but it made me feel like shit so should i just move on or try to get him back? Has he moved on? Is him blocking me a way to tell me fuck off and to move on? Whatever the reason is im going to maintain NC for my own dignity bur can you please shed some light on this situation and what he’s thinking
Lilly
March 24, 2015 at 6:59 am
Please answer 🙁
admin
March 25, 2015 at 8:34 pm
Hi Lilly, how can I help?
Michelle
March 18, 2015 at 7:48 am
What if the blocking is how it happened? We have been together for three years and everything has been great. We have been long distance for a while, but he has been working to move here. He is my best friend and everything has been open and loving. His last text to me ended with he loved me and then nothing. I texted a couple times and called. Oftentimes we don’t talk for part of the day, so the next day I called and realized I had been blocked. I’m floored. I do NOT understand what happened.
admin
March 21, 2015 at 3:02 pm
Did you read the entirety of this article.
It can help you understand what is maybe going on in his head.
CANT WAIT It Out
March 17, 2015 at 5:13 pm
first let me say everything any article makes sense and I appreciate your honesty it really does seem what are giving a good overall perspective of how men think I myself am a psychology major I don’t have my degree yet but I don’t like to think that I’m somebody that’s full of common sense that being said this is the first relationship I’ve ever had in my entire life where I let the relationship be ruled by my heart instead of my brain I’m very analytical and logical and I’m numbers kind of person and not a feeling kind of person I think that’s what has led me to the point that I’m at now let me give a little background on the relationship we’ve been together for years now and I have three children from a previous marriage and he has been more of a father to them and deserve the title of father to them more so there real dad and when he broke up with me its during the worst time of my entire life my heart my family is putting us through hell and back and we’re going to a hellish custody battle and they’ve not marilize easy and if not meet his life easy and I know this but he knew this going into the relationship that it was going to be hard it’s going to be difficult and that my family was going to find us all the way to be together and had two children because he and he’s half step down and I’m going to quit fighting right now but in the midst of all this we got into an argument because our stress levels are high and he broke it off with me and went back and has fully blocked me now he knows type of person that I am and really I’m not going to lie I emailed him and called him and text him and it at Bloom up because all I wanted from him really isn’t this to know if he seriously done if he just needed a break I could deal with it either way I just need to know what is going on does he want to never talk to me again or did you seriously just need a little break in and he needs a little break I understand that I think that he thinks that I would not have understood they need a break but I do for anyone and now I’m going to go through it till the end because of my children in the end and I’m the one responsible and I’m the one that’s going to be with them no matter what but not only has he blocked me but he’s done that to my children to it took my 15 year old son of contacting him trying to get him to reply to a Facebook comment so I’ve repeatedly asked him through the text before I got locked in everything just tell me is it forever is a cyst a break I just need to know either way just please tell me what’s going on you know I’ll leave you alone I won’t contact you anymore if that’s what you really want I just need to know and after two weeks he finally replied back and said that he does that he was hurting and he was miserable everyday and he never wanted it to end like this and he just needed to move on and please understand and I was a good person in all this but he still didn’t answer the question and he knows that he’s in he’s just beating around the bush so I guess my question is cuz if you really can love someday is that what it is and the price is too high for him to continue on because he really doesn’t care is situation like this
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:59 pm
One question…
Did you write this on a phone?
Haha I am having trouble reading it from my end.
Frances
March 17, 2015 at 8:07 am
Hi cris!
i have a LDR, but my ex boy friend lived in manila and i live in iloilo 1 hour by plane. he visited me for a week in Iloilo. first of all i dont want a LDR relationship but he pursue me and i was inspired. as 5 months came by were happy exchanging of text messages, chat, call and skype. days goes on im reviewing for nursing board exam and he was stay put on his house instead of going to philippine military academy i told me to follow his heart. sometimes he was busy playing online games and sometimes i feel that its not the same anymore i tried to give him time but it get worst. for 5 months he didnt contact me. i focus on my board exam. after the board exam i focus on him to fix everything. but it turns out even worst i called him 50 times a day he didnt answer. and he message me on facebook that he is guilty, i was he’s good girlfriend ever, last months that we dont have communication he just playing online games and didnt talk to any girls. and i wanted to talk to him sincerely but still he didnt answer his phone, i told him i will give him time to think whats wrong with us. and days goes on i bother him because he didnt do the moves to tell me and he message me on facebook that there’s nothing wrong. and he told me that he want to be single, he doesnt feel to be in a relationship. he wants to work for a living and he cant afford a relationship with. and i reply that i hope thats a good reason. that you dont have any body and good luck. Thats all i was seen zoned (January 20 something this 2015) after a month still smooth normal life. sometimes i stalked him. but my impending doom was this first week of march when i discovery that he block me on facebook, twitter, garena app games. even our mutual friends. and i discover lately that he changed his phone number. ouch! all i want is a closure, why? huhu. i wanted to move on but its soooo hard! all the memories. 🙁 all the things he send to me. This weekend i’ll be heading to manila for a concert and i’m planning to send off his things via package from manila. but i wont met him up. what do you advise? it is the right thing to return the stuffs he gave to me? how i can move on? do you have any reason why he block me? Thank you.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:45 pm
If you want to return them you can.
Do you want to move on or do you want him back?
These are two very different paths.
Rose
March 14, 2015 at 6:20 pm
What if he blocked me 3 times on wassup and even blocked me on fb but he stares at me each time…but we both feel shy to talk to each other… :'(
admin
March 15, 2015 at 5:11 pm
He seems like the type of guy that would unblock you after a while.
Julia
March 13, 2015 at 3:44 pm
My ex asked for a break 2 months ago & I agreed with it only because I wanted to give him some space. While we were on our break he blocked me from facebook. Before he blocked me he said his phone wasn’t working so instead of texting him I decided to get ahold of him through snapchat. He would just open my snaps but he never replied back. After that I just decided to break up with him and I had to do it through text because he was still ignoring me. After breaking up with him he blocked me from snapchat. I never tried talking to him after I broke up with him and a week after he blocked me from snapchat he blocked me from Instagram. I actually saw him posting flirty comments on girls pictures on Instagram & I eventually got tired of it. I never did him wrong but he still blocked me. I try to act like I’m happy without him because we do have mutual friends. I still have strong feelings for him but I only want to know how he’s doing.
sadgirl
March 12, 2015 at 6:26 pm
Hi Chris, LDR, he broke up because some girl closer who he been talking for only 2monts will visit him in his country and I didn’t buy a ticket before her nor pursued him. He said he wants to be just friends for now and see how it goes with the other woman if he changes his mind he will let me know. I wasn shocked but I didn’t do any drama, I was very cold and just told him I don’t want to be just friends and went straight to no contact. He didn’t accept it. He kept msg me everyday trying to chat random stuff and asking me pics but after 13days I broke no contact and spoke to him because he said he was sorry if he offended me and made me feel used and that he likes me very much. I told him again that we cant be just friends and if he doesnt want to date me anymore like we used to to let me move on. He said its too hard for him to stop talking to me. He blocked me the day after on fb but before doing that he wrote that he is not blocking me but he is blocking himself because he can’t resist me and keep obsessed seeing me online,he gets tempted to msg me and skype me. But the other girl already got a visum and ticket to visit him so he feels pressured to be serious and don’t want to mess around. He said that if i went to visit him instead that he would do the same, he would be serious. I’m heartbroken. I did everything you said, I quit contact as soon as he said the ‘just friends’ thing, no drama or texts, I respected his wishes so I don’t understand why he kept trying to talk to me if he already found someone else and end up blocking me because I don’t want to be just friends.
I know I sound like a loser and I probably am but I was married for 9years and don’t have dating experience, I had no idea that I was supposed to pursue him and pressure him about relationship when is long distance. Will he unblock me and want to hang out with me again? Why did he unblock me, this is so messed up, I never contact him after the split
sadgirl
March 12, 2015 at 6:31 pm
typo: why did he block me, I never contact him after the split. This is so extreme 🙁
admin
March 13, 2015 at 8:24 pm
Probably as a way of healing for himself.
JaniceD
March 19, 2015 at 10:51 pm
hanks for your reply! should I keep no contact hoping he will be back? or the blocking means it’s over between us and he will never talk to me again? 🙁 How can I know it’s final?
he wrote in his last message that ‘if things change he will let me know’ so it’s like he wants to try with the other girl and if it doesnt work out he will get in touch with me. I’m tempted to write to him a quick email saying that I miss him being online but in your guides it says we are not supposed to write anymore.
I’m doing no contact but it feels hopeless and after this outcome I regret I didn’t accept being just friends. Now it’s like I will never see him again. The other girl is not even his type but she bought a ticket to visit him before I did. I know he is no good for me, he is selfish and lazy but right now I feel like the ultimate loser, I do nothing right, this blocking only makes things worse because I didn’t do any drama, I kept my distance and didn’t contact him after he said he just wanted to be friends, he was the one who kept msg me non stop and trying to be sexual after saying he just wanted to be friends.
There was no need to block me, he could have just unfriended me.
JaniceD
March 15, 2015 at 10:56 pm
thanks for your reply! should I keep no contact hoping he will be back? or the blocking means it’s over between us and he will never talk to me again? 🙁 How can I know it’s final?
he wrote in his last message that ‘if things change he will let me know’ so it’s like he wants to try with the other girl and if it doesnt work out he will get in touch with me. I’m tempted to write to him a quick email saying that I miss him being online but in your guides it says we are not supposed to write anymore.
I’m doing no contact but it feels hopeless and after this outcome I regret I didn’t accept being just friends. Now it’s like I will never see him again. The other girl is not even his type but she bought a ticket to visit him before I did. I know he is no good for me, he is selfish and lazy but right now I feel like the ultimate loser, I do nothing right, this blocking only makes things worse because I didn’t do any drama, I kept my distance and didn’t contact him after he said he just wanted to be friends, he was the one who kept msg me non stop and trying to be sexual after saying he just wanted to be friends.
There was no need to block me, he could have just unfriended me.
Melissa
March 12, 2015 at 2:06 am
Hi Chris,
My ex and I broke up 11 months ago after an almost 5 month relationship. He said he didn’t want to get onto a heavy relationship and immediately started dating a much younger chick. He wasn’t very happy with her after about 5 weeks and dumped her. We started casually hanging out having sex here and there and then that got weird too after about 4 months. I texted him to not contact me anymore and he called me the next day to figure out what was going on. I told him I needed to move on and he wanted to part friends. I said ok but I had I friended him on Facebook. I told him that I would add h back and would he accept and he said he would, but when I did, he ignored my request. Keep in mind that on the phone he said that he doesn’t want me to hate him. I do not contact him and I find him on Tinder 3 weeks later and swipe right. Lo and behold, we are a match. He then goes on Tinder almost immediately and “Unmatches” us. Weird! Then 3 weeks later we see each other at a bar and I greet him warmly and he gives me a long hug. We start talking but then he gets all weird and says he needs to go. I ask if we can talk later or tomorrow and he says yes. He proceeds to blow me off for the next 5 days so I basically tell him that if he can’t bother to take the time to talk with me that I’m done. No response. I do not contact him at all. 6 weeks later I see him at the same bar and ignore him. He leaves after about a half hour. No contact between us and It is now six weeks later and I ran into him the other night at a different bar, one closer to where he lives. I’m out with a friend and have met a guy I’ve been chatting online with there too and we are having a good time talking and dancing, etc. My ex is there with the woman he dumped me for and then got rid of after six weeks and telling me for months that he would never see her again as we both knew that she was after him. But she will accept scraps from him and take care of his dog when he’s away on business, etc. he kept looking at me all night but would not make a move to talk to me. He made sure he got a last look at me as they were leaving too. So I went on his FB page and was looking up this woman on his friend list and I accidentally sent her a friend request, but immediately cancelled it. An hour later I was blocked from his page. How strange is that after 11 months he is doing this?? I don’t get it?? He obviously doesn’t care about me anymore, or does he?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 7:58 pm
Hahaha you accidentally sent her a request.
This is exactly why I recommend NOT stalking an ex.
Liz
March 9, 2015 at 6:18 pm
Well, I was blocked from facebook a month ago. Truthfully, I deserved it and pushed him to it. Our relationship had gotten out of control. He had once said how he loved me trying to repair things when he was angry and I just went too far. I made other mistakes along the way. We were together so long there are just so many things left between us. He was very good with emotional manipulation whether it was purposeful or not. Sadly, I understand bith him and the situation much better now. I understand I may never salvage this relationship, but I am so much better for it. Truly, I am pretty amazing. I have a lot going for me, I am funny, smart, sexy, and responsible. I suppose the one thing I truly hope for is to help him, not get him back. You see, I do truly love him. I want his happiness. I also want to help him understand what went wrong with us , it is a mistake we both continue making. That way he may see and stop it next time. Yes, it hurts to think of him with someone else, but it hurts worse to think of him unhappy. It has been two weeks since I saw him. I did text last week twice, and get no response until friday. Then no response when i text back. I guess my question is how long should I wait to talk with him? Yes, I would love to get him back, but I am ok without him. I miss him. His scent, his laugh, the things we did together, the life we lived but I am also enjoying my new life. If our relationship continues it will be much different, I don’t know if HE would want that but this is my happiness I am looking after here. What I would hope for is that talk without anger without judgement or blame. Do you think both are possible?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 4:12 pm
I think it all depends on your tone and how you talk to him.
Sometimes tone alone can set someone off.
Anissa
March 7, 2015 at 8:27 pm
Hi Chris!
My boyfriend broke up with me on Valentine’s day, and we were trying to be friends, but every time we saw each other it just turned into me asking him to get back together again. He admitted to missing me yesterday, but then said some really hurtful things, like he just wants to hook up with a bunch of girls and doesn’t want to be in a relationship. I was so angry at him for saying this, because it meant he left me to just hook up with other girls, so I slapped him. I know now it was the absolute worst thing I could have done, and I regret it. He’s blocked me on just about every social media possible, and he said im psychotic. I really am not, I was just so angry and hurt, and lashed out out of anger. I’m at a loss with what to do, because there is still a part of me that wants him back, but it’s moreso that I want him to want me back. Please if you have any advice that would be great
Thanks
Anissa
admin
March 8, 2015 at 2:53 pm
NC is great for that.
Anissa
March 9, 2015 at 2:04 pm
I have started NC now that he has me blocked. But do you think my slapping him has ruined any chance I had at potentially getting him back? Or is he just extremely angry about it right now and needs cooling off time?
Anissa
March 28, 2015 at 10:05 pm
UPDATE:
I’ve recently noticed that I’ve been unblocked (his name appeared in my messages on Facebook again.) and im wondering where his mind is now, what’s his reason for unblocking me. I read about all the degrees of blocking, and I’m convinced that he’s waiting for me to open the doors of communication back up and request him. I haven’t talked to him for three weeks, since the full blockout, and I think maybe thats getting to him now. I’m not going to request him, I’m going to wait it out through NC and hope he requests me. What do you think the chances of him reaching out to me are?
Craw
March 7, 2015 at 3:47 pm
Ive been seeing a man 17 years older than me. We used to be VERY good friends. He is a bit immature & has on more than one occasion ignored me for really dumb reasons. If I’d call or text…pretty much be persistent….eventually he’d get over it until the next time. Well the last time he got angry, he started ignoring me, no response to texts or phone calls. That was a month ago. Still I kept trying. It was always like a game to show him I cared. Anyway, tried to call him yesterday & I’ve been blocked so I assume my texts aren’t going thru either. I got angry. I got an anonymous number & called him & texted him from there. I feel like a crazy stalker now as I realize this time it’s different. I really think he means it. He doesn’t have a computer so I have been completely blocked. Any chance for me? Now what? How do I convince him I don’t have issues as he’s been telling mutual friends. Because obviously I do 🙁
admin
March 8, 2015 at 2:40 pm
I think time away is the best defense here.
Also, NC is a good idea for you especially if you feel like a stalker haha.
Craw
March 8, 2015 at 5:08 pm
Thank you for replying. I think I need help with NC! It’s like he is an addiction. Any ideas? I feel stuck. Seriously though in a case like this, is there really a chance?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 3:28 pm
He is an addiction.
Did you know that they did studies and they determined that people who think about their exes have the same part of their brain light up as cocaine addicts.
My advice to you is to make yourself so busy that you distract yourself.
Work, excercise, fun with friends.
Craw
March 9, 2015 at 10:46 am
AND I HAVE DONE EVERYTHING WRONG!!! Just finished reading about phone gnats (yikes!!!!)
admin
March 13, 2015 at 4:00 pm
Those silly phone gnats!!!
Glad you are reading and educating yourself though.