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2,553 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

  1. Confused

    April 23, 2015 at 11:18 am

    Dear Chris,

    What if a guy is confused about feelings, is scared for a relationship and I pushed him in one argument away. He blocked me and this is for 5 days now. Is this a situation in which I was too pushy and he got very confused and feeling choked.
    Will NC for a while help? As he is leaving in before 30 days would 21 days be enough?

    1. Chris Seiter

      April 23, 2015 at 1:19 pm

      Yes NC can help.

  2. Amira

    April 13, 2015 at 9:12 pm

    hey I want talk about I was dating this guy and we were all gd at first we dated for month now and he took me out couple times he gives me rides we enjoy each other company until one day he said im smothering him and he want to just be friends and like couple days want by I text him and said I cant be your friend I have feelings for u he apologized and want to see me and now he has attitude problem by the way he a Gemini by one day he with his homeboys he text me saying you call this number 100 which nt tru cuz his phone wasn’t on he had app number so im like im srry everytime I put my earphone in it calls ppl he like whatever u keep calling and u kno I cant talk on here then next day I wokeup I was block on fackbook and instagram I try apologize on his direct message on instragram he didn’t response but just like my pic idk wat to do

  3. ana

    April 8, 2015 at 8:19 pm

    we had a fight and my boyfriend blocked me on facebook about 8 months ago. I wrote sms 5 times saying hello, I miss you but he newer replay. Do you think is there any chance to get back on me?

  4. olga

    April 8, 2015 at 7:18 pm

    hi,

    after googling for help i finally found THIS. my story is a bit different and that’s why i’m not sure if advices here apply to my case. u may even think it’s stupid.

    i matched with a guy on tinder last year and we briefly talked two times since. recently, we started talking again and we talked for two weeks all the time via whatsapp, snapchat, etc. i completely lost my mind but tried to appear normal. we discussed books, common interests, food, music, etc.
    after two weeks he stopped talking to me, next day i sent him snapchats (normal one, as i send to everyone) but no messages. i thought he was waiting and checking which one of us can last longer without contact. i wrote him after two days that i understand the game but i’m bored and want to talk again. he read it and 15 minutes later i was blocked everywhere, even on fb where we never talked or we weren’t friends.
    i see no reason for his actions and i need help as he seemed to be THE one (as long as it could be so via internet) and now i feel like dying. HELP. i don’t wanna die of course, i just want him back or at least know why. i can still contact him through imessage or email.
    thank u for all the possible comments on this. i just need it so bad.

    1. olga

      May 3, 2015 at 3:53 pm

      chris,

      i applied NC rule according to ur advices. it’s been almost 40 days but i’m too terrified to make a mistake in contacting him (wrong message, etc.). is there any way u could help?

  5. Ashley

    April 6, 2015 at 2:45 pm

    Hi, you’re article was very helpful. But I was wondering if I could get some advice on my situation. So my story my ex and I had dated for 2 years. It was a serious relationship and we were really close. He told me I was the best thing that ever happened to him and wanted to have future with me. He said all that not me. He even wanted me to move in with him. Then all of a sudden he ignores me one weekend to get drunk with his friends. So I confront him the following week and he tells me we should take a break , that he needs to suffer and doesn’t know what he wants anymore. I said okay but started to cry and he got really mad. So he left it as to be continued for us. I saw a werid post on his Twitter so I asked him if this was break up or break for time and he wouldn’t answer the question just kept avoiding it. After that he blocked me on everything. So I have been in NC for a little over a month now. I can see his facebook and other things through mutual friends and it seems like he is having a good old time drinking with friends and getting with random girls. But then there were some posts saying like I’m a fool when will I learn. I’m just very confused. I don’t think he will contact me but our mutual friends say he will. I think he blocked me because it hurts him and he knew it would hurt me. I was wondering if I could get your honest opnion will he ever contact me and what was the reason for blocking me?

  6. samantha

    April 6, 2015 at 12:53 pm

    Me and my ex split in January and did the no contact thing for just over a month after agreeing to be friends. I got I touch first to ask how things were and he was a little off so I figured he wanted nothing to do with me. I cancelled something I had pre booked for us to do together thinking he didn’t want to go, turns out he did and had a bit of a spat over it. I apologised and tried to make it right but he blocked me on whatsapp which was how we mostly communicated. He has stayed friends with me on Facebook and I’m not really sure of my options. Does he need a bit longer to cool off? I tried to follow him on instagram yesterday and he blocked me.

  7. wallflower

    April 5, 2015 at 7:31 pm

    my ex broke up with me in january this year because I had an affair (he cheated on me in the past too though) he said he wanted to stay friends but a few days later I found out that he unfriended and blocked me on Facebook. I went into NC for three months. Today I texted him on whatsapp because that is the only app where I wasn’t blocked on but after I messaged him he came online only to block me on there too.

    I feel so stupid now, what should I do??

  8. Lyndzie

    April 4, 2015 at 1:48 pm

    Hey Chris, i am the nightmare scenario that you have mentioned in your post. I did not cheat on my ex but we have really serious trust and quarreling issues. This is actually the 4 th time me and my ex have broken up and this time he have blocked me up entirely. I’m just wondering, if he didn’t unblock after the No Contact period does it mean that we are truly over? Meaning that there is never a chance that we can be lovers or friends ever again?

  9. Darion

    April 4, 2015 at 3:32 am

    Hello, well my boyfriend and I haven been in a relationship back and forth to other people also for the last five years… Pretty much my whole high school career. Just recently we were back together doing alright until January 2015 came along and we ended up breaking up.. Well since January I haven been trying my hardest to get back with him and prove to him that I would do anything for him.. On Monday night he wasn’t talking to me much. He said his phone died, then that he was charging it and that he would text me later. Well, he actually didn’t text me. He blocked me. He actually blocked me on everything. In our relationship I haven’t been as honest as I should have been, I lied to him about texting other guys and he ended up finding out by looking at my phone. I wasn’t the greatest girlfriend. I wish I could take it all back. Today I stopped my his grandparents house where he lives and talked to his grandma. He called me and told me to leave but I didnt. So, he came to the house and was being a complete jerk towards me. I asked him what i did for him to just randomly block me and he told me he was tired of being hurt and he didn’t want to be put through it again. I am only 18 years old, almost 19 and about to graduate high school. I know that you may say I’m young and there are more guys out there. But, I don’t care. I want to be the one my ex wants to be with. He told me today that he doesn’t care about me anymore and he hates me and doesn’t love me or have any feeling for me anymore. He also told me that he is talking to another girl already and is going to meet her parents tomorrow. He told me that he really likes this girl to.. And another thing he said to me was that he was going to erase me from his past. What should I do? I cannot just give up and throw five years of us being in each others lives away.. I love this kid.. I need help..

  10. sadgirl

    March 31, 2015 at 7:46 pm

    he blocked me of facebook, I decided to use no contact. After 17days he unblocked me and sent me a friendship request and an inbox message saying ‘I miss you’. I didn’t reply nor accept his friendship request yet either. What should I do? I’m scared that If I keep ignoring him he will delete the friendship request or block me again. I don’t even know what to say to him. I’m too emotional

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 10:59 pm

      Hahah well, I would say that if you are in NC do not accept the firend request. If you are not in it any longer hen accept it.

    2. sadgirl

      April 3, 2015 at 1:09 am

      He deleted the friendship request!!!!!!!! 🙁 I think I blew it. He unblocked me on day17 no contact and sent the friendship request last sunday but I didn’t accept it and I didn’t even read the msg saying he missed me but I saw the header.
      I didn’t get back on facebook until today when I’ve noticed that he deleted the friendship request 🙁 exactly what I was afraid of. Today he sent me 2more msgs besides “Hey”, “Missed you” from sunday. Todays msgs says: “as a friend”. and “maybe some other time.”. I didn’t break no contact, it’s been 20days now. Did I blew it? Im so scared because I didn’t accept the request and didn’t reply his msg. I guess he will hate me now. I’m afraid that if I complete the 30days contact and msg him when it’s over he will probably feel like he got the upper hand, won’t he? gosh I I regret now that I didn’t accept his request on sunday. I just didn’t know if I should add, I kept no contact.
      Now he will see that I read his messages today. And it’s day20 no contact, I can’t reply. Tell me Chris something positive, I feel like I lost the chance to reconnect with him

  11. Taylor

    March 31, 2015 at 5:15 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I just found out that my ex boyfriend or six years just blocked me on Facebook. We broke up over a month ago and he just blocked me yesterday? I’m not sure why he waited that long to block me.. Any ideas?

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 10:50 pm

      How long total did he wait to block you for?

    2. Taylor

      April 1, 2015 at 8:49 pm

      It’s been 45 days since he left and he just blocked me two days ago.

  12. sadgirl_JaniceD

    March 29, 2015 at 10:24 pm

    hey Chris, I just want to say you are a genious, I think you are my fave writer after Aldous Huxley and I want to thank you for all your advice!! You are really wise! Lol I left previous comments about my situation (my alias ‘sadgirl’ and ‘JaniceD’, I talked about a pretty chaotic online LDR). I stuck to no contact and after 17days he unblocked me on facebook and sent a messaged saying ‘i miss you’. I haven’t replied and I don’t know what to do. I don’t feel ready to talk to him and I wonder why he is messaging me. Remember his excuse was that he wasn’t blocking me but he was blocking himself, he didn’t want to be aware that i was online because he can’t resist me. This guy dumped me because of another girl told him she was trying to get a Visa and would buy a ticket to meet him this month while I didn’t do anything to pursue him. It’s MArch 29 so I thought he would be having fun with the other chick but I guess he was dumped or she changed her mind and won’t visit him anymore. I don’t know why he got in touch. I cried all these days, lost weight, look really bad and I’m depressed, I’m not ready to talk to him and pretend everything is cool. Maybe he unblocked me and is saying he misses me because the other chick dumped him and is not going to visit him in his country anymore? Maybe he is bored? Maybe he wants to get his ego stroked and test if I still like him? I don’t want to be his emotional tampon or fill the gaps while he is with someone else or even if he is alone. And i don’t want to entertain him until he find someone better.
    I need to work on myself, this whole thing affected my self steem even though it was just a LDR. Your no contact rule works and your advice about working on being a better version of ourselves is totally right. Listen to Chris everyone. If someone else read my comment, please try to work on yourself while you are doing no contact. I didn’t do that, I’m depressed like hell and feel powerless. I will stick to no contact because it’s been only 17days and I do not know his intentions. Saying he misses me is not enough in my book, he doesn’t know how rejected I felt. Thanks Chris for everything and I’m sorry my comment is messed up, my mind is a mess. I just wanted to keep you updated.

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 10:06 pm

      Aldous Huxley…

      Hmm… that is some serious company to be compared to!

      I am screenshotting this comment because it makes me feel so good and it serves as a great testimonial.

    2. sadgirl

      April 1, 2015 at 7:05 am

      He unblocked me on day17 no contact and sent the friendship request last sunday but I didn’t accept it and I didn’t even read the msg saying he missed me but I saw the header.
      I didn’t get back on facebook until today when I’ve noticed that he deleted the friendship request 🙁 exactly what I was afraid of. Today he sent me 2more msgs besides “Hey”, “Missed you” from sunday. Todays msgs says: “as a friend”. and “maybe some other time.”. I didn’t break no contact, it’s been 20days now. Did I blew it? Im so scared because I didn’t accept the request and didn’t reply his msg. I guess he will hate me now. I’m afraid that if I complete the 30days contact and msg him when it’s over he will probably feel like he got the upper hand, won’t he? gosh I I regret now that I didn’t accept his request on sunday. I just didn’t know if I should add, I kept no contact.
      Now he will see that I read his messages today. And it’s day20 no contact, I can’t reply. Tell me Chris something positive, I feel like I lost the chance to reconnect with him

  13. Kim

    March 29, 2015 at 8:48 pm

    Hey Chris,

    I’ve been reading your website and your male perspective has been really helpful in navigating this break up. My ex blocked me on his phone (I deserved it! Clearly haven’t been taking all of your advice) but I’m trying to be a confident, ungettable girl now and am in a no contact – haven’t tried other ways to get in touch. He doesn’t use social media, and I’m wondering what do you think is the next best way to reach out after the no contact? I feel like I should just wait until he reaches out, and if he doesn’t, move on completely. Thoughts?

    Thanks again for your insight!

    Kim

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 10:26 pm

      Glad I could lend a helping hand.

      The next best way to reach out after NC would probably be email (texting is the best way obviously)

    2. Kim

      April 2, 2015 at 1:06 am

      Thanks Chris! I guess if this doesn’t work at least I’ll be a breakup Jedi for the next one. 🙂

    3. admin

      April 2, 2015 at 11:52 pm

      Haha I never think of that but ya.. your right. You will be a breakup jedi (more importantly youll know how to prevent one.)

  14. Kelsey

    March 29, 2015 at 5:59 pm

    Here’s my story…

    So my ex boyfriend and I met 5 years ago on April 10th. We met at Disneyland through a mutual friend. Long story short, the first few years were amazing. He was loving and thoughtful no matter what happened between us. He was essentially the perfect boyfriend in my opinion even though we had our problems. Then about 2 years ago his mom got diagnosed with ovarian cancer. He had said plenty of times that he and his mom were never close and so I did not know how much my negativity about the situation was taking its toll on him. She had NEVER liked me, even told him straight up that she thought he should dump me. He had always told her that he loved me and that he wouldn’t but I was insecure. I was also very nasty to him during the whole process. If he was spending time with his family I sometimes got upset that he wasn’t spending time with me. When he was playing video games I would get upset that he wasn’t spending time with me. I’m sure you get the point by now. I wasn’t willing to share him with anyone. Even stuff as simple as him giving me a chocolate covered strawberry at his mother’s funeral. At first I asked for it and he was nice enough to get me one. Then when he came back 20 minutes later after talking with some family members I got all bent out of shape about how long it took him to get it so I told him I no longer wanted it. Needless to say this behavior is APPALLING! I can’t even believe I was like that anymore because that is not who I am.

    A year ago we broke up. I was DEVASTATED but I fought with him and broke it off then begged for him back. He said we should try to be friends before we try to get back together. So basically I went out to a club with my girlfriend (also a friend of his). I ended up kissing another guy (it was OVER between me and my ex) and this girl I thought was my friend told my ex. He got crazy angry and confronted me a couple days later saying that he wanted nothing to do with me, didn’t want to see or speak to me again, and was DONE. So I went through 3 months of major depression. Then I found this system and got a confidence boost. I used the across the bow texts and things instantly got great between us. He was inviting me over for dates, calling me all of my cute nicknames again, dressing up super fancy, making me dinner etc. Then one day he read a text over my shoulder to a friend of mine where I told her that he and I were basically back together and that scared him a little bit so he backed off. A few weeks later we were talking and I went to a rave and he was worried sick about something happening to me (which made me feel good because if he didn’t care he wouldn’t worry).

    Since then he’s been SUPER hot/cold towards me. I have done 3 No Contacts and he still goes hot/cold. Until about 10 days ago. We usually talk through snapchat. There’s a chat option through it and that’s how we have talked for the last few months. So about 10 days I send a text:

    Me: I was packing up some stuff the other day and found that old picture of you working the first game after we met. It made me smile so big because you always looked so good in uniform!
    Him: Why thank you!
    Me: Well I gotta go! But it was good talking to you!

    2 days later I sent another. Things were really great. He was flirting, calling me adorable and sexy, saying he “needed” to see me.

    Me: I was out the other day and saw these two adorable puppies that remind me so much of Maggie and Murphy. How are those cuties doing? I hope you’re doing well too 🙂
    Him: They’re still adorable! Just like me 😛
    Me: I wish I could give them a ton of kisses! So you think you’re adorable huh?
    Him: Unless you come up with a better word then yes
    Me: I’m sure I can come up with some lol I just think it’s funny that you think you’re so adorable
    Him: That doesn’t mean it’s the best word to use lol. If you come up with something better for me I’ll let you be the adorable one
    Me: See but I am the adorable one no matter what 😛 especially after finishing insanity
    Him: I dunno you may be more sexy than adorable now
    Me: Alright fine I’m both! 😛 so what’s new with you? Anything exciting?
    Him: Well I’m currently laying in my hotel bed in Hawaii flipping through the new records I bought and waiting for Amy (his sister) to wake up so we can go surf boarding. What’s new with you?
    Me: That sounds like fun! I wish I knew how to surf lol. Well I got a new job, I got signed to a talent agency, I am doing insanity, and I got another tattoo
    Him: Where are you working and when do I get to see the tattoo and insanity results?
    Me: I’m working as a dog sitter in San Ramon which pays surprisingly well so that’s fun. As for the tattoo and stuff probably not for a while
    Him: Sounds like a fun job! What’s the tattoo/where is it?
    Me: It is! I get to play with doggies all day haha it’s a bible verse somewhere super secret 😛
    Him: Pics or it didn’t happen 😉
    Me: It’s super private!
    Him: Well then I’ll show you something private in return! Or something else of your choosing
    Me: The only way anybody is going to see it is in person lol sorry
    Him: Well now I need to see it! Where is it?
    Me: My bikini line
    Him: That sounds… really sexy actually
    Me: You seem shocked lol
    Him: Well I’d never really thought about it lol and now I’ve got an erection just imagining kissing it
    Me: You’re mind immediately jumps to sex doesn’t it
    Him: No but my body does
    Me: Well then you’re body will have to wait
    Him: Haha my body can be patient if I tell it to
    Me: Oh yeah? You sure about that? 😛
    Him: Well as long as you’re not within touching distance of me I’ll be able to control it. Hopefully.
    Me: Well that shouldn’t be a problem haha I live in San Ramon now
    Him: Back at your dads place?
    Me: Yeah I moved there a few weeks ago
    Him: How is it?
    Me: It’s okay I mean my dad drives me nuts but I don’t have rent to pay and it means you’ll have to put a little more effort in to seeing me 😛

    Then BOOM out of nowhere two days later he blocks me entirely on snapchat (the usual way we communicate), which he never did during the entire time we have been broken up so far. I waited two weeks to send another text just to see if maybe he would unblock me. Today I sent the text, “I went to dinner in concord a few days ago and had a delicious piece of salmon. It made me think of you because it was almost as good as the salmon you always make. Almost :)” he didn’t respond to that message. It makes no sense to me whatsoever and I have no idea where to go from here. I know this probably isn’t all that unique of a situation but I really would like your help with this. I truly feel like this man is the man I want to spend the rest of my life with. I want SOOO bad to at least have a second chance at a relationship with this man.

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 9:57 pm

      Yes it does seem out of the blue doesn’t it?

  15. Bria

    March 27, 2015 at 12:58 am

    My boyfriend & I’ve been on & off for a year & he finally said that we should stop & take it slow because he doesn’t want a relationship right now because he doesn’t want to be locked down yet & that he doesn’t want to hurt me. We started messing round again & became “friends with benefits ” he said he loves me & i love him but its really complicated. He told me that he is talking to another girl & that he isn’t going to “cuff” her because he still isn’t ready for a relationship. I called him the other day & she answered the phone & said that he asked “what do i want ” so i hung up because arguing with both of them isn’t worth my time (me & him are long distance ) I reallllly love him & want to take it slow. He blocked me several times & came back & I’m now currently blocked because of that phone call i guess. I live in Fl & she & him live in Ga. I don’t want hmhim to fall deeply for her. He is single still & I am still single but he’s the one I want to be with but I don’t wanna rush him . He said he wants to be free right now but later in the future he wants to be with me. I called & called but I know I’m blocked im blocked from kik, instagram, twitter, texting, callung etc .I’m going crazy & don’t know what to do . Help me get him back?

    1. admin

      March 29, 2015 at 3:03 pm

      So, they are closer together than you and him were.

    2. Bria

      April 1, 2015 at 8:18 pm

      Yes, he said he still loves me then he told me that him & that girl are together now & that he loves her too. How can he love both of us? Im starting the no contact rule today & im scared that his love for me will fade & that he’ll forget about me.

  16. sabrina

    March 26, 2015 at 6:59 am

    So I was engaged to my boyfriend of five years. Things ended pretty badly a couple months ago when I broke things off with him. He immediately started talking to other women (I’m talking like literally the next day) and like a week later he’s dating a girl he works with. Yesterday I realized that he has blocked me. But I’m not sure if this is his doing or hers. I don’t really see him doing this on his own but like I said things ended badly. And when they first got together he and I were still talking and I know for a fact she was very threatened by this. I’m not trying to get him back, I just want to know Why. I truly wanted to still be friends but that just wasn’t going to work. So I gave him space but then he stopped replying to my texts and eventually blocked me. So I guess I’m just really fucking confused

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 8:21 pm

      You just want to know why he blocked you?

      I cover that in this article 🙂

  17. Dylan

    March 25, 2015 at 11:11 pm

    Hi Chris,
    So I had a relationship with my ex for 9 months (last 6 was an LDR) and we came at a crossroads on the topic of religion. She’s super religious, and I realized I wasn’t as much. I asked her if she could give me a little space so I could figure out my beliefs. Well.. She broke up with me instead. We went back and forth, flirting for a week and then had a fight on the phone. We didn’t speak for 5 days then we talked on the phone and she said “her hearts not in the relationship anymore” and gave me the “lets be friends” spill. The day following this, my stupid ass tells her about how I’ve lied to her (this was my first relationship and I lied about having a girlfriend before) and she was pissed and claimed no contact “until we can move on from our lives.” She blocked me on everything, Facebook, Twitter, Skype, maybe even email.

    I know deep down I truly care for her, I was even planning on proposing in half a year. I am 10 days into NC from her, I’ve truly found my beliefs again on my own, been working out and eating well, and I’m going to a salsa dance class this weekend just to try it.

    I’m gonna go for 45 days NC but I just don’t know if this can be mended. What do you think Chris?

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 8:09 pm

      Dylan, hop on over to Ex Girlfriend Recovery.

      that site is perfectly suited for you.

  18. Sophiii

    March 25, 2015 at 5:43 pm

    Hi,

    Thanks for a greatly detailed lines.I actually,-weird as it sounds-enjoyed reading it!!
    I have a very strange way attracting guys and get my heart broken almost all the time even if most times ,-I have to be honest here-I do possibly the same to them.
    Here is a scenario I just stepped out of and I feel rather strange as I only been with the guy for just under 6 months and we haven t officially been in a relationship.We seen each other about twice a month,I stayed at his and we have talked a lot.At the beginning he was more into me than I was to him ,but gradually I started to fall for him.We had similar interests but he was very direct coming from a broken ,rather bad family.I thought we got on well but after seeing him last he sent me a txt and said I should not tell people that I see him or discuss his private life.He said he called one of my girlfriend on a date(the cheek)and she told him what he deserved !!!We didn t get in touch since and this was in the beginning of
    January.Yesterday however I realised he blocked me from facebook,twitter and instagram. However not on whatsupp……I wonder why now??? I havent searched his sights,I did click like on.one of his photo but because I am.like that…..I just take every day as new,I am not angry or upset with him because of those txts….I dont call or txt since the incident in January so why block me so visibly now?Did he just forgot to block me on whatsupp??Help!!!

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 8:01 pm

      Maybe he was just thinking about you and your relationship and got hurt by it so he blocked you as a result of that.

  19. Cyn

    March 24, 2015 at 11:46 am

    This is quite different from the usual. We were initially dating (not in a relationship) and he wanted me to be his girlfriend but after a few months, when he got into his final year of uni, things changed and he wasn’t sure he wanted a relationship. After almost a year of been what I would call ‘friends with benefits’, he ended things because he didn’t think he wanted a relationship. I did 2 months of no contact and initiated contact again and things were going really well and we would communicate like 3 times a week.

    After a month of resuming communication with him, I told him how I wasn’t comfortable been just friends and he said he leaves uni in a couple of months and that he wouldn’t be coming back so it would be easier for me to get over him. I told him that wasn’t nice to say and said he shouldn’t have led me on for so long if he knew he was no longer pursuing a relationship. He walked me home and then said bye without responding to anything I said. I found out last night that he blocked me on whatsapp.

    This is the same guy that always said I would make a great wife at the start of our ‘relationship’ and he seemed to adore me. I fell in love with him somewhere along the line but he doesn’t know this. I’ve noticed that he is emotionally unavailable and has trust issues but overall he’s a good guy. What do I do now?

    1. admin

      March 31, 2015 at 6:38 pm

      You should read my post on mixed signals.

  20. Maria

    March 24, 2015 at 3:53 am

    Well, I have an unusual situation. My fiance of four years passed away from cancer a year a go. I had a male friend who I let myself get a little too close with after the fact for super. Eventually, we started hooking up. I don’t know if he expected me to suddenly snap out of the recent tragedy, but he would text me things like, “you’re being very unattractive” when I would go about things we would normally text about- usually instances while we were out drinking since we both worked in nightlife. It got all too confusing for me, because I was still in a state of tragedy. I wasn’t trying to have a relationship with him, but maybe my neediness at the time (for God’s sake- who wouldn’t be needy in the time like this?!) pushed him away to the point where he eventually told me we weren’t a “good match” and said he was blocking my phone number for a while because he couldn’t deal with me. I felt pretty used because of the surrounding circumstances. I see him occasionally around mutual friends and try to play it cool, but I guess I’m still blocked. It’s been over a month. Was this guy taking advantage of me in a horrible situation or was he really unable to deal with it and plans to cut me out for life?

    1. admin

      March 25, 2015 at 8:31 pm

      I don’t know if its that cut or dry but he does sound very immature about how he handled things.

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