Exactly How To Use Text Messages To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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lost

August 17, 2013 at 2:57 am

So I did the no contact for about two weeks. So he messaged me and I just told him I needed space and he knew that’s what I needed and understood and didn’t need an explanation. I finished the text with just a memory that we shared when he came to visit me last October. Sent him a picture of the place and told him it reminded me of the time we spent out there.

And it went well! We began to flirt a bit, then mentioned, in flirting that he should come visit me when I move, (I’m moving to London, and he’s in Scotland) and he said he was going to and he’s going to bring me my things that I left at his house during my previous trip so that I could have most of my stuff when I’m down there. (I live in the US). Then it was left at that.

And I get a text the next day! He was telling me about his last day of work, and we began to text more! I gave him an text “cheers” to his last day and to the future whatever it holds. And then we started to talk about us more, about all the things we had in common, because him and I have sooooo much in common. Then the flirting began again, talking about more adult things. 😉 It was kinda left at that because it was late and he probably fell asleep.

It seemed like it was going in the right direction. It seems like we’re starting to talk again, slowly, but I know that the attraction and the chemistry is still mutual.

But now my question is, now that it’s at this point, what should I do to draw him back in? I’ve got one month till I leave and I don’t want to mess this up again. We’ve gone through the whole begging and the crying and the fighting and I don’t want to go back to that.

admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:28 am

Build rapport with him and start slowly implementing some romantic texts. I do a better job explaining this in my upcoming ebook that will be out next week! So, keep an eye out for that.
lost

August 18, 2013 at 12:02 pm

if he texts me everyday, should I be doing the same or keep him hanging some days?
admin

August 19, 2013 at 3:23 am

I would say text him back obviously but end some conversations really quickly. You want to leave him wanting more.

Lee

August 16, 2013 at 9:45 pm

I had been seeing this guy that I work with for about 6 months. It was rocky but amazing – – from my end. It was quite complicated too. In the beginning, I was still living with the father of my child – – because he had nowhere to go – – but my bf knew this. Eventually he moved out and when he did, my bf broke up with me. It is like, he wanted the chase. We got back together and two more times he pushed me away. He would tell me he loved me, I made him happy – – introduced me to his family, was great with my daughter… but as soon as things got good, he would start to ignore me (and we work together) and act cold. I kept giving him more chances because I really liked him, maybe even loved him. A few weeks ago I went on vacation and he barely texted me while I was gone. When I got back, he said he was seeing someone. I am heartbroken. I can’t stop thinking about him and I want him back. What do I do?

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:46 am

NC for 30 days is the way to go in my opinion!

Lena

August 16, 2013 at 9:35 am

hi,
my boyfriend broke up with me around 2 weeks ago.we were together for 2yrs and 6 months. he told me that he is fed up and want to be alone for sometimes. i said ok. but then i continued to tx hm after that, he used to rply with yes ok no..bt sometimes he seemd to be hapi ..i know that he wasnt so hapi that i txtd hm..

so i tld hm that am not going to tx hm first nw..
he rplyd that he doesnt want to tx me bcoz he doesnt want to hurt me. i got angry n tld hm that u hav hurt me so much that i dnt even knw that when u say mean things to me i should be hurt/not.
he said that he was sorry and i tld hm not to be sorry bcoz am not going to forgive hm..never.
the next day he send mw a msg saying that he knw that am nt going to forgiv hm and that he is very bad..he then ask me why do i tx hm when he hurtd me so much..

i didnt rply.. it has been 2 days since i didnt rply hm..and i dnt knw what to do now…also i see hm in tuition on tuesdays..hw should i react when i see hm?i really love hm and want hm back in my life..
i was planing to send hm a letter telling hm that am sorry 4 my behaviour and that its time 4 us to move on now..i dnt knw if its a gud idea or not

admin

August 17, 2013 at 3:02 am

That is probably not a great idea to send him that letter. I would go with the NC rule if I was you.
Lena

August 17, 2013 at 9:09 am

what should i do when i see hm on tuesdays? should i talk with hm/ ignore hm?
admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:42 am

I wouldn’t ignore him. I would act pleasant, happy and kind. But you want to keep your intereactions short and you want to be the one to end the conversation.
Lena

September 19, 2013 at 2:12 pm

I will.. one last question 😛 now that he told me to go away last tuesday, should talk to him and continue to be friendly when i see him next time?
admin

September 20, 2013 at 6:57 pm

I say give him a little space.
Lena

September 18, 2013 at 4:29 am

It’s been quite a long time since I’ve haven’t take care of myself. So, I am planning to change the way I dress and I have started dieting. During the NC rule, I will be going out with friends. Also, I wanted get a new haircut but he didn’t like that, he always told me that he loves my hair so during 2 years I didn’t cut it. Should I go for it?
admin

September 19, 2013 at 1:47 am

Hmm… if he loved your hair then maybe you shouldn’t cut it. I don’t know what looks good or doesn’t look good to be honest. I am not a fashion guru haha.

I also think you should get a new hobby. Something out of your comfort zone.
Lena

September 17, 2013 at 5:16 am

what should i do now?I have started the nc rule again. i really want to make it work now…i don’t want to break it now since i know that the consequences are not really in my favour.. –‘
admin

September 18, 2013 at 2:55 am

Ok, now you should enter into NC and EVOLVE during it. What are you doing on that end?
Lena

September 16, 2013 at 5:46 am

hi chris.. well i messed it up..i did the nc rule for 2 weeks and i break it…i texted hm.. i tld hm that i love hm n i miss hm..he tld me that he already know that,we chat 4 around 2hours…he even told me that he miss me sometimes. i met him on tuesday n i didnt talk with hm until the class was over…when i went to talk to hm he told me why did i come to talk to hm ..go away ..dont wanna talk to u…
i askd hm if eveything is ok and he walked away then text me “go away”..

i was wondering y does he behave like this? is it because he is stressed about exams and career?
admin

September 17, 2013 at 12:58 am

Maybe but I think it’s more of the way he is feeling. He obviously isn’t ready to be face to face yet.
Lena

August 29, 2013 at 7:13 am

Hey Chris,
I talked to my ex on Tuesday, I was being friendly but the conversation we had confused me a bit. In the middle of the conversation, he asked me if I was still angry with him (truly speaking I really didn’t want to talk about the break up with him, it was making me uncomfortable) I told him no. Then, later he asked me why I didn’t fight with him when he broke up with me… now I really didn’t know what to tell him so I just told him that u wanted to be free from this relationship so I gave u what u wanted.
why is he talking about the break up?
admin

August 29, 2013 at 5:49 pm

Probably because he is thinking about YOU!
Lena

August 18, 2013 at 4:02 am

thank you 4 ur advice.. 🙂
Lena

August 17, 2013 at 3:19 am

ok but how should i behave and react when i see hm in tuition?
admin

August 18, 2013 at 3:29 am

If you see him in person you want to act really friendly, confident and keep the conversation kind of short. You want him to go “wow she looks great.”

Rosie

August 15, 2013 at 9:28 am

how if remembering the good time will make him upset even more? especially when i cheated on him?
maybe he will think the good old times is just a simply lie?

do u have any other suggestions on the first text message?
fyi my NCR will be end for another 16 days.

admin

August 16, 2013 at 2:10 am

Yea I understand your delimma. Why don’t you try something less threatening.

Something like:

“Hey, I was just watching (insert T.V. show) and you popped into my head. How are you?”

Melissa

August 14, 2013 at 1:25 am

Hi Chris,

My long distance bf and I were together for 8.5 months and broke up almost 4 months ago. We were absolutely mad about each other, both going through divorces, but towards the end the stress and distance pushed us a part. This is a relationship I NEVER thought would end.. The feelings were like no other. We complimented each other so well and had a passion I’d never experienced; physically & emotionally. Things ended ok at first… He said I was his best friend and to please not cut him out if my life completely. I found out he was talking with someone (and sleeping with her) a couple of weeks after we split, this really hurt. We had some harsh words and lashed out at each other and that was that. I apologized for my angry words weeks later, keeping it at that with a “take care”. 1.5 months later I get a text from him saying he’s thinking of me and misses me. We’ve texted, had one Skype session, and have talked about visiting each other. He’s even used my pet names.
I don’t want to come off too eager, but I also don’t want to play games. I told him I’ve been talking to someone (not a bf nor have we slept together), and that if we were possibly going to try again, I don’t won’t to lead the other guy on.
Advice as to how to move forward? This is a man I want to spend my life with, we both have children and truly fell madly in love, hence the fact that he came back. He sent the first text and I know it was hard for him. Ty

admin

August 14, 2013 at 3:15 am

Well, I think now it boils down to your interactions via text messages.

Always leave him wanting more.
Always leave him wanting more.
Always leave him wanting more.

Say it with me now..

No, jk jk!

Work to bring up romantic feelings in him and then once you have him hooked step away. This will hopefully cause him to chase.
Melissa

August 14, 2013 at 1:28 am

Also… I knew we needed a break but I clung to him afraid to lose him. I am honestly grateful we both dated others, it truly solidified my feelings for him knowing it wasn’t a rebound or just infatuation. Either if us could have something local. And we were both faithful throughout our ldr.

Megan

August 13, 2013 at 7:28 pm

Hi Chris, my boyfriend broke up with me just over 2 months ago now, he told me he wasn’t sure he had made the right decision but needed time, a month later he came back to me n we spent the night together, however he turned around and said he was still hesitant about getting back together (we broke up because all he wants to do is be out partying with mates) a couple of times I would send about 7 msgs in a day and he would ignore them, the other day I sent him 4 msgs and all he responded with was “please stop” I was so frustrated as to why he would string me along. I sent another 3 msgs after that, the last one said goodbye and that I would never contact him again. Now I feel horrible and I’m worried he thinks I’m a psycho when really I’m just hurt, is there anyway to recover from this or should I let it go? We met on a dating site and he has blocked me on there coz I would check if he was online 🙁 I feel so stupid

admin

August 14, 2013 at 2:42 am

I want you to read this page.
Megan

August 14, 2013 at 4:31 am

Thanks I’m not going to contact him anymore but I am concerned about what he must think of me, the fact that he said please stop and I still sent 3 texts after that :/ he blocked me from seeing him online so I’m scared too much damage has been done, do u think time may help?
admin

August 15, 2013 at 2:15 am

I think time is your only play! And yes it can help tremendously but you have to show him you have changed after the time is over.

kris

August 13, 2013 at 10:56 am

Hi Chris,
I was with my ex for 9 years and we broke up 10months aggo because he cheated. We kept seeing each other we were still friends until recently when I found out he started seeing the girl that he was cheating with when he was with me. I was devastated and really emotional that ended up going to his place crying and telling him I want him back. He told me that he doesn’t want to get back together because he needs to experience and I think we wants to work it out with the other girl. Is there any chance we could still work out and get back together? I thought he was my soul mate and I was his at one stage. I haven’t spoken or txt him for 3 weeks now and I’m scared we will probably won’t get back together. Should I move on?..

admin

August 14, 2013 at 1:58 am

Keep giving him space. However, during the time you are giving him space you need to be working towards bettering yourself.

I can’t tell you if you should move on b/c in the end that decision is up to you. All I can do is help you approach the “get him back” situations in different ways.

nanan

August 13, 2013 at 7:47 am

hi admin
broke up wt ma guy 4 almost 2 weeks due to ma behaviour. he felt I didn’t love him n was not commited in the relationship and I can say its somehow true.
he the type who likes to communicate a lot but didn’t give him the chance. now I have fallen in love with him and don’t want lose. before the break up he was complaining of my inability to call him frequently so now I don’t know if I should the NC rule or not cos he might think I am no more interestd. he is the type who normally wants attention too. pls am confused n don WAN to lose him too .
help me out

admin

August 14, 2013 at 1:50 am

He is one of those types that wants more attention eh,

Maybe what you can do is a shortened version of the NC period.

Nicolle

August 12, 2013 at 7:39 pm

Hello Chris,
I am no different than any other girl on here that has asked for advice. My bf and I have been broken up for 2 weeks and before than on a break for 2 weeks. I have not contacted him once but it has been hard because he was my best friend. We were only together 3 months but I would have bet money that he was falling in love with me and I was starting to feel that way, when he decided he did not know. So long story short after a 2 week break all I got was I really care about you and really like you, you make me laugh like no one ever has, I have a great time with you but I don’t know. He could not tell me why we would not work, or why we would work. Also, he was in a 3 year relationship before this and has only been broken up a year and they were still friends. Which I do not agree with. He told me that he decided he could not be friends with her. I think this was our main problem. So, I could not live with someone who did not know how they felt about me so I walked away. My heart is broken. Do you think there is hope and what should I do? Thanks for any honesty, no matter how brutal it maybe.

admin

August 13, 2013 at 3:12 am

Hope yes!

BUT

I tell everyone here that hope isn’t enough it isn’t a guarantee.

Bella

August 12, 2013 at 3:45 pm

Hi Chris!

After the no contact rule (30 days), and that your ex has moved on to a new girl. In your opinion (already read your how to get your ex if he has a new girl) what would you like to hear from your ex so YOU would run into her arms?
From your heart, is it something that guys just want to hear?

thank you

admin

August 13, 2013 at 2:49 am

I don’t think there is any one text you can send to get that to happen. It has to be an accumulation of texts slowly leading up to that.

I understand what you are asking but I can’t give you what you want b/c there are a lot of texts you have to use to do the job.
Bella

August 14, 2013 at 3:30 pm

When we first broke up I sent him a letter, explaining how much I loved him, and that I wanted us to work. But I also wrote that I respect his decision to leave. But it was a love letter.

Do you think the NC will still work? Did the letter harm me?

Thank you Chris
admin

August 15, 2013 at 3:23 am

NC can still work for you.

The letter was not the best idea but NC can still work for sure.

Maria

August 12, 2013 at 1:25 am

My boyfriend broke up with me a week ago. We were together for over 2 1/2 years. We started out as friends with benefits and after about a year, we decided to try to get more serious. When he ended it with me, he said that he needed time to find himself and true happiness. It didn’t go well for me of course. That night I cried, begged, we both said some hurtful things to each other. But I still love him. I want to try again, assuming he’s willing to try again as well, but how long should I wait before talking to him again?

admin

August 12, 2013 at 3:01 am

I recommend the 30 day no contact rule. So, 30 days I guess.

mel

August 12, 2013 at 1:09 am

Hello, I have a question about this NC rule, I tried doing this but failed several times. After a few days of not texting her, I found myself texting her around 20-25 messages of “please come back” and other desperate texts. Today I really want to start it over again. Sometimes I can receive replies from the person but only to say I should move on. I thought there’s no hope, but still all my friends and relatives are still connected on her FB page. I think she still wants to reconnect but she’s still healing. What if I finished this 30 day challenge but she changed her number? Help

Artemis

August 19, 2013 at 10:04 pm

Even if she changed her number, if you want to get it later, you could still talk to her on facebook chat. Or get her number from a friend. (Just say, hey I needed to ask her for something, and anyone will give it to you)
admin

August 12, 2013 at 3:01 am

Well, don’t act desperate 20-25 “take me back” messages is pretty desperate. That is a turnoff to anyone.

I don’t think she would change her number. I think that is unlikely.

Lulu

August 11, 2013 at 10:25 pm

Hi,
Me and my ex were together for 3 and half years. We had a big argument and broke up. Next day he was texting me saying how sorry he was but I was still angry so told him to get lost. He then texted me to say maybe it was for the best we split because we argue a lot. Which is true but were also drawn to eachother. Have more good times than bad! We didn’t speak for a few days and then met up to collect my stuff from his house. We spoke and ended up crying and kissing but then he said to me I’m sorry it doesn’t feel right but it’s for the best and we need to stay split. He ended up walking off saying he’s going to regret it. We then spoke via text for the next week but mainly me asking him to take me back and him saying no. We spoke about feelings too. How we were both really upset. Then I decided to try the NC rule I did it for 4 days before getting drunk and texting him the whole I miss him. I can’t be without him etc. he didn’t reply and then I get him in the morning apologizing and he text me back saying it was ok and he was at work so couldn’t talk. I then texted him several times that day and he responded to 0. What do I do now? I’m going away for 12 days tomorrow to visit family. There’s no cheating or violence or issues – we love eachother so much but we just argue about petty things all the time. We know how to push eachother buttons. We were moving in together so I want to fix this and I think he does too he is just trying to do ‘the right thing’ although he said it didn’t feel right. HELP!

admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:51 am

Something tells me that you already know what to do. NC for THIRTY DAYS!
Lulu

August 12, 2013 at 7:49 am

We’ve already been apart now for 3 weeks today an it’s killing me! The longest we have ever been apart is 3 days. What if he doesn’t contact me after that long and what of he moves on?
admin

August 13, 2013 at 2:24 am

Both are possibilities but the odds of you two talking again are VERY high. As for moving on, it would most likely be to a rebound relationship and it would kind of show his true colors a little bit.
Lulu

August 19, 2013 at 9:59 am

I have done NC now for one week and it is the hardest thing in my entire life. I’m keeping busy on holiday but nothing can consume what I’m thinking about at night and dreaming about!

I seen on Instagram his friends putting pics and vids up but he is not in any and he’s commenting on them like this is so funny! So I know he hasn’t gone out or anything yet, so I know he’s still hurting. I’ve been out a lot to keep busy and everytime I put pics on Instagram his friends like the pics! What’s that all about??

I don’t think I can do 30 days I miss him like hell.
admin

August 20, 2013 at 3:43 am

Hahaha if you need inspiration to keep going check out the success section above. Also, you may want to find a way to be a little busier during this tough time. I know it is really hard but it is for the best trust me!

Susan

August 11, 2013 at 7:42 pm

Me and my boyfriend have been together for about three years. We’ve been through a lot, since day one, and we been on and off a lot. I cheated by kissing a girl in the beginning and he cheated on me during our first year at college. I forgave him and we got back together. I couldn’t trust him though, for as hard as I tried…I just couldn’t. I told him that and he asked why are together then and said he wanted to be with me but not If I don’t trust him ( texting). I asked if he could come to me he said he didn’t want to but that he was. Then he said he wasn’t sure what time he’d get to me so I got impatient and just decided to call him. I had already started crying hysterically and couldnt be patient…I should have been :(, I wish I had been. So when I called him I told him that I didnt want to break up but I thought we had to and also told him that I did t like that he didnt want to come to me. But we talked and reached a break through…I actually got my trust back for him, but after this he decided to break up. He said he did too much, lied and cheated and that it wasn’t fair it shouldn’t be like that, then he started saying he didn want to be in a relationship. It made me cry. He has t tried to contact me, I called him 5 times already telling him how I didn’t want to break up. Is it too late to do NC since I’ve already made the mistake of trying to get him back and calling him crying. We’ve never waited 30days after a break up to talk we’ve always just continued talking. The longest we’ve was like 15 days once and that was because he was waiting for me to text cause he had been texting me before.

admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:44 am

It is not too late Susan. You can still do NC and it could work incredibly well in your case.
Susan

August 12, 2013 at 3:15 am

Thank you so much for replying back chris!! 🙂
He has been asking for space that’s why we haven’t given the stuff back. We’re supposed to do it this week but he hasn’t said when yet. Should I automatically say yes for the day he chooses to come to me to exchange stuff? how should I act when we meet up ??
Artemis

August 19, 2013 at 10:06 pm

Just a suggestion, but couldn’t you ask a friend or mutual friend to help do the exchange for you guys? If you think it might be too emotional!
admin

August 20, 2013 at 4:55 am

That is a killer suggestion!
admin

August 13, 2013 at 2:06 am

I would say yes, agree to the day he chooses.

Remember though, you are just there to exchange stuff. No crying or getting into the relationship. Don’t act cold just act nice but kind of short.
Susan

August 13, 2013 at 3:21 am

Thank you 🙂
Susan

August 12, 2013 at 4:59 am

Should I leave the stuff outside for him to just get & tell him to leave my stuff out there too or should I actually see him and hand it to him and hang for a while?…it would be the first time seeing him since the break up. I really miss him so I’d want to see him but I want to know what you think I should do.
admin

August 13, 2013 at 2:16 am

I would see him but not hang out with him. Just make it a brief 10-30 min interaction.
Susan

August 11, 2013 at 7:46 pm

It’s been almost two weeks it feels like more. I really miss him.
Susan

August 11, 2013 at 7:47 pm

Correction: it’s been a little over three years together
Susan

August 11, 2013 at 11:03 pm

We still have to give eachother’s stuff back
admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:52 am

Give it back then!

Mariana

August 11, 2013 at 4:54 pm

Hi chris! I failed in the NC rule and I texted him before . He responded me with hostile messages and then he just started to ignore me. I have to addmit that we had a fight because of my stalker messages and my desperation.So…. I decided to apply the NC rule again, but I don’t know if it will work because I’ll already tried to contact him before. What can I do?
Pd: sorry for the spelling… I’m latin and I don’t practice too much my spelling.

admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:38 am

No worries about the spelling I understand!

Okie doke, so basically you need to stay NC and you really need to fall off the map a bit and let things cool down. He will be more receptive to you if you do the whole 30 days. If you message him very calmly after this time with a non threatening message you will get a response.

Brit

August 11, 2013 at 3:48 pm

Hi Chris,
Your site is the most useful looking thing I’ve come across. My boyfriend and I recently broke up 4 days ago. I want him back because it was so easy and effortless for us to be together, and we have so much in common. (And I love him too) I’ve been applying the no contact rule.

I’m usually the type that mopes around after a break up, but this time, I’m trying to be out with friends as much as I can and I post about it on FB and I think he’s been checking status’s. Will this make him think I don’t or never cared about him? I know he still cares for me. I just don’t my posts of fb to affect anything when I do try to contact him after 30 days.

I know he didn’t want to break up with me but I really offended him and I’m sorry and just want him back.

admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:34 am

Hi Brit,

So, I have a unique perspective. Maybe you want him to think you never cared about him. Because it will force him to confront his feelings about you and make him realize it is you that he really wants. It’s that whole thing that guys want what they can’t have.

P.S. feel free to look around the site b/c there are a lot of different ways you can get an ex back!

Duffer

August 11, 2013 at 10:09 am

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend and I were really, really good friends before we got together. We worked together, chilled together, spent weeks upon weeks in each other’s space. When we got together, I’d been hurt from a previous relationship and therefore stepped on his toes a little. It kind of went downhill from there. We both made mistakes, eventually, he called it off. Said we should go back to just being friends. Honestly, I really would like him back. He said that he didn’t have the ‘required feelings to be in a relationship with me’ which came from a comment that slipped out when I was really upset about being ‘friends with benefits’. I often complained and was ungrateful. I wish to change and am on a strong and solid path to doing so. We broke up three or four days ago. As stated, we work together so the ‘no contact’ rule is a little hard to do. What should I do? Best advice? I’m sure he still harbors feelings for me.

Thanks!

admin

August 12, 2013 at 2:25 am

You can do a variation of the NC rule. I call it the minimum contact rule.

Essentially it is everything in NC except when you see the person in public you aim to control the conversation, be pleasant and really keep the conversations shorter than normal. Also, always end conversation first.

Michelle

August 11, 2013 at 1:27 am

Hi chris so me and my bf broke up almost a year ago and in may we started talking again but he told me he didn’t want a gf I am a recovering addict and that put me in a bad place so I went back to drugs we were together for on and off 8 years he isnvery against drugs and I am sober now I want him back he truly is the love of my life but he won’t talk to me and if he does is to tell me to leave him alone and that he’s talking to someone I truly don’t know what to do its been over a month since we talked PLEASE HELP ME

admin

August 11, 2013 at 3:32 am

Take care of your drug problem if you haven’t already. That should be priority number one.

Also, implement the NC rule and work on improving yourself during that time.

Rachel

August 9, 2013 at 12:12 am

My boyfriend of 2 and a half years just broke up with me yesterday because we’re both going off to different colleges next year 6 hours apart and he couldn’t do the distance. I really love him and I know he does too. The breakup was hard on him too, we both ended up crying. He just couldn’t do the long distance, but I really thought we could have at least tried. I asked him if we could be friends and he said of course. Now how does that friendship start…? When would it be ok to text him? I get that I should probably give us both some space but would be the appropriate time?

admin

August 9, 2013 at 4:45 am

If you just want to be friends with him then I would say wait 2 weeks of NC and then just start texting him normally. Of course, I still think you should be the one to end the conversation. If you want him back though then you have to do another set of directinos.

VL

August 8, 2013 at 3:13 pm

Hi Chris:
I have a very complicated story and would love some advice. My ex (bf? not sure if ex is really what I would describe each other as) and I were together for 1 yr and 9 mths. He has three children from previous relationships, all of whom I fell madly in love with. Back in December of last year he decided that he needed space, so I moved out. He has a habit of being extremely stressed about money, and in turn takes things out on our relationship, which to me is a cop-out but that’s besides the point. We were perfect together, similar interests, both artists, both very spiritual, everything seemed to be so great. He said he had never felt someone loved him so much as I did. I felt the same. We went all through christmas holidays without any contact, then end of Christmas he contacted me, said he wanted me to come up for a visit, so I did. We went back into the relationship, although I was still living in my hometown, travelling back and forth. Well about two mths ago, I found text messages on his phone from his ex (the youngest’s mother), they were very flirty, and crossed a huge line in my opinion, I brought it up to him, we had a huge blow up, but he ended up contacting me again after a week, we sat down and talked about it and he admitted there was nothing more to it then just flirting and being friends (his ex is quite the piece of work let me tell you, it would take page upon page of writing to fully explain how manipulative this woman is.) Then out of the blue again, he says he needs space, wants to let go of some things so he can think. Dosen’t want to talk everyday, still loves me and misses me but things just aren’t working right now, because of our last big fight (umm duh!! not my fault you decided to flirt with your ex and got caught)..anyways, I had NC with him up until Monday. A friend of mine had told me he deleted everything off his facebook that had to do with me, including pictures of me with the youngest boy. And that he had friended his ex. I was then texted from an anonymous person saying that him and his ex were back together and he was with her right at that very moment of the texting, that he was at her house having drinks with her (no big deal, so was the little boy, they’ve hung out before, I never cared, I trusted him that much.) I kept my cool though and didn’t talk to him. He texted me Monday a.m to say that he missed me and wanted to call me and has been talking to me ever since (still hasn’t physically called me though..grrrrrr ).. Last night he started showing signs of backing off again, retreating from the convo a litte, drops off the face of the earth at night, only to text again this morning. What should my next course of action be?

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August 9, 2013 at 4:30 am

Man, that is like a drama saga!

Some anonoymous person texts you. Am I the only one that finds that creepy? Hahaha

So yes, if this ex is as manipulative as you say she may have quite a hold over him. Manipulative women can control men like nobodies business. Honestly, I think you should go a full NC for a month and really work on evolving during that time. It should be more about YOU than him.

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