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Melissa
March 15, 2016 at 1:57 am
My boyfriend of almost three years decided to break up with me. We met freshman year, Valentine’s day. I was 14 turning 15 and he was 15 as assigned partners in Japanese class. I was the new kid in the state, and I fell for him the moment we bowed after our presentation. It was an akward bow, too, since I had the feeling we both liked each other. Then I told him I liked him sophomore year and he confessed he liked me when we first met. He started walking me to my classes and then I moved back to another state. He and I had a long distant relationship for more than two months until my parents told him to end it. We became friends, then five months later, junior year, he asked me to be his girlfriend again and we had been together until just three days ago. We had been fighting a lot over the stupidest things. The recent argument was about me not responding on time because I didn’t tell him I was studying for midterms. I was trying my best to answer on time and was answering to him all day but with gaps. Then, I got angry with him after he was whining that I was focusing on other things more than him. I left the conversation and the next day, I texted him saying that if he could not change his ways with getting upset with me all the time over this, he should just break up with me and I’d live with the pain. However, I didn’t mean it, but it was too late to unsend it and then he responded it was over and that he’d hope we’d cross paths one day and I begged him saying it was an accident…over and over. He left the conversation saying I was irritating and that he was putting his phone down. I know we both still love each other and cared for each other. He’s my first and only boyfriend and my first love. We talked about our future together and he was going to propose to me when he’d visit. This October will mark the fourth year we haven’t seen each other. I tried doing the No Contact rule, but failed. I texted him way too many times over the last few days and had no response. Now, every time I breath, I can feel a sharp needle piercing my skull and all the foods now taste gross to me and that I’m turning way too pale. I told him about this, too, but had no response. I’m suffering through all the pain and I don’t know what to do anymore.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 15, 2016 at 2:05 pm
Hi Melissa,
I’m confused when did you really broke up? You said this October will the fourth year you haven’t seen each other?
Louise
March 14, 2016 at 2:13 am
What does it mean when your ex tells you he wants to be friends? That he still wants you to be a part of his life after everything you’ve been through together. That he knows that you will be there for him and he will be there for you. I thought breaking up with someone meant deleting them permanently out of your life for good.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 15, 2016 at 11:09 am
Hi Louise,
It can mean he’s being safe of not being sorry because he broke with you or he just sees you as a friend or he just wants to say what he thinks you want to hear.
KarenNYC
March 13, 2016 at 4:42 pm
I’ve read the ex-boyfriend recovery guide and many of the articles on your site. I implemented the NC rule a couple of weeks ago and intend to follow through to the end. I was wondering if any of the advice is different if my ex suffers from depression. He cut all of his friends out of his life within the last couple of years and keeps mainly to himself. He doesn’t take medication and has spent the last couple of months spiraling out of control after an array of personal issues (not related to me). Our issues as a couple stem from his depression and feeling worthless and his needing me to “fix him” since he isn’t working to fix himself, which is unfair and impossible for someone else to do. Since he is not in a positive state of mind I was wondering if there were tactics that I should stay away from because of the possible negative effect they could have on him? I know he obviously suffers from issues far more important than our breaking up, his decision by the way, but I love him and I want to try and help him so he isn’t going through this alone. We have a very long history and continue to come back to each time and time again and over the years he has continued to come back to me when he is at his lowest point, which has always resulted in our failures as a couple.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 14, 2016 at 3:45 pm
Hi KarenNYC,
If he has depression and he’s not acting upon it, you can’t do anything about it for him because you can’t control him. But if he survived like that, maybe that’s not depression but maybe constant pessimism? I’m not sure.. and you’re enabling it. Does he have relatives that can look out for him or friends?
andi
March 13, 2016 at 6:58 am
So me and my ex broke up about a month ago. We talked but its because he wanted a proper breakup because the night before we did break up we were yelling and then the next day he said he wanted a proper and mutual breakup. We already broke up like three times but it was mostly my fault. He treated me like a queen, he was a fuckboy but when he was with me he was loyal and did everything for me. I basically had a nice guy wrapped around my finger but I would do stupid shits that’d make him mad till he got way too tired of it. We broke up twice and we got back. This one was already official. I didn’t wanna be that girl who like if he doesnt want you anymore then let it go. But I want him back so bad and since the breakup he’s been a BIGG fuckboy. he even hit on one of my bestfriends. I got mad not because he was sort of with my friend but because of the fact that he just played her like a trash. So I got mad and went up to him for playing with my bestfriend’s feelings. But little do my friends know that I miss him so much and I want him back but if I do get him back. I dont want him to play around I want him to be serious. How do I do that.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 13, 2016 at 8:04 am
Hi Ando,
if you’re not in good terms now..that would be the first step.. are you talking? do you see each other? do you still fight?
Dawn
March 13, 2016 at 2:42 am
How long does it take for the guy to get to ‘why hasn’t she texted me yet? Has she moved on already?’
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 13, 2016 at 7:09 am
It depends on every guy… If the guy said he wanted casual dating only, that means just going out, having fun, having sex with no responsibility of trying to make you happy.. The danger with this is that girls are emotional.. girls fall during it while men stay unemotiinally attached..
So during no contacy, he may miss you and contact you but always be observing and if he says he still doeasn’t want to commit, walk away
Nicole
March 12, 2016 at 10:56 pm
I have just finished no contact and sent a casual message this morning, mentioning a reminder of a date we had and that it made me smile, he has read it but not responded. I know this means now go back to no contact again for a couple of weeks. But does this initial no response mean it’s less likely I will get him back ultimately?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 13, 2016 at 6:56 am
Hi Nicole,
nope..it may mean he doesn’t know how to respond to that..wait a week.. and instead of remembrance text, pick a topic that’s interesting for him
so confused
March 11, 2016 at 1:45 am
I want to thank you for your inspirational article.
He wanted to break up with me because he thought that our relationship isn’t going anywhere.
At the begging of our relationship, he came on very strong and his action towards me was very intense. I liked him and attracted to him but also was kind of overwhelmed by his sexual attraction towards me. I was not ready for that stuff. I wanted to take things slow and get to know him better before I jump into serious relationship. He told me multiple time that he wants to see my family but I couldn’t let that happen. My family were not exactly happy about the fact that I’m dating him. Despite all that, we had great time together and he tried to wait for me. He always tried to remind me how much he likes me and adores me. and tole me how beautiful I am and how much I made him happy. But he ended our relationship saying he still really likes me. I told him I’m willing to try.. making things work. but he said he is not worth it. I thought I should let him go and tried not to think about him anymore. But few days later, he started texting me like nothing ever happened. It was really casual..sending wired and funny pictures etc. I ignored him. then he goes like why are you not answering my texts. I started to talking to him again and one day he asked me do you want to be friend with me, and I said if that’s what you want and he said..we never were friends.
I was like.. what does he want..? After that he started to telling me he misses me want to hangout with me but I was not sure this is right or not. but we kept talking to each other and he put effort to express his feelings for me. and he finally told me he wants me back and would love see me again and misses me a lot. It has been like 3 month we haven’t seen each other. I was excited to see him again and I was ready for it.
we supposed to meet on Friday but he asked my other availability. I told him then how about meet on Sunday – and he didn’t reply my text till Tuesday and I was really confused and frustrated and angry.. I unfriend him on Facebook and told him I don’t want to be his doormat. I know.. it was too much..but He apologized and it seems everything going well again. Few days ago he changed his profile pic on his face book with some girl.. I was shocked and really sad.. I told him good bey. but he told me what’s wrong…and I told him what did you expect. and he said you didn’t want to be with me so I moved on. I couldn’t understand how can he say that . How come he can think that i didn’t want to be with him. even though I was angry at him. I didn’t reply anything to him and he sending me texts and I asked him what do you want me to do. . and he said he wants me to be his friend and be in his life. I want to part of his life but not like this.. I have feelings for him and can’t be his friend.. I told him I can’t do this for you focus on your girlfriend and goodbye..
I don’t understand why does he have to rub it in my face .. post pic with his girl.
I still like him and I’m so miserable .. Do you think we still have chance to get back together?…
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 11, 2016 at 2:02 am
I think it was a big misinderstanding of how fast or slow the relationship was.. there is a chance but you have to start over as friends
Julie
March 10, 2016 at 6:54 pm
What if we have already moved on to seeing each other? My partner broke up with me more than a month ago (dated for 1.5 years) and we saw each other a couple of times because he was leaving for a week. I had some things to give him (for the trip) the first time and then the day after we had lunch and hung out. No sex but kisses, hugs and I love yous because he was leaving). I asked to see him those times and he obviously and positively agreed. He is coming back next week and I was planning on seeing him for ice cream if he is okay with it.
After meeting up, can I start texting him to build up our attraction? Should I start at the first contact text or should I start at something different?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 11, 2016 at 12:49 am
Hmmm, I think you should maintain the date light and build the attraction there as well and then the text should be about whatever you talked about in that date..
Sarah
March 10, 2016 at 5:04 am
Help!
Okay after the break up I was pathetic – a text gnat, begging, pleading, sending screenshots of the love messages he sent, I even drive past his house once to talk to him but I got scared and drive away,yet he saw me. I talked to people about it and they twisted things around and told him I was saying bad things about me (I was saying things that I had done wrong btw)
Anyway the when he went on a dating site I texted him angrily and pleaded again. He blocked me off all social media the day after the break up (before I begged heaps etc)
Anyway after two-three weeks of being stupid I implemented the thirty days. On the 29th he sent a message asking for a contact detail but I heard he had already obtained it through a mutual friend, so I don’t know.- I was polite, brief. Ended it first but He cut was curt didn’t ask about me or anything,
I waited another 13 days roughly and texted him for the first time first yesterday. I screwed up!!! I couldn’t think of a good story or memory, I went through so many and he knows me and I was so scared he would realise it would be a ploy.
So instead I texted him first with ‘you were right!’ And he responded ‘about what’. I tried to not reply for an hour but he texted a couple times in the first twenty minutes asking what about then he said he wasn’t in the mood to argue and if I didn’t reply he would just block my number, so I had to reply.
I was polite, positive, brief, and just said he was right about a game he was obsessed about that used to make me laugh and we had a laugh about it in the past. Then I asked him how his studies were, and he replied that he didn’t want to seem rude but it was better if we didn’t talk ‘because of how I am and it’s not gonna be good for me’
He obviously still sees me as needy, crazy and stuff, and 5.5 weeks of no contact hasn’t don’t anything to lessen it (it’s been about 9 weeks since the break up and we were together on and off 9 months and official for only one 🙁 )
Is all hope lost? What do I do? His birthday is in a couple of weeks and I wanted to text him happy birthday but now I’m unsure
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2016 at 11:27 pm
Yes, better not text him.. have you beem active in nc and posting and posting it?
Becky L
March 8, 2016 at 8:42 pm
Hi there,
I stumbled upon the website while googling my own theories after my break up. This is the third break up we have gone through but this is the one he’s adamant on being done. He said he lost the “spark” and he doesn’t feel like I’m the one. Honestly I think we are really good together. I understand the basic stages of relationships and the “Spark” or Honeymoon phase always disappears. Anyways, he said I didn’t do anything, and I’ve been really great to him, and he hopes we can be friends. But now when I went through the question stage i mentioned i would love to build a good friendship with him he told me “he needs time.” or “Not at the moment”. Why not if he’s the one who friend zoned me. There are many things i noticed that could have changed in the relationship that could have ruined his “spark”. Anyways my question is.. is there any hope for this? He still has be as friends on social media and views all my snapchats.
Becky L
March 10, 2016 at 1:29 am
No I didn’t start talking to him during my no contact. It was a couple days of questioning after he broke up with me than I haven’t had contact since.. My math was off, it’s been like a week or 7 days-ish but I haven’t talked to him at all since I asked him questions. I’m going insane because I adore him so much.
Becky L
March 9, 2016 at 7:10 pm
I’ve been doing the no talking thing after my slight upset fit that I went through in maybe like 11-12 days in? I’m just not sure what to do after the 30 days, what if I don’t hear from him? Does he really want to be friends? I don’t really know what to do… He said he still really cares about me and all that… I absolutely adore him… Our relationship became a routine so I do see where sparks could disappear but I was always up for doing stuff! It was based on him!
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2016 at 10:02 pm
wait if that happened within no cintact.. that means you have to restart count.. and start the count the day after that
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2016 at 5:47 pm
Hi Becky L,
I think so.. mostly when it’s about spark issues, one of the most common solutions is being interesting in your own life and having variety.. People are attracted to happiness and variety..
val
March 8, 2016 at 3:04 pm
Hey there 🙂 my boyfreind broke up with me over a 2 months ago i guess ive begged him and cried but it didnt work tbh i dont blame him the reason why he broke up with me and im not even so sure because he doesnt want to tell me is because we were fighting alot and on small things i woul dtell him get out of my life i dont want you anymore and i hate you ive hurted him so much and i knew it so it all got to the point where he said i cant be with anyone and that he still loves me but cant be with me anymore we can be freinds but i dont want to be his freind i want him to be between my arms again ive done the nc rule for 13 days now and im confused what should i text him what if he sthinks that im happy he finally got out my life ( which is not true ofc ) tell me pls what should i text him and how to make him come back 🙁 thank you 🙂
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2016 at 10:49 am
Hi Val,
if that’s the reason, then of you approach him nicely there’s a chance he’ll see you’ve changed.. what about a remembrance text?
Sinthu
March 8, 2016 at 8:42 am
I been whatsapping my ex and then he says btw i dont want u getting ur hopes up. we wont be getting back together cos weve been there already and it didnt work. so now what do i do…done no contact already..
sinthu
March 9, 2016 at 4:36 pm
thank you amor. have a gd day
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2016 at 10:40 am
Just say yeah… basically, it’s like starting out as friends… it doesn’t mean you can’t attract him again but yoy have to be the ungettable girl.. if he senses you still like him.. you will probably be friendzoned
KWL
March 7, 2016 at 5:06 am
So my ex and I met on an online dating site. We talked a couple weeks on their before texting and then eventually meet up. After meeting that first time he would drive down to my campus to see me everyday that I was on campus. However, it was the end of the semester and I was about the move back home for the summer and possible for the remainder I was at that college. This caused a distance commute to jump from 15 to minutes to see each other to an hour to and hour and half. We dated long distance for 4 to 5 months before breaking up due to schedules and never being able to see other. We remained friends before eventually loosing contact. We went for about 4 months without talking before I randomly messaged him with an old memory and to see how he was (I was interested in giving things another try) However he was with another girl. For about a month was would talk every now and then until she broke up with him for her ex. We still talk now that I’m traveling back to school but it’s very limited. I’m interested in getting back together and giving things another try but how can I better go about this?
KWL
March 9, 2016 at 9:46 pm
So what do I need to do if I’ve already completed the no contact rule when we went for about 2-3 months without talking?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2016 at 10:20 pm
focus on you and him.. and observe how he is..focus on building the attraction between you and him..don’t think about the other girl..just be careful that he’s not making you both fall for you
KWL
March 9, 2016 at 2:31 am
Amor, I try to be flirty at times but I can’t tell if he is and we are still friends. We call every now and then usually when we’re not so busy. I just recently found out his was talking to a new girl and I asked him if he wanted me to back off and his reply was “I don’t want to lose friends over friends” Did he just friend-zone me?
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 9, 2016 at 6:50 pm
hmmm..if he called the other girl he’s flirting with a friend too.. that can mean you’re not friendzoned yet
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 8, 2016 at 1:20 pm
Hi Kwl,
how are you talking now? as friends? are you flirty? do you call each other?
unike
March 5, 2016 at 7:44 pm
Hi,
My boyfriend broke up with me on valentine’s day and that was terrible. I left his place crying and he later asked me to still be friends. but I don’t want to go in friend zone so I said no I won’t talk to you. After two days i had my car accident so I called him for help but he was busy so he said he can’t come right now. I texted him “if I was at your place and you had an accident I would have left every work” after reading this text he asked me how am I but I didn’t reply., So now it’s been 16 days I haven’t contacted him. Also, he is not seeing anyone right now and I want to go back to him before my birthday that’s march 29. I think 30 days will be over by then. So what should I do I am currently following the no contact rule. Also. I am little chubby and I am trying to reduce my weight and I have a little but that’s not enough I want to look good when I will meet him on my birthday.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 6, 2016 at 6:47 am
Hi Unike,
You’re on track with nc, have you been active in posting too?
Hlc
March 2, 2016 at 12:12 am
Hi, I would like some help,
Here is my story, we had been dating for over 2 years and we moved in together a few months ago. Everything in the relationship was amazing, we always had a great time, we respected eachother, we were both very caring and supportive but there were some issues, most of them minor and workable but the big one is that at the begging of the relationship around 6 months in, I found out that a girl had kissed him, he didn’t tell me, I had to find out on my own. I confronted him and he said it was an accident and that it would never happen again. We decided to keep going and after a year one day he decided that we should break up, he didn’t give any reasons other than that he wanted to travel and random things, I waited a few days, and decided to go talk to him, I wrote him a letter and gave him over 200 reasons why I loved him and our relationship. After reading it, crying and thinking he finally told me that the reason why he had actually dated to break up was that he couldn’t keep lying and that he had been the one that kissed her that time, it hit me hard and I asked many questions, one of them being what would have happened if she had been okay with it, he said I don’t know… I decided to stay with him and make things work. Things were great for months and then we decided to move in together, everything was wonderful until about a month ago when he started to constantly text a woman from work, I felt really uncomfortable about it and told him and as had many discussions about it, always connecting it to that past issue and bringing it back. He was an amazing boyfriend and for the whole time we were together he always did everything to show me he was committed and love me, but I failed to let go of that past issue even with seeing all he did. Two weeks ago after out last discussion of the problem he talked to me and said he was done trying, that he was feeling sad, depressed and he needed out, he told me he didn’t have feelings for me anymore, that my doubts and questioning made him loose the feelings. I begged for another chance since I love him and we lived together, he agreed to give me time to find a place to move to and maybe see if he could get feelings again but he wasn’t making any promises because for him the feelings weren’t there, after a week of that he talked to me again and said he didn’t want me to try anymore, that OT hurt him to see me suffering for his rejection and that it was better we set boundaries and I stopped trying to kiss him, touch him and stop having sex which was still awesome. It was then I decided to move out and it’s been 3 days since that and I haven’t heard from him. On the day of the move I told him I understood, respected and accepted his decision and that I hoped that someday in the future we could work things out to either be back together or be friends again, we were very close friends for 2 years before dating, and he wasn’t closed to the idea, he said that for now he needed space and that he didn’t know what could happen in the future…. do you think I have a chance at getting him back? Thank you so much
Hlc
March 2, 2016 at 4:30 pm
Hi Amor, thank yo for your reply. But even with the fact that I couldn’t trust him? With him saying he doesn’t love me romantically anymore and asking me to move out? It’s a very confusing and difficult situation, I’m heartbroken and I don’t know how to proceed, I am doing no contact right now but this weekend is his sisters sweet sixteen party and I don’t know if I should still go.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 2, 2016 at 5:11 pm
hmmm if yiu’re invited.. go as courtesy to his sister.. for now, focus on nc first to clear your head and his too
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 2, 2016 at 4:11 pm
Hi Hlc,
We actually have stories of cheating and they were able to get each other back.. so, yes there is a chance 🙂
Ana
March 1, 2016 at 11:55 pm
So my ldr bf of 1 and 4 mo and I were on a break when he started ignoring me for a few days and then he told me he had moved on I tried to be supportive when he told me but he kept saying how happy this new girl made him and posted on social media about me , so I decided to ignore him but then he messaged me accusing me of messing with his relationship when I hadn’t talked to him in days , he then went on to say he didn’t know how he felt so I asked him not to date the girl but he said what’s done is done. It was hard but I didn’t talk to him for the next two days when he called me at 10pm asking if I was ok..because he got a weird feeling and had to pull over, I upset by this especially since he had acted so rude and mean towards me the previous time we talked so I said that it doesn’t make him a good person , he then hung up on me and then I got a msg from him which was actually from his new gf saying how he was freaking out in the car about how worried he was over me so that’s why he called I acted cordial and said that there was no need for someone to check up on me when they intentionally hurt me . I have not contacted him since , but I went on a date and posted an innocent picture with the guy and I later went on social media to see that he upset about something unspecified but I suspect that is was about my picture. Also When he first moved on he would post about her non stop and at the time they were only dating for a day , now they have only been dating for a week , and I’m working on the no contact rule but I just don’t know how to assess this situation
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 2, 2016 at 4:05 pm
Hi Ana,
yeah stay with no contact..he’s being possessive..he may get annoyed and angry during nc..but let him be..he has to sort out what he really wants and not get both of you girls at the same time
Taylor
February 29, 2016 at 10:57 pm
Hi!,
My situation is a little different because of the time frame. Two weeks ago I started talking to a guy on a chat app and things moved quickly. We met about 4 days later and we were really into each other, we then had another date 4 days ago and it was even better than the first date. We officially agreed that we are together and will be exclusive. The day after our second date we got into a disagreement because he had not texted me all day and I(being the caring person I am) was upset because I want to know if he’s okay and our relationship is still solid. His excuse was that he had a bad day and wasn’t around his phone much. He thought I overreacted and we argued back and forth and now we’re over. We both did and said some petty things. He put all of the blame on me. He said that I needed to work things out with myself. He sounded so childish. These past couple of days have been torture. I go through all kinds of mood swings about him. One minute I’m happy that we are done because he seems immature, but the next minute, I want him back. Yesterday, I was a wreck. I noticed that he’s back on the app that we met on. And this hurt even more. Everyone keeps telling me that I can do so much better. I’m trying to move on, but it’s hard. One minute I’m engulfed in a new exciting romance and the next, it’s snatched away from me. He was my first “grown up relationship” since I just turned 18. He was the first person I ever made out with. I miss the feelings of having him. I Should I text him and try to hash it out? Or should I just let it go because it was such a short relationship to begin with? His 24th birthday is next week and I thought about texting him happy birthday, but the longer I wait, I feel like the more he’ll lose interest and find someone new.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2016 at 3:10 pm
Hi Taylor,
that’s a natural feeling because you’re in the honeymoon period and you’re young.. but the truth is, you’re clingy and you’re chasing him which is natural too because you’re just 18.. It’s legal age but it doean’t mean we are emotionally matured at that point.. Some are but most aren’t. Put your self value first…Check if somebody you’re dealing with is being disrepectful to your standards and check if your actions are in tune with your standards too.. That way, only quality people stay in our lives
E.
February 29, 2016 at 3:35 pm
Hello,
I have read a lot of your articles, I would like to say, it does give me some hope, however, I still feel like it may not work for me… Here’s my story, I met this guy on an online dating app. We exchanged phone numbers within two days. We tested for a week. On that weekend we met in person. On the first day of the meet he kissed me. I then kissed him back but thought it was too fast. But he asked for me to come back the next day. The next day I did come back and we watched football with his best friend. He would cuddle me. But when his friend stepped out of the room, he would make out with me really quick without warning before his best friend came back. I ended up spending the night there because he had ne stay so late. We then something about being to fast and that in his past relationship it didn’t work out and that it was different for us. However later that day he asked to be in a relationship. I asked if he was sure and okay with that. He said yes. Later in the same week he explained how I mad him happy where as his exes never did. How he sleeps better when I am around where as he had to send his exes home so he could sleep. I expressed how he made me happy. When I was asleep, I would feel him pull me closer to him, which would wake me up with out his knowledge, and hear him whisper, “I love you.” I then would smile to myself and go back to sleep. We haven’t argued. However, I kept hearing how his exes mistreated him in the past and that our relationship might end up the same. That weekend he broke up with me. I’ll admit I was confused and upset and cried a little and offered for more time. He said no. But the next day I went over to get my stuff. He then gave it to me and text me saying that he missed me but he believes that it’s for the best. I ignored it. And hour later he apologized with a sad face emoji. I still ignored him. An hour later he said he thinks he is wrong and that he misses me. An hour later I replied and said let’s meet somewhere. So we met at a mall and he said he wants to try again. I then explain that I am not any of his exes and that he needs to get the worry out of his mind. He agreed. Then asked to take me to his place for a bit. I was iffy about it but I agreed. When we get into his car I was talking about something and he grabs my hand and holds and then I stopped talking. He apologized and let go and I just laughed and said it was okay. When we get to his house he then came over to me with open arms. I thought he was going for a hug but he went in for a kiss. I kinda backed away and he said that he was going for a kiss, so I tried to give him a peck but he went in for a make out session. After we chilled for thirty minutes, he took me back to my car and before I got out he went in for another kiss. Again, I felt like he was rushing it again. But I trust he knew what he was doing. For a week I didn’t see him in person for I kept myself busy. However, we texted. But that night after he dropped me off at my car, when I got home he text and asked to pick me up and drop me back off to home. I said no and don’t think that’s a good idea. He kept asking then agreed with me. On Friday of that week, I decided to stop by his place with coffee and his favorite candy before he went to work. He was late and had to rush so I didn’t get a conversation with him, just a chance to give him the stuff. When he got to work he said how happy he was to receive the food from me because he forgot his lunch. He then asked to go out on Saturday. I said yes. Saturday comes along. Found out his best friend is going. So I got nervous because I hardly know her. We go out. He pays for everything and I tried to stay cheep as possible. I don’t feel comfortable when people use their money on me. We go and get ice cream, and he spilt his over his cup so he caught it with his mouth. So I saw an opportunity to be funny and teased him about it. So I said he was stealing. But after a minute he snapped at me and told me to stop. I apologized and said I was just kidding. Then before I finished getting my ice cream, they both left before me. On their way out I heard the best friend whisper, “What was that?” I got hurt and didn’t talk for the rest of the time. He then went over to me and apologized for snapping at me and asked to not do it again because it was embarrassing. I agreed and apologized again. Later his best friend was saying how her and I were white and he was Mexican. I then said, “Correction, I’m German. (I know I’m white, I’m being funny). She said nothing about it. He then wanted to go to the bar with his friends but I couldn’t join because I’m one year under age. So I said he could go and not always be around me. He then made a plan where him and his best friend would go and get drunk then come home and have me go over and then have me spend time with him and his friends. He asked me to come over but his friends wanted to go home so it was just he and I. I was tired and wanted to go to sleep because of how late it was. We then went to bed. The next day I woke up late and said I should go and get something to eat, but he kept pulling me back to him and said no don’t leave. So I agree to staying longer. He then said how his best friend said that she didn’t like how I teased about the ice cream. She also thought it was stupid how I said I was German and not white. I apologized to him again and said how I was sorry to begin with. He said it was okay. Later I tried to leave again but he kept pulling me backs to him. At dinner time he said that I could take a shower and what not. So I did. When I got out he said that he doesn’t want me to feel like he is kicking me out. I said I didn’t and that it’s his place and that he has every right to ask me to leave when he wants me to leave. He then asked me to text him when I get home. I did exactly that. He then asked if I ate and what I ate. I answered. I then fell asleep. At midnight he text me and said he breaking up with me and said something about the ice cream event was childish and what not. So I said I was getting my stuff. I go over and we talked. He kept saying stuff about his past relationship and the night we went out and what his best friend had to say about it. I get his best friend is a protective person, but I’m not any of his exes. However, everytine I would say something, he would interrupt me and say I was blaming him when I didn’t say anything about him. He also said that he loves me but he doesn’t feel in love with me. I left and when I got home I suggest a break from each other because I feel like his feelings were a bit clouded. He said that he “just can’t.” So I said okay and put my last feelings in and said goodnight. He then started to attack me. I tried to assure him that I was done talking about it but he kept insisting that I wasn’t. So I just ignored him. The next day, he started to say that he was going to block me on social media and to not big his friends. I asked what I did wrong. He said he doesn’t think it’s best to see each other’s status. So I said that was fine and for him to do what he has to do. He then called me immature and said that was the reason that we couldn’t be together. I didn’t reply until five hours later saying ouch and explained how that hurt and that he doesn’t know my past yet.
Yes, the relationship was only two weeks, but it felt like years. We hardly had any conflict. We were happy. I want to get back together. Not trying to force him. Please help me…
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 1, 2016 at 1:06 pm
Hi E,
it’s natural that you would feel like that because you’re in the honeymoon period… take it slow.. if he comes, you have to be more careful.. because what you feel can be infatuation too
Margo
February 24, 2016 at 5:41 pm
Is EBR no longer selling the Texting Bible?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 25, 2016 at 11:23 am
Hi Margo,
We’re still selling it 🙂 Here’s the link
The Texting Bible
Sonia
February 24, 2016 at 4:03 pm
After the no contact period I texted him. He texted me back but when I started talking about good souvenirs he didn’t respond me back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 25, 2016 at 11:03 am
Maybe because it’s not an interesting topic for him.. or he’s busy