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Mia
February 7, 2016 at 7:41 am
Hi,
My boyfriend and I were in a relation for almost 7 years. We have had our ups and downs like any other relationship. We had broken up 5 months back due to some issues. I had implemented the no contact rule and it worked. We got back. Things now happened to have taken a whole new turn. He had to leave the country because his visa could not get renewed and he went back to his hometown. He had informed me that he will be back or will to the least try to. That being said, we were still going on strong till last week. Out of the blue, he sends me a text saying that he is not coming back because things are not working out with his visa. And told me that we need to part ways and move on. He told me he would not call me or text or anything at all. Sending that, he blocked me. He did not even wait for me to respond to that text. He blocked me on Whatsapp, Instagram, Skype and Snapchat. I asked him to speak to me, we could work something out (used my sisters phone to text). I asked him to Skype and he said he wouldn’t because he does not want to get weak. Why is he being so selfish? He just left me in one second even when things were so perfect. First few days I would text him (SMS). But would get no response. Now I just stopped. No texts, no nothing. Its been 4 days I haven’t made any effort to talk to him. Do you think its going to work in my favor? I feel hopeless.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 7, 2016 at 5:10 pm
Hi Mia,
That is hard. But maybe he felt hopeless because of his visa problem.
Mia
February 7, 2016 at 7:44 am
He also said he is doing this for the good of both of us. How is this good? 7 years and distance is his worry? I don’t understand.
BC
February 6, 2016 at 9:11 pm
hello, I ‘ve been with a guy in “friends with benefits” relationship for a year and 2 months now, but we “broke up” last week Friday night, he told me he kind of started talking to a girl he wanted to date and that he needs some time. So we met the next day talked about this situation and decided to be just friends, and ever since that Saturday he would message me every day, and then this week on Tuesday he told me to come to his place to talk and we ended up having sex, so I thought maybe it didn’t work out with him and that girl or he changed his mind, but I messaged him this Friday and asked him to meet again, he told me he got closer to that girl. so do I have a chance to get him back? and to make him my boyfriend? we had a really good connection, we spent a lot of time together, and I really do want to date him, I feel like it’s kind of my mistake that I didn’t ask him for a relationship earlier, but I really like him and I thought that one day we would be dating, but i was waiting for him to ask me that
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 7, 2016 at 3:45 pm
HI Bc,
if you really want a relationship, then the first step is to stop the sex. As in stop it. But know that after that you’re going to risk him going away because he might have put you in the FWB position only. But there’s hope, don’t fret. That means when you stop the sex, you have to be more valuable for him enough to chase you.
So, that means improving yourself, putting more value in yourself because even if he goes away after you refuse sex, he will probably check you online because as a human being, he’ll miss what he used to do and if he sees your improvement, there’s a chance he’ll reconnect.
But if he doesn’t go away, then it’s going to be easier for you. You just have to maintain the interest while maintaining your standards.
Jane
February 5, 2016 at 10:48 pm
It’s been two days since I started the NC rule. I have a pending medical condition and I have yet to hear news from the doctor. He told me even though I don’t want to speak to him right, to please tell him what the update is when I find out. I told him I would tell him and other than that I couldn’t speak to him. But reading over this, should I still tell him when I find out? That would ruin the NC rule and I would have to start over when I find out.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 6, 2016 at 1:01 pm
Hi Jane,
Hmmm.. at what point in the nc will the result arrive? The problem is, it can start a convo between the two of you but maybe it’s not that nice to make somebody worry a medical condition if they are truly concerned about it. Maybe just make it short, tell him the news and then don’t engage. End the text in a way that you can’t send another text. Like, “It’s______ I have to go now, got a plane to catch.”
DoingItAllWrong
February 5, 2016 at 7:15 pm
My boyfriend and I were together for 3 months, and things were going perfectly. We had never been happier and both were head-over-heals. At times I even wondered if it was going too fast and he was feeling too strongly for me too soon. But 2 weeks ago he found out I cheated on him a week into the relationship. It was an isolated mistake (biggest mistake of my life – I don’t know what I was thinking) that hasn’t happened since, but as soon as he found out he said he no longer felt for me the same way and would never feel that way for me again, that he has no desire at all to ever get back together. The tough part is we work together (even tougher is that the other guy works with us as well) so he wants to be strictly work-friends in order not to make things weird. The NC rule is impossible in our situation. But the part I am most worried about is in the past two weeks since the breakup (but before finding this site) I have been doing everything -and I mean EVERYTHING- wrong! I have called and texted him, begging him to give me a second chance, to he point he has asked me never to contact him outside of work again. I have started crying uncontrolably at work as soon as I see him, making things really uncomfortable for him, and he’s getting annoyed. I bring up the relationship repeatedly and it always turns into an argument. I have been so distraught that I haven’t been taking care of myself and I’ve lost a lot of weight (to the point of looking sick) to the point I blacked out at work and he’s sure I somehow did it on purpose seeking attention and to manipulate him. Basically, everything I have done the past two weeks has pushed him farther and farther away. I have broken every rule you suggest, and writing it all down I realize how incredibly pathetic I’ve really been – I wouldn’t want me back! Is there any hope for me, or have I already damaged this to the point of being unrepairable? And if there is any hope, how do I implement the no contact rule if I have to see him and talk to him every day at work?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 6, 2016 at 11:41 am
Hello,
Not all hope is lost girl. You know, it’s not really totally undoable. It’s just going to be a limited NC. The good thing about what happened is that the change will be noticeable. Also, you don’t have to worry about losing weight, since you already lost a lot. It’s now time to improve yourself. Basically, you’re just going to talk each other if it’s really work related. No talking about feelings, no talking about relationship statuses. No drama. Just be silent and maintain a calm energy. You don’t have to appear to suddenly be happy(that would be crazy). You’re just going to start to love yourself more now. And DO NOT talk to the other guy. Keep your distance from the other guy.
I think you need to see this post too.
EBR 020- How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated
Confused13
February 4, 2016 at 6:49 pm
Hello,
My boyfriend and I broke up on 1-24-16 after I found out that he had cheated on me (we have known each other for 13 years and was officially together for 7 months). I immediately went into no contact simply because I am a very independent person and this is how I deal with pain. I googled different topics concerning my situation and came upon this website, which I must say has some very good advice that makes sense to me. I immediately decided to implement the 30 days of NC because I still love him but I feel that he needs to appreciate me and I feel he can be forgiven after some punishment (when we were together we had a good relationship and this was the only problem that we had, although I know cheating is a biggie). On 1-26-16 he contacted me so he can come get some things from my house. I allowed him to come by and did not talk to him at all. After he left, to my expectations he texted me and I did not respond, this went on until 2-2-16 when he showed up to my house unannounced and let himself in. I was surprised and but I talked to him briefly and told him that I needed time and space. I re-implemented NC but now I feel as if I have lost power/control. My questions are: What should I do to regain control/power over the situation and myself? Will the NCR work if I was the one who dumped him?
Confused13
February 5, 2016 at 3:33 pm
Hello Amor,
Thank you so much for your quick response! The reason that I feel that I have lost control/power over the situation is because before he showed up at my house unexpectedly he was calling and texting me like crazy, as I expected him to do, then afterwards (after we had a brief discussion non emotional discussion about us which consisted of him asking for another chance and me telling him I need time and space to think) he has went silent on me. Now I’m worried because I feel as though the ball is now in his court.
Earlier Question:
Will the NCR work if I was the one who dumped him?
Thanks in advance for your advice
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 6, 2016 at 10:47 am
Hmm, maybe he is just giving space. It doesn’t mean he suddenly moved on. In regards with NCR, it’s more of because you two can’t talk properly and you need a reset. Even though you broke up with him, it doesn’t erase the fact that he will still miss you after it. And also, once you reach out, there’s a better chance that he will listen because he’s not the one who initiated the break up.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 5, 2016 at 9:56 am
Hi Confused 13,
Why do you feel that you lost control?
Aj
February 4, 2016 at 6:36 pm
I met him at a grocery store a month ago. He said he wanted to talk, get to know each other and see where it goes. He didn’t want to have sex, until we decided if we wanted more. 2-3 weeks later he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship because he had just came out of a 6 year relationship not even a year ago. He wants to be friends and take it one day at a time. I don’t want to start having feelings for him so I told him I couldn’t see or talk to him anymore. It’s been almost a week without contact. Before the no contact, he would text me every morning and we talked every night. We went out to dinners, movies, breakfast, he even spent the night with no sex. He tells me he can’t stop thinking about me. Should I continue the NC or really just walk away? If I do NC, should I wait for him to contact me then what do I say?? We are both 50.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 5, 2016 at 9:53 am
Hi Aj,
how long was your relationship and how far are you in nc now?
Mary
February 4, 2016 at 5:21 pm
My boyfriend and I have been on a break/broken up for the past three months. He doesn’t go a day without contacting me, he keeps saying he doesn’t to lose me but isn’t ready to commit and has to “find himself”. He says he worries and wants to know where I am, If I’m okay. He still asks me out and tells me he wants us to be together and that he will be ready “eventually”. Because of this, we have entered a toxic back and forth situation where I feel super insecure. I want to believe him every time he tries to come back, but shortly after I hear the same BS story again. I am never the one who initiates calls or dates; but I do accept them and have tried doing NC, and when I do he freaks out, even in a day. Last week, I initiated NC but gave in after 100+ phone calls in 3 days. I gave in and now, we are broken up again, but this time he says he will fight himself to stop calling me since it’s not fair and he realizes it will cause him to lose me forever.
My question is; what do I do when I initiate NC and he starts obsessively calling? Why would a man get like that when he is the one who keeps playing this toxic game? We had something great, but one of my fears is also by allowing him to comeback half-assed, we are just creating more damage.
Ruby
February 4, 2016 at 5:18 am
Hi,
Sorry, previous spellings were very off!….I recently came out of a 10 yr relationship. The last 2 years he claims we grew apart, I didnt want to see it but now I can see can see we did, however, it feels like he just gave up on us. One of his problems was I was too much about him with no ambition for myself which I am working on now. Through out the years we were extremely bonded, he meant the world to me. We were bestfriends, did everything together. We did go thru periods however where he felt I was too pushy and needy, i think this stems from him cheating once tho. I decided to fogive him and the next few years he worked with all his might to prove hed change. However the last year, he insisted he was done, wanted to move and gave no explanation…i ended up finding out via email he had a new gf which i suspected all along and he ended up moving with her. Now im finding myself torn apart but STILL stupidly wanting to forgive and wanting so bad to figure things out. All I see is the good in him and what we had. I find myself blaming myself, but i know thats not right. Its been a month and im doing everything wrong!! I let my emotions get the best of me and have been bashing him, pleading with him and beging pretty much everyday! Now all he says is he is tired of repeating the same conversation. Please help! How can i turn this around so I can stop seeming like the crazy ex?! How can I make him feel he made a mistake and miss me.?! DidnI screw everything ul? He has always said, to this day, that I was amazing, loyal, beautiful, etc but that we grew apart, as of now he doesnt want us again, but anything can happend in the future. This is 10 years thrown away!
Ruby
February 4, 2016 at 12:20 pm
I also cannot stop obsessing over the new gf and comparing! Its so hard to accept what is & just move forward.
Ruby
February 4, 2016 at 5:10 am
Hi,
I recently came out of a 10 yr relationship. The last 2 years he claims we grew apart, I didnt want to see it but now I can see can see we did, however, it feels like he just have up on us. One of his problems was I was too mich about him and no ambition for myself which I an working on now. Through out the years we were extremely bonded, he meant the workd to me. We were bestfriends, did everything together. We did go thru periods however where he felt I was too pushy and needy, i think this stems from him cheating once tho. I decided to fogive him and the next few years he worked with all his might to prove hed change. However the last year, he insisted he was done, wanted to move and gave no explanation…i ended up finding out via email he had a new gf i suspected all along and ended moving with her. Now im finding myself torn apart but STILL stupidly wanting to forgive and wanting so bad to figure things out. All I see is the good in him and what he had. I find myself blamong myself, but i know thats not right. Its been a month and im doing everything wrong!! I let my emotions get the beat of me and have been bashing him, pleading with him and beging pretty much everyday! Please help! How can i turn this around so I can stop seeming like the crazy ex?! How can I make him feel he made a mistake and miss me. Hes always said, to this day, that I was amazing, loyal, beautiful, etc but that we grew apart, and anything can happend in the future. This is 10 years thrown away!
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 5, 2016 at 5:06 am
Hi Ruby
From your comment, I think the main reason is that you became clingy. It’s amazing that you reached 10 years but I think you forgot that you two are differrent individuals. It’s not your fault, it’s just that you loved him more than you loved yourself and then that ended with you needing more from him instead of you two giving back and forth. Men love independent women because they don’t see them as a responsibility and they appear to be a challenge to keep, which is also what they love. It’s opposite with us, we want stability but instead of letting the guy working for it, we end up providing the security in the relationahip by assuring the guy we won’t go away no matter what. Now, it’s time to take yourself front center. It’s the best time to put yourself first. I’m not saying he’s not coming back but after 10 years of loving him and doing what you did in the past month, he will definitely notice the change and I hope that will make him realize to get back with you. Show him the best version of you.
Tasha
February 3, 2016 at 8:28 pm
Hello,
It has been 30 days of no contact for me and this guy that I had become close to. We were not in any type of relationship but started to get closer as time went on. At first things were good as we got to get to know one another. All of a sudden things changed as if I did something to disrespect him. Til this day I still do not know why he stopped all communication with me. I am still wondering what happened but I knew I had to give our friendship a break. I want to reach out to him so bad, but at this point I am just afraid of the rejection. I have the will power not to text him but of course I am still looking for closure. I just want us to be able to start over again. Should I reach out or try and let things go at this point. I was going to try and wait until his b-day in March and then reach out. I figured this would give us more time and maybe more time for me to move on. I miss our friendship so much and I just want that back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 4, 2016 at 2:16 pm
HI Tasha,
I think the best time would be his birthday. That’s an excuse to text him. And it’s better to be rejected than to regret not taking the chance right?
Brittany
February 3, 2016 at 4:20 am
Hi!
My boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me about two weeks ago. Unfortunately, I didn’t start the no contact rule and there has been some communication between us over the past few weeks, but it has not been the friendliest. We also go to college together and have two classes together, therefore we see each other almost every day of the week. I was just wondering how I would go about the no contact rule? We haven’t spoken since Saturday night, but we have had class together on both Monday and today. We did not say one word to each other. Is the no contact rule even possible if we still see each other everyday?
Thanks for your help!
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 3:16 pm
Hi Brittany,
Yes it is. You just have to keep your distance. But do not act rudely. Be civil with each other. If you have to talk about the project, then talk about the project only. Being the only advantage I can see when you see each other every day is that it will be easy for you to show him your physical improvements and your group in terms of academically, socially, emotionally and also mentally.
Amy
February 2, 2016 at 6:57 pm
Hi, I’m almost done 30 days of NC. I was wondering if it was bad if I took more time to myself. I started this wanting him back but now I’m not too sure if he’s really that good for me. If I decide to try again is it bad to wait longer?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 2:33 pm
Hi Amy,
of course not you should always put yourself in top priority
Katie
February 2, 2016 at 4:08 pm
Hi, should we still not contact him even if he is asking for his stuff back? Like jackets and such.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 2:32 pm
Hi Katie,
That is an exception to the no contact rule. You can give him his stuff back. Just don’t talk about the relationship and your feelings.
Joseph
February 2, 2016 at 12:15 pm
Does this work for internet girlfriend too or only my girlfriend from real life?
How do I come back from the no contact period. What do I say? ”Sorry for disappearing and not returning your calls?”
Joseph
February 2, 2016 at 12:59 pm
I told her I needed space and said goodbye. Is this good or should I have just shut up and ignored?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 2:13 pm
I mean, why did you do nc? Is that the reason because you needed space? If so, yeah it’s alright.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 2, 2016 at 12:40 pm
Hi Joseph,
We can’t recommend that it will work 100% and it also depends on situation if you need to do NC
Jen
February 2, 2016 at 6:44 am
Well, I just broke up with my ex 2 weeks ago, I went one week without talking to my ex, then accidently liked a photo on Instagram and sent a direct message , since my phone is broken with water and the screen sucks! it literally sent it to my ex!) I know I should start the Nc rule again afte that. however I have one question
my ex best friend messaged me on snapchat asking how I am? am I allowed to reply back ?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 12:46 pm
Hi Jen,
Your ex’s besr friend? Better not. It might be him trying to get through you
A
February 2, 2016 at 4:12 am
Hi, my ex and I broke up almost a month ago and for the first 2 weeks i was chasing him by the 3rd week i just got tired and didn’t text him for 2 days. He texted me I replied after a couple of days. I got emotional and asked him if there’s no chance that we deserve another chance. He said we will see in the future (future meaning in a few weeks because we’re scheduled to meet). I refuse to give up on him but I am also tired and too emotional. So I just said F this and man up too complete the nc rule. He says he still loves me, but I dont get why it’s so hard to decide. Will the nc rule make a difference?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 12:41 pm
HI A,
We can’t guarantee for sure but it can increase the chances because you get to rest from each other
Married but not really
February 1, 2016 at 9:48 pm
Hello,
I don’t know if i’m married or not. What I mean by that is 2 months ago my husband said he wanted to separated and he packed his stuff and left. Initially for the first two weeks I was a reck. I cried, begged, made some pretty demeaning promises. I even went on a drinking binge that almost ended fatal. We have a child together so that is difficult also. After the two weeks I got myself together went back to work and tried to start making changes plus I felt my state was not healthy for my child. All of a sudden at the end of week two. He comes back home. He says that he still wants to be seperated. He doesn’t know about divorce right now, but he knows that he doesn’t want to be with me any more. He said that he home because of his son and he will make a decision in the next few months. I tried a few times to initiate the no contact rule, but I always give in. We still sleep in the same bed, we have sex like 3 times a week, we kiss, we cuddle, we talk. We even went out twice, but he says that he doesn’t want to be with me anymore as his wife. We only do these things during the week. On the weekend he goes out. He leaves Saturday and I don’t see him again until Monday. Finally about three weeks ago I started to change me look and I started to go out with my friends. Friday I was so emotionally exhausted that I went out got me hotel just so I can sleep. I came home about 8 that morning and he has been acting very funny and short with me. Making comments like I hope you enjoyed yourself and what ever men you end up with will be happy. I didn’t argue or say anything. I’m just so confused. So know I feel like does he want me or not. I’m sure when he is out on the weekend he is with other women. He said that he doesn’t want anything serious with anyone but he does have females friends. I don’t ask any questions and try to just act like I don’t care. I do a pretty good job of it and it seems to bother him. So my question is. Should I stop having sex with him and being intimate? someone told me that the the fact that he want’s sex from me still is a good thing. I don’t feel that is anymore. Is it to late for me to start the no contact rule over again? Should I start sleeping in another room or tell him too? I feel like that he just wants his cake and eat it to and really has no intentions of being with me. He has told me this several times that he has not intentions of being with me but he will do stuff like text me old pictures of us, or come by my job. Also should I stop wearing my ring? He doesn’t wear his?
married but not really
February 3, 2016 at 5:08 pm
I started the no contact rule 4 days ago. I’ve been sleeping in a different room, I’ve been limiting my contact to only our son or house stuff, which I’ve let him initiate. Out the blue, this morning he deletes me from facebook. I don’t comment on his page, don’t leave notes inbox anything. I start no contact and then he deletes me. I don’t know why he would do that. I also don’t know why it hurts so bad. He should be happy.
Steph
February 3, 2016 at 11:53 am
Hun, he is using you. I don’t know your husband and I’m not a doctor, but that’s a surefire sign of Narcissistic Personality Disorder (Google NPD). There’s nothing you can do to change this man. He obviously finds you sexy and worth having in his life to serve his own purposes, but you will never feel loved by him and you may eventually hit rock bottom trying to please him. Get out now. There are plenty of men who would treat you like a queen, but you’ll never meet him as long as you’re married to this man. When you find the strength to leave, he may suddenly become very loving and apologetic but don’t give in! Also monitor how he treats your son, as parents with NPD can wreak havoc on their children if you’re not careful. I wish you the best of luck. I survived 4 relationships with NPD men (one was a full-fledged sociopath) and now consider myself a bit of an expert. End your pain today and start healing asap!
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 10:37 am
Hi You’re still Married, technically
So, if you’re not divorced you’re still married. It is good that he still sees you attractive sexually,but honestly he could be just using you. Not going home and not wearing your ring is just plain disrespectful. He keeps on being intimate wih you then tells you he still doesn’t want to go back with you, so that he can live a “bachelor” life?
You have a son, and you have standards. Be a good example for him on what is allowable and not and how to treat women respectfully
Pamela R.
February 1, 2016 at 8:53 pm
Hi,
My boyfriend of a little over a year and a half now broke up with me last night. The intitial argument that began our weeklong dispute began over something small and then spiraled into a discussion about how I felt I put more into our relationship than he did. We almost broke up that night but we decided to sleep on it and talk the next day. The next day didn’t go any better, and we ended up arguing even more. (Mind you, this is over text, which is one of my biggest regrets). After that we didn’t speak for 5 days (this was unofficial, we didn’t plan it but we were just too stubborn to text the other person first) and finally he texted me and asked me if I could meet up with him a few days later in person (aka, last night). So we meet up and he tells me that he thought about it a lot and that he has too many things going on in life with school and his job and that he felt it’s best we break up because I deserved to be treated better and have more time dedicated to me. I didn’t argue, and the break up was emotional but ended on a relatively neutral note. (I thought I should note that he was very emotional during this exchange though he did most of the talking. We met up at Starbucks and afterwards we walked each other to my car and we hugged for a considerable amount of time and shared a chaste kiss one last time before we left. I texted up in front of him once but I didn’t begin sobbing until I made it home). Later that night I texted him and was hike at with him (“it’s against my better judgment to text you but I’m going to be honest because you know me”…” I’m not mad, I’m sad, I respect your decision, it’ll take time but I want you in my life even if we’re friends”….”you’re my best friend, I’ll always love you”) to which he replied basically the same thing, also saying that he loved me too and was proud of me, etc etc.
I want him back. And not just as a friend, I love him. I think he made a mistake. And I’m willing to do the 30 day NC, though I know I’ll feel awful when his birthday (the 24th of February, 23 days away) comes up and I won’t be able to wish him happy birthday. What should I do? Am I wrong for wanting him back? This is only our 2nd argument in our whole relationship, the first happening at the beginning of this year (both arguments were in the same month).
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 3, 2016 at 10:17 am
Hi Pamela r,
I think you should only do 21 days and if it’s an argument work on handling future arguments if you get back together. It’s just a matter of being of not talking when you feel hurt to not hurt the other person and aggravate the situation
Pamela R.
February 1, 2016 at 8:57 pm
Just a few typo corrections.
I meant to say I “teared up in front of him but I didn’t sob until I made it home.”
And “later than night I texted him and I was honest with him and said”…
Johanna
February 1, 2016 at 8:43 am
Hello,
My boyfriend and I were in a serious relationship for a bit over a year. Both invested in each others families and he even took me home with him twice up to his hometown in NY. But since the end of last august our communication and lack of intimacy had gone downhill. We broke up in early November right after our second trip to NY…the same night I had an unfortunate car accident. In fact ever since last September I have been going through alot of stressful family tragedy. And after all we could seem to do was fight all the time. It was miserable. After the breakup he swore up and down he cared for me and still remained in contact through phone and text but I avoided seeing him due to the pain of rejection and anger. I blew up on him a couple of times and at one point asked for another chance making the cardinal mistakes. After realizing I was annoying him I backed off and tried to just stay friendly via text up until about a week and a half ago. He has thrown mixed signals my way and it always upset me because he would act attracted to me and even try to make personal contact happen using lame excuses. Finally my pain reared its ugly head and I decided to start a period of NC to see if this helps any with missing me and starting fresh where I am in a better mindset to talk and he is more open to giving our relationship another try. It has now been a week and a half and it is difficult because up until this point we would always text each other everyday. But as of right now 13 days in I have not heard from him. Is it too late almost two months later to have started the NC rule? Our main reason we broke up, from what I understand, was all the fighting.
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 2, 2016 at 12:26 pm
Hi Johanna,
Nope, I don’t think it’s too late. But if you’re going to do nc, stick to it until you finish it instead of stopping midway and then restarting the count because the more you do nc, the less it’s effect.
Amy
February 1, 2016 at 7:22 am
Hi, I’ve been doing no contact since the beginning of this month. Before that I’d always give in to him. Anyways I started NC and he contacted me a few times and I didn’t respond. However after a week into it … I accidently called him while I was trying to call a friend. I hung up immediately (within the first ring)… but he called back and texted me and called again the next day. I didn’t pick up or respond. Does that mean I have to start over? I’m almost 4 weeks in and feel like this was definitely a healing process for me. I’d always feel guilty ignoring him so I never really did it. I never realized how much it could help me. If I choose to still pursue this…. should I wait a little longer because of my little slip?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 2, 2016 at 12:18 pm
Hi Amy,
Nope you don’t need to start over 🙂 I’m happy nc has helped you heal.