Leave a Reply

Your email address will not be published. Required fields are marked *

This site uses Akismet to reduce spam. Learn how your comment data is processed.

6,800 thoughts on “The No Contact Rule (The Definitive Guide)”

  1. Marie

    August 23, 2016 at 12:24 pm

    Does Chris recommend sending a message if the ex contacts you like “I’m sorry but I don’t think we should be speaking right now.” or something like that? Or just flat out ignore?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 27, 2016 at 9:10 am

      hi Marie,

      it depends but it’s better if you just ignore him..

  2. TEL

    August 23, 2016 at 11:56 am

    I had the same situation. Been doing the nc for a week now. You said that I should complete 45 days nc. He never stopped sending me message of the highlights of his day. Most of his messages are about his problems on work and family. This morning he said that he thinks that I’m really moving on. And I still didn’t reply. Don’t know if this is a good sign. I still want him back. I’m already improving myself and I know that I’m really good at ignoring him. Do you think there’s any positive signs from his messages?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      August 27, 2016 at 9:05 am

      Hi tel,

      it is but it looks like he’s just trying to friendzoned you

  3. Amelia

    July 24, 2016 at 8:16 pm

    I was wondering whether the 30 day no contact rule would still work even if your ex hasn’t made any attempt to contact you anyway. For example after we broke up we had about three short conversations initiated by me of me asking for a second chance. Since then we haven’t spoken but it wasn’t as if he ever wanted to speak to me in the first place. Therefore will not speaking to him for 30 days even make a difference? Or is it true that it will cause him to be curious as to why I’m not begging him back. Also what do you do with social media during this time period? For example if I’m always uploading snapchat stories will that stop him from missing me as he doesn’t need to wonder about my life as it is all broadcasted on there. Thank you

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 27, 2016 at 2:36 pm

      Hi Amelia,

      we can’t guarantee that nc will work but what you do in it matters most and the change you make must be genuine too.. when he sees your changes in social media but you don’t care about him, it can increase the chances of him missing you

  4. Anna

    July 24, 2016 at 7:26 pm

    My ex and I are on-off again… because He’s a CHEATER. Sigh. Don’t know why I can’t shake him… literally. Either way… He keeps cheating with the same girl. I’ll do NC and he’ll come back begging me that things will be different. He cheats again… same stupid chick. I get it… this is my fault for taking him back. I COMPLETELY understand this. So, I kicked him out last week. Yes, I said hateful things and then finally I said … you know what, you two have a GREAT life together.

    3 years into this. I love him. I do. I hate him. I have NEVER done this with any other guy. I have ALWAYS been able to be like F you… leave me alone and move on. I’m just stuck… WTF. Is a 60 day NC too long? 90? in my heart, I want everything to work between us, in my brain… I am thinking that 30 days, I’ll still be too emotional if and when he comes back. I don’t know IF I want him back and I want to be in control haha, but I also want to not make the stupid mistake again the 4th time. Also… WHY the same girl?? If he likes sally homewrecker so much… why doesn’t he just go date her?

    Yes I am working on me. I am starting NC today because he still hasn’t taken all of his stuff yet.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 27, 2016 at 2:08 pm

      hi Anna,

      take all the time you want but bottomline is, don’t take him back until he proves he’s cut all contact with her and not going back with her

  5. Mandy

    July 24, 2016 at 9:18 am

    A bit of advice needed! Today is day 30 of NC. My ex contacted me on day 9, which I ignored. I got a pretty big job offer last week and had a post about it in fb which my ex would have seen. He messaged me yesterday (day 29) to say congratulations with a really sweet and seemingly well thought out message. I thought it would seem weird (and rude) if I ignored that message and then sent my planned message for ending NC the very next day. I waited about 8 hours then I politely thanked him, and then sent my planned txt to end NC later that night. We exchanged a few messages, but he was out drinking so it wasn’t an ideal time for us to talk for the first time in a month! When I wouldn’t reply he’d send another message though, but he was drunk and I don’t think he wold have done that sober. He then called me on his walk home and was saying everything I’d been hoping for, that he’ll always love me and he misses me so much and he misses what we had. I laughed all this off and told him he was sweet, but I didn’t reciprocate. He said he’s glad I’m so happy. He was drunk and asked me to come over, which I of course declined and I ended the convo and told him to go to sleep. I should feel great right?? But I don’t, it all went too quickly for the first day after NC and I don’t know what to do from here? I think I should have ignored his message yesterday and extended the NC period for a week so that he experienced me igoring him more. My instincts say leave it a few days/a week now and then send another message, about a good memory we have together? I’m just not sure where to go from here?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 27, 2016 at 7:29 am

      Hi Mandy,

      that’s right..better message after 3-4 days after that

  6. Neil

    July 23, 2016 at 6:20 pm

    Hi there,

    my lady broke uo with me after 6 months, after finishing my final thesis for Uni I needed some time to myself and rearrange my mind,clarifying thoughts concerning my future…..it was just a phase of 2-3 weeks where I didn´t see or talk to her that much.She suddenly acted strange and then 3 weeks ago, just texted me that her feelings had decreased and she wanted to stay out of touch…after a while she finally let me know WHY…after my final thesis she said she barely saw me either….she misinterpreted this as me not caring and missing her…she told me she owed me an eye to eye conversation but didn´t want to see me for the moment…I drove up to her place last week without telling her,bunch of roses and little meaningful gifts/reminders…she was very cold first but then could´t look into my eyes and said “I never knew you felt this way for me”….I told her I needed her more than she could ever know…however she said “I don’t know what to do…..” She took a weekend trip with her friend to get away last weekend….I wished her a nice trip and she only responded “Thanks,N”….after her 3 day trip I asked again whether she had a nice trip…again she said “thanks.It was beautiful…” no question how I was after I had cried in front of her and confessed how much I loved her….I asked her best friend´s husband for some help the other day via fb and he kindly replied that he doesn´t really know about the situation but knows from his wife (her best friend) that she was done…I don’t understand this,when she told me she doesn´t know….I sent her a bunch of messages that she could have been honest….and just tell me…just like she could have told me how she felt bc of not seeing me often enough ….that if she had said one word it would never have happened….in order to let her breath and me not texting her I deleted her number yesterday….I really love this woman…she told me she fell in love with me as well but when I was in that phase where I needed my space her feelings decreased….however,most importantly, on that night where I showed up at her place last week, she got to know how much I love her and she might still be confused…so from today on I want to try if the NC rule will work…sorry for my wrecked writing …I´m still confused

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 25, 2016 at 7:48 pm

      Hi Neil

      maybe she’s confused so use this time to influence her thinking by showing that you’re improving yourself.. you already made an effort so, this time focus on yourself

  7. Kari

    July 21, 2016 at 9:32 pm

    Hi there,

    You are right. The NC rule is harder than it looks to keep up. I was 3 days in and my ex contacted me, asking me how I was doing and if my leg had fully healed (I was having some joint issues at the time). I was silently relieved and I replied sweetly but without any obvious excitement from my end. He then proceeded to tell me I’ve been looking good (he must have seen a recent picture of mine on my whatsapp display or on my instagram page). I thanked him and ended the conversation first. I re-started the NC period. You see, for me, I find it easier when nobody is messaging each other. Once I’ve gotten on the NC train, I stay on it….but if he reaches out, and that too, very kindly, I begin to rethink my decision of avoiding him the full 30 days. Anyways, I had re-started NC after the first slip. 7 days went by. At this point, I’m thinking, good, looks like I’ll get through it since I don’t have any message from him to get tempted off of. But sure enough, he messages me seven days in, again with a very sweet message, telling me that I have been on his mind and he wanted to know if I have been doing well and if my family is also doing well. I read this message. At this point, I was at a crossroads with the NC rule. I was afraid if I don’t reply, eventually he will stop trying and we will both just carry on with the situation as is. And the other part of me was fearing that if I engage in an enthusiastic conversation so soon (which believe me, I was dying to do), that he will get the vibe that there is no need to get back together, since we seem to be doing so great post-breakup as a non-couple. So I chose the happy medium between these options , and again replied to his messages in the same fashion as the first time (sweet but short messages) and ended the conversation first again. Now, everyone is human…and can pick up on vibes. He left me after I asked us to give us a real shot. I cannot tell if he is messaging me just to be friendly or if messaging me because is missing me as his girlfriend. Either way, I am conflicted with how deeply to respond (or to even respond at all). I also worry that eventually he will stop altogether if he continues to get the vibe that I am being civil with him simply for the sake of being civil.

    Any advice?

    All of it becomes very tough to decipher at times.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 22, 2016 at 5:33 pm

      hi kari,

      stay strong in nc kari.. because if you contnue texting every now and then , he will just probably slowly drift away

  8. Cathy

    July 21, 2016 at 7:44 am

    I was in a relationship for 1 year and he ended it up before our anniversary with the reason he is not happy anymore. I didnt let him explain I just blocked him completely and we are in NC for almost a week now. Last night, he posted a picture of him and a girl publicly in facebook captioned “my special friend” then delete it in the morning. I totally blocked him out anywhere he can contact me. Do you think he did that intentionally to get my attention to talk to him or he is really having a rebound relationship?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 22, 2016 at 11:53 am

      Hi Cathy,

      it looks like he just did that to make you jealous.

  9. Jeannie

    July 20, 2016 at 11:07 pm

    I guess this comment is more to just have someone hear me out or vent. I broke up with my ex about a month and a half ago. It was a complete surprise. The last two weeks of our relationship he started being distant so I confronted him via text. HUGE mistake i know!! But anyways, i have never really been upset with him before so i didnt know how to best handle it. We were pretty good about understanding each other so this you could say was our first argument ever, we had always managed to talk it out. We had been together for a year. Because i have been hurt you can say i am very blunt when it comes to feeling like im being played so I told him he needed to figure out how he felt and if he really wanted this relationship. He ignored my text message. I was very upset because we had always been able to talk and now that there was a real problem he was ignoring me. After a couple of days he said he was burnt out and no longer wanted to stay in the relationshil. He told me he needed time because he hopes his feelings changed and we could get back together. We decided to try to stay friends because we were both reasonable people, but whenever i reached out ti see how he was doing i would get ignired after a reply or two. I would leave him alone and txt a couple of days later to see what he was doing and again the same thing. Now i was trying to not be a pain, but at the same time if we agreed to try to be friends it should be an effort on both people. After a couple of days of not talking he finally reached out to me first and i didnt know what to say so i didnt reply for two days. When i did he ignored me again and that when i blew up everything i was holding back and told him i didnt want to be friends anymore. He replied the next day saying something to do with me taking two days to replay and what not, and that he was happy to wait for me, but he was wrong if he didnt reply imediately. He later when in to say that he understood how things come across to me so he also wished me the best. I have not answered him since, its been a week. I deleted him from all my social media pages today and basically took out any way of contact between us. I was starting to be that emotional ticking bomb so i felt i needed to do this before i ruined things further. I absolutely do love him and would love to get back together, however, my biggest concern is that i want my friend back. I know we both need to learn things from our relationship and why it did not work, but i was starting to be that emotional girl so i decided it would be best to just cut him out all together before things got worse. Have i ruined all my chances of getting that relationship back on track or do i just accept my loses and move on completely?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 22, 2016 at 11:34 am

      HI Jeannie,
      nope, right now you need to regain balance.. so focus on that.. do 30 day of no contact and just focus in getting your life back together before worrying about anyone else.

  10. Gemma M.

    July 20, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    Hi,

    My ex is moving out. We’ve been been together for 5 years, living together for 4. We’re both in our 30s. The reason is that he says he needs to find fulfillment and identity as a man as I have been the breadwinner/financial support throughout our relationship. He wants to try to be sinI’ve also gotten very clingy, possessive and jealous over the years and it took a toll on us. He wants to have 2 weeks of limited contact so he can think about the relationship and decide if he wants to continue with it, despite living apart. He also says that we shouldn’t see other people during the 2 weeks. I want him back so… Do you think I should tell him no contact for 30 days instead and that we’re allowed to see other people? Also, should I block him from social media during the 30 days so he can’t see my Profiles? Thanks in advance for your solid advice! 🙂

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 7:23 pm

      Hi Gemma m,

      don’t tell him about nc.. you can tell him it’s not workable for you to stay in touch but don’t tell for how long.. and that you’ll reach out when you’re ready. you don’t have to date for now

  11. Ryan

    July 20, 2016 at 9:59 am

    Me and my girlfriend of nearly 2 years broke up the other week and since then i havnt been able to stop messaging her and asking for a second chance. I admit that on 3 occasions when i get to a point where i cant hold it in i have hit her which i truly regret and i have told her that. I have even tld her that im going to go to the doctors and get help for it which i think makes me look more of a man to her and maybe gets me some respect back. We still see each other though nearly every day because we do kickboxing together and when we are together we get on soo well, she gets on with me better than anyone else there. Recently though she has deleted all of our photos off instagram apart from one where its me with her and her mum when we went to america. She hasnt removed her relationship status of facebook but has told me shes wants us to be friends. I do believe that she needs space and i agree that im not giving her that with me always messaging her all the time. With doing kickboxing together we spend a lot of time with each other and we both have the same goals to be the best we can be. Should i start no contact, will it work?

    1. Ryan

      July 20, 2016 at 4:39 pm

      And the reason i hit her was because i really hate being tickled or being confined in tight spaces and wen she does that my body goes into like shock and its like a natural responce to being in that situation

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 3:28 pm

      hi Ryan

      so all three occasions were because you’re being tickled? not because you were angry? though we can’t guarantee that nc will work, it’s still a better choice than continuing to try to talk to her

  12. Rose

    July 20, 2016 at 3:14 am

    This guy I was seeing isn’t ready to commit . Idk why but he just isn’t. We fell into a fwb situation and it sucks, I know but what to do? He has become very distant. I’ve started the no contact. I am at the beginning. Am I doing the right thing?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      Hi Rose

      yes you are.. be active in improving yourself..don’t just stop talking to him

  13. ariana

    July 19, 2016 at 10:03 pm

    Hi, me and my ex are under the age of 17, but quite nearly and we had been together for 9 months. I’m quite a shy person and so is he but I’ve helped him to overcome that, i realised after i wasn’t showing as much love as i could for him, i came off as ignorant sometimes as he said and rude and that hurts him but thats only because i was trying to be mature around him and was totally in love which i explained, and i didn’t actually think that was any problem since we’re two very nice and humble people. So there was one week where i couldn’t talk to him much because there was a family wedding, he felt kind of lost during this week and i could only talk when i had time. One day in that week he had told me that he didn’t think we’d work out (june 2nd), and broke up with me and i couldn’t understand why because we had a very healthy relationship, (maybe less during that week though.) I kept questioning why and it was a very emotional breakup but im an understanding person and it didn’t end badly, and he confessed that he did feel lonely and it was also because he felt like i didnt care and was two different people, a lovey dovey side online and a moody person in real life and he didnt know what to believe and who i really was and i had said that soon he will see who i really am then, since i never thought it was such a major issue before. But the main reason he had ttold me was that he now made a decision to live life on his own, that still wanted to be with me maybe in the future too but now nothing. We had tried to stop speaking but a month went by and we had work experience together, we had planned to stop speaking after that. During work experience it went oppositely, we got even closer than we ever were when we were together and i had fully opened up to him and we were really happy and did get intimate, he once questioned what we really are (friends or what?) because we were so close. After that week, work exp was over and i feared we’d stop speaking like we said and thats exactly what happened, i still have a lot of hope and now hes really busy and its summer holidays so we will not see eachother but we do talk a little, even though he said he didnt want to but he still is and so am i, but im talking more lovey dovey and he’s now in total friend mode, and I think i miss him more than he misses me. And i asked him before about what he wants and he said..now nothing and he doesn’t mind what happens in the future whether we are getting together/married although he does hope so. So im trying something new, ive texted him talking about our past and thanking him and bringing up memories of the past, (so he gets happy and misses it) and hoping we’d be something in future if god wills and if were meant to be..then saying but its not like that anymore and he has chosen a new path, so it gets him excited thinking about the memories and then sad at the end and hopefully he misses me more? im going to start messaging him less probably just a goodnight message as we do or something to get him to be more crazy about me but what do you think, would we get back together in the future? by that i mean, at minimum a year because by then we’ll fully finish high school and then could be more free but i just dont know what to do, should i fully stop messaging (even though that was his idea at first but now hes talking to me a little), or message little enough for him to miss me? i talked about it with his sister and she said to act just like friends, not lovey dovey or he wont appreciate as much, he need to spend time apart if he needs to and i should let him and talk normally so he’ll see the difference and miss the old ‘us’ back and have more hope for the future; thanks for all the help xx

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 12:45 pm

      Hi A,

      don’t think too much… tell him you’re not ready to be friends yet and then start no contact…so that he will miss you..but be focusef in having your own life, in improving yourself and going out with friends.. so that he will see that you have your own thing, and whatever plan he has, you’re not a hindrance to it

  14. MV

    July 19, 2016 at 9:52 pm

    Hello
    I started NC two months after the break up (having been a gnat for a while). After two weeks of NC, my ex started texting and calling me. He wanted to hang out as friends. He needed advice about something I knew. Then, I texted him a question about something neutral, and he called me back to talk about it. The first two times he called I picked up because I thought he needed to get his stuff. Then I thought something had happened because it was late at night. Every time, I tried to restart the NC, but now I am not sure–we’ve been talking normally so I feel that suddenly disappearing would be weird.

    He has a new girlfriend, he left me for her. He does not keep in touch with any of his other exes because they hate him. So I don’t know if he wants to be friends with me to prove that he can get along with an ex, because he feels guilty about leaving me, or for another reason. Our breakup had a lot to do with the stressful things going on in both our lives, made worse by some serious misunderstanding. One of the times we talked, he kinda made it sound like he was not over me and that he wasn’t completely happy with her. But he was drunk when he said that so I don’t know if he meant it. Now I don’t know what to do. I’d like to have him back, but he’d have to leave the other girl first. Should I try NC again or just try to be his friend while he’s with someone else?

    1. MV

      July 21, 2016 at 7:50 pm

      Thank you, Amor. I’ve blocked his number for calls and texting for now, to avoid the temptation to answer. Part of me is worried that I’ll miss him reaching out to me. But you are right, I can’t be available at all times if I want him to take me seriously. I just wish this wasn’t so hard.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 22, 2016 at 5:25 pm

      you’re welcome! it is hard.. but not impossible

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 12:18 pm

      hi Mv,

      you need him to see you as the better option and as an ungettable girl..meaning you can’t be too available.. I think you should restart nc.. you can tell him you need more time for yourself and that you’ll reach out again once you’re ready and then even after nc, continue the activities you started in it.. while slowly building rapport with him

  15. EBR Team Member: Amor

    July 19, 2016 at 7:23 pm

    well, that’s good.. what did he text? if it’s not about working things out and getting back together, stay in nc.. prepare yourself coz he might even get angry to get you to text but you have to keep inind that he has to realize that you’re not a doormat waiting to just accept everything he wants to do with you when he wants it.. he has to learn that you’re done being treated the way he treated you

  16. Gin

    July 19, 2016 at 6:44 pm

    Hi,

    I broke up with my girlfriend 1 month ago.
    We both 29 years old. She has problems with commitment and she only dated 1 guy in the past 5 years which only lasted for 3 dates.
    Before we date she was my best friend for 2 years (we knew each other since childhood and now we work together)
    So we dated for 2 months which was a blast till suddenly she felt that things moving fast and that she can’t be available for me all the time ( I was texting her too much ).
    The problem is after she broke up with me (she cried) I kept contacting her as a “friend” and talk to her at work so I didn’t want to lose her and I didn’t want her to feel that she hurt me.
    Suddenly she got angry from no where shouting that I crossed the line of work and I should not contact her ever again “work or non work related topics, I need my space”

    So now my heart broke twice for losing both my girlfriend and best friend.
    I don’t want to lose both.

    So I started the No Contact rule 1 week ago.
    I still see her once or twice per week but I didn’t talk to her and she intentionally avoids me.
    After 2 weeks each of us will work in another place so we wont see each anymore and that really scares me.

    So do you feel that the no contact rule may work ? I am sure she wont contact me because she has huge ego but I plan to text her after at least 30 days of no contact some nice messages to catch up.

    Thanks

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 11:05 am

      Hi Gin,

      we can’t guarantee that it will work but it looks like it’s your best move for now…and focus in yourslef now.. improve and find new friends..once she sees you’re not chasing anymore and have your own life, she might be more secured to talk to you again

  17. Salina

    July 19, 2016 at 6:38 pm

    My Husband kicked me out of the house, He thinks I lied to him about money and financial issues, And that;s what started our fight on July 15, He then asked me to move out and called the cops because our fight got nasty, The police made me leave the house he owns which I gave up everything to be with him and move a hour away from my family to be with him, This is not the first time he has kicked me outr of the house when we fight, The first time was in September 2015, I was gone for week , he called me and said he missed me , I went back, Now when I left this time, I changed my number Changed my bank account and other activity was ceased. I have not called him or tried to contact him for anything, I am considering a divorce, but I confused??

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 10:56 am

      Hi salina,

      do no contact for 45 days so you can reflecr..don’t make decisions now that you’re stikk emotional

  18. Cara

    July 19, 2016 at 3:13 pm

    Hi,
    I used one of Chris sample texts after 3 months of NC to break the NC ( I know I did it too long) and after AMor recommended I needed to break the NC. This was last week (last Tuesday) and I got great results. We had a short friendly text convo that resulted in him asking me out for next week. Well, this is Next week and it was left at him saying, “Okay, let’s try next week?” Which I took to mean during the week sometime since he normally works on the weekends. However, I have not heard from him at all yet to try to pinpoint a actual day/time. What do I do? Just wait it out and see if he texts today? This has happened before in the past 6 months ago, where he initiated the text, asked me out and then never followed through I suspect to keep me on a string. My concern is that he is going to think I am a pushover by not saying anything YET I have read that it’s better to not say anything at all and act like it doesn’t bother you because the guy is trying to get an emotional reaction out of you. Please advise as to what I should do at this point. Do I start another NC period if I don’t hear from him about a date this week? Help!

    1. Cara

      July 21, 2016 at 2:25 pm

      Thanks Amor….yes HE asked to go out and I initiated nothing. However, this has happened I want to say 3 or 4 times where he has asked me out and not followed through. Since I know whenever I say “yes’ It boosts his ego and it’s his way of keeping me “on the hook,” DO you have any recommendations as to what I should say the next time he askes me out ?? Should I say “no?” There was one instance where I did call him out on it…and he stopped asking me, then I figured out he was using a mutual friend to find out if I was seeing anybody. So, I think when he asks me out, it’s also his way of finding out if I have a boyfriend or if i’m dating anyone exclusively. So calling him out doesn’t seem to be effective enough…and saying yes to a date doesn’t seem to work either. I thought about saying a white lie that I was seeing someone the next time he asks me. I am frustrated, it s like I can’t win with this guy and continually saying yes to him clearly doesn’t make me a challenge enough for him. Any other ideas?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 22, 2016 at 1:58 pm

      try to decline and then suggest a different day and time.. that it way, he confirms to your schedule.

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 21, 2016 at 9:58 am

      Hi Cara,

      yep, that’s right..don’t ask about the date.. try to be active in social media again.. so, that means you have to either go out or post about othet things you’ve been doing..so that when he sees it, he’s reminded in an indirect way to message you ..

      and you didn’t ask for him if he can go out and meet anytime soon right? He’s the only one who initiated it? He will probably not follow thru, so be go out on that day or be busy going out this week on your own or with friends..

  19. Angela

    July 18, 2016 at 4:31 pm

    Thanks for your response. I know that you’re right. I have spent the last few weekends with my family (which I missed very much since the last year and a half has been all about him) They all say the same thing (since I didn’t really tell them about the abusive part until now) He had my mind twisted into thinking I was the one with the problem. I even went to a therapist and am on meds for anxiety and depression because he was adamant that I was bipolar. Now, stepping back, I see that he was turning me into a puppet that he manipulated into whatever he wanted me to do. This was not love. I need to move forward. I have him blocked on cell phone, house phone, email, Facebook, and am taking one day at a time to get myself healthy again. Thanks again

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 19, 2016 at 8:59 pm

      you’re welcome! Don’t rush it.. acknowledge what you feel but don’t linger in it

  20. CR

    July 18, 2016 at 1:48 pm

    My ex and I broke up almost two months ago; we were together for 1 year and 2 months and were serious. We talked on and off for 6 weeks after the breakup. Sometimes we would talk and it would be nice, other times we would argue and I would beg for him to come back and then be angry with him when he said he didn’t want to. I have since realized that this was not a healthy way to respond and have apologized to him for my behavior, along with no longer acting that way. His reasons for not getting back together are that he needs time and space to figure out what he really wants and to get back in touch with himself. My ex and I are on good terms and remain friends; we are each other’s best friend. We both love each other, but he is no longer in love with me, while I am still in love with him. I am on day 9 on NC and have only heard from him once, he asked how I was doing and I didn’t respond. His birthday is on day 29 on NC. My question is if I don’t hear from him again before his birthday can I still send him a birthday card or should I continue NC?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      July 19, 2016 at 8:32 pm

      Hi Cr,

      nope..you should just continue being active in improving yourself

1 … 30 31 32 33 34 … 128

Popular posts

Recent posts

Post categories