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494 thoughts on “Getting Him Back After A Year (Or More) Apart”

  1. Hassan

    February 19, 2015 at 7:22 pm

    Hi!
    my ex broke up with me a year and half back
    although im still deeply in love with him
    i couldnt ever contact and tell him so
    maybe im scared that things my get more worse
    and i have no means to tell him as well bcz im blocked by him on every communication base.
    but now i desperately want him back and want him to know how deep in love i am with him.
    although its been a long time
    but im sure he must think of me at some time
    can you help me initiating the conversation with him
    would a video msg be fine ?
    So that he can really see that whatever i say i mean and feel it
    and what do i say
    do i reveal my feelings at first
    or do i keep it simple ?
    Please help.

    1. admin

      February 20, 2015 at 11:29 pm

      Have you attempted NC at all yet?

  2. Areej

    February 19, 2015 at 2:13 pm

    I’ve been cheated on my boyfriend ..and he saw me 🙁 so how can I getting him back and make him forgive me

    1. admin

      February 20, 2015 at 11:26 pm

      Give me more than that.

      Where were you when he saw you?

      How long has it been?

      Did you sleep with someone or just kiss them?

  3. Tamera

    February 18, 2015 at 3:28 pm

    Hi, me and my ex have been broken up 3 years now. We have had small conversations in those 3 years. He called me out the blue and was talking for a week then a month went by with no communication. I text a month later and we begin to text now. After I did the text conversation and I ended the text conversation. In this situation would a confession text be next? Or confession phone call?

    1. admin

      February 18, 2015 at 10:01 pm

      How long have you been texting now?

    2. Tamera

      February 20, 2015 at 4:35 am

      Only a 3 days but I sent a meme to him got no response. What should I do next? Should I text or call?

  4. Jo

    February 12, 2015 at 9:39 pm

    I’ split with this guy 2 years ago, never found out the reason, it got really intense, he told me he loved me but than started crying! Anyway a week later he ended it, said he didn’t believe in love! Couldn’t cope, as you can imagine I went abit mental said some really horrible things, anyway we stayed in contact he said it would help if we can stay friends. To tell the truth was confused this bloke looked heartbroken, but he ended it, anyway had enough and haven’t spoken in 2 years now, I recently joined a dateing site, and yep there he was. I didn’t say anything but see he’s been looking at my profile, I look a lot better now than I did than, gym, good makeup lol, so anyway didn’t pay him any attention than he blocked me, any advice does this guy hate me, should I just give up on the idea?

    1. Jo

      February 22, 2015 at 12:28 pm

      So 2 years later we have contact lol, it’s all messages, apologys, and hope your life’s well, take care? Sounds like the last goodbye lol, all I’ve said is thanks, don’t worry, my life’s never been better, clearly untrue as I spend my life googling about exs, hope all these ex boyfriends never read these! Anyway what do I do now. Dead end conversation!

  5. Rach

    February 2, 2015 at 4:12 am

    Hi

    My ex boyfriend and I were dating for a year and 4 months before we broke up. We never fought so when he broke up with me it was out of the blue. After we broke up he would still text me everyday wanting to be friends, checking in on me, and coming to my games. Eventually i told him i couldn’t be friends with him until i moved on. A few months later he texted me again asking if it was too soon to be friends and i said no. We then would text every couple months like on birthdays and holidays. We have been broken up for a year and 2 months now. He texted me the beginning of January and we have been texting every day since. He texts me first everyday and we have hung out in a group once a week. He would always sit by me and would be the one to ask to hang out. He has done some subtle compliments and we have brought up pleasant memories when texting, he’s asked me what happened between me and this one guy too. He tells me he cares and drove me home after a night i went out drinking with friends. He told me to call him if i ever need anything from him. I feel as if these signs are obvious that he’s into me but i’m just not sure. Part of me doesn’t want to get my hopes up because he could just think of me as a friend. What do you think?

    1. admin

      February 2, 2015 at 2:39 pm

      Seems decent to me…

      Do yourself a favor and read some of the articles. You can find so many nuggest of gold in them.

  6. Sarah Jones

    January 29, 2015 at 1:49 am

    Hey,

    So I broke up with my ex almost 2 years ago now. We were both very young, were arguing a lot and it just wasn’t working. He was devastated about the whole thing and kept asking to have me back for several months afterwards.

    After a while however, we both started seeing new people and we became really good friends. I have since broken up with my boyfriend and I have met with my ex a few times. I realised I was still attracted to him and want to make things work. We have hooked up a few times (he is in a relationship however) and honestly I sometimes feel a little bit used. I’m really not sure at all what he’s thinking and he doesn’t really tell me what’s on his mind.

    Any advice?

    Thanks.

    1. admin

      January 29, 2015 at 2:58 pm

      Wait… He hooked up with you while in a relationship with someone else?

    2. Sarah Jones

      January 29, 2015 at 11:52 pm

      Yes.

  7. s

    January 25, 2015 at 9:12 am

    Hi
    my ex and i had a long term relationship(4 years) we lived together, we had plans for the future, he immigrated to another country last year and after 4 months of long distance we broke up. what should i do? i can not able to go there now. tnx for your help.

    1. admin

      January 26, 2015 at 3:43 pm

      Can you give me more information about the breakup?

  8. Amy

    January 23, 2015 at 8:17 pm

    Dear Chris,
    My ex and I broke up over a year ago, but never had no contact. We get on so well that we stayed best friends. I tried to move on and dated a few people but I wasn’t too bothered. He never dated anyone. My ex and I hooked up just before Christmas and I realised he’s the one for me and we fought about stupid things before that were just trivial.
    He told me last week he’s started to date his sisters best friend (who I know, ouch) and that its something he just has to do and thinks he wants and doesn’t think he could so our hurtful cycle of fights again. I’m sick to my stomach and told him how I felt we would would work out this time and I’m afraid I’ve lost him forever now. We get on so so well that I know we’re meant to be and he still has feelings.
    Since we never actually had any time apart, I have now initiated NC and I’m on day 4.
    Do you think I’m too late, since for the last year he remained single and now seems to be moving on? Please help. We were together for 5 years, 1 apart, but still the best of friends hanging out.

    1. admin

      January 26, 2015 at 2:31 pm

      Hi Amy.

      Has he messaged you at all since you implemented NC.

    2. Amy

      January 26, 2015 at 3:11 pm

      Nope, not yet, no messages. I saw him at a work meeting on Friday and he couldn’t even make eye contact with me. I was very upset when I found out he was with her, cried a lot to him but then implemented NC the day after. On day 6 now. I’m not sure if I’ve lost him?

      Thanks Chris,

      Amy

  9. Caroline

    January 21, 2015 at 10:37 am

    Hi Chris!! My boyfriend of 1 year broke up with me 1.5 year ago (we were together for 1 year and then broke up since June 2013). I’m trying to get him back. We haven’t talked since the breakup and he didn’t try to text or call me (maybe because I was very pissed off on June 2013 and called him names and told him that I didn’t want to see him again). Should I send him a text message or let him see me near his work place?
    Thanks a lot. I appreciate your help :)))

    1. admin

      January 21, 2015 at 3:22 pm

      After NC I would recommend a text message.

  10. Melanie

    January 8, 2015 at 9:36 pm

    My ex broke it off with me last July and we’ve talked a little bit after the no contact and hung out once, but now we are back at school and we have a modern dance class together. I see him talking with other girls, how can I get myself to stand out, and would it be a good idea for me to approach him each class, or just let him come to me if he will? I also see him every Sunday at church so what should I do about that?

    1. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:18 pm

      Ignore him and don’t let it affect you righ tnow.

  11. CM

    January 3, 2015 at 4:26 am

    Chris,

    It’s been 7 months since my breakup, so not 1 year but getting close.. and since then, we’ve texted on and off, never more than ~3 weeks without any contact. We both definitely still love/care for eachother so the texts are friendly and “how have you been” ish. But the reason we broke up is bc he’s from another country and had to move back… I wanted more than anything to make it work (even if it meant me moving there, which we actually planned on/discussed much earlier in our relationship) but as the time grew nearer it all just became “too much” for him. He obviously didn’t/doesn’t love me ‘enough’ to want to make it work out and I lost the emotional hold on him that once would’ve made him do anything to be with me. But I’m realizing that our post-breakup texting is just allowing us to stay in touch… But as far as getting back together, it doesn’t seem to doing/changing anything! Because well, we’re still broken up.

    So my question is… this far past the breakup (and getting to 1 year), if you never did 30 full days of no contact but the texting is still pretty sporadic…. what’s the best way to go about this? nc? Will he even notice that though at this point? or do what this page ^ suggests?

    1. Lilly

      January 9, 2015 at 3:54 am

      Would love a response to this as well–in a similar boat

    2. admin

      January 19, 2015 at 3:29 pm

      What is your situation?

    3. CM

      January 26, 2015 at 11:45 pm

      Chris please help, I’m still in the same situation because it’s just continuous nice texts here and there btu I don’t know what to do– I commented on this page (below) with a better explanation .. But Lilly seems to have a similar situation so please help us! Thank you!

      https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-get-your-ex-boyfriend-back/#comment-60111

      If nothing else

    4. admin

      January 27, 2015 at 2:47 pm

      Can you do me a BIG favor?

      Just ask me one or two set questions that you are wondering.

      I am starting to get stretched a little thin and need a productive way to answer people.

  12. Paula

    December 22, 2014 at 9:41 pm

    hello.. I dated a guy in a long distance relationship for over 3 yrs. We had been friends a couple of yrs. prior. However, he kept an old girlfriend in the picture he says “as a friend only” and lied to me about texting her.. He was always angry at me and cutting me down and hanging up on me if something didn’t go his way. Anyway, about 6 months ago he got mad, hung up on me and I stopped any contact. after a month or two more texts to me here and there and now he drives to see me 150 miles, brings me Christmas gifts, and says he loves me and wants to get back.. Now, I told him I am seeing someone else but still says we need to talk things out and he’ll give me “time” to sort things out with time. He however, doesn’t stop texting for answers and so I proceed to tell him how I tried months back to get close and didn’t feel good around him, like I was having to walk on eggshells.. He then text messages me a long hateful text and says he is NOT that person. He states: ” If we get back into the relationship, you will need to go to counselling…” He ends the text by saying: ” I am completely done…” I wonder if he means it this time? Thank you for letting me vent. I am tired of the hurtful words where one minute he says he is angry and takes it out on me and is sorry and next minute slashes out at me once again.. Amazing…

    1. admin

      December 23, 2014 at 3:14 pm

      I would definitely try NC on him. Seems like he is a bit of a flip flopper.

  13. Robin

    September 22, 2014 at 4:10 pm

    Hi, I wished I’d seen this article before all this happened! My ex (fro. 2yrs ago) initiated contact with me about 2weeks ago. Texted for few days, then nothing, then I messaged him the 2nd week, had brief convo and asked him for a catch up.
    We meet up that week, I left the arrangements for him to organise, it Seemed to go well. Went to the cinema. We chatted. Ended the night with him dropping me home, chatted again, he said we should do this again and he initiated a kiss on the cheek (which I gave). We text after briefly said I had a really nice time and he said yeah it was good. Etc Good signs?
    I’m away at the moment and he’s is too. No contact since the meeting, I was planning on contacting after a week or so but do I intiate the second date if he doesn’t?

  14. anda

    September 17, 2014 at 1:32 am

    We had a limited contact friendship for 10 years before we became lovers. This man adored me, told me I have his mothers eyes (I do look like her), and a lot of her positive characteristics, talked about having a child with me and asked me to move in together twice. I told him I needed 6 months on my own first (I had shared accommodations for to many years)

    My ex has me completely puzzled since the break up.

    Christmas 11 I received a facebook msg that he couldn’t drive to my place until the storm was over using darling sweet hart etc like usual. Then absolutely nothing, not even a reply to my message asking what happened.After 4 months of NC (I had blocked him from facebook because I was becoming obsessive) I called him.

    He was in a severe depression and assumed that I wanted a break too. He had closed his facebook account. He told me I had no future with him, he would be a burden to me,he needs to stay alone. After that I would call him 1x a month. He sounded happy to talk to me for 1 hour and was never the one to end the conversation. He even told me he missed me. I was open about my feelings and he asked me what was so special about him. The time he asked to see me, I said I was not ready and still needed to morn the relationship. When the day came that I had said yes to ‘can I see you’ it want all wrong. I thought he was a no show just waiting for hours, had missed his call because the time he was in town ended up being much later, and he thought I had changed my mind. Found that out when I called him, I said that I head been nervous but then got excited to see him. That’s when he questioned me if I was sure it would be a good idea to see each other. I told him perhaps it happened for a reason, he had to hang up to answer the door.

    Months later he showed up after finding out from an acquaintance that I was in bad shape financially and had lost a lot of weight. He brought me money, told me that he thinks of me every day but can’t get attached to anything but that he wouldn’t abandon me. I told him that he had already abandoned me emotionally at Christmas and that he hurt me. I gave him 2 of his last items back of which he left one on the table, saying he would come and get it the next time.

    He’s asked if he could see me 3 times after that but never came through. I got his new email (he had closed the old account too), but it turned out he made an error. I stopped contacting him. Then in March he called me out of the blue. I could hear he was expecting a very enthusiastic response but I couldn’t (think it was a reaction).I asked about the email, we straightened it out and he said he had been waiting for an email from me. He gave me his new cell phone number and said I could txt him as much as I wanted but that he was going out of the country for a week. He spoke as if time never passed between us. A week later I found out through email that he had just come back from a vacation by himself to the same place we last went together.

    I waited 2 months before I texted him (once I had found work again). This is when I noticed he started pulling back. Short and sporadic answers. I phoned and asked him boldly a very direct question (he is used to this from me). The conversation was very pleasant and then I just asked me if he had sex with anyone since. First he responded with that is a very personal question, but when I told him I can ask him anything I want, he asked my have you with a happy giggle in his tone. I know this was wrong and I regret that now but he, can’t turn it back now.
    I know he wasn’t in a relationship and maintains a very solitary related to mental health issues. I through the subject on getting his healthy kicks. At the end of the conversation he opened up to me about a health issue he’s been experiencing for 2 months that got me very worried. He can’t tell anyone because they he’s afraid it could have some ‘practical consequences’. I responded light, but a week later I texted him in a very direct way that he should get it checked out, because its serious, he has responsibilities and if something bad happens those practical reasons won’t even matter. Well I got back that he was happy where he is now and to please not do anything to change that, we are friends. I replied that I wasn’t doubting he takes care of safety and just asking him to get it checked out. I hadn’t insinuated anything about getting back together with me.

    He now says he can be friends with me ?, so he has no other feelings left for me ?. Was this his way of saying leave me alone, goodbye and I am totally done and no more contact ?.

    Two weeks later his birthday came up and I texted him Happy Birthday. I got a thank you mom response, then 2 hours later thank you, sorry I though you were my mom !. No problem but it was strange were my last words to him. I have absolutely no idea what to do now. He has not contacted me, so is his friendship statement because he’s done ? Is it not the truth and he still cannot be just friends with me ? has he totally pulled back because the new health problem makes him totally not feel capable of offering anyone a future with him ? Does he stay away because he know the way I feel and doesn’t want me to put my life on hold ? Am I now demoted to the so called friend zone, you can not get out of ?

    1. admin

      September 17, 2014 at 4:56 pm

      Wait, you broke NC to wish him a happy birthday?

  15. anda

    September 17, 2014 at 12:02 am

    My ex and I haven’t been together for 1 year and 8 months now.
    Christmas time 2011 I received a facebook msg from him saying he’d have to wait until the weather cleared up before driving to my place.

  16. Anda

    September 16, 2014 at 11:41 pm

    My ex and I haven’t been together for 1 year and 8 months.
    I still love him, the most enjoyable things in life were so much brighter with him beside me. He adored me, said I have a lot of the positive characteristics of his mother and her eyes.
    He spoke of marriage and having a child with me. When he asked me to move in together twice, I told him I was not ready yet and needed 6 months on my own first (shared accommodations for years).He lives 1 hr away, has a 14 year old daughter that goes to school there.

    Just before Christmas I received a facebook msg saying the weather needed to clear up before being able to drive to my place using babe, and darling just like always. After that absolutely nothing, not even a reply to my asking what was going on and not understanding the purpose of this silence after a couple of days.
    The break up nearly broke my spirit. Since then he has me very puzzled.
    4 months went by with absolutely no contact, until I couldn’t take it anymore, so I called him.

    He had been going through months of depression, told me that he had assumed I wanted a break too (I had blocked him on my Facebook because I was becoming obsessed).

    Thereafter I used to call him 1x a month. He always sounded happy to converse, they lasted for an hour each, he was never the one to end the conversation. He even said he missed me. I was open about my feelings and he wanted to know what was so special about him. He felt that he would be a burden to me and be holding me back from things in life. He said ‘you have no future with me’. Then came a time he asked to see me.I told him that I was not ready, had to morn the relationship and needed more time. Being in town, he had been tempted to go by my house but told himself to be strong and kept driving. He also told me he will stay living this way until his daughter goes to university.

    The time I said yes to his ‘can I see you’, it went all wrong. I missed his call when he was in town (much later time than he initially anticipated), he thought I had changed my mind and thought he was a no show.

    After hearing through an acquaintance that I was in bad shape financially and that I had lost a lot of weight (talk about looking your best when you see them for the first time face to face !), he showed up out of the blue and helped me out with quite a bit of cash. That day he told me he thought about me everyday, but cannot get attached to anything. I gave him his items back and he returned 1 saying he’d leave it at my place for the next time.

    In a call after that I mentioned staying friends and he said he couldn’t, that it was to hard for us both.

    I asked for his new email (he closed the old account as well) and stopped calling him.

    Months later in March I received a phone call from him out of the blue. I could tell he was expecting me to be enthusiastic but I didn’t respond that way (I think it was a reaction). I told him my emails weren’t going through (had the wrong one) his confusion but not on purpose, he told me he was waiting for an email from me. He gave me his new cell phone # and told me I could txt as much as I wanted (he spoke in a way as if we had no time apart). I said a lot has happened and we haven’t spoken in a long time. He said he was traveling for a week or so and we’ll talk soon. I emailed him instead and when he replied it turned out he had gone alone on vacation to the same place we went together. Now I was still in bad shape and waited two months before I texted and left a v-mail (once I was working again).

    This was when he started pulling back in his responses etc.
    I was very blunt (wish I hadn’t) but asked him straight out if he had sex with someone yet (I know dumb but I was always very direct and sometimes to much, he knows …that). First I got a that’s a very personal question, then upon saying I could ask him anything I want, with a giggle in his voice he asked me ‘have you’. Like I said I wish I hadn’t asked. In the same conversation he opened up about a health issue that is very personal (not sexual). It had me very concerned because he told me he can’t have it checked.

    I waited a week and send a very direct txt about it (safety concerns etc) and saying that he would tell me the same thing.
    He txt me back that he was in his happy place and to place not do anything he wouldn’t want, that we are friends. To me that was a very negative reaction. I left everything alone until I txt him happy birthday view weeks later. I got a thank you mom back, then couple of hours later another thank you, and sorry I though you were my mother !.

    Now I absolutely don’t know what to do from here. I backed completely off, have heard nothing from him, it’s been a month.
    Do you think there is still a chance that he has feelings for me romantically ? The fact that he now said we are friends (before he couldn’t) makes me think it’s a bad sign and he’s totally done with me. I worry that addressing his health issue did me in, but everyone I asked told me they would have done the same in such a serious matter. The fact that he can be friends now and doesn’t email or txt me anymore has left me with a feeling that this was his way of saying goodbye and leave me alone. The thank you response for my birthday wishes just out of politeness.

    1. admin

      September 17, 2014 at 4:54 pm

      Sorry I lost context here a bit. What health issue does he have?

  17. Lac

    September 8, 2014 at 6:49 am

    I am do happy for these people who reconnect with their exes. I have had several old boyfriends wanting to come back, but the relationship was really over for me (both not great chemistry).
    In viewing your tape about “attraction”, I always felt I had good chemistry with my ex and he was always eager. Perhaps I misread these as signs of real mutual attraction. Maybe I was the woman of the moment for him and that was all it would ever be. Although I loved this man and he told me he loved me many times, I really believe he simply did not love me quite enough. I do not believe he will ever come back nor do I think there is anything I can do to make this happen. After we were friends 1 year, intimate 3 years apart 2 1/2, I feel he was just a “visitor” in my life. I had a very different hope and expectation. Yet I can only guess that, for whatever reason, he does not want to marry me. I am sure this will not change. I have no idea what he is doing or with whom. I have tried to engage him in every reasonable way. The plain truth is he is indifferent to me and, frankly, what woman wants to try to “win” a man who is basically not as interested as she is? This would be an uphill climb all the way.

    It has taken me a long time to accept this. The guy was funny, interesting and sexy. I liken it to when I meet a guy who says “Gee, you’re great! Too bad you are not a blond!” No, I am not a blond and as long as I am not a blond and he wants a blond, I get out of there as fast as I can and never try to convince him that he might be happy with a brunette. He wants a blond, and it’s not me. Why did my ex leave? I am not what he wants. I wish I knew sooner.

    He was a “visitor” in my life.

  18. Jill

    July 29, 2014 at 8:25 am

    Hi:

    First thing you should know is that I want to try to date my ex again, I think we could be good together and I think I could be a better girlfriend to him now than I used to be. I also don’t have any crazy expectations that we will get married or anything like that, I just want to take it one step at a time and I am hoping that you will help me gain the opportunity to take that first step.

    My ex and I broke up about seven years ago. We dated for one year solid, followed by a year off and on. One thing worth mentioning is that we never really broke up. During our one year of intense dating, he was in law school (an hour away) and we were both really busy, so we would make sacrifices to visit each other. The second year we weren’t as serious because he was in his final year of law school and truly didn’t have much time for a relationship, so we would see each other on breaks and school holidays. Then, I left the country for two months, and when I came back, he had begun a relationship with someone else who he would go on to date for four years. He never told me he had a new girlfriend (like, never mentioned it during the entire four years), but I figured it out because the nature of our relationship changed (we would still hang out from time to time, but only as friends). At the time, I still liked him, but I liked the idea of being single and experimenting with all those fish in the sea also, so I wasn’t heartbroken. I do know that his long-term girlfriend would inquire about me and what I was like, and maybe even semi-stalk me, and although I never met her, some mutual friends have implied that she was jealous of me.

    Fast forward three years after their breakup: because my ex and I have many mutual friends and we live in the same small town, we actually see each other quite often. I know that he would do almost anything for me and that deep down he loves me (I just don’t know what kind of love it is, friendship or more than that). For example, he has dropped everything at work before and met with me when I needed a lawyer in a pinch. He has also helped me learn all the rules to soccer and gave me several one-on-one clinics when some friends wanted me to play in their soccer league and I had zero experience with the sport.

    Also, I know that he is physically attracted to me because we run in the same circle of friends and he tells his male friends how hot I am, and makes references to my appearance constantly. Just for your reference, to the outside observer, I’m probably average looking, maybe slightly better than average looking, but I’m really fun- and honestly, most people would probably think that he is average looking, but his crooked smilie that he reserves for just the right moment absolutely knocks me over.

    I run into him frequently and he always seems to want me around. He invites me to his parties and concerns himself with making sure that I have a fresh drink, etc. I know I am his favorite dance partner because that’s when I see his biggest, crookedest smile. His friends and family LOVE me, and some people even ask me why we’re not together. We text occasionally, but both of us mostly use texting and phone conversations to make plans to meet in person, and even when we were together, that was the way we operated.

    Here’s the kicker. About a year ago we went to the same community event, as did many of our friends. At the end of the evening, we got a ride to the same bar, and when I was ready to go home, he got us a cab. The cab passed right by his house, but he stayed in it and came with me to my house. At my house, we talked on the couch for a while, then I told him I was going to bed, and I went. He could have walked to his house (three blocks away), or stayed on the couch, but instead he followed me to my bed. When we got to my room, he told me that we would never be together again. I told him that I didn’t ask him, nor did I expect us to be together. Then he got into my bed with me and kept making advances at me, but then pulling back. This was a super-mixed message for me.

    In the last few years both of us have casually been dating (other people), but nothing worth noting. I feel like maybe he is scared to try this again because he has preconceived notions of the expectations of relationships-from what I understand, he and his last gf broke up partly because she wanted children and he absolutely did not (I don’t want them at all). I also know that he felt rejected by me at the beginning of our relationship (nine years ago) because he was coming on really strong and I told him that he needed to slow down his approach if he wanted to date me. I think I truly hurt his feelings then so I wonder if he is still a little shy because of that.

    Anyway, I realize that the conversation in my bedroom was in plain English, and I generally believe that you must take people at their word, however, this time, it might have been his attempt to talk himself out of beginning a relationship with me without considering it first. He is a calculated man and doesn’t make decisions without serious thought.

    Help me figure this one out, please. How can I get him to give this a shot?

    Thanks,
    Jill

  19. Steph

    July 1, 2014 at 3:31 am

    Okay I feel like this is a “no no” even before I start.. but what about trying to get an ex back that is currently in a relationship?? My ex and I were together for 3 years and it ended really badly. I eventually moved overseas and we talked for a bit in hopes of getting back together, but that ended quickly once he said he couldn’t do long-distance and he started dating another girl to get over me. We did no-contact for 10 months and we just recently started talking. But he’s still in a relationship with that same girl and he has acknowledged that he still has feelings for me and that he is very confused. Should I start the process and persuade him to be with me or should I just let him go? I truly love this man and I know that I could be very happy with him.

  20. Gretta

    June 26, 2014 at 1:51 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I tried adding my ex on Facebook (it has been 10 months since our last proper contact) but he completely ignored my request. He also deleted some of our mutual friends from my side. It has been such a long time since our (nasty) break up? I haven’t done anything wrong lately- I haven’t even spoken to the guy! Confused.

    Thanks

    1. admin

      June 26, 2014 at 3:36 pm

      What do you want my help on?

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