112 thoughts on “My Relationship Ended Badly; Can I Sill Get Him Back?”

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   Morgan

   January 28, 2018 at 6:23 pm

   Me and my exboyfriend have been split up for nearly two weeks. The night he left we got into an argument which involved him having to pull me out of his car as I refused to accept him leaving. He left me in tears and later on I messaged him saying I was going to hurt myself. He got frustrated and hung up the phone, we haven’t spoke since. We’ve been together about 8 months and have had multiple arguments and broken up atleast 8 times. I always seem to be the problem but when we work at it again, to start fresh, he brings up the past problems if I slip up the slightest and then he decides he doesn’t want that, he doesn’t want me. We split up three weeks ago and I decided to try not to contact him and within two days he wanted me back. We’d only been together a week when he left me this time. I’m panicking as I think this is it. Last time he said he looked at a dating site and he has thousands of people on snapchat who randomly try to talk to him. I pretty much lived with him for 6 months now I’ve been kicked out and struggle for places to stay as I don’t have anyone so it’s hard to distance myself from him when he’s all I had. Do you think this is it or is there the slightest chance as he’s left me before? What should I do?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 31, 2018 at 1:05 am

   HI Morgan,

   Where are you living now? Because frankly, asking for help for your living situation, is going to lessen your chances of getting him back.

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   Su

   January 28, 2018 at 7:06 am

   Hi,
   My x bf broke up with me two weeks ago after a small argument. Before that we had betrayal and cheating issues. We had the problem of how I treated his friend/roommate behind his back three months ago, he caught me that I was chatting with one guy by sharing photos and flirting two months ago and later the worst, one random guy texted him that I am still looking for another guys to hook up behind his back. For all these three times, he broke up with me but I apologized and at the end we made it up. I didn’t expect he would break up with me after this small argument. After two days later he said he broke up, his friend told him that I was on tinder and he found me there. He said he is ok and happy that I moved on so fast. We are still living together for few more months as roommate but he doesn’t touch me or talk less to me. Sometimes he is cold and hot on me. The only hope i have right now is that he wakes me up every morning during the week to go and prepare for work (we sleep in same bed) and I drive him to work everyday. In the evening, he ordered dinner for me. The rest he is treating me even less than friends. Last night he went out with his colleagues as first time without me and he didn’t want me to join at all. Please help me. I really want him back.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 31, 2018 at 12:42 am

   Hi Su,

   check this one:
   EBR 027: What To Do If You Live With Your Ex Boyfriend

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   Stephanie

   January 28, 2018 at 12:14 am

   My ex and I broke up almost 2 months ago. First I broke up with him because I was not thinking right and kind of rushing into thinking we should get engaged wishing a year he was trying to convince me to wait and not break up but I was emotional and though I could scare him into changing that same day after I “broke up with him” I wanted to talk things out in the afternoon but he didn’t answer his phone. I started calling a lot and texting like crazy until he texted back saying that he didn’t want to talk or get back together. That same day I ended up seeing him pleading and begging for us to try again and he said no because he realized that since he moved to CA from NV for me or to be with me I never game him a chance to have friends here.. he also said I was emotionally unstable and that he didn’t want to live in CA but that I did and I refused to ever move anywhere else. For three weeks I insisted I would change and that I realized my flaws but he said he didn’t believe me anymore. Then on dec 27 he confessed he slept with a coworker the night before while we were broken up and that did it I started telling him I regret being with him and many more hurtful things. He did th same. That was our last fight and the last time I saw him. After that I texted an apology for my reaction and also letting him know I was doing better and hopefully he was too. He didn’t reply. And I left it at that until a week after I texted him “hey how are you? Hope everything is great. I wanted to talk to you about the car insurance and the money you lend me a while back” he replied the next day “what about the car insurance? Just cancel it. And about the money don’t worry about it. Money comes and goes.” So I didn’t reply since I felt he didn’t realky want to talk he ignore me asking how he was and didn’t ask how I was either. Since then I found the EBR program and decided to do a proper no contact of 21 or 30 days. Since the first one I tried was really complete :/ it’s been a week since that last text I sent

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 31, 2018 at 12:38 am

   Hi Stephanie,

   do at least 30 days and check this one:
   EBR 024: Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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   McKenna

   January 27, 2018 at 1:10 pm

   Hi me andm y ex were together for a year and almost three months when we got into an argument one day and he said he wanted a break. The next day he wanted to break up. He kept goong back and forth from that for about a week. We slept together and afterwards he cried and said it was a mistake but i told him it wasnt a mistake because he wanted to do it. I feel that we broke up because we spent too much time together which lead to a lot of arguing. He said he wants space and I am just now giving that to him. I told him I’d contact him by next friday but Im thinking of waiting for him to contact md. He left a lot of his things at my house and whenever I see him he hugs me and acts like we’re together. I feel the best course of action is to wait for him to contact me for his things and see if he’s willing to talk to me then. Every time I have tried talking to him he gets really angry and says there’s nothing to talk about.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 30, 2018 at 11:38 pm

   Hi Mckenna,

   yes, I agree, let him initiate.

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   Terri

   January 27, 2018 at 5:05 am

   I dumped my bf for a dumb reason, stupid jealousy. We weren’t together long, only a few months but he said he really loved me & showed it. Was a perfect bf…really. He took the breakup really hard & tried to get me back. But I was still stubborn & jealous over something silly. He finally gave up trying to get me back & moved on it appears. I purposely won’t check his social media anymore because it will be too painful to see. I’m more than sure he is dating again… just a gut feeling. It has been since the beginning of December since we split. He did reach out and say Merry Christmas and happy birthday to me but he would not say anything else or even reply to my texts when I did try to contact him. A few weeks ago, I sent a mean emotionally fueled text telling him how much I hated him. I was jealous over flirty comments he left on female pics. (I know I had no right to be). He did read it but did not reply. I sent him a sincere apology text for everything today (a couple of weeks after the outburst he ignored). He read it but did not reply. I am actually surprised I’m not blocked after my last outburst. Why hasn’t he blocked me? Why do you think he still won’t reply? What should I do next?

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 30, 2018 at 11:21 pm

   Hi Terri,

   Maybe because he knows you’re reaction was normal for someone who still has feelings. He doesn’t have to reply because if he did, he probably will be leading you on. Have you done nc? If yes, how many times and how long?

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   Mini Sharma

   January 24, 2018 at 3:26 pm

   I got my ex back after 45 days of no contact. 5 months of break up .. I’m too glad to read all the tips and tricks to get back. It literally helped me a lot. Now he want to marry me and preparing hard for it. Thank a lot 🙂

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 25, 2018 at 7:56 pm

   Congratulations! Thanks for sharing Mini Sharma!

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   Marla

   January 24, 2018 at 1:37 pm

   My ex and I have been separated for over a year now, we were together for more than 8 years. His mother was a huge factor in creating tension and drama throughout the relationship as she is a control freak. Right towards the end he started talking to someone he just met and once we split he ended up dating her. At first I assumed it was a rebound as she seemed to be the polar opposite of what type of girl he was interested in both religiously and culturally and lives quite far away. Anyways, I saw him a few months ago but I didn’t want to talk about us however he kept bringing up the subject and then asked about the idea of us getting back together. I assumed after that we would keep up communicating but he hasn’t said anything since and when I messaged him to discuss what he brought up last he would just respond with saying that he has no time. He is still with the other female and I am still left confused with unanswered questions. I have been focusing on myself and working on the 3 different aspects of my life you talk about since the beginning and I’ve been doing really well so I am confused as to why I am still not getting far with him.

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   EBR Team Member: Amor

   January 25, 2018 at 7:55 pm

   Hi Marla,

   Did you try the being there method? If not, you’re really not going to get anywhere if you’re not doing anything. It was one interaction and he just asked the idea of getting back together, he didn’t say he wants to. And it’s been a year, at this point, frankly, you should move on.