How to Tell if Your Ex-Boyfriend is a Narcissist

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All of the stories begin the same way.

“When we first met things were so different.”

“He was so different.”

Almost every woman ever has looked back on an relationship after it’s ended and noted the differences in their ex from the start to the finish. The longer the relationship, the more likely there is to be a stark difference in any relationship.

The thing is, everyone puts their best foot forward at the beginning of a relationship. So, it’s not unfathomable that they would be different people at the end of a relationship. After a couple has been together a while, it’s not unusual for them to settle into a bit of normalcy, complacency even. I mean, over time people grow, learn and morph into new versions of themselves.

However, when looking back at an unsuccessful relationship (I really hate saying failed, because they  become learning experiences regardless), especially if the split was unexpected, it’s easy to feel like you never really knew the “real” person your ex is.

Feeling this way, can lead to a lot of unresolved questions.

“Did I just get played?”

“What the heck even happened?”

“Was he a narcissist in disguise?”

I know how you feel.

Take it from someone who is incessantly attracted to narcissists, their charisma and charm can be intoxicating. And the aftermath can be utterly devastating.

Narcissist has become a bit of a buzzword lately.


Well, in a world ruled by social media, and the incessant need to get feed back on everything we do, even what we have for lunch, it’s easy to assume everyone is somewhat self-centered.

But being self-centered doesn’t solely make someone a narcissist.

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How do you spot a narcissist?

There is a difference between someone who simply has narcissistic tendencies and someone who has Narcissistic Personality Disorder. The fact that the term narcissist gets thrown around more than hashtags these days. The difference between having narcissistic tendencies and actually BEING a narcissist is the number of standard narcissistic tendencies that the subject displays.

But, who determines these standards? That would be the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders, or the DSM.  The 5th edition of the Diagnostic and Statistical Manual of Mental Disorders lists the same nine criteria for narcissistic personality disorder (NPD) as did the previous version, published 19 years earlier.

These characteristics of Narcissists are as follows:

  1. Has a grandiose sense of self-importance.
  2. Is preoccupied with fantasies of unlimited success, power, brilliance, beauty, or ideal love.
  3. Believes that he or she is “special” and unique and can only be understood by, or should associate with, other special or high-status people (or institutions).
  4. Requires excessive admiration [regularly fishes for compliments, and is highly susceptible to flattery].
  5. Has a sense of entitlement.
  6. Is inter-personally exploitative.
  7. Lacks empathy: is unwilling [or, I would add, unable] to recognize or identify with the feelings and needs of others.
  8. Is often envious of others or believes that others are envious of him or her.
  9. Shows arrogant, haughty [rude and abusive] behaviors or attitudes.

Narcissism is anything but pretty. So, putting it in pink helps a little bit… right?



A lot of these functions are internal, things only the person doing them would recognize. That is why studies of narcissism are so various in their findings. Most studies require the subjects to answer a survey of sorts, meaning that the subject could easily lie.

There are other studies that are trying to study the immense-ness and grandiosity of the characteristics and how they interact. The result of this study was that some narcissist’s perception of themselves was so over-the-top that they might be more inclined to act out in unethical behavior.

Simply having a few of the characteristics would mean solely that the subject has narcissistic characteristics, but if your ex personifies five or more of them, he could be clinically classified as having Narcissistic Personality Disorder. However, there are very few cases in which all nine are found in one person. I believe I read that there are only two cases to date in which this is the case. So, don’t go trying to check off all of them.

So, yes you could go around deeming people narcissists simply because they are self-centered and have a few of the characteristics, but unless you were an expert in the field of Sociology you’re word wouldn’t mean much.

It is speculated that most cases of narcissism go unnoticed simply because it means that the narcissist would have to admit the possibility of being a narcissist. Most narcissists wouldn’t admit that unless they saw it as a positive trait because heaven forbid they have short-comings.

Even if a narcissist was self-aware in the fact that they display narcissistic tendencies, you’d be hard-pressed to hear them admit it openly.

It would be hard to tell if someone is a full-blown narcissist they doesn’t want to admit it to themselves.

You can see the predicament.

75% of the diagnosed narcissists in the world are male. When considering this you have to take into account that the mere machismo of a male narcissist would make it almost impossible for them to come to this conclusion on their own or to accept a clinical diagnosis.

Most narcissist are self-diagnosed or merely assumed to be by the people in their lives and usually they are simply on the low-end scale and only display a few of the characteristics.

Male narcissists focus on different areas of life that female narcissists. So, you have to look outside of how you would manifest narcissism. Men are more likely to place emphasis on intellect, power, aggression, money, or social status.

So, how would you ever know if you were dating a narcissist? The real ones are basically chameleons, making themselves into whomever they need to be to receive the attention and admiration they crave.


Well, you can pay attention to other things about him.

He might insist on have in having the “best” of everything regardless as to whether it is actually the best.

He pays very close attention to who he is affiliated with and the institutions that he is linked to.

His self esteem would be incredibly fragile.

He would care very much about how others perceive him.

He would expect preferential treatment to others.

He would find the emotional needs of others as a weakness.

He would assume that everyone around him is overly concerned with his welfare.

He would be drawn to leadership positions.

Then, if you still aren’t certain, you can look at yourself.

There are two different speculations across the board when it comes to relationships with narcissists. The first is that narcissists are attracted to other narcissists, which is something I am hard-pressed to believe would last very long. I’ll explain why momentarily.

The second, and the one I am more inclined to believe, is that narcissists and empaths are naturally drawn together.

When I say empath I mean someone who can empathize with the feelings of others without effort. It comes naturally to them.

Most people inherently just assume that people have good intentions. However, empaths are deeply in tune with the feelings of others to the point of being able to put themselves in the mental or emotional state of others. This makes them a great source of understanding and trying to fix things.

So, narcissists would hold a certain level of intrigue for a highly empathetic person. When you are used to being able to get and maintain a certain level of an emotional read on people, meeting someone who is hard to read would be like being faced with a challenge.

So, if you are reading this and going,

“You know what I DO empathize easily with people and I DID see my ex as human Rubik’s Cube.”

Don’t worry. You aren’t just a sucker for punishment if you find you’re drawn to narcissistic personalities. Narcissists are drawn to people who give of themselves to other people.

  1. Namely, empaths feel and absorb other peoples’ emotions and or physical symptoms by filtering them through their own intuition.
  2. Here are a few traits of empathetic people:
  3. Empaths are highly emotional, and good listeners. Regularly told that they are “too sensitive” or “need to toughen up.”
  4. They tend to lose themselves in relationships. Spending too much time with someone on an intimate level might have them taking on more characteristics of their partner, leaving them feeling a bit lost. This might lead to avoidance of intimate relationships.
  5. They will take absorb both negativity and positive emotions from the people around them. So being surrounded by negativity will be draining, whereas positive people give them energy and they will thrive around them.
  6. They are overwhelmed in group settings, as the influx of emotions is too much.
  7. Due to their ability to channel other people’s emotions, they need alone time to recharge.
  8. They also find energy in peaceful settings such as in nature. It allows them an opportunity to let go of the emotions that overwhelm them and simply “be.”
  9. Empaths also often feel like they aren’t doing enough.



If you find yourself with several of these qualities, just know that narcissists, along with other types of what psychologist refer to as “energy vampires,” are likely to be drawn to you. So, it is much more  likely that your ex might have had some narcissistic tendencies if you have empathetic ones.

Basically, where empaths can empathize emotions and needs in others, narcissists can intuit the desire in an empath to understand and fix things. As the stated above, a narcissist will exploit this desire to their benefit without recognizing or caring about the effect it has on the person they are exploiting.

The Dynamics of a Narcissist’s Relationship

Most relationships are founded on the desire to build connections. In a relationship with a narcissist, things play out in a very specific manner though.

This kind of relationship is not unlike any other in the beginning aside from it’s intensity.

The narcissist will do everything they can to make their target feel like they have set aside their own self-involvement to make this person the center of their world. They give the impression that their whole world stopped the moment that the target showed interest in them.

Suddenly, they will engulf the target with attention, making them feel as if the narcissist is the only person who can care for or even understand them on this level. This is especially effective with empaths, they will feel over the moon with the amount of love and admiration they are both taking in and amplifying outward.

Through this tactic they will slowly isolate you from your family, friends, and your interests because the rest of the world will suddenly seem very dull compared to the connection you have with this person. Your life will become about them and them alone. They make you feel loved, special and cherished. Your mind is consumed with thoughts of them. All the while, he will be feeding off of the love and admiration you are filtering his way.

You feel almost powerful having someone so enamored with you. Without them you would be nothing.

This is what is referred to as the narcissist’s “false self.”

The downside, after being lavishly draped in attention for the duration of the beginning of the relationship, the “false self” is in fact… false. I t will eventually end. So at some point you will have begun to see that there is a whole other side to this person that you had fallen for. The shift could either be gradual or seem to happen completely all at once. Either way, looking back there would be a definitive difference in the man you met and the man you ended up with.

He would’ve become distant and indifferent. Any promises they may have made will have gone unfulfilled. You most likely thought you had done something wrong.

Which, if your ex is a narcissist, is highly unlikely since narcissist find it hard to create actual bonds with people. Instead, when a narcissist backs away, you will feel the need to cling. Instead of cutting you off cold turkey or at least amicably, a narcissist will insist on not only making you feel like you’ve done something wrong. They will try to portray you as the bad guy or the reason things went wrong.

Once you’re in a state of complete confusion, the narcissist will continue to back up and revel in your turmoil. They not only feed off of your admiration, but off of your reaction. So, becoming clinging and acting out at them will only feed into their actions.

The narcissist will not ever really acknowledge their actions. They simply have no regard for your feelings. They may, however, string you along as if they “don’t know what they want” until they find another supply of admiration, because narcissists don’t see the people in their lives as people. They see their targets as pawns to maneuver or objects to be used and discarded.

So, you can’t blame yourself one bit as narcissists are incredibly skilled at deceit and they feed off of the misery of others.

They will continue to continue feeding you bits of attention to keep you interested until they get bored, they find another supply of admiration, or until you put a stop to it.

This is when the final stage of the relationship comes to a head. Once your narcissist has decided that you are no longer an adequate source of the attention they crave they will walk away without a second thought.

So, now that you have an idea of what a relationship with a narcissist plays out like, is that what you’ve been dealing with?

Is your ex a narcissist?

Well, that depends. According to an overview of all of the various studies done on narcissism and it’s relation to cultural trends, done by W. Keith Campbell, PhD, head of the University of Georgia Psychology Department, narcissism is prevalent in today’s generations. Really, are you even surprised with all of the selfies we take?

How Do You Deal With an Ex that is a Narcissist?

So, you are just figuring out that you’ve been dating a guy with the emotional range of Patrick Bateman, from American Psycho?

How are you supposed to react? Do you just let him feed your broken heart into a shredder repetitively?


Now that you realize the situation you are in, what are you going to do about it? The only real thing to do about it it to make a clean break. However, if you do this the Narcissist will feel as if you’ve taken the power in the relationship away from him. You’ve been his “Narcissistic Supply” up until this point.

First of all, it is important to be mindful of his fragile ego. The last person I told this to got in an argument with her ex and she straight up told him he had a fragile ego! Don’t do that! The idea is to be as non-confrontational as possible.

If you know that you have a tendency to say things without thinking when you are angry, then ask one of your friends to help keep you in check so you keep your cool.

Every person in existence has a pattern behavior. The narcissist’s is driven by their need for admiration and respect. Everything they do is in search for this. Where this attention comes from isn’t necessarily important. If they can get this attention from someone they see as superior to them, then that is what they will choose.

So, once you’ve determined that your ex is a narcissist, if you can find a way to walk away from the breakup without causing a scene, begging, or trying to fight for some form of closure then that will benefit you greatly. I hope that this article will help eradicate your need for closure that will never come from your narcissistic ex because he is most likely too wrapped up in his own needs to actually notice that you have emotional needs of your own.

If your ex only displays a few of the characteristics of being a narcissist, you might make it away unscathed if you just slowly back away from the breakup and make a clean break of it.

However, if you find yourself face with a full-blown narcissist who displays five or more of the characteristics, it might insult his pride if you don’t make some gesture of regret for the loss of the relationship.

For example, I was seeing a guy who displayed at least five of the characteristics earlier last year. He found himself seeking his adoration in another woman and proceeded to ask me for “space.”

Here’s how the basic conversation went.

“I think we need to take some space. I really just need to focus on work. You understand.”

“Absolutely. I understand. I’ve enjoyed spending time with you, but I wouldn’t want to interfere with the things that are important to you. I know you well enough to know what you want and respect it.”

“Most women wouldn’t be as understanding as you are. I hope you aren’t mad. I feel like a jerk.”


“Because I’m sure this conversations wasn’t what you wanted to hear.”

“Well not exactly but I get it.”

“Thank you.”

See what I did. I let him do the walking away while also leaving his ego unbruised. All the while I avoided the soothing that he was going for. Generally when someone goes, “I feel like such a jerk,” the knee-jerk reaction is to try and convince them that they aren’t.

Of course it bothered me. It was a jerk move. He was simply into someone else.

The thing is, I knew he was a narcissist going into the relationship in the first place. Our shared friends had clued me into his dating patterns days after he and I began talking. And I knew he would eventually and inevitably get bored, not because of anything I did, but because that’s just what narcissist do.

But, like the empath that I am, I found him intriguing and yes some sadistic part of me thought I could “fix” him. But here’s the deal, you aren’t going to change a narcissist and you certainly aren’t going to do so right after he tells you he’s ready to break things off.

Finding a way to walk away unscathed is literally your only option unless you want to start a fight worthy of it’s own reality show. Seriously, those kinds of fights go on for many many seasons. There are better things you can do with your time.

Avoiding Narcissists in the Future

So, now that you can recognize narcissistic characteristics in any potential boyfriends in the future and you can recognize the characteristics in yourself that attracts them, hopefully you can use this information to build stronger relationships in the future with people who actually care that you enjoy it too. Even better, perhaps it will give you the courage not to let people like that have power in your life all around.

Because, sometimes, even though there are people in this world that don’t have the emotional capacity to give as much as they take, understanding how to spot them before you get involved can afford you more time to partake in relationships that are a bit less one-sided.

February 1, 2017

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What Do You Think? (29)

  1. Julie - 0


    So my boyfriend wasn’t a full blow narcissist but he definitely had traits. And was more of The low self esteem high need of affirmations difficulty relating to my emotions type.
    However – he was able to relate to my life very well. Why is this article all about deciding your ex is a narcissist and no tips on how to react?
    I’m not sure then I contact is the way to go toward someone that wants the admiration.
    The relationship ended (I think) because after two years of being together – the honeymoon doting on him period ended. Now immnot about to change myself for someone – but I know I could definitely have been more caring.
    So how do we handle getting the narcissitct tendency ex back?

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Julie,
      Becaus if he’s a narcissist, dont go back to him.

      If he’s not a narcissit, just a guy that exhibits some of it, which is more likely him being insecure, same steps of doing the nc rule apply BUT you have to be more aware of when the guy is just plain narcissitic because we dont advise going back to that kind of guy. That’s why Ashly said your only option is to walk away unscathed. He can just be using you for his ego.

    • Julie - 0


      He’s the vulnerable type — it’s just traits and he definitely doesn’t exhibit full blown disorder. Since he is vulnerable and needs his ego fed – isn’t the silence going to just tell him I don’t care?

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      so, you mean after he broke up with you, he wants you to keep talking because he needs his ego fed? wouldn’t that be telling him that
      “Hey, even after you hurt me. And I still haven’t healed, I’m still here ready to give you what you want even if you dont commit.”

      if he is feeding his ego, doing that will send a message that you dont have standards, that you’re ok with him to just keep hurting you, just to keep him.

    • Julie - 0


      He broke up with me and hasn’t contacted me. I anticipated him expecting me to cry and reach out like I did the last time he did this. But I discovered this site last time and learned from my mistake.
      I want to reiterate he is definitely not a full blown narcissist. He just has some of the vulnerable type traits. There isn’t any abuse in the relationship. Just some silent treatments (I know it sounds bad – but some people don’t express their emotions)
      So he broke up and hasn’t reached out to me at all. And I feel that’s what he’s wanting

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      I understand..keep in mind he’s the one that broke up with you.. he should be the one that’s worried on how to get your affections back. If he has a big ego, dont feed it. He has to value you more than his ego..

    • Julie - 0


      I get that. But if one of the problems was I was being s little selfish and not feeding his ego – then wouldn’t not reaching out to him just keep him away?

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      the thing is there shouldn’t be ego in a relationship. Of course sometimes when we’re angry we’re proud or cold but that shouldn’t always dominate and we should learn not to repeat that and handle conflicts in a mature way..

      There should be self respect and knowing that a person who tells you they love you should show you that or at least be respectful towards you and of course if you love them, you would do the same because that’s how a relationship works..
      but it’s different when you broke up with somebody and you still want that other person to make you feel good while you’re hurting that person. That’s selfish. If you want the other person to make you feel good, great, loved, have you considered how you treated them and how you treated yourself?

      You’re like saying he wants you to chase first, assure him that you’re still hooked before he tries it with you. If he really loves you, he would think more of how not to hurt you further(because girl, he broke your heart) and how to have a harmonious relationship with you after that because of the memories you shared.

      If he’s angry then nc helps because of the space and seeing you happy, moving on and growing(which what a person should do after being broken up with) can make him realize he’s the only one angry. If he’s narcissistic, he would think you shouldn’t be happy, even if he hurt you.

      If he’s just waiting, dont worry after nc,you can initiate..

    • Julie - 0


      Can my first contact post no contact be sending his stuff ? If I sent it today I’d be around the 25 day mark when he gets it
      I cried and asked him not to break up and asked why and asked to talk and asked what I needed to do — in the moment but then I haven’t contacted him since

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      if you’re going to send it during nc, just only talk about that…that’s not breaking nc.. but if you want to use it as first contact, why not just send it after nc?

    • Julie - 0


      Well I was leaning more toward a 21 day no contact because he’s leaving the country for 6 months. So I shipped the box thinking it would get there around Day 25. I just wasn’t sure if I should reach out before he gets his box

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      you have to approach it like a long distance relationship because even if you break nc earlier, that will not stop him from leaving. You still need to build rapport when he’s already there.. It will just lessen your time in focusing in improving yourself.. if he really needs the things, you can talk to him and see him about that

    • Julie - 0


      I need to know if he’s a narcissist or if I’m just stupid. And I know enough about this to know their are traits and diff kinds as I’ve stated …. once I dated a blatant narcissist – super grandiose self absorbed no emotion etc. I got sucked into that one just thinking he was antisocial….

      So My recent ex / love of my life has me going crazy. I did no contact I mailed his stuff back about 21 days NC and then caved and reached out a month of nc. I figure he answered due to the NC and getting his stuff back he figured I was done. I didn’t chase him or contact him at alllll after he broke up with me.
      He was extremely charming. There are some traits he exhibited that could mean anything and I’m just not sure how to tell!
      He wasn’t verbally abusive. He put me on a pedastiol to the very end. He cheated on me in the very beginning of the two year relationship and told me a few days later (after I caught him) and seemed remorseful and apologized – wouldn’t a narc nkt do that ?
      He ended the relationship supposedly because we are long distance and sometimes I would get a little anxious if he didn’t call me back in a timely manner or when he typically did …. and he got upset one night when I asked why he was on Facebook all of the time all of a sudden and decided to just end it saying I love you but you don’t trust me and this isn’t healthy. And then basically refuses to talk about it, except saying he knows he causes the mistrust but it’s not healthy and then hung up and I didn’t beg.
      So I guess – many other things happened Of course – but the fact that he admitted his wrong doing is what has me wondering am I wrong ? Was he really not a narcissist?

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      A narcissist, invests enough to get you hook and then pulls back and wants more investment from you. Investment can be different ways;giving attention, giving gifts, apologizing, saying the right things.. But what’s apparent is, they do things that really hurt somebody else repeatedly. It’s like the bad boy kind of boyfriend. You know they’re bad but it’s hard to let go because of how they make you feel. But right now, you have to assess your standards, basing on your latest talk. He said he misses you but doesn’t want to lead you on. That means he doesn’t want a relationship. Yes, he sent that message, but that can be because, as he said, he misses you.. but not enough to want to be back in a relationship. Because you’re talking now, you’re being nice, it doesn’t make sense for him to say he doesn’t want to lead you on if all he wanted was a permission or sign from you that he can get back with you. So, you have to decide. Do you continue to slowly build rapport and set a limit until when or move on.

  2. Cara - 0


    Hi ,
    It would be good to see an article on Borderline and histrionic personality disorders as they are similar to narcissistic PD. It may give readers insights into whether or not they truly want to get back with an ex .

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Cara,

      I’ll forward your inquiry and suggestions to Chris ok?

  3. Cara - 0


    Hi Ashley ,

    This is a decent and well-intentioned article on the true diagnosis of Narcissism and I especially like that you listed the specific criteria for someone to be diagnosed as a narcissist . Having worked as a masters level therapist, a true narcissist can only be diagnosed by a licensed therapist or psychologist . You have to meet at least 6 -8 if the criteria and even then it takes a good chunk of analyzing the persons life and how they relate to others . 90% of narcissist are men .per hundreds of research studies . Women who display similar characteristics tend to be Borderline personality .
    I have a couple of issues with some of the comments made in your article as I’ve always cringed whenever others are so quick to call their exes a narcissist. We all display narcissistic tendencies from time to time and studies show that when people are under great amounts of stress like a break up , they may display narcissistic features .
    I disagree with the comment that taking selfies implies we’re a narcissist. As you stated yourself there’s more to it than just admiring yourself . An study in psychology today indicated that women who take selfies and post them are actually shown to have increased self image , self esteem , and confidence . Teenage girls are more likely to accept their bigger nose and /or a feature that others made fun of them for . So if posting my selfie on fb means I’m a narcissist then I would have to meet all the other criteria right ? ( But then we’re told to post pictures of ourselves to attract an ex back . )
    Thanks for accepting my comment .

  4. C.C - 0


    After reading this, I strongly identify as an empath, and my ex-boyfriend displayed many characteristics of a narcissist. When we broke up several months ago he strung me along while he continued to pursue other women secretly. I’m currently engaged in “no contact” and he has only reached out once when I was trying to get stuff back through a mutual friend. I still care about him and would like to get him back, but I’m not sure if it’s worth it/will be effective if this kind of behavior is his true personality.

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi CC,

      are you actively improving yourself? whatever happens, it’s not a waste to choose self respect and love..

  5. Laura - 0


    I wish I had read this article months ago. I was dating a narcissist and I have done other research. Our “break up” resulted in him trying to discard me, and me bruising his ego and being overly emotional , and then him saying awful things to me.

    I beat myself up everyday for not walking away “unscathed.” I gave him all of the power. I am glad you included this article on your site because I think a lot of women are trying to get back men that have been emotionally abusive or narsassistic. the problem is that narcassits often return, and so the no contact rule, would be perfect for them to go “do their thing” and return as if nothing happened. I think, Chris, you need to include more resources on abuse and what guys to “let go of” on this site.

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Laura,

      I’ll forward your suggestion to Chris.

  6. Daphane - 0


    Since young , I was always told to be “not that sensitive ” , I was told to control because being more emotional in difficult situation cannot help to solve any problem. But people dont understand , likely an ” empath ” thinks much more then what they need , and likely to be “putting others before ourself ” . Meeting a narcissist as first love for an empath is the most broken love story because she/he wouldnt even know how to handle the situation and what they mostly do is letting them hurting you, while you kept believing that you can fix it , fix the love and fix the situation but only more and more chances to get hurt and losing self esteem . Stop being that way , it’s not you , it’s not your fault , give yourself an opportunity to see this clearler , to just stand outside of the picture , people as understanding as you would understand what i want you to know , that is this kind of love really worth for you to put in so much effort just to ” fix it ” . This website is really good , think before you really want the relationship back yet

  7. Lisa - 0


    Hello ,
    I’m on day 22 of no contact and as hard as it is , so far I’m going strong . I was planning on doing 45 days because I feel 45 days for my situation would be the best but I just found out my ex has recently signed on to tinder and has been getting girls numbers on there . I’m so worried that he will meet someone else . Should I shorten my no contact to 30 days Bc of this ? Or should I stick it out to 45 days ?
    Please help !

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      whatever he does during no contact should matter more than your improvement because in the first place, you shouldn’t have been social media stalking him but I understand, and if the break up is not that bad it’s ok to do just 30 days.

    • Lisa - 0


      I feel 45 days is better because I was a major text and call gnat . Have you seen people be successful with getting their exes back even though they were a text and call gnat ?!?! Please help

    • EBR Team Member: Ashley - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Yeah, especially if they genuinely changed and were ok to lose the guy if it didnt work out

  8. Lisa - 0


    Hi ,so I’m on day 22 of no contact . I was planning on doing a full 45 days and have been really doing a good job of sticking to it . But recently I found out he’s on tinder and been getting girls numbers so I’m worried he will start talking to someone so should I cut it down to 30 days of nc or stick to the full 45 days ?

  9. Jade - 0


    After reading the article about narcissists, I realized I am an empath and my ex definitely had narcissistic traits which I suspected all along.


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