How To Know If Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - Signs Your Ex Is Still Interested

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ChrissieJ

June 29, 2015 at 4:31 pm

My ex-boyfriend is now married. However before and since his marriage he still asks me if I am seeing anyone, and if I am lonely. He is even trying to get me a new boyfriend with his name. He tries to have conversations with me with his wife present. He’s living in Canada and whenever he visits his parents in Florida he makes sure he turns up at my front door. Our relationship ended in 1996 but his behavior continues. His mother makes it her duty to keep me abreast with the things happening in his life, especially with his wife. I’ve asked her to stopped calling me or leaving messages as I am not interested. The last time she left a note saying she’s going to Canada to visit him because the marriage is having problems. This is the same woman who, years ago, told me to get out of her son’s life. Am I suppose to change my telephone and cells numbers and move out of Florida to get rid of these people?
Ayane Nagasaki

June 26, 2015 at 4:38 am

Yeah…. so hear this my boyfriend and I broke up like 6 months ago and well these past days I’ll walk to my classes and see him by the lockers hell stare at me as I pass by usually I turn to see if he’s still looking and well he does he will and still stand by the door way and stare at me while I’m inside my class and at break with my friends we’ll pass by and he’ll stare or do something to get closer or see what I’m doing and he’ll pass around with his friends and look at me and walk away though we don’t talk anymore but he just stares well sometimes a little too long
Madhubala

June 20, 2015 at 1:58 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me 3 months ago. after that he used to call me 2 days once and said to me simply called you and hung up the phone. and one day we saw each other accidently he tried to speak with me but i didnt give any response and he got very anger and called me and said that i wont call u again.after 5 days i called him we talked 2 secs and after 10 days i called him and talked for 2 secs.now 1 month passed.i didnt call him and he didnt. he broke up with me for family situation.i dont know how to get back him.but i really want to get back him.i dont know how to do.could you help me pls.
H

June 17, 2015 at 7:46 am

Hey, Chris. I recently started NC on my ex boyfriend who broke up with me a couple of days ago. We were friends the first year of knowing each other and then dated for what could’ve been 3years in 2months. I immediately started NC. The breakup started with him saying he’s not in the right place to be in a relationship, but still sees us being together in the future. I agreed to the breakup since he was trying to leave it on a good note. As soon as we parted ways I got a message from him saying “I love you with all my hear<333", followed by: "I'm sorry I haven't really shown it, but I really do." I replied with "I know. I love you too." He then tried to come sleep over but I told him it wouldn't be best for me since I was feeling so conflicted and I didn't want to be set back. He said he understood. I messaged him the next day asking if he slept well and he said he didn't get much sleep and then thanked me. 2 days into NC he messaged me at 2:09am (Which was almost 2 hours ago) I haven't replied. I'm really tempted to reply back. I really need another perspective on this. I feel like one of those girls you mentioned in one of your articles about not wanting to come off as uninterested. This feels different though. I think its because he's saying "I love you." VS "I miss you." Ughh. This is so frustrating. Also I forgot to mention this is my first relationship. I'm 22 and he's 26. I'm his second girlfriend and longest relationship. I really want us to work out. I literally have no desire to be with anyone else.
Manni

June 8, 2015 at 6:43 am

My boyfriend broke up with me because he is afraid of committing to something he cannot see through. He suffers from returning depressions, and this is what caused him to break up – he doesn’t want to drag me down with him. It has happened to him before – he got a depression which caused him and his ex-wife with whom he has a daughter to split. He is afraid that it will happen again. First I convinced him that he could get help by seeing a therapist and that I would be there for him through it all, but a few days later he broke it off, saying that he just can’t. He’s so afraid that he will let me down in the future – and if that fear is there despite how much he loves me and cares for me then he just can’t go through with this. He says I’m the greatest person he has ever known, and has told me that he might see a therapist, as I made him aware of the fact that one of the signs of depression is that you cut off your close relations.
He asked to keep in touch with me, because he needs my support, but I said that I cannot be there for him as a friend right now, because it hurts too much. I’ve kept the NC rule for a week now, but will it work? I want him back and I want to be there for him.
Laila

May 31, 2015 at 12:06 am

Hi my name is Laila and I’m a senior in high school. If liked this guy who is somewhat my friend for about a year now and about 3 months ago he told me he likes me and I told him I liked him too. We went on talking day and night (literally) for about two weeks three days before our first date I felt he was acting strange around me so two days before our date I asked him what happened and he told me that he still had feelings for his ex and didn’t want to get into a new relationship with me but then he said he Loves me and didn’t want to hurt me. For the past 3 months after that he has hooked up with many girls and had like 3 different girlfriends lasting exactly2 weeks and he kept distancing himself from me. When I called him out he said that he loved me so much he didn’t want to hurt me. We are still very good friends unroll today but I still love him and never felt this about anyone ever before and I font know what to do any advice?

Kylie

June 12, 2015 at 10:31 pm

Hi Laila, i’m no professional,but in my opinion, he cares about you much as a friend and knows he is not ready to move on. He will be with other girls as a means to get over his ex. They are rebounds, hence they last only two weeks. He considers you too much to do that to you.

My advice would be to give him some time, but don’t stress out over it either. Don’t wait for him to come around, go out with other guys as well….doesn’t have to be serious. Who knows, he may go after his ex again, but it may not work out. He may then come looking for you. Stay positive and don’t let it get to you.

fido

May 27, 2015 at 8:16 pm

me and my boyfriend broke up because of school problem as it’s our last year we must get ready for our future but the last time thatt we have talked he was in a vacation with his friends and he didint reply to my text which makes me angry about him and yelling at him after 2 days of being sorry and apology contact with his friends also so i can talk to him ..but in the end he told me he don’t want to know me he hates me and he can’t stand me he told me if i really love him i will just have to stay away from him and live his life which makes my heart broken i asked him if he loves me he told me that he was in love with me but now he don’t know i don’t know what to do.. i only want to know if he still love me or he has just say that because he is mad at me
penny

May 19, 2015 at 9:35 am

It just happened today,i dont know how to express myself right now i am so hurt…. i just need someone to talk too

Lucy

May 26, 2015 at 8:39 pm

It happened to me too Penny 3 months ago. We dated for almost 2 years. He decided he couldn’t give me what I need. He wants to stay friend and communicate. I just decided that this is not healthy for me. I am not able to move on when we kept in contact like if nothing ever happened. I have a feeling he wants me as a safety net. Penny time will help. It’s true though about the No contact rule. You must avoid any communication with him. My ex-boyfriend communicated with me almost immediately. Initially I thought that was a good thing. The mistake I made was responding as soon as he texted or called. I never really did follow the 30 day rule. I am going to do it now. If you need to vent…just reply. Hang in there.

penny

May 19, 2015 at 9:32 am

I just dont know how to express myself right now i am so hurt…. i just need someone to talk too

Aina

June 18, 2015 at 1:19 pm

Penny I know you so angry, but just follow no contact period. Don’t be in touch with his friends neither family. Surround your self with good friends. Believe me, am going through that.

Benedicta

May 4, 2015 at 7:36 am

He broke (not yet break up) with me a view days ago because he did not know if he loves me or just the dependency. It became like this because in the last view months (maybe a year), we had always either small or big fights and most of them because of me and also a problem from my family, because he was asked when he will marry me or is he serious with me. He said to me that he needs some times to think about it, if he loves me or not. I only know that I love him so much, but I don’t know what i suppose to do? and I want that he comes back to me.. does the NC rules work for me to? thank you:)

Kylie

June 12, 2015 at 10:43 pm

Hi Benedicta,

I did no contact…for three days, i was in a tight spot and needed a lift, had no one else to call but him. He was at the movies alone and was happy to leave and come get me…we then spent 2+ hours talking about random things. My guess is yes, it works. I still haven’t gotten him back, so have yet to try my 30days.

In my opinion though, marriage scares men and that is never gonna change. What is worrisome is that he says he needs time to know if he loves you. If someone loves you, they will not hesitate to say it! What he could have said was yes, he loves you, but he needs time. I believe that men are afraid that they will not be able to be “themselves” as in not being able to do what they want, when they want. They always need time, whereas most women think we know what we want.

My advice will be to dress yourself up, try no contact for as long as you can. Do not rush to talk to him. Let him feel like he is losing you a bit. Don’t expect much but don’t give up just yet.

Kaylee

May 3, 2015 at 7:05 pm

I’m really confused and hurt, my now ex boyfriend broke up with me recently. We found each other off an app and we talked everyday sense. Soon we became so attached that he decided to move states to be with me. He and I met up to meet in person for the first time and fell in love more than ever. Sense then we’ve had so many memories threw the passed two years of our relationship. We had so many promises and plans for our future sense day one, until April the 29th. It seemed like a bad dream, it was my biggest fear becoming a reality. He was my first real relationship. When we first started dating he wasn’t very confident in himself. All his passed relationships were a bust, the other girls he dated just brought him down and cheated on him. So with his horrible experiences and my lack of any put a twist to everything. He never wanted me to go anywhere or do anything at the beginning of our relationship. He would freak out if I didn’t text him back after a couple of minutes. Being that this is my first real relationship I started to learn from all this, thinking this is how relationships are. Being needy and needing to know where and what that other person is doing at all times. Over time I started to build his confidence, showing him how much value he really has. He started backing off and wanting more space for himself, which isn’t a bad thing but I wish a new that at the time. I thought he was becoming distant and was lacking interest in me. Our relationship was always stuck at the hip so I didn’t know what was happening. I wanted him to have more time for me, because that’s how it always was. We fought a lot more, my trust in him was on thin ice from lies in the past. I always brought up the passed in fights which was wrong and now I’m having a big realization from our break that I need to let go and forgive and let him have his guy time. I wish I new of this sooner before this whole mess happened. I’ve also learned that confidence went down in our relationship and his went up, I feel like I took all his extra baggage. My ex boyfriend lives with my brother at their apartment, my brother keeps telling me how much of a wreck he is and how my ex told him “You don’t know what you have tell it’s gone.” My brother is even afraid to leave him alone sometimes because of how messed up he is. I don’t know what to think…when he broke up with me he couldn’t look at me or talk to me really, all he did was cry his eyes out. I offered for us to take a break but he said no, yet he still has feelings for me and he’s going crazy. Everyone says he still loves me, I just wish I new what was going on. I haven’t messaged or tried talking to him sense, just giving him space and waiting for a miracle. I’m really confused and heart broken, I can’t sleep, eat, drink and my family is getting worried. I literally gave everything to that boy and he did the same for me. I would just really love to have insight on what I should do.
Kat

April 28, 2015 at 11:26 pm

My ex broke up with my about two weeks ago. He even texted me to tell me that we should limit our contact with each other. Does that mean its a done deal? I have not spoken to him or anything after our breakup. I am very strong on committing to going to a month, but how does that work when he is the one that initiated that we should “limit” contact? He broke up with me out of no where and I felt that it was a rash decision. We were both happy and he even told me he loved be the day before of the breakup. No cheating involved or arguments whatsoever.

Kylie

June 12, 2015 at 10:57 pm

Hey Kat,

I know how you feel, we all feel the same way. We love them and still want to be with them. I’m no professional, but my advice is to hold your chin up and try to move on. Something may be up with him but the truth will come out eventually. Just be strong.

Kat

April 28, 2015 at 11:24 pm

My ex broke up with my about two weeks ago. He even texted me to tell me that we should limit our contact with each other. Does that mean its a done deal? I have not spoken to him or anything after our breakup. I am very strong on committing to going to a month, but how does that work when he is the one that initiated that we should “limit” contact?

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May 17, 2015 at 10:48 pm

Kat I’m not sure the reason he broke up with you because you did not state but if you hurt him really bad that can be one of the reason he’s made ev that restriction. Second if he has someone that can be another reason, in this case I don’t think you shoul use 30 nc. Absolutely no ab contact and if you can find out whats going on because if he left you for someone else and decided to come back to you, no you should take him back he would never respect you or be faithful to you.

Rachel

April 26, 2015 at 8:39 pm

My ex-lover and I broke up 5 months ago with no contact for 3. I went to lunch at his family’s house the other day and his father told me he is really looking forward to seeing me. When he did turn up he pushed his cousin out of the way to greet me. I extended my hand and he grabbed it and kissed me on the cheeks. I was shocked and ignored him for the rest of the lunch. He ended up leaving without saying goodbye. I stayed with his family for the Easter weekend. And he was only coming back on the Tuesday. Then I saw a picture of him and his new girlfriend and started crying my eyes out. I told his parents I am crying over another guy that I used to date last year. We never told his family we were together since I have known the family for a long time before we dated briefly. On the Monday during lunch I was told that he got sick and decided to come home earlier. He lives and hour away from his parents. And instead of going to his house he was going to come to his parents with his new girlfriend. I left because I knew I couldn’t face his new girlfriend. Why would he bring the new girlfriend over if he knew it was going to hurt me?

Does he still have feelings for me or am I paranoid? I know I have no right to expect him to stay away from his family. But I would think it was common curt icy not to ex-lover and new girlfriend together. They have been seeing each other for a month now.

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May 17, 2015 at 10:59 pm

It might be hard to distance ev yourself from his family but you have to. Because there’s going to be that one time where you won’t n know if he’s going to bring her and your there ackward moment for you and it will hurt so bad to actually see the ev interactions that youmay say somthing and he will choose his new girl over en you and second there may be that family event your always invited to but did not get invited and that will also hurt third staying that close to his family allows him to think your never moving start dating and do not entertain him if he seem jealous this guy should have made you his wife but he did not he choose to be ev with someone else.

Pheonix

April 20, 2015 at 1:27 am

Hi, my ex boyfriend and i have been seperated for 3yrs , he says he loves me but dont want a relationship our break up was very nasty with physical fights , calling jobs to get fired just a slew of negative things. The past month or more he’s been coming over spending the night just having fun he is also the father of our baby boy. the last time he came over he was drunk ,we started arguing because I tried to wake him of then he went off sayin that he dont date women like me anymore and started bringing up all the things I did when I was hurt or angry in retaliation to hurt him. I cant ever bring up the things that he did to hurt me, its always my fault. So how can we over come past faults and move forward. He was telling me he loved me everyday until that one argument made him say F everything I thought you changed but you didnt , So do men say they love you and not mean it? We were together for 4yrs before we broke up but since the break up we never stopped sleeping together, so what is it he says he love being around me because he can be hisself which I guess he cant with other women he’s dated since the break up.. What is it? What do I need to do for my family.

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May 17, 2015 at 11:06 pm

Move on don’t let him spend the night. Don’t be anybody door mat be strong you can do it. You have be strong for your kids you are their role model you don’t want them to grow up and think that it’s okay for anyone to treat them bad . Pray and ask God to comfort you. Put yourself and kids first God loves you.

Danielle

April 12, 2015 at 11:06 pm

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suzy

April 11, 2015 at 9:36 pm

My boyfriend of 1 year 1 month broke up with me during a fight. I was so angry that I said some hurtful things and he broke up with me. THe next day he asked me to come drop off some stuff and while I tried to get him to change his mind, he was adamant that we were too different and that breaking up now would be in the best interest of both of us. I want to spend the rest of my life with him and it hurts so much to be apart from him. I really want him back. He said he needed time to figure things out and would reach out to me in a month.. It’s almost a month, but I feel like he just said those things so I would stop crying…Do we still have a chance?

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May 17, 2015 at 11:12 pm

Suzy give him some space pray about it and ask God to open his heart to forgive you andhe will hhe’s just trying to hurt you back but if you don’t back off you will mess it up more leave him and he will come around you can’t take back words but in time you can repair the relationship.

Shay

April 9, 2015 at 5:10 pm

Hello, I have been with my guy for 3 years. He was always having unsure thoughts about our relationship and broke it off for the second time. He says that he needs space but is still contacting me everyday. We have a trip coming up in exactly one month that he is still wanting to do. Should I tell him that I’m taking space before our trip or should I just take it without telling him?
Hales

April 7, 2015 at 7:22 pm

Me and my ex broke up 6 weeks ago. He broke up with me after I lost my temper, to which in hindsight, I can understand. I was in a very unstable emotional state at the time and I know I must’ve even hard to be around let alone be in a relationship with. Anyway, we’ve had little contact and what we have had has been me initiating it. The one night we were talking and I practically begged him to come back to me (as embarrassing as that is to admit). A few weeks later I messaged him asking for the truth, I said to him “even if the answer is no, I’d rather know the truth, no matter how much it hurts me, I’ll be able to move on with the truth. Do you still love me” his reply was I don’t think it would be fair to answer that, no matter the answer.

He has occasionally posted status’s on his social media page that is obviously aimed at us, and they have been positive for how he feels. However he just won’t say it to me. We’ve chatted about meeting up to talk, as he feels “it’s the right thing to do”. I don’t want to get there and find that he’s going to tell me to my face that he doesn’t love me anymore. I’d rather hear it through text/message etc. But then I think, could someone be so cruel to do that when they’ve been given that opportunity to be honest already?
tejjy

April 5, 2015 at 11:15 am

Pls I nid a quick advice,I av a ex-boyfrnd nd we didn’t av sex during our relationship but bcoz of smtin dat happen so I gt anoda man,although he love me bt its ntin 2 compare wit my ex’s…me nd my ex-boyfrnd gained admission in2 d same skul,anytym I see him,my heart do beat weneva I c him…ii told him dat I’v had sex wit my current bf nd he felt so sad….nww he’s wantin me back,wot 2 do?

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