How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend V. 2.0

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Sammie

November 27, 2016 at 10:09 pm

I left my ex in back in may, we have a daughter, we were engaged and lived together for 3 years. I thought we would work it out and both improve on things going wrong. In July he starting seeing someone and he hid it from me. We were still talking and being sexual during the breakup. The way I found out about her is she made him call me to tell me she was around. After that I was hurt and said mean things about her, and he tried coming around still and was friendly but I knew she wasnt out of the picture which left me confused. I really want our family back together. The other day I went to pick up my daughter and he grabbed my butt and then called randomly later in the day asking if I wanted to meet her finally. He just sends mixed signals and I think it would best if he left her for his kids.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2016 at 8:17 pm

Hi Sammie,

you have to stop sleeping with him.. If you really want a higher chance of him choosing you, you have to choose yourself first. Continuing to sleep with him is like giving him the benefits without the work will he’s getting more benefits from the other girl.. You can’t control him nor the other girl. You can only control yourself

Ally

November 27, 2016 at 9:10 pm

My boyfriend of 5 years broke up over a year ago now. The last year was long distance and on and off. In the end he dumped me last. At first I begged for him back, but once he said he had no feelings for me, I cut him off cold turkey. He reached out twice and I ignored. I was with someone for about ten months and same with him. He is still with this girl (who has a lot of things in common with me as it turns out). I Just ended up moving to where he lives for career reasons. In the first 24 hours of moving I ran into him and his girlfriend. He and I spoke awkwardly and then he asked to catch up. We have texted and met up twice, (his planning) and have had a really good time!! but it is hard on me, and our texts have had a couple arguments. Also, I realized I am in love with him all over again. So, understandably I feel at a loss. Almost want to move home. He wants to try to heal and incorporate me in as a friend but doesn’t like making his new GF uncomfortable which I understand. But he doesn’t want to be a support to me even tho I know no one in this new city. Anyways, am I really just too late? Or is there a chance? I know he is the love of my life….and I think he does deep deep down too.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 28, 2016 at 8:02 pm

Hi Ally

if you hadn’t bumped into him, how would you have adjusted? And what did you argue about? Does he love his gf? How much did you improve compared to the woman he left?

Emily M

November 25, 2016 at 1:18 am

hi there, so i was in a relationship with this guy for a little over a year, he was my first love and i just absolutly thought things were great. well, unfortunally, he cheated on me. we broke up, i have bought the e book and ive started no contact rule, i didnt know about this until two months after we broke up. i sadly realized that i made some mistakes, i became a gnat, i slept with him after the breakup, and i see him at the bar frequently, he still tells me that he cares about me. but, he now has a new girlfriend. but this girl has known him for 15 years, and he had told me in the past that this girl is someone he cant have but they love each other. should i be worried? they just started dating, two months after we broke up, but we were still hanging out and texting. do i just move on? is she just a rebound maybe? even though he cheated, i still cannot stop loving him and i have forgave him. i just dont know what to do. i have started the nc, im on one week so far. He also was married before he dated me, but while married he proposed to the girl hes dating now over facebook, but hes divorced now obviously, but its the same girl hes gone back to. should i just leave it all alone and move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 27, 2016 at 1:41 pm

Hi Emily,

I don’t think it’s just a rebound if he keeps coming back to her.. Finish nc first.. Do 45 days.. be active in improving yourself. Set aside deciding if you still want to try after the no contact period
EBR Team Member: Amor

November 27, 2016 at 1:41 pm

Hi Emily,

I don’t think it’s just a rebound if he keeps coming back to her.. Finish nc first.. Do 45 days.. be active in improving yourself. Set aside deciding if you still want to try after the no contact period

Gemma

October 29, 2016 at 6:51 am

Hi,
I got my situation is this. A guy and I had flirted a couple months before we ended up dating for another about 2 months. It wasn’t official because he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship although he was really into me. So I decided to end things with him in August 2016. After that I didn’t contact him at all (Unintentionally applied NC rules here). Coincidentally, a month later, we ran into each other because of our mutual friend, so we stated talking again. I tried to keep the conversations light and short because I was still a bit hurt. We hang out for a quick drink once and ran into each other a few more times since then, and one time, he was on a date with a girl. I realized I still like him a lot and wanted to get back with him.
Anyway, last week, he posted on his facebook that he is now in relationship. The funny thing is one that very same day after he posted that he has a new girlfriend, he left a comment on my facebook post that he enjoyed the movie that I just went to see. I only responded a bit to be friendly and polite. I haven’t contact him since. Right now, I feel restless. Do I have a chance of getting him back? What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2016 at 6:12 pm

Hi Gemma,

do you want to try the advice above? aside from that, I think you’re friendzoned..check this one:
EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend

Victoria

October 27, 2016 at 2:43 am

Hi my name is Victoria.
Please someone help me. My boyfriend broke up with me in February in 2016. It has been 8 months since we been together. After he left me he started to date this other girl 3 weeks after and have been together for 7 months. I’ve done the no contact rule for parts of the summer. He has messaged me about two times and send me at least 3 text message. I’m not sure what this all means but no he has put picture collage of the both them on Instagram and on Facebook. I don’t know what else to do. I feel like I’m left alone out here with no help. Do I even have chance? Should I stop having the love in my heart? Plus our anniversary that would have been 4 years together….  I really need some really help here. I’ve watched the videos on YouTube and have done things that helped a bit but not enough to change anything. I want to be like that girl he missed out on like the unforgettable girl you guys talk so much about. I suffer with having low self-steam about myself. I really need your help. I don’t know where else to go or do. Please help me. You guys are my only hope left

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 28, 2016 at 9:18 pm

Hi Victoria,

Be the ungettable girl. Nobody’s stopping you but yourself. You can do it. Don’t play the victim.. Start now, change yourself first because we can only advice. And you already know the answer, you just have to do it.

Racheal

October 26, 2016 at 12:30 am

it’s been about 8 months since the break up and my ex and I still talk and are comfortable with each other. I’ve been trying to get him back for awhile now but now he is with this new girl. He still treats me the same way like back in the relationship and at times have moments of talking of good times in the past. He basically acts caring and loving like we never broke up but when I mention how it would be great if we got back together he said he didn’t feel that way towards me anymore and blocked me ( he unblocked me today btw, didn’t last long). I believe I made my self too available and I still want to be with him. I did the nc rule the first day after the break up…. because of what I just mentioned… do I do it again??? And work at becoming that ungettable girl?? I feel that this is where I’m doing something wrong. He loves my company, we basically see each every other day and go to the gym to talk and hangout; our conversations last for hours. So I’m at the point of saying what do I do? He also informed me that since he is trying to move she is willing to go with him.. (they only been seeing each other for 2 weeks at least)! What am I to do?

Megan

October 28, 2016 at 8:09 pm

can this no contact really work even when he is with his new girl?
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 31, 2016 at 3:42 pm

nope.. there’s no guarantee that it will..
EBR Team Member: Amor

October 27, 2016 at 6:55 pm

Hi Rachael,

Yeah, it looks like you’re too available and you had the wrong expectation.. Well, not that he didn’t make you expect with his actions. If you are going to do the no contact rule this time, make it seem that you’re really moving on.. date others and yes, aim to be the ungettable girl

Sasha

October 23, 2016 at 2:50 pm

I was with my ex for almost 10 years we have a child together, he broke up with me for multiple reasons I was less affectionate towards him my life became more about our child together, I less attractive after having a baby, as he said the spark had gone, it’s been about 6 weeks now we still communicate due to having a child and sharing custody he moved on almost straight away, I didn’t think to read this site when it first happened so yes I pleaded and begged which got me no where then I found this site read the book did as much no contact that I could I started doing me hitting the gym focusing on myself then he msgd me said he misses me blah blah I shouldn’t of gave in but I did we spent the day together as a family again I was so happy to be together again and yes we slept together that night, during the day I assumed from what he was saying that he would end it with the new girl but the following day I asked and he said well it’s not gonna happen overnight and to be positive I was so hurt it felt like I was going through break up again, I left and felt like a idiot I ddnt msg again till bou 3 days later saying no hard feelings let’s be friends and move forward. Since then I feel like he doesn’t trust that I have truely changed and I feel like he doesn’t wanna leave is new gf in the fear of me going back to my old habits I don’t no, I feel like I’m in the emotional clutch zone how do I get out of it , it’s hard cos I can’t fully do NC is their a plan for exes when you have a child together

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 25, 2016 at 11:55 am

Hi Sasha,
it’s also you edge..because you will still see each other eventually..no matter what.. so, dont rush.. change, genuinely..move on and improve.. if he shows signs of wanting you back, dont give in right away..make hin work for you.. if he’s really serious, he’ll leave his gf

Brit

October 23, 2016 at 7:04 am

2.5 months ago, me and ex bf of almost 2 years broke up. NC and now back in touch. He started seeing someone less than 2 months post-breakup. I still have very strong feelings for him so I don’t want his bond with the new girl to grow; it’s like I want to stop it somehow. But at this point, I’m not convinced that my ex and I are compatible and would hate to go back to our old relationship. I’m conflicted. What do I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 24, 2016 at 9:41 pm

Hi Brit,

whether there is another girl or not, if you dont feel compatible, then that different.. that means you’re not that happy with the relationship..

Maria

October 22, 2016 at 3:18 am

Please help me. My ex boyfriend and I were together for 27 months. He is 21 and I am 20 years old. He is still studying in college and I just recently graduated. We encountered a lot of hardships througout our relationship. We support each other, we were bestfriends, we were always happy. We can talk about anything and everything. We were happy and contented. He was very honest though and sweet. Although, my ex has a history of being a ‘playboy’. But during our relationship he was very faithful to me. Until last first week of october. I opened his facebook and I saw that he was talking to his classmate. I got jealous. I asked him who that was he said she’s just a friend. The next day the girl kept on contacting him. Then that evening, he asked the same girl if she’s still on her period. I was shocked. I got furious. Called him but he doesnt want to answer. He kept on sayong that it was just a friend. The next day I decided to end the relationship. He just agreed. So I went to his place and asked hin to take me back again. He said he was confused so I left. After that, he texted and called me, asking me to take him back. I said I need time to think and i told him that I still love him. The next day I was decided to give our relationship a second chance but he said that he wants freedom. I begged and pleaded again but he said that he doesnt feel anything for me at all. A week later, I messaged him on facebook. I asked him if he still loves me, he just said that he doesnt feel anything for me. After 4 days, our common friend told me that she has seen my ex with the same girl. It’s been a week since the last time I contacted him. Is there any chance that he will come back to me? What should I do? Is it possible that he was attracted to that girl already? Has he really moved on? Is it really true that he doesnt have any feeling for me at all?

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 23, 2016 at 11:25 am

Hi Maria,

I answered your first comment..I’m just going to copy paste my answer there here..

Hi Maria,

It can be a grass is greener case with the other girl.. You should start the 30 day no contact rule now.. Start improving yourself and healing.. Read the link below so, that you’ll understand more about the no contact rule.
The Grass is Greener Syndrome For Ex Boyfriends

heartbrokengal

October 14, 2016 at 9:44 pm

my ex broke up with me 3 weeks back.we were in a open relationship.he was dating another girl sincce 6-7 months.He was dating me for last 2 years.While he had stopped meeting me because of guilt of double timing since August we were very much in contact.He used to share all his feelings with me.One fine morning I find him blocking me on whatsapp.When I asked he said though he does not want to lose touch with me ,the girl blocked me from his whatsapp.And he wants to try it out with her so he has agreed for the time being to block me .Ever since that conversation he unfriended me on facebook.Its been 22 days.I have not contacted him neither has he.Is there any chance that he will come back.We were happy for 1.5 years before this girl came and never had any major fight or dsagreement

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 15, 2016 at 4:02 am

Hi Heartbroken gal,

is he in an open relationship with the other girl too or she doesnt like that and she only wants exclusivity? Does she know you and him were in an open relationship? And who’s idea was it to be in an open relationship?

Ashley

October 5, 2016 at 10:35 pm

Hi
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago. Our relationship lasted a year and a half. We were really good together and seemed to really care for each other. I moved for college and as i left it seemed like we were both committed to making it work. A week later he broke up with me out of the blue saying the distance was too hard. Ive been doing no contact for the past 30 days and haven’t heard anything from him. Tomorrow marks the official end of the no contact period so i was planning on reaching out to him. The problem is that i just found out today that he has started dating someone new. Right after the breakup he instantly started talking to other girls and everyone agrees that this new girl is a downgrade from me which leads me to believe that this may just be a rebound. Now i don’t know what to do. I should be reaching out because no contact is over but I feel like doing so when he’s just starting a new relationship isn’t a good idea. I worry that if i reach out now he’ll be too in the honeymoon phase of the new relationship for my text to have any effect on him. At the same time i fear if i wait longer and more time passes then he will have stopped missing me or will have forgotten about me by then. I want to reach out and use the steps in this article but what should i do about it timing wise…continue with the plan and reach out after tomorrow or wait and give him time with this new relationship?? I really want to get him back. Also do you agree that this girl is a rebound? Thanks!

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 7, 2016 at 4:25 pm

Hi Ashley,

yeah, she’s more likely a rebound.. You can still reach out now.. just don’t mention anything about the new girl and just be friendly.

Mia

September 26, 2016 at 12:48 am

So I’ve been following the guidelines of the site, I completed no contact after two weeks because I’d noticed that he’d begun to miss me and thought that I could come out of hiding. It worked! We spoke on the phone and talked about it little bit and he asked if we could try again. I go see him in person, we talk, we makeup, we have sex. I was fearful of having sex with him, because what if that was all he wanted from me? It wasn’t, it was obvious that he didn’t just want sex from me. Alas, we date for a day before he breaks up with me again, fast forward five days later and he has a brand new girlfriend.

FIVE DAYS. FIVE. DAYS. I can’t tell if she’s a rebound or not because he went out of his way to show me that she was his girlfriend. It disgusts me, how can one go a full month of full on depression over a girl they claim to love and then dump her after a day of dumping and then jump into a brand new relationship a few days after? I DONT UNDERSTAND THIS.

Please help me, I love this man dearly, we were very serious for 3 months….his reasoning for breaking up with me? He felt as though I deserved a better man. The reason he broke up with e the second time? He felt like I’d changed and felt bad about how he’d done me all summer. Why he didn’t try and fix things like he said he wanted to do in the first place? I have no idea. I honestly don’t know what to do, I’m not ready to move on, I want him back, and I’m afraid this new random girl is going to steal him from me for good. :^(

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2016 at 11:18 am

HI Mia,

he didn’t actually try to fix things. You saw he missed you and then you jumped the gun and he took that opportunity to sleep with you..
Honestly, you’re chances lowered significantly because you rushed things. He would probably try a booty call again the next time.
If you’re going to try no contact again, I think you should do 45 days and stick to it and then after it, take it as a restart. Do not ask for him back and make him work for you. Act as if you have moved on and just being friendly.

Apple

September 26, 2016 at 12:00 am

My ex and I have been long distance dating (1.5 hours away) for about 5 months with a brief off period at the beginning after a small fight that he blew out of proportion. After NC he eventually contacted me and we both apologized and seemed to create a happy and healthier relationship. We talked on the phone each night and sometimes multiple times in the day- I’d say 90% initiated by him. We also spent most weekends with each other. We discussed a plan for moving in together, also initiated by him, the week before he called and said he wasn’t feeling the feelings he thought he should for me. Naturally I was a little surprised by this. I was happy with where we were and I thought he was too. The breakup was tense, I asked him to explain how he was able to come to this conclusion seemingly in a whim. All he would say is that he didn’t know why, he just knew how he felt. ultimately he thought that he was “broken” by past relationships and that he cared and was attracted to me but he didn’t want to hurt me. I told him I thought that was bogus. So I pretty much went straight into NC because I needed some time to figure things out. During that time he did not contact me either. During the first 3 weeks I wanted him back but felt that I needed to move on considering his feelings and restarted my online dating profile (how we met) but after a week I realized it was too much and I wasn’t quite ready to move on with someone else. After 6 weeks of NC and still wanting him I decided to call him and ask him to meet for coffee since I was going to be in his city for work. When I called it went to his voicemail so I left a generic but chipper message asking him to give me a call back. He called me the next morning but I missed it, so I called him back only to leave another message, which he returned an hour later. At the onset i delivered a pretty happy hi and he did the same, and then I asked “how are you doing?” like I would a friend and he said “Good, I just got out of church with my girlfriend and her parents”. I was crushed that he chose to lead with this and it was clear that he enjoyed saying it to me. I kept my cool and told him that I was glad things were going well for him. I then told him that the reason i called was because I was going to be in town in a couple of days and that I wanted to see if he wanted to meet for coffee, but he said he felt it wasn’t probably appropriate. I said I understood and that my intent was not to interfere with his new relationship. His tone slightly said he understood and that I was reaching out as a friend. He then asked how things were going for me, and I felt that he was heavily implying my dating life. I instead talked about school going well. I then said I should let him go so he could get back to his girlfriend and her parents (I have no idea if he was still with them, he didn’t say but church got out only 5ish minutes before he called) and he said “oh yeah I should probably get back to them”. I then again said I’m glad things are going well for him and he wished me luck on school and we got off the phone both speaking like we are friends. I am not exactly sure where his decision to attempt to hurt me with leading the convo with news of his new girlfriend came from. I never tried to hurt him before our breakup. And to be honest it makes it a little easier to walk away.

I feel like he most likely started dating this girl quickly after our breakup and might explain his abrupt breakup. I see from your articles that it is better to text. Did I blow it from this call? Initially didn’t think to do a text build up because the phone was our predominate way of communicating.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 26, 2016 at 11:03 am

Hi Apple,

Not really. It actually helped you because you found out he has a gf… at least you’re not going to expect much if you decide to build rapport.

bitter

September 24, 2016 at 9:33 pm

My boyfriend and me were dating for 3 month. We met through work and it has gone too far one night… After we made out that night I ignored him for about some days because it was too fast for me. When we got in touch again, I told him about this, but in the end of the night he didnt respect my wishes and started a relationship… I was so happy to be there, I didnt knew it any better because I was innocent. Well, as the work stressed both out and the relationship became rocky the first time he cut loose. After that he did some half-hearted movements towards to be with me but I expected from him that he tells me that he wants to be with me. We never spoke since NC after the breakup. He also told me in the relationship that he never had one before and had many woman so is there any help for him (and me)?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 25, 2016 at 10:16 am

HI Bitter,

sorry I don’t understand. Correct me if I’m wrong, you were just dating each other for 3 months, nothing official and then he asked to be official after the kiss incident. But then later on, he pulled back and broke up with you? So, when was the break up?

Anna

September 22, 2016 at 4:10 pm

Hi, I’m just gonna tell my story. My ex and I are both 21. At the end of 2013, my ex and I got together via mutual friends. We were together until our one year anniversary when he told me he needed a break. I was confused but I granted him his break. Three weeks later we reconciled and everything was good again or so it seemed until one evening when he told me he needed to break up because his feelings for me weren’t strong enough. Let’s just say I really really really found myself in a desperate place and I made the mistake of begging him to get back with me. I even had to start psychotherapy etc. I got to a point where he’d phone me every now and then just to check if I’d have gotten worse. We both realized that this was not a good way to stay friends – a thing we ultimately both wanted. So I had to get myself together and start the NC phase. It was very difficult but I pulled through even though I sometimes panicked over whether he had found someone new or not. I could cope by texting his dad who I could talk to about anything whenever I wanted. He promised me he would tell me when my ex had found someone new. So I didn’t have any contact with my ex except for the occasional “Merry Christmas” text message. Then his birthday came by (the end of June, 2016) and I wished him a happy birthday and tentatively asked him if it was okay for him to be friends as in us asking each other how we were doing, just casual stuff. He agreed and said yes because he missed being friends with me. All good and well. We didn’t text each other regularly though. So my birthday came along (29th of August). I had this party planned with all of my good friends and thought hey why shouldn’t I invite my ex we’re getting along really well. No one has feelings for each other so there could be a chance he’d say yes. I asked him and at first he said he’d need to check and when I asked him again on the day of my birthday party he said it would be strange for him to see all of my old friends again (some of them we were both friends with). I was sad but I could understand his side. So I chose to be honest and told him I really don’t want us to see each other never again and that if he missed me surely he felt the same. He said yes I do want to see you again at some point but I’m afraid that if our friendship doesn’t work out for some reason that I’ll be in the same really bad place I used to be in a couple months ago after our friendship. I said no I’m really not that sad anymore I’m stronger but then I also said let’s just see what time brings and said bye. But before that he’d also say that he’s afraid he’ll have to think of our “wild nights” together (he meant when he were together and had sex) and that every now and then he had to think of how it would be if we had sex again. I didn’t catch up on that initially but later that day I asked him if he’d really thought of that more than once and he said yes. I struck up a casual conversation about how he was doing and what he was doing and he responded normally up until the point where he said “he wished I was at his side instead*embarrassed monkey emoji*” so we fell into flirting with each other. It was fun. Two days later we texted again and flirted again and then we agreed that we could try being friends with benefits since no one’s heart was invested too much. We just didn’t want to tell our parents because of the difficult period I was in a couple months earlier. So he came by the next weekend and we’d talk and then we’d kiss and then we’d have sex. No feelings were involved it was very much like us telling each other what to do to make it “better”. After that he’d say sometimes he’d think being FWB is a very good idea and sometimes he’d think it wasn’t. Still we’d agree that when we had time again we’d meet up again because we had a lot of fun. He also told me that he missed being friends with me again and that he had also missed the sex with me because it had been one of a kind. That was nice. Yet we didn’t meet up for the next couple days but we’d text each other asking how we were doing. Then this past Monday I asked him if we could meet up again because I wanted to have some fun. He responded by saying he’s busy now but we can talk tomorrow. Well on Tuesday I asked again and then he’d say “I’ve met a girl….we’re virtually together now.” BOOM. It didn’t hit me that much that he was together with another girl (I do admit I’m a tiny bit jealous because for the past one and a half years he didn’t have someone else) but more because it happened so suddenly and mostly because he said he doesn’t want us to have contact for the next couple months because he doesn’t want to hurt his new girl’s feelings. On the one hand I could totally understand because I would probably feel the same if I was in her shoes but then I felt hurt too because in the past three weeks we’d been really good friends again (minus the part where we had sex) and that’s everything I had always wanted after our breakup. Well we both agreed on not communicating for the next couple months and that maybe after that we could still be friends. So now I find myself in this situation where I’m a) jealous of him having found love again (something I’m still waiting for), b) jealous of her because she’s a super tall model (I’m tall too but not blonde and no model) and I’m afraid he’ll love her more than he ever loved me despite him saying just a couple weeks ago how we’d been something special and c) confused because I thought he really meant it when he said he missed being friends with me and d) also confused because I didn’t think a new relationship would signal the end to our new relationship. I did think we’d both find someone else eventually but his friendship is really that important to me that I don’t want to give it up forever especially seeing how hard I’ve worked on becoming friends again.

So now I don’t really want to get him back romantically, I want to get him back as one of my friends seeing how much we have missed or claim to have missed a friendship. I mean if some day we’d get together that wouldn’t be that bad but actually I really just want to be friends again. Do you think he’ll still want to be friends in a couple months? I don’t want to be disrespectful to any future girlfriend or to the one he might still have by then. Do you think he really meant what he said when he said he missed our friendship? What should I do so that we can both be friends again?? I really don’t want to lose him again. He’s that important to me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 23, 2016 at 3:25 pm

Hi Anna,

Be honest with yourself. It was only sex for him but for you it wasn’t. If there was no feelings, you wouldn’t be jealous. You’ll just move on like nothing happened. You’re hoping that this friendship can somehow progress to being in a relationship again. You wouldn’t worry too much about him being out of your life if there is no feelings involved.
I’m not saying it’s bad. But you have to be clear with yourself. But it’s good that you don’t want to cause any trouble with his current girlfriend. If it’s just really being friends, just be distant, let him enjoy his time with his girlfriend. Move on with your life and when you have, it would be more natural to start over as friends again.

Mali

September 12, 2016 at 9:04 am

Hi!, Thank god that I found your content.

In my situation, we lived together for 1.5 year before break up 3-4 weeks, I have sensed something wrong with him and a new trainee girl at his department. finally he broke me up with he said “he loves me, but I’m not the right one”. now is already 5 month past. and I still miss him.

Before that I tried to get him back by begging, crying a lot, even trying to be his best friend but is not working at all, and just realized that I very stupid things ever!!! Then I found law of attraction, then I changed to love myself more and more, i think more in positive way but i still want him back.

Until I found “Law of attraction to get ex back” and it lead way to your site.

If any comment can bring him back to me again, I will thankful to you all here, your comment your content, your work hard to help any woman to get their lover back again.

I feel some hope here..please with me luck

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 13, 2016 at 7:20 pm

Hi Mali,

First, we can’t assure you, our comments can’t assure you that he will come back. We can only help to increase the chances.

Second, I believe in law attraction too! But I don’t believe that it will work on using it alone. Because there’s this idea with law of attraction that if you just kept thinking about something it will happen. For example, thinking about wealth, without working hard, servicing more people, and being wise with handling and making money, won’t make you rich. The thought, should be motivation for action. The thought can’t work alone. If that’s case, the thought would remain a dream and not a reality.

I mean it’s good that you love yourself but what do you mean by that? Did you partner it with actions? Are you more emotionally independent now? Did you improve yourself in health, wealth and relationship with friends and family? Did you meet and make new friends? Are you confident? If he sees you now, would he think you have improved and that you have moved on? If yes, that’s very good! The next step, is taking it slow with him.

If he still has a girlfriend, you have to be careful on talking with him because if he senses that you’re talking to him to get him back, he will avoid you to protect his current relationship.

Review the advice above and watch this one too:
What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Moves On To A New Girl (Video)

Anne

September 10, 2016 at 4:21 pm

My ex left me for another girl after we dated for two years. He didn’t even really break up with me. He asked me to give him some space because he was feeling depressed. He does have depression but has never sought help for it. When I asked if he was breaking up with me and wanted his stuff back, he said no, that he would get better. Then, a week later, he had changed his relationship status on Facebook to “in a relationship” with this new girl. We had never changed our status, just agreed to take off the “single” part. We aren’t friends on any social media anymore. She’s eight years younger than the two of us who are the same age. I let him go because I wanted him to be happy. I don’t reach out to him or hear anything from him for six months. Out of the blue, he texts me, missing me. He’s having another depressive episode. He’s still with his new girl but we ended up sleeping together one time. I know that having sex hurt my chances but like so many others, I didn’t mean for it to happen. He told me he was going to leave her. After talking every day for a month, he stopped bringing up leaving her. He still flirted with me, complimented me and wanted my approval on his new haircut and new shirt, etc. I felt like I had been friend zoned or that he was using me as a backup plan in case this new girl doesn’t work out. A few days ago, I told him I couldn’t be just friends with him right now and needed space to sort myself out. He hasn’t contacted me since. Is going back into no contact the right decision?

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 12, 2016 at 9:11 am

Hi Anne,

for me yes. If he is really serious with you, he has to make things right

Tori

September 7, 2016 at 9:48 pm

Hi Chris,
I’m in a very different situation. My ex boyfriend and I were in a 3 year relationship but, when it came to when we were together for 2 years I became pregnant and both him and I decided abortion was what needed to be done with me being only 19 and him only being 17. After we went through that he ended up breaking up with me. We did not do the no contact rule then, and he ended up wanting me back. The thing is he broke up with me again after that and this happened 3 times but, all the times he kept coming back to me. After we became like “friends with benefits”, because we both still were saying I love you to each other. But, most recently last week to be more exact him and I were intimate. A week went by and he texted me and told me he is with someone else now and he has moved on and I should too. He went on to tell me that he only loves me as a friend and wont hurt someone else because of me. He also told me that I’m not an option anymore after everything and that he doesn’t see himself with me ever again. The thing is I feel like his new relationship is somewhat a rebound because he works with her and started dating her a week later after him and I were intimate. I thought he was one he has been the one I wanted to marry later on in life. We see each as best friends but, at the same time I feel like he used me. He told me the reason he wont be with me ever again is because of the abortion. But, since he kept coming back to me in the past should I think there’s still hope for us? I’m beyond heart broken and he seems totally fine I am at a loss of what to do. Do I have a chance of getting him back after all him and I went through, and even though he has a new girlfriend and says he doesn’t see himself with me again? Please help me

EBR Team Member: Amor

September 9, 2016 at 9:27 am

Hi Tori,

there is a chance that he wil get back because you’re on and off but I think his consciousness can’t take the abortion and then being with you reminds of that event..

For me, if you’re going to try no contact rule, do 45 days but keep in mind that the healing will take longer than that’ It’s just to help you both heal and have a restart. The girl might be a grass is greener case. So, while healing, improve yourself too.

hope

August 29, 2016 at 3:45 am

hi! i just stumbled across this website and i’m super ready to check everything out, but here’s my situation. this guy, bryce, and i dated our sophomore year. he told me he was in love with me and then i broke up with him because i wasn’t ready. after not talking the whole summer, we slowly became friends again. then, our junior year, we dated again and we broke up after a few months because he thought i had cheated on him when i left the country (which i didn’t). he’s been dating another girl for about seven or eight months, and i thought i was okay with until until this year when i was forced to be around him since we have a lot of our classes together. do you think there’s any hope at all at winning him back? or should i just play it cool still? my current plan is some anonymous jester that he may associate with me, like leaving a mixtape in his car or something. please help!

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 8:30 pm

Hi Hope,

hmm and when he finds out that it’s from you,what happens? Would he be happy or would he go on protective mode for his current relationship?

Hmm.. what do you think about Chris’ gameplan above?

Angel

August 25, 2016 at 7:09 pm

I also forgot to mention after our disagreement back in mid march or April we stopped talking for a little bit until we ran into each other back at the end of May beginning of June, and after that he started texting me again quite often, and he had always since the break-up stayed in contact with my dad and my brother at times, but since he started texting me back at the beginning of June I kinda pushed it a little too far and asked him to hang out a little too soon and he turned me down in a very nice way “saying sooty but I don’t think it’s a good idea” and I said okay and didn’t push the idea, after that I started the no contact and that’s when I found out he had this new GF I just messages about, and then the bday thing happened and then I started the no contact again all over. It’s almost been a month since the no contact and I’m gonna do it for at LEAST one or two more month’s as I said before we share the same friends, and those friends asked me how I feel about him with this new older women, and all I’ve said is ” if that’s what he wants and she makes him happy then I am happy for him”

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