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1,117 thoughts on “How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend -Version 2.0-”

  1. Ri

    December 9, 2013 at 8:57 pm

    Hey Chris! I has commented on no contact with my ex and I. Basically as a recap, we dated for five months things were good but my mlm somewhat interfered and showed up to his job and told him so untrue things and that freaked him out. He also has a very interesting perception of lying and said I was doing that too even though some of the lies were very irrelevant such as I told him my best friend bought me a pair for shoes for my birthday when actually I did because I didn’t want to appear silly buying my own gift that he actually got me. Anyway we broke up on oct 31 and I’ve been in no contact for 34 days now because last Tuesday my best friends confessed to me that they have been “seeing” each other for the last 2-3 weeks so they started two weeks after our breakup. The thing is Chris, he’s said very rude things about her and her body not only to me but other friends of ours over the months so it doesn’t make sense that they’re together she doesn’t even know what they are because they haven’t talked about the relationship but she likes him. I’ve read the book already. Is she a rebound? Should I give up because I’m livid at my best friend but I still love him. Not sure the right course of action. Should I contine NC?

    1. admin

      December 10, 2013 at 6:42 pm

      Have you by any chance checked out my page on rebound relationships?

    2. Ri

      December 10, 2013 at 9:08 pm

      I have checked out the rebound page. Read it 3 or 4 times already haha. I’m more than certain it’s a rebound. Should I continue no contact for now? I haven’t confronted him about it since I found out because I know he’s trying to get a rise out of me

    3. Ri

      December 13, 2013 at 4:05 am

      Sorry your message didn’t post. Shall I contine no contact?

    4. admin

      December 13, 2013 at 7:31 pm


  2. Kuulei

    December 9, 2013 at 5:14 pm

    What if his “new” girlfriend is his ex-girlfriend?

    1. admin

      December 9, 2013 at 7:54 pm

      I still think the rules can apply. Did he date the ex girlfriend longer than you?

    2. Kuulei

      December 10, 2013 at 5:30 am

      I think he was with her for 4-5 years.
      And we we together for just about 4-5 years as well!
      His family and friends do not think she’s good for him as she’s really rough around the edges. His sister and her family really like me as do most of his friends.

    3. admin

      December 10, 2013 at 7:14 pm

      Wow so its pretty even.

      Did they have a bad breakup? Was your breakup with him considered bad?

    4. Kuulei

      December 13, 2013 at 7:07 am

      He put a TRO (temporary restraining order) on her when he broke up with her. She has anger management issues and threatened him before.
      He broke up with me because I confronted him about seeing her…I was pretty emotional and upset – and told his sister he was seeing the ex. The sister and brother-in-law have a no trespassing injunction on the ex GF.
      What does he see in her?

    5. admin

      December 13, 2013 at 7:37 pm

      I think HE has some issues. Are you sure you want this guy?

    6. Kuulei

      December 15, 2013 at 6:49 am

      I can’t stop thinking about being with him. I really think he’s the One. We had so many plans on collaborating on really cool projects. Anyway we have been apart about a year but started slowly communicating via LinkedIn, email, texts about 6 months ago… giving each other kudos on each other’s accomplishments – we are both creative people in culture & arts.
      He gave me wonderful gifts for my birthday last month. My friends think he’s opening the door for more. I don’t know… as I think he’s still hanging out with the ex GF.
      I’m not sitting around waiting – I go out with friends to cool events, have a job I love, workout, teach Yoga, spend time with my Dad – becoming the UG girl but but I still feel him in my heart and mind! When I see him I’m always on my best behavior and look the best that I can. He’s said I look great.
      What else can I do?

    7. admin

      December 15, 2013 at 7:42 pm

      I have a new product coming out that may be really helpful.

    8. Kuulei

      December 17, 2013 at 6:12 am

      Well… what is it and how much does it cost?

    9. admin

      December 17, 2013 at 6:55 pm

      Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO!

      I talk a lot about it on the site.

  3. Kelly

    December 9, 2013 at 5:10 pm

    Damn! I did everything right, she actually accused me of a crime (that I did not commit) and she’s still golden and he’s furious woth me because he overheard a phone call between my lawyer and me! She’s a cop, I wasn’t about to let that go without legal council and yet I’m the bad guy for bad mouthing his doxy (he doesn’t know I call her that) to ‘everybody! Any tips? Any errors?

    1. admin

      December 9, 2013 at 7:55 pm

      Yes that is so messed up. That’s almost like an abuse of power if she accused you of a crime. It’s sad to see there are people out there like that.

  4. Anonymous

    December 9, 2013 at 3:28 pm

    Hi thank-you writing this post,
    I just want to know if I should carry on. I text him 2 weeks ago and got a reply then a week later he text me asking how I was. Then I text him few days later and got a reply. It’s now been over a week and haven’t heard anything. I’ve been on a few dates with someone recently and I’m sure he’s heard. I know the two of them argue a lot. But I’m sure they are still happy with each other as they spend time together. He wants to see her all the time. They got together a month after our breakup and have been dating for about 5 months. Should I bother texting him or let it go?


  5. Liz

    December 9, 2013 at 2:28 pm

    This is probably a stupid question but is there a point to even trying to win him back? Right when I start thinking positively I have my dad constantly giving advice. He says that a man who truly loves a woman will do anything for her and do anything to keep her. He said no matter whether a man is being used, abused or neglected, if he loves that woman he will chase her until the ends of the earth and do anything to prevent her from being with another man. So he says that since I was dumped, it meant he never cared about me and everything he said about marrying me was a lie and he just wants to date other women and used the low self-esteem based fights as an excuse to break up. How much truth is there in my dad’s advice?

    1. admin

      December 9, 2013 at 8:00 pm

      Only you can decide that. If you aren’t into it any more then I would recommend trying to move on.

      Not sure your dad is right about him not caring but there may be some truth into the wanting to see other women. Hopefully you set the bar so high though that the other women won’t fulfill him like you did.

    2. Liz

      December 10, 2013 at 12:03 am

      I honestly believe he’s the man I want to be with. I’m 25 and I’ve only ever been in 2 relationships. The first one was 8 years. Then I met my ex (the one I want back) and we were friends at first and eventually I fell in love with him and broke up my 8 year relationship. My current ex chased me for an entire year. He used to tell me how unbelievably happy he was and for the first time he could see himself getting married. He said I was perfect and we were happy when finally together. But my guilt for leaving my first relationship the way I did made me hate myself. And eventually I guess I changed. I became emotionally dependent and fearful of losing my boyfriend. Then I became jealous and the fights started. He would say he thought I was perfect and I still made him happy but that I had changed. That when he met me I was confident and happier and trusting. Despite all the fights, even if they were really bad, have I messed it up beyond repair? If he really did just want to date other women why was he always talking about marriage? I never would because I didn’t want to jinx anything but he had an entire plan of our future lives up until 5 years into the future. What hurts is that when we were friends he would listen to me and I told him about all the hurt in my life and how it’s hard for me to trust men and I told him flat out all of my fears and what my first boyfriend did to me. I stayed in that relationship despite the things he did to me in the beginning and that’s what made me not trust a man that’s with me but I took the leap with my current ex.

      I’m working on learning to like myself but I’m terrified of facing him and finding out that he did just want to date other women. I feel like it would destroy me. How do you get over something like this when all your life, it’s like you’ve never been good enough..?

    3. admin

      December 10, 2013 at 6:59 pm

      Take things one step at a time.

      Your paradigm needs to completely shift though.

      Your not good enough? PSHHH HE’S NOT GOOD ENOUGH!

    4. Liz

      December 10, 2013 at 10:52 pm

      Lol. I guess I should be looking at it that way. I think it’s just that all this time has me seeing me everything that happened and what I could’ve done better. It sucks that it’s taken me losing him to finally see what he’d been trying to say all this time. I’m learning this too late.

    5. admin

      December 12, 2013 at 1:27 am

      Its unfortunate but look at it like this, at least now you know and you have that valuable knolwedge.

  6. RL

    December 9, 2013 at 12:44 pm

    We broke up in march. It was really hard for both of us. It was our second breakup. He said he missed me so much but doesn’t want to give our relationship another chance because he was afraid of being hurt again. We had contact until september. Our conversations were always about how we missed and loved each other. He moved to another city so we only texted. Suddenly he told me that he had a new gf. He said that he doesn’t love her because he doesn’t want to get hurt. She’s an exchange student from Denmark so she will leave in June. They know each other for a long time so I don’t’ know if she’s a rebound. What do you think? I did NC for 30 days and texted him. I got a positive response but afterwards he ignored me (I was no text gnat, I promise 😉 ) Should I leave him alone for a while or just slowly rying to get him more involved in the conversation?

    1. admin

      December 9, 2013 at 7:51 pm

      Leave him alone for a while.

    2. RL

      December 11, 2013 at 6:13 pm

      Is a week enough? She’s now in Denmark for a couple of days so he’s not with her.

    3. admin

      December 12, 2013 at 1:58 am

      I think it will be.

    4. RL

      December 12, 2013 at 11:10 am

      She’s already back… You’re so right about “the fear of other women” haha! I wish I could just message him without being afraid that she’s around.

    5. RL

      December 15, 2013 at 5:18 pm

      Hmm. He ignored me for the second time. Really frustrating. It would be easier if he just told me to leave him alone. Aaargh 🙂

  7. anonymous

    December 9, 2013 at 3:16 am

    Hello chris! How are you? Gosh. Its me again. Cant help feeling that i’m all over most of your guides!

    Anyway. Quick summary for my case. Me and my ex called it off in april. We did keep in touch up till sept. He started dating other ladies since april i think? up till now. I had no idea abt NC back then so i only initiated NC in the mth of oct (when i came across your site!)

    So nov was the end of NC. I made mistakes by being a text and call gnat when he told me he was seriously dating other ladies. I’ve no evidence that he indeed has a new serious gf except frm his words.

    Does dating other few ladies constitute as a new gf? I dont see any photos of “new ladies” in his facebook. His family members say he is single but has lady friends though. Seems like i was the last he was most serious with. My photos were all over his facebook when we were together. He only took them down in mid sept.

    Anyway. Since after NC, Mid of nov, he says he feels we have a chance to reconcile. But since he told me abt him with other ladies, i went a bit of a gnat on him 🙁 and he since then he Said he no longer has feelings for me, and no chance of reconcile.

    But i have since lay off for abt 2wks since dec. Slowly texting him again. Sometimes he replied positively, sometimes he doesn reply. Do you think i have a chance? Wondering what is going through his head now.

    In the first place can i consider him as having a new gf? He’s been secretive abt it. I only heard frm him that he’s seriously dating someone, but he claims he’s not attached and not in love. Pardon me for being dense, but whatever does that mean? Why say you’re dating someone seriously. But you’re not attached and not in love? Shouldn dating someone seriously means you’re attached? No?

    so basically i have no idea who this mystery lady is and how long he has been dating her. And what do you propose i text him now? I think i’ve covered most of the texts in your ebook alrdy.

    1. admin

      December 9, 2013 at 6:58 am

      If he has been secretive about the new girlfriend it means he is afraid of your reaction to finding out..

    2. anonymous

      December 9, 2013 at 7:07 am

      But what can i do now? 🙁

  8. Cleo

    December 9, 2013 at 1:44 am

    My ex bf left me 2 months ago because he thought we weren’t going anywhere and everything was against us, and he wasn’t really happy. We’be been together for 3 years and 4 months. After begging and saying things I shouldn’t, I started NC. After 25 days of NC he called me. I made the mistake of aswer his call. He wanted to know how I was and he told me he miss the conversations we had. And he said he miss me, but not in a romantic way. He want us to be friends. After that he told me he was dating a 34 years old woman (we’re both 21 so this woman is 13 years older). He said it wasn’t really serious but they already had sex.
    I told him to please do not contact me again. That I wish him the best with her but that I don’t want to be his friend and the fact that he was with someone hurted me. This was yesterday. I’m starting NC today for the second time. I know I made a mistake by showing him that his new “relationship” affected me but do you think that making NC will help me to get him back or maybe I shouldn’t have hope anymore?
    (I’m sorry for my bad english, my first language is spanish).

    1. admin

      December 9, 2013 at 6:58 am

      Do you have any idea how long he has been dating this woman for?

    2. Cleo

      December 9, 2013 at 2:29 pm

      He told me that 3 weeks. I don’t know if it’s true.

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