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732 thoughts on “This Is How Long It Will Take To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

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    Leslie

    December 29, 2013 at 2:26 am

    Ok so my boyfriend and I just broke up. I kind of acted emotional when he told me he had feelings for someone else. Hence he is now in a rebound relationship. We were together five months. It was all good. But working more and not being able to see eachother as much took a tool. Not a fight just missing eachother so he broke up with me once over this and twice because of the same issue with rebound situation second time around. What I like about this article is that I wish the first time I would have just let him break up with me. and did no contact it seems as though we rush. When he breaks up he still wants to be my friend when we do this we aren’t really “friends”.
    So this time around he suggested we break up and be friends. I put my foot down about the friend thing saying I can’t so then he said that was it then but then said we shouldn’t talk atleast not right now. I wish I wouoldn’t have gotten so emotional that day. But I did and kind of texted him a few times which is why I finally just decided to agree with him. My question is I feel like he doesn’t know what he wants to do with this “rebound” because he still wanted to be friends and usually when we are “friends” we talk things out and get back together. I feel like if I wait things out and follow your guides our odds would be better. Getting back together too quickly wont work. I know that right now because there is distance and he is working a lot his needs only sexually get met once a week why by me but when we have more time we see eachother 3-4 times a week. This second job he has is keeping it to where we can’t see eachother as much which is why I feel like he wanted to be friends and refused to talk to me about why he wanted to break up until he blurted that he has feelings for someone else.

    So I want to start my no contact?
    What should I do if he contacts me?
    I don’t want to get back together right away when we do that we our broken up again. We were pretty serious to so I know our relationship wasn’t just for fun. Especially since we talked all the time and saw eachother a lot but then that faded when he got this second seasonol temporary job.

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      admin

      December 29, 2013 at 6:57 pm

      Yes just go ahead and start it and if he contacts you do not respond.

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      Leslie

      December 30, 2013 at 12:22 am

      ok perfect! I survived my first day. I read your rebound article and you said the longer your relationship the better the chance for you to get better. We weren’t a year but we were five months with happy memories.
      Do you think there is still a chance?

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      admin

      December 30, 2013 at 8:23 pm

      Of course!

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      Lisa

      December 29, 2013 at 7:24 pm

      thank you : )
      What types of texts should I send after thirty days. The ones you suggest in getting him back if he is dating or the ones you suggest in getting him to call?

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      admin

      December 30, 2013 at 8:11 pm

      Send texts that get him to call.

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      Lisa

      December 31, 2013 at 11:15 pm

      Thank you, your material is helping me out so much! What would be a good example of one to start with after my 30 days?

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    Waiting

    December 27, 2013 at 7:38 pm

    My ex bf broke up with me 4.5 months ago because of financial reasons- he was feeling down on himself for being unemployed and was in the process of losing his house. He told me how glad he was that I felt so strongly for him and that he felt the same, but hadn’t been himself since looking for a job- that I was an amazing gf etc. I didn’t argue when we broke up, cried a little and told him I loved him, but respected his decision and said I wouldn’t bother him. He emailed me saying how much he cared etc but wasn’t himself. Went back and forth a couple of times (nothing mean or begging, just me saying I don’t care about the material things etc). He texted a few times and i told him I couldn’t do the small talk right now- then he said he assumed i was already with someone else. I sent a succinct text stating that he is the one I want and he chose to be apart- he said he understood. Did NC for a month, now we text occasionally for holiday season but I try to respond so he knows I still will talk to him, but only 5 or 6 texts back and forth, and I usually leave him as the last to text. When he says things about me probably having someone else- I kind of ignore it- because I can’t keep explaining that I want him- and he broke it off so if he wants me he should try. I just don’t want to go back and forth over and over, because I have told him that I care- but at the same time, i don’t want to appear to be cold or uncaring. I feel that as more time goes by, there is less and less chance that we’ll be together. I feel like i should be more proactive, but I don’t think much will change until he has his financial life back on track. Do I just wait it out? He hasn’t mentioned meeting up, and it’s deprssing when other people are in knock out drag down fights and still meet up- and our relationship was fine.

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      admin

      December 28, 2013 at 7:05 pm

      For now, yes just wait it out.

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    Erin

    December 25, 2013 at 5:37 pm

    Hi Chris—This goes along with your medium time frame negatives/friendzone/and seeing someone else. My Ex boyfriend of a year just broke up about 3 months ago. During the breakup time I did everything to try and get him back. Including multiple times of going NC. We went NC and then he said he wanted to try to work things out with me. He then put me in the friend zone and I said I didn’t want to have any contact with him. This set him into hating me because I kept him from our mutual friends and from seeing me “a person he says he has unconditional love for.” We both love each other, but are not “in love” with each other at the moment because of all the resentment and hurt we have gone through. Because I did not want him to hate me I decided to break the NC after two and said I dont care anymore. That I dont want a relationship with him right now and that I want to just take things as they are. If we want to speak to each other or see each other than there should be no issue with this. Well upon telling him this he admitted that he has been seeing someone. She is the exact opposite of me. She has a kid and doesn’t want him to be around the kid unless they are in a relationship type thing. Hes expressed that he likes her, but he insists that its different. He says that our bond is more emotional and romantic when we *cough “bond.” But he insists he does not want to be with me but wants to remain in contact, which I agreed upon. Every time we went into NC it would make the situation worse—he would pull away from me even more. He asked if he could bring her to our friends New Years Eve party. I responded by saying I wouldn’t mind and that I would like to meet her. I get the feeling that this a rebound but he’s not one to say he likes girls that often. When he says he likes them than that definately means something. Then again he doesn’t want to let me go either in a way. I just don’t know how to approach the situation. I’m extremely hurt and my heart sank when he told me this connection he has made. But hes one of those guys that you mentioned in one of your articles that constantly needs to be with someone. Doesn’t take time to heal or get over a relationship. Another thing is that when I mentioned how much he hurt me he cried and hugged me and held me and said I didn’t want to hurt you. And then proceeded by saying I love you and kissing me on the forehead. What is a brokenhearted and confused girl to do? FYI we talk very openly and honestly with each other and he likes to text me quite a bit. Not sure how much he’ll be texting me now. Now that he has another girl in his life.

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      admin

      December 26, 2013 at 6:09 pm

      It really hurts.

      I understand that.

      I guess right now you have to start re-evaluating things with him.

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    Renee

    December 24, 2013 at 10:25 pm

    So, I’ve been on this site just reading the posts made by other women and your advice to them and was wondering a little bit myself! The guy I was dating for almost 3 months, he and I got into an argument called me “too impatient ” and then decided he didn’t wanna talk to me. It’s silly because the reasons we decided to break up was a little of us both. I feel he doesn’t really think about my feelings sometimes for example: one night we were supposed to see each other and he doesn’t even bother to call and let me know he’s not going so after 2 hours I finally text him and say “so?”. He then gets back to me saying “I’m sorry I’m not going to see you because my son is sick”. Now this guy has 3 kids I’ve only met them once because we were just getting around to the meeting stage. So I asked him why didn’t he just text me and tell me that? He goes ” well when your son is not breathing right and I’ve already been stressed out bout my daughter leaving for the holidays the person you’re seeing is not your first priority”!
    I was blown away specifically because he thought that 1 I wanted him to neglect his kids and 2 because all I was asking for was for him to just text me and let me know when he wasn’t going to make it for a date! The next day he apologizes and says he was sorry and that he knows he has to communicate better and be more thoughtful of my feelings, then I spoke to him about moving things more out of the point where we are staying low key because of the kids not knowing me and him not knowing me and to start slowly integrating me into his life! He sometimes goes around my questions with no answers or the ones he wants to give. The sad part is we’ve argued like this before and well every time he gets upset he wants to leave or stop talking to me! This just happened like 3 days ago now and once he got frustrated again I just left him alone! I know I have been impatient like he says but he refuses to believe that any of this stuff that is inconsiderate is his fault! So my question is do you think that maybe he and I decided gone together too fast and it doomed the relationship? We have a small problem is it even worth fixing? For some reason I believe the only reason he hasn’t contacted me is because 1 he’s mad, and 2 he feels as if he’s right and his pride is what’s holding him back. I live right now the street from him and he goes to the same gym as me so we may see each other again… Since it’s only been about 3 months should I just let him go? Obviously it really hasn’t been too long since we started dating… Should I be having these issues this early? I know I’m impatient and that is what the issue is for him but I dunno if I should say I was wrong and just apologize or just walk away for good!

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      admin

      December 26, 2013 at 5:43 pm

      Going too fast can be tough sometimes.

      I guess the question you need to ask yourself is how much you really want him back?

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      Renee

      January 10, 2014 at 7:54 am

      What do I do? If I actually do decided I want to pursue this… He tells me now that he is in a bad space right now and gives me no clear answer if he wanted to be with me or leave him alone! So I decided not to bug him anymore… What should I do?

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      Renee

      January 4, 2014 at 4:48 am

      I want to talk with him however, I ask him openly about his past and those are memories he really doesn’t like to talk much about. I have a weird feeling like he still maybe in love with his ex but I’m not certain even though he says he’s not. For some reason though it feels like there’s some kind of resistance from him, like he’s holding himself back so he doesn’t have to be close to me! What should I do? By the way I’m not sure if things moved too fast we’ve been seeing each other for almost 3 months and we decided to be exclusive but for some reason I’m not sure that I’m wrong for wanting what I’m wanting which is just open lines of communication and consideration.. He has 3 kids and one is by the ex whom he was in love with so I’m not sure on how to approach the topic!

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    Jess

    December 22, 2013 at 4:29 pm

    I got my boyfriend back for the second time during the medium timeline. He ended our year long relationship 2.5 weeks ago. I did no contact, and he broke it 2 weeks to the day that we broke up, wishing me a Merry Christmas and telling me that he thinks about me. I’m doing no contact again, until he reaches out. Do you think theres a chance for us again, or is a third time a little unrealistic? I realized when we got back together, we didn’t work on ourselves, and that impacted the relationship, as we basically started right where we left off.

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      admin

      December 22, 2013 at 8:04 pm

      Do you want him back again?

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      Jess

      December 23, 2013 at 2:52 am

      I do, but I’m unsure of how to proceed, as it would be the third time. Ive read your entire site, and I’ve found the information to be very useful. However, how do I proceed if it’s the third time? I would preferably like to get him back before he starts to date, which I fear will be within the next few months.

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      admin

      December 23, 2013 at 8:16 pm

      Patience is key here.

      Sorry I kind of lost my bearings. When you say “thrid time” do you mean this is the third breakup or the third attempt at NC?

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      Jess

      December 23, 2013 at 10:22 pm

      It would be our third relationship. We dated twice before.

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      admin

      December 24, 2013 at 6:58 pm

      I think your chances would be slightly lowered BUT that doesn’t mean that your chances are completely gone.

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      Jess

      December 26, 2013 at 2:25 am

      How would I go about it then? I know what I personally need to work on to better myself and the relationship. I did 2 weeks of no contact (from the day we broke up, to when he messaged me) but a couple days after he messaged me, I cracked and talked to him. He didn’t reply, although nothing bad was a said. I had initiated contact, then thought better of it, proceeding to make it better by coming up with some excuse and apologizing.I’ve gone back to no contact. He’s blocked and deleted me from Facebook (unblocked me a couple days before he spoke to me, but didn’t send a friend request). He’s been all over instagram liking pictures of random girls, posting more pictures than normal, and following random girls. I know it doesn’t really mean anything, but it’s confusing as I don’t know how to proceed. When he messaged me he made it a point to say he thinks about me.

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      admin

      December 26, 2013 at 6:20 pm

      Well that is good that he thinks about you.

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      Jess

      December 27, 2013 at 4:49 pm

      So how do I go about getting him back for a third time?

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    cath

    December 22, 2013 at 1:51 am

    Hi chris!
    Me and my ex just break up a month+ ago and we dated for almost half a year. I ignored the NC period and did some ‘beg’ n ‘force’ section at the beginning. Will it turn him off ? Now i am on my progress on NC of almost 2 weeks and he suddenly follow my ig (he just being active recently tho)…but the bad thing is i respond to his follow dueing my nc period (but i nvr follow back for sure)…should i back to 1 again for nc? Or is it counting downs for another 2 weeks to settle? Does tat mean i have the chance?

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      cath

      December 22, 2013 at 9:32 am

      Hi chris! I got one more question, since my birthday is coming soon so i am wondering what should i reply let’s say if he sends me a simple greeting *hope so tho*….really look for your advice so badly

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      admin

      December 22, 2013 at 7:56 pm

      NOthing. You shouldn’t even respond.

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      cath

      December 23, 2013 at 4:55 am

      Hi chris! Appreciatw your respond! If i do not respond then will it be sound like childish for him? Anyway, you think i am still good on my NC period? Cause the moment i accept his request to follow my ig, feels like ald fail in NC tho we nvr really talk…besidea he got my ig and bbm…everytime i update something he can see it…will it actuallu affect my NC period? Thanks so much for your advice

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      admin

      December 23, 2013 at 8:18 pm

      No I think sometimes silence talks the loudest.

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      cath

      December 24, 2013 at 4:14 am

      Thanks Chris! I will take ur advise ! Tho he hasnt greet me up to now :(….do you think i still have th3 chance to win him back? Please give me your honest opinion

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      admin

      December 24, 2013 at 7:17 pm

      Yes but a chance doesn’t mean you will get him back.

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      cath

      January 1, 2014 at 9:24 am

      Hi chris ! It’s me again….and so i just accidentally met my ex at a party..basically we didnt say hello to each other as we didnt really looked at ea h other till his friend pulled him to our table..but then,me and my friend did catch his eyes on me for couple of times…both before and after he drunk..but at later night when he got better and i would lije to go ..i bounced to his table to say goodbye to his friends whom part are mine as well..but indeed he shaked my hand first…but then after i went back up to now…i didnt made contact with him yet and he also nvr contact me yet…do you think i should wait for him ? Is there any chance he will do it? Or am i the one should make the first move to contact first?

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    Katie

    December 13, 2013 at 11:52 pm

    I started dating a close friend last March. He had pursued me for several months before we got together. In July he told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship (he brought up the issue, not me), however we continued spending time together – every weekend/all weekend. We went away together for his birthday even. At the beginning of October I asked him if his feelings had changed and he said no. We stopped speaking for about a month. We then ran into eachother at a party and I could tell he was happy to see me. After a few times of hanging out, he asked me if he could stay over at my apartment and I let him. One week later I ran into him at a concert and he was with another girl. We had an argument and I left. He sent me an email the following day apologizing for the way things happened. I did not reply and de-friended him on facebook. It has been three weeks since this incident. I have seen him once since then at a mutual friends birthday party and I ignored him but I could feel him looking at me and he laughed at a joke I told. Is there any chance of getting back together? What should I do?

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      admin

      December 14, 2013 at 10:23 pm

      Yes, there is a chance but it is going to take some time I think.

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      Katie

      December 16, 2013 at 10:19 pm

      My 30 NC period ends Sunday. I am hesitant to reach out to him. How can I get him to contact me?

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      admin

      December 17, 2013 at 6:39 pm

      Well, have you used any of the recommend texts?

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    Perrie

    December 4, 2013 at 12:46 am

    Hi Chris,
    Me and my ex met the other night (his suggestion) and it went ok, although I probably pushed too much rather than pulled.
    Anyway, at the end he said he thought we should keep meeting up, even if just as friends. We’ve both been invited to the same party at the weekend, he’s going and he said he thinks I should go (as I said I was unsure whether I was going to) and that it doesn’t have to be awkward.
    I just want to know whether you think I should go to the party? And if so, how should I act?

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      admin

      December 5, 2013 at 12:58 am

      Yes!

      And act confident and happy. Don’t make anything awkward. Thats the name of the game.

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      Perrie

      December 4, 2013 at 1:22 am

      *I mean I probably pulled too much rather than pushed!

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      admin

      December 5, 2013 at 1:01 am

      Yes… the chase is a really important thing.

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    Stephanie

    November 28, 2013 at 7:00 am

    I’m so getting addicted to your articles and yes I still want my ex back thanks to your articles i’m starting get over it little by little even though it was just yesterday!

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      admin

      November 29, 2013 at 1:37 am

      Well thats the biggest compliment you can possibly give me.

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    Maya

    November 21, 2013 at 5:14 am

    Sorry this is not a question but I love how you are being so realistic on this haha. Some parts literally made me laugh ;] it’s like I have a window into my ex’s mind and I’m starting to have second thoughts now.

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      admin

      November 21, 2013 at 7:25 pm

      Welcome to Ex Boyfriend Recovery the window into a mans mind 😉

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    Hazel

    November 19, 2013 at 2:52 pm

    At hHello Chris, I feel very confused… this guy I was talking to he seemed to really like me andI really like him. When we met he had just gotten out of a 3 year relationship, that relationship was very awful, according to him. He would say that they always fought that she was always nagging and that he hated her. I myself had gotten out of an abusive relationship so I understood him. He would show he cared for me but I was scared to get hurt and I would tell him, he would tell me he understood but he would never hurt me if Inever hurt him. We never had arguements until last Friday, we talked it over and everything seemed fine again… but Saturday came he did not text as much as he usually did Sunday came and the samething but Monday no text at all. I started to get worried so I called his phone many times then he text me the next morning sayi.g he needed time to think that after Friday he felt confused and he was not sure if he really wanted a relationship. I stoped texting him he called 2 times and I answered on the third then he said sorry I butt dialed and hung up. I did not believe that so I text him he didnot reply so I decided to ask him why did he ignore then he said, dont txt me until I wanna talk. I understood him but felt so much anger. So for some dumb mistake I thought I was texting a friend and say I am no lomger kissing his ass that he will eventually come back once he saw that I was no longer kissing his ass. So he text me back saying wtf wrong person fool. I told him I was sorry and umderstood if he did not talk to me anymore and he said I dont peace. I feel awful so I try calling him and he ignores my calls, I feel awful I dont know from a guys perspective do you think he will ever talk to me agian?

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      admin

      November 19, 2013 at 7:33 pm

      I think the probability of the two of you talking again is high.

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      Hazel

      November 21, 2013 at 4:08 am

      I dont think so, I felt awful and got an axiety attack. My friends were worried so they took me to urgent care. My sister told him I was there and asked if he was going to come see me he replied that he no longer talked to. The next day he tells me hopes I am doing well and he cant do this to stop texting him. I told him I was sorry and he said to stop making people feel sorry for me and to stop texting him and he called me a 2 face and that if I replied he was going to block me. I miss him very much but everything seems like it is over :/ do you think he will ever call me again? He is very proud I feel like he wont but I cant help lingering to the wish of us coming back together.

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      admin

      November 21, 2013 at 7:13 pm

      Sometimes proud people just take longer to get back..

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      Hazel

      December 13, 2013 at 6:59 pm

      Hello Chris, I was doing no contact, I had been sad but moving on with my life hoping we could work could work it out after I gave him his space but I was wrong, he called two days ago I was busy so I did not answer, he text me instead saying he is back with his ex to please not call him anymore because he does not want his girl thinking anything. I feel awful because I came to realize I was just his rebound.

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    Naina

    November 13, 2013 at 9:34 pm

    I like the long timeline. Even though there may be others that come in between during that time, it kind of sets you up for the long haul instead of a short term “quick fix”. I feel like people who want the medium or long timeline are thinking more in terms of a forever type of commitment and not just someone to have because he or she can’t stand the thought of being alone.

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      admin

      November 14, 2013 at 6:43 pm

      Hahah I like that you see the truth in the long timeline!

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    spider

    November 10, 2013 at 3:44 am

    Hello. I have been reading on your site, the past couple of hours. I am really hurting. Hope it is o.k. to tell you my story(?), nothing else is working. O.k., so I am 41 and have been alone for roughly 3 years. Before that I was married 7. I am bi-polar/severe anxiety (was never properly diagnosed until after my divorce, after a series of negative events happened). I am on medication. (Feel I needed to mention that, for anything forward that is said.) I also live with my parents, at this time.

    So, after almost 3 years of loneliness (I also have no car, either, so my life is at home in my room :/ ), I can’t take it anymore. So, I decide the only way I’ll ever get to meet someone is online (that is actually how I met my ex-husband of 7 years). I make a Match.com profile (a couple months ago). Had 1 (basically a phone relationship) for about a week. No big deal, nothing really happened to get upset about. (Although, it did make me think of deleting my profile though; but I decided not to.)

    Two days later, I get a message from another guy who thinks it’s cool I love spiders and says something about a nature walk together sometime. Next thing you know, we’re talking on yahoo messenger for 9 straight hours. Then, exchange numbers. So, we make a date and see a movie, we hold hands and have a hug that I truely’ve never felt before. He does live a slight distance (about an hour). So, we text a lot, and talk to each other a lot, all the time, like hours each day. He’d come up 2x a week. Then, there was a weekend I spend over his place. After that, he came over 2x more. Still talking. We were telling each other ”I love you”, ”I miss you”, ”kiss, hug”, and also conversations. All this within a month, now.

    So, I had told him that I was happy where I was and hid my profile. He said whatever, he was leaving his up cause he didn’t want to have to re-do anything. I said that was fine because we’ve only just started seeing each other, although not too long ago, we were already b/f-g/f. So, anyway, plans were for me to come up this weekend, well, since Monday, I’ve been feeling very off. I mean, we were still talking, but he wasn’t saying ”I love you” anymore; he was still text kissing, hugging, and saying that he missed me.

    Wednesday comes along, and I get on Match, realizing I forgot a picture I wanted to get of him, I had forgotten from before…I saw a new picture and a totally new updated ”About Me” story. I cried for hours. Later, that night at his work, he texts me. I wait a few minutes, then instead of –asking– him, I flat-out accuse him of surfing around if we’re together. He explains, (it doesn’t make any sense, but I accept, and apologize). Nothing gets said the rest of the night. Next morning I ask him if it’s o.k. to text my thoughts to him. Hours go by. Later at work he says ”If I want to.” So, I do, nothing. So, next morning, realized he never texted back, I text back wondering why all I had said, and nothing? Hours later, he texts me back, not about anything that has been said the past 2 days/nights, but that he was invited to a ”barn party” and he was going, so the weekend was off. I was like o.k., fine. I text him and ask ”if he was happy with me, and what’s going on?” He gives me the ”it’s not you, it’s me.” thing. Now I need to say that he was married for 17 years. His wife had cheated on him and he left. He’s been single for 6 years and is set in his ways and doesn’t want to change. Before me, he dated 2 other women on Match, and ended them, because they ‘bothered’ him. I asked him if I was doing that. He said no, that he still has feelings for me, but he doesn’t want to be in a serious relationship if it’s not 100%. He told me that he’s not sure about dating anyone at all at this point and that he hid his profile on Match (and, he did, because I can see it, but not click on it, so I do believe him). He’s too set in his ways, and he doesn’t want plans made (like me coming over) and then something happen he wants to do without me; like this ”barn party”. which is going on now. He said it was nothing I did, and to not change myself, he liked the fact that I’m so ‘squirly’. And, that we will still be friends and talk. However, he knows how I feel, and said I can still text/call anytime, but the more I do, the less he has time to realize that he misses me. He just isn’t sure he wants to be in a serious relationship.

    So, all the while, since yesterday, all I did was sleep, and when I wasn’t sleeping, I was forcing it. Absolutely ate not 1 thing the day before yesterday, hardly drank either. Yesterday, I had 2 slices of poundcake, and a couple sips of water. Today, I’ve had a handful of Cheerios and 1 bottle of Gatorade. Reason being I have severe stomach problems, and when I’m very nauseated, and I eat I get sick. I’ve been running to the bathroom since yesterday, still today constantly with an upset stomach. I have lost 10 pounds in 3 days (I lose it fast when I’m ill). I’m a total mess.

    It’s a wait-and-see kind’a thing. I did write a letter today, 3 pages that kind’a helped but not really. If I still feel the same in a few days, I will send it to him. Before I came across your wonderful site, I had found out about doing that. So, he said he needs time to see if he ”misses me”, he said he won’t leave me hanging and he’s not like that, but if I contact him before 2 weeks, unless he contacts me before, he won’t know if he does. He said that it may hit him, 1 morning he might wake up and say ”I really miss her.” and, just drive on down to see me. But this is hard. Going from talking all the time, to not at all?? It hurts. I did forget to mention, why he means soo much to me is the 2nd time he was over, a very strong feeling came over me, 1 that I have honestly never felt before, with ANY man. He made me feel safe when I was with him. I told him about that, so he knows. But, I know he’s the 1, between that 1st hug that I can still feel, and the feeling safe when he’s near. 2 things that are unknown to me in a man. And, unknowingly, he gave both to me.

    Wow.. I apologize for writing soo much. I am just hurting real bad, writing it all out to someone else has helped, a little 🙂 I really want him back. He really means that much to me, and I’ve been waiting 3 years, I think I can wait a little longer, but it’s hard. I guess, my question(s) is, should I wait it out the couple of weeks and see what he says if he does ”miss me”? And, should I send that letter of my feelings of what was forgotten (by me) to be said when we had that 30min. talk on Friday when he said he needed time; in a few days?

    Your thoughts?

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      admin

      November 10, 2013 at 9:54 pm

      No apology is necessary.

      I understand what its like believe me.

      I am inclined to vote on the wiat it out a bit longer option.

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      spider

      November 10, 2013 at 10:12 pm

      Thank you 🙂 It is hard, day number 2 here, of no phone talking. Should I wait on sending that letter I wrote about at the end, about stuff I felt was left unsaid. Or, should I still just wait out 2 weeks and see if he calls. If he hasn’t within 2 weeks (in which he said he would), should I try and text/call him, see what’s up?

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      admin

      November 11, 2013 at 5:47 pm

      I think that sounds like a solid plan.

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      spider

      November 13, 2013 at 6:51 pm

      Hey, Chris! Just wanted to say.. day number 5, here, N/C of the 2 weeks my (may, or not be ex? has requested for time to think). This is very hard, and I am still very distraught by it. Still wondering, ‘if he at least missed me some, wouldn’t he just say something at all, even 1 word?’. I am having a fight with my phone 😉 but, I’m not doing it 🙂 .

      So, that letter I had mentioned about writing and sending, I tore it up yesterday and threw it away. Me writing and sending would only further his distance probably. I got to reading further on your site, and realize that a letter isn’t good, anyway.

      That being said, I would love to give you a hug (((Hug!))) for having such a wonderful, thoughtful and very helpful sight! I still hope he’ll contact me and we can be back together, but, after reading not just this page, but, of some of your other posts… and, even after he had said it was nothing I had done… the more I read on your posts, the more I realize that there were some things I was doing wrong.

      Even though at the start we were texting, calling a whole lot. From [both] sides. But, looking at some of your examples, a lot more of it was me. A whole lot more. Sadly 🙁 I believe I ended up being a TG.

      I would love to keep you updated, if that’s o.k., since you’ve already helped me very much already. I would love to share what the end result is (when he calls/texts; or, if it’s the end of ‘his’ 2 weeks and I try and contact him). Will that be o.k., Chris?

      Thank you, very much again for the most informative (ex-b/f) site I have EVER come across! I am hurting, and understanding all this from a man’s (honest) perspective, helps more than I can say 🙂 .

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      admin

      November 14, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      Your welcome!

      This is definitely the comment of the day.

      Definitely keep me updated.

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      spider

      November 20, 2013 at 2:33 am

      Chris 🙂 His 2 weeks he asked for space is about here; Friday is the day. So, I need your help with something please? (For future reference to the following, 2 things.. he did say with that last call he made me before all this was that he still had feelings for me, just needed time to see if he wanted to be in a serious relationship; and the other thing was that there was intimacy between us.)

      So, he did tell me that he would not leave me hanging and that he was not that kind of guy. However, if he does not call/text me, and it ends up me texting him(going by your advice about texting 😉 ) I have a few text ideas I wanted to run by you, so I feel I’m sending the (first) more appropriate text to him; if that’s o.k.?

      1.Miss me?

      2.)Feel like maybe still me coming over, for my birthday? (originally had planned to spend time together, for my birthday)

      3.)I still remember our 1st hug; the ”hug that meant so much”. (this is what he texted me after our 1st date, a hug that lasted about 20 minutes.)<<—this 1 is my favorite.

      4.)I miss you.

      5.)After 2 weeks of being apart, I truly understand what you were saying about ''rushing it''. You mean soo much to me; I would love another chance with you.

      6.)I really miss how you say ''Hey.'' to me when you'd call me.

      7.)Am I still your snugglespider? (his love-nickname for me)

      Which 1 you think would be the best 1 for me to start with in texting him; if it ends up being me having to start the (text) conversation? And, I'm kind of hoping it's #3, but if you think it should be one of the others; I'll go with whatever you feel would be the best one. Because I do not want to lose him. I want to make this right; or at least attempt to try to.

      Thanks Chris! And, thanks again soo much for being there and helping me with this. (Hugs) 🙂

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      admin

      November 20, 2013 at 5:40 pm

      Hmm…

      These texts may be a little too strong. Maybe you can generalize them a little bit so he won’t feel awkward…

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      spider

      November 20, 2013 at 7:21 pm

      Thank you, Chris! O.k., to be honest, I had no idea how to ”generalize”. Got my Mom involved with this one. But, you mentioning that, makes soo much more sense that me throwing all that stuff at him. So, since basically I’m just wanting to find out if he ”misses me”. So, Mom came up with a short, to the point text:

      ”Just wanted to say hey! Miss me? (Miss you.) Would like to hear from you 🙂 ”

      What do you think, Chris?

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      spider

      November 22, 2013 at 5:16 pm

      Wow….. o.k. so, I texted him, right… He said that in March he was getting married. Then asked me who the hell was I. I was like… what?! Well, so much for us even still being friends. After I texted him, and he wrote that, it got pretty nasty with words. He texted me more, but I’m not reading them anymore. He could of just said instead of lying to me. This really messed me up 🙁

      But, I want to still thank you Chris. As, I have most definitely learned a lot from your site. I really have. (Hugs) and thank you 🙂

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      admin

      November 22, 2013 at 8:23 pm

      Your welcome!

      And he is a jerk plain and simple. It’s unortunate but true.

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      spider

      November 21, 2013 at 7:58 pm

      Chris, yes, that’s o.k.; there is no reply button option to reply after your comment; so I’m replying to it after this last one.

      O.k., the reason why I care so much is because with him, and when I’m with him… in all honesty Chris, I’ve felt somethings with him I’ve never felt before with (any) man. He made me feel safe. And, whenever we hugged, I could truly feel him (like what’s inside), and again, something I’ve (never) had with a man.

      You know, last weekend I had my 11yr old daughter. She could tell something was wrong (she very briefly, kind of knew about John). She asked me ‘why does John mean so much to you momma?’ I told her ‘remember when I was married to Jason [last ex-husband] for 7yrs? John means more to me out of the month we were together than that entire 7yrs I was with Jason.’ She was like ‘wow, momma. you really love him, you’ll be o.k.’ She was (is) such a sweetheart.

      I know, I was the one who messed up. I got to reading more on this site last night, and realized I’m very apparently the over-emotional type as well; besides havin’ also being a TG 🙁 I mentioned at the start that I’m bi-polar, and some of that plays into my (negative) emotions; probably a lot actually.

      I feel in my heart that he’s truly ”The One”. Even after my 3 marriages and other relationships, something was always off and missing. John was (is) the total, complete package.

      Basically. I don’t want to lose him. I messed up. I just need to know if he misses me, so I kind of know where I stand with him. He was the one that had told me he needed a couple of weeks to see if he ”misses me”; so I think that’s why that 2-word phrase has a lot of emphasis on this whole thing. He had told me 2 weeks ago, (that) Friday that I could still call and text him if I wanted; but the more I did the less he’s know if he ”missed me”. So, that’s why I haven’t (and, it really has been hard); but he hasn’t either. And, I just need to know, because I know that even all this, I still very much miss him. He did say that if nothing else, we’d still be friends and that he still (did) have feelings for me. But, it’s not really the same 🙁

      But, that’s why.. and, thank you 🙂

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      admin

      November 22, 2013 at 7:12 pm

      Well, let me ask you. Are you his ungettable girl?

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      admin

      November 21, 2013 at 6:07 pm

      Can I ask why you care so much if he misses you?

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      spider

      November 10, 2013 at 4:11 am

      Slight edit – where the paragraph that starts with ”Wednesday”, and I said ”So, I do, nothing.”. Ignore the ”nothing”. I had texted him my thoughts. I was thinking ahead while I was writing, sorry about that. 🙂

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    Judith

    November 6, 2013 at 7:39 pm

    Hi Chris, Ty for the weath of info, I am currently in the long timeline and love it. It gives u so much power! Honestly, I messed up the n/c rule several times. We would get to day 15 and he would text me about coming back or moving back to my town, then he would quit texting as soon as he started and I would have to start grieving again. So this last time going on the third month I made a vow to myself. This is going to about me and my daughter and my dog, and putting my family first.
    He can deal with his own crazy family. So here I am 52 pounds lighter, got my hair done like Jennifer Lopez,
    and I even enrolled in grad school MFA to start in Spring
    of 2014. I was enrolled for spring of 2009 we have been seeing each other since nov of 2008 our 5th anniversary. Is coming up 11/19 and I’m not texting s#$t to him.
    I am now the ungettable girl. I also deleted all social sites, those waste precious moments of your life.
    so that us my story hold in to that p$$y as long as yoy can its to be rewarded to the man if your dreams, you never know,

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      admin

      November 7, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      Wow seriously I am really impressed. You left me speechless.

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    anonymouss

    November 5, 2013 at 1:25 am

    Hi, I’m sure you get about a million of these messages a day, I just really would like an objective opinion and some insight into what might be going on, and if I have a chance of getting back together with him. I’m not sure if i necessarily want this on the blog, but i’d really appreciate a little advice!!… My bf and I were together for a year and a half, however he pursued me for 7 months before we actually started dating. Our relationship was great: we told each other everything, always found/made time for each other, never really fought, got along with each other’s friends and family very well. About three weeks ago he had seemed distant and we both acknowledged it and decided to talk about it. Then during the discussion he broke up with me just out of the blue saying that his feelings had changed. I asked him if he loved me, if I still made him happy, if he missed me when we weren’t together, if he thought about me, etc. He said yes to all of them and told me I had been perfect in the relationship and that he was ashamed that he couldn’t give me what I deserved. He cried during the convo, I was so shocked that I couldn’t until after he left. The next day I demanded answers and wasn’t getting anything else. We then decided to talk four days later, and did. He gave me the same answers as the first time. I asked him why he hadn’t brought it up when he first noticed it and he said that he was just trying to work on it himself and that he doesn’t think talking to me about it would have helped. He also said that the decision to break up was made earlier that day (the day that he actually broke up with me). He teared up again during this talk, finally I decided to leave because there wasn’t anything else to say. He said that he wanted to remain friends because he cared about me and wanted to hear about my life still. I asked him if he was so upset about it (crying) because he was hurting me, and he said partially but also that he was losing the person that he was closest to for the past year and a half along with his gf… He is a very private person, even his own roommate was surprised when he heard… I then found out that the next day he contacted a girl he met the week before (a few days before the break up) and invited her to get coffee with him (rebound??). I texted him saying that I know I said we could be friends but I couldn’t just flip a switch that easily and just be a friend, that I needed time to get over him like he had. He responded saying that he would respect whatever I decided. We’ve been in NC ever since. I know that he’s been out with this other girl at the bars.. I still have things of his with me and he still has some things of mine. He told me he loved me the day before we broke up and was making plans for the future. I’m just so confused.. Its been about three weeks now of NC and one of his friends messaged me a week ago on FB (who I have never talked to outside of our hangouts with by ex and other people; we are friendly but not ‘friends’). He asked me about classes and such, very surface level conversation that really didn’t go anywhere and then just ended. I’m not sure if it means anything; don’t want to read anything into it…

    1. admin

      admin

      November 5, 2013 at 5:47 pm

      What his friend messaging you?

      Maybe he did it to spy on you for your ex?

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      anonymouss

      November 6, 2013 at 3:21 am

      yeah maybe.. it just doesn’t seem like him to ask that of his friend. I was really surface level convo, just like how is life and joked a bit but that’s it..

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      admin

      November 6, 2013 at 5:23 pm

      Youd be surprised at what guys are capable of hahah.

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      anonymouss

      November 6, 2013 at 11:12 pm

      yeah I guess possibly. I’m planning to text him in about a week. I was going to bring up a good memory possibly in relation to a place I’ll be then (that was really non-descript haha sorry). Its just that he seems/looks like he’s fine and just going about life per usual. I’m just wondering if there is even any hope. He is kind of the guy that makes a decision and decides not to change his mind.. stubborn.

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      admin

      November 7, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      Have you read my latest guide.

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      anonymouss

      November 9, 2013 at 5:55 am

      yes, thank you, very helpful! You and all of your guides are absolutely wonderful! One last question.. would it be bad for the first text i send after nc to refer to the time i met his family over a long weekend. or should i make it a more specific time and more ‘just friends’-like?

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      admin

      November 10, 2013 at 12:57 am

      What was the specific experience you were thinking of.

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      anonymouss

      November 10, 2013 at 6:16 am

      well I was going to say that i was in the room [at the frat] that he stayed in over the summer when i drove up and visited him (it was our first summer apart).. [during that weekend i met his family and we did a lot of things together] but the text would refer to the room/weekend in general.. or i was just going to say that i saw a movie at a theater we went to a lot and refer to a funny time we had there.

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      admin

      November 10, 2013 at 10:00 pm

      I would go with the frat room one.

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    Lily

    November 2, 2013 at 6:11 am

    Hi Chris,

    Its been 2.5 yrs since my ex bf left me. I chased, texted, called him after the breakup but eventually stopped. Recently, I went to see him in the hopes we could amend our differences given that a lot of time has passed. He was cold and unemotional. Are my chances of getting him back after all this time zero to none?

    Your honest answer is much appreciated.

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      admin

      November 2, 2013 at 7:20 pm

      No you have a higher shot then that but your ex is stil upset so just give it some more time.

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    joanne

    October 31, 2013 at 3:01 pm

    Going to see ex boyfriend in 6 weeks we are still in
    contact by phone,still cares,do you think he will
    mind me coming to see him after 5 months,really want
    to get back after 6 years,what do you think?

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      admin

      October 31, 2013 at 8:15 pm

      As long as you don’t show up out of the blue I don’t think he will.

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    Olivia

    October 31, 2013 at 12:04 am

    Chrissssss….I am so excited andfeel like giving u a hug 😀 After going for a 40 days of NC my bf contacted me to wish me HBD which I let it go to VM,he then texted me which I didn’t reply,then he sent a fb msg which I didn’t respond.After three days I responded him and followed your suggestion in the text term saying “thanks for the b-day wish and said i was at our fav hangout place which made me remind of him, hope all is well” He the called me the day after in the early morning which i let it go to VM. He left a vm msg saying he wants to have a conversation with me. He has a gf now I am not sure why he is trying to have a conversation with me. I texted him back saying that I am busy and will call him back later. It has been three days I haven’t called him back yet cs I still love him very much and not ready to speak with him yet. Am I doing the right thing? do you think he called me cs he has feelings for me?

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      admin

      October 31, 2013 at 7:19 pm

      A hug! I will take a hug!

      I think you have the general idea but it is ok to engage him in conversations. Not long ones.. not until he proves himself with a positive response.

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      Olivia

      November 1, 2013 at 12:43 am

      🙂 thanks Chris…I am not quite mentally ready to speak with him yet . If I call him after one week or so isn’t going to put a negative impact?

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      admin

      November 1, 2013 at 6:24 pm

      Then don’t speak until you are ready!

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      Olivia

      November 3, 2013 at 4:02 am

      he called me again but I wasn’t ready to pick it up…i m so afraid what if he is calling to checkup on me just to be frs..i won’t be able to handle it..do u think he called me again cs he may have feelings for me?

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      admin

      November 3, 2013 at 6:00 pm

      Sure, i think the feelings were always there.

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      Olivia

      November 4, 2013 at 3:33 am

      If I call him back after two weeks would that be too late?

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      admin

      November 4, 2013 at 5:42 pm

      Why call him when you can text?

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      Olivia

      November 13, 2013 at 11:06 pm

      he calls me once everyday to check on me , we talk for 10/15mn or so , he wanted to go out with me once but didn’t ask for a formal date or anything or neither asked to make a hangout plan ahead of time this is why i politely i. We ignored. we r on fr-zone for past two weeks. I am not sure how to move from there since he still has the other woman who he meets every week.I don’t kw how to get-out from this fr-zone. Pls help Chris?

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      Olivia

      November 20, 2013 at 8:10 pm

      Hi Chris…we r still in a fr zone , talk once everyday and being nice to eachother. His birthday is day after tomorrow. I wanted to give him a surprise with a bday cake at midnight and I am sure this is something the other woman will never do cause she is using him. I know you might be thinking why I still love this guy when he has hurt me so bad for cs of the other woman..I don’t know Chris..I m hoping we will reconnect again…so should I surprize him with the cake?

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      admin

      November 21, 2013 at 6:15 pm

      I wouldn’t… the cake thing might backfire.

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      Olivia

      November 16, 2013 at 8:58 pm

      Thank you Chris..read the post. just to give u a quick update. He calls me once a day to say hello and we have been talking 10/15 mns everyday for past three weeks. I never initiate contact from my end but I pickup or respond when he calls. The other woman is still their and his weekend date. I am so confused why he is calling to check on me and how long i should wait for him to express before I give up on him. or there is anything approach I should take from my end to get out of this fr zone?

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      admin

      November 17, 2013 at 7:11 pm

      However long you feel is necessary.

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      Olivia

      November 15, 2013 at 12:13 am

      where can I locate the fr-zone guide

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      admin

      November 14, 2013 at 6:49 pm

      Have you read my friend zone guide?

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      Olivia

      November 5, 2013 at 4:56 am

      I meant I will txt him 🙂 but what should I say in my case?

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      Olivia

      November 21, 2013 at 10:29 pm

      how m I going to make him fall for me again:(

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      admin

      November 22, 2013 at 7:24 pm

      Theres so many guides on this site that cover that exact question hahahaha.

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      Olivia

      November 12, 2013 at 4:22 pm

      HI Chris..my ex had a small surgery , He told me while I was talking to him over ph. I so feel like making some food for him but he still has the other woman. I am not sure if taking some food to his place will be the right thing to do ?..Please give me some advice Chris..

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      admin

      November 12, 2013 at 7:43 pm

      No definitely don’t do that.

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      Olivia

      November 9, 2013 at 2:37 am

      Thanks for your time and help. I believe that with your help I can get have him .He called me three times today when I was at work. I picked up his ph during the third time he called then he asked if I would be interested to go out with him for a for an hour or two.I didn’t like the fact that he was giving me a formal time-frame .I said politely that I have other plans and would love to catch up with him later. Why do u think he was giving me a one hour/two hours time frame Chris? completely.

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      admin

      November 10, 2013 at 12:39 am

      Well he just wanted to take things slow or he was busy. I don’t think thats a bad timeframe to be honest. I talk about timeframes in my what to do on a date guide.

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      Olivia

      November 8, 2013 at 2:14 am

      he calls me everyday atleast once now, we are in a friendzone cause I am not expressing my emotions but being nice to him. He is still in a relationship with other woman who he can’t let her go then why you think he is calling me talking to me and saying he misses hearing my voice? Last night he asked if I would be interested in going out for a drink somedays. Any suggession would be great Chris..I don’t why why he calls me everyday after NC when he still has lots of feelings for other woman?

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      admin

      November 8, 2013 at 6:36 pm

      B/c he still has feelings for you probably.

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      Olivia

      November 6, 2013 at 1:54 am

      please give me some idea Chris..he called me today ..I picked up and said he miss hearing my voice and miss talking to me but didn’t say he misses me :(.. I don’t to how to make him open up and speak up from his heart during conversation:((((

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      admin

      November 6, 2013 at 5:19 pm

      I think he just did! It took guts to call you like that.

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      admin

      November 5, 2013 at 6:05 pm

      You can run a few ideas by me if you want.

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    Jennifer

    October 30, 2013 at 4:44 pm

    I went No Contact after learning that my BF of over a year, has been texting another women. He’ also played the disappearing act lately.It’s been 4 days and he has called me 700 times (exaggeration) sent many text and came to my house. I didn’t break!

    Now I see on Facebook that he is posting how he’s in-love, and wants to begin his life with the one he loves and has a picture of a man holding an engagement ring, etc…however I think he is playing games and hopes I take the bate.

    Comments Welcomed…

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      admin

      October 30, 2013 at 10:00 pm

      Well, was all he doing texting these other women?

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    Erin

    October 27, 2013 at 3:26 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I am in such a complicated situation which I don’t think you will have seen before and I desperately need advice!
    So I’ll start from the beginning. Me and my ex boyfriend started dating in August 2012, both 20 at the time. I worked 3 days a week and he was off uni for the summer. we had known each other since we were 17. I initiated the contact and he asked me out on a date, where he revealed he had always liked me but never had the balls to ask me out. Things went great and we soon became official. As time went by, by march 2013 he dumped me OVER THE PHONE saying we were too different to be together etc etc. As I hadn’t read any guides online I naturally was calling and texting begging him to give things another shot, where he just said no no no and acted like it was 100% over. so I researched online and did the no contact rule and within 2 weeks he came back and I took him back, after he said he forgot how much we clicked and he had made the biggest mistake of his life finishing with me. Things were great and I loved being back with him, we had talked about having babies and moving in together. So by august 2013 things weren’t great we were arguing a lot as I was working 6 days a week and he was working nights so we were only seeing each other on a Sunday because we live around 40 mins away from each other. This was putting an unbearable strain on the relationship as it naturally would and he ended up finishing with me over the phone again. The week after we split up he got an unexpected phone call from a university which he was on the reserve list for a course he had applied for. the phone call was telling him he had a place on the course. so I texted him saying congratulations etc and he was so cold so I left him to it, I knew no contact was the way to go but I kept caving and contacting. in the end I sent him a massive emotional Facebook message saying how I wanted us to be back together but I don’t want it to be until he has finished this course (next summer) because I know the relationship will only be strained and exactly the same. he replied not saying yes and not saying no to my idea. so the week after that I phoned him asking him to get back with me and he said he didn’t want to because he has just too much work on with this course, the relationship will only be massively strained like before and we will just end up breaking up again. he wasn’t nasty about it either. which I totally agree with. he then said in the future if neither of us has met anyone else and we have less commitments then we can try again. but at the same time he has made NO contact with me since the split 2 months ago. I haven’t made contact with him since the phone call about us trying again next year which was a month ago.
    what shall I do? I believe he is my soul mate he’s the only person I’ve ever been in love with and I am the only person he has been in love with and I am his first proper girlfriend. I want to wait it out and hold on but everyone is telling me to move on? I don’t want him to forget about me or think it’s been too long to rekindle things. I feel like I’ll never get him back but the first time I thought it was over for good and he came back. I don’t believe he would lie about wanting to try again, he isn’t the type of person to say something he doesn’t mean. I feel like a year is a long time to wait for someone, do you think it’s do able? I just don’t want to set myself up for failure. I truly believe he will come back but I’d like some light shed on the situation from someone neutral rather than my friends.
    I’d love your advice! I look forward to your reply 🙂

    Erin x

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      joanne

      October 31, 2013 at 3:08 pm

      Its sad when abreak up happens,really you need to move on your young,first love never works for some
      ive 6 relationships still not married,dont worry
      his lose,there will be someone there,my advice don’t look before you know there is someone there
      looking right at you,love tested in all aspects of life,just be positive!

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      admin

      October 27, 2013 at 10:57 pm

      Well, I think maybe you should open up the lines of communication now. Do you have any texts planned out.

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      Erin

      October 28, 2013 at 7:11 pm

      no. I don’t really want to bother him because I just think if he wanted me then he would text. and if he doesn’t want me then he won’t bother, I don’t want to text really because it makes out like I’m still interested and although I want him to know that I think texting him is letting him know I still care and that I still am hung up on him. there is no way the relationship will ever work until he’s finished this course so I just think I’ll leave it till then. and then do something about it. but do you think that could be too late?

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      admin

      October 29, 2013 at 2:49 am

      It could be but I don’t think it is.

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