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365 thoughts on “EBR 024: Using Social Media To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back”

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    Daniela

    April 26, 2016 at 10:57 pm

    My ex deleted me on bbm withn two weeks of nc. Then posted a pic for the first time since we started dating ( that is 1yr plus) and when we were dating he once sent me that pic tagged as specially for me. He hasnt contactd me yet its been 19days. Do you think its a positive sign?

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    Erika

    April 19, 2016 at 9:05 pm

    What if he confronts me about a picture I posted? He asked me who I went to dinner with? What should I say?

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      Erika

      April 19, 2016 at 9:06 pm

      Also, he blocked me on FB, so that means he is still stalking my profile through someone else right?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 21, 2016 at 1:58 pm

      iF it’s a group date, just say you’re with friends.. If it’s really date, and then say it was someone you met and you went to dinner to talk.. Just don’t post pics that are too forward like kissing or hugging each other.. yes, that’ means he’s looking at it from somebody else’s.

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    Rebecca

    April 11, 2016 at 1:01 pm

    Either way probably means I don’t have a good chance of getting him back since he blocked my Facebook page,right?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 11, 2016 at 2:34 pm

      for now, yes..until he becomes more open to being friends, you have lesser chance

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    Rebecca

    April 9, 2016 at 3:53 pm

    I have a question. My ex boyfriend and I been broken up for about 2 1/2 weeks. Recently he blocked my facebook page but we weren’t friends and I haven’t contacted him via facebook. Why would he do that?

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      Rebecca

      April 10, 2016 at 3:27 pm

      Affected by my posts in what way? Keep in mind he left me without telling me. We never had the break up talk. I just stopped hearing from him and he wouldn’t respond to my texts.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 11, 2016 at 7:12 am

      that means he doesn’t want to see your posts.. either it’s his ego or that it hurts him to see you move on, if he really doesn’t care at all he wouldn’t that because you’re not even friends.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      April 10, 2016 at 5:30 am

      if you’re active in posting, it means he’s still affected with your posts.

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    Kate

    March 21, 2016 at 7:11 pm

    Hi Chris,

    So my ex has a private twitter profile, he unfriended me on fb, he had blocked me on snap chat but recently unblocked me which caused an unfortunate first contact since the NC rule. The only thing we both follow each other on is Instagram. We have talked but I think I have been friend zoned. But anyways. Would reaching out and trying to follow him on any other media like snapchat or twitter be a good or a bad idea?

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    Marns

    March 16, 2016 at 10:41 pm

    Should I add my ex back on snapchat?
    I let him know that in order for me to get over him I need to delete all social media – Facebook, Snapchat, and unfollow on Instagram. He says he is sad about it but if that’s what I want to do then he supports it. You see, he has a new girlfriend and it’s unbearable to see.
    He still has followe me on Instagram. And I used to love chatting on Snapchat.
    But if I ‘flipflop’ back and add him on snapchat am I going to look crazy and unstable? Maybe I am over analysing it

    Xxx

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      March 17, 2016 at 1:58 am

      Hi Marns,

      it depends on when you deleted him

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    Daniela

    February 8, 2016 at 6:25 am

    hey so my situation is basically me and my ex had trust issues because of a nude photo i sent to a man at the beginning of the relationship he got over it but when when we got trust issues and i messaged that same man 8 months later and he blew up and broke up with me. now weve been broken up for three weeks and we were sorta in a limbo, not together but not broken up either. so just recently i told him that we should focus on ourselves and in the future try again he agreed and i was so upset cause i didnt feel ready to say goodbye but the in between limbo relationship that formed was hurting so much. i then was dirty talking a guy on fb the same day that me and my ex decided to break it off for good and so my ex logged into my fb later and saw and read the conversation of me and this guy dirty talking and now my ex has completely blocked me on fb and has told me he hated me and several other bad things. anyway i realize that all the things ive done have been impulsive because of not feeling very wanted in the breakup and then the limbo relationship… i just wanted to feel like i was wanted by a man. i still love him to death and want him. how do i approach this situation?? i have no clue whereto even start… its a mess.

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 9, 2016 at 3:39 am

      Hi Daniela,

      First the dirty talking and sending of nude pics should stop. It puts you in a bad light. And also,the more you do that the more you will not be treated the way you want to be.

      You have to unfriend those guys and wait basically, just be silent until your ex unblocks you. It’s better if you use this time to grow your self cobfidence and get to know yourself more

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    Annie

    January 25, 2016 at 4:41 pm

    Long story short… my ex and I were dating for about two years but have known each other for about seven. He broke up with me because “he wanted to focus on himself.” I feel he’s just very confused. We’ve been broken up for about three weeks but have only talked twice over that time. He likes all my stuff on all social media but doesn’t text. I’ve been ding NC for about a week but he hasn’t even tried to text. Any idea on why he likes everything and all that but doesn’t even try and talk to me?

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      EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 26, 2016 at 9:45 am

      Hi Annie,

      We can’t know for sure but it can be because he’s still undecided, or he doesn’t know where to start, but at least you know he’s seeing your progress

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    Allison

    December 13, 2015 at 10:56 pm

    Thanks for writing this, it is very informative. I need some advice from anyone who can give me some insight! Short version, Two and a half dates were awesome (best ever actually), second half of third was awkward because he claims I wasn’t giving any signs of interest, so things ended on a giant miscommunication (probably my fault). He just liked my photo on social media 3 weeks after we ended things. Is he trying to get my attention or just a “like”. Should I do anything? I still really like him.

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    U

    December 12, 2015 at 5:00 am

    Hi Chris,
    Is it possible to get an ex boyfriend back if he has a high ego and would probably never ever ask to get back together again? So much ego that even if I were to become the ungettable girl, I don’t think he would even care.

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    Ella

    December 8, 2015 at 4:04 am

    Hi Chris,

    Thank you for all the insightful information you provide here. I have a situation I’m not sure how to deal with.

    I met a guy (32 years old) in Feb 2015… we had an amazing physical connection and went on several dates and were passionately intimate. Suddenly he started to ‘fade’. He said he didn’t want a relationship but about a month or so later he came clean and said he ‘met someone’. They continued to date from April (or before he met me I don’t know for certain) until mid-September 2015. He told me not to contact him or he would have to block me because he needed to respect his girl. This however, did not last and was back to contacting me after he did this only two weeks later. He would never post images of this girl on his social media (he has twitter, IG, fb). I think he posted her once but he was in a group and it was hard to identify IF this was his actual gf. Either way, he continued to contact me the ENTIRE time he was in the relationship. At least once every two weeks. If i went silent on him he would contact me again always literally 2 weeks. He would send me explicit photos, videos, and tell me how much he wanted me. He wouldn’t physically see me but the sext flirtation continued. Eventually, in late September he contacted me yet again… we met up and were intimate twice in the course of two weeks (he said him and his gf broke up and I thought now could be our chance). The last time I saw him and we were intimate I asked him why he kept in contact with me for 7 months and wasn’t interested in dating me. He said because ‘we had a strong physical connection and it was comfortable’ . He also went on about needing to get his shit together, that he was a mess and that he has always had a gf and needs to be on his own. The next day I text him and was cold right after, with short responses. He said ‘he wasn’t in the mood (to flirt in text) and needed to get his shit together and he didn’t need my pressure right now… needed space’. I gave him 30 days space and reached out to him again. He responded promptly and we texted back and forth for a few days. On the third day I made a sexual flirtation along with an image and a video. He went dead silent and now it’s been almost a month. I have sent him several text messages asking him to speak with me or that I miss him, I tried calling once. Nothing angry or crazy though, very calm. I did mention his ignoring was really hurting my feelings and I would be as understanding as I could to whatever he had to say. I wished him a happy thanksgiving …and still… SILENCE. Yet, he literally posts a new social media post of himself doing something ‘fun’ or doing something ‘alone’ EVERY OTHER DAY. My feeling is he cheated (and feels guilty and knows if he communicates he can’t control himself) or really doesn’t want a relationship (with me or with anyone right now). I really like this guy yet I am very upset with what he is doing. I don’t need to be lectured on how I deserve a better guy (I’m 30 years old, not the first time i’ve dealt with this and they usually always come around, although sometimes they are too late), I just want information on how to turn this back around. Please help. Thank you.

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    anna

    December 5, 2015 at 5:57 pm

    Me and my boyfriend broke up after a year and a half of being with each other. He broke up with me over the phone which resulted in a heated argument on my behalf, which I don’t feel bad about as he had very little respect for me for doing it over the phone! The last day I had seen him before the breakup he told me that he loved me. However after 10 weeks of no contact I finally caved in and felt it was stupid to ignore him any longer. I didn’t hear anything from him in these 10 weeks. He did always look at my snapchat stories and then often put one up himself to make me jealous or just to show what he was up to. He also poked me on Facebook. I started snapchatting him and sometimes he brings up cute and funny old memories or mentions things that I would always say that would make him laugh. However I don’t want to look over clingy so I tend to open the snap chats a while after he sends them or take my time replying. But he’s doing the same he’s snapchatting me and then disappears for a while but continues to snapchat other people (score goes up). I’m confused what he’s trying to do or what he wants? And he’s the type of boy who knows how to play a girl so I don’t want to make any rational moves. I think he might be seeing his ex but I don’t think they’re together as a I have a close source. I’m scared to get hurt again so I’m not sure what to do? Any advise? I’ve been following your guides for weeks and they’ve really helped me.

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    Stephanie

    November 10, 2015 at 6:57 pm

    Hi Chris,

    I am currently in the first few days of NC, I am hoping NC will get my bf back. I am trying to be strong and not go on social media (facebook) while I am in this emotional period, as I feel it would make me worse if I see something I don’t want to see. I am trying to use the time to better myself, see friends, start going to exercise classes etc. My question is regarding snapchat…should I look at my exs snapchat story or not? at the moment I have decided not too as I thought that would make him wonder more about why I wasn’t checking up on what he is getting up to.. what is your opinion?

    Thank you in advance for your help 🙂

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    Kait

    November 10, 2015 at 3:54 pm

    Hi Chris, I know you get thousands of messages like this, but I really need some advice. I think I’ve completely blown my chances of ever getting my ex back, even if I do follow your guides/advice. Basically we’ve been on and off for over a year now and we argue a lot, he never apologises after arguments and will just ignore me for the rest of the day or even for a day+ where as I’ll apologise most of the time regardless and I hate being ignored, especially by him, and then when he does speak to me he just acts normal again or sometimes he’ll say things like ‘going to be a normal gf or still an angry troll’ I admit when we argue at times I can say some really horrible and unforgivable things, but so has he. He’s said many times over the past months that he doesn’t love me and hasn’t wanted to be with me for months now. It’s mostly him who breaks up with me, I’ve only ever broken up with him I’ve but I didn’t mean it. He’s also said that he’s only taken me back because I made him or wouldn’t leave him alone. Now last week we had a huge fight on Sunday and things got so bad and again he said were over and that he doesn’t love me anymore and that once I leave his house I won’t be setting foot in there ever again. Things got broken and he got angry and pushed me but I replaced the broken things and got them sent to his house. He text me 3 days after the break up saying he got the items but he can’t accept them knowing how he feels about us and that he sees no future for us and doesn’t see us ever working. I tried to do no contact but failed on day 3 🙁 and text him back saying ‘Hey, I was just thinking about the first time we went to the cinema together to see Jurassic World, it was so good. I am glad we did that.’ But because he didn’t reply I turned into a text gnat and then said ‘could we talk please? I don’t like how things were left.’ He replied ‘I enjoyed the good times we had too but things aren’t the same and we argue too much, please send me your address so i can return the items as it doesn’t feel right’ I responded ‘I don’t want to lose you, so will you please work with me to make our relationship work again, I know I don’t deserve it but I care for you deeply and I love you..I want you to keep the them, I’m sorry.’ And again he didn’t respond so I text him again saying ‘Please just talk with me, even if you hate me, please hear me out.’ He responded saying ‘it’s over I sorry, there’s nothing else I can say’ I continued to keep begging him to take me back and him not replying and when he I asked him if he loved me he said no sorry and he also said he won’t be contacting me anymore and i really dont want to upset you more and talking is doing that, you are more than welcome to let me send the items back, other than that good bye. I continued to bombard him with messages and calls, he replied no my minds made up..I continued to message and call him the next day too but no reply. It’s not been almost 3 days I haven’t heard from him and I’m absolutely terrified of losing him. I didn’t text him today so this is the first day I haven’t contacted him for..I want to try the no contact but I always end up caving in. Do you think the Nc rule will get him to speak to me or even give us a chance of ever getting back together? I did the NC rule once before and it got him back and about two weeks later he said he missed me, but do you think it’ll work a second time? Please help, I really don’t know what to do! We live 2 hours apart, so there’s no chance I’ll randomly bump into him :(.

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    Megan

    October 31, 2015 at 8:52 am

    Chris,

    My boyfriend and I were together 7 months. He told me he loved me around the 4-5 month mark and about every day after.

    He started living with me while in between places… Just naturally happened because we’re spending so much time together.

    We started fighting because he’s always responding to so many texts. I know he’s never cheated on me but I get annoyed. And he thinks I’m being jealous. It made me uncomfortable though. We had each other’s computer passwords though and everything was fine.

    I do think he drinks alotnand that was my their concern. He sometimes says he can’t sleep at night without drinking.

    Anyways. We got in a huge fight a few weeks ago. I stormed off and he had it. Said this relationship isn’t right.

    Two days later he came and got all his stuff which I had already packed up.

    After that we decided we would talk for closer. His idea. But then he kept blowing it off and asking for more time.

    Finally i told him no more time. Let’s talk and get closure or never talk again.

    We met. He acted like a different person. Like he was fine and kept saying the relationship wasn’t right.
    He also said I was trying to fix him and save him.

    A few month or so before the break up he posted a photo on Instagram of us looking very in love.

    Today he deleted that special photo… That photo only. But kept other pictures I’m tagged in. Inside jokes. And group pics of us.

    What does this all mean?
    Is he done??? I haven’t texted him since our “closure” talk this week.

    He’s very stubborn and prideful. Please help!!!!

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    Taylor

    October 26, 2015 at 4:10 am

    Chris,
    I am on day 12 of NC… I have been posting natural looking pictures that show that I am happy and going out and doing things (hikes, spending time with my family, going to church, dinner with girl friends, pumpkin patch, even a pumpkin patch picture with a single boy who is my friend). The next day after the pumpkin patch couple-looking photo I posted my ex unfriended me despite having been facebook friends with me this entire time… and having said that maybe we can be friends again after the wounds of the break up heal. Our breakup was a general breakup and I honestly feel that he is jealous and wants to remove me from his mind because he still has those strong feelings for me. Our reason for breaking up was that he said he didn’t love me anymore after 1 year and 3 months.

    Did I overdo the facebook posting or is he seriously hurting right now? Agh! We have a lot of mutual FB friends including my family and his family! He hasn’t defriended my sister.

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      December 4, 2015 at 5:56 am

      That’s good, you know that he still likes you. Only do 21 days of no contact and then reach out though him through text with a really sweet text. Read my post on sending texts to your ex.

      Did he defriend everyone but your sister? Maybe he forgot shes on there.

      I don’t think you over did it. He’s clearly upset which means he still cares. Don’t let it go to long though. 🙂

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    TJ

    October 6, 2015 at 5:49 am

    My ex broke up with me and ignored me. I was so heartbroken and desperate I begged for him back (which I know is a no no) Finally I decided to suck it up and do the no contact… right as I start piecing myself back together my ex texted me a little update of how he’s been since we broke up (I found this weird because it was kind of like “hey look at how great I’m doing with out you”) I sent a short response to his text and then he proceeded to ignore me again. So I started the no contact again… It has been 2 and a half months of no contact. I’m doing good. I’m not depressed, I even talked to another guy briefly. My ex just liked my picture on Instagram. We don’t follow each other anymore so I know he had to have searched for me to get to my page. What should I do now??? I really want to reconnect even if we could just be friends.. I miss talking to him. P.S: I liked one of his pictures back… was that a mistake???

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    Jessica

    October 4, 2015 at 6:08 pm

    what if your exbf likes your profilepicture (not recently updated) at 5pm? When he’s obviously drunk after a night out? Is there still significance?

    1. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 6, 2015 at 4:02 am

      Not as much…

      But you know what they say…

      Alcohol often brings out the truth.

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      Jessica

      October 4, 2015 at 6:09 pm

      5 am of course 🙂

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    Ester

    October 4, 2015 at 12:30 pm

    Hi Chris,
    My ex boyfriend and I are in high school, I’m a senior and he’s a junior. We broke up about 3 weeks ago because we tried to have a relationship but he said he just couldn’t be a good boyfriend and he knew he had been letting me down (which was true). I was thinking of breaking up with him as well because I felt like all the bad feelings I had towards him for not being able to be the boyfriend I wanted him to be would undermine how I felt about him. It was just a very sad break up. We had been talking all summer and basically had a long distance relationship because he was visiting family in Europe. We would Skype for hours and just stare at each other. And then when he got back he said he’d”love” to be with me and we shared our first kiss which was very passionate. After that school started, and he was afraid people were judging him for being the type of boyfriend that he was — uncommunicative and extremely shy, but sweet and would say all the right things when he needed to. He’s never dated anyone before and he told me that he’d love to be with me at school but just has no idea what he’s doing. Also he’s an only child and all of his friends are single except for one who’s dating my best friend. Recently about 2 weeks into NC (I had said I couldn’t be his friend) he liked a photo I posted on Instagram of me with my new car (transportation was an issue when it came to seeing each other). Two days later at school he saw me walking up the stairs and ran up to me but then just walked next to me without saying anything, almost expectant. When I didn’t he just walked ahead of me really fast. I see this as him starting to reach out. What do you think? Also, i hope you respond because I have a follow up issue involving his best friend. Thanks in advance 🙂

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    Sarah

    September 26, 2015 at 5:36 am

    Hi Chris!

    It has been approximately 3 months since the breakup. Actually, I am not really trying to get him back. However, like everyone else does, I stalk his facebook page from time to time 🙂 The other day I noticed that although I deleted him from facebook and skype, he has not deleted me from skype yet. I was wondering why an ex would like to keep you in the list of friends despite the fact that he is not on my list any longer. As a habit (either relationships or friends), when people discard me from their list, I follow the same fashion after a while. Why do you think despite 3 months, he has not deleted me yet?

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      Sarah

      October 2, 2015 at 12:11 pm

      I am not really sure how often he uses it. However, towards the end of the relationship, he was always saying that he needed to skype a friend or so related to his job. I assume that if it is not too often, he does use it sometimes. Also, considering that he put a cover photo of a place we went together on a holiday on his facebook profile, I thought that he would have noticed, but yeah there is always possibility of not noticing as well 🙂 And since I deleted him, it has also been three months. I thought that he might have used Skype at least several times within three months or simply logged in and checked his messages. He doesn’t have many skype contacts on his list (20 or so).

    2. Chris Seiter

      Chris Seiter

      October 1, 2015 at 6:21 pm

      Stalking is rather normal hahaha.

      How often does he use skype?

      Could he have just forgotten?

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