Have you ever had an ex boyfriend say,
There is no way that we’ll ever get back together… Ever…
Think Taylor Swift but ten times worse and without the dancing!
Most women hear that and they are crushed. They literally look out the window and think the apocalypse has happened.
But does an ex boyfriend TRULY mean it when he says “we aren’t getting back together” or is it just an “in the moment” reaction to the breakup?
Well, that’s what I’d like to explore today.
And I’d figured the best way to explore that would be to take a look at one of my latest success stories.
I’d like to introduce you to Buffy!
What Are Your Chances of Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back?
Take the quizWait, What Do You Mean Buffy?
Ok, this one might need an explanation.
For those of you who aren’t “in the know” when you buy Ex Boyfriend Recovery PRO I actually give you an opportunity to join a Private Facebook Group where I help women through breakups. One of the coolest things about this is I am always doing “Facebook Lives” on the group where I just take questions for about an hour.
Well, one day a woman joined one of the Facebook Lives named “Sarah Michelle.”
Now, me being the Buffy aficionado that I am couldn’t help but compare her to Sarah Michelle Gellar (AKA: Buffy)
Well, turns out that our Buffy doesn’t just slay vampires she gets exes back as well. Watch the video below to learn more.
Update To Buffy’s Situation
So, I wanted to come back to this post and update it since there has been a development with Buffy’s situation.
Turns out that yesterday our little Buffy got engaged to her ex!
Yep, and here’s my proof,
So, what’s the moral of the story?
Well, if your ex boyfriend tells you that “he hates you” or that “you’ll never get back together” he doesn’t always mean it. In fact, it seems like more of a reaction than anything. Just ask Buffy, she knows!
If you would like to learn more about how to get your ex boyfriend back please check out,
Rsw
February 20, 2026 at 3:28 pm
I was with him for a year and a half. He said I was his future. He made long range plans with me, he made comments that I was his soul mate, we were one person cut in two and I was his twin flame. He constantly told me that I was his future. Then the year mark came along and he began to shut down once a week and abandon me. I once asked what does future look like to you and he got angry and said, “Today is my future, I don’t think about the future.” At one point he said, he only saw me in his minds eye as far as the next summer but did see us traveling together four years from now so he talked in circles. All of a sudden he became very busy with life he was forced to be retired and he decided to move from one location to another in a quick second without thinking things through and I became a casualty of that situation. One day I rec’d a text that said he decided he didn’t want a LTR and that I was really his first after his divorce and he felt that he wanted to see what else was out there. He told me he felt that since I knew what I wanted, I should find someone to take me to the next step. What I don’t understand is that he made me believe in an elaborate future with him, he integrated me into his family and he constantly told me I was his future. He walked away in a text and never spoke to me again, there was no closure. I’m devastated and it caused trauma in me. Now I don’t trust anyone. Is this someone who was overwhelmed in the moment and when life calms will he open the door and want to come back? Or was this just someone who mirrored my love and used me?
Annathea F
May 9, 2025 at 11:37 pm
I’m stuck. I was in a situationship with someone I really liked. We weren’t exclusive but for some reason it felt like it. All in all I asked him to block me actually begged him to because I knew myself, I would want answers and clarity. Why just friends? Wasn’t are connection good? Is it really because I have children? I didn’t give enough space? Even though there’s an ocean between us? I’m trying to do the no contact but it’s hard. Yes he blocked me on WhatsApp it I blocked him everywhere else. How long should I wait? I don’t know, never felt this way before never in my life have I ever felt so connected. I fear I lost it by not settling for just friends…
Keisha Colding
April 18, 2022 at 12:13 am
Ok so I have been involved with a guy for almost 2 months. Everything was good until last week when I was disrespectful and rude to him he wanted a break last Monday he came by we talked and everything was good I even apologized. I didn’t hear from him for 2 days. So I text him today cause it’s Easter and he said he was tired and his cousin passed but then I seen a Instagram story where he posted how could someone know they did wrong can’t admit what they did but move like they did no wrong doesn’t make sense. My question to you all should I ask him about this even though I sat next to him and actually apologized or should I not assume and brush it off. I never asked him about it at all because he told me his cousin passed so I’m respecting his space I just need to know what should I do from here
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
April 21, 2022 at 12:19 pm
Hey Keisha, I would suggest that you do not ask about this if nothing NEW has happened. You acknowledged the last thing you did wrong and apologised so if he is still bringing that up then there is no more you can do on that matter. If there was something new then again you need to assess and apologise if YOU did something. If he is struggling / grieving and pulls away, allow him this time this is his coping method. Do not take it personally.
Red
January 11, 2022 at 11:08 pm
What about getting ur ex girlfriend backed I want to get mine back?? Or is it only ex boyfriends
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
January 16, 2022 at 9:20 pm
Hey Red, no you can apply this to ex girlfriends too.
Leigh
May 5, 2021 at 6:24 am
What about an ex-boyfriend who you haven’t talked to in 12 years, but still want them back? I feel like the No Contact Rule won’t work for me. We’ve had no contact for years. So can this program work for my situation?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 13, 2021 at 8:10 pm
Hi Leigh, I would suggest that before you reach out to him that you do some investigating to see what is going on with his life. Does he have someone else right now? Is he going to be open to a relationship? If he appears single and living life happily then I would reach out and start building rapport with your ex. Or at least try. Good luck and keep me updated 🙂
Rosalind Liebenow
April 12, 2021 at 4:00 pm
My boyfriend of 4 years broke up with me saying he doesn’t feel like same person and doesn’t think we can get spark back. I am currently trying the no contact rule other then to send him certified letter to remove his items from my house after he has made zero attempt to do so. Its all his belongings minus shower stuff and a duffle bag of clothes. This no contact thing is hard as I have a 10 year old daughter who is devastated and all I want to do is move forward with life.
Elizabeth
June 23, 2020 at 3:29 am
I sent my ex a text about “picking his brain” on something he’s an expert in (cooking)…is this the only text to send to him each time to get him to talk?
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
June 23, 2020 at 7:17 pm
Hey Elizabeth, I wouldnt speak to him about this subject alone as you are going to lose his interest quickly but it is a good conversation to have with him no and again
Sassy
May 8, 2020 at 7:39 am
Hi! My ex boyfriend and I are together for 6 years. He broke up with me 9 days ago because he couldnt handle me anymore. We used to fight a lot because I am always angry whenever he go out with his friends. And then this one day, we had a big fight cause of the same issue. I nagged him and he lost his temper then he broke up with me.
It’s been a week, he blocked me on facebook, phone and imessage. I tried reaching out to him but i ended up being blocked again. I tried reaching out for 1 week. I dont know what to do. He’s talking to my friends and asking my friends to comfort me, because he dont want other people to give the comfort that i need during this time.
He also said that, we will never ever getting back together because he is so fed up with me. Is it true that there are no chance for us to be together anymore?? Help me. Thank you.
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
May 12, 2020 at 9:58 pm
Hey Sassy, so you would need to complete your NC and make sure that you do not reach out and change your exes perception of you, if he could not “handle” you anymore, he would see you as someone who is surrounded by drama and issues. So you need to learn how to control your emotions and then how to not have a dramatic life, no arguments or negative effects in your life as best as you can, working on your Holy Trinity. The fact you have been blocked also means that you would want to do a 45 day NC.
Lay
September 30, 2019 at 10:30 pm
Hey, Im lay. I’ve been dating my ex for about 1 year and 3 months and we are currently broken up. I’m the beginning of our relationship I needed to really work on myself because this was my first time actually being in a relationship like that. I was very friendly and wasn’t considerate so that led to a few breakups. We’d usually breakup and get back together within 2-3 weeks. We would tell each other how much we missed being together and that nobody opinion mattered. Even after me being friendly, I stopped but recently I’ve been acting very childish and foolish. I wasn’t listening to him when he told me to stop doing things he didn’t like and that seemed to always frustrate him. He listened to me when I told him not to do things and i just seemed very selfish. We’ve been living together for over 3 months and one day he just had enough of me and told me we needed a break. Of course I put up a fight about me going to change myself and that he should wait for me and he said he would…a few days later he texted me about my things. He said that he was going to give them to me that morning. I said okay and asked if he still needed space and he said “right now i would”. I didn’t take him seriously and thought he just needed to cool down about wanting to take a break. He told me that he would be there for me through thick and thin as friends but he wanted to end the cycle of breaking up and getting back together. He said he’s tired and he didn’t wanna do it again. I tried my best to fight for the relationship and started telling him ways I’ve changed myself and told him ways we can maintain it but he just wouldn’t. I asked him was we done forever and he said “will never know but for now yes” and i kept trying to beg it seemed like. I wish I could’ve changed myself while I’m the relationship. I miss him so much and I don’t want him to date anyone else. We had made plans About our future together and we used to always talk about how we would be successful in life. I’ve never thought that by me acting the way I did that It would end the relationship for good. He told me he isn’t changing his mind. I told him he just need to think on it and he said he already did and he just can’t. What should I do???
EBR Team Member: Shaunna
October 1, 2019 at 8:56 pm
Hi Lay, so I would say you need to do some work on yourself, your self esteem and consider your maturity level for this type of relationship. Read on becoming Ungettable, but in your case I would consider this to be emotionally composed and showing maturity in your life. The breaking up and getting back together is a toxic pattern that even your ex has noticed and he was right to take a break as you need to get out of this bad habit of arguing and ending things.
Relationships take work and at this moment in time you need to let him get over the arguments and negative thoughts he has about your relationship and you. This is where NC is going to help you. So make sure you complete a minimum 30 days NC and read as much as you can from this website to help you grow
Mala
July 20, 2019 at 10:06 am
Hi!
I did something very stupid. I always told my ex that if he would break up with me, it would really be over for ever. I Made this very clear.
I also told him I’m not going to contact him and I don’t wanna be friends with him when he broke up with me. We did break-up ‘peacefully’. We hugged and kissed but I didn’t cry and told him I would respect his choice.
I’m just scared the no contact rule isn’t going to work because he thinks that there is no chance in getting me back after he broke up with me. What do you think?
Should I contact him, try to get him back and then apply the no contact rule? I don’t know what to do.
Thanks!
Ashleigh
December 24, 2018 at 6:29 pm
My boyfriend said I smother him and for me to leave him alone. He doesn’t want to be with me and we are never getting back together. I feel as if he is my one and I love him so much. He said I was jealous and didn’t give him space. I don’t want things to be over.. what do I do?
Chris Seiter
December 24, 2018 at 10:16 pm
Hi Ashleight….some guys just don’t like it when they feel they are losing their independence. They get antsy and then make statements like that. You can probably draw him to you more by giving him some space and get him chasing you.
Ru
March 8, 2018 at 10:13 am
Hi Amor,
Thank you for your previous advice. It’s been a week now and he’s since said harshly that we’ll never get back together and that he hopes I find someone that I love…..he is the one I love and I will never search for the other guy. We’ve got exams coming up, so he doesn’t want to communicate for three months and said we can be friends, but I can’t just forget the three years we’ve been together. I know I messed up real bad, but what do I do? He’s honestly the only one for me and I can’t imagine doing all the amazing things in life without him. I’m scared that he won’t want me back or will move on.
EBR Team Member: Amor
March 10, 2018 at 7:34 am
Don’t contact him because if you do you’ll be chasing.. And extend a month more weeks after 3 months before initiating contact so, that you don’t look like you’re just waiting..be active in improving yourself and build a new routine in your life..
Ru
March 5, 2018 at 9:28 am
Hi Amor,
thank you for your reply. He’s since contacted me via a friend saying that he loved me but he feels like I didn’t love him back and that he hopes i’ll find the one. He’s told me that we are never getting back together and doesn’t want to communicate with me for the next three months because we’ve got exams. I can’t stop thinking about him and want him back so bad but I’m afraid that he doesn’t want me like he’s said we are never getting back together. What do I do?
Ru
February 27, 2018 at 7:00 pm
Hey! Recently my boyfriend found out I online cheated on him…..not because I didn’t love him any less but because I’m so insecure about my body that when things were going rough in my relationship I looked elsewhere. I sent messages to him showing him how much I loved him, he kept reading them and eventually blocked me on all social media and my phone. I’m so heartbroken because I broke the only person who mattered to me and feel like I can never love, trust or be trusted again. What do I do?
EBR Team Member: Amor
February 28, 2018 at 3:51 pm
Hi Ru,
Check this one:
Fix Your Relationship If You Cheated On Your Ex Boyfriend Before Its Too Late (Video)
Mei
January 17, 2018 at 4:05 am
Hi amor, me again
Thanks for your reply before
Its my 10th days of NC and I’m feeling great about myself right now. I still hoping to get back with my ex.
I have read almost all the articles, and I’m kind of confused right now about my situation. From your point of view for my story below, is he breaking up with me because he considered it as me cheating on him? Even though I told him the next day that I’m going with this guy?
If so, should I apologize once more and do NC just for 15 days?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 18, 2018 at 7:32 am
you’ve just been dating for 4 months.. and you already apologized.. you’ve broken up now too so if you keep apologizing, you will look like you’re chasing him.
Mei
January 7, 2018 at 8:15 am
Hi Amor, its me again
Thanks for your reply before
I already told my ex about being friend is not working and thanking him for everything, and he told me thank you too for everything and ask me “so you’re done? you’ve decided to given up?”
How should I respond to this?
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 9, 2018 at 12:59 pm
Nothing.. He’s just trying to keep you talking to him
Mei
January 6, 2018 at 6:10 am
Hi Amor, its me again
Thanks for your reply ^^
I forgot to tell you that he’s the type of person that has a very high ego, but he’s a very kind person for a man. Because he told me to move on and met someone else after we breakup, I got this feeling that he’s doing it on purpose knowing that he himself can’t move on from me if I’m not making a move first.. (he actually admit to me it will be hard for him as well) And when he knows that I’m having a great time without him, it will make him happy as well, knowing that I’m doing fine without him.
Thats why I’m scared of doing NC. I’m gonna need your advice during this moment.
Mei
January 4, 2018 at 11:42 am
Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me cause i’m going for a walk with a “gay” without his permission. I told him the next day about me going with this guy, and he got angry at me cause I didnt report to him the other day.
I know its mostly my fault and its the second time I’m actually going with other guy without me telling him first.
We’ve been dating for about 4 and half months, and he said that the reason he want to break up is not just because of me going with this guy, but also because I put a lot of pressure on him during our date (but he never mention what it is).
He told me that he can never trust me again after what I did to him, and I actually beg for his forgiveness for about more than 1 hour and he still refuse me, saying it will never work. So I ask him if we can still be friends and keep chatting, and he said that its fine as long as I dont put a feeling to it and dont hope too much to get him back.
I was planning on doing NC, but we already chat for almost 2 weeks after our breakup. And he still give me all the care he used to gave me during our relationship.
My question is, will he find it weird if I suddenly do NC to him after chatting for almost 2 weeks? He once said that he still care about me, but doing a serious relationship will never gonna work this time, cause he cant trust me back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 5, 2018 at 10:40 pm
HI Mei,
send a clean slate text first.. tell him being friends is not workable for you now and thank him for everything and then start nc.
Mei
January 4, 2018 at 9:39 am
Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me cause i’m going for a walk with a “gay” without his permission. I told him the next day about me going with this guy, and he got angry at me cause I didnt report to him the other day.
I know its mostly my fault and its the second time I’m actually going with other guy without me telling him first.
We’ve been dating for about 4 and half months, and he said that the reason he want to break up is not just because of me going with this guy, but also because I put a lot of pressure on him during our date (but he never mention what it is).
He told me that he can never trust me again after what I did to him, and I actually beg for his forgiveness for about more than 1 hour and he still refuse me, saying it will never work. So I ask him if we can still be friends and keep chatting, and he said that its fine as long as I dont put a feeling to it and dont hope too much to get him back.
I was planning on doing NC, but we already chat for almost 2 weeks after our breakup. And he still give me all the care he used to gave me during our relationship.
My question is, will he find it weird if I suddenly do NC to him after chatting for almost 2 weeks? He once said that he still care about me, but doing a serious relationship will never gonna work this time, cause he cant trust me back. I just dont know what to do to get his trust back.
EBR Team Member: Amor
January 5, 2018 at 10:40 pm
HI Mei,
send a clean slate text first.. tell him being friends is not workable for you now and thank him for everything and then start nc.
Geeta
December 5, 2017 at 6:29 pm
Hi
In anger I askedmy bf to not text/contact me again. He hasnt. Un fact he gasnt contacted me for 3 weeks. Im just devastated.
EBR Team Member: Amor
December 5, 2017 at 9:00 pm
Hi Geeta,
It would be better if you see a therapist to get professional counsel…