How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If HE Broke Up With You

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There is no way around it, when someone breaks up with you, it sucks. Sometimes the blow can be softened if you had a feeling a breakup was coming soon but if you were completely caught off guard then your ego definitely took a pretty big blow :/. Nevertheless, the world isn’t over and you can definitely salvage the situation. This page is going to focus on what steps you can take to get your ex boyfriend back if he broke up with you. Now, I want to give you a little notice here, I am not one of those people that is going to fill your head up with all sorts of lies saying that the methods talked about on this page are guaranteed to have him crawling back to you. All I will say is this, if you follow the advice on this page your chances of getting him back will increase dramatically.

 Do You Have A Legitimate Reason?

If you want this to work then you better have a legitimate reason for wanting to get back together with your ex. I can tell you I have heard a lot of stories from women wanting to get back with their exes except when I ask them “Well, what is your biggest reason for wanting to get back together with your ex boyfriend?” they can’t come up with anything legitimate to tell me. Responses like:

  • “I miss him”
  • “He is the best I will ever date”
  • “I don’t want to be alone”

are NOT good enough. Trust me, if you don’t have a truly legitimate reason for wanting to be back with your ex boyfriend then I can assure you that you won’t get the happy ending that you are searching for (and for the record when I talk about a happy ending I mean having a long lasting HEALTHY relationship.) Now, the things that I talk about throughout this website will work on someone, even if you don’t have a legit reason, but almost always couples that reunite without a good reason don’t have a very healthy or long relationship. I want you to have a healthy and long relationship so that is why I am preaching this so much.

By now I am hoping that you are screaming at your computer “CHRIS, WHAT IS A LEGITIMATE REASON?” Well, there are a lot of legit and non-legit reasons to want to get back with an ex. I wrote an entire page covering them here: Legitimate Reasons To Get Back With Your Ex Boyfriend.

Alright, enough of this nonsense, lets get to the good stuff what do ya say?

Common Reasons He May Have Broken Up With You

As I am sure you have already figured out, men are quite complicated when it comes to relationships. There is a whole list of reasons that he may have potentially given you for the break up. Right now I don’t want you to worry about that, that is my job. What I am going to do for you is take the most common reasons that men use for a break up and tell you what they really mean. Now, I do feel it is important to mention that even though some of these reasons may be hard to face, it doesn’t mean all hope is lost, in fact, I think you will be fired up and ready to get him back after I break these down for you. Let’s take a look at the most common reasons:

  • The “it’s not you, it’s me” Excuse.
  • You don’t appreciate me
  • I don’t want to talk about it (Silence…..)
  • You Cheated On Them

The “It’s Not You, It’s Me” Excuse

Ah, the oldest excuse in the book. There are two big things you need to realize about someone who gave you this reason. First off, most of the time they are lying to you about the real reason why they wanted to breakup. Secondly, they weren’t specific about anything that you did that caused the breakup essentially leaving you in limbo land to wonder what went wrong. Off the top of my head here are some of the REAL reasons why they wanted to breakup:

  • They did not find you physically or emotionally attractive but cared enough about your feelings to not tell you to your face.
  • Some men have short attention spans and can get bored really fast. It is entirely possible that he just got really bored with the relationship and wanted to move on.
  • His emotional and sexual wants and desires weren’t met by you. Yup, some men are real jerks just because you won’t sleep with them.

I know it may seem hopeless now but I actually have good news for you if your ex gave you the “it’s not you, it’s me excuse” but first, there are a few things that you are going to have to do. Take out a sheet of paper and list all the real reasons that you can come up with that would make him break up with you. Here is the good news, the fact that your ex cared enough to lie to you, to spare your feelings, is not a negative thing, it’s actually a positive.

You Didn’t Appreciate Him

Unlike the reason above, this is a legitimate excuse for a guy to use. Here is the deal, if you were constantly nagging your ex or criticizing him there will eventually be a point where he can’t take it anymore. No one likes to be criticized every step of the way. In fact, nothing is a bigger turnoff to a man than a woman pointing out everything he is doing wrong. Men like to be admired and appreciated. Every time you nag or criticize him (to a great extent) you are hurting your mans confidence and lowering your value in his eyes. The good news in this case is that this is something you can fix since you control what you say. Take some time and really work on being less judgmental of him.

Lets Just Drop It (Silent Treatment)

I will say that out of all the reasons I listed on this page this one gave me the most trouble. The only thing I can think of, if your ex gives you this reason, is that he is really angry about something that he refuses to talk about it. I will admit, this reason is really tough to deal with because your ex boyfriend isn’t communicating with you at all. In any case, this one is going to require you to do some deeper digging internally.

You Cheated On Them

A very popular topic here on our site except usually people ask about it if they were the ones who were cheated on. In this case, we are flipping the coin and looking at how you can recover if YOU were the one who cheated on them. Cheating is kind of tricky, there is a lot to go into but I don’t think this is the page is the proper place to do so, I can tell you that usually women cheat for emotional reasons. Perhaps your relationship with your ex wasn’t good, was going downhill or he wasn’t giving you something that you needed. Whatever the case, think really hard about if you want to get back with a person that literally numbed you enough that you cheated on them. I have found that a lot of times women who cheated on their boyfriends and then wanted them back do so because they didn’t realize how good they had it with their ex boyfriend until they see how bad the relationship is with their new boyfriend.

If you are in that category, don’t worry, you can still get your ex boyfriend back. However, I want to ask you to consult the list of legitimate reasons before you go through with anything. If you consult the list and decide you still want your ex boyfriend back just realize that it is not going to be easy. You hurt this person and you are going to have to work extremely hard to gain back their trust. It’s possible, its just going to be really hard.

The Steps To Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

Getting your ex boyfriend back is a very complicated subject that few are willing to dive into, luckily, I am one of those few. Here is the deal though, I am not going to give you the exact steps to getting your ex back on this page. I already created a mega page that does just that. This baby is 10,000 words long, took me a month to finish and I am confident enough to say that it is the most comprehensive “get your ex boyfriend back” free guide that is currently in existence. Yup, I am that confident. Anyways, if you want the exact way to get a boyfriend back please visit the following page: How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back

What Do You Think? (1,095)

  1. Anon - 0

    Anon

    Hii
    Okay umm i tried to post this before but im not sure it did post so im trying again.
    so my bf broke up with me yesterday after a huge fight before yesterday. So we had this huge argument before yesterday, then he asked me something the next day and i may have infuriated him and he broke up with me. I was really shocked i just answered with an okay but in general I’m a person who doesn’t enjoy displaying my vulnerability to people so even if I’m hurt i don’t really express it much. Anyways after breaking up with me, he gave me advice telling me that in love theres no dignity and things like that (when we fight i usually wait for him to break the silence (with a few exceptions of course)) and that a relationship isnt about being right all the time and I’m a really sensitive person and i knew he meant the fact that i rarely text first or show so much affection and passion (I’m just really weird and I have no idea how to show people i love them through words) and i took that as the reason of the break up, he then told me that what broke could never be fixed and then he said other things and ended it with a goodbye. Anyways the reason i don’t show much affection is that I’m really shy and saying things like i love you isn’t really easy to me and as i said, I’m really sensitive so i don’t begin texts because even though he’s my boyfriend (extremely childish, i know) i still feel like what if I’m annoying him or he doesn’t want to talk to me at that instant. Please help me, we have been dating for over a year now and he always promised he wouldn’t leave me and idk if he broke up with me because he doesn’t want me or it was a moment of anger type of thing or to force me to change. Anyways i was wondering if the silence rule still works in my case? since i usually do that during our normal fights (for shorter periods of time of course) and i usually don’t show much affection and etc ( do i wait for him to talk first?) or do i do the opposite and show him that i do actually care for him as a change? (Since its a breakup this time) even though I genuinely care. Or is it desperate?
    And alsooo should i atleast apologize for the way i acted because i do feel kind of guilty, in addition to that, i didnt give much of a reaction after he said he wants to break up and i just continued to fire back with answers and i feel like he literally thinks i do not care about him even though i really do and since hes been waiting for me to do a first move since forever maybe he’d appreciate this one, keeping in mind that i will include in the msg that im just apologizing for being mean and that he doesnt have to reply to the msg or understand this as an interpretation that i want us to get back together. ( even though i do, but i thought maybe he would then be encouraged in the future to maybe say something)
    I know this is extremely long and im so sorryyy and i hope you reply.
    Thanks in advance.

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    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Anon,

      sorry I just havent reached you yet..Anyways, maybe you got different love languages..it’s discussed in this arricle:
      EBR 023: How To Keep Your Boyfriend Intrigued

      but I do think you need to talk to him instead of doing nc.. it’s just that, you have to let him cool off..maybe 1-2 days.. if he becomes distant or ignores you, dont chase..because we dont know if he’s like that coz he’s still angry or he’s trying to get revenge..

  2. Anon - 0

    Anon

    Hiiii
    This is going to be really long but please help me.
    Okay umm so my bf broke up with me yesterday after a huge fight before yesterday. So we had this huge argument before yesterday, then he asked me something the next day and i may have infuriated him and he broke up with me. I was really shocked i just answered with an okay but in general I’m a person who doesn’t enjoy displaying my vulnerability to people so even if I’m hurt i don’t really express it much. Anyways after breaking up with me, he gave me advice telling me that in love theres no dignity and things like that (when we fight i usually wait for him to break the silence (with a few exceptions of course)), and I’m a really sensitive person and i knew he meant the fact that i rarely text first or show so much affection and passion (I’m just really weird and idk how to show people i love them through words) and i took that as the reason of the break up, he then told me that what broke could never be fixed and then he said other things and ended it with a goodbye. Anyways the reason i don’t show much affection is that I’m really shy and saying things like i love you isn’t really easy to me and as i said, I’m really sensitive so i don’t begin texts because even though he’s my boyfriend (extremely childish, i know) i still feel like what if I’m annoying him or he doesn’t want to talk to me. Please help me, we have been dating for over a year now and he always promised he wouldn’t leave me and idk if he broke up with me because he doesn’t want me or it was a moment of anger type of thing. Anyways i was wondering if the silence rule still works in my case? since i usually do that during our normal fights (for shorter periods of time of course) and i usually don’t show much affection and etc ( do i wait for him to talk first?) or do i do the opposite and show him that i do actually care for him as a change? (Since its a breakup this time) even though I genuinely care. Or is it desperate?

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    • Anon - 0

      Anon

      Oh and i never apologized for being non affectionate or whatever and when he broke up with me i was just cold and i kept firing back answers, i may have given the impression that i do not care if he’s breaking up with me and i do feel guilty because this was last conversation we had and i dont like to consider myself a cold hearted person
      Umm soo
      do you think i should apologize for being kinda mean and also include the fact that im not apologizing because i want us to get back together? Or is that just going to make everything worse?
      Sorry for these long essays

    • Chris Seiter - 4

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      Hi Anon,

      sorry I just havent reached you yet..Anyways, maybe you got different love languages..it’s discussed in this arricle:
      EBR 023: How To Keep Your Boyfriend Intrigued

      but I do think you need to talk to him instead of doing nc.. it’s just that, you have to let him cool off..maybe 1-2 days.. if he becomes distant or ignores you, dont chase..because we dont know if he’s like that coz he’s still angry or he’s trying to get revenge..

  3. Lauren - 0

    Lauren

    My boyfriend of 9 months broke up with me. He said he doesn’t feel a deep connection with me that we can grow on. I always felt that we did have a deep connection. He told me countless times that I had his heart and we talked about living together, and the future (marriage and children) many times. He said i need to work on my self and be happy and confident because that is the woman he wants. But even if i did that, he feels the connection is gone. He is very firm and asked me to give him space and stop texting him. I knew in my heart that he was the one and he thought i was too. I have been having financial difficulties and two of my dogs died, and I did exhibit jealously of his interaction with other women (which he said it was ok to get jealous sometimes). I thought when you go through hard time, that is when you hold the person you love close and be there for them. I will pull myself out of my rut, but i am heartbroken he didn’t want to be there for me to do that. Instead, he said the connection was lost and he feels he has made the right choice to let me go. Is there even a chance that I can get him back? I know in my heart that we can have a happy life. I am happy and confident, I was just going through some hardships so maybe didn’t appear happy and confident anymore. Should i do the no contact rule? will that even help? is it even possible to make him love me again. I believe that the connection can be reconnected. we’ve had amazing moments of pure love together, I don’t want to lose him forever. Please help.

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      hi lauren,

      becauee the change or your confidence has to be genuinely for yourself.. when a man sees you’re just doing it for him, it becomes unattractive.. we are attracted to people who are strong, beautiful and independent that we don’t own

  4. Lisa - 0

    Lisa

    Hello,

    My Ex broke up with me 34 days ago. At first he blocked my contacts and latter I went to see him. He said he could not lie to himself anymore, he was no longer in love with me. He would never answer my messages anymore but I can send it to him, he might read it. He said we would never be friends, let us be stranger. He seemed so relief and moved on. We don’t have lots in common and our habits are so different. I love him so much and I made a lot of mistakes and he lost trust in me. I would like to change myself totally and care about him more. Love him instead of asking what I need or complaint so much. But he said he could never answered anything, he is the man means what he said. I don’t know how can I implement the no contact rule.

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    • Chris Seiter - 0

      EBR Team Member: Amor

      hi lisa,

      that just means you will stop chasing him and start improving yourself for yourself and having your own life too…do 45 days.. whatever you start in it, you have to contnue even after nc

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