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Mac
October 8, 2014 at 10:12 pm
Hi Chris,
I am still in shock because my boyfriend broke up with me without reasson. The day before he was confirming our assistance to a wedding in 3 months and telling me how happy he was… he even gave me flowers! Next day he exploted for something really stupid and brough up some discussions we had (he said before he was over of those issues and everything was perfect). I didn’t understand all that anger… was out of this world. He blocked me in everyway. What do I suppose to do? I just don’t understand anything. Do I have to wait for a call? I think this is a very particular case… I even think that maybe he is bipolar or something. So confusing. .. thanks
admin
October 9, 2014 at 1:42 pm
Your going to have to give me more.
I dont think he is over those issues quite yet…
Anon
October 8, 2014 at 3:57 am
Hello!
My ex unfollowed me on Instagram and after some time he texted me but after that conversation he blocked me on Instagram. Then I ran into him at an event last weekend that he knows I go to every year and we hugged and talked a bit…but he cut the convo short. That same night he blocked me on Facebook which we aren’t friends on. He hasn’t blocked my number. Is he trying to get a reaction from me? Should I still continue no contact?
admin
October 8, 2014 at 1:12 pm
Definitely seems to be trying to get a reaction.
Kary
October 8, 2014 at 2:25 am
Hi Chris, I broke up with my ex a little over a month ago. And for a while we still had contact but we got into a huge fight over 3 weeks ago and he eventually blocked me out completely. I found contact with him recently and he let me talk for 5 minutes but then he mumbled something and hung up on me. I haven’t contacted him since. Should I just leave this all alone and move on? Or just wait for him to contact me again?
admin
October 8, 2014 at 1:08 pm
I think you are pushing too much too soon. Give him time to calm down a bit first.
What was your huge fight over?
kary
October 8, 2014 at 11:53 pm
The fight was over things from the past. When we initially broke up he didn’t say much. It almost felt as if he exploded all over the place. He let out everything he hasn’t let out before. How long should I wait to try to talk to him again? I am trying the 30 day no contact rule right now.
admin
October 9, 2014 at 1:44 pm
30 days!
Tom
October 7, 2014 at 7:09 pm
Hi Chris
My ex-boyfriend dumped me without giving me a good reason. We had promised that we will give each other a valid reason when we end the relationship. It lasted for 9 months. Out of these months, we were physically together for 5. He was all loving and caring but suddenly his attitude started changing after a row between him and I.
Anyways, later on I found out that he never loved me and was playing games. He was after his selfish sexual (and financial) interests. When he saw that he is not getting neither from me, he decided to move on and Boy did he move on? That lucky bastard had been cheating with me throughout our relationship while I (like an idiot) kept adoring him and remain monogamous. He easily found dozens of men he liked (his type is such) while I still struggle to find one decent man even as just a friend.
I didn’t handle this nicely. I pleaded, acted needy, desperate, was willing to take extreme measures, cried, cussed him and continuously contacted him (excessively) begging for his lost love and attention [all the while giving him confidence boost]. I felt jealous of the thought of him loving so many other men. I have suffered huge amount of pain and suffering from him in the last couple of months. Everything turned a 180 degrees turn. He just wasn’t the same person. He acted like a selfish jerk who only looked after his interest and never did a single thing to assuage my pain. However, he wanted to be a friend but he has never officially apologized.
Many times I have cussed him and withdrawn from him for few days. Only to be the first one to break that “no contact”. He knows my weakness. He knows he is gorgeous and knows many stupid idiots like me are at his finger tips.
A week ago, he sort of “came back” to me with my persistence and offered something of a deal. It wasn’t a relationship or love but an offer for a loose relationship where he promised to try to curb his cheating inclinations and try to rediscover the “love” that he has lost for me. After we agreed, the next day he didn’t say anything about the terms and condition and said, instead, to go with the flow. I asked him if he wanted me to be monogamous and then he said “who am I to stop you from dating other guys”. I said if this is a relationship, you should stop me and I stop you. Then there were other indications that this offer was just a scam. I get infuriated and told him off a couple of days later. He took that as an insult and decided to end everything and threatened me to block me from all apps and never to contact him ever.
I realized my mistake but couldn’t say much to him. As I pushed him away from me further. I remained quiet and not tried to contact him. 3 days later, I texted him a genuine apology. The day he received it, he thanked me for realizing my mistakes and decided that he can’t be a friend either to me and that he was blocking me from viber/whatsapp/email/sms/phone and even from his heart. He said that he hated me. That was quite a big slap in my face. Knowing that he was never truthful about any dealings with me and never communicated his true feelings for me. And has hurt me 10 times more than he has [it is a long story].
So my question is that is he playing games? Playing hard to get? He didn’t block me from facebook and skype. Two days ago, I contacted him via skype chat. He acted like he doesn’t know who I was and when I told him my name. He said “oh, i am going to block you now”. I pleaded (I hate myself for that) again not to and reminded me to read my facebook message. In this message, I attempted to put things in the right perspective by telling him exactly how and where he has hurt me, used me and basically shown him how bad he has been. So he knows that the hurt that I have given him is so miniscule in comparison to what damage he has done to me (Yes he had done a great damage. Topic for another blog). On my insistence, he sent me the greetings on the festival because I had sent him one as well.
Do you think it is the lost case? Would things change if I follow no-contact? I don’t know why I don’t want to get over him although there are clear indications that he is not a good man and just a user/player.
admin
October 8, 2014 at 12:56 pm
Well, history is not on your side since he initially played games at the beginning.
Tell me, has he given you a good reason to think he has changed?
Tom
October 9, 2014 at 1:12 am
Since the last post, I couldn’t keep myself from contacting him. Few days ago he blocked me from all apps, hurting me deeply. Ever since then, I had lost my inner peace. That rejection is affecting my attitude towards my loved ones. I have had mixed feelings of love, hatred, jealousy and revenge. I was very disturbed. He was adding to that frustration by constantly rejecting my approaches for reconciliation. I also used this time to think about all the reasons he is not good fit for me but still I can’t get over him. Yesterday I sent him a message that we should talk and try to remove any misunderstandings and either continue or end it amicably so none of us have any grudges against each other.
Today I called him and surprisingly, he picked up my phone and was willing to talk to me on Skype but was also a little reluctant. Eventually we talked and talked for 3 hours. I tried to maintain my calm and cool. He did the same thing. I said sorry. We first did a lovely chat as we used to do and then slowly I came to the point. His complain was that I don’t trust him and I told him the reasons why. I reminded him that I had always been right about my gut feelings and you had not been honest. We both exchanged our concerns. I told him to be a friend, you should at least be comfortable enough with me to share the truth. I would appreciate his honesty even if he has cheated. He shared a lot of stuff about him. About the guy who swept him off his feet, about his other gay friends and lot of stuff came to the surface this time. It was really good. I really enjoyed talking to him. The only sad part was the guy. He was dating this guy while he was still in relationship with me and I didn’t not know. Had he not been rejected by that guy, he would have dumped me and I would have been devastated probably would have become an atheist since I had prayed to God to only gift me with one man (who was my type 120%) who also loved me. I guess my prayers were answered partially.
Upto the last fight, I was hoping that I strike some sort of relationship with him (with some degree of openness) try to be in the same city with him so that our bond increases. But now with the realization of this 3rd guy, I am confused. My ex is really swept off by this guy. This 3rd guy has dumped my ex and found himself a boyfriend.
It is a painful realization. My “ex” at this point doesn’t see m as his date/boyfriend. He wants to be an internet buddy but he did make a reference that he did have my picture in his mobile phone which he would look. I don’t know what he meant by that.
I have at least made him realize that playing with others feelings is not good. That he should be honest about his motivations from the start. If he wants only sex, then let it be known to them. He says he is curbing his homosexual side and is only having sex when he can’t control it any more. He is bisexual.
He also made a confession that he had an old boyfriend which he occasionally goes for sex. Now that I am thinking about he, I have a feeling that he used me as a rebound relationship to feel good about him. His boyfriend had dumped him.
Vow today’s meeting was a quite a revelation!!! Man I have been so dumb and stupid. This was my very first experience at a “relationship”. I have been used thru and thru.
I am lost for words. I need advice. I need support. I am really sad and crying at my fate. Please email me at [email protected]
I am not attractive to many people. I have been rejected for various reasons: not young enough, not muscular enough, no bear enough, not macho enough, too fat, too thin, not-an-asian, not-a-white. The last one is interested on super-fat guys. So now I am not fat enough. I have approached many people, but nothing comes of that. I have been sexless and loveless for a very long time. I don’t have many suitors to choose from. That is why I am being so clingy to him cause I will not find anyone better than him. In fact, he is the best I got. He is really handsome.
admin
October 9, 2014 at 1:45 pm
I have to say, you definitely need to find some more confidence in yourself. How are others going to see you as confident if you don’t even think that about yourself?
Christie
October 7, 2014 at 2:56 pm
Hi Chris,
First of all I would like to say thanks for writing such an insightful article from a man’s point of view. So long story short, I had a really bad breakup. We were not meeting up for a couple of months and a text message prompting a breakup came to me out of the blue (fyi we did not even had any argument prior to leaving each other). his reasons being he just can’t accept that we’ve got different religion, culture, and principle. the relationship lasted more than two years. you can’t imagine how angry I am, he knew all those differences right off the bat and suddenly got fanatic about his beliefs and chickened out? You just don’t do that and end things as you please, no discussions, no nothing. (he wasn’t religious back then, suddenly religion is all he’s ever talked about and back then I didn’t even complained or disagree about it, in fact it’s good that someone that you care is in pursue of spirituality which is imo not a bad thing).
He did a full block out on me and since we’re both stationed in different cities, i really have limited options to get back at him. what’s even more infuriating is that even his mom blocked me on social media. what joke. and to think that his parents knew what their son could do to a woman just makes me feel angrier (we were pretty close to the point that we’re both comfortable with each other’s family). I really don’t feel fair that someone could end an relationship so unceremoniously like that and still have the guts to block me and all. I’m still so pissed not only at him but also at myself every time I think of it.
So, instead of asking you how I can get together with him again, I want to ask if there’s any possibilities I could get myself a little revenge at all (I’m childish, mean and petty like that). ps- may have a possibility to meet him in some conference next year + I still talk and meet our mutual friend that still keep in touch with him (which is just 1 person), the rest of the mutual friends he knew through me I just realized. and none of them keep in contact with him.
admin
October 8, 2014 at 12:42 pm
Maybe he got scared of a deper commitment.
Why would you want revenge?
Hahaha Live well.. thats the best revenge.
Rachel
October 6, 2014 at 3:55 pm
It’s been over a month and I’m still blocked on his phone and I’m not on facebook nor do we have mutual friends. The last thing I want is to make him think I’m pathetic by contacting him via email. And I wouldn’t even know what to say without looking foolish. Obviously If I’m still blocked it means he could care less and never wants to hear from me again. Correct?
admin
October 7, 2014 at 1:33 pm
Well, I would wait a little while and then maybe try the email route.
Rachel
October 8, 2014 at 2:37 am
It’s been over a month though…longer than the no contact benchmark. He either has kept me blocked intentionally or cares so little that he’s forgotten I’m blocked (that I exist). How much longer is “a little”? And what would I even say without appearing ridiculous based on one of the two reasons I’m still blocked? Seems impossible 🙁
Rachel
October 8, 2014 at 9:56 pm
Anyone?
admin
October 9, 2014 at 1:40 pm
? Whats up?
Rachel
October 10, 2014 at 3:09 am
It’s been over a month though…longer than the no contact benchmark. He either has kept me blocked intentionally or cares so little that he’s forgotten I’m blocked (that I exist). How much longer is “a little”? And what would I even say without appearing ridiculous based on one of the two reasons I’m still blocked? Seems impossible 🙁
Kathryn
October 5, 2014 at 5:19 pm
Chris,
What if your ex blocks you because he still has feelings for you but doesn’t want to anymore and wants to move on? I think that might be my situation.
admin
October 6, 2014 at 12:02 pm
What makes you say that?
Kathryn
October 6, 2014 at 3:53 pm
Because we had a really meaningful relationship and we’ve been broken up for a year but have never really been out of each other’s lives. We had an amicable break up but during the summer he started trying to make me jealous of another girl and then when I saw him a few months later, he seemed miserable that I was there and then he blocked me on an iPhone application but not on Facebook. Unless he actually hates me, why would he do that after a year of being broken up when he broke up with me in the first place? I haven’t been the begging, sad ex girlfriend or done anything to annoy him, I don’t think. We hadn’t been texting, Facebook messaging or snap chatting either. As you said, blocking is an emotional response and that it’s because I annoy him in some way. I figured that if he blocked me after not really talking that much in first place, he has to feel something. What do you think about it?
admin
October 7, 2014 at 1:32 pm
You hit it right on the head, if he blocks you like that he has to be feeling something.
Kathryn
October 8, 2014 at 12:34 am
It’s been over 30 days since he blocked me and we have not been in contact. Do you think I should just wait out the block or is it overall a lost cause and I should give up on it?
jiya
October 1, 2014 at 7:07 pm
Juss sent u an emailll . Plz check
admin
October 3, 2014 at 2:17 pm
Ok!
Magnolia
September 30, 2014 at 10:10 am
Hi Chris!
My ex blocked me full block 8 days ago, for a reason I find extremely exagerated, just for me doing something with a friend of mine he dislikes. He gets angry everytime I do something he does not “approve” and makes things to punish me although he does not recognize it this way. He has blocked me on the whatsapp 4 or 5 times before, and once he blocked me full too, but all these times he unblocked me when several days passed. And he never blocked me for the sms before. In all the previous occasions I begged him to please unblock, and since I felt that he somehow liked that, I always went out of my ways to beg him to unblock me and he always did so.
But this last time he has blocked me on whatssap, phone and sms (and maybe even email).
We have been in a relationship for 2 years, but it was a kind of a power game and at the beginning I had the strong part, but since he required from me to give in about things and I gave in for quite a lot of them, and on the other hand, I lied to him for some trifles (not cheating on him, just lying about things I wanted to do but knew he would disaprove and have a row about, and I didn’t feel like this), so the relation got more and more unequal and at the end I was almost always just trying to please him in anyway, and he every time exacted more and gave less.
So I started NC two days after he blocked me (6 days now), and well, what do you think? Will it work in my case?
Thanks!
Jeni
September 17, 2014 at 6:03 pm
Hi Chris! Thank you for this great page! I wanna ask you, about my story – I have open relationship 3 years. At first time he says: “only for sex”, but I have feelings and tell him that I`m in love. He realize that and then he left me and blocked me everywhere.. I can`t understand how can he do this. Is it possible that he don`t have feelings?
admin
September 18, 2014 at 4:23 pm
Was he the one who wanted the open relationship?
Jeni
September 18, 2014 at 4:35 pm
First we both wanted this kind of relationship, after all I realize that I`m fall in love..
Jeni
September 19, 2014 at 1:26 pm
Please, Chris. Tell me, I`m at NC from 2 weeks. Can I do something, or stay things happend.
Ely Liscano
September 16, 2014 at 9:25 pm
Hello Chris,
I could not help myself to read your article about exes blocking you from their phones and social media. Funny story, i am going through something pretty similar. I’ve been dating this guy for 5 months, our first 3 months were amazing, he was sweet and caring and would tell me how much he loved me, he would come out of no where with this feelings and i loved that. He was the guy that you would think was the one, the way he treated me and cared for me, he gave me a promise ring for my birthday (which i found a little too much at first) he made promises to me and would tell me that i meant the world to him, that we would last a really long time, that we were genuine and that that he was afraid to lose me, and that he wouldn’t let anyone get between us no matter what. Well we started to have fights lately, all very stupid, regarding communication, and how he was being very distant and would text less, he started saying instead of “Baby good morning have a greta day love you” to “good morning” and when we would text it would be plain, i asked him about it and he said that everything was fined and that i had to chill, he was just busy doing a lot of stuff. he pulled the busy card and I had no choice but believed him. we took a holiday together 2 weeks ago for a week, we had such an amazing time, it was as if everything had disappeared, however during this trip i wanted to talk about us, he totally ignored me and my feelings and said he didnt like to talk about his feelings. he just said that we were still cool and that nothing had changed, after that things were looking a little better. we got back, and he got back to his routine and stop texting for like 2 days in a row. After our amazing trip i thought he would be more caring but nothing. After the 2 days he texted me saying I love you. I was happy to hear that, however something unexpected happened, one of my friend created a fake intagram account and started talking to him on my behalf to find out if he was just not interested anymore. Well everything backfired on me but i had nothing to do with it, I get it i lost his trust but i still dont think is fair since it wasnt my fault. After that he didnt even let me explain and wouldnt pick up my calls or reply to my messages, and when he did he would take a really long time. I was freaking out since i didint know what to do and i really love him. i tried getting help from his friend since they are very close and he is my friend too. But he wasnt helping very much it was as if he wanted us to break up, (i always thought he had a thing for me) so now i dont know what he is being telling him behind my back, but one day his friend send me a picture of a conversation he was having with my boyfriend, where he said to block me and that i wasnt his responsibility. I was so hurt that i started to say how immature he was and how stupid he was for giving up on our relationship, without even letting me explain or him explaining himself about what he wanted to do, he had me waiting for a week, then he texted me saying “whats up” i replied with “i’ve already said what i had to say” he then said “chill” i didnt say anything for like 5 hours then he send me another tex saying “everything will be alright” he obviously didint know that his friend had send me that picture. I didnt know what to do, he kept ignoring my calls and would take very long to text me back. his friend wasnt much of a help he kept telling me to move on, he wouldnt even defend his friend at all. I am so lost because my boyfriend didnt even had the nerve to break up with me or tell me to my face, he just started ignoring me, told his friend to block me (which i still don’t understand why, i mean for all i knew he didint even know he was texting me) after that i find out that he blocked me on instagram and unfriend me on facebook (but he hardly uses facebook) i dont know why he went thought all the trouble of blocking me everywhere, when i didint even do anything and i was just trying to get answers and try to get him to just break up with me face to face. Why do men do this, they show you all this emotion they get you going and show you that they love you, and all of a sudden they are just as cold as a rock, like if they didnt have any feelings at all. I know he was acting immature about the whole situation because he just wouldnt let me explain. also blocking me was a little too much since i wasnt harassing him. Now i know we had a lot of good memories and i think back to how much effort his put into the relationship, why invest so much in a relationship, so much time, money and effort if you gonna throw it all in a blink of an eye? i am still confuse, i love him very much and i want him back i do. Or i least want an explanation to his behaviour and why he broke up with me? what should i do? i really dont know what to do. After he blocked me on instagram and facebook i just assumed he blocked me on his phone too, i havent tried to call him or text him either. how can a guy tell you that he loves you and then ignore you, then after all the fighting tell you that everything is gonna be alright, then ignore you more avoiding my questions and not answering or just solving the problem, then block me, and tell his friend to block me too, even tho he is my friend too and i didnt do anything to him.
admin
September 17, 2014 at 4:53 pm
He just went cold as a rock like overnight???
Ely Liscano
September 18, 2014 at 4:22 pm
yes. he just went cold as a rock on me overnight, without a warning or anything. I was so confused, he wouldnt give me any answers or address my questions. I had so many questions. and the fact that he didnt even break up with me like face to face. It was as if he wanted me to noticed that he was mad. He kept telling his friend to block me but he kept replying to me, like why didnt he block me straight away. I remember asking his friend why he wouldnt just come to me and tell me straight and then block me. I really dont know what to do. I feel like i am in limbo still wondering what happened. I actually dont have a break up story to tell lol
Ely Liscano
September 20, 2014 at 10:03 am
I have another question, do you think that me talking to his friend is not gonna help the no contact rule? he told me he doesnt talk to him about me, and i told him not to tell him anything about me or how im doing. But i dont know if he is telling him stuff. Apparently he told him that the only reason he was still talking to me was because of my other friend, which is a lie.
Cailtin
September 16, 2014 at 3:44 pm
A year ago, my ex broke up with me because he believed that I wasn’t the one. We kept in contact over the school year, maybe a conversation every two weeks or so and we snap chatted all the time. He’s big into Snap Chat. We kind of stopped talking over the summer minus some sporadic conversations. I went up to campus on the weekend of our 1-year anniversary break up (it was our alumni weekend) and he avoided me, moped around, didn’t speak to me, ignored me in public except to give me a hug before I left and then blocked me on Snap Chat the day after, but not Facebook. How is it that he could resent me still after a year? Or that thoughts of me could still annoy him after a full year? I haven’t done anything to upset him.
Cailtin
September 22, 2014 at 10:04 pm
Not recently. The last time we texted was early in August when he needed to borrow something of mine and we hadn’t communicated since. Everything was fine then. I could tell he was uncomfortable when he saw me, like he had feelings for me that he didn’t want to have, if that makes sense. I acted like I was fine. When I saw him a few weeks ago, at the alumni event, I acted like I was having a really good time and he clearly wasn’t. I guess I don’t see why he would block me since he broke up with me in the first place, we hadn’t been talking and I don’t think I did anything outright to upset him. I was wondering if you had any insight.
Cailtin
September 24, 2014 at 9:20 pm
The last time I blocked him on Snap Chat was to try to get over him but I caved after two weeks of having him blocked. So far, he has had me blocked for three weeks now but not on Facebook still.
admin
September 17, 2014 at 4:06 pm
Did you two ever text message back and forth?
Priya
September 6, 2014 at 7:30 pm
Hey Chris,
So I have been following your ‘no contact’ rule for 43 days and he hasn’t messaged me or called me yet. I was in a seven year long distance relationship with this guy and we broke up due to his family reasons. He didn’t block me anywhere during the no contact period but he has been active on instagram. I am guessing he was checking my profile too because he added a pic that was taken by me and had a caption “worst person took this pic (which was me)”. Anyways, but I noticed he blocked me on instagram yesterday which was weird to me. I am not sure why he did that but he didn’t block me in Facebook. And he did not block me in other applications which I think its because he deleted my number! I am so curious to find out whats going on in his mind!
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:59 pm
SEVEN YEARS LDR??? OMG
What was his reason for the breakup?
Priya
September 16, 2014 at 3:35 am
He wants me to convert in order to marry him and my family never agreed. He told me he tried to convince his parents to accept me but it never worked. But I feel he never fought for me in the first place while I was always pretty strong with my decision to marry him regardless of his religion. I tried to make him understand about my situation but he kept on forcing me to convert. I felt too much pressure and called him, told him not to contact me unless you can accept me as who I am just like how I accepted you .. And he never called me since that day… He actually started to hate me as I can see with all this comments and actions … so I am deeply hurt by all this and I am not even sure what will happen! 🙁
Priya
September 7, 2014 at 1:34 am
Oh yea… after blocking me on instagram …he puts a pic of another girl and gives a caption “I want a girl like this ..I can’t believe i was with an ugly girl all this time” … wits the point of doing this if i can’t see the pic? his intention was to hurt me i believe.
P.S. my friend came across that pic and told me about it 🙁
Priya
September 7, 2014 at 4:56 am
Also do you think I should message him? Because everyone is telling me to just message him and get it over with :/
nonys
September 6, 2014 at 3:56 am
Blocked my ex after a bad fight on whatsapp and after 2 days I see that he blocked me back. He said some really mean and degrading things right before I blocked him so I didn’t take it and talked back to him and broke things off and it just made me sick having to deal with him being suspicious over what I think are little things when Im not doing anything (such as using my words in a way where he’ll think i let something slip or me not picking up the phone or me not receiving a txt from him) he has not been perfectly faithful throughout the time we were together, yet he would also put me through hell over things when it came to me. I know that in the long run this relationship wouldnt be a strong happy relationship after the continuous struggles we’ve had. I used to be so depressed and pine after him whenever things happened between us, but now Im just disturbed and kind of oddly confused (I dont know if I should use the word confused or spazzed, but basically just kind of like an electric shock had just hit you and you’re kind of just in a very odd weird what state). i think it just feels weird having a bridge so badly burned in my life because im usually a friendly person that just gets along with friends and i dont like the feeling of drama and negative endings that last. It’s also like Im not with him but Im still paranoid about certain things as if we are. we also share mutual friends and have mutual acquaintances which just makes things even more complicated to deal with (of course people are going to eventually notice).
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:44 pm
What do you mean by not being perfectly faithful? What did he do?
Merry
September 4, 2014 at 2:12 pm
We had a difficult 3 years relationship and many times used NC and it works for me. But yesterday I was admitted that I love him and want to deepen relations, he rejected me and told me that he doesn’t love me and will doing me a favor by blocking me. And he do it on Facebook and wish me luck.
I am powerless to do anything because I really love him and wanna fight for this love or just give up.
admin
September 5, 2014 at 11:58 am
Do you still have his number.
Merry
September 5, 2014 at 12:06 pm
Yes, I have his phone number. But what is the matter, if he don`t want to see me. Maybe he feels me like a crazy girl, obsessed about him :/
admin
September 15, 2014 at 2:19 pm
B/c you aren’t fully blocked by him if he hasn’t blocked your number.
Rose
September 4, 2014 at 3:38 am
My ex is weird as heck. We went from him saying he wanted our relationship to be his last relationship, wanting to buy a condo together, spending christmas with his family, going to baby showers and weddings together to just walking away like nothing happened. He claimed I was too defensive and he always seemed to be pushing my buttons. About 3 months of no contact after our breakup I passed by to drop off something he left in my apartment. I just dropped it off and left. That weekend I asked if he wanted to meet up so we could talk because the breakup left me with more questions than answers. He said, “if this is about us, I should let you know I am seeing someone”. Then a week later we came face to face in the subway and he walked past me like he never knew me. 2 months later he messages me to tell me it was never his intent to disrespect me and hes sorry and if there are any other questions I have I should just ask. So he answers a couple questions and I realized that I should probably apologize for my side of things. I apologized, he didn’t respond. I thought maybe my one-sentence apology was “too little too late” so I wrote him an email explaining my behaviour in the past and apologizing again and I said I’d respect his need for space, but if he ever wanted to talk I’m here to listen, and that hopefully one day we can at least be friends. He deleted me off of Google+ and a few days later off of Facebook. I don’t get how my apology provoked him to delete me off of everything. I thought I was doing something positive by taking responsibility for my actions…
admin
September 4, 2014 at 12:28 pm
Possibly reminded him of how much he is hurt and him being hurt
Rose
September 4, 2014 at 3:41 am
Correction: He deleted me from his circles on Google+ then blocked me on Facebook a few days later.*
Linda
August 22, 2014 at 7:03 am
Hey, Chris. Very informative article, depressing but I prefer the truth and you were indeed truthful. My situation seems to be a little different from the usual. My ex and I have broken up a total of four times but this time I have been blocked from all his social sites and phone. We have had very good conversations and when things are good between us they are really good. I’ve always been a determined girl so I’ve always been the type to fight for the things I want. We are very similar and like, the only major difference is our beliefs. He has always been skeptical about pursuing a relationship with me. The first three times we tried dating, what we wanted or expected from each other weren’t clear but in the fourth try we decided to go all in, no restrictions. Despite our difference in beliefs we were very alike. What I don’t understand is why was I always giving up more and fighting more to make things work. I even considered converting. He knew my parents wouldn’t except but I didnt care because I knew if he was all I had, I’d been content. Anyway, our last break up he urged me to move on and find someone else to love because he didnt want to be with me because it hurt so much. I’m hurt too, but I never rejected him as much as he did me. He said he will always love me but talking to me was always too painful. He blocked me and deleted his accounts and a few days later called my phone (maybe attempting to block) and when I called back I was blocked. Will he come back or is he really done! He said this was the last time We would talk and believes that our numerous of breakups for a sign. He said he will never love again, which I find it hard to believe because he was really sensitive and talked a lot but would always go back on his words and feelings. but this one feels different. He said he cried every time he thinks of me, and that he just wanted a relationship that wasn’t complicated. I don’t think no relationship is uncomplicated, all require work and communication and patience. I don’t have his number anymore. Do you think I should move on?
admin
August 25, 2014 at 12:03 pm
Probably because he loved the fact that a girl loved him so much she was willing to convert or do things like that.
blake
September 1, 2014 at 3:53 pm
Hey chris, So i was living together for one year and 6 months with my boyfriend of 2years and half. we started off long distance and it didnt work out, to make it work, when we got back together we moved to my city, transferred college and left his family. This one year and half has been amazingly exciting and happy, despite all the arguments we have about stupid things. I know we are both too young, we are still trying to figure out lives out and in the process of learning how to treat the one you love. I left the country for 1 month and half, and he as well went back to visit his family in another state. 10 days before my flight coming home, he texted me that he needed a break, and he refused to have a phone conversation with me, so the break up texts turn into a texts war. In the end he said do not contact him, he wants to be friends with me from a distance, and he will find me when he is ready. I havent called, when i arrived home i saw that he took all of his stuff and left me a mess, based on what he told my friends, he is angry at me tho i dont know what the hell he could be angry about. 2 weeks later i texted and asked “what is the password to the….” and he blocked me. it has been 21 days, i havent really reach out because i feel very disappointed and hurt of course. I am doing this no contact thing. but i feel like he is even going to block my phone number if i try to reach out at the end of my 30 days period. One fact that i know, he loves me to death and he would want to have another chance with me in the future, but of course, He is a IDIOT! to handle thing in this ridiculous way! Do i still reach out? or do i wait infinitely until this idiot realize that he fucked up big time? And if i do reach out, would i be too much that i just fly there and go talk to his stupid ass?
admin
September 2, 2014 at 1:27 pm
I say wait until he realizes what he lost 🙂
Linda
August 22, 2014 at 7:18 am
A little extra info, we’ve only known each other for approximately 4 months! All of this happened in a 4 month time frame.
msnikki
August 17, 2014 at 7:10 am
my bf broke up with me last aug 10th, i kinda provoke him by making him jealous. and i feel bad about it and i know it is not a smart thing to do. but he said he is done with our fighting.after he broke up with me, he unfriend me on facebook but didnt block me, he just blocked me on instagram, i can still see his profile because its on public and he is still friends with my friends, and he havent deleted the pictures that we had, not sure if he blocked me on his phone, i havent tried calling him, the last day we texted was sunday after that he didnt text anymore, i texted him again on wed then again on friday, then today saturday. i just told him i didnt go out with the guy hes being jealous of.. he didnt reply any of these messages, im not gonna text him tomorrow till next week, the whole week, its his finals i dont want to distract him and its my finals too, im still friends with him on snap chat but the 3 pictures that i sent he havent open it yet, and im still friends with him on skype, i can see hes online.
,, so im not sure if hes doing this for revenge and give me a lesson, this is the longeat time were fighting. 1wk and longest time he ignored him, before we broke up and we didnt talk for 5 days, but he never blocked me like this before. is it a bad idea to got to hia place next week? and after no contact? i wiil talk to him to work it out but if not i just want my stuffs back and ill return the things he gave to me, because i dont want any memory of him while im
moving on. so im 50/50 on this, im still hoping we’ll get back together but idk if he will.. 🙁 they say he will come back he just needs space so his anger will settle down but idk
sam
August 14, 2014 at 1:22 pm
hi there , well my boyfriend block me but he just recently unblock me from facebook , I been block for only three weeks and I find out about it cus the picture I was tag start appering in my profile and I check his profile after that and it looks he have all our pics together in all his facebook , what is the meaning of that , should I contact him or wait a little more to see if he reach me , and my no contact rule finish the 17 of this month plz help
admin
August 15, 2014 at 2:31 pm
Wait, he blocked you and then unblocked you?
Rayann
August 13, 2014 at 7:25 pm
I’ve been blocked on Facebook and WhatsApp, and I’m pretty sure he blocked my phone too. My ex and I had a really good relationship, but he recently made the decisions to move quite far away. He said he has been trying to come and see me, but he’s just too busy with everything that has been going on in his life, so I gave him plenty of space and time. I felt like I was being super supportive. Anyways, I decided to show up at his house after 6 weeks of no being able to get together to see him. That’s when he told me that he just can’t see anyone right now because his life is upside down. He said he would come and have lunch with me the next day. When he didn’t show I asked what happened and he through a hissy fit, saying that showing up at his house was disrespectful. I think he is playing the victim, like I hurt him by forcing him to break up with me. The next morning he blocked me, although I hadn’t tried to get in touch with him, I thought it was best to let him cool off. He moves in 2 weeks, and I’m not sure if I’m ever going to see him again, but because everything was good in our relationship I was hoping we could remain friends. Was planning on going no contact anyways, but I’m wondering if once he gets settled in his new location if he will eventually unblock me. I guess I just have to wait and see if he ever gets in touch.
Rayann
August 14, 2014 at 4:09 pm
I guess my question is, do some men choose to block their ex-gfs in the No Contact Rules Phase in order to prevent even indirect contact, such as checking out their facebook profiles? I think he may have done this with an ex-gf before and they are now friends again (even though she cheated on him). Once his anger settled, he got back in touch with her.
admin
August 15, 2014 at 2:35 pm
I don’t think its out of the realm of possibility
Rayann
August 19, 2014 at 11:19 pm
Update: He has unblocked me on his phone and on Whats App (if he had indeed blocked me on those at all, I never actually tried contacting him on them as I am maintaining no contact). The block on facebook still remains, to my current knowledge. It’s only been a week. I am confident he will unblock me once his move is complete and he has settled in. I think this measure is just for himself, so he can maintain focus. He has so much going on right now.