What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Ali

July 5, 2015 at 9:35 pm

Hi! So my ex and I broke up about 3 months ago. We were trying to be friends then he was sending me pictures of his body on Facebook. That caused an argument. I deleted him as a friend and now he has blocked me. What does that mean?
Vanessa

July 3, 2015 at 8:43 am

Chris please email me I would like some advise from you Im in a very sticky situation.

Chris Seiter

July 9, 2015 at 12:10 am

Hi Vanessa,

Thanks for the comment.

Unfortunately I am no longer doing free email consultations.

I will be releasing coaching in the future though.

Awesome

July 2, 2015 at 11:48 am

Chris-

Nice work buddy, you nailed it. Said it way better than I could, listen to him Ladies, he knows what’s up

Chris Seiter

July 9, 2015 at 12:18 am

Thanks… Your… AWESOME 😉

Lis

July 1, 2015 at 5:27 pm

Hi Chris, I need your help. I have been blocked by my ex in every way possible, and I don’t know what to do. Let me explain. I meet him 20 years ago I was just 17 and we fell in love, he was 20. We wanted to get married and everything was perfect till my father told me that my ex didn’t wanted to marry me, I was upset and decide to let him go. 3 weeks later he moved away and I never saw him again till 2012 when I found him on Facebook. We became friends but by then we had our own life, I loved him 20 years ago and I love him now. He has been the love of my life. Well in May I send him a message thru Whatsup and he responded, we stared talking and one thing let to the other and we decided we still love each other but there was a little problem, we were both with someone else. We both wanted to leave our partners and be together, he assure me that I was the love of his life. We talked everyday and message every minute, I live in the States he lives in Italy. To make story short, Saturday I had to take my mom to the ER she was really sick and I was super worried, he called me that night and told me that he would call me the next morning because his gf was not going to be there, Well doctors told me Sunday morning that my mom may have Cancer and I was in shock, I was felling desperate. I massage him on Facebook and I ask him if we could talk, he say Sorry love I won’t be able to speak to you today she is home.. We had 3 fights before because of the same thing, and he keep telling me that we would come here and leave her but I was not sure anymore.. That Sunday morning I made a mistake of sending him a message saying that it was over that he didn’t love me and for him to stay with her. He didn’t replay and that got me angrier, I believe I was not myself that day, I needed him to just understand that I was acting like this out of fear, anyways, I send him more messages each one of them more mean and rude, I am not proud of that, then around 5 pm I realized that he has block me, from everywhere. Me and all of our friends we had in common. I try everything, I went crazy and I do believe that I was that Psycho Girlfriend you mention here, Honestly I didn’t know what to do, I even though of doing something crazy to myself because I couldn’t take it.., Anyways I change numbers and decided to let him go.. with my new number I have a new whatsup and he was in it of course I send him a final good bye message and I even ask him to blocked me when he was done reading it, He didn’t all day yesterday , but this morning again I saw he blocked me. I apologize to him yesterday for the things I say and did but he did not replay. Now I know he will never talk to me again.. and I don’t know what to do. Can you please HELP Me!!!!!
Shanice

June 19, 2015 at 6:33 pm

Hi Chris
Sorry to bug you, but I would just like to clarify that I’m on the right track. Me and my boyfriend broke up, clearly and instead of begging (which I think he was expecting) I done NC, after day 8 I now noticed that he has unfriended me on facebook.. is this worse?
I’m guessing the reasoning for this is to is the ones you’ve mentioned above such as anger/hurt ect, however since I wasn’t unfriended right away I feel that maybe I am now in a worse position than what I was 8 days ago? could he be more angry/emtional then he was then? or I am completely wrong and NC is working…
anyway thanks for all your lovely help, I hope this works on British boys too haha
Shanice
Shawn

June 13, 2015 at 4:05 am

Chris, I really messed up! In fact I have been fully blocked out and I thought I would get a google number to try to reach him when this website came up and I started reading it, I thank you so much!
My ex has a new girlfriend and as much as it hurt to think that him and I were really over and to see all there cute pictures on FB it is killing me even more being totally blocked and not a part of his life at all! I don’t want to be that phyco ex GF but am scared I might have all ready earned that label. I regret what I did and I would give anything if I could go back into time and take it back!!! I just don’t want to be completely blocked from his life, it kills me that after 5 years I am not apart of him!
Asap

June 12, 2015 at 8:09 pm

What would be helpful is a section on initiating contact over Facebook. Its a little different then txting because the person might not see it right away, and there is also a different attitude in terms of responding to Facebook messages rather than txt messages. Facebook is my only option right now. Please help.
Harley babe

June 12, 2015 at 3:12 pm

Hi, i wish I had found this article sooner. I caught my bank cheating. I wanted to hurry him so I rwrites his things i also returned gifts and things that i wouldnt have had to return because i knew that would hurt him. I also send a rather mean text that huey his feelins bad. He blocked me. I panicked and sent the letter. Is the one letter really going to hurt me if I start the NC now and focus on myself. Which i have already begun. I truthfully dont even know if i want him back but, i am not ready for him to be out of my life. I at least wanted the chance to talk. Seriously confused!

Harley babe

June 18, 2015 at 2:37 pm

Yoy dont need to respond to my question. He unblocks me to tell me things and then blocks me again. I know he will unblock me at some point. The problem is I am not going to play these silly games and I dont care anymore. My advice to your readers is be careful how far you push someone away they might like it there. In some cases removing yourself from the situation gives you clarity to see what was a toxic relationship.
Harley babe

June 12, 2015 at 6:33 pm

Wow I see a lot of auto corrects in here. Let me correct them. I caught my boyfriend cheating. I wanted to hurt him so I returned his things, gifts and all. I also sent a rather mean text that hurt his feelings.

Amy

June 10, 2015 at 1:30 am

Hey Chris! I am hoping you can help me! I was seeing this guy that I met online and things were going good. We were getting along great. We had decided to do a long distance relationship because he had taken a new job. Well Sunday he tells me that he really likes me but I’m too guarded, due to my past, and that his feelings were hurt that I wasn’t more open and felt I needed to protect myself from him. This started an argument. The argument became a break up. He first said I was too guarded and then he said he wasn’t ready for a relationship and he was done. I of course messed up and became the clingy needy girl, which drove him to being mean and angry and saying he never wanted to see me again and blocking me on his phone. He is no longer on the dating site where we met and has no Facebook. So which is true, he isn’t ready for a relationship or I was too guarded? Also is there hope for us to get back together?
Josephine

June 9, 2015 at 8:01 pm

Hi Chris. Well first of all, I’ll try to communicate as best as I can, but I’m actually from Argentina and you may have trouble understanding me. Two years ago, I met a guy that approched me and my friends, with two other friends of his. We talked for a while but it didn’t meant anything. Actually he tried to hit on a friend of mine. Time went by, and one day, 3 months after that, I was told that one of his friends died in a car accident, and that friend was actually his steph brother. As he wasnt my friend or anything, I didnt contact him. But this January, during my Summer holidays, I saw him from the distance, and felt really bad for him. One night, I saw him at the club, I approached him, and we started talking. I felt something so weird. I could be myself, I didnt care making fun of myself and things of that sort. Anyway, at the begging I didnt even really he was interested on me. And then he seemed really really interested. After that trip, we started talking everyday while I was traveling with my family. We talked for three weeks. And it was fantastic. When I came back, he wanted to see me. The day we hanged out, I was really waisted. I said things that were a big turn off (I mentioned his flaws as if it were funny) but he didnt seemed bothered by it. After that, things were much ruined. He talked to me the day after, but he wasnt himself. He talked to me differently. So I was pretty mad, and thought he was never going to talk to me again. One week later after he came to see me. I went to a party, and there was a friend of his, that I met before, and had a big crush on him. He didnt knew I had a thing going on with his friend. And we kissed (I was really wasted). Anyway, I thought that everything was over with the other guy and that it wouldnt have any consequences. It did, he wasnt talking to me, and I wanted him to talk to me so bad. I think it was because he found out about his friend and I kissing. In someway, we never loose touch, he always came around somehow. Two weeks later, he saw me outside the club, and the day after he started talking to me again. We talked for about a week, and he asked me out. But when the time came, he didnt talk to me that day so the date didnt took place. Snapchat was the only social media where we interacted. When I didnt sent him anything we would talk to me. Last saturday it was my birthday, he told me happy birthday right after 12, and asked me where I was going out. On saturday night I saw him at the club. First, he was really interested, and then it was as if he tried to show himself not interested, but on purpose. It was weird. I said while wasted that we should be best friends or something like that, and I went past him without talking to him. On Monday, he sent me an snapchat, that I didnt reply because it wasnt only for me. Today, I found out he blocked me on Snapchat. Please help me. I really want to know how he thinks and how he feels. I know I must be seen as the bad one. But I wasnt like that. He really hurt me. I dont have his number cause I deleted it. And I once deleted him on Snapchat, and when I added him back, he had sended me a snap asking for my number since he changed his cellphone. But it was before he realized I had deleted him. Please help me Chris!
Jessica

June 9, 2015 at 5:56 am

Hi Chris,

I’m on day one of NC. He broke up with me on June 1st. He didn’t give a lot of information… He said, my heart doesn’t go pitter-patter for you anymore, I don’t want to lead you on, I have to figure out why I’m angry. He made a bunch of statements. I stood up, and left his house. I cried all the way home. He text me the next day. I said. you may feel a big sense of relief , but I am absolutely heartbroken. He said, that we was heartbroken too that he had been crying since last night and al day. We had a few texts back and forth. he asked if I missed him… I spent the weekend hiking and horseback riding. I put up a lot of photos on FB, all with me smiling and having fun. I finally cut off communication this morning. He called when I was driving to work. a time we usually spoke every morning. I let the call go to VM. then he text me a few hours later asking how I was doing. I ignored this too. I just discovered this evening that he blocked me on FB. I feel like I have hurt his feelings. I feel bad. I also feel like I got punched in the stomach. He is not vindictive. I want to keep up with the NC. How bad is it that he has blocked me from FB because I hurt him?

Jessica

June 19, 2015 at 7:39 pm

Now I’m on day 11. And I’m actually in an anger stage. I have been keeping up with NC. Now I am not sure if I want him back. So I’m moving on with getting myself in better shape and we’ll see after NC if I want to talk to him…..
Jessica

June 9, 2015 at 5:57 am

Oh. we have been together for 7 months…..

Amy

June 8, 2015 at 3:34 pm

Hi Chris! I love your website. It is very helpful. Thanks for taking the time to do it. Can you please help me? I am so confused by my ex. We met online and had been dating. Everything seemed fine. He said he really liked me and was talking about us staying together even though he was taking a new job that would take him away a lot. Saturday we met up, went on date and had a great time. I told him I would text him when I got home and he said that was great. I asked if I could text him Sunday and he said you don’t have to ask. Then Sunday he tells me that he likes me but I’m too guarded, due to my past, and that it makes it difficult on him to date me. He also said I hurt his feelings to a degree by feeling like I had to guard myself. I told him I would work on it. He responded with he just wasn’t ready for a relationship even though he thought he was. Then I went into clingy mode, yes I admit it. After my clingy mode I realized that didn’t help other than to make him mad and he told me he didn’t want anything to do with me. Now I’m blocked from his phone. He doesn’t have Facebook and he is no longer on the dating site that we met on. I know I hurt his feelings and that I messed up by freaking out. Can it be fixed? Can you help?
Joy

June 8, 2015 at 9:13 am

Hi Chris,

I’m currently doing the no contact period (3 days so far) with my ex boyfriend but his birthday is in 2 weeks and I would like to say happy birthday and ask if he would like to go somewhere for it but that also means I’ll be breaking the no contact rule. Help, what shall I do?
gee gee

June 4, 2015 at 9:35 am

hi Chris met my ex on dating website were together for 2half years everything was great about a year into relationship he broke his leg in two places . he lived 3 hours drive away from me i would drive to him on a regular basis more so when he broke his leg . i helped him out with bills food & shopping & i guess he became complaicent . soon after his recovery he stared a new job he bought me nice things & would remind me that i was his . he rarely travelled to see me . we both had kids but his didnt live with him. so i had to sort arrangements everytime i travelled. he often got moody & silent & would cheer up when i helped him out with a bill or bought him an expensive gift. i noticed he stopped communicating with me & blocked me on whats app when i called him he told me my bag i commented i was hurt & he would un block me . a month later he did. however a few months later he blocked me again but on the phone & whats app . when i challenged him he stopped communicating all together via email to. the last time i saw him was in april he fully blocked me in may. i feel used but i love him & feel very hurt . we did have some very good times i miss him . i want him back i cant explain it. i wrote him a note wishing him well i have heard nothing.

Harley babe

June 18, 2015 at 1:10 pm

No need to answer me. He unblocks me to tell me things and then blocks me again. So i know someday he will unblock me permanently. The problem is I’m not playing this stupid game and have already moved on. So here is what i have to say to your readers. Be careful how far you push someone away because, that person might just like it there.

Arica

June 3, 2015 at 1:28 pm

hi Chris! So I was dating a guy for about 7 months and we fell off because he thought I didn’t want him to spend time with his friends, which was not the case. Anyway, we broke up on May 5 but he continued to talk to me for the next week as if nothing was wrong. He would text me first everyday and talk to me all day long. And was flirtatious just like when we were together. BUT, I found out that he had re-activated his Facebook and blocked me during this time, but I didn’t say anything to him about it because I didn’t want to start another argument. I eventually asked if he intended on us getting back together. He said he really cared about me and thinks aboute all the time and wanted it to work but wasn’t sure if we would because he wasn’t ready to give up being with his friends. So that next week (may 16-24) it was different, I had to text him first and the conversations were not like they were the week prior. So I suggested that we see each other and hang out. I said that if he really still cared about me and wanted it to work we needed to see each other. He said ok and that we could hang out that next Monday (may 25). Well he ended up blowing me off to hang out with a guy friend that came into town that he hadn’t seen so I told him I was done because he blew me off and blocked me on Facebook(1st time I mentioned to him that I was aware of this) and that I know my self worth and that clearly he doesn’t care about me and that his number was being erased so there was no need for him to respond. We haven’t spoken since then, it’s been nine days. Facebook is the only social media he has so he can’t see that I’m out “living life” and not a couch potatoe, but his roommate is my friend on Facebook and Instagram. I am sure he will be the stubborn guy during NC….but do you think the fact that I’m blocked on Facebook will hurt? Thanks so much!
K

June 1, 2015 at 2:59 am

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend broke up with me after 9 months of dating.
He used to break up with me every time we had an argument – about every two weeks – by the end I was just not taking it seriously anymore and just kept going as if he hadn’t even said he wanted to break up.
We’ve had our issues, we both had been talking about trying to get a counselor help us work things out, but he always was too busy when I wanted to get serious about it. At some point I went on my own. The counselor said in our first session that he didn’t think there was anything much wrong with me and he wanted to meet both of us together. But even before that appointment could happen he broke up with me. Not in a fight this time. He was serious. He had been thinking about it and said, he couldn’t take it anymore. That I was a liar and sadistic and didn’t care about him and that he could never trust me and that he wouldn’t want to be with someone like me. It went back and forth for a few days, I thought a lot about things I had done during our relationship that he found very painful and I had to admit to be guilty of them in some way. In the end I tried to explain to him that some of my behaviors were not right, but that they were a reaction to his and he got really really angry. He said something like – I need to get away from your manipulation and shit. I think he has really convinced himself that I cannot be trusted. It is not true, of course. I don’t mean I don’t make mistakes. Sometimes I exaggerate, leave things out or twist things to make myself look better, but I do not lie about important things.
He said, he could never trust me, I would need a fresh start and then he blocked me of facebook.
I have been working hard (with my counselor) to understand everything that happened. I have learned a lot about myself and about him. Everyone keeps telling me I am better off without him. How controlling he was, how he didn’t treat me very well, how they couldn’t see themselves being friends with him. My counselor keeps saying “he is so flawed, so damaged from his previous relationships”. I have started to figure myself out, too. It is somewhat painful to dig up wounds and weaknesses, but it also makes me understand a lot of things I have been struggling with.
I know all these people have a point. But it doesn’t stop me missing him, missing his kids, that I build a relationship with, missing the dream of a life I was planning, but most of all just missing the million things we were connecting about. The million little things that nobody else seems to understand like him.
I haven’t contacted him for a month. How could I have? Him blocking me is the clearest sign, he really wants me out of his life. He is using the same dating site we have met on. I am, too. He has clicked on my profile twice. Once when I got back on and once more recently. Maybe he is thinking of me. Maybe he just clicked in the wrong spot. I checked his once when I reactivated my account. It’s been a month ago though and I haven’t done it since.
I know he really wanted to be with me. He really liked me. He was attracted to me physically and he felt understood in a way he never has before. But he just cannot trust, cannot give away some control of his life, well at least it is so hard for him. And now he has used all his will power to convince himself I am a bad person – bad for him.
I was so hoping he would miss me and come back on his own despite what everyone is saying. Sometimes, when we argued before, he disagreed with me at first and when he thought about it for a while it turned out he did listen and he even changed his mind. He just needed to figure it out himself. He liked me so much. I feel, if he wanted me in his life at all, if he had the strength to fight his demons, he would come back on his own.
I don’t think he blocked me from his phone, although I didn’t try. He still has a key to my apartment that I have to get back at one point. But I can leave it until I move out, there is no danger in him having it. I am still in touch with some of his friends. They have been really nice and making a point of not breaking up with me. One of them recently posted a cute happy picture of me on her fb, I guess he will have to see that. I hope anyways.
I guess I know there is nothing I can do. I think, if I contact him by text or any other way, he’ll just convince himself that he needs to get away from my deceitful, manipulating ways even more.
I know part of the NC rule is to figure out the possibility that you shouldn’t get back with your ex and I guess that’s what I should have been doing. And believe me, I see all the bad stuff he did to me. But he didn’t want to hurt me. He just is so hurt himself. I know I can’t fix someone. I know I know. But he really is a good guy, he deserves to be happy and I wanted to be happy with him.
Any advice?
Urmi

May 31, 2015 at 8:58 am

HI Chris,

You probably will not find anything new in my love story. I have been dealing with break-ups since the last one decade. It gets extremely depressing for me and I struggle hard to not think of any extreme steps, and by God’s grace, I have managed to overcome it all. I had my last break up about 2 years back and I never contacted the guy again, but was recuperating from the hurt he caused me. In February 2015, I started chatting with this ex-colleague of mine (we were in the same office earlier but never really connected then) and hit it off quite well.

He too had a miserable break up in October 2014, when his fiancé called off their wedding all of a sudden. Now when we started chatting, it went really well. You know – hours of whatsapp chats, numerous long calls every single day.

He started falling for me, and gradually with the kind of affection he started showering me with, even I developed feelings for him. By April 2015, we were in love, in a relationship and there wasn’t one morning, evening or night when he will not want to talk to me. If he ever was busy or could not answer my call, he would immediately send a message on whatsapp and inform me of the same.

We met on 2 May 2015 at his place, made love, and it was so good. But 4 days later, we had a nasty fight, for which I am to be blamed. I reacted in a very disgusting manner. He had been really patient with me all through, but this time around, I probably hurt him real bad, for he said “I am done with you”.

I tried to resolve matters, met him the following weekend again and we were in the middle of making love when he suddenly just pulled back and started saying weird things like – “what will you do if we don’t get married and we break up- will you blackmail me, or try to harm yourself; my family has always supported me no matter what I do and I don’t want them to contact your family and say any nasty things to your parents”. It was somewhat weird.

Anyhow, I came back and he did call me about 5-6 times the same day and the next day too. But since then, I have not heard his voice. I called him numerous times, he did not answer. Sent text messages and whatsapp messages, and he occasionally responded saying he is extremely busy with his brother and will call me once he’s free. He called once – about a fortnight back, but I missed his call. When I called back the next day, he again did not answer.

Last week, he got very annoyed with my messages and calls, and said “Please don’t call or message me”. And although I was shattered, I told him we’ll talk when he has the time and hence, I did not contact him for the next 5 days.

I was missing him so much, I called him last night and sent a couple of messages on Whatsapp too, but he did not respond to any. Now I think he has blocked me on his phone and whatsapp (phone doesn’t ring and msgs on whatsapp don’t get delivered).

These were the only ways in which we used to communicate. I panicked and searched for help online. Read your article and it has calmed me down a little.

But I need your help a little more – please let me know how long should I wait before contacting him again. I try my best to engage myself in my worklife as much as possible, but then it gets very difficult knowing that my personal life isn’t going well. He hasn’t really expressly said that he wants to break up with me and last week when I asked him if he does, he said “Think whatever you want to, for now I have a lot of work to do. Please let me focus on the same”.

We do have a few office colleagues who are mutual friends. But no one is aware of our relationship till now and I am not sure how well he would take it if I divulge the details now.Please help and suggest the best way to handle this situation.

Urmi

August 5, 2015 at 9:43 pm

Chris,

I recently found out that he has a new girlfriend. I recently joined FB and Instagram and he is not on my friend’s list anywhere and his profiles were private till now. He accidentally made his Instagram profile public and I saw his pics with his new girl.. read their mushy comments.

Some men can be such liars.. Before he stopped answering my calls/ msgs, he kept telling me that he is busy with his brother in some business deal. I would often catch him online on Whatsapp and he would still not respond. And all this while he was cheating on me with this girl.

All that he wanted was to get some physical pleasure and he left just like that.. into another girl’s arms. The thought is just so devastating. It was like a trap… what he did to me.. and I just don’t know what to do.

Used, ignored, dumped and blocked – that’s what defines my relationship with him. It breaks my heart to know that someone who would talk about marriage and make honeymoon plans with me, took no time at all in jumping into another relationship. Please suggest something.. I wrote my first message around last week of May 2015.

Thanks in anticipation.
Urmi

July 3, 2015 at 7:57 pm

So Chris – after all the Whatsapp messages I sent, my bf finally blocked me on Whatsapp on 10 June 2015.

The extent of the block – I really don’t know. I did not try calling him even once since then. No more messaging. I did think of using a different phone/ number to text him again, but chose not to. So basically I was in the no contact period (one he forced on me by blocking me).

Now more than 3 weeks are over. Yes, I did visit this website and tried following your advise in the hope to get him back. But now I really don’t know if its worth it.. if he is worth it..

I did spend some time during these 3 weeks thinking about the text message I will be sending to him once the NC is over. But I just couldn’t think of anything. I don’t know if something is wrong with me, but I just feel I deserve better.

I am a little confused, for I no longer want to initiate the conversation and make him think like I am dying to establish contact again or be with him. The only thing that I really want right now – is to know what went wrong.. what I did wrong to deserve the hurt he subjected me to. Coz that’s one question I cannot find a definite answer to. And anyway what do I tell him.. how should I break the ice? There’s nothing that I could think of that would excite or interest him once again and make him want to talk. And the last thing I would want is for him to act pricey again and continue ignoring me again.

I do love him. But I cannot compromise on my self respect anymore. Especially when he left no stone unturned in making me feel as if he never loved me and was only interested in playing with my feelings or simply getting physical. He made me feel so cheap about it all.

Please do suggest if you have something in mind Chris.
Urmi

June 7, 2015 at 1:44 pm

I confided in a close friend and I am so.. so glad I did. I feel so light. Although it is difficult to resist the urge to contact him again, but once you realize its not worth the effort, you feel so much better.

I have made several efforts to get him back.. apologised even when I wasn’t wrong.. sent voice messages and what not requesting him to talk and resolve the issues… now the ball is in his court. If he responds, good enough, else it simply is his loss. I am too good for him anyway! Besides, what are the chances he will not ill-treat me again in future even if he comes back?

Hannah

May 27, 2015 at 6:38 pm

I’ve had three boyfriends. My second ex randomly blocked me on Facebook a few months ago, after not speaking to him for about two years. We were just living our separate lives. He added me on Facebook first, then I accepted but he immediately blocked me. I feel like it was a just a game. Why would an ex do that years after the break up?
A couple of weeks after that, my first ex who cheated on me and is now engaged, blocked me on Facebook, despite not speaking to him for about 3+ years! I don’t know what’s going on!
Jenny

May 21, 2015 at 11:56 pm

Hi Chris

Do you think the NC rule could work for an online romance? I was talking to a guy for 2 months, we would text/ talk on the phone. When he became distant I became frustrated and told him I didn’t want to talk anymore (he didn’t text me for 11 hours). I blocked him and immediately regretted it. I text him after and he replied saying “he needed space” so I went into full on clingy/ desperate/ cringeworthy panic mode, I really like him, we were planning to meet the following week. I only sent the message about blocking him because I was upset and honestly I wanted him to prove he wanted the relationship to work as much as I did, , immature I know! After I blocked him I noticed he was using the dating website again (the same one we met on). I was really hurt and emotional, I ended up messaging him once a day for 2 weeks telling him how much I miss him, I told him if he was tired of my messages he should block me but he didnt so I continued.

Out of the blue he messaged me telling me he was deleting his online dating profile and that II should find someone and be happy” and that he “wouldn’t be back anytime soon, hopefully”
I messaged him back telling him what a horrible person he is for leading me on, he told me he hasn’t met anyone, he just doesn’t want to be with me. We messaged back and forth over the next few days, he told me he lost interest in me because I sent too many messages and that “I tried too hard”. I explained to him i was confused about where we stood but he wasnt interested. He kept blaming me for the fact he didn’t want to continue. We got into another row and i blocked him on whatsapp, he text me to tell me he’d blocked me too. The following day I apologised, he apologised too but said its “time to move on”.

Do you think he means it? I’m really confused, we got on so well before my temper tantrum. I thought he’d give me another chance, I’ve given him plenty :(. If we met I knlw we’d be perfect for each other but now hes lost interest I don’t think this can be fixed :/. What do you think?

Chris Seiter

June 1, 2015 at 6:22 pm

Of course it can!

Koko

May 16, 2015 at 8:25 pm

Hi Chris , Thank goodness I found your articles when I needed The Most! because I recently Broke up from 2yrs long relationship. I am going through really sad phase. It’s has taken lot of time and effort to make this relationship work ( There is a reason for me to mention this ) . We did have a lot of arguments & a lot of differences in approach to how our future life should ( A typical couples disagreements ) . And One thing I felt from this relationship which I just came out from was that… I was not completely happy ( Um.. I do not know how to explain that however YES I WAS NOT HAPPY ) I think I’m not supposed to say what made me feel that ( It would look like I’m being mean to talk this openly ) however This person whom I thought in beginning of our relationship was THE ONE. I mean I was “head over heals” in love type. As Days went by, I came to realization & getting to know more about This Person that “He was not THE ONE for me. ( though I kept lying to myself that he is perfect however he was and I never acknowledged my true gut feelings about how things were going ) I supressed every bit of my feelings about I exactly felt. I did not want to lose him is what My mind kept telling me. Also He was having high expectations from me ( Like how I have to be dressed , How I looked , How I spoke , um.. I mean the list goes on…) He was not happy bout me that he wanted to change to Someone I wasn’t and could have not possibly become. Even though I did my best to impress him and Not to disappoint him. In spite he would still find something wrong to point out and give advice on it. And One more Important thing I did not appreciate about was him being very lazy and laid back to an extent where I felt like ” Is he being conceited or what is it ” He never kept his promises. Overall I felt in this relationship that I was not being treated The way I was supposed to be treated. I felt I was taken granted and been disrespected on many occasions ( I have many many occasions to list out to tell you in detail however it will take too much of time ) And One thing I did mention earlier that I felt disrespected.. Well rather I say it as I lost little bit of trust in him When he told me bout an occasion where One of our mutual friend ( she) made a move on him & that hurt me because They were close friends. I felt awful. Oh I mean my sad story continues so long that I hope you don’t get tired reading..
SO… Let me conclude this My story little quick now.. There were times ( to be exact 4 times ) Where he gave up on me and wanted to leave me nd Go..( Reason : I questioned him whenever things seemed not right .. which he didn’t like me questioning him) and everytime he did that I would go approach him nd resolve it . What made me to do so was I fought so hard with my family ( especially My Dad ) Since this committed relationship and we were planning to get married. I was more committed and serious bout this relationship. But In the end… it turned out this bad that I decided this time I come out of this toxicity which was hurting us both. So Finally an official final break up happened just last week and You know whats kinda making me think that This person told me during our last conversation that He will visit me to speak up nd will fight for my decision to change and said he loves me always. ( He blocked me on all media sites except 2 apps Pinterest+ Instagram ) AND I was do clueless what was going on until I found your blogs & articles today which was most needed to get clear thought process of everything which I’m going through now. Thank you so much Chris! for sharing your words. I’m sure it would helped most women out there seeking answers. ( P.S I feel little depressed bout The break up NOT that I want to get back with him though I strongly feel I made The Right Decision.
Regards,
Koko

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