What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

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Someone

October 17, 2020 at 3:00 am

Hey its me again i’m blocked..again..but this time nothing was going on we didn’t get into a heated arguement i just asked for space since i made a mistake and ask about how he feels (which he said his feeli for me are weak) what do i do what if this means he’s just done with me and just dont wanna talk and forget about me and even if i text him he probably won’t answer why would he block me..i just asked for space
Sarah

October 12, 2020 at 3:21 am

Well we got into an argument about where we were headed (as in relationship) as he changed the rules on me into “friends”. Ive never received a proper answer btw.
Yet, still continues to pretend to act like he wanted a relationship. “I just wanna see where this goes” non committing b.s.
Ive asked several times and ended up more confused. So, I asked for clarification one last time…
He went in so many circles even Gaslighted me on what he had said 10 seconds prior!! “I dont remember what I said” (p.s he said something about exploring other people) lol anyway I was upset as he was getting angry, trying to confuse and push blame. I hung up on him as I said “im done right now..im just done”. I didn’t answer when he tried to call me back 4 times.
So he blocked me!
Seriously! The chicken sh*t blocked me!
I’ve never been blocked before…
I think hes punishing me as well as trying to avoid any responsibility.
Thoughts?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 23, 2020 at 3:25 pm

Hi Sarah, it sounds as if you are in more of a friends with benefits situation where you haven’t quite got him invested in the relationship and he got all the perks of a relationship before hand. This is common and when you try to get more of a commitment they leave. I would suggest that you go into a No Contact and work through the articles to help you understand the program and how to follow each step correctly.

jam

October 7, 2020 at 5:13 pm

My LDR fiancee ..now ex I guess has Blocked me completely ///we had a discussion that turned into a very heated discussion and I broke up with him by anger ,but few hours i did apologize ti him but he didn’t accept and he told me that he need personal time space and then he’s asking for space to think n focus for his self only. After that he remove all our photos in fb,ig.then completely blocked me. I don’t know what to do. Please advise me.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 8, 2020 at 8:43 am

Hi Jam, it can be difficult but you do need to let him have some space to calm his emotions. Follow the rules of no contact, and work on your holy trinity in this time

Marcia

October 6, 2020 at 10:43 pm

Dear Chris, dear Shaunna,

My last post was 11 March, when my ex had unblocked me on messenger for just a week, (in which I did not reach out) then he blocked me back.

Fast forward to now, he just unblocked me, being 6 months later. Maybe he sets a reminder every 6 months, to unblock me…

In this time I have changed, and the pandemic has made me feel that I don’t need him any longer. Life is difficult enough disinfecting everything all day, without a boyfriend on top of my head.

So I am keeping a steely attitude and will not message him. But why does someone unblock me after 6 months? I don’t understand it. I hope he won’t message me, as it will feel too ackward after 6 months of silence…
Nadia L

October 1, 2020 at 11:27 pm

Hi,

I recently was told by someone I was seeing that we needed space. During the space period I kept sending him messages about how angry I was and now this week he has blocked me on his phone. I got him to call me before he blocked me and he said he didn’t want to get back with me and that it was over. I feel like my life is over what can I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 2, 2020 at 8:20 am

Hi Nadia, you need to follow a 45 day No Contact or at least until you are unblocked. In that time you need to work on yourself, working through the Holy Trinity and Ungettable information on this website

Jackie

September 30, 2020 at 7:52 pm

My boyfriend of 9 months has been the perfect gentleman, no arguing fighting just hanging out and enjoying each other’s company.( he’s 50)
Got intimate after about four months, he then stared pushing me away physically about a month ago, but still cuddled held hands and went out. He then drops the bombshell by text that he’s just had a herpes flare up which is ex girlfriend from ten years ago gave him, he said he’d talk to me about it then refused to because he wasn’t ready, got angry at me so I walked out, tried to reach out to him by WhatsApp.. no answer, so then I say he’s disrespected my health and feelings by not telling me about it before sleeping with me unprotected, he messages back saying I obviously didn’t know him if I could think that he’d do that but thanks for my opinion, he thinks because he kept me safe that’s good enough.
I kindly turned down an offer to go away with him at the weekend which he had planned but told him to have a nice time, didn’t hear anything back, I then left him a message saying I was sorry I reacted that way and I’d come if he’d have me and we could talk, no reply then I discover he has blocked me on WhatsApp and probably phone and text… did I over react ?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 15, 2020 at 5:53 pm

Hi Jackie, no absolutely not! I think he should have told you before you first slept with him that he had a previous with herpes, this is an awkward conversation to have with anyone but he should have taken measures to make you aware of the risks. It maybe could have been dealt with in a calmer manner, but I agree you have the right to be upset

Kim

September 29, 2020 at 1:58 pm

Hi
So my ex contacted me after 8 months of our breakup. I thought the girl he was currently with so no longer in the picture. We spoke about why we ended and later that night he called me and told me that even though he may be with other people I’ve always been on his mind and he misses me and wants me. I told him that why is he saying this if he’s currently speaking to the same girl and he said that it was over the phone type of relationship in all these months he’s never met the girl. He wanted me to send him snaps of myself and i didn’t want to and told him no. He was very demanding and told me if i don’t then he’ll blocked and delete me off everything. He said this is a way of starting over again and i said no its not, we’d have to start from the very beginning again. He was really demanding for pictures and i said no and he said its his way or no way and he’ll get angry. I later just said goodnight and went to bed. In the morning i saw he blocked me on WhatsApp and unfollowed me on instagram.
All of a sudden he’s acting serious about this girl again and tagging her on instagram and commenting on each others pictures. I know he’s not serious about her by the way he is but why is he acting like he is?
I do still love him and have really strong feelings for him but i haven’t told him that as yet. I know in some way he also thinks of me and wants me but i can’t handle behaviour like that.
Will he unblock me and speak to me again?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 15, 2020 at 7:00 pm

Hi Kim, so it is up to you if you want to try to get him back but it doesn’t sound as if he is a good person when he threatens to block you and tries to manipulate you into doing what he wants, and when you say no he has a tantrum. He is also treating this other girl poorly based on what you have said. But if you want to try and get him back then you need to follow a 45 day No Contact and then follow the being there method.

Anonymous

September 14, 2020 at 11:11 am

Hey!

My ex an I broke up in April. He’s going through some personal stuff and didn’t wanna bring me down. I did the NC for over 30 days. We got back in contact and it was all positive. It felt like we were back together. When I last saw him, he said once this is all over, we’ll talk about getting back together and that he didn’t wanna jinx it too much. About a month ago, he organised to see me. 2 days later I msgd him asking if we’re still catching up and he Completely ignored me. And we haven’t spoken since. I tried for about a week and then decided to go back in to NC and deleted him off of Snapchat (which is where we started talking the most). On Thursday I msgd him to wish him all the best for the next day. I got no reply. (I re added him on snap chat). I tried to call him Sunday and he didn’t answer. Later that night, he deleted me off of snap chat and blocked my number. He’s never blocked my number. Do I just go back in to no contact again? He doesn’t have social media. Only snap chat. But I’m friends with his cousin and we also have mutual friends. Thank you!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 2, 2020 at 8:38 pm

Hey there, yes you need to go back into a No Contact for 45 days and then attempt to reach out after that.

Sazzy

September 5, 2020 at 11:51 am

Hi
So I’ve pretty much finished my no contact ..I’m still blocked on WhatsApp which is our main communication..but he texted me about our daughter this week..so I responded to those ..I was going to keep no contact for another week as he is away on holiday next week.he emailed me a ride picture no of him but a joke one 2 days ago ..I responded as it was to my work email and said he couldn’t send it to that email and he replied it wouldn’t send to my phone…I was going to say just unblock me on WhatsApp but I just left it.i haven’t heard from him since.i don’t know what to do or if I’m making any kind of progress at all?? I don’t know what to do next really.he us away for a week from tomorrow so I won’t be contacting him at all. I can tell he is at least less angry about the breakup but I don’t know at all if he wants to get back together or not .I don’t know what to do next
Anonymous

August 29, 2020 at 2:55 pm

Hi,

My ldr ex boyfriend and I broke up about 4 months ago. We had been together for 9 months. He basically randomly texted me about it and pushed me away due to stress. I implemented NC immediately and he would text me here in there. It wasn’t until about two months ago that he texted to apologize and admitted that one of his parents had passed away and he had just returned home from overseas. Since then he’s been texting me weekly or more, has said that he misses me and wants to come see me constantly, sending me photos, flirting and extremely responsive. Just a few days ago he even started calling me baby, telling me hes going to come visit me soon next month and not to worry, sending me photos of gifts ive given him. But, three days ago i responded to a text exchange about how a hurricane was doing around him and it seems as if im now im blocked or something potentially happened. Im just so confused and cant even fathom why. Things were going fine. Nothing was said or done by me to instigate this and his actions thus far have been extremely positive. I cant imagine that he had been purposely reeling me in this whole time, that just seems way too crazy. Ive been going back and forth on the why and a part of me is feeling so used and wants to block him but again that reason seems too insane and i may be overthinking? I also keep thinking of his behavior patterns from when he got stressed before and pushed away OR something happened to him. Any advice on this behavior and how i should push forward would be really really appreciated. Thanks a bunch.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 11, 2020 at 8:14 pm

Hey there, I can’t really tell you why you were blocked, but all you can really do is go into a No Contact for the time being and make sure that you do not speak to him or reply to him for at least 30 days,. It’s strange for him to block you if you were getting along fine and he has no reason. Make sure that you use social media to show you are doing well.

Sazzy

August 27, 2020 at 6:26 pm

Hi no I’ve not agreed to look after his dog..I ignored his email..I’m sure that his mum will contact me to see what days I can share looking after the dog.im just going to say to her I’m not able to as I’m working ..I don’t understand why he is even putting me in this situation when his mum can look after the dog full time.im going to a girlfriend this weekend for a night out ..I’m going to enjoy myself while I’m doing no contact .

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 10, 2020 at 8:06 pm

Thats the right attitude Sazzy, enjoy yourself!

Sazzy

August 25, 2020 at 11:54 am

Hi
I’m on day 14 of no contact ..my boyfriend broke up with me about a month ago . We fell out and he says enough is enough ..we have broken up before and this wasn’t as bad at all..we both don’t communicate very well. He blocked me on WhatsApp ..this is our main way of contact..but he has sent txts and emailed..the latest email was asking if I could look after his dog while he goes on holiday and that his mum would be in touch to firm up the details. I haven’t replied to it ..I’m going to continue with my NC but I just do not know what to make of this situation at all.any advice? Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 27, 2020 at 4:15 pm

Hi Sazzy, ideally you would not have looked after his dog allowing his mother or someone else to take care of that for him. If you already said yes, try to make sure you communicate with his mother and not him so much

Emski

August 24, 2020 at 7:15 am

Hey!
Ive just Broke up with someone after 7 months of on and off dating. At the beginning he was the forward one and after a bit of time he confessed to not being ready and it was all going too fast so we split for a month but he contacted me and came back. It’s been up and down as he has never wanted to take the next step of commitment and has been honest that he struggles with that because of past relationships etc.
The problem with this is that when we are together it was perfect but when we spent time apart I did feel a bit “out of sight out of mind” because he didn’t always put the effort in.
We have never really argued And only had a bit of a disagreement about social media recently and it does seem to just work with him and I was happy eventhough it always seemed that he was not ready for the next step (I wasn’t in. A rush if it was the right person). A few days ago he messaged apologising for ‘messing me around and that it wasn’t working for him and he needed closure’ and before I could reply I have been blocked on WhatsApp and Instagram – but not Facebook Messenger.

I’m not sure what to do next – I don’t want to feel a fool or just played for convenience and timing but I do think there is a genuine connection here. Any advice? 🙂

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 5, 2020 at 10:02 pm

Hey Emski, you need to go into a No Contact – 45 days minimum because you are blocked and work on yourself in that time. Read about your holy trinity and being ungettable and apply this to yourself. Then reach out at the end of 45 days if possible and you are unblocked by that time.

june

August 11, 2020 at 5:42 pm

My ex blocked me recently some 2 days ago reason is I acted crazily. We communicated for 6 months before dating for 3 months. We had a strong connection together but I found out that he was also flirty with other girls. I honestly felt cheated cause of the messages I saw on his phone. I overreacted and broke his phone. He also broke mine claiming he was hurt cause he’s phone is way expensive but then he never cared that he broke mine cause it was cheaper than his. We really had a great connection and common interests, we were so much into each other. Even after he said he dint want anything to do with me he still paid for my uber, allowed me to sleep with him on the same bed though we dint sex. soon after I got home I called to apologise but he said he dint want anything to do with me and told me never to contact him. He later blocked me on his phone and Instagram. I still want him back but I doubt If he’s ever gonna want to hear from me again. Please respond

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 11, 2020 at 9:00 pm

Hi June, if you work on yourself during this time, sticking with a minimum of 45 days NC and work on your Holy Trinity. Stop the “Crazy” behavior and show how you are working on yourself to be positive person. I suggest that you also show that you are casually dating people without getting serious when you feel up to it so your ex thinks that you are no longer waiting around to be with him.

Shilpa

August 11, 2020 at 9:13 am

My ex boy friend has blocked me many times
, and i have forgiven him all the time. He keeps repeating hurting me and it pains alot. I tried blockinv him too but then i unblock again thinking he needs my help. I dont knw wat should i do.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 11, 2020 at 1:53 pm

Hi Shilpa, I would suggest you block him and move on this sounds like immature behaviour to be blocking each other on and off. Cut it off and move one. You deserve better

Bre'Asia

August 6, 2020 at 9:51 am

Ok so my boyfriend recently broke up with me. About 4 days ago. The day before yesterday we talked but it wasn’t pleasant it was more so him trying to hurt me and make me feel sad on how he should block me and so on. Calling me crazy because I found who the girl he was interested in and basically left me for instagram page and looked. I mean I kinda did disrespect her and he found out. But at the end of that convo he blocked me so I decided to block him too. Now what’s weird is that I still kinda have contact with him because he only blocked me on instagram,not the other apps we communicated on like whatsapp,hangouts, and I still have his phone number. So I don’t know what that means. We were together 4 months. And he is still following my mom and my cousin on instagram and someone pointed out to me that maybe he wants to keep tabs on me or use me as a failsafe if this relationship goes wrong with the new girl. Now our relationship was also long distance.It also took him a few days after our break up for him to delete my pictures off his insta page(lazy probably) so idk if he hasnt realized if he hasnt completely blocked me yet,is just lazy ,or still wants to possibly have some sort of contact with me. Honestly,I dont really want to get back with him I just want to know if he will regret what he lost and feel guilty for how he treated me. So basically I want an unblock after not talking to him for a while but idk if that’s true because he already basically has a new girl. I’m not sure what to do,its pretty messy. Please respond back soon

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 8, 2020 at 11:31 pm

Hey Bre, I would say that you need to work on yourself esteem and confidence for some time. Where he has treated you badly and moved on quickly you need to show him what he lost! Read some articles about the holy trinity and being Ungettable. Stick to a 45 day NC before reaching out to him again and make sure that your focus is YOU right now.

Devi

August 6, 2020 at 8:06 am

Hi,
My ex bf and I broke off mid July when I asked for a discussion of what’s happening in our relationship. He seems so unhappy and uninterested with my presence but always wanted me to be around him. We have been fighting continuously, like every other week since our 1 year anniversary in May and I felt the distance between us was getting wider. I called for a discussion to understand what he is going through or if there’s anything that is bothering his mind. He flipped and left me to the bar only to get drunk. At 4am, he texted that we can’t be in this relationship anymore and that he deserves someone better, someone he wants. After a week, he texted me with anger and I choose to not reply knowing he is drunk. Again after a week, he told me tat he is recovering and will come to see me once he feels better. He said it is not advisable to start all over again, but he will come and meet me for the last time. It has already been a week ever since that text, and Im not sure if he said tat to just drag things or if he means it? He has blocked me everywhere (fb, insta, whatsapp) and my only source of communicating with him is through sms. It is ruining my mind so badly. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 22, 2020 at 4:29 pm

Hey Devi, you need to start following the program and especially focus on the Ungettable and Holy Trinity articles. Stick with a No Contact for at least 45 days

Kim

July 31, 2020 at 6:26 pm

Hi

So my ex and I broke up 6-7 months ago. In May I had unblocked him on WhatsApp to only realise he has a girlfriend (the third one since we broke up). I was really hurt i just deleted his number but didn’t block him. I unfollowed him of Instagram because I didn’t want to see things and get hurt and he unfollowed me as well. Since then we don’t have each other on any social media. Today (31 July) I realised he had blocked me on instagram and we dont even follow each other. What is the reason? I do want him back and I can’t really approach him because he will just make me a fool and boost his ego. I need him to realise his mistakes and contact me.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 1, 2020 at 10:51 pm

Hi Kim you need to follow the Ungettable information and make sure that you use social media to show that you are doing so this is how your ex is going to see changes and his interest is going to grow in what is going on with you and make him want to speak with you. However you may find that you have to reach out to him and break the ice. Read an article about how Chris suggests that you reach out for the first time after you have completed your No Contact

Justine

July 25, 2020 at 4:10 am

Hi, I was dating this guy for 2 months. Last week we met and he told me he would prefer to stay friends. That i’m great but he just doesn’t feel he misses me enough despite loving so much our time together our laughs our conversations… We continued to talk and went for a walk after. He said he wanted to take me to the beach with his friends (i’ve never met them before and we don’t have mutual friends either). I told him I wasn’t sure if i wanted to be his friend and he said lets see on saturday how it goes. Two days later, I was on instagram and added some of the people from suggestions. Didn’t realize one of them was his friend. The word got to him and maybe 2 hours later he sent me a message that I shouldn’t be adding his friends especially if I have pictures with my boyfriend (he was referring to a picture with male friend with who I went out for an activity). He also immediately blocked me on instagram. I was kind of shocked because I didn’t even realize that it was his friend so I called him. He didn’t really want to listen to what I had to say and I told him it was only an accident and i wasn’t trying to target his friends to get to him. He answered that he didnmt want to get in the way of the possible relationship with “my guy” (my friend in the picture). I had my voice shaking over the phone not understanding. He called off the activity to the beach. He said I needed space and it was better like this (talking about the activity and the blocking). I’m still confused. I don’t like to leave things unresolved or on a fight. We don’t have mutual friends so I cannot rely on that to influence him. I’m not sure how to see my odds (beginning relationship, the fact he wants to be friends and after the blocking…)

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 11, 2020 at 1:43 pm

Hi Justine, so he seemed a bit annoyed that you were with a guy so soon – so this is showing that he clearly cares, for now you should be following a No Contact anyway. If you are blocked everywhere you have to just go until you are unblocked, but keep using your social media to show that you are living your life regardless of him. He will use his friends to spy on you, or unblock you to see what you are doing with yourself. Read the articles about the holy trinity and being ungettable and apply this. Keep posting things of you and your guy friends too, let him worry that you met someone else, but keep them photos where he can question it not have a definitive answer.

F

July 23, 2020 at 12:55 am

Hi, it has been several months since our unofficial breakups (since end of February). But even after the breakups, we still managed to have conersations as usual as before until the Movement Control Order was carried out. A few weeks after the MCO was carried out, he began ignoring me, not replying to my texts (maybe because he is busy as he is a frontliner). I wanted to show some support and care for him, but then he mad at me and say that I’m treating him like a child and being immature. He also suddenly blocked me on Whatsapp and unfriended me on Facebook. Upon discovering this, I panicked and had spammed him with so many texts through Facebook Messenger, SMS and even Telegram (which I shouldn’t have done..). I really loved and cared about him, but then at some times I’m afraid that my presence itself can cause harm and hurt him. When the MCO was loosened a bit, I attempted to go wait and meet him at his workplace. Fortunately, I’m able to have a sleep with him for only a night but he is still mad and cold at me. The following months and weeks, I re-attempted to meet him again, but he don’t want to see me and not to disturb him again as he don’t like what I had done when I met him previously. I had also secretly buy some snacks and drinks for him and leave it in front of his door. The last attempt I am trying to meet him face to face is also unsuccessful, I’m very worried about him but yet he dont want to meet me and mad at me. It has been 32 days since then, and I had not making any contact or texting him messages. Luckily he unblocked me on Whatsapp for the last 32 days. But as soon as I try to say Hi to him yesternight, he directly blocked me again. What action should I take now? I really care and love him. And I believe he still has some feelings for me. I want him to know that I will always love him and care for him. Should I continue not making any contacts? Or should I try leaving some messages to him that it is painful if he keep avoiding me like this and I wanna really make peace with him?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

August 15, 2020 at 2:56 pm

Hey there, no you should not reach out telling him how it is painful not hearing from him. You want him to think that you have moved on with your life in that time. Use social media to appear Ungettable and that you have been living your life and do not reach out to him for at least 10 more days since he unblocked you, as you said he will just block you again. Read articles about how to reach out to your ex after a NC there are many on this website and there are also many videos to help you on Chris’ YouTube too

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