What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,569 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Sazzy

February 1, 2021 at 1:38 pm

We broke up a week before Christmas and have had no contact since..he blocked me on WhatsApp 12 days ago…i reached out to my ex after 40 days no contact. It was totally the wrong message..it was an emotional message about missing him and wishing the was here..due to my dad being in hospital with covid. I got a txt back saying he would be here in the back ground for them tho.and the break up my fault..he unblocked me on WhatsApp ( which is our main thing we use) but said If I talk about the past he would remove me .Now I’m not sure what to do..do I go into no contact again as I got such a negative response?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2021 at 5:32 pm

So as you broke the reach out type text, you need to re do the no contact, this time make sure that you stick with the program

Erika

January 17, 2021 at 10:36 am

Hello,
I met a guy like 3 months ago. He was obsessed with me, but not to much. He worked a lot to get my attention and my heart. I felt really good because i had a lot of relationships which ended so fast, it didn’t take long like 2-3 weeks…
We were so good in the relationship, both of us taught that this will last long. But that sad true is that this love started to fade away, because of quarantine. We didn’t saw each other for 2 months and that broke both of us. But now the school starts again, and we have chance to be together again. But the problem is that bot of us argued a lot, we were jealous a little bit, i taught this is normal. I was like “im gonna stay patient, we will met again and everything will be fine”. He blocked me. We were talking on the Instagram, and he blocked both of mine accounts, but before that happened, he was very upset on me, he said he is depressed and wanted me to stop talking to him. This broke me into million pieces. This happened 2 days ago. I was very sad because the one who i love the most was very broken, lost…

The truth is why I belive we should be together is because both of us helped each other in some way. I was depressed, i smoked a lot, but he tried to make me feel better, and told me to stop smoking bcz I have many health problems. I felt really special, and stopped smoking and being depressed.

I really want to make things work again, and Im fully ready to do anything what I can. I don’t want to lose this love.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 18, 2021 at 9:50 pm

Hi Erika, I think when you get to go back to school showing him how great you are doing and when he gets to have his social life back again that there may be a chance to work things out, for not follow the no contact rule for 45 days and keep focusing on yourself.

Sars

January 16, 2021 at 7:37 am

My boyfriend of 9 years spilt a week before Christmas.The argument was totally my fault,I’ve been under a lot of pressure as my mum is very sick and blew up and took it out on him.I apologized and asked him not to let it ruine Christmas..but he told me he was out of the relationship and leave him alone. I went straight into NC ..we have split up before and got back together and I have been blocked before and unblocked. I am now on day 26 of NC. I feel we had both been WhatsApp stalking each other this week- this is our main way to communicate. I wasn’t on WhatsApp last night at all. This morning I am blocked…I wonder if it’s to get a reaction of of me or he has decided we will never get back together? I see he has accessed my Sky account to watch TV last night too. He knows blocking me on WhatsApp will hurt me. Now I do not know what to do as I was going to finish my NC next week. But I feel now this is too soon as he obv blocked me in an emotional state.Do I go to 45 days? Or start again? Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 4, 2021 at 7:10 pm

Hi Sars, extend your No Contact to 45 days, keep working on yourself in this time.

marcia

January 14, 2021 at 2:29 am

Dear Chris, dear Shaunna, Happy and Healthy New Year!! And finally covid-free for the world, let’s hope !!!

3 months ago my ex unblocked me, but I did NC, and never messaged him. Then, I saw something on the web which would interest him. So I messaged him with an amusing question. I wasn’t expecting a reply, as my message was (as usual) sent, but not delivered. So I guessed, he still has me on ”message-ignore”, like always, for the last 2 years or so.

Suddenly, he replies next day, which proves, he could read ALL my messages, despite having them ”ignored”. So we started an easy-going conversation, which HE kept going for over an hour! I didn’t ask him anything important (nor did he). It was just light chit-chat. He stopped replying after an hour, and while I was also quite bored to keep our talk going. No romantic feelings emerged whatsoever, within the hour. Obviously, he knows that I know that I was blocked. But nobody dared to mention that subject….

Now I plan to do again NC for at least a month or two! Like you so wisely said, they only come alive if you decide you don’t need them! I know this is no great success. However I feel I won a tiny victory. I was surprised he replied and kept talking. After an outrageously rude interval of 8 months having me blocked, and never replying to anything.

Now what next? Since he doesn’t move any faster than a turtle, I don’t expect any progress. I guess a harmless way would be to contact him again in 2 months with another friendly message, just to test the waters 🙂
Amy

January 10, 2021 at 3:34 pm

Met a guy years ago in college. He treated me like what I’d consider a boyfriend (i.e., ran errands for me, always hugged, kissed my forehead and cheek, hold my waist, get jealous of other guys around me, compliment me, tell me things he didn’t tell others about his anxieties and insecurities like his dad cheating on his mom, etc).He then said that’s what a good friend does when I told him I liked him. I told him we should no longer be friends he said he didn’t think it was so serious we couldn’t stay friends.

Whenever I would message him sometimes he’d respond and seem so excited and keep the convo going. But then other times he’d ignore me and not read my messages. When this kept happening I deleted him from my FB. He was upset with me and said I should not do it again. When the cycle continued I did it again and told him good friends don’t ignore each other. I tried adding him again later but he ignored my requests.

I got therapy for my issues. Thinking all was well, years later, I apologized to him, thinking I really hurt him and wanted to right my wrongs. He never acknowledged my apology but marked it as read so I know he saw it.

After some time, I added him again and he accepted my request. We had brief interactions before he once again stopped responding even though he looked at my messages right away.

Not wanting to repeat past behavior I sent this n he blocked: “I noticed communication has ended, but I know life gets busy/stressful and that not everyone is looking to stay in touch with past friends. I’m okay with that and I’m not upset; sometimes things don’t work out. I just want you to know I think really highly of you and appreciated our brief interactions. I just want to wish you all the best and hope we can leave our interaction remaining on good terms. Have a safe and happy New Year!” Did I do something wrong?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 11, 2021 at 6:25 pm

Hi Amy, while I know you meant well with your message, I think he would have been reminded of the past of you getting upset when he did not answer you etc, and instead of thinking that you have grown he now sees that you are still emotional and needy. You need to avoid contacting this person again, unless you are trying to get a relationship from him, which you need to follow the no contact period for 45 days and then attempt to reach out.

verge

January 6, 2021 at 2:30 pm

My first BF left me, I found him dishonest, I was not able to celebrate with him our first monthsary, I thought as what he said he was busy with his business to find out he had a girlfriend already, I was too mad, sending him harsh and threating words that if he will not see me in person, I can do something against him..then he said yes and at the end he still blocked me, he blocked me in messenger but friends in FB, still there is a chance he will gonna see me in person as what he promised? Thanks

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 6, 2021 at 8:24 pm

Hi Verge, honestly I would suggest that you move on, this is not healthy or good relationship and you mention it being a month? It really isnt worth your time when he was already in a relationship with someone else.

ZR

January 3, 2021 at 4:55 pm

Hello,

I was dating my bf for a few months and he broke up with me, two weeks later he came back and we met only once. It was November lockdown so we kept in touch but I felt like I was putting in alot of effort, he always had excuses on why he would go silent. Anyways, yesterday I asked why he is always hot and cold with me, then he messaged me another excuse and before I could respond he blocked me on WhatsApp and his phone. I messaged him from my mums phone and he said ‘ please stop’ so I did. But 20 minutes later he message my phone and said I’ll call you tomorrow xx. Then I responded but he didnt call me and tbh I dont know why he messaged me with hope. So weird.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 15, 2021 at 10:43 pm

Hi ZR, I would say that you are being too available for him to be able to contact (not letting him chase you) I know this is hard when there are lockdowns etc going on but you need to find a way to make him think you are too busy for him. I would suggest that you do not reach out to him for at least 45 days now, and only on your own phone do not use your mothers phone again.

Lenovia

December 21, 2020 at 2:07 pm

He blocked me and bere blocking he said that he will delete ma number….I haven’t done anything wrong….he is so stubborn and wants me to make the first move always…what should I do
Will he come back? We were in a relationship for last 5 years…I don’t know actually what is the reason behind this breakup…we just had a small fight but how could that be a reason

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 22, 2020 at 6:54 pm

Hi Lenovia, so for him to end things he must have been considering breaking up or been unhappy for some time, as you said you had a small fight – is this one small fight in a number of small fights recently? I would suggest if you want him back then you need to start following the program, starting with a no contact where you read articles and work on yourself, ending where you reach out to your ex with a text suggested by Chris in his texting articles.

Annie

December 14, 2020 at 5:17 pm

My ex and I were very happy. He told me I was the one fast forward a week and he said he as unsure about the distance. We spoke. All ok. Then he text I’ve been thinking and want to be alone. Full block out.

I did send email from my buisness account saying I understand. Not sad or angry ( lie) and to reach out when he feels ready. I am heart broken. Side note, friends for 26 years

Is it over or is he processing? No argument or bad treatment from either side prior to blocking

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 14, 2020 at 9:08 pm

Hi Annie, I really tell you what he is doing, but right now he feels that it is best for him to be alone. I would suggest in the mean time that you work on yourself, read the articles about how to be ungettable and just focus on yourself. You are forced into a no contact minimum as you are blocked, but be sure that you wait 45 days before attempting to reach out to him if you want to follow this program

Honey

December 3, 2020 at 6:52 am

Hi , My partner at the time (now ex) have been together for 18 years. We have 5 beautiful daughters. We have parted numerous times in the last 8 years as he was chatting with other girls via calls , messages & emails (that I know of). During those times , we both were running back to one another . This time round , he has blocked me . At first it was & maybe still is , driving me nuts . Why ? Because I know , I love him . Why ? If I was & have been mistreated . I cant understand in why we just can’t be mature about the break up & to still communicate for our daughters only . Why does that seem so hard for him to do so ? As I have 3 of our daughters & he has 2 of our daughters . What should I do ?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 4, 2020 at 10:31 pm

Hi Honey, are your daughters not old enough to communicate with you and their father without you both needing to speak to each other for a short while? I would suggest that you follow a 45 day no contact for the reason you are blocked and also that he may feel guilt for his dishonest behaviour. While I get it is frustrating it is just about being the bigger person and knowing you deserve better.

Sharan

November 19, 2020 at 11:54 pm

My boyfriend cheated on me for an year but now only i came to know about this…. and i told him that I still love him and rebuild our relationship… He said that he won’t need any relationship now…. but I was very depressed that I contacted him again and again….. now he blocked me fully! Its been just 2 days…. I gave him soo much love but he left me helpless…. he even blocked all my friends.. I still wish and hope that one day he’ll come back…… what shall i do now? Plz reply……We have mutual friends but they don’t talk with him….. He left me crying and it was heartbreaking!

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 20, 2020 at 5:16 pm

Hi Sharan, it is hard to find out you have been betrayed. You need to go into a 45 day no contact, stop speaking to your friends about him or trying to reach out to him at all for 45 days. Work on yourself, work on getting over the pain you are feeling and understand that this had nothing to do with you, this is his wrong doing and he has an issue.

Harry

November 15, 2020 at 1:08 pm

My bf was a committed type with me, introduced me to his friends, agreed to whatsoever i wanted him to do (like removing girls from his life which were threatening our relation) , helping me study and we had a 1 year relationship (couple fights during curfew because of just chatting not talking). He was very posessive and insecure so i didn’t talk to guys or had male frnds. He even deleted his accounts so that i may delete my account and whn i did he again reinstalled them and denied to delete thm again. On our frst anniversary i got angry over him denying to delete thm so i reinstalled mine and he suddenly got mad at me and accused me “i wanted to hangout and cheat with guys because curfew is over and i m going back to clg so i reinstalled to catchup guys” and blocked me from whattsapp. Then i gpt angry and made him block me from other sites too. He didn’t contacted me after that and i also blocked him from everywhere. Idk where will my situation lead.
Sally

November 14, 2020 at 11:19 pm

Hi. my boyfriend of 11 months recently blocked me after I asked him why there has been a decline in conversation between us for some days. He just flared up and blocked me on phone and WhatsApp. I am confused as to what I really did to him for that decision?. Could it be he never loved me? We had just get intimate for the first time a few days before and I feel used. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 15, 2020 at 12:51 pm

Hi Sally, it seems that he pulled back after being intimate which is common. Follow a no contact and reach out after 30 days and see what happens if you follow Chris’ methods

Priscilla

November 14, 2020 at 12:06 pm

So was dating this guy & things were going well & appeared like they were getting serious. Until he began being quite off with me.

So I decided to send him message asking him what we are doing as I need clarity. He said we would talk but it just felt like he was avoiding talking to me. He called a few day’s later, I called back he didn’t answer. By this time I got really fed up. And told him that it’s unfortunate because I would have liked to talk. I then told him I hope he finds what he’s looking for & take care.
He responds back “really, wow okay wish you all the best, take care” he then blocked me two days later.
Which I wasn’t expecting because we are both mature adults. Part of me feels like he wasn’t done with me yet but wanted to keep me there for when he felt like it, so when I told him I was done he didn’t like that I was speaking up & let him know how I feel
Kayleigh Ryan

November 4, 2020 at 7:46 pm

Very good advice!.
Erin

October 27, 2020 at 2:03 am

Hi my boyfriend and I been arguing for a week and in the middle of an arguement he blocks me from calling or texting him.. I feel so lost.
Someone

October 17, 2020 at 3:00 am

Hey its me again i’m blocked..again..but this time nothing was going on we didn’t get into a heated arguement i just asked for space since i made a mistake and ask about how he feels (which he said his feeli for me are weak) what do i do what if this means he’s just done with me and just dont wanna talk and forget about me and even if i text him he probably won’t answer why would he block me..i just asked for space
Sarah

October 12, 2020 at 3:21 am

Well we got into an argument about where we were headed (as in relationship) as he changed the rules on me into “friends”. Ive never received a proper answer btw.
Yet, still continues to pretend to act like he wanted a relationship. “I just wanna see where this goes” non committing b.s.
Ive asked several times and ended up more confused. So, I asked for clarification one last time…
He went in so many circles even Gaslighted me on what he had said 10 seconds prior!! “I dont remember what I said” (p.s he said something about exploring other people) lol anyway I was upset as he was getting angry, trying to confuse and push blame. I hung up on him as I said “im done right now..im just done”. I didn’t answer when he tried to call me back 4 times.
So he blocked me!
Seriously! The chicken sh*t blocked me!
I’ve never been blocked before…
I think hes punishing me as well as trying to avoid any responsibility.
Thoughts?

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 23, 2020 at 3:25 pm

Hi Sarah, it sounds as if you are in more of a friends with benefits situation where you haven’t quite got him invested in the relationship and he got all the perks of a relationship before hand. This is common and when you try to get more of a commitment they leave. I would suggest that you go into a No Contact and work through the articles to help you understand the program and how to follow each step correctly.

jam

October 7, 2020 at 5:13 pm

My LDR fiancee ..now ex I guess has Blocked me completely ///we had a discussion that turned into a very heated discussion and I broke up with him by anger ,but few hours i did apologize ti him but he didn’t accept and he told me that he need personal time space and then he’s asking for space to think n focus for his self only. After that he remove all our photos in fb,ig.then completely blocked me. I don’t know what to do. Please advise me.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

October 8, 2020 at 8:43 am

Hi Jam, it can be difficult but you do need to let him have some space to calm his emotions. Follow the rules of no contact, and work on your holy trinity in this time

Marcia

October 6, 2020 at 10:43 pm

Dear Chris, dear Shaunna,

My last post was 11 March, when my ex had unblocked me on messenger for just a week, (in which I did not reach out) then he blocked me back.

Fast forward to now, he just unblocked me, being 6 months later. Maybe he sets a reminder every 6 months, to unblock me…

In this time I have changed, and the pandemic has made me feel that I don’t need him any longer. Life is difficult enough disinfecting everything all day, without a boyfriend on top of my head.

So I am keeping a steely attitude and will not message him. But why does someone unblock me after 6 months? I don’t understand it. I hope he won’t message me, as it will feel too ackward after 6 months of silence…

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