What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You On (The Phone, Facebook, WhatsApp, Etc)

2,553 thoughts on “What To Do If Your Ex Boyfriend Blocks You”

Sarah

October 19, 2015 at 4:17 am

So about 2 weeks ago, my bf (now ex) got ill and was being super quiet (this was a long distance relationship). Everything was completely fine before that so I gave him space to recover but after about 4 days he was still quiet and barely talking to me. I knew there was something else up and he wasn’t as ill as he claimed to me. I tried to call him but he didn’t answer so after he texted me saying he was still ‘struggling’, I confronted him with a voice note, asking him if something else was up and that I’d like to catch up before he leaves on his 3 week trip. I ended the voice note saying that if I don’t get any reply, I’ll just assume that this is over and I’ll walk away and move on. Sure enough, I didn’t get a reply and it’s been NC since.

For a few days after this happened, he was still viewing my Snapchat stories. Then a few days ago, I noticed that he went and unliked every single photo he’s ever liked on my Instagram. I decided to then remove him from my Snapchat but because my snapstories are public, he would still be able to view them. I noticed he hasn’t been on Snapchat must at all over these last couple weeks but he’s also stopped viewing my snap stories. I’m not sure if he noticed that I removed him from Snapchat. But the next day, he unfollowed me on Instagram for a few hours and eventually blocked me. He hasn’t unfriended me on Facebook or blocked me from Whatsapp or anything.

This is so bizarre!? Why has he only blocked me on one form of social media? Also, he’s on a vacation. Shouldn’t he be having fun and not sitting there unliking my photos and blocking me?

Chris Seiter

October 20, 2015 at 9:44 pm

Maybe he can’t look at your pictures anymore without feeling hurt?

Honest Heart

October 18, 2015 at 6:52 am

Also, it is IMPOSSIBLE to message someone on FaceBook who has blocked you, unless you have to make up a fake account, or ask a mutual friend to use their account and say ‘Hey, this is Me..” and that is not going to go well, I dont think….. so why do you say “even if he blocked you, you can still contact him on FaceBook”… no you cant…!

ALSO if you are unfriended & send him a message, he wont get a notification and it will go in that “Other” folder than no one ever checks….. after my man blocked me, that unfriended me, and since he wasnt responding to any of my messages, I got afraid that he wasnt even getting them…. I also asked a mutual friend to talk to him for me, not such a good idea because he wrote me “stop talking to Tom”…. I know he reads my messages now because he replies to me but for a long time I thought he didnt even get them…

Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 11:36 pm

Well, that means Facebook may be out of the question for you. There are other ways to get in touch with him though.

Honest Heart

October 18, 2015 at 6:38 am

Chris,
you forget a small but VERY IMPORTANT detail here…

When you ex blocks you (which he has done to me for 5 hours then unblocked without me having to do anything ???) that also automatically UNFRIENDS YOU so he is NOT going to see ANYTHING I POST. How does that help me ?

And yeah I added him again, he didnt add me back so after a while I cancelled my friend requested. We still text on Facebook but arent friends anymore so unless he specifically goes to my page, he will only see my public stuff, and if I start posting stuff public and not friends only, I will look desperate as if posting stuff in the hopes that he comes to see it ! Which i dont think he does ! What do you do then ??

Chris Seiter

October 18, 2015 at 6:29 pm

You still have your profile picture and cover photo that he will look at eventually. Are you friends with any mutual friends on fb? Yes don’t post publicly but you can put up interesting covers that will make him think you are dating if that’s the angle you’d like to take.

diane

October 16, 2015 at 6:50 pm

I haven’t talked to my ex in over a year and a half and we’ve been broken up for 2 years now. I wish him well and still care but know we have no future (and am good with that). We aren’t friends on facebook and for some time after the break up, he blocked me on facebook. At least a year ago, I saw his comments/likes on mutual friends updates realizing somewhere he unblocked me. Recently, I noticed his interactions with our friends were non existent so I intentionally went to browse his page and it seems he blocked me. Why in the world would he block me after 2 years when I could care less what he does other than hoping he is doing well and happy. This baffled me so much that here I am… at this website. No, I do not want him back. I just found him blocking me after all this time very strange and I keep wondering what would cause him to do this.

Chris Seiter

October 17, 2015 at 12:22 am

Did you put up any pictures with you and some guys? It could be a couple of things. 1. He could have a new gf that made him. 2. Seeing you hurts him. 3. You have a new boyfriend and he doesn’t want to see posts…

Charlie

October 10, 2015 at 11:00 pm

My bf blocked me on his phone about two months ago because I asked him what he considered a dumb question. I really do miss him but am do I have a chance of getting him back or should I just let go?
Lola

October 7, 2015 at 1:33 am

Hey Chris,

my bf broke up with me on Friday. I am on NC since then. On Monday he texted me on whatsapp and facebook (I deleted him from facebook) asking how I was. I didn’t reply and the day after he blocked me, my mom and my best friend from facebook. Unfortunately, my mom by mistake dialed his no on whatsapp. Then he texted via whatsapp on my phone asking why did I block him, he sent a regular text plus whatsapp message over my other phone saying that he knew I was there and he doesn’t want me to treat him like dead. He asked me to read the e-mail. In the e-mail he said why are you blocking me everywhere (I never blocked him) and he said that my mom called him. I replied coz I was shocked that my mom did so. She called accidentally as I found out later. Additionally, he said my ignorance is a torture. He didn’t do anything wrong and that he wasn’t happy and that’s why he couldn’t make me happy anymore. He said he had severe family problems and that he was a wreck. He said that he knew people had it worst and were able to go through it and so will he. He also said that if I wanted to kill him there were so many things that brought him to this point and none of them was related to me. What should I think of all of this? I know I broke NC after 5 days and replied him but with this approach is there a hope to even break NC after 30 days? Is there a ray of hope for the NC to work?
Julie

October 6, 2015 at 6:59 am

Hey Chris.
I found out that ex bf of one year cheated on me when we left college for summer break which is about 3 month. During that time I was dealing with tremendous stress and became severely depressed. I don’t think that I was giving him the same attention that he was used too while we were actually together. I tried to explain my situation to him but he would not understand. Upon arriving back to school things were a bit rocky and I knew that I had to try my best to get us back to the place that we were at before the break.
Fast forward to the night that caused the break up. I discovered that he was cheating on me and instead of being sorry for what he did, he started to get angry because I asked him about the girl and he would not admit to anything i asked him about. So I wrote the girl on Facebook to find out what was really going on between them. Instantly, she knew who I was and I knew nothing about her. She said I should talk to him because she thought we broke up.
That night I drove to his house and tried to speak with him calmly but he became even more angry and started to become really disrespectful towards me. I became really angry and I hit him a few times (I am not normally a violent person).
After the incident I became a GNAT, I was so hurt, confused, and sorry for what I did that all i could think about was getting him to stay. Needless to say that didn’t work. He blocked me from every form of communication.

I’m still really in love with him and he says that he still loves me but he doesn’t want a relationship between us anymore because of what I did -_-. I’m just wondering if i should just move on or give him ample amount of time to get over the whole situation.

Julie

October 12, 2015 at 5:40 am

I personally don’t think that they were that hard but then again I wasn’t on the receiving end. 🙁
Chris Seiter

October 11, 2015 at 7:03 am

How hard of a hit are we talking?

Light hits or were they really violent?

Miss Pain

September 29, 2015 at 7:17 pm

Hey Chris

Me and my ex just got divorced here the end of June (the day before his birthday). So after the seperation and the divorcement we still were friends on facebook in 3 months (almost 4 months). After 3 months he blocked me on facebook, but he didn’t block my parents on facebook, I mean there’re still friends on facebook! Why is that?

Chris Seiter

October 1, 2015 at 6:01 pm

How much time went by from the divorce to the time that he dated you.

Sofie

September 28, 2015 at 9:34 pm

Hi Chris,
My ex and I broke up 7 weeks ago for 5 of these I have been blocked on Facebook and via telephone number as I became as you say a text gnat!! I noticed I wasn’t blocked on whatsapp and had a really down day and caved and messaged him via whatsapp saying I missed him so much and wished we could still be friends. To my absolute shock he replied – I expected nothing back atall. He said you don’t miss me. I then sent a further message saying of course I do you were such a big part of my life for so long, he then replied “Well I’m sorry but that’s the way it is”. I then sent a further message which was quite long saying I hadn’t wanted any of this to happen, I hoped we could remain friends and that I always thought we would and hated that he didn’t feel the same etc then I had no reply back.
I have left it there I haven’t sent any further messages like I would of done before….
Do you think he is testing me to see if I would still send loads of unanswered messages?
Should I be happy he has responded (although not positively) take a step back give him more space and take this as a starting point for him maybe lowering his defenses or take it as he doesn’t want anything to do with me?

Thanks ?

Sofie

September 28, 2015 at 9:35 pm

This was today that I messaged him. 5 weeks after block

Millie

September 26, 2015 at 7:28 am

My ex boyfriend blocked me on facebook only. I haven’t text him for a while, but last I knew he hadn’t blocked my number. I feel like one day he will eventually unblock me but is that just hopeful thinking? I am hardly even active on the site. Maybe I should become more that way and perhaps his friends will mention something if they see me putting up photos and the like? I doubt it though. I just think he will eventually unblock me in a few years when it is easier for us both to see each other?? I don’t know though and I don’t want to get my hopes up that much. If he never unblocks me then I guess we’ll never be together. I was going to try and get in contact with him via text in a couple of years. He may have changed number and everything by then, but I doubt it. If that is the case, I might try and ask someone to get him to unblock me – is that a good idea? Or will it still seem desperate even if I’m completely over him?
pranali

September 21, 2015 at 2:17 pm

i n my bf was in 10 months of relation. we had a fight n he broke up.. den he blocked me frm everywhere i literally gone mad n i begged he left me so i deleted everything watsapp hike insta everything… he unblocked me on fb after few days wen his frnd advised him to talk to me.. i m undergoing nc rule..he says his frnd dat he dnt wants to b in a relation coz it will hurt me.. as i hav brain problms n get attacks… will he return back…??? i truly need him back plzz chris.. help me dear
Ivy

September 21, 2015 at 2:32 am

Hi Chris,
First, I want to say thank you for giving us such an awesome website, it helps me going through the saddest days in my break up. Even though I still got some questions after reading your site, me and my ex have only been broke up for 4 days, and he is a little different from what you mentioned earlier, firstly he does not have a Facebook, but he does have Snapchat, and I believe he deletes me instead blocking me. Secondly, he and I contacted with his email a lot, so if he really blocks my email address is that still a big deal? Or it just seem as he is blocking me from his another “phone”? Thirdly, the reason I am sure that he blocks me on his mobile is because my brother says he can still contact him till the day that I asked him to go knock on my ex’s door, so I am not sure that is he just blocking me because he is still mad and want to punish me or he really means that he does not want to talk to me ever again? And I just started my second day of NC, but I am just wondering if it’s too late for me to do it? Cause I was being a “psycho ex” when he broke up with me(I didn’t know about NC then) I knocked on his door for like an hour, texting and emailing him a lot and telling him how sorry I am and I learnt from he lesson this time, pleas forgive me. ( when we were dating, I love yelling at him all the time even sometimes I wasn’t really mad, because then he will come comfort me, and I know because he loves me a lot, so I just keeping doing that to kinda “test” how much he loves me, till one day he finally can’t stands it anymore and say he is going to break up with me, and saying he doesn’t like me anymore, even though he just said he loves me couple hours ago before I started to bitching again… I don’t understand did he really mean it when he says he doesn’t like me anymore? even he just said he loves me couple hours before) So is it too late to start NC? (since he does not have any social media accounts lol)
lesley

September 11, 2015 at 9:21 am

me and my ex have been talking for about 2 months and last week he completely stopped responding to my msgs. hes been saying he misses me and would see me once both of us had stopped travelling. he got back in the country Wednesday. he reads my msgs but doesn’t reply but still watches snapchat. why the sudden freeze out?

lesley

September 22, 2015 at 1:11 pm

he txt after a week sayin that he found out id been checking upwhether he was in the country or not on social media and he found out. not heard since

Mia

September 10, 2015 at 8:23 pm

Hi,
my bf was my highschool sweetheart and we were headed towards marriage. just like the rest of his family(they all married their highschool sweethearts. When suddenly he just waant interested anhmore and cut off communications with me we would talk at work but not much outside. He eventually quit work and from there i started the NC July 27 I only have snapchat so thats our only communication. During NC he looked at my published stories and i looked at a few of his. Being that it’s september i decided it was time to initiate communication, only to find out ive been blocked by him.. I’m not sure what to do??? I didnt speak to him once during NC
Janet

September 9, 2015 at 2:12 pm

After breaking up with my boyfriend, he unfriended me on facebook and i was really bitter. So i contacted him on SMS and the quarrel ended when he told me, “So long, have a good life!” And i angry and bitter as i was, i told him “Don’t ever contact me again”! As if the drama was not hot enough, i allowed my mind to wonder about and i kinda knew, he’d continue stalking my facebook profile to see my latest developments. Angry as i was, i decided to hit the “block button” on him.
So he unfriended me, and i blocked him.

He hasn’t spoken to me since then. ( <-3 Weeks) I know the NC rule is good, but I miss him like crazy! Sometimes i am tempted to SMS him and apologise about those nasty things i said because i was too angry. However, i am too proud to write him and tell him i didn't mean any of that. I do not want him to think i am needy at all even though i am the one who told him to stay away from me. I know i acted quite dramatic, but we were best friends before we became lovers, and now, it's come down to HATE! -I feel like i am loosing my sanity!
Laura

September 9, 2015 at 11:16 am

Hey Chris,

Firstly – thank you for creating this site. It is very insightful and several of the articles have made me laugh, because they are so true and explained in a comical way.

If you have the chance I would like your perspective.. since well of course I am here for the same reason everyone else is: I am still hopelessly stuck on my ex boyfriend.

I met and fell hard for a physical therapist at my gym a little less than a year ago. We dated for six months and I have never been happier, however we never formally committed to each other. I guess I thought it was implied and I was taking it slow because I was getting over my previous boyfriend (all his coworkers knew we were dating and his family met me). I didn’t any doubts to his affections till the last month when I felt an affirmation game and brought it up and his communication kept getting worse. I also have to bring up that he is 21 and I am 25 which makes things challenging. I eventually called him out on it and he didn’t respond well. He ignored me for a week and hid in his office every time I came to the gym. I apologized fear stricken of losing him (even though I didn’t feel I was at fault) and he then apologized and agreed to meet up. He never followed through. I waited a week..then I did what I wasn’t supposed to do and deluged him with messages until I was so upset I cut him out completely – blocked everything and switched gyms because it hurt too much to see him. Ending it was the last thing I wanted to do, but I felt like he wasn’t making choices or communicating, and stringing me along.

This was four months ago. I have been dating other people and trying to let it go, but I am still absolutely crazy about him and would love to re connect. I read all of your no contact articles and how to make the first message interesting. I tried it yesterday, but no luck. I can’t tell if he has blocked me. I haven’t tried calling or seen him in person. I am unsure of my next step and don’t want to screw it up.

Any insights you might have would be a God send.

Sincerely,
Laura

Laura

September 9, 2015 at 11:19 am

Oops correction – I meant “I felt an affirmation gap”

Denise

September 7, 2015 at 1:33 pm

Hi Chris, I read your article twice. The first time i was in a confident state, now I am in an uneasy fearful state. I have been blocked from Facebook and possibly his iPhone. He stated that we were never getting back together but then later said in the same txt that we were never an item. How can we get back together if we were never an item? He also said that it was never about sleeping with me and now he says it was strictly about sleeping with me. I was under the impression we were dating because of the way he was treating me., so I bought him a shirt and cap. I am tempted to call him and ask for him to mail these items to me. Should I? Reading your article made me realize I probably might have 0 chance of being with him. He is seeing someone and I would sure hate for him to be wearing my shirt out with her. The only real thing I have going good is we live in neighboring cities 15 minutes apart. He is also going to attend my city’s university starting in January for 4 years. We have one mutual friend but she does not like to get involved. What can I do?
D

September 6, 2015 at 10:51 pm

Hey Chris this guy chased me for a year. He cut kept contacting me on fb to talk and we would talk all the time. We met up a few weeks back and we kissed and had an amazing date. After that he asked me to go to his, I couldn’t straight away as I was working I explained that to him. He then ignored me for a week. He phoned me I missed his call phoned him back no answer messaged him no answer. He appeared to be ignoring me. He messaged me I messaged him back got no response. I was recently up where he lived he messaged me and I messaged him back got no response. He has blocked me on fb but has not blocked me on what’s app or snap chat I wondered if you could explain why he would do this after he ignores me first.
Sel

September 5, 2015 at 9:06 pm

Hi Chris, my situation is pretty different and this might be long. Me and my ex boyfriend are both high school seniors and we go to the same school. I Heard it all, I’m still “growing and this is not a big deal” or “you have your whole life ahead of you” all that stuff due to the fact I’m a young adult. But I would just love for you to hear me out. Well me and him met the ending of our junior year in high school, so May, and started dating June. He was someone who didn’t care much about looks and he liked for things to happen naturally his motto was always “go with the flow”. He loved how we started our relationship because in his words we “never forced anything” and happened naturally. He was the type of guy that didn’t care if you looked like Beyoncé or Megan Fox it was more on the inside he cared about. And it was all so new to me (I’m trying my best not to sound like some cocky superficial teen bimbo girl) but it was usually very easy for me to get any guy I liked because of my looks. So when I saw he didn’t show much interest (in the beginning) I was so confused, it was until he realized I was a really fun, positive “always keep your head up girl” that made him fall for me. Anyways we dated for the summer and he was always a good, loving, and considerate boyfriend. But we broke up middle of August (August 14th) which was also the month starting school (August 27th). He said it was because he lost feelings (love) for me but would keep telling me it was for no reason. I’m guessing it was because the person he fell in love with was a very happy positive girl and throughout our relationship I went from this “positive vibes” girl to depressed angry girl (I was going through stuff with my dad, and it’s still going on) I Had a pretty short temper and tended to get angry over small stupid things. I think it made him lose attraction and I want him back to show him we really are meant to be with each other because there was a point when we DID really love each other and was happy with each other, and I am still that happy positive girl he fell in love with the first place. He was head over heels for me. I can probably write a whole essay on things he would do for me that really showed he loved me but things happen and it’s so hard for me to deal with this. I forgot to mention a couple days into our relationship my father found out I was dating somebody (the ex) and tried kicking me out of the house. I called my ex just to ask for a place to stay and he picked me up knowing the risks that my dad could’ve hurt him. When I spent the night at his house he told me his missed me and was about to text me that night. We then got along very well that night (bringing up our inside jokes, laughing) and I remember he just blurted out “you know you’re pretty awesome when you’re not a bitch” (I’m guessing he was trying to tell me he broke up with me because I was too crazy and angry over dumb things and we fought over stupid stuff) while all this was happening though my dad kept texting my ex boyfriend’s phone that the cops are gunna get us and I better come home. (They didn’t.) We were both were pretty scared and my ex seemed pretty concerned about me. He ended up caressing my face and he kissed me and we both slept together that night peacefully. Now obviously it would make me think we are back together again and all I have to worry about is my dad but the next morning he told me I need to take of myself first and we need to stay broken up, then he said last night happened because he didn’t know if it was “going to me the last time he saw me” I started crying and he kissed my head and told me I’ll be okay. I thought this was important to inform you so I can know what your opinion on this was to see if you think he really wanted to help me out that night or just wanted a hook up. Back to the point He didn’t really block me from his social media, but he deleted his Facebook, Instagram, snapchat, and Twitter and made a new Facebook and Instagram. I don’t know about Twitter or snapchat. He didn’t bother to add me or request me and it’s starting to get me worried. One theory I have on why he did this was because I became even more active on Instagram and snapchat (trying to make it look like things are going well for me) I don’t know if he realized I made it too obvious, or he couldn’t handle it. We also go to school and I always see him but I pretend I don’t see him and I would be very smiley around my friends and other guys hoping he’d see. We both have a lot of mutual friends but sometimes I get hesitant to talk to them about my ex because I’m scared they will tell him and make me look like I’m some miserable desperate ex girlfriend. Maybe two weeks into the breakup he told one of our friends I was “needy and he’s done with me” my heart dropped and I honestly got the worst anxiety. I’m guessing he said that because two days after that incident with my dad I asked him a couple times if he wanted to hangout but he kept blowing it off. It’s been around a week since I started no contact and it sucks so much because I can barely sleep, my appetite is off, and He’s constantly on my mind. What do you think I should do to get him back and do you think I even have a shot? I know I’m only in high school but I’ve been in relationships before but I’ve never been in one like this where I’ve fallen so hard for a guy I wouldn’t even take anybody who’s more good looking, smart, or rich. It doesn’t matter. But all I know is I still love him and it’s not to the point where I’m letting it affect my studies but it is very hard for me to truly be happy. I just want him back and I’m honestly willing to do anything to get him back. I saw so much for us and I don’t think it’s worth it for him to give up that easily.
Suzanna

September 5, 2015 at 6:32 pm

My ex and I were engaged. He proposed to me with a $10k ring from Tiffany & Co. He was more excited to get married than I was and I was pretty excited! We are both over 40 and would be a second marriage for both. We were to sign our wedding contract with the venue that week. When his parents asked if they should arrange travel now or wait he said to book travel, that “nothing would change”. We were in a LDR but saw each other for 8 full days/nights per month in person, sometimes more like a full week at a time. When we did not see each other we texted multiple times per day and talked on the phone 2 hours each night. I was making arrangements to move there at the end of the summer (now).

We never so much has had a minor argument before. There were no red flags. We were so happy and got along so well. Our happiness radiated that even strangers would comment on how much in love we looked. The night before I was sitting on his lap looking online at houses in his area that we might be interested in for an hour. He kept telling me how much he loved me and could not wait to start our journey as a married couple.

The following day we had an argument about some finances. It should have just been a discussion point but quickly escalated. We never spoke again. He texted me a few times for a couple of weeks ,very vague. Asking for space and “time to process”. I did not give him his space as I was panicked. I kept texting asking if we could talk etc Perhaps if I did things would have been different. Then he broke our engagement via email with little explanation except that we are “incompatible” where he always went on about how “in sync” we were….soul mates etc. That our relationship was “tumultuous” we had one single fight!!! He said he was not going to change his mind and “please do not contact me again”.

Immediately he blocked my number, when I tried FB messaging him, he deleted my as a Facebook friend AND blocked me. So now if I comment on a mutual friend’s post or they tag me in a photo he won’t see it. The only options to me are snail mail and email. I have been emailing him to no avail I know now from reading your site, that I did all the things you are NOT supposed to such as trying to contact him; begging and pleading for him to forgive me and take me back.

I wish I found our site earlier and learned about the NC rule. It might have really helped me. It has been 2 months since the breakup and he is in a “rebound relationship”. He is the love of my life and I am so heartbroken by this turn of events. I have a chance of seeing him at an in person event in 2 months. I am thinking the mid-term NC rule applies to me, the 45 days instead of 30? That will be 2 weeks before the event. Should I initiate NC now and try to contact him prior to the event after NC? Or just wait and see him at the event and see what happens? Do you think we have a chance in heck of working things out? I would love to hear your thoughts.

Thanks!

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