Understanding Why Your Ex Boyfriend Is Ignoring You- And How To Get Him To Stop

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Sarah

December 4, 2013 at 2:17 pm

Hello, I would like some feedback on my current situation please.

I began dating this guy 6 months ago. After a month we made it official and he said he wanted me to be his girlfriend. This was my first relationship after getting out of a 7 year relationship where my last boyfriend was cheating on me. It was his first relationship since his first marriage ended 2/3 years before. His ex wife was very abusive.

Our relationship was like a breath of fresh air, we were both very happy and were taking it slow, we did not say we loved each other even though I could feel I wanted to say it to him soon. I knew I could trust him and it was all great, or so I thought.

He works very long hours so we could only see each other once or twice a week and he was always so tired. I could tell he was getting stressed.

He came over to see me and everything was normal until we went to lay down in my bedroom, he began to cry and said he had no time to eat or shower, he is worried about paying bills and doesn’t feel like himself at the moment, he doesn’t feel like he can be loving. I asked him if he wanted to keep seeing me (meaning be with me) he said he will still come over and he will miss me. He went home.

The next day I text him asking if he was ok. He said just pushing on with work. I said I was upset and sorry. He said never be sorry I am a wonderful woman and that I mean a lot to him and he doesn’t want to lose that. I said he could have been honest if he realised he didn’t like me, he said he has been honest and this has only just happened and he does like me but he is not at that place right now.

I didn’t reply to him for 2 days then I text him telling him I was falling in love with him, I couldn’t understand why he would break up with me, we had no problems. Only a month before he was telling me he wanted me to spend Christmas Day at his with his family. He would always say how lucky he was to have me and how happy I made him. He didn’t reply to my text. I text him again a week ago telling him I was deleting his number and to remember I care about him.

He blocked me from seeing his Facebook page but kept me on his friends list so he could still see mine. I absolutely know he is not with anyone else. I have removed him now a few days ago. I haven’t post anything on my Facebook about my relationship ending and I have been to a few parties so it looks as though I am happy and getting on with things, which I knew he could see.

I last heard from him 3 weeks ago when this happened. It is so hard to move on and forget him, all I want is for him to talk to me and explain to me what happened?

I know he may just need time. I just can’t get over how good things were, I was always understanding and I never put pressure or stress on him about anything. (I realise I have added to his stress by texting him declaring my love). We didn’t argue during the 6 months and we had nothing to hide. We had an amazing summer together.

He is a very honest person and will probably feel guilty about hurting me. He must know that he doesn’t want to be with me. Why would he say these things to me?

admin

December 5, 2013 at 1:18 am

Just give it time and he will probablhy feel that guilty feeling. He is just running on emotions right now and that means he will say some really stupid stuff.

lacey

December 1, 2013 at 3:33 pm

I’ve known this guy (14 years my jr.) for about 6 years we’ve been friends. We both had boy/girlfriends durning those 6 years.
I hadn’t seen him for a couple years (he went off to school but would always call when in town). He moved back to my city, I asked him to go to a show with me and we went. Got tipsy and he ended up at my house (we’re adults we know what happened). For the next month we got really close, talked about things, having kids, very close. He did say he just got out of a relationship and didn’t want to jump back into another but he did think this could go somewhere. We both hadn’t felt like this in a long while.
He also super busy and stressed starting up a new buisness that was taking up a lot of time. sometimes working all day sometimes 7 days a week. He also was stressed with not having a full income coming in. In all honestly I probably asked to be with him more than he was capable at times.
He Just got out of his long term relationship, still living with her sort-of. He’s been staying at friends houses living out of a bag and going home when she’s not there. Lease ends this month. I’m pretty sure this time it was over between them. But things happen so you never know.
So, the last month like I said we got close, very close. He would tell me how refreshing it was not to have a timid girl and that we had so much in common (and we do!) blaa blaa blaa,.. I mean, he didnt have to say this crap he had already gotten in my pants.

The last night we texted we were suppose to do something I had to text him and ask if we were still on. He said he couldn’t because work. I understood and asked if he could call me. He never responded from that point. I sent another text saying helloooooo… and nothing. The next day some other text with no response… Then I decided blowing up his phone was a good idea. Then I sent an email a day later saying whatever the situation, if he got back together with the ex or if he needs space or whatever that there would be not hard feeling just to say so. and that we were friends first and thats what I cared about. I gave him an easy out. Within that same email I also said it would be nice just to make sure he was alive.
He responded with… “I’m alright, not in the hospital or in jail. Don’t mean to worry you.”
My response to that was are you serious? thats it? are we friends what is going on? if you don’t want to talk fine but don’t be a coward. No response. I’m pissed at this point and confused and whatever. Never has anyone just up and vanished without a reason or a f-off or something.. A one night stand fine I understand don’t call me. But someone I’ve known for years and got close with? He also has about $200 worth of crap at my house that I asked him if we wanted to get it and he said nothing again.
I’m boggled.

lacey

December 1, 2013 at 3:44 pm

Just want to add obviously my texts and emails were ridiculous and out of hand (totally humiliated) and I jumped the gun for him not texting to my timeline (24 hrs.) I’m just wondering how to repair the situation. My last attempt was an apology email for my behavior via text/email, that I was embarrassed and that that wasn’t the person I want to be. Nothing has been sent since. That was my final anything, it had to be.
Anyways, really just care about my friend and want to get that side of things back.

Olivia

November 30, 2013 at 7:33 pm

Hello, Long story short I really need your advice!!
My ex broke up with two weeks ago. I haven’t done anything wrong to him, I’m not too sure why he broke up with me. I think it was partly out of anger. We work together and from what I know of he regrets our break up and is being really miserable..

Anyway I wanted to move on, but it was hard as I still had all my stuff at his house and I knew I will have to collect them some day and I thought 2 weeks after the break up is a good time. I send him a text : Hi, hope you are doing okay. I just thought it is about time for me to come and collect my stuff! let me know when it’s a good time to do so.’ Its been 24hrs and he still hasn’t replied! I know he is ignoring me as he replied to my friend..

What should I do now?! Why is he ignoring me ??

admin

December 1, 2013 at 6:14 pm

I think you slip into NC and flip the script on him.

Rachel

November 30, 2013 at 6:46 am

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend and I broke up about 2 months back. We were in an 8 months LDR. We were fine for a year before he went to study abroad. After 8 months of LDR, he decided to end this relationship. When he end it, he told me things like “if we were meant to be, time will not be an issue”. We did meet up to talk about our issues before we break up, and a few hours after he sent me home, he texted me to tell me to take good care of myself and I stupidly replied him. A week after, we did went out as friends (post break-up) before he went back abroad. After he left to go back to school, we still did talk for a bit but I can see he is not as enthusiastic. Then, I came across your website and decided to do the 30 day nc period. I got through it and texted him for the first time after 30 days, no reply at all. So I did not bother him after that. It’s now 18 days after my last contact with him and he hasn’t contacted me. I have no idea if I should text him again or wait for him to initiate?

admin

November 30, 2013 at 7:06 pm

Have you seen the LDR guide yet?
Rachel

December 1, 2013 at 1:11 am

Yes, I did. Probably should look at it again. Thanks 🙂

selena

November 27, 2013 at 1:39 am

My ex treated me so wrong and never really committed to the relationship so I got tired of the back and forth and decided to not contact him at all. After a year and two months I was strong enough to stay silent. I started dating and moved on. During this time he has tried to contact me 5 times but only through text so I knew he wasn’t as serious as he attempted to come off. He texted me a random question the other day asking for help with something. I replied out of anger and said,”I dont think you realize there is a reason for me not speaking to you all this time. I can’t pretend like nothing happened so I can’t help you” yea i was feeling angry cause I would have expected a “hey” or “how have u been” but acting like you suddenly want to talk out the blue was not enough for me which is why I said what I said but then he replied angrily. Saying all he did was ask a simple business question and what happened between us happened a long time ago and its cool if I don’t help. That made me feel like why did I even say anything at all..why is he giving me a timeline on when I should just forget all he did… and why did he text me when all he had to do was Google his question. I guess I gave him a response he wasn’t ready for. The next day I felt bad cause its like i basically showed him I’m still healing so I texted “I understand we had our differences it has been way too long the past is the past I know there is a reason you kept reaching out and I wasn’t ready to talk till now so if you want to then let me know if not it’ll have to continue like if has been this past year…” yea of course I got no response he is probably now trying to be MIA like I was just to hurt me but I know all of this but why do I feel bad like he’s won this round. Its like I try to be mature about the situation but his ego is off the roof. Guess I’m going for year 2,3,4 and 5 with no contact. I guess I was expecting a response or a chance to talk but he won’t ever admit to his wrong. It was a waste of my two minutes I just feel like I gave him the upper hand I don’t know I hate these feelings cause there is still some for him

admin

November 27, 2013 at 7:43 pm

May I ask you one simple question.

Logically do you think he is worth trying to get back?

Kelly

November 26, 2013 at 3:56 pm

My boyfriend of two and half years broke up with me on October 17, and I hadn’t contacted him since then. Our situation is a little different because not only was it an adjustment period since we both started college and I was four hours away, he was also diagnosed with thyroid cancer the very first weekend of college. I’ve done a lot of reading on cancer patients and I know at this point it’s common for him to push me away and question the future, since we even had our kid’s names picked out. So things were hard but we agreed that we were going to stay together, until a few days after he had surgery he decided to break it off, but waited until I was home the following week to do it in person. He said “I love you but I’m not in love with you” along with “I just don’t want to be in a relationship right now.” He said he didn’t want to be friends, because we always agreed that we wouldn’t be if we broke up. He also said he didn’t want contact, but I was against that because I wanted to know how he was doing in treatment. He agreed to text me to let me know he was okay, and he did exactly a month after the break up which was also the day he got out of radiation treatment. I answered saying “Good, I was worried about you, I think we should talk but only when you’re ready” he never answered. I left a calm voicemail the next day explaining after two and a half years I deserve an answer but he never answered that either. I never wronged him in any way, and I think he’s just being really stubborn in not contacting me. How can I ever get him back if he doesn’t respond? I don’t want to be crazy and show up at his house.

Kelly

November 26, 2013 at 5:14 pm

I also wanted to add that we never fought because we both figured it was a waste of time because we were going to work it out, so no use getting mad. I also am unsure the idea of sending an intriguing text will work, I think he’s smart enough to know what I’m trying to do especially since he made it so clear that he thought a clean break was the best way to go to get over each other. I just don’t understand why he didn’t answer what I already said to him, at least with “no I don’t want to talk” but no, nothing at all. It just doesn’t make sense, he’s not a mean person and I don’t see how he could go from caring about me so much to never talking to me again. Help!

Sandy

November 26, 2013 at 2:50 pm

Hi, I met this guy online a year ago. We got on really well but he told me he didn’t want a relationship. I accepted and decided to still hang out with him hoping he would change his mind. We ended up sleeping together, and then communication kind of stopped. We stopped seeing each other but somehow remained acquaintances, texting once in a while. I had strong feeling for him, but I even tried seeing other people.
Every few months he would get closer to me and apologise for how he treated me, we would go back to being really good friends and talk about seeing each other again. We even met up in June as friends for lunch.
The problem was he would always want to ‘hang out/date/sleep together’ but I told him I didn’t want him doing the same with other girls. We would argue about this lack of commitment but then always make up afterwards(all on the phone or Facetime, I haven’t seen him since June). Eventually he seemed to come around to my way of doing things and I decided to see him the next week. EXCEPT I found out he was flirting with other girls on other social media sites. I got mad and wrote him a long text about how used I felt and how I didn’t want anything more to do with him. He told me he agreed with me and that he was tired of our on/off ‘friendship’ and didn’t want to treat me badly anymore.
After about a week of no contact, I messaged him to say I understood he was scared of getting hurt and asked how he was. No response. I waited two weeks and messaged him yesterday saying I missed him and we needed to try to go back to being friends. No response. So a few hours later I texted saying I was worried about him and I would rather he told me to leave him alone than ignore me, as I was getting anxious. I know he’s read all these messages, but why no response? I haven’t done anything to him, and just want to go back to being friends. I’ve cried all night and I just need a male perspective on why he is treating me like this and what I should do now.
Dana

November 26, 2013 at 7:05 am

I recently got out of a relationship with a guy that really liked me, he knew though ahead of time that I am going to study abroad. We kept avoiding the conversation of what to do when I go abroad, until one day I just couldn’t take the suspense anymore and told him that we need to talk what we should do when i’m abroad. In conclusion we both agreed that since we’ve only dated for such a short time distance would not work, so he broke up with me. I miss him a lot, and think he had a lot of potential. When I asked him if we will get back together when i come back he said i don’t know. Now what…

admin

November 26, 2013 at 8:11 pm

Have you done NC?
Dana

December 30, 2013 at 3:29 am

I listened to you and did the NC, thank you by the way! My next question is his birthday is coming up and i’m not sure if i should wish him a happy birthday? I will be studying abroad by the day of his birthday and a part of me rather not say anything and figure it out when i come back in the fall, but another part of me thinks that if i don’t wish him anything he will do the same to me. Your advice would be greatly appreciated!!

Jenn

November 26, 2013 at 3:05 am

He blocked me from texting and phone calls. No what?

admin

November 26, 2013 at 7:47 pm

Any other way to contact him?

B

November 26, 2013 at 12:44 am

we dated for a month. During his distant period before he declared his feeling changed, yes, i did those msgs because he went quiet and called (not 35 times like it says in your example)…so admitedly done some of the needy stuff.

anyway, since a few weeks ago. he started to question whether we should be official due to his work commitment in January for 7 months (going on tour in the country) but did not end it at that time, started to get pretty distant from then on and reall never managed to speak in person or even phone.

the final txt from him was this past friday to clarify a few things:
he really enjoyed our time together and think im a great person. he was honest about what he wanted (relationship) and potnetially it could have worked. However, due to some circustnces (work) and some of his feelings, it didnt work out.

and for him, what we had has come to an end for him.makes him sad as we had great times

since that txt, i asked once if we could talk on phone at least and his reply was ‘sorry to be rude, he finds it sad and dont want to chat. he also thinks there;s nothing to discuss.’

so from his responses. is this a ‘i dont want to have ntohing to do with you’ type?

if i can go NC for 30 days, can I send a christmas txt and how should it be?

admin

November 26, 2013 at 7:32 pm

Sure you can but make sure it’s not too over emotional.

me

November 25, 2013 at 9:19 pm

I love your post..
Very long story short
we were together for nearly for 2.5 years
we had family approval issues (from his parents)
It was difficult for him to continue with me and was feeling too guilty
I then tried to get him back for another 2 years! He asks for intimite stuff when i call and when i refuse he gets angry and tries to take revenge.
he has always told me that im not that good looking and that his previous gfs were prettier. He used to love a girl that he ignored and broke off with and i think they got back together at the end of our relationship
sometimes i suspect that he loves me and sometimes i think all his hurt and the mesory that he complains about on twitter and love tweets is actually about another girl. I am confused. Cuz his parents have huge affect on him and i dont want to mis judge him and also he wont answer to verify
do i keep persuing him? He ignored my call the last time. But later called from a different number.but i didnt reply. I thought he might take revenge (he let a girl call me b4 to upset me after i called for continuoes 2 months and suddenly i said goodbye) or was it to hear my voice last time. Confused.
his b-day is coming after 6 weeks. Do i wish him a happy one?

admin

November 26, 2013 at 7:08 pm

Thank you!

Sure, I would do NC for 30 days and after that you can wish him a happy b day
me

November 26, 2013 at 8:38 pm

I have already gone 40 days now from last rejection and 40 days before that. And his bday after 40 too..
but the question is. Do u think he deserves more persuit after all that based on i told you?
admin

November 27, 2013 at 7:16 pm

Well I am coming out with a guide that should help you determine if he is worth it or not. Just be patient and wait a few days and I will try to have it out.

Angelina

November 25, 2013 at 7:41 pm

I was dating a guy I met online for a few months. He is clearly upset about a past breakup and constantly told me he wasn’t ready for a relationship with anyone; but his actions did not reflect what he was saying at all! I liked him a lot and finally sent an email saying I didn’t want something so casual because I liked him too much and it was hard for me. He was very angry/upset about my email and said he wanted to continue hanging out and he’d call me soon. Now 2 months no contact from him. I haven’t contacted him either. Do you think I ever hear from him again? Thanks!

admin

November 26, 2013 at 6:45 pm

Have you tried reaching out yet.
Angelina

November 26, 2013 at 8:43 pm

Yes, once at 4 weeks of NC. I texted a general how are you and he replied quickly, but that was it. Do you think I should reach out again or just move on? Thanks.
admin

November 27, 2013 at 7:21 pm

I think its worth a try to reach out again.
Angelina

November 26, 2013 at 9:12 pm

Sorry to add more – It’s so hard. How do we know if they want nothing more to do with you or if they waiting for you to initiate? Is it true that men will pretty much always contact you if they want to stay in touch? I’d almost rather disappear than to try and feel like a fool.
Thanks so much for your help! 🙂
Angelina

November 25, 2013 at 7:49 pm

whoops….oh and I should add everything between us always had to be on his terms and I wouldn’t be surprised he is mad I turned the tables a little.

Dee

November 25, 2013 at 6:52 pm

I broke up with my ex boyfriend of 3 years and realize how i made a mistake, I called and texted him and he ignores me. I did NC for thirty days and then text him again with no response. Another thirty days went by and I wrote him a apology letter and sent it, again no response. It’s been eight months after the breakup and I still miss him everyday. He completely cut me out of his life or that’s how I feel. There is no hope I’m guessing

admin

November 26, 2013 at 6:35 pm

No there is hope. What did you text him?

And the letter may not have been the best idea.
Dee

November 26, 2013 at 8:24 pm

I texted him about how I purchased tickets to a football game and how it reminded me of how fun it was when we went a few years back. The second text was a few months later congratulation on his baseball team making the playoffs and hope all is well. I understand that I shouldn’t of wrote the letter. Should I just leave him alone since I did write a letter?
admin

November 27, 2013 at 7:15 pm

Maybe for a little bit.

Has he not been responding to any of these things?
Dee

November 27, 2013 at 9:25 pm

No he hasn’t respond, no call back no text no email. I haven’t heard from him since April.

I wanted to also thank you for the quick response as well.
admin

November 28, 2013 at 5:16 am

No problem!

Hmmm… this is not good. Do you know for a fact that he is ignoring you?
Dee

November 28, 2013 at 7:38 pm

It would be a least 4 text total out of the 8 months. One letter and one call and that was in April. Honestly I feel like I must be a really bad person for him to ignore me completely.
admin

November 29, 2013 at 2:05 am

No the problem lies with HIM and not you. Don’t put his inabilities on you ok.
Dee

November 29, 2013 at 2:40 pm

Thank you. I pretty much have my answer I was looking for. Have a happy thanksgiving and I appreciate everything you did to help answer my question. Cheers!
admin

November 30, 2013 at 4:36 am

No problem! Happy Thanksgiving.

Amber

November 25, 2013 at 7:08 am

My ex broke up with me after dating for a month and I did the NC rule for two months and then he texted me earlier this month telling me that he was sorry. I called him and asked him what he wanted and what he was apologizing for and he said he didn’t mean to leave me hanging. I told him that I like him and care about him and he said that he knew and that he was going through some stuff but that he would call.
I texted him the next day after our phone call just wishing that he was having a good day. But I received no response. Then sent a similar text the following day and he responded saying that he was feeling better. I asked him if I could bring him his favorite food shortly after but I didn’t receive a response. I then texted him two days after asking if we could talk. But no response. I tried calling the following day but still no answer. After a few days of him not saying anything and me not contacting him, I felt that I needed to apologize for how our phone call went because I thought I may have come off kind of mean so I texted him my apology since he didn’t answer my phone call prior to that. But he still hasn’t responded.
A week after that, I called and left a message asking him if we could try going out again since we’re both single and that it would be better than it was when we first dated. I texted him the following day asking if we could try again. My text said, “Can we try this again and can you give me a second chance? You can say yes or no or I don’t know or well however you feel about my offer. But please say something. You’re kinda giving me anxiety when you don’t say anything. And I seriously promise that it will be different this time. It will be better. I’m sorry I wasn’t open but you made me nervous because well, look at you! 😛 But please just say something. I won’t bite, I swear! :]”

But he still hasn’t said anything. I have been nothing but nice to him the whole time and I didn’t do anything bad to him when we were together. I was just kind of quiet. I really want him back. What should I do?

admin

November 25, 2013 at 8:22 pm

You may have come on too strong….
Amber

November 25, 2013 at 9:53 pm

So how do I fix this? Do I contact him? Do I wait for him to say something? I really have no idea where to go from here.
admin

November 26, 2013 at 7:07 pm

At this point wait for him to say something.

Jill

November 25, 2013 at 4:54 am

Things had been going well with texting for a few weeks until I tried the “confession” text. He called and texted for a few times for some reason and I didn’t answer back for an hour and a half. Ever since then (several days ago) he didn’t respond to a couple of my texts (which were not pushy or stalkerish or anything). Any suggestions?

admin

November 25, 2013 at 8:03 pm

Go into NC again for a week… let things cool a bit.
Jill

November 26, 2013 at 4:08 am

Okay, good idea. I guess he got angry that I said I had a confession, that he waited for so long, and that when I revealed my “confession” it was nothing that emotional or important (as per your requirements for that set up)?
admin

November 26, 2013 at 8:00 pm

Hmmm gotta be careful about that. You want the confession to be good but not too good. Its a tricky balance.
Jill

November 28, 2013 at 7:18 pm

I did do something pretty decent for the confession that was a little personal (about a game he made up for me that we used to play) but not too serious, but he was still unresponsive. Do you happen to have ideas why he called twice and texted all at once, but suddenly got nonresponsive/ignoring?
admin

November 29, 2013 at 2:03 am

Maybe he had second thoughts..
Jill

November 30, 2013 at 7:04 pm

I waited the week (his uncle passed away), sent him a message of condolences, got no response in the last couple days (it shows that he didn’t open it). Any ideas to move forward? Much appreciated.
admin

December 1, 2013 at 6:07 pm

Wait about a week or two and try again but this time use one of the examples I recommend.

Katie

November 25, 2013 at 1:24 am

my me nd my bf broke up about 9 wks ago I went nc right after. I emailed him after 60 days nc, just wishing him well nd never brought up the relationship. he never responded nd im worried wht shuld I do now?

admin

November 25, 2013 at 7:44 pm

Why not text him?
Katie

November 26, 2013 at 2:58 am

I did..no response. I dont want to bug him
Katie

November 26, 2013 at 7:38 pm

I also found out he’s sleeping with someone else and he likes her. I feel as though he has moved on and forgot about me 🙁
admin

November 27, 2013 at 7:08 pm

Could be a rebound?
Katie

November 28, 2013 at 7:38 pm

I hope so. What should I do? Go no contact again?
admin

November 29, 2013 at 2:01 am

Only if you think its best in your situation.
Katie

November 29, 2013 at 7:59 pm

I honestly dont kno what is best. If he is ignoring me I dont want to pester , because I feel it will just make him angry
admin

November 30, 2013 at 4:48 am

Don’t pester him. thats a big no no.

Mrs. E

November 24, 2013 at 12:40 pm

My boyfriend and I have not officially broke up three weeks ago he just stop talking to me on the phone, and of course I freaked and called, texted, emailed, made him videos to try and get him to say something to me, the first week he was sending music videos on tagged two were ones that proclaimed his loved for me, a couple days later they were ones saying goodbye, and i freaked out i sent more emails him cried on his voice mail, and even though he wasn’t talking to me he still paid my phone bill 6 days into not talking to me… I tried calling him to thank him no response at this point im angry i unfriend him and kind of speak out of anger, through out the days everyday try contacting him, then one day i dont say anything i get this message from him from this number i dont know telling me “hey this is your hubby just checkin in on you, but dont text or call because this is not my phone” then i dont hear from him, then last saturday he emails me hi, i tell him he can call me but of course he never does, and i havent heard from him since this only the third day i havent contacted him… What should i do to get him to talk to me?

admin

November 24, 2013 at 8:13 pm

Well what are your text messages looking like?
Mrs. E

November 27, 2013 at 2:48 pm

Like im a lost puppy:-( I was texting him how sad i was and how i am basically falling apart… I’m trying to do 30 day no contact, but its hard… I think he might be with someone else, but he sent me a video yesterday on tagged(social network) Brian McKnight “Anytime” which made me think he wanted to get back with me… but im just confused and devestated is there still hope for us or are we really over? can i get him back I dont know, and do I want him back … at the time yes, but i know im very emotional… ill try and attempt to do the 45 day no contact but any other suggestions? He still has officially broke up with me, but the fact he hasnt called … I dont know does that say he’s done
admin

November 27, 2013 at 8:36 pm

Well what are you going to do DURING that 45 days.
Mrs. E

November 28, 2013 at 2:15 am

Try to get my thoughts together and focus on myself and taking care of myself…do hobbies and activities that will help me stay busy

Blair

November 23, 2013 at 8:48 pm

I have been in relationship for 4 years with a guy. It is mostly long distance relationship which started in europe and i am back in africa now and he decided to follow me and came here to finish his studies. But we are not in the same countries. Let say about 6 hours drive away. We were going to get married in about 2 years. Everything have been great with him he loved me so much that all his friend are mocking him that he should be ashamed of himself for loving a girl like that. We tell each other everything no matter how bad it is. The 1st of september i found out that he cheated on me once he denied everything and then admit sending messages to the girl but it doesn’t mean anything. I was pressuring him to tell the truth so we move but he said he hasn’t cheated. The same week he was supposed to finish his master project dissertation but with all the pressure from me abt the story he finally failed the project. I went to see him we talked he admitted cheating bit with another girl and he stopped right in the middle because he was thinking too much abt me. He begged me for forgiveness and ask me to still marry him. I said yes. One week later he told me that he is reconnected with an old friend during his bad time of master dissertation and she helped him out a lot and that he is having feeling for her and doesn’t know who to choose.
I gave him an ultimatum but he didn’t choose me. Sometimes he called me crying that he failed me, i could never trust him and he doesn’t deserve me. Sometimes he will say he likes the other girl a lot and even asked her to come to his country to meet but the girl is asking him to come. So he is going back to England. He told me that he didn’t tell the other girl that he has a girlfriend because he is scared that she would leave. We are sort of engaged and parents are aware of all that. 3 weeks ago i decided not to call him anymore and since he hasn’t tried to call me either. Everytime i asked him if it is over he said he doesn’t wanna let me go but at the same time he feels like he is falling in love with that old friend from 4 years. They are having a long distance relationship. He got another chance to submit the dissertation in December. I did NC for 3 weeks and texted him yesterday hey how are u i miss u i love u . No answer. 1 call no answer. Then i texted today saying dnt bother the i love u i was just emotional im about to get engaged. No answer

Blair

November 26, 2013 at 10:05 am

Yes NC for 3 weeks. Nothing i texted ne i was going to be engaged Now he called me last time saying that we are still together how can i be engaged and that the whole thing about the other girl was a joke, to make me jealous etc. Saying that he has been stalking my fb pages seing me close with this guy etc. We were talking when his credit finishes so i called back no answer. Next day called back 2 times no answer. Should i do NC again?
admin

November 26, 2013 at 8:19 pm

Yes I think you should.
admin

November 24, 2013 at 6:50 pm

Have you done NC yet?

Jenn

November 23, 2013 at 4:37 am

After NC for awhile and him texting a few times during NC, I sent him a text referencing how I saw something that reminded me of him and how it brought a smile to my face. He responded 12 hours later and was very neutral. He sent a few more texts, all job related never asking how I was. I ended the conversation telling him that I was out to dinner with a friend and for him to keep intouch. U advised me to wait 3 days and send him another text. I did. He never responded. Now what? Start NC all over again?

admin

November 23, 2013 at 7:58 pm

No just wait a week and sena nother text. Make sure its a good text though.

Maya

November 22, 2013 at 8:23 am

I hope my ex is not reading this site lol. Have you ever thought he ignores because he knows he has hurt her a lot and he doesn’t wanna give her false hopes? I am one of the rare girls who went no contact right after the breakup talk. Still he won’t contact me (it’s been almost a year), unless he is using the no contact rule too, or maybe he’s just busy with his new love interest or just doesn’t wanna give me false hopes, sick of me maybe.

admin

November 22, 2013 at 8:01 pm

I doubt he is hahaha.

Are you out of NC?
Maya

November 23, 2013 at 1:44 am

Nope, I guess I am afraid haha because he still means a lot to me.. weird huh?

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