Understanding Why Your Ex Boyfriend Is Ignoring You- And How To Get Him To Stop

1,957 thoughts on “Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Always Ignoring Me?”

Sassy

March 1, 2020 at 7:51 am

Please please please reply
I have been together with my boyfriend for 3 months now.. at first he really wanted the relationship but now for every thing he tells me it is best if i go then he tells me he is sorry and don’t want me to go. Sometimes he says he wants me to go but at the same time, stay. Five days ago he told me he thinks he loves me and he doesn’t want that because he is afraid of getting hurt. Since he started having mixed feelings I am the one that been chasing him, begging him to talk to me and he keeps ignoring my messages and texts and call less than how he used to. I am over emotional and he sees that i am desperate for him to stay. I am really tired of chasing him but i don’t want us to never speak again. He knows that he is treating me horrible and don’t want to hurt me anymore so he is telling me to go. I really trusted him because he promised he wouldn’t hurt me like this. I was just coming out of a very toxic relationship where i cried every single day and he helped me to get out, I didn’t get a break so i put so much trust in him. He really wanted the relationship and i didn’t at first but he told me i could trust him. I really can not go through this again, i didn’t get a break from the relationship prior and i think i’m even still hurting from that. Now he is hurting me and it’s killing me. Lastnight he told me that sometimes he has strong feelings and other times he just wants to be by himself. Sigh this wasn’t how he was towards me. I am really hoping we can get bk together. Do you there are hopes for this relationship? i will not text or call him again and give him some time since i’m always the desperate one.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

March 7, 2020 at 9:25 am

Hi Sassy, so if he has loving feelings for you but also wants time to himself I would say that you are too available to him and that is why he wants space. You need to back off and do things with your friends or family even by yourself if you can and let him see you are not sat at home waiting for him to call you. Read the ungettable articles and videos and apply this to yourself

Nickie

February 5, 2020 at 11:42 pm

How likely is it that an ex will come back if the relationship is short? Like 3 months? I sent him a text after 3 weeks of no contact and its been a day in which he has not responded.

Any advice or insight would be great.

Thank you

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

February 6, 2020 at 9:47 pm

Hey Nickie, so you needed to do 30 days No contact, not 3 weeks. Did you reach out with a text like what Chris suggests, or was it generic “Hey how are you” type? If so then it is likely it didnt get his attention enough to make him want to reply. Do some research and work on the Ungettable girl for 30 days of NC and see what you can come up with for your first text after a full no contact

Rianne

December 27, 2019 at 1:35 am

My ex fiance broke up with me a year after we got engaged. We were supposed to get married in 4 months when he broke up with me. We were together for almost 8 years. He said that his love was not increasing and that he lost his attraction and there was no spark anymore. He then admitted that he had an affair with his co-worker, the one that I had a gut feel before and it lasted for about a year (we were together for more than a year when it happened) but then his relationship just died down. He felt guilty and had to tell it to me. I was devastated, we were in the final stretch of the wedding preps. About 2 weeks after he came back saying that since he was able to take all the skeletons out in the closet that he saw that it was really me that he wants. We got back together and it lasted for 3 months. At first it was all good, we agreed to continue on with the wedding preps, I told him that since it was a long time ago that I can forgive him. As time went by, he started to withdraw his promises one by one until he told me that he is not ready and he doesn’t have an answer for me. I was again heartbroken, I felt like I’ve been to 2 broken engagements with the same man. I broke up with him a week before Christmas but he had to give me something important (cellphone- our xmas gift to my brother) so he went down to my place and he handed me the gift. He didn’t want to have it delivered. He then told me that he thinks that it’s better if we separate for good because his love for me wasn’t enough. He is back to his first reason. I told him that he doesn’t need to reiterate it to me because that’s what I asked in the 1st place. That we need some time apart to fix ourselves. I then asked what’s the real timeline of his affair. He said it lasted 4-5 years and they weren’t together anymore when he proposed to me. I was crushed. I couldn’t believe it. I snapped and said all of the hateful words I could think of. I gave him a chance, he should’ve been honest to me but he lied and lied even after we got back together. I was so hurt I told him that I don’t want to see him again and wiped out everything from my phone. I blocked him in all of the apps and deleted our message threads and pictures. That’s 8 years worth of memories but 5 yrs of those he had another woman. The woman who was willing to take a backseat(accdg to him) because I was the one who’s with him all throughout. With his fam and friends. I felt like I was the only one invested in the relationship. That I was the only one who loved him. He sent me a generic christmas greeting and I didn’t reply. I checked his IG and facebook and I think he also blocked me. I am just so hurt but I still love him. What will I do? I’m scared that he’ll go back to the other woman. 8 years, just like that? Need your insights pls. Thanks.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

January 3, 2020 at 12:38 am

Hi Rianne, it is difficult to decide what to do. Only you can really decide what it is you need to do. You need to spend some time in No Contact and even if he does go to that other woman, that ended years ago by the sounds of things. And he couldn’t have loved her to have her in the background of his life. You need to show you are not going to accept to be treated this way by anyone, no matter how much you love them. When you decide what you want to do, I can advise you further

J

December 16, 2019 at 10:54 am

Hey I’m really stuck now. I sent my ex a text after NC with “Hey do you still remember what’s the name of the yogurt shop we ate at (mall) after my national cross country? I kinda wanna bring my friend there. I recently ate some sorbet and suddenly thought of us eating overpriced yogurt together.” Then I unsent the text before he read it one hour later and blocked him because I thought I sounded needy. What should I do now I’m really stuck. He was ignoring and avoiding me during no contact and I’m afraid he will move on if I don’t contact him because I told him that after two weeks of no contact I don’t want him in my life anymore and it has been more than two weeks. He also told me he didn’t love me anymore so I need to contact him to gain attraction from him again.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 16, 2019 at 11:45 pm

Hi J so you did right, but then un did it… so you need to send a shorter version of the text you sent. Just ask for the name of the place leave the rest out

Fiona

December 13, 2019 at 10:29 pm

Hi there,

My ex and I broke up 7 months ago. We had been on and off for 4 and half years. The first year was great everything was in the honeymoon phase then he broke up with me not knowing if he wanted to commit to a relationship. We then got back together after a day or two. The second time was my fault entirely… I told him I was on a night out and a boy kissed me which was the truth but I pulled away. He then broke up with me for 2 months while all that time I was grovelling for him back. I got him back and then he broke it off again… we eventually got back together.

I had then move in with him and his parents and this is when it went down hill. I felt in was in a relationship with 3 people. I then went away for training for 12 weeks and during that time I broke it off with him. We kept in touch and as soon as I got out of training I wanted him back. I don’t know how I could have been so stupid. Although the nail in the coffin I told him a slept with someone else.

I grovelled for months literally.. he would give me false hope and indications that he didn’t really know what he wanted. He told me he just wanted to do his own thing. Three weeks ago we met up and he told me he hadn’t been talking to anyone and was doing his own thing and that I should move on too. I then got upset and he refused to leave until I did. I then left and went straight home and he messaged called me blowing up my phone to make sure I was okay… he even drove by my house to make sure I was home. A couple of days later he told me he was talking to someone else. I then deleted and blocked him. A couple of days later… I suffer from really bad anxiety and was at a shopping mall and had a panic attack. I tried to call him several times however he ignored my calls. He then text me and he said I was picking and choosing when to speak to him and that I told him not to speak to me.

we then talked the other night and he told me he wanted to see where it would go wit this new girl as you can expect I was heartbroken and said things that I didn’t mean. I asked him to meet up with me but he said no because we just go round in circles and that he told me to move on weeks ago. I then said to him that this girl can’t mean that much to him if he was still speaking to me and he said that I was trying to make him bite and that he would block me. I said he was a horrible person and that he picked her over me and he said what do you want me to say.

I then messaged saying I still wanted him back and didn’t want to argue… he then said okay I don’t want to argue either. I never messaged back

It’s been 4 days since we have spoke… I messaged today apologising for the other night for being mean and nasty and I hoped that he could forgive me one day and that I just want him to be happy.

He’s not read the message but he had been online. I know him he’s usually glued to his phone.

It’s been 7 months since we broke up but we have also spoke but now I feel I have lost him for good. As he said he had found someone now and Iran it like he done it just after we broke up it was me who went on a date first.

Pleas help

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 15, 2019 at 10:35 pm

Hi Fiona, so you need to read about the being there method and make sure you stick with it after your no contact. Read as much as you can on this website that applies to your situation and make sure you understand how to follow the being there method advice without reacting to the other woman and their relationship along the way. It is all about emotional control

A Hazee

December 2, 2019 at 6:25 pm

Hello. My ex has abandonment issues and things were great for the first 4 months. Then I left to go to Europe because I received my doctorate and he totally changed. He stonewalled me and treated me badly around his kids but I still endured because I felt he was a good guy. We came back from that but I started to job search in Texas and elsewhere but no jobs came up in Texas where we both lived so I took a job in Denver. I discussed everything with him and though he was reluctant to do long distance he said he would with me. Then he said “We wont give up on this relationship we are gonna do whatever it takes.” 6 Days later he broke up with me and left me all alone in Denver. I had even set up time to work remotely and fly back and forth from Denver to see him. Slowly, this broke me. I have been thru ALOT with men. One day I did threaten to take pills and felt the lowest I had felt in a while. I thought this guy was going to be my husband and ended up dropping me in 5 days!

I blamed it on him and sent him a video crying now he says we could never work it out because of me blaming him. I feel terribly about getting to such a dark space but after months of patience with him, him wanting to break up but not break up (because he claimed I was better than him and he was insecure), after months of just being patient and kind, I lost it that one day and I regret it a lot. However, I dont think he realizes how much pain he’s caused me. Now he is completely ignoring me. He’s thrown the occurrence in my face time and time again but finally he went to reunite with his family in Alabama and I guess they told him it may not be something we can come back from. I told him I was willing to go to counseling and everything but that I had a dark day. It wouldnt happen again because I am getting the support I need.

It was originally his idea to communicate and one week he loves me, the next he is telling me to move on, then facetimes me 3 times smiling and laughing and then tells me yesterday that he definitely cannot pursue a relationship with me. I have been calling and texting like crazy and I want to be smart enough to do no contact. I also just really love him. Even though he is troubled, I wanted to love him and he acknowledged his maltreatment of me. I just wanted to love him. I dont know how to let this go or even if there is a chance. We did love eachother very much but with him, his response to me changes every other week. Now, I am being ignored. Please know I want to take accountability for what I did because I did not want to scare him but I also think forgiveness is a real thing. We were both convinced we were gonna get married until I left and came back. Then when I left for Denver he said he left me before I could leave him which I never had any intention of doing. I miss him and ultimately I just want closure. How does one deal with this.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

December 4, 2019 at 9:58 pm

Hi there A, so you need to spend some time in a No Contact where you give your ex space and yourself, abandonment issues or not it does not warrant for him to treat you badly for bettering yourself! After you no contact you can reach out as a friend and attempt to rebuild your connection and follow the program and do not skip steps

Alicia

December 2, 2019 at 6:07 pm

My ex and I dated for about 3 years and broke up with a little over a month ago. We hooked up a few times then I asked him not to contact me if he wasn’t trying to get back together because it was to hard for me to let go. He didn’t contact me for a week then I gave in. He expressed that he loved me but we needed to work on our personal issues (my trust issues) his drinking and temper before trying again. He then said he was coming to town in a few days and would like to take me and my kids out because he missed us. I agreed. But noticed he was texting and calling a number frequently, I asked him if it was a girl he kept saying no he wasn’t entertaining anyone and for me to trust him. I called the number it was a girl and they had met on a dating app. He cut my phone off. Since then I have texted him twice and no response one wasn’t a very nice text. Now I find out he is actually dating this girl for about 2 weeks now. I know I should have done the no contact from the beginning but not sure if I should just let it go now maybe he doesn’t want anything to do with me and I need to move on.
Leila

November 26, 2019 at 6:19 am

My bofriend and I broke up two months ago.

He is completely ignoring me so I stopped texting and calling him for 1 months. We lived in a distance. We had to start to live together in his town. 3 months before I had to move to him, he started to tell me that he is afraid for the future and blame me for stupid things that had no sense. I never lied to him, never cheated, I was so good with all his family and we traveled a lot together. Everything was fine. Now I’m finishing my studies and I wanted to move to his town. Now I feel so sad, no mood for anything, still just can’t believe that it happened. He loved me so much. For bothof us it was our first relationship. We “are”/ were together for 7 years/6 years and 7 months. Everyone from our family and friends is shocked. Such a crying and an expected end…but in bottom of my heart still hoping for the best..

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 30, 2019 at 11:37 pm

Hi Leila it sounds like he may have gotten scared of the commitment of living together and the next step, even though you were together for a long time.Going from a long distance relationship to living together can be quite daunting for some people. Stick with a No Contact and reach out in a 30days

Faith

November 20, 2019 at 6:11 am

Okay where do I even start. My ex boyfriend and I have been on and off for 3 years going on 4. I was pretty care less in the relationship. Would lie to him all the time, had caught me texting other guys and I would constantly party. I would promise him many things but will not follow through. I realized I want to be with this man and I asked him if he was over this? He states it isn’t over but that how many times have I done this and how many times have I fake cried. He doesn’t show any effort anymore and I have been blowing him up through text and calls. He just turned off his phone right now because I was blowing him up. I feel so desperate. It’s been like two weeks that I have been doing this. Questioning him and arguing with him about what’s gonna happen between us now. He just avoids it and just tells me that I always do this and it hurts him that I couldn’t love him right.

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

November 23, 2019 at 8:33 pm

Hey Faith, so based on your actions while in a relationship with him, and the patterns your relationship took I would say you have pushed him to feel that you didnt love him. So complete a No contact to allow him to have the time away from you and maybe give him a chance to get over the way you behaved. During which you need to avoid posting anything to do with other guys for now. And work on why you felt the need to treat someone that way when you were in a relationship.

valerie campos

September 17, 2019 at 8:32 am

Me and my ex have been together for 8 years and lived together for 6 years never had much problems or discussions but we got together in high school we’ve broken up 4 times now the first time because he wanted to move back to his hometown vegas which he did then came back a couple of months later and we got back together the second time because hes a very depressed guy and he was at a point where he didnt have a job and felt so awful about himself I tried to help and he completely pushed me away and broke up with me again we were broken up for two weeks this time and I was moving on and found a new guy it was long distance but he helped me and we talked for a a while then my ex came back and basically begged me to come back to him and cried for me the third time because he was starting to get distant again and wouldn’t talk to me so i texted the guy i was texting the last time we broke up because my ex wouldn’t talk to me and I felt alone then he saw and pushed me away and broke up with me again then after a month we got back together and everything was great but his dad was sick then got better and right after his aunt that lives in vegas got cancer so his mom wanted to move back to vegas I got so mad and just hurt when he told me I felt devastated disappointed and just scared to lose him but mostly just angry because he couldn’t decide whether he wanted to stay with me or go back to vegas again and also throughout our whole relationship he keep mentioning that he was leaving so I got sick of it and told him to just go at first I could tell he was shocked but then he got excited but I changed my mind because I didnt mean it and asked him to please stay and that I loved him but he kept saying no and avoiding the conversation hes always avoided conversations because as a libra he hates conflict and argument so he pushes you away and completely ignores you I felt hurt again because when I told him I wanted him to turn to me and say no baby I’ll stay with you because I love you or something along those lines but no he said okay and wanted us to stay together until he left in a year and I was okay with it because I love him and just wanted to spend as much time as I could with him before he left but I started overthinking and decided if he doesn’t want to stay and if hes already telling me when hes gone hes not gonna bother to talk to me anymore and after a bunch of mean thing he said to me like that I was thinking I would get a dating app because he clearly doesnt care about me and hes leaving me and dosen’t seem to care why not so I just had it on a page and I was going to get it but I changed my mind but forgot to close the window then he saw it an freaked out on me and got so angry and said you could just wait for me to leave and broke up with me again and pushed me away again and again picked me up and threw me away again and again and now it’s been a month and a half and he didnt talk or acknowledge me ignored me for a month and today a moth and today a week later of no contact he finally answered me and was using one word replys and being cold but I kept my cool and talked to him nicely asked him for another chance and told him that we both have trust issues mine about him leaving me and him about me cheating on him which I never would or did and just asked him if he would try again and like the third time we broke up he was cold kept saying no and that he doesn’t love me and to leave him alone but if he didnt why did he reply out of the blue?I thought but I told him okay and that I respected his decision and that I’ll always love him and I’ll leave him alone is it a good sign that he replied back is there a chance I could get him back? Please help

EBR Team Member: Shaunna

September 17, 2019 at 9:35 am

Hi Valerie, So for your best chance you need to read and understand this program, along with following through with the information. First step would be to complete a No Contact (limited if you share children or work together)

Kim

September 3, 2019 at 8:42 pm

Hi Chris,

I dated my ex boyfriend for 2 years while he was married. At first I didnt know he was married but then it was too late because I already had feelings for him. He ended up leaving his wife almost immediately, but had 2 brief reconciliations with her to avoid a fight over custody of their kids and child support. He wanted to handle that civilly but knew if he was still with me, she would make his life hell. In the end, his happiness was more important than catering to her needs and we were together. We frequently hung out with his brother and his brothers girlfriend, who became my best friend. His brother had 3 kids with her and they were middle school sweethearts, together 15 years. After about a year of our friendship (bff’s) her and my ex found out about my 1 night stand with his brother when I was drunk. I need to say here that when this happened, ibwas NOT friends with her yet, knew nothing of her. But my ex and I were not together bc he broke up with me to reconcile with his wife the 2nd time and ended up getting her pregnant (before leaving her for good).

I was fully aware of what I did and had every intention of telling both my best friend and my boyfriend what happened, WHEN I felt secure enough in my relationship with him he would know 1st. Well, it came out a year into my friendship with his bros girlfriend. Neither her or my boyfriend wanted to hear anything I had to say which made me feel like I was never loved or cared about as a friend. They both thought I did this spitefully to hurt them. This was not the case. He ended up getting together with her! Him and I would have nasty verbal fights over the phone about it. I would say horrible things about incest and dating his kids aunt. I was SO HURT AND SO UPSET. I’m permanently scarred from this.

This was 3 years ago now. They are still together but he cheats on her with me. I hear stories about how he talks to her like crap, he belittles her and they always fight. When him and I were together he NEVER talked to me like crap or even cursed at me. Yes I’m allowing him to come and go from my life as I allow him to cheat on her with me. But every time hes with me, I can see the sincerity in his face and hear it in his voice that he genuinely cares for me and is sorry for what he does. He knows that I’m still in love with him and I can see how free he feels with me but once he’s not with me, he’s ghosting me for an undetermined amount of time. Sometimes days, sometimes months. In easier terms, it’s almost as if she has a spell on him that hes able to break free from and taste what it’s like to be normal again for just a short time. Idk how else to explain it. I can feel an attachment to him and have had paychics/mediums reassure me of what I already know and that is he’s my soulmate. I cant seemnto walk away from him but at the same time, his lack of respect towards my feelings and knowing he’s hurting me by ignoring me has me thinking I’ve been played the entire 5 years now. And that is also scarring me mentally. I’m so confused and dont know what to do. Do I do the NC rule? Will that even matter? His current girlfriend cheats on him and they are so wrong for each other in so many ways. How can I make him see he made a mistake? Is he really in love with her? Or am I too good for him and he knows it?

Thanks!,
Kim
Help

July 14, 2019 at 6:42 pm

Hi Chris!
I could really do with your help..
I just completed the no contact rule and send out the first text to my ex. I sent him a positive text, however he hasn’t replied. I’ve just read this article and the only option I can see as to why he’s ignoring me is he wants nothing to do with me. I haven’t been a gnat. So I can’t see it being any other option.
We’ve had our fair share of arguments. However no cheating or anything like that.. have I blown my chances getting him back??:(
Sara adel

July 12, 2019 at 7:51 am

Hey chris,
I’ve dated my boyfriend for 5 years ,during the time he cheated on me several times 2 months ago he got pregnant and he wanted an abortion , he promised me of getting married and having kids , i lied about the abortion and i told him that i lied and that i made my mind ti get rid of the baby ,the day after he was so mad at me for lying and he was acting so rudely and stoped talking to me or answering my calls now its 2 weeks i kept on calling and mssging but no reply and if he replies he acts like a victim finally he told that i cheated on him with another guy and that im a liar and he doesnt want to get married and just texted bye!
Why isnt he blocking me on whatsup or phone calls but yet not replying to me although he knows that im innocent and im hurst
Miths

July 3, 2019 at 3:35 am

My ex boyfriend kind of used me as a rebound to get back with his ex and then he left me. At first he was ignoring and pushing me away so rude, or tried to use me sexually. But since recent he’s being so nice and sympathetic on me. He says he feels so sorry that he did this to me and wants to see me moving on cuz it’s been nearly two years and I haven’t made any progress in my life since the breakup. He talks to me so lovingly and doesn’t block me now despite how bad I scold him at times. This confuses me so much, does this anything mean that I can keep any hope about getting him back again? But he still says that he can’t and won’t leave his current girlfriend, will it ever change? Also he says that he wants to keep some limit with me to prevent him from losing control, implying he still has feelings for me. I’m so confused and he’s killing me
Madina

July 2, 2019 at 4:04 am

I have been dating with my bf fir three years.We met and wroked in USA,but then we had to go back to our countries.He is from other country and me too.We were in distance relationship for 2 years after USA,but we managed to go to Turkey to meet and last year i even went to his country.I met his family,then I came back to my country again.I knew that distance relationship is difficult,however i did my best to keep it up.When I mentioned that I am tired of being far from each other and want to get narried to him and want to see him finally,and if he doesn’t do anything we better break up.He decided to break up the other.He said that we are different and that i am obsessed with marriage.However,I still think it is ok to talk about this after three years.I tried to reach him bc I love him and want to be with him,however he blocked me everywhere.Now,two weeks passed already and I don’t know what to do.
Anna

June 11, 2019 at 11:14 pm

Hi my live in partner for 9 years recently cheated with her officemate, he left me and have not contacted me ever since. I sent him a parting message, no blaming, purely acceptance and letting go. But I also messaged the girl, attacking her principles for damaging the relationship. Did I just ruin my chance of getting back with my ex?
Lorren

May 12, 2019 at 12:50 am

Hello Chris,

My boyfriend and I were together for a year. We were having arguments and he withdrew a bit from me. I noticed he was being cold with me and he told me ever since our last fight he doesnt have romantic feelings for me. I dumped him 3 days ago because he said that( this was over the phone) he never called back or messaged me. I havent reached out either. I was always the desperate one reaching out during arguments and I feel like he also took my love for granted. I dont know what to do! I hope this time apart he does notice how i care and come back to me. Do you think theres any chance?

Chris Seiter

May 12, 2019 at 3:47 pm

Hi Lorren….Yes, your chances are success are usually improved if you have a sensible ex recovery plan. It sounds like giving each other some space and time could help with settling down the emotions and tensions. Take a look at picking up my Program, EBR Pro Bundle as it can help you in many ways.

An

May 3, 2019 at 1:12 pm

Hello

Me and my ex were together for 3 years lived together for 2. He began having an alcohol problem and went to rehab. We agreed to stay together through the process and I supported best I could. He wrote letters and stayed in touch well. I feel as soon as he got some freedom 13 months later at his halfway house he started initiating a text only type contact. He still did good in keeping me updating and in touch. He would come home on weekend visits. We had a fight on his Easter visit and he left running out of my mothers house saying he didn’t care about me the dinner and he had “shit to do” back at his halfway house. I was totally devastated at the reaction. He completely ignored me about 2 days then blamed me for a bunch of things throughout our relationship that he was no longer gonna sweep under the rug. Since then he pretty much went ghost on me. So it’s been 2 weeks since Easter and yes I blew up his phone with no responses. Yesterday he said he was going to work and that we would talk soon. I have not heard from him since
Maryln

April 27, 2019 at 4:04 pm

Hi Chris, my ex who i had been dating over 7 months suddenly ghosted me 1 fine day…it has been 4 months now since we last met…when i had questioned him about his behaviour he told me he was in a relationship…at 1st my mind would deny it and i thought he just wanted to distance himself from me… But just recently i got to know that he got back with his ex… So he basically dumped me for his ex….this betrayal has been so hard to bear…i do text him sometimes and he does respond sometimes, but not the way he would before…sometimes he doesnt reply at all…i just wanted to be friends with him cz i miss him in my life….i feel i should give up on him but 1 side i miss him way too much…and i dont know what to do…
Evelyn Poe

April 26, 2019 at 12:07 pm

Hey, really I’m just looking for advice…
I was with a guy for just under 3 months. If you’ve heard the term “love bombing” that describes the relationship perfectly, though I don’t think it was intentional. We had a fight and he got so mad he wouldn’t see me for over a week. He’d ignore my texts and if I’d call him crying, he’d say it was too much. The weeks leading up to this were perfect.

Note: he had done this before, and had said many spiteful things. Only 2 weeks before our last fight, he begged me not to leave.

I ended it, 2 days later I told him I wanted him back. He told me to leave him alone. He said “I don’t want to have to block you”.

So I informed him that I was blocking him, to stop myself from contacting him, but told him he could contact me via email if he wishes.

Will the no contact rule work for this? And how long should it be implemented for less than 3 months? I’ve heard it takes half the time a relationship lasted to get over it, and that comes close to the NC period. I’d really appreciate any advice that isn’t move on.

Chris Seiter

April 26, 2019 at 5:04 pm

Hi Evelyn…employing No Contact can often be the right medicine. A lot of applications and benefits for you and the situation you are in. Though I would not recommend 3 months. Usually 21-45 days is a reasonable range. Go pick up my massive eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it will help you throughout this process!

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