Understanding Why Your Ex Boyfriend Is Ignoring You- And How To Get Him To Stop

1,959 thoughts on “Why Is My Ex Boyfriend Always Ignoring Me?”

Kristien

August 29, 2016 at 9:08 am

Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up months ago. We had been together for almost 2 years. At first we tried to stay in contact, it worked for a month or two but then he said it was too soon to be friends (while it was his idea to remain friends). I figured that he could be right about that so I deleted him from my life. Now, again almost 2 months later he texted me asking me how I have been doing. I was busy the time he sent me that text so I didn’t respond until hours later. He immediatly texted me back, asking more questions. That was it. A few days later I texted him wishing him good luck on his first day of school. He actually told me in our conversation before when his school started. It’s been a few days now and he hasn’t responded yet. What is going on? He texts me first, after months of no contact but when I send him a text he doesn’t respond

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 31, 2016 at 7:56 am

Hi Kristen,

Try to initiate again on a time that you know he will be free, if he doesn’t reply in a week then that’s different.. That may mean he was curious how you are now when he texted you.

Christy

August 29, 2016 at 1:43 am

So long story short, my boyfriend of ~2 years broke up with me because of depression and he wanted to figure out his life. There were a lot more reasons like he pretended he was gay/bi, he wanted to experiment with other people, etc.. We broke up over the summer(when he was away at home), but he seems to think I initiated the break up because I gave him a pep talk sort of thing right before we left for break. This was clearly a miscommunication problem, as we broke up and got back together over 4 times during the summer(we were still separated by distance at this point). Now that school has started again, I had not made any contact with him as I believed we were truly done, and I finally felt ready to move on after a month or so, with the help of my tiny support group 🙂 However, a couple days ago, coincidentally right after I threw everything I had of him out, he sends me an extremely long text message basically that he wants me back? and he wants to meet up…so we meet up, and at this point I had not put as much thought into what I would say or do, which is the part I really regret >.< Even when meeting up with him I was still at a point where I felt I moved on in the relationship having not seen him physically in over a month and seeing him in an extremely depressed state made me sort of pity him. I felt really heartless because during the meeting he cried while explaining himself, but I couldn't feel bad for him because I couldn't forget the fact that he broke up with me in the end and I had cried myself to sleep almost every night after that for the longest time because I thought this was what he wanted (and also because I thought he was gay…but turns out he lied about that too) So after that I basically cut off my ties, feeling proud of myself for doing what seemed like the most logical decision after the way he's treated the relationship and me. I felt like I got real closure…However, I also had a slight fear that I might regret the decision I made because it felt like this would be the last time he would come back. So a day later I actually called him to see if he was doing okay since he had been suffering with depression. This might sound really bad, but I felt slightly disheartened that he did not do something more dramatic to win me back, and its really selfish of me but I think the way he let me down was kind of blunt. So in summary, the story kind of went like… hey I want to break up because of my life and I can't be your boyfriend right now, and btw I might be gay(which means no hope of ever getting back together) I want to explore my sexuality too possibly becoming a playboy *he actually said this* (although you would never expect this from him)and a bunch of other reasons.. after a month or 2 of no contact, he sends a huuuuge text message and I'm not sure if he wanted to get back together by this but it definitely seemed so since he said he still loves me..but regardless I thought I had my resolution set and told him I didn't want anything to do with him….and then………..I started having second doubts? I think he's the type of person who does not take rejection so well which is why I think its over for good whether we try again or not.. I'm having trouble making sense of these lingering feelings I have for him, which comes from a mixture of feeling bad for breaking it off with him at a time when he seemed extremely depressed and also that I miss the friendship and bond we had together. Any advice would be appreciated, thank you!

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 8:02 pm

Hi Christy,

How is he now? And when was the last time you talked?

Carly

August 28, 2016 at 4:04 am

My boyfriend and I only dated for 3 months and everything was going fine! Or so I thought. The next day that night he broke up with me saying it’s not you its me I can’t have a gf rn I love you so much and you are so important to me and I want to see you and be friends. I told him I hated him and we haven’t talked in a month. Please help me get him back

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 3:15 pm

HI Carly,

YOu haven’t talked in a month? But have you improved yourself?

Twooky

August 27, 2016 at 2:29 pm

Hello, thank you for this website. I met this guy on tinder and it started out as a fling but it escalated into both of us falling in love. i have met his parents and his kids… Anyway it was only meant to be a short summer romance of three months… Because my work permit was expiring and I had to move back home to another country . We talked about our future together some days , if and when I get back to his country. Fast forward to the present , I have been home for three weeks and we kept in touch via Skype .. But he is sending out mixed signals saying he’s not the best man for me even though he really wants to be with me. But yet he’s arranged a tinder date this week. I got really annoyed because I thought that he had moved too quickly and I basically told him that I need time to recover and not to contact me. I’ve never been so happy with anyone before , if there was a chance of me going back to his country to live, will there be a chance of us being together or is it wishful thinking?

Thanks,

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 12:58 pm

Hi Twooky,

it depends on when you are moving and also if you can maintain a relationship while being apart.. so right now, you’re not actually together?

Abby

August 26, 2016 at 9:13 am

We broke up 3 weeks ago. He broke up with me and the reason was about fundamental differences in us. I blocked him, removed him from everywhere after he sent me the break up text. We didnt talk and meet until last week i sent him a text told him i was thinking about him, he didnt reply me but i know he showed to his sister my text and he didnt know what to reply. And yesterday, i sent him a long text, its about how i think we could fix the problems and i don’t wanna give up yet. He read my message but didnt reply, in the text i requested to meet once he is ready to do so. One point is, he still hasn’t removed photos of ours on social medias which giving me fake hopes all time…..

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 30, 2016 at 8:52 am

Hi Abby,

are you in no contact rule right now?

Christy

August 25, 2016 at 6:01 pm

So my boyfriend an I ended are relationship of 2 years, bc I have trust issues .. In the beginning of are relationship I found txt an pic in his phone! So I ended are relationship!! 2 weeks later he came back begging for me back .. So I fell for it! So I found the txt an pics in November we got together in October.. Then on New Years I found him texting a girl again! Pic ect again!! Broke it off !! Then forgave him! So he promised it wouldn’t happen again, it actually lasted a year till I broke it off bc we where fighting to much! Then he admitted to me when where trying to work it out that when we fight on an off we break it off, he talks to other women’s bc he gets lonely bc he can’t talk to me! I told him it’s cheating he believes it not cheating! Bc we only last fighting for one day an break it off get back together! So recently I told him I can’t ever trust him again! An ended it! I love him so much an I feel wrong for loving him bc he screwed me over so much! He hasn’t responded to my txt! I haven’t blown his phone up! I need help:(

EBR Team Member: Amor

August 29, 2016 at 2:34 pm

Hi Christy

If he repeatedly lies to you then that means it’s already a pattern.. are you in no contact now?

Felicity

July 24, 2016 at 10:34 am

I didn’t do anything wrong at all, it was all him. He ended the relationship because he said the distance was too much for him to deal with. And he hasn’t contacted me in a month and neither have I, we are not friends anywhere on social media. Idk what to do now but your reasons for my ex not contacting me are wrong because I did nothing wrong.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 27, 2016 at 7:34 am

Hi Felicity,

the article doesn’t apply to all and as you said, the reason he broke up with you is the distance right? so, that’s what you need to work on.. try to rea this articles too:
The Complete Guide To Getting An Ex Boyfriend Back In A Long Distance Relationship

EBR 004: Breaking The Long Distance Barrier With An Ex

Brandi

July 23, 2016 at 8:22 pm

So my boyfriend and I were only together for 5 months. But things were going so well and we were both really happy. We even had plans to go on a cruise this summer. He started acting strange randomly and then broke up with me claiming that he “isnt ready for a serious relationship” and “i think we moved too fast.” He says he still wants to be friends but he refuses to give me any explanation why he did this and he is ignoring me. I dont over text if I text him at all but we had plans to meet up and talk and he bailed on me and then didnt respond to my last text. I dont know what to do in this situation.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 26, 2016 at 7:45 am

Hi Brandi,

you should start 30 days no contacy

Ellie

July 20, 2016 at 9:44 am

So its been 2 months since my ex left me now… i did no contact for a month and then messed it up by going from 0-60 but it seemed like he was second guessing the break up, i didnt text him that much afterwards and the only messages i got from him were ones where he was asking me to deliver his post or sort some stuff out for him. 2 weeks ago he spent the entire day messaging me and i think i came off really desperate and needy and since then he didnt message me, i panicked and just wanted to know where i stood as i didnt like the mixed signals so i said “look i know weve been through a lot but i still have feelings for you and think we can make this work. you seemed like you were confused and unsure you i thought id just let you know where i stand and it would be good if we could at least sit down and talk this out” … week later and hes replied by asking me to do him all these favours and then at the end going “sorry for the late reply ive been really busy. can you get my post for me from your place and have a look for these things for me…i know how you feel i really do but i just dont feel the same, we could still meet and talk if you still wanted” – i havent replied to this, im angry that it just feels like hes using me, he still owes me money and knows im in desperate need of it yet hasnt even battered an eye lid about it, hes no longer checking up on me and hes adding strange girls on fb but has blocked me, ive been very nice to him all through this because he left me because he was depressed and confused on what he wanted but seems to be just fine now! this isnt the guy i know and isnt the same guy i lived with for 3 years, none of it makes sense to me, he took me to look at engagment rings a month before we broke up and even bought us stuff for our new place the week before… he just ran out by the way we didnt even have a talk about things but i knew he was unhappy for about a month but i just asumed it was circumstances not me. Anyway i dont know what to do he wont come near my side of town and he doesnt want to be friends- if he has no feelings for me why cant we be friends?!
have i completely messed it up, what do i do now? Also hes looking for new jobs around this area which doesnt make sense as hes living on someones couch and is only still around this area for his job and im to move away in 2 months but its only half an hour away from this area.

(sorry for the long comment Amor)

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 21, 2016 at 3:24 pm

Hi Ellie,

Message him about the money.. tell him kindly that you need it and if you can work terms about it..and then proceed in limited nc

Taylor Hill

July 19, 2016 at 5:15 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me in september last year and I did do the whole blowing up the phone thing , he was my first boyfriend so i was freaking out a bit, however , I didnt ever go show up at his house thats crazy lol. But i did stop texting him but he texted me and asked if I was okay nothing crazy and then id send him little encouraginy texts because I knew sometimes his new job is hard , eventually he texted me again … And now in july lol we texted while we were both on vacation while we were with out families … The night I got home we wen to the movies, we barely talked , he paid for me when i said i can pay for myself , he held the door for me and at the end of the movie he asked if i liked it , during the whole movie he seemed soo nervous ,like itching and moving n stuff and we got to the car , we didnt hug or kiss or aything , he told me to drive safe and got in his car n sped off , idk what was up with him, And I texted him and he read it but hasn’t replied sooo.. yeah it was a little awkward but itw cuz the last time we saw eachother was after the break up but i thought it went ok but idk why he wont text me back?!?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 21, 2016 at 10:47 am

Hi Taylor
give him time..don’t ask him why he’s not replying. it looks like he was not ready to meet you

Tiffany

July 19, 2016 at 12:07 am

He called me yesterday, but I never called him back. It was 3 weeks of no contact so I called him back today. We talked a bit, nothing really about our relationship, he just wanted to see how I was doing. I am disappointed though. I was hoping the conversation would be about us. Is that dumb? Now I feel like he doesn’t want me back.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 20, 2016 at 1:46 pm

Hi Tiffany

take this as a restart..not a continuation of the past relationship

Lindsay

July 18, 2016 at 9:51 am

Hey,

I’ve just completed 30 days of no contact. My ex sort of broke up with me, went away, then really did it. I begged, cried, texted way too much… all the usual mistakes! So I started NC the day afterwards.
The NC has really worked for me, just because I feel so much better. I’m not obsessing over him (although admittedly I still think about him), and I’ve been focusing on myself: seeing a therapist, going to the gym, hanging out with friends and doing fun things. It has given me loads of perspective on my life and where our relationship went wrong, and I feel so much better.
I’d like to ask some advice though if possible. The reasons he gave me for the break up were a bit confusing. First off he went away on holiday and when he came back he was very distant and said we should talk about us. Then when we met up he said that we were arguing all the time, we weren’t intimate for weeks (he has problems with intimacy, not me) and he was feeling very disconnected and needed to take a step back. I fought for him but he went away for a while, and when he returned he was even worse. He looked completely numb and told me things like: we don’t have a future, I hate your friends, we’re incompatible. It sounded very different from the “we need space for me to figure it out” excuse.
Would you recommend I contact him? I asked him when we broke up if he just needed space, but he told me that I had to move on because waiting for him would be too damaging for me.
He hasn’t blocked my number and we’re still friends on Facebook so I guess I want to know your opinion about whether I have a chance to fix our relationship?
Thank you!

(I find this website so helpful by the way. You hold no punches and that is so important.)

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 18, 2016 at 5:40 pm

Hi lindsay,
thank you! it looks like he realized your relationship either got boring oe was too stressful when he was in vacation.. so, let go of the previous relationship..were you active in posting during your nc? if he saw youe posts would he think you have been moving on? because if yes, it’s ok to reach out but just be friendly at first

Katy

July 16, 2016 at 6:30 am

Hello,

I have been reading your articles and i figured i could use some help.
I have been with this guy for 3 years and what to say, right after we got committed and we were still growing in relation after two months we had a bad situation we overcame and after that he says to me its not working and he wants to leave me, I begged him literally and asked him to stay back with me and he did, now its 3 yrs we have been through a lot of ups and downs and always he comes back to the point where he says I told you at the beginning it wont work, he says he does not have the same feelings for me anymore. It’s been like entire 3 yrs i have tried hard to get him to love back , but I failed.

It has been a tough journey through him keeping n saying he does not love me and I used to doubt whether he could be in a relation with someone else. I also came to know he was a bit interested in one of his co-workers and also saw his profile in of the dating sites. I did feel bad , most of the time I kept asking him to give us some time but no he never thinks of it. He also smokes weed and i often tend to think may it has made him think less of me, i know that’s dumb but i did. He is an adventurous person and every holiday and leave he takes he will go for trekking or partying with his friends and so on.. He loves his friends like anything and always it’s them first and never me when getting his attention. I have never cheated on him , i never played the fool behind his back , i never also thought of any other person at all, and he knows that, he knows no matter what I will still love him. There is no time spending except for sex, there is no surprises , there is no proper communication. At times i feel he is a bit selfish and never thinks or even looks at my efforts in trying to get him , but he would rather love himself. Right now i’m using the No contact rule with him, and ya he hasn’t called me and texted me since 4 days, but i dont feel bad it anymore, as i have tried a lot all 3 years. But still i wish he comes back to me and says he loves me.

Can you please help me with this. Please.
Thanks & Regards
Katy

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 16, 2016 at 8:38 pm

Hi Katy

that’s good.. after 3 years, it’s time for you to put yourself first and really and reflect.. it’s not a relationship anymore..he basically just use your guilt to use you for 3 years.. use this time to really have your own life.. and to make him realize that you have your own life and you’re not girl that will chase him

Jc

July 15, 2016 at 10:22 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me because he had feelings for someone else. This happened in may, but we kept talking, hanging out and even having sex until we had a big fight a month late (thr fight happened becausd i found that he slept with thd person for whom he had feelings at the same time he slept with me, after I had made it clear that I wouldn’t want to keep doing it if he was seeing someone else). He said it would be better if we didn’t contact each other for a while. I kept messaging him (big mistake, i know), but to no avail -he blocked my number and unfollowed me on instagram, but we’re still friends on facebook- so I gave up. A month passed, and I texted him asking if he wanted me to leave his things at his best friend’s house; he saw it and didn’t answer me. Should I ever contact him again or wait until he contacts me? If I should, when and how?

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 16, 2016 at 4:37 pm

hi jc,

you said a month passed, but you didn’t do active nc right? if you did, what actvities did you started during it and are you continuing it now? and have you met new people and went out with them?

Sarah

July 7, 2016 at 3:14 pm

I was married for 18 years and my husband and I divorced. The divorce was my decision, I felt trapped and I needed independence. Plus I did everything either by myself or with my two kids. Fast forward almost 4 years, we both have dated other people, but we have remained friends and made our kids no. 1. Recently we seemed to be doing more together in the afternoon with the kids, just hanging out or playing games together. He would call me on the phone and we would chat about kids and have a good conversation. He would come to my house and would chat while kids would get ready. So I was feeling a connection to him again. I had hope that we both had grown over the 4 years and there was maybe hope for us. So I was really surprise that he took the kids to meet someone else. I was upset and sent him a text message that I wanted to start over that I know the divorce hurt him but I regret a lot of decisions I made in the past and I wanted to have a change to prove it to him. I also said that I did not want to mess anything up with his current relationship and if he did not feel the same then I would understand. So now 2 days later and he still has not replied. We normal talk everyday regarding kids and I have nothing. Do I take this as a sign, that I was wrong to open up to him and tell him how I feel? Do I give him more time? So confused. I feel embarrassed now that I have to be around him knowing I spilled my emotions to him.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 7, 2016 at 5:52 pm

Hi Sarah,

give him more time…

Angel02

July 6, 2016 at 4:35 pm

Hi Amor

My ex is literally using no contact on me after he broke up with me, he’s wiped me off like I don’t exist or that nothing even happened for the past 2years we’ve been dating. I have been a good gf to him and have never done anything wrong. He just slowly started drifting away from me an decided he was going to leave as he didn’t feel happy in the relationship. I am using no contact also it has been 2weeks, I don’t actually think he’s going to reach out to me. I do want him back but I’m not sure if I should initiate contact after no contact.

EBR Team Member: Amor

July 7, 2016 at 2:49 pm

Hi Angel 02,
he ghosted you.. you’re difference is that you’re actively improving yourself and active in social media too.. if you feel you need to extend nc that’s ok.. but it’s ok to initiate contact as long as you’ve been continuously active during and after nc

Edith

June 27, 2016 at 1:04 am

Hello!

Boy oh boy my situation has spiraled out of control. My ex dumped me in March. After a month of NC I reinitiated contact & things were going great. First time I saw him at the end of April, I hate to say it but we hooked up. Then we mutually texted and initiated meet ups at least 2-3 times a week. Then I discovered about a week after we started hooking up he started seeing another girl Amy, his best friend’s ex. I work next door to him at a school so I see her car over. I spoke to his best friend’s girlfriend (Cara) about it because we are friends. She was surprised and then believed me because she saw her car over when stays with her boyfriend. Anyways I continued to see him and hook up and he would also see Amy. Cara even spoke to her boyfriend about it.

I was fed up because I wanted commitment and I got the feeling he was more into Amy. The day I was going to put an end to hooking up, which was in mid May, my ex surprised me by being ridiculously sweet and acted like we were a couple. At night he even only cuddled me and when we woke up he did our affectionate wake up routine that’s between us. I was soooo confused but became hopeful. However my ex grew incredibly distant after the next time I saw him and told me we were only friends and he doesn’t want to give me hope that we are getting back together. We still both mutually initiated texts and hang outs. We did hook up too. I would also see Amy’s car over several days a week when I went to work. But end of May my ex turned rude.

He wanted nothing to do with me. Ignored my texts. Pushed me away without giving a reason other than “I don’t feel like hanging out” or “I’m not in the mood to talk to you.” It was upsetting because it seemed out of nowhere he was cutting me off. At one point too I drove by on the weekend to pick up my wallet I left at the school and saw him and Amy walking. He did not look at me. But I mean now he knows I know but wouldn’t say anything (unless he did not see me). We finally had a talk mid June (well fight I would say). He told me he finds me suffocating and needy. He told me is debating if he even wants to be friends with me because I’m suffocating him and that he sees my as not a close friend. Only one he hangs out with once a moth or less. I told him I’m acting the same as before, which was true, and that it wasn’t a problem before. We both mutual initiated texts and hung out multiple times a week but you put a stop to it and you won’t say why. He didn’t reply. The next day I wrote “look I don’t’ know what your sudden issue is with me the past couple of weeks. You were fine seeing and texting me before many times a week and now you are phasing me out like I’m a problem and you wont say why. I think I know the reason. It’s because you are seeing Amy. I’m not dumb. I know you slept with us both at the same time. I would’ve hoped out of respect for me you would’ve told me. Also explained to me why you lead me on after we started talking again and then claim we are just friends and now want nothing to do with me. You made it very clear you want nothing to do with me and I’m done trying.

I went into NC. Thing is he called me 10 days later (last night). 3 times. So I answered. I knew I shouldn’t seeing how he would’ve ignored my call. He asked me if I was in his town. I said no. He told me a friend saw me drive by the friend’s house they are at right now. I’m like no sorry. He said it’s strange because I believe him because I know you drive by my house. I’m like yes I go to work. Don’t worry though school is out for the summer as of this week so I won’t be in your town anymore. Ok what about the Saturday? You passed me while I was walking with Amy. I said I left my wallet at the school it’s the truth. He said he is scared. Scared for me that I’m stalking him. I told him don’t worry as I said before I’m not at the school anymore. Then he asked what about you asking my friends to spy on us? I’m like excuse me who? Cara said you make her drive by to check if Amy is over (a lie I know, probably Cara’s boyfriend mentioned something). I’m like look yes Cara and I talked about it because she saw my car over some nights and thought we were getting back together and happy about it but then she saw her car over too. I was wondering what was going on. Why I’m being played. You never talked to me about it. Instead you continued to hook up with me and I let it happen. Don’t worry I won’t be sleeping with you again. I asked him is this the reason you pushed me away? You think I’m a stalker? I don’t want to be around you its weird. I asked weird because you think I’m stalking you? Or weird because you have a new girlfriend? He said Amy isn’t my girlfriend we are just hanging out. I said well it’s pretty shitty of you to go to a girl like a month after breaking up with me when the reason you ended it was to be alone to work on yourself. Plus you lead me on and slept with me too while sleeping with her and I’m not ok with that. He said he slept with several girls since we broke up and that Amy just happened after we broke up he didn’t talk to her before our break up. It just happened when he went to a party they started talking and we are just hanging out. I said ok so why can’t you and I be able to hang out to? Why can’t we talk and hang out again? He wouldn’t answer and left the conversation.

This hurts me. It seems all his friends and him are ganging up on me calling me a stalker. I feel like I’m in high school when I’m 31 and he’s 26! I don’t know what to do. Obviously NC and STICK TO IT. But based on what just happened I don’t know if he’d every talk to me again or if he’ll ignore me. Help!
Regina

June 25, 2016 at 4:51 pm

Hey! I’ll be seeing my ex bf next month (flying down to his country), he knows about it. He ended things with me last august. We’ve kept in touch ever since then because he wanted to stay friends etc. he’s very hot and cold with me, sometimes he’ll respond enthusiastically and sometimes he’ll just randomly stop replying. he never intiates, its always me. Last friday I sent him a supportive text message for work ( he had told me he has a crazy workload), and he saw it but never replied. It hurts me. I’m not sure what I did wrong, he was fine with me last week. Do you think he’s avoiding me?

Regina

June 28, 2016 at 3:46 pm

how do I escape the friendzone?
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 29, 2016 at 1:45 pm

this article will explain it more thoroughly:
EBR 012: How To Get Out Of The “Friend Zone” With Your Ex Boyfriend
EBR Team Member: Amor

June 28, 2016 at 11:20 am

HI Regina,

I think he friendzoned you..

Ana

June 20, 2016 at 1:23 am

I am recently separated and joined match.com. I met an amazing guy.. we went out twice but connected really well. The first time I kissed him and the second time we had a very erotic hook up at the beach. He said all the right things and seemed to be very happy with me..
I made the huge mistake to send him a voice note saying thank you for all the wonderful things he did and I told him some of those (like the foot massage) were a first time for me… I know not to look needy so eventhough I made the mistake to share my feelings with him I don´t think I was emotional or anything like that..
He didnt necessarily replied to my comment but sent me a text saying that he was sending me a warm kiss and sent me the picture I requested of himself.
That same night I sent him the typical message that I sent him in the past and that he enjoyed so much on which I included music, a picture and a brief comment but he didnt reply anymore..
I let 5 days go by and then text him asking if everything was all right since I havent heard from him…
He replied a long message explaining that he had a terrible week with long hours, due dates etc… then asked me how I was in a loving way, calling me the usual : pretty girl.
I responded something casual so he wouldnt feel how upset I was after him ignoring my message.. but I didnt receive any message back.
I know you must be thinking that only 2 dates are hardly any and that I should move on… but I can´t.. he was so perfect in so many ways.. I dont want to loose the opportunity of being with someone like him just because I acted stupid sending the messages I sent.
Look if you tell me that he played with me I will understand and I will move on..
If he lost interest in me I will withdraw..
But I dont want my emotions to take me into the drama and potentially loose this way that I am very interested on..
Should I believe him how busy he was?
When men are interested they always find time.. right?
I will implement the 30 day NC rule and see what happens, but if you could give me your perspective.. I would really really appreciate it..
I this will end I will let it end but for the right reasons and not because I was unable to handle it correctly.
Thank you very much for your help ….
I have cried a lot because I feel lonely and I refuse to think that dating is a manipulative game… how scary…
Thank you again!

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 22, 2016 at 4:55 am

Hi Ana,

to be honest, I don’t think it was because of what you said but you slepy too early with him

louise

June 15, 2016 at 7:33 pm

my boyfriend of 2 years broke up with me a week ago and I am completely devastated. just over 2 months ago i discovered i was pregnant and he made it clear from the start that he wasn’t ready to settle down with me. after a couple of months of soul searching and lots of intense arguments i agreed to have a termination at 12 weeks which was an extremely difficult decision for me but he assured me we would have a fresh start afterwards. in the two weeks following the abortion my moods were extreme and eventually he told me he wanted a break from me for a few weeks to sort himself out, he said he wanted to to find himself again and thought he couldn’t see a future between us as we wanted different things. he also told me he loves me and hopes that his feelings will changed but for now its over. since then we have met up a few times and he has said that it is over, but he will still take me away on my birthday next week as we had planned to do so before but leading up to the weekend away he wants space and no contact at all which is what I’m doing. he says he’s hoping space and the weekend away might change his feelings. i want more than anything to go away with him before my birthday but I’m also scared that I’m heading for more heartbreak if i do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

June 18, 2016 at 9:11 am

Hi Louise,

if you are going with him, don’t beg him back..have fun and then when he’s in the best mood talk about the relationship

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