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6,803 thoughts on “The No Contact Rule (The Definitive Guide)”

  1. Johanna

    February 1, 2016 at 8:43 am

    Hello,
    My boyfriend and I were in a serious relationship for a bit over a year. Both invested in each others families and he even took me home with him twice up to his hometown in NY. But since the end of last august our communication and lack of intimacy had gone downhill. We broke up in early November right after our second trip to NY…the same night I had an unfortunate car accident. In fact ever since last September I have been going through alot of stressful family tragedy. And after all we could seem to do was fight all the time. It was miserable. After the breakup he swore up and down he cared for me and still remained in contact through phone and text but I avoided seeing him due to the pain of rejection and anger. I blew up on him a couple of times and at one point asked for another chance making the cardinal mistakes. After realizing I was annoying him I backed off and tried to just stay friendly via text up until about a week and a half ago. He has thrown mixed signals my way and it always upset me because he would act attracted to me and even try to make personal contact happen using lame excuses. Finally my pain reared its ugly head and I decided to start a period of NC to see if this helps any with missing me and starting fresh where I am in a better mindset to talk and he is more open to giving our relationship another try. It has now been a week and a half and it is difficult because up until this point we would always text each other everyday. But as of right now 13 days in I have not heard from him. Is it too late almost two months later to have started the NC rule? Our main reason we broke up, from what I understand, was all the fighting.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 2, 2016 at 12:26 pm

      Hi Johanna,
      Nope, I don’t think it’s too late. But if you’re going to do nc, stick to it until you finish it instead of stopping midway and then restarting the count because the more you do nc, the less it’s effect.

  2. Amy

    February 1, 2016 at 7:22 am

    Hi, I’ve been doing no contact since the beginning of this month. Before that I’d always give in to him. Anyways I started NC and he contacted me a few times and I didn’t respond. However after a week into it … I accidently called him while I was trying to call a friend. I hung up immediately (within the first ring)… but he called back and texted me and called again the next day. I didn’t pick up or respond. Does that mean I have to start over? I’m almost 4 weeks in and feel like this was definitely a healing process for me. I’d always feel guilty ignoring him so I never really did it. I never realized how much it could help me. If I choose to still pursue this…. should I wait a little longer because of my little slip?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 2, 2016 at 12:18 pm

      Hi Amy,

      Nope you don’t need to start over 🙂 I’m happy nc has helped you heal.

  3. Sara

    February 1, 2016 at 5:53 am

    Hi, my boyfriend broke up with me last two days. Telling me that we should understand that we have no future together. He is so negative about what is going on right now. We met in UAE and worked together and everything is so well. But seven months back he got terminated from our company and got so frustrated and depressed having no work plus family pressure and financial issues. He started to be very moody, negative and hopeless. Now he decided to go to Afghanistan, his home country to try getting a job there. And luckily he was accepted there and will start working next week. Still he feels depressed and idk. He keeps on saying that he doesnt want to go there and work but he has no choice, staying here in UAE will make him feel worthless and he is not getting a job here after many times of trying. He is saying that he will miss us there, all his family are also here, he is scared there because of the present bombings and all conflicts in Afghanistan, but he has no choice and this company is giving him a very good package. Now, idk what is the exact reason that he doesnt want to come back here 3-4 years and saying that he doesnt want to disappoint his parents. He needs to be successful and he can just do that alone. HE chose to dump me, i really dont understand. I told him we can make our relationship work out thru more patience and adjustment. But he keeps on saying that it is not possible on our situation now, Should i just give up? I want him back. What to do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 2, 2016 at 10:32 am

      Hi Sara,

      I think he’s speaking out of frustration with his career. He’s pressured because he forced to go the a new place that he doesn’t like. And he’s everything as stress right now.

  4. C

    January 31, 2016 at 11:47 pm

    Hi Amor

    On day 5 of my NC I caved and responded to my ex. I also spoke to him on the phone the day after. I feel lousy. But I feel like I’m kinda ready to really focus on myself.

    What should I do?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 1, 2016 at 10:12 am

      Hi C,

      You need to start over the count. 🙂

  5. Megan

    January 31, 2016 at 3:31 pm

    Hi, I’m on day 8 of the no contact rule and seeing all these comments with people saying ‘he’s contacted me 3 times’ etc is really getting me down. I’ve heard nothing so far from my ex 🙁
    He ended the relationship after 3 years but refused to meet up and say goodbye, he didn’t wish me well either. Due to his behaviour I feel like we had unfinished business so I told him that I’ll give him some space and told him to text me if he changes his mind or wants to talk further. After about 2 weeks he still hasn’t contacted me. I feel like this has put me at a disadvantage with regards to the no contact rule because the power is kind of in his hands, not mine? He thinks I’m sat here waiting. Which I am 🙁

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 1, 2016 at 7:28 am

      Well, not really. You told him you’re giving him space and he can contact you IF he changes his mind. You didn’t tell him. that you’ll wait. You’re the only one who knows that you’re waiting.

  6. Lia

    January 30, 2016 at 5:21 pm

    Hi
    Hi all
    I’m currently in my 3rd week of no contact with an ex I was with for 3 years. He has been going through a period of depression following a tough year.. We lived together and since I left the house I have not spoken to him however we have a holiday booked in 3 weeks (we have already paid £600 each for flights and I can’t write that off so I was thinking of going on my own and having a little break) and I still have bills going out paying for the house I don’t live in. I want my ex back but I from what I understand of the NC period, once it’s over it’s time to be totally positive so I’m worried that by waiting until the 30 days are up to have a practical conversation that I am negating the whole point of the NC because I can’t follow up with the next step! What should I do?

    1. Lia

      January 31, 2016 at 12:01 pm

      Basically, should I break no contact to arrange to sort out some practical considerations so that when the NC period is over, all I have to do is follow the next steps suggested on the website?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2016 at 1:55 pm

      Hmm… well, there are exceptions with the no contact rule. Like if you have a child together, you only talk about the child. If you need to give or get back things, you just give or get them, no talking about the relationship and feelings. Situations where you really need to meet. If yours fall under these then go ahead.

    3. Lia

      January 31, 2016 at 10:35 am

      No I meant that we have other things to sort out, practical things that I would like to get out of the way before moving onto the next step

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2016 at 3:28 am

      Hi Lia,

      Sorry I don’t quite understand what you last said. Did you mean you’re not ready to be positive yet after 30 days of no contact?

  7. Confused

    January 30, 2016 at 9:28 am

    HI. My boyfriend of nearly 3 year broke off with me. We started dating overseas while were we studying.. he graduated a year b4 me. So we had 1 year of LDR and after my studies i moved to his city for work. Initially, we stayed with his family as his house was still being renovated. We moved in together in Sept/october last year and that was when things started to fall out. Our relationship has been shaky since december. Few days ago, after cmg back from a trip and he was upset with me( accidentally messed something up in the use) and called it quits and said enough is enough. We nvr had any closure and have not been speaking since.. I dun see him often coz we r very busy with work. and even when we do, we jz ignore each other. We nvr officially said its a break up. Im thinking of waiting for 2-3 months until having the talk with him. I feel that space will be healthy. Is it okay? or shall i ask him if things are totally over now itself?

    1. Confused

      January 31, 2016 at 5:27 am

      Thank you, nt planning to talk anytime soon.. but i read at How to get you ex-bf back version 2.0 that i can put my ex in a positive mindset with a classy text. part of me feels its a good idea.. will that be breaking the NC rule. do i have to restart back to day 1?

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2016 at 6:59 am

      Yeah, I think it’s better if you send it after nc.

    3. Confused

      January 31, 2016 at 4:54 am

      Probably msg him today(day 6 in the NC), telling him i hold nth against him, wish him all the best and not to be a stranger.. continue with the NC plan maybe for 2 months n take it from there? I’m still leaving in his use tho.. we have separate rooms and there are others renting the rooms below..

    4. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2016 at 5:19 am

      Honestly if you ask if things were over, he might just agree out of pride. It’s hard to tell from my position if 2 months for you is healthy but the general rule is that, if you can’t talk rationally, don’t talk. Emotions will just make the conversation worse. You have to come from a calm perspective.

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 3:54 pm

      Hi Confused,

      If he said that things are really over, what are you going to do?

  8. Margo

    January 30, 2016 at 4:03 am

    Hi. I’m very nervous about doing this whole NC rule. I know I can do it, I’m just concerned about when it’s time to message him (if he hasn’t done it yet) he won’t reply.

    The thing is, my ex and I broke up about a month ago and we tried to be friends. I wasn’t (and still am not) to sure why he wanted to breakup. One day we were making love and we were happy and smiling just like the seven months we were together for and then literally the next day his tone of voice and attitude was different and everything we’d talk about he’d say it with little enthusiasm and with hesitation. I knew something was wrong so I asked. He said he wasn’t sure about us anymore and after a couple weeks of trying to figure out his feelings, we decided to break up. My feelings for him didn’t change though. I agreed to the break up because, obviously, why would I make stay in a relationship where he doesn’t have loving feelings anymore? He asked for us to remain friends though but me, being too clingy (regrettably) and still trying to understand why the sudden change of feelings, just caused him to get upset and depressed because he couldn’t stand that I was looking for him too much. Now, he asked me to not even be his friend and I’m not sure he’ll want me back.
    Yes, I’m a work in progress but so is he (both in college).
    Also, his whole family has had a long history of divorces and relationships that don’t last long. I think he might have lost hope in finding love and keeping it even though he would tell me that he never wants to divorce if he ever got married.
    Me, I’m surrounded by lots of successful marriages and I know how powerful communication can help understand things.
    Our last conversation was very intense but I was disappointed that he did it all via txt message. It seemed like a cowardly thing to do since he and I used to have outrageously great communication skills and we would talk face to face but this last time he refused to answer the phone or see me.
    I want to know:
    1. It hurts to keep the gifts he gave me. Should I give them back to him or should I get rid of it?
    2. If I do the 21-30 days and he doesn’t txt me, what do I do?
    3. He thinks like a capitalist and I noticed he only stays in touch with people if they are if some benefit to him. He hardly seeks friends for fun or a good time unless he needs to distress. I told him about this behavior of his during our couple weeks of taking and he was thankful that I opened his eyes about it but now I don’t know what’s going to happen since now I’m not his friend. Could I become his friend again?
    Sorry for writing such a long post but I’d appreciate any advice or opinion about my situation. Thank you.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 3:25 pm

      HI Margo,
      I’m going answer your questions in the same order you posted. 🙂

      1) Hmmm.. I think giving it back to him now will not help. Why not keep it first where you don’t see them and when you’re not that emotional anymore, decide on what to do with them.

      2) It’s okay if you initiate contact after NC.

      3) Hmm.. that’s when you really have to provide value to the conversation, because capitalist or not, we all admire somebody who brings value. Could you be his friend again? I think so, because as you said, he only makes friends who provide him value.

  9. Paul

    January 29, 2016 at 4:13 pm

    Please help! I have recently split up with my ex wife again … it’s a long story but we divorced, got back together, had a child, split up again for 3 years. We recently got back in touch and re-established our relationship after 3 years … we had both been in a relationship previous to getting back together. Anyway, I thought everything was going good, she even said it a few days before and told me she loved me … THEN … we had a silly argument, i didn’t want to do something she asked of me and it got worse … I told her out of anger that I would get back with the girl I was with before her … I know I was stupid … anyway, I left, had no home and was in a town 170 miles from my own … I stayed with out old neighbour who is an alcoholic as I had nowhere else to go … during the time I was there he was telling me stuff about her (which I since found out were lies), so i sent her some abusive texts … she replied to some and it got worse. The next day I apologised, then did it again that night … She told me she didn’t love me anymore and never wanted to try again ever the day after. Then wouldn’t reply to any of my texts or voicemails aplogising. I did the usual and begged for a few days and decided to go NC. It’s been 2 days and it’s a living hell. I just want to be with her and the children again, we were very happy a few days before this happened. Do you think she’ll contact me if I stick with NC? Please help!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 11:55 am

      Hi Paul,

      I think she’ll talk to again when she’s not angry anymore. Let her anger subside first and have a sincere talk

  10. Jess

    January 29, 2016 at 3:00 pm

    I was doing the NC rule and we were at 3.5 weeks when he wrote me and I responded 2 hours later. He said he just wanted to see if im ok but still doesn’t want to get back together. He said he doesn’t love me but for some reason the break up is messing him up, he just felt bad. Do I respond if he writes again? That was 2 days ago that he wrote. or do I just ignore him and start fresh on the NC rule?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 11:40 am

      Hi Jess,
      thing is, the more you use Nc, the less it’s benefits. Hmm.. he misses you that’s why he’s messed up. What did you tell him?

  11. Katie

    January 29, 2016 at 1:27 am

    Hi, when my boyfriend and I broke up he said he wanted about three months of not as much contact. Should I still do the no contact rule for only thirty days or for three months?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 29, 2016 at 11:03 am

      HI Katie,

      Actually do 30 days and see if he tries to contact you within it but don’t reply. If not, you can still try because he said not as much, he didn’t say totally right? 🙂

  12. Ria

    January 28, 2016 at 11:06 pm

    Hi, my ex boyfriend and I broke up about 3 months ago because of a long distance relationship, I never used the no contact rule on him before but I wanted know, if I use it now will it work? we talk everyday, mostly fight everyday about petty issues even now, and I want to do the NC rule but I wanted to know will it work? what if he doesn’t message me at all during the NC period and moves on to some other girl? because I have kind of begged him to stay atleast as a friend a lot, and he often gets annoyed when I yell at him for ignoring me, although he does end up talking to me again later.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 29, 2016 at 1:10 pm

      Hi Ria,

      We don’t guarantee that it works 100% and definitely not for everyone. But one of the reasons of nc is that you don’t get to have a proper communication with the person and you’re going in circles. So, it’s like to break the pattern. If you’re in contact right and you don’t want to do nc, the least you can do is stop the fighting and if you can start a conversation that is fun and you can keep it going then good! So, you need to assess on yourself which one you want to do.

  13. Kelly

    January 28, 2016 at 9:02 pm

    Hello,

    I have been dating someone for about 3 months. We met at my cousins wedding ( he is friends with two of my cousins and their significant others). We had been really great for a while. He travels a lot for work, in the beginning we were talking all the time, texts, facetime, calls and when he was home we would go out together. We have so much fun together. I had a party around Christmas. He came met all my close friends. It was a wonderful time. I invited him to my sister’s house for Christmas after all family stuff. It was low key just drinks around the fire. He sent me a message saying he was pretty excited. That day he didn’t show up. He had a major family issue. After that he was distant and stopped really engaging with me. He told me he has a lot going on with work and his family situation was really bad. I understood and backed off. Two weeks ago we ran into each other because of our connection. We talked and agreed to start over again. We were texting back and forth and everything seemed fine. This past weekend I had a bit to drink and called him a couple of times. I apologized and he said it was fine. I haven’t really heard from him ( he is traveling for work for two weeks). I decided to start the NC rule and it’s been 4 days. I am just concerned he will not respond to this at all. He is very social and never really been in a real relationship. Also his family issues and work schedule he may just be ok with being alone. I have my own life friends, family and things to do. Leaving next week on vacation. My question is how do I use the social media to my advantage? Also, will it be too obvious that I am making it seem like I am ok without him?

    Thanks

  14. Taylor

    January 28, 2016 at 6:30 pm

    My boyfriend of 6 months broke up with me out of the blue saying that he didn’t think we were meant to be and he wasn’t 100% in the relationship in his heart. After the break up I didn’t bother reaching out, although everything in me wanted to talk to him. 3 days after the break up he texted me saying that he is thinking of me and that he cares about me so much it hurts and that he hopes I’m doing okay. I didn’t respond, but I’m scared that if I don’t he will just let go and move on. But in reality I want him back. Will the NC rule make him forget me? Should I reach out? I don’t know what to do! Usually in the relationship I was the first to cave and apologize even if I felt I wasn’t wrong, but now I’m reacting in a way I know he would never expect by not pining after him.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 29, 2016 at 10:55 am

      Hi Taylor,

      You can do 21 days of no contact. That’s fairly short. I don’t he’s going to forget in that amount of time.

  15. Kelly

    January 28, 2016 at 4:17 pm

    Hello,

    I have been dating someone for about 3 months. We met at my cousins wedding ( he is friends with two of my cousins and their significant others). We had been really great for a while. He travels a lot for work, in the beginning we were talking all the time, texts, facetime, calls and when he was home we would go out together. We have so much fun together. I had a party around Christmas. He came met all my close friends. It was a wonderful time. I invited him to my sister’s house for Christmas after all family stuff. It was low key just drinks around the fire. He sent me a message saying he was pretty excited. That day he didn’t show up. He had a major family issue. After that he was distant and stopped really engaging with me. He told me he has a lot going on with work and his family situation was really bad. I understood and backed off. Two weeks ago we ran into each other because of our connection. We talked and agreed to start over again. We were texting back and forth and everything seemed fine. This past weekend I had a bit to drink and called him a couple of times. I apologized and he said it was fine. I haven’t really heard from him ( he is traveling for work for two weeks). I decided to start the NC rule and it’s been 4 days. I am just concerned he will not respond to this at all. He is very social and never really been in a real relationship. Also his family issues and work schedule he may just be ok with being alone. I have my own life friends, family and things to do. Leaving next week on vacation. My question is how do I use the social media to my advantage? Also, will it be too obvious that I am making it seem like I am ok without him?

    Thanks

    1. Kelly

      January 29, 2016 at 2:17 pm

      It was more like to start dating again. He was very touchy feely. He said he wanted to take me on another first date. Start over. Kind of distance ourselves from his family issues and the connection he has with my family members. It would be after he got back from his business trip. He has not contacted me at all. So I decided not to reach out to him.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 8:29 am

      Oh that’s good. So, you’re going to do nc while he’s in his two week trip? And only in that time frame am I right? Because honestly, for me, I think if you’re in good terms, you don’t need a 30 day Nc. Maybe just do it a little bit just like that. That when he’s gone, give him space. Don’t text if he doesn’t texts and when he does, keep it short and end in high point. Your vacation is perfect to post on your social media accounts.
      It’s not bad if he can see you can do without him. What’s bad is if you’re portraying or making him feel you don’t want him in your life. It’s like being independent versus being intimidating.

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 29, 2016 at 12:35 pm

      Hi Kelly,

      I just want to be clear, you talked to start over again? Meaning you got back together or as friends?

  16. Erica

    January 28, 2016 at 3:31 pm

    Hi, I have read the book.. Twice.. Lol. I broke things off with my ex about 2 weeks ago. I thought he had changed. Then after some soul searching I realized that things I had done made him put up walls… Sigh.. A little to late.. I messed up in the first week and sent him emails about how sad and broken I was.. I didn’t beg him back but still.. I have been on N/C for a week now. We live an hour away, are not in the same social circle. And he unfriended me on social media.. How do I stay in his mind during N/C when there is literally nothing to make him think about me? Thanks!

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 28, 2016 at 5:06 pm

      HI Erica,

      As what Chris mentions in his posts and podcasts, it takes 66 days to break or unbreak a habit. So, whether you do something or not, you will cross his mind.

  17. Meream

    January 28, 2016 at 3:25 am

    Hi there,

    My ex & I were dating for 6 months & in an official relationship for 1.5months. Doesn’t seem very long but we instantly connected and became close very fast. He broke-up with me last Tuesday because his parents are strict Muslims and he doesn’t think they would approve of me down the road if things were to get serious. I come from a Christian background (although not necessarily practicing) and he’s agnostic. I felt extremely hurt because although things were perfect in the relationship between us, it was an outside circumstance that ended our relationship. For fear of losing him altogether, I asked if he wanted to be friends and he was more than happy with this. However, deep down inside I knew I wanted him him back. We went to a show a couple days after our breakup (we bought the tickets while we were still together) and although we really tried to control ourselves, we ended up hooking up at the end of the night. I knew this was inevitable because we’re still very much attracted to one another. He’s the most incredible person I’ve EVER met so I don’t want to mess this up. I’ve been doing NC for 4 days now and my question is, given our unique circumstances (breaking up due to religious/family matters), do you think there’s a shot of us getting back together? Please help!
    PS- LONGEST 4 DAYS OF MY LIFE! lol

    1. Meream

      January 31, 2016 at 8:00 pm

      That’s my problem. I don’t think I will ever stop having feelings for him. Especially not within 30 days. But I do not want to go longer without talking to him because I miss him. However, I think even if I wait 6 months before I see him, once I do all my feelings & emotions will come flooding back. But I’m not willing to lose him altogether. This is my dilemma lol. I’m very torn.

    2. Meream

      January 30, 2016 at 10:57 pm

      Thank you, I agree 🙂 Sorry for the constant questions but I was wondering in your honest opinion, do you think we can be just friends? All my family & friends keep telling me it’s impossible to be friends with an ex. And also, how do you know whether to do 21 days NC or 30 days NC? Thank you again.

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 31, 2016 at 4:45 am

      It’s okay! We’re here to help as much as we can. The premise of NC is to start as friends to build a stronger foundation and then end up to be a couple again. It is impossible if you still have feelings for each other but if both of you have truly moved on, it can happen. Actually, it depends on the situation. The standard is 30 days because the more you use NC, the less it’s effect. So, it’s better to just do a 30 day one time big time than do 21 days and then end up doing another 21 days.

    4. Meream

      January 30, 2016 at 2:08 pm

      He hasn’t had the talk with his parents yet. He said he hopes to do so within this year. The reason he’s really afraid to talk to them is because of his previous EX before me. She was athiest and Brazilian. He’s Lebanese. They dated for 5 years and he tried to introduce her to his parents. His mom eventually accepted it but his father didn’t. He refused to meet her and he stopped talking to his son for a couple years. Then his EX dumped him years later. So he ended up losing his girlfriend & his relationship with his parents. That’s why he’s so hesitant to go down that path again. I wanna give him his space to figure things out on his own. That’s why I’m perfectly okay with being his friend in the meantime but I still think we need to do NC to get over our feelings first.

    5. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 3:51 pm

      Oh, if they accepted an atheist. Maybe there’s hope for a Christian since Muslim and Christians have almost the same belief. If that’s the case he needs to build relationship with his parents instead of being afraid of them.

    6. Meream

      January 29, 2016 at 6:32 pm

      Hi,

      I have read the post How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back With Religious Differences. I feel like my situation is a little different because my ex wasn’t religious at all (agnostic). He only broke up with me because his family is Muslim and he doesn’t think they would approve down the line. He has expressed to me that he doesn’t want to end up with a Muslim women and he wants to have a talk with his parents about his preferences but he’s too scared to have the talk right now. I’d like to remain friends with him in the meantime until he has the talk and see if we can get back together once he talks to his parents. I’m now on day 6 of NC. Problem is I told him I’d be doing NC, didn’t say how long but I told him we need time apart. Does this ruin my chances?

    7. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 30, 2016 at 1:38 pm

      No it doesn’t because he doesn’t know how long. If he’s agnostic, how did he defend his beliefs to his parents? or are they hoping that he would change his mind once he marries a muslim woman?

    8. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 28, 2016 at 4:48 pm

      HI Meream,

      First, have you seen this post? Because it might answer your question before I comment on it.
      How To Get An Ex Boyfriend Back With Religious Differences

  18. Sammy

    January 28, 2016 at 12:50 am

    I am on day 6 of NC
    We had an emotional breakup.
    He text me on day 6 saying saying he can’t stop thinking about our last talk and he’s worried about me
    I was really emotional and he really wasn’t
    What does this mean?
    I don’t want to contact him after just that.

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 28, 2016 at 9:33 am

      Hi Sammy,

      I think he began to think about it because you’ve been silent.

  19. Alex

    January 28, 2016 at 12:44 am

    I broke up with my girlfriend a week ago we were on and off about 6 years now . I hurt her a lot with talkin to other girls and stuff in the past. She met this guy and she now is with him she blocked me on the phone and Instagram and everywhere before tho she block me on Instagram she had her best friend to follow me and then she blocked me. And another one of her close friends liked my pics that I was posting . A mutual friend showed me a quote she posted she said ” i asked time what the best solution and it said let me pass ” … . i haven’t contacted her cause I can’t but should I keep the no contact rule ? What is happening what should I do ?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 28, 2016 at 9:38 am

      Hi Alex,

      It’s like you have no choice then because you can’t contact her too. But during your no contact, don’t involve other girls since that is your relationship problem. Keep you social media active with your activities that can help you be better physically or just by doing things that she likes you to do, until she unblocks you.

  20. Katie

    January 27, 2016 at 6:49 pm

    Hi,
    My ex and I were in a crazy relationship for 5 years. He broke up with me at the beginning of December. His reasons were that he had other priorities in life and that I added extra stress on him. I have troubles with dealing with stress; it’s something I’ve been working on. Plus, we were friends before the relationship so he new that about me prior. We didn’t have any contact until a month after. When we were talking again in person, it was fine. But every time we talk, I began to overanalyze everything he said. Then it came to the point were I begin to text him questions. At first he was ok with it then it got to the point were he took longer to respond and then ignores. I got upset and sent a long msg and eventually we had an argument. He said he can’t answer everything and sometimes he needs time to think before he responses. He also thought that ignoring will break the cycle. Things didn’t end the way I would want it to be, well. I know he still loves me but he claims he wants to move on even though his actions says different. What now?

    1. EBR Team Member: Amor

      January 28, 2016 at 8:36 am

      Hi Katie,

      Maybe he didn’t mean what he said but do you agree with him that this cycle has to be broken? If so, I think you know what to do.

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