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oh my
January 26, 2015 at 10:32 pm
Jesus Christ, NC is really that hard??? I cut my ex off completely months ago and never looked back. And who cares “what he thinks” – No contact is for you to get over him. An ex is an ex for a reason.
admin
January 27, 2015 at 2:43 pm
Well, NC is for a lot more than that but I am so happy you found peace!
oh my
January 26, 2015 at 10:39 pm
P.S. He didn’t exactly make it easy either. I had to actually go ahead and block him everywhere I could think of and he still kept finding ways around ways to either contact or try and manipulate me into contacting him. Ranging from offering to buy something off of him to “hey I’m in your town”. Block, block, change numbers if needed. Block again and ignore. Know provocation/manipulation/baiting when you see it and stay no contact. I’m badfled as to why people would want their ex back if it wasn’t working before. Mine broke up with me but I ended up having to cut him off. In his case “friends” means “backup” and I’m not having it.
Kitty
January 26, 2015 at 7:58 am
He is a stubborn man and an angry man. I have been on nc for a week already so valentine is coming soon shd i text him something like I rem we spent our last vday at this place called mono so can I said I just missed by the restaurant and thot of him and wish him a lovely vday? Or u shd continue my nc? So far he didn’t text msg or call me at all.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 4:26 pm
Continue no contact for the full 30 days.
Mary
January 25, 2015 at 11:32 pm
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I were together for a little over 7 years. We had a very open & honest relationship. Like all couples we had our moments but never actually fought with each other.
I think that he started to resent me a little bit at the end of a work project that we both worked on. He was super relaxed and I was Miss deal with the issue asap. He didn’t like it. This was the beginning of a new period for us.
Everything was still ok. The problem was that he seemed to get quieter and his reactions to negative situations made me feel like I somehow wasn’t good enough due to is new found distance from me. In between we also had great times. I became increasingly annoyed by him which in turn made him want to spend less time at home together with me. It was my reaction to how he was acting. We weren’t communicating anymore. He began to party too much. He never cheated on me but it made me feel lonely and under appreciated on those days.
Eventually …5 months ago…I asked him to figure things out for himself to which he agreed to give me space. In the beginning, we still met up as often as possible but I felt that he didn’t try hard enough. Each time he listened to my fears and put up with the tears and tantrums. Eventually, I gave the ultimatum ‘move home or let me go’. He said that he couldn’t see a healthy relationship in us so I broke up with him. He pleaded with me not to. We continued to still meet each other every week. Quickly, I realized that I was being too hard. I had made a mistake. It was too late. He didn’t see a life with me anymore. I had pushed my luck. He still loved me but was scared to take the risk of more pain if it didn’t work out.
We carried on seeing each other, sometimes we had great nights but they would always go sour at the end of the evening when it came to ‘closing time’. We would both leave in tears. I tried the no contact a few times but he kept contacting me, texting me and wanting to meet up on almost a weekly basis. My 1st no contact attempt lasted one day, we are bad at leaving each other alone.
When we met up we were relaxed until I tried to talk about our business and how we should separate it. Each time he got emotional and said things like ‘Why are u doing this now’. I always felt like I messed up.
I travelled a lot to be myself again and create space. Each time before I left he would be excited for me but also a little bit ‘healthy’ jealous and would show lots of interest. He was really happy to hear from me when I was away. I came back happier until we saw each other. His mixed signals were too much to take. Eventually after a short no contact period of one week (he broke it). He was very eager to see me. I suggested (for a reaction) that we should go away for a few days and have fun. He agreed straight away to the idea. He contacted me
more than ever. We had a nice time, some great moments and of course the inevitable talks. We also slept together which he said confused him even more. After the trip he was crazy busy at work but still insisted on being with me for an important day by rearranging his schedule to do so. I asked him not to. I was ok to go alone. He insisted on being there. On that day, . I asked him, ‘hey… So where are we ?’ His reply was another emotional, I cannot see a future for us.
He still refuses to talk about how we are going to break down our business and separate. My friends reckons that he is confused and keeping me close just Incase. This is going on now for 5 months, 3 since he stopped trying. He messages me as if we were still together and still synchs his agenda. I started the NC with him 2 weeks ago after asking him to give me space. He has left me alone so far. This is the longest that he or we have gone without speaking to each other. I know that my life will get better BUT I miss him so much.
The sad part is that we both love each other a lot. Neither of us have been with anyone else since the break up. I feel like he is confused, but then again. Why isn’t he contacting me ? I have a hole in my stomach at the thought that he really has moved.
The thought of the next contact leaves me scared of being more heart broken. Due to our business a few weeks no contact is possible but that’s it.
I would love to have some advice. Reading your webpage and his reactions to me when we 1st broke up I see that I had a chance when I was strong and he had to work for it. Now it’s all in his hands..
Thanking you in advance,
Mary.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:57 pm
I think this NC will end up being really good for the two of you.
It is going to be effective I am betting.
Mary
January 30, 2015 at 5:51 pm
Hi Chris,
Thank you for your reply,
If I may ask, what is your opinion in saying that the no contact rule will be effective for the both of us. Do u think that in a sense of moving on or for starting over again ? I know that u cannot see into the future and I’m pretty sure that a lot of people wish you could 🙂
Today I bumped into his friend. Something I hoped would not happen. He said that my ex is very unhappy and that he is worried about his health and him overdoing it at work and socially. He thinks that it is his unhappy state at the moment and his difficulty in looking ahead that are the main issues. He says that time will be our friend. To which I was polite and didn’t go into the discussion and asked him not to mention that he saw me. He isn’t my friend plus I’m in the NC period. A few days ago my ex deleted all of his social media accounts after some serious amount of online activity but not posting only to re activate them all again later. Could that be his attempt of his own NC or is he trying to temporarily erase his life to get one back at me ?
admin
January 31, 2015 at 3:35 pm
Can you be more specific. Your no contact question kind of confused me.
Mary
February 1, 2015 at 3:44 am
Sorry for the confusion. I guess I was asking you if you thought (in your 1st reply) that NC would actually help us in moving on separately or if we actually stand a chance ? That’s it really. The rest of my last question doesn’t really matter. Thank you .
admin
February 2, 2015 at 1:53 pm
That’s kind of the beauty of the no contact rule… It can accomplish both if you want it to.
Mary
February 13, 2015 at 10:23 pm
Hi Chris,
I hope that u are ok 🙂
So I didn’t get to 30 days. It was 24/25. He messaged me to wish me luck with a small medical procedure that he had saved in his agenda. ‘Hey darling, I really hope that you are ok. I would love to see how you are and if you are ok. It’s hectic at work this week but I would love to call you or even better skype you, just let me know when u have time’. This was after 3 weeks no contact. I replied late the following night with, ”I’ll call u next week’.
So, almost a week later, I sent a small joke, he replied straight away.
Since then he messages and mails me most days, every time with hey darling, honey, baby…. It’s mostly small talk. He asked if he could collect a package that was delivered to the office on my day there next week, he had not yet asked to meet up yet. I offered that we could have a coffee when he calls by. He replied ‘yes please’ I would like that.
A few days later, he figured out when we will both be off on the same days. He was on top of it all. He wanted to meet up. Then he has started to ease off a bit. So when I asked what he had in mind he said maybe a beer somewhere. Fine with me ! Then his parents reminded him that there is a family get together that he has to attend. I suggested that we postpone our beer and meet at another time. He overlooked/ignored that particular text.
Later on I teased him if I had to make the plans again, he replied haha.. No darling, let’s go out for dinner.
He was odd about the plans for the family get together and ignored my text to him when I said that I could wait. My feeling is, is that he was hinting that I would offer to join him… I could be wrong. So breaking some of the ‘after NC rules’, I suggested that we meet for a quick breakfast that day to break the ice AND then we could go for dinner a day later. He said it was the perfect idea ! Plan.. Day 1, be super relaxed, look fresh and amazing, leave early. Day 2, dinner..sexy outfit, flirt, leave early.
We joke a lot daily via texts. He asks for clothing, work advice etc. I even pushed the boundaries a bit and joked about where he is living now, showing that I am in a happier place..1st joke about us not living together. We do own a house together which I live in and he still pays for his half of it all of this time. He was able to giggle at my joke. So the comfort and friend part is back for sure. BUT ! Now I am doubting what to do. Both dates are planned for next weekend. He still has to discuss the place etc. However, He does make jokes about his outfits and what he will wear.
I am afraid that in my own politeness/stupidity and in replying to his mails and texts each time I am slowly putting myself in the friendzone.
When I tried no contact before, a measly 1 week, he told me that he missed me and begged to meet up. This time he didn’t. I’m hoping that he is playing it safe since I blanked him for 3 weeks and dissed his ‘carefully worded’ text to me. When we dated 7 years ago he liked to be chased and be unavailable and also sent similar texts like the ice breaker one after 3 weeks.
Our relationship started out as a close friendship, so I’m guessing that he is missing that and that if I am stand off ish I will mess that up. If the right feelings are there next week it could be the slow new start.
How does it look to you, honestly ??? All advice is very welcome as I will see him in a week.. 1st time face to face in more than 5 weeks. Exciting but also very very intimidating. I hope that you can find the time to send a reply.
Thank you Chris,
Mary.
Ps. To anyone reading this, no contact really is the best way to go for your own sanity. My biggest regret is that I didn’t do it sooner. My guy chased me but I had not given myself time to heal and I pushed him away. Time is your best friend ! Chris’s blogs are so clever. Good luck and be strong !
admin
February 16, 2015 at 10:51 pm
Thanks for the nice words!
I would read this: https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-to-do-on-a-date-with-your-ex-boyfriend/
Mary
February 24, 2015 at 1:51 am
Hi Chris,
Last week I met with my ex for the 1st time in 5 weeks. We had dinner and it was a really nice and fun evening. I went for it but stayed cool. He commented on how good I looked and that he was happy that I am happy. At the end of the night he gave me the biggest hug ever and a kiss, nothing passionate. He texted me over the weekend and if I am honest I kept it up too. He was curious about my weekend etc… The usual messages that he always sends, If I am ok and what I am up to.
Anyway, today I called, this was pre arranged. He seemed very off so I decided to call his bluff. He had to stop playing with my life and our business etc. I could no longer live in limbo land… 7 months. So I asked him to meet me at our home.
He was hesitant at 1st, after all, he has gone this far with not dealing with the situation. In my heart I knew he had moved on. He says that he hasn’t. That he misses me in his life. We had dinner, talks, laughed and cried. For the 1st time ever he opened up about what had gone wrong. It was a relief to know the truth and that it wasn’t just me. He admitted that he slept with someone else (during the late in the day NC time) but said that he hated it, it wasn’t me and it was weird. I respect him for his honesty and sex is just sex, we are both adults. I in return admitted that I had not, to which he said that he would not like to hear it but would appreciate it if I was honest about that. We eventually talked about separating all our joint things. He insisted that I keep the house which he is still paying half of.
We ended the evening saying how much we loved and respected each other. Him telling me that he is just so unhappy in his life that he cannot see a future in us anymore, that the last few months were too painful. He still loves me and that is why he finds it hard to let me go and needed the contact but also admitted that he did this so he didn’t have to worry about me being in a bad place.
I am very happy that he finally could open up to me, the guy seems to be in a mid life stress period. Sharing his feelings and dealing with responsibilities isn’t something that he is not good at. He left, we later sent messages to each other about how it was good to finally deal with the important matters… Business etc. He continued to tell me how beautiful, intelligent, funny… I am and that it will be a huge hole in his life and that he feels like a failure cause he could not fix it.
I am now essentially in the friendzone. He has decided to visit friends oversees for two weeks which I am happy about. He needs to heal too. I am also still healing and had to see someone in my NC due to anxiety issues caused by the experience.
We will cross paths because we are business partners. He did say that he would like to keep some contact especially when he is away to share the experience and we agreed to meet in a few weeks for dinner to spend time together. We both agreed that we are very lucky to be in each other’s lives.
What is the best way forward. Keeping him close is also important to me.
Kate
January 25, 2015 at 11:30 am
Could you Please advise me if NC rule can still work for me?
We were dating for almost a year and everything appeared perfect until one day he told me becos of our religious and cultural differences, he didn’t see the possibility of us being accepted by his family in future, in our marriage.
We suggested being friends for the tome being because we were so emotionally attached to others.Then of cuz I was shocked to my system, but I still met him and talked to him as if I were patiently waiting for him to work out. Gradually he s backing off and became cold and distant to me, he wasn’t trying to convince his parents…after 4/5months of this on and off dragging, I was so hurt that he s gradually leaving me.However, he s still talking to me on a daily basis, but it s all me who initiated the conversations. If I didn’t text him,he wouldn’t bother seeing me.But he kept assuring me I am important and will be there for each other’s.
Until 2 weeks ago I had my birthday he brought me to a very classy French restaurant for dinner, everything was perfect but the next day he told me he s gonna date someone soon.
How could this be possible? He s the one begging me to stay and keep in touch as a friend after he dumped me.Now he s really moving on?! I felt I was emotionally used by him…
Then he suggested not seeing or talking to each other for 6 months, he said he s still upset to see me suffer this much. Then I countersuggested no contact forever.
I am 7 days into my NC, I am literally feeling horrible, I used to have him on phone everyday. There are so many things I wanna share with him, o have to hold back…I can’t imagine 6 months…that’s crazy…
My question is: Does NC 1 month would at least get him some pain of losing me? Or it s completely over becos he s seeing someone?
My absence would trigger him to go after others?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:47 pm
What do you mean six months?
NC only lasts for like 30 days.
Maryanne
January 24, 2015 at 10:59 pm
Hi. I recently broke up with my ex and it ended horribly. After he said some nasty things to me he eventually asked that I don’t contact him anymore. I’m devastated and wonder if he will come around once the rawness of the situation has passed. Its been a Rollercoaster of emotions for the last 3 months. I miss him so much it hurts.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:30 pm
Thats what usually happen.
The rawness of the situation dissipates and the men start coming around.
Alyse
January 24, 2015 at 10:07 am
Hey just a quick question. I’m 22 weeks pregnant with my ex’s baby (we broke up a few weeks ago due to a tough time in his life and things got messy). I started NC today but I was wondering if it is fair for me to ignore him if he has general interest in my pregnancy. The last time we spoke he said he hates me and doesn’t want to see me until the day baby is born so do I call his bluff, in the understanding that it was all out of anger, and stick to 30 days of no contact? Any help would be great, thanks!
admin
January 26, 2015 at 3:00 pm
You can break NC to let him know important stuff about the pregnancy.
Check ups, etc.
Other than that thoguh its straight to NC.
Ruby
January 24, 2015 at 6:02 am
My ex just recently text after one month and a half post breakup. I have been pathetically studying, analyzing, and breaking up this text to find meaning it’s pushing me backward. Please help….
My ex an I had an ugly so called breakup over the phone. I had no contact with him since. Couple of days ago would have been our 2 yr anniversary. He had lost his job twice in 4 months before breakup but we we fighting a lot. I wanted to be there for him thru his financial struggles but he made me feel like I was an annoyance especially when I brought our relationship problems up.He became distant, cold, and mean when I was pouring my heart and respond with jerkish responses not having any empathy for my hurt feelings or giving me any reassurance that he loved me.The last phone conversation ended when I asked him why was he distant in which he admitted after the fact. I then said I really feel a certain kind away where he said “well I don’t want that burden so you can move on if you want” which was the dagger to my gut. His insensitive, cowardly way of wanting me to maybe just leave. I then last remember crying over the phone, saying bye twice and just hanging up in tears. I cried for weeks, he never contacted me. So there was the breakup. haven’t contacted since. christmas and New Years past and nothing.
HE THEN SENDS ME THIS TEXT BELOW (on our supposedly anniversary day)
“It was 2 years ago today that we met. Why we are miles apart from where we were. I hope that someday that our paths will cross again til then. I will cherish the happier times. Happy Anniversary!”
I have been doing good not contacting him, hanging out with friends and enjoying myself, healing and moving on. Although I miss him we still had issues and his lack of empathy hurt me deep along with other stuff.
What does this text mean? Does he wanna get back or just doing a formal happy anniversary convo.
And where he says “why we are “I think he meant “while we are “in the text which changes the meaning to things completely. I am so lost right now
I have done well with my NC. but I desperately want to know in his male mind does he wanna get back, misses me, or just being formal a..hole.? It still haunts me and puts me back a step. I miss him deeply.
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:56 pm
Maybe a bit of both…
Hahaha I say he is susceptable to NC though I bet.
Patti
January 24, 2015 at 12:24 am
My boyfriend of 1 year, abruptly broke up with me. He said hurtful things. Then, two days later, he sent an email apologizing. He said he didn’t mean those things. He said feels like he didn’t know who he is and he can’t be the kind of man that I need. Emailed him back, explaining how hurt and disrespected I felt and told him the break up is for the best. He said he wants to be friend and I’ll always have his support. I deleted him and blocked him on FB immediately. Its now day 12 of NC. I feel mixed up. A part of me wants him. A part if me says “f*ck that guy.” I know he misses me, his friends tell me frequently. I miss him too but I’m just to the point where I don’t cry myself to sleep. I’m scared of getting hurt again. Should I leave it alone and move on?
admin
January 26, 2015 at 2:42 pm
Congrats on making it far in NC.
I think you should see NC through since you have already put 12 days of time in.
Ash
January 23, 2015 at 2:53 pm
Hi just wondering if you could help me with something
i got with my ex when i was 18 he was 27 we had alot of great and bad times like you do in every relationship, throughout the course of 4 years id moved in ttaking all my life belongings 30miles to his house we got a dog that we had to give up which was upsetting we had bills that we couldnt aford and it was tough but we always said we would get through it. During the relationship id keep finding him on dating apps i would always find out and confront him about it is fanous words would be “i dont know” and he wouldnt give any eye contact he always said he didnt have the confindence to cheat and i belived him becasue if i didnt he would say well if you dont trust me then theres no point. He had three jobs on the go so that left little time for us when we were together we were great, when it was my days of from work i would sit an watch alot of films becasue it was my day off and i wanted to enduldge in my self, from time to time after catching him on thesw dating apps he would say hes just not happy in the relationship and eventually i started to think like that, i even contenplated moving out, i did something very stupid i got drunk and slept with a friend in 2013 and once id sobered up i went and told him right after because i was that guilt stricken by it it actually mad me bad he forgave me and everything seemed like it was going great id been layed of from work he was having problems with his work an we both found new jobs he was always secretive and in october he had the new iphone 6 with the finger ID i went on the dating app that he would keep going on becasue i was expecting him to he had free will to go on my phone to check but i dont think he did, in december 29th 2014 i found out of this app from a friend we both knew that he had actually met up with someone on 2 occations and cheated on me he knew id found out and thought i would kick of but i didnt becasue i didnt have much fight in me so i moved all my belongings out and he was texting me i finally picked the rest of my stuff up last saturday and iv found a flat up there and will be moving back in feb but im.so scared thatbhe will find someone else or if i see him with someone else it will bring me back to this stage of grieving again, hes not text or rang since i got the last of my stuff which in some scene is a good thing im being rather stubborn an telling my self not to text but he said he wants to be friends still and we all knownthem feelings will never really go but im sat here now thinking why isnt he texting is he thinking of me is he out right now ? And im driving my self a little insain im going to do the no contact challenege but it feels like he dosent even care becasue he told me he loved me then next thing he dosent last week when saying my last good beys he was hugging an kissin my check an neck and trying hold my hand then standing at the top of the staires watching me go out the door iv always been told never look back so why was he …. thanks for reading any advice will help thank you
Samantha
January 22, 2015 at 9:30 pm
Ok .well my boyfriend broke up with me before the new year.he said he wasnt feeling it..we planned marriage and to have kids..was a short relationship 4 months.He wants to be single but then again hes not sure what he wants.Anyways he is moving very soon and i said i want to stay friends and stuff but i really just care about him so much i think he really was the one for me.we just didnt have enough time together and moved too fast.i think we should try again in future.he said maybe we can get back together but for now he dont see me in his future.i see him a little jealous asking me if im talking yo other guys already.i think why would he care if he broke up with me..I was good to him never cheated or lied even tho he thought i did. and he cheated with an ex.He lied in my face many timess said he did not and told me only after the breakup.. Idk if i should try this or i should just completely move on. We txt everyday still and i told him id be here for him.should i start ignoring him for a month do the no contact thing?i want him to miss me and realize we can start over and be better and i am the best girl for him since i was his best gf that never hurt him unlike past relationships..im confused if i should just let things happen natuarally like keep natuaral contact or just ignore him for a month or even 2.i need to focus on me also.getting my life together .Should i start this thinking it can go either way..like he might want me ..and he might not..but if he doesnt it would help me forget about him focus on me n my life, and move on easier..?
admin
January 23, 2015 at 4:18 pm
I vote a month of NC (of course.)
Thalia
January 21, 2015 at 8:31 am
My ex and I met while I was still in an abusive relationship that I was trying to get out of. I met him twice through mutual friends over the course of 9 months. I liked him right away, but I was so entangled in the bad relationship and I was afraid of a long distance relationship(he lives about a half hour away) so I didn’t give him a chance until the second meeting. We got along great both times, spending hours talking with one another. Our mutual friends thought we would be a good fit as well, so I left my abusive boyfriend for him. Needless to say I wasn’t in a good place mentally at the beginning of our relationship. We saw each other every weekend and talked on the phone every night. After 6 months he ended up breaking up with me over a few issues that I understood were hard for him to deal with. I turned my life around and got in a better place mentally and we got back together after a few weeks. Things were better than ever and we were happy once again. Right before our first year anniversary my abusive ex began harassing me once again and I became sick with a permanent brain condition and once again I was not in a good place mentally. He tried for a while, but he ended up breaking up with me again. He hasn’t had many relationships and I’m sure all the drama was getting to him. Again after a few weeks, we got back together. Things were great between us up until a few months ago. I began doubting our relationship and myself and I developed a crush on someone else who was totally unsuitable for me. I was still deeply in love with my boyfriend, but I felt like things had changed. It ended up that it was just me and my way of thinking that needed work(I was reverting to old ways of thinking), but it was too late. I asked to take a break to think about things. I was planning on taking a couple weeks to think, but he became impatient after a week and suggested we end things for now. I stupidly agreed. I ended up hooking up with the other guy shortly there after a few times. I only did it because I knew he was wrong for me and I figured it would get my mind off my lovely ex boyfriend who I adored and whom I would probably bug too much despite knowing I should leave him alone(I wasn’t able to leave him alone the first two times he broke things off, I’m surprised he took me back then honestly). I did okay through the holidays, mostly only bothering him on the actual day of the holiday just to wish him a happy holiday. I wrote him a couple other times that led to a couple two hour long phone conversations where he started out angry and I let him vent and then we both cried off and on and then they ended on the note that he still wanted to be with me in the future but he wants me to give him a few months to get over stuff. I know that he won’t go out to find someone else because he’s fiercely loyal and still in love with me, but I don’t know if I can wait a few months. So far I have not reached out to him in 15 days. I also have not tried dating anyone else because I know it would break his heart and I honestly have no desire to. I just want him back. Do you think a month will suffice or should I respect his wishes? He also wants us to run into each other before we speak again, but since we live in different towns that isn’t likely to happen unless we end up at the same event(and he refuses to come here for the time being). We’ve both been working on improving ourselves and have been thinking about the problems in our relationship and how to fix them. He hasn’t sent me anything first, but he’s responded back quickly to almost everything I’ve sent him. Only once did he not write anything back at all. I’ve only contacted him about 10 times in two months before I started the no contact. I can make it a month, but I don’t know how much longer and I’m not sure if it’ll be too soon. Thanks for any suggestions.
admin
January 21, 2015 at 3:23 pm
30 days is perfect.
Just stick to that mark ok.
Krystal
January 21, 2015 at 12:31 am
Hi all. My boyfriend that I love very much broke up with me 3 days ago. We were a very loving couple of 1.5 year and everyone envied our relationship. However 3 months ago he had to move to his University which is far away from where I stay. I try to visit him when I have time which was 2 months ago. We skyped and text every single day. He told me he loves me very much everyday and suddenly one fine day, he broke up with me over a text. “you shouldn’t come here next time.. I don’t feel it anymore. You deserve someone better.” Just like that he left. After the breakup day, I had so many questions so I texted him and ask but all he said was he is very sorry. I also told him that I miss him because I really do. I have stop posting anything on my social network since the day of breakup. I have been staying active and I know it is going to hurt but I think I can survive the 30 days no contact challenge. The only fear is I am scared he doesn’t really care at all and it will have no effect. Do you think he will ever miss me? I have never fought with him, I have never cheated, I always did whatever he wanted but I don’t know why has this happened.. I am really upset and I miss him so much..
admin
January 21, 2015 at 3:12 pm
I think he will miss you but you have to stop appearing desperate after the breakup for that to happen.
Venus
January 20, 2015 at 4:51 pm
Hello dear ..
I really need your comment & help. I have been in a relationship with ex bf for 3 years …
One month ago I caught him & confronted him and I went NC right away .. At first he ignored me then 3 days later he started to text me that how sorry he is but I ignored him and never respond to him .. He continued to text and call for 3 weeks then one night he texted me that : if I don’t answer him , it means I m with someone and he won’t bother me anymore !!!! .. I didn’t respond again .. Since that he didn’t contact me and it is 10 days so far …
Do you think he really thought I m with someone ?!!!! He can’t understand how upset I am ?? Now 30 days I m in nc and he didn’t call for 8 days .
Thank you for your help
Please tell me your thought ..
Thank you very much
admin
January 21, 2015 at 2:56 pm
You have been in NC for 30 days or you just didn’t get a call for 8 days in NC?
Shelbie
January 19, 2015 at 10:15 pm
Hi, I’m Shelbie. Brief story of what’s going on- Had a great relationship with this guy and we love each other very much. Could even say that we’re in love with each other too. He cheated on me a couple months into our relationship but came clean about it and was honest about it and didn’t try to hide it. It wasn’t intentional, as he was just hanging out with an old friend and things just went too far. I forgave him because I love him that much and didn’t wanna lose him or our relationship. A month later, I cheated out of vulnerably. I tried to hide it and didn’t confess and come clean. He found out from a third party and I lied about it because I was ashamed. We eventually worked through it all was well. About two months ago I hung out with one of my guy friends. It was innocent and nothing happened. No cheating. I failed to tell my ex and he found out from someone else and now he thinks I cheated again. Despite my pleds and telling him how much I love him, he doesn’t wanna hear it. I don’t blame him for thinking negatively because of what happened last time. I did some research and started no contact. I’m on day 23 and he hasn’t tried to contact me. Is there any hope? Keep in mind that we had a good relationship and loved each other very much. I think he’s just hurt and overwhelmed right now but I really don’t know. He’s the stubborn guy and angry too, in my opinion.
admin
January 20, 2015 at 3:39 pm
Sure there is hope.
What kind of text message have you prepared during the NC period?
Shelbie
January 21, 2015 at 2:18 am
Something that bring up happy times.. Was thinking this “Hey, you know that commercial that Popeyes has with the ghost pepper chicken? It reminded me when we were at the jambalaya festival and I ate that ghost pepper salsa stuff. lmao my mouth was fire! Then we finally found some dippin’ dots. Lol that was funny.”
Beatrice
January 9, 2015 at 12:13 am
Im dealing with an angry guy,, and i started nc almost 2 months after break up. Im 10 days in nc,,, is it too late now since i waited so long to start nc? I am fearing he is already over me and will never call or text!!! Help me please!
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:21 pm
No, you are doing good.
Beatrice
January 25, 2015 at 7:14 pm
Thanks for the reply and I have a couple questions again. Today im on day 27 no contact and he hasn’t called or made any attempts to contact me. I mentioned he was an “angry guy” before but today at the gym as I was leaving I ran into him. He just said “hi bea”. I said hello back and kept it moving!! To my surprise I never thought this “angry guy” would ever speak to me again? But my question is, is this considered breaking no contact? And does his actions sound like an “angry guy”? I made it so far and I feel things were finally getting better but now im even more confused?
Beatrice
January 27, 2015 at 4:30 pm
Does anyone know if an accidental bump-in with an ex is breaking nc?? It absolutley was not my fault! I would be on day 28 nc today? Or do I have to start over?
admin
January 28, 2015 at 3:10 pm
No, its not your fault. You don’t have to start over.
Beatrice
January 17, 2015 at 1:24 am
Day 18 of no contact! This is torture counting these days. Is there really a chance to get an “angry guy” back? I have not cheated although I did lie. He hasn’t called or texted me! I’m losing faith in no contact. I feel im just giving him space to forget about me, not miss me! It’s the worst feeling to love someone who doesn’t love back!
Dee901
January 8, 2015 at 9:02 pm
What if he is doing NC with me its been a week now I’m tired of being the frantic caller. Now I’m going to change the game and join him. Its been a week. And his birthday is Saturday.
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:15 pm
Well, definitely don’t be that frantic caller anymore.
Dee901
January 8, 2015 at 9:04 pm
We been together 9mths
Dee901
January 9, 2015 at 6:25 am
He is the Angry guy because his brother moved in with him and he works a lot. So I’ve been fussing about spending time with him. So when he don’t answer my text and calls I get angy. Curse him out on text and its not how I suppose to handle things. Now he just being cold towards me. But he has been hanging out with his brother a lot since game season. This sucks
A.F
January 8, 2015 at 5:22 am
Hello,
My boyfriend recetly broke up with me, we agreed to keep talking and hanging out but I really want him as a boyfriend and not only a friend. Since i want to try NC Do I tell him I need my space since we had agreed on talking? thank you in advance!
-A.F
admin
January 19, 2015 at 3:04 pm
Go ahead give NC a try then!
Ara
January 8, 2015 at 5:07 am
Hey… so he’s been unable to make up his mind about us two for the past 8 months. He likes me and I know that… he checks on me all the time. Yet… we’ve been talking in circles for too long and I decided to call it quits.. especially since our thing is long distance. So I blocked him off whatsapp and he called me instantly. But there was no way forward… and I asked him not to call again. Now I feel like poo.
Ricki
January 7, 2015 at 2:43 am
Can you get a stubborn guy to turn around in NC?
admin
January 19, 2015 at 2:54 pm
Sure it is possible but sometimes you have to be willing to make the first move.
N.M
January 6, 2015 at 2:57 pm
Broke NC ! Can one get onto the wagon again?
admin
January 7, 2015 at 5:22 am
Yes… but you need some more discipline haha.