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Alice
February 12, 2015 at 3:48 pm
Thank you. This is really helpful. I’m starting th no contact rule from today with a man named Mark who has angry tendencies but hates being ignored. I’m not sure if I want him back but I think it’s a good opportunity to recover. I really struggle with ignoring people so it will be very hard if he contacts me. He’s not an ex, he’s a friend who I was getting close and intimate with. I asked if we could be more. He said he wasnt ready and that I’m not either. He seemed cross with me for asking and trying to see if he has feelings. He was cross with me for doubting his feelings for me. I kept trying to find out. This got him more angry and he shouted at me to leave. I was crying and refused to leave until we were calm and talking nicely to each other. Not my best moment. He blew up and called me names. It was horrible. I cried and begged him to hug me and calm down with me. But he refused. I said over messages that he hurt me and can’t treat me like that again. The next day I wanted space and he said that we shouldn’t do the sex thing anymore because it’s hurting me and getting too much. I said I agree and next time lets only do things if he is a bit more open to seeing how things go with me. He blew up saying I’m trying to make him feel guilty. He didn’t want to be friends and I should be apologising for how I treated him. I said I’m sorry for my part of the argument and I won’t beg him to stay friends so it’s up to him. He accidentally called me and I called back, he said he didn’t mean to call. I asked if he meant that about not being friends. He said he doesn’t know and we need to talk because he thinks there is a confusion about what happened. He basically thinks I’m in the wrong or wanting to blame it on me. Any advice world be very appreciated for staying strong during this. Thank you.
Alice
February 17, 2015 at 12:29 pm
Do you think I can use no-contact to get this man to date me? We got pretty close and have been on and off for almost 3 years.
melisa
February 12, 2015 at 7:53 am
I’m not sure if I’m putting this in the right place so forgive me if it’s wrong. I have been in NC for about a week now and my ex has realized it now. So he is sending me text to push a response out of me. Day1 he said I’ve called you 3xs and I see you don’t want to talk so I won’t call anymore. Amd as tempting as if was I said nothing. Then he called back the next day which was Day3 and nothing I didn’t answer. So he sent two texts staying oh I guess your with a nigga and your probably telling him that you never answere and I will just stop calling you eventually hmm? But I’m not dating I’m working on me and healing. So nothing I don’t respond. The next reads I hope your not planning on bringing that nigga to my daughter’s party. (His baby l k ves me and invited me) and she is getting married to soon. But I wasn’t going to neither events as I’m to embarrassed to even be around his family. I no she’ll be hurt but there’s casualties in war unfortunately she’s one. I say nothing but now listen I would normally say something to defend myself and he knows that. We were together for ten years before he rip my heart out.He is actually with another woman and making plans with her so my question is why is he so mad? If I was dating why would it matter. And further more his daughter’s party is not until April. Ikr this very crazy but I really need help I so puzzled. Also a mutual friend said he asked about me and he had a day dream about me.Why help understand before I break the NC cuss him out and ruin it forever.
admin
February 16, 2015 at 10:12 pm
I think you put it in the right place!
I think he still has feelings for you which is why he is getting so mad.
Julie
February 11, 2015 at 4:43 pm
What about when you break things off and don’t hold back on what you have said then go NC? I don’t even know why I care…
admin
February 16, 2015 at 9:46 pm
Sorry, could you flesh this out for me a bit?
I am not sure I understand your question.
Julie
February 17, 2015 at 6:31 pm
Sorry – it was a bit vague. I broke things off, then lashed out at him after doing so because his response wasn’t what I wanted. Extremely childish on my part. Some things I said were mean, but to be honest they needed to be said. Long story short he emailed me yesterday…but I’m not going to respond as it hasn’t been a full 30 days NC.
Sarah
February 11, 2015 at 5:35 am
This is brilliant haha!! Genius!
Thank you for further cementing in my mind how crucial the NC rule is 😀
admin
February 11, 2015 at 2:13 pm
You are welcome Sarah!
Anything else I can do to help?
Rashi
February 10, 2015 at 9:07 pm
Hi,
During the NC period once I got a ring from my bf.But I didn’t call back.After 3 months,I by mistake made a call to his number.He ranged up back to me in no time.So, I picked up. He asked me why I phoned him and very politely literally.I replied him that it was just a mistake.Then he asserted,”You don’t even know how to tell a lie ,idiot.”I had no words to speak then.Then we carried on with a simple and short conversation.I behaved formally with him though I didn’t want to.He didn’t make any confession about his feelings for me but wanted me to make the same.After the breakup I used to contact him madly rather begged of him many times. So now, should I first contact him or wait for him to? My intention is just to make him miss me and feel my importance,that’s all my lord.
admin
February 11, 2015 at 1:54 pm
It would take more than just a phone call to get him to confess his feelings for you.
Rashi
February 11, 2015 at 6:15 pm
So,what I should do now to make him confess his feelings for me?
Rashi
February 12, 2015 at 7:15 am
Should I again contact him first?
sapna
February 10, 2015 at 12:04 am
Hi my no contact is over and i send my ex boyfriend a text on Saturday and told him some thing that i did during the no contact which we did when we were together with him and this time i did with family, he text me back and ask if my family enjoyed and he also asked me how is school how is my score in class which i use to tell him about it everyday. so i am thinking to ask him if we can meet sometime next week because i am going for job interview in his area and i want to ask him if he can meet me, my main concern is is it a good idea or should i wait a little bet more to ask him
admin
February 10, 2015 at 3:53 pm
It might be too early to ask for a meet up. You have to build attraction I mean.
sapna
February 11, 2015 at 12:35 pm
Hi thanks for advice, but i have to say we are not teenagers we are both adults he is 58 and iam 52 we don’t chase each other as we are both busy with our responsibilities, we don’t see each other i text him twice and he replied he doesn’t have face book or any other means of contact so he won’t see me to see the change in me, let me know what should i do
sabrina
February 9, 2015 at 11:19 am
hey there,
i have a few quastions pertaning the article (and some might not.. lol. my ex is compicates and i have a question that crossed my mind reading the “types”. what if he donesn’t contact you after the breakup because he isn’t interested at all, simple as that?
i was with my ex for almost 2 years. i never cheated, or even glance the other way (giving you a bit of backround as for the “aftertaste”).i would surprise him with gifts and shower him with love. (yes we had fights, but we always pushed through them) we went on trips and really i thought we were going in the right direction. considering i’m with a man who tells me he can’t wait to make us official, i’m his family, he’s so lucky to have me, he love me, he can’t belive i’m his cause i’m so awsom, i’m his family and all kinds of future and sweet talks. some say (that know our relationship) that i was giving him more then he could return so he upd and left… i might be a bit scrabbling here with what i’m writing but that’s how my mind is now scrambling for anything! lol
he broke up with me over the phone! does that have any meaning? is there a secret behind this ection?
some poeple think that he did do it over the phone becasue face to face he would ckicken out and not be able to breakup with me.
anyway after he broke up with me we didn’t comunicate at all ( the reason behind the breakup to what he claims is that he doesn’t love me the way he used to and doesn’t see a future together.) so let me go, move on and i wish you the best of luck.
i was hearbroken those werer words i wasn’t “happy” to hear. i never thought i would here him say those words to me. i felt like he must really hate me for he know my weakness and he’s using it to end it with me, only someone you hate can be so cruel…
those words might have been something I left him with no other choice.
a week before he spoke with me over the phone. “i’m confused i don’t know if a want to break up or not, i’m not sure that im happy with my life and know what i want or where my place is. i don’t think it’s fare to drag you into the black hole with me because if i’m not happy i will lash out and be unpleasant.” anyway i was confused it sounded like he was so upset that he had to tell me this he almost cried on the phone saying he might be making a mistake and i might regret this…
so we agreed to take a break and think each to themselfs.
a week had passe (it fels like a century) and i called. he said he was thinking about us alot and he decided that he wanted to break up, i don’t love you, miss you or feel like when your not around i notice it so bye!
as you can imagine and cried and cried and cried…
three weeks had passed (not contact from either parties), a change in facebook status from the both of us to single and no phototes were taken down.
after three weeks i broke and called, he didnt naswer but texted me back. “what do you want? you called? ”
i did make the mistake by telling him that i miss him. the converstion was cold and distant and it seemed like he had move on.
since then it’s been a week and again NC.
is there any chance for us getting back?
has he really moved on as he suggested?
does he really not love me anymore?
why hasn’t he contacted me in the first place?
i really need some advice!!
please reply asap!
p.s sorery for the scroll….
sabrina
Tristan
February 9, 2015 at 4:42 am
Hi,
So my fiancee and I were together almost two years. (Might be helpful to know we’re both 19) Because of certain financial problems, we ended up staying with his family the last five months of our relationship.
Everything was great. We got along well, we wanted the same things in life. Then, once we moved in with them, he started becoming different. We still had loving moments and really fun dates, and he still talked about marrying me, but he started getting more distant too. He began discussing his future with his mom, and not really talking about it with me. She was pretty controlling of our relationship and critical of me. During this time I was having family problems too. My parents were drinking and doing drugs and my siblings were all over the place and I had just started a new job, so I was stressed. Honestly, I was probably not very pleasant.
I got scared because he kept getting distant, and I found myself overreacting at things. I tried to apologize and when the holidays came around, we were doing good. We were just talking about our future on Christmas eve, but then while I was at my grandparents on Christmas, I suggested I move out because it was putting pressure on us living there and he was sad, but then after talking he got upset and said maybe we should take a break.
Then he disappeared and I tried to get in contact with him, but he ignored most of my messages. When he finally did reply, it was to tell me it was over. I did the wrong thing and begged and texted him a lot asking him to stay, and he agreed to meet up. We held each other and cried and he kissed me pretty passionately, but then he said he still had to break up with me. He said it was “just where he is right now”
I asked him if he’d ever take me back and he said “Speaking from where I am now, I’d say probably not. We tried, and it didn’t work.”
So I apologized for the way I acted and initiated NC. I have no idea if I had a chance or not. He didn’t really give me a reason for the break up, but I’m trying this. He’s so stubborn, and I don’t know if he’ll miss me. We were so great together before, I don’t want to lose him forever. Do you think I can ever win him back?
ps: He was talking to his ex who was his first gf (they broke up a year before I started dating him and they were together 4 months, plus she cheated on him) and he said he missed her. Could that be G.I.G.S? I don’t know. WHat makes a man go from a committed two year relationship to someone who hurt him so much?
Tara
February 7, 2015 at 9:45 pm
Chris, may I email you? I am in desperate need of help
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:37 pm
chris@exboyfriendrecovery.com
Tara
February 9, 2015 at 8:51 pm
I just emailed you, it is very very long and I apologize because I know you must be very busy but if you can respond as soon as you can I would appreciate it so much. Thank you
admin
February 10, 2015 at 3:36 pm
Ya I am stretched out a bit much but I will do my best to get back to you in a timely manner.
lila
February 6, 2015 at 11:14 pm
After several threats i made I finally broke up with my boyfriend of a year about 2 weeks ago. He had been a timely perusing me for 2 years prior and I relented and fell in love. I broke up because he was starting distance himself and show signs of major commitment issues. I am definitely more experience as far as relationships. Marriage and kids. He has not. I did not want to be dangling and playing limbo until he ‘figured it out’ he expressed that he couldn’t disagree with what I said but that he didn’t expect this and that he was extremely upset and that what’s done is done.
I immediately implemented the no contact rule. I want him to gather some conclusion. I felt I was taken for granted. I have remained in no contact despite his text a few days later saying that he wanted to ask me to go out with him but didn’t know how To ask me. I ignored it. He has isolated but responded to mutual friends saying “I’m ok. I haven’t processed it yet” then he tried to contact me on chat another week later in which I also didn’t respond. It was a simple “hello”
I have no idea what type he is. I’m getting frustrated. I’m afraid of losing him when ultimately I just want him to be more certain of us I can’t play limbo anymore. This is difficult. He was my best friend.
admin
February 9, 2015 at 3:53 pm
Have you implemented the NC?
Or are you still kind of on the fence about doing it?
lila
February 9, 2015 at 8:13 pm
I immediately started no contact after I broke up with him. It has been 18 Days. He is not expressing any emotion about our break up. Only says he hasn’t processed it yet to mutual friends. He tried to contact me twice. Once via text and the other gchat. That’s it.
Diana_0o
February 6, 2015 at 12:20 pm
Hi chris
I just wanted to ask if NC rule can be applied to any guy Or it’s only for the ex bf
Veronica
February 6, 2015 at 11:43 am
I am writing because I don’t know what type is my ex. We were engaged for four years, and last week he broke up with me because of lack of intimacy and he wasn’t happy. I must admit at first I did call him to talk about things, he always did pick up the phone and he was willing to talk but he said he was done, he said things were not fixable and we both knew it was lie, he just didn’t want to expect things to change. I did ask him for a second chance, I even beg him to stay, we had so many plans and this all came out of the blue…I had to keep contact because we were buying a house together but when I did call him I made sure I wasn’t a mess of emotions and we kept everything light and happy. I’ve always hung up on him. Just yesterday I started the no contact rule, my problem is, he was very determined about the breakup, not only that when I did talk to him before no contact he had said that everything was too much of a mess, as if he couldn’t go back to the relationship because of that. We were very active in each others lives, that includes family and friends and even co workers knew about out relationship. He said he loved me but he didn’t want to hurt me. I guess maybe he is the stubborn one? I don’t know what to do
Jan Wagner
February 5, 2015 at 2:58 am
Oh and BTW….I did make the mistake of telling him I missed him about 3 weeks ago. Yikes! Again, back on no contact. Any help would be appreciated.
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:35 pm
Its ok… It could be a lot worse.
Jan Wagner
February 5, 2015 at 2:40 am
This is such a great article! Thank you! I am sure I have a stubborn one. My biggest problem is, he keeps drifting in and out of my life after 6 months of being broken up. And he is the one who seeks me out…then pulls away!! If I become at all assertive or if I initiate contact afterwards he pulls away. I have only slept with him once, the rest of the time I have refused. Not sure if that’s a factor or not. I have recently gone back to no contact. Not sure what else to do. HELP!!
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:34 pm
Glad you enjoyed it!
Whats the longest you have been in NC for?
Jan Wagner
February 5, 2015 at 7:18 pm
1 month after the break up. 2 months last fall. About 3 weeks this stretch, although we chatted briefly when I saw him at a function last Friday. When i do see him, whether out or if he initiates, he’s always his normal and sweet self. I know he is not seeing anyone else. Color me puzzled.
Jan Wagner
February 5, 2015 at 7:54 pm
And, I don’t know if it makes a difference or not, but he is not an alpha male. More of a sensitive, less confident man. Had a horrible break up of a 20 year marriage, wife cheated and left him for another man. And he has said that he is afraid….commitment wise. I get that part. but not the inconsistency. He has said I am the best girl he has ever had, thinks I am hot….all the right things for sure.
admin
February 6, 2015 at 2:06 pm
I can understand where he is coming from. What his wife did to him would shake up any guy.
I wonder if after 20 years of marriage he just need time before he is ready to commit..
Jan Wagner
February 6, 2015 at 4:17 pm
That’s what I was thinking too. I have really tried to give him space and not pressure him. And have been receptive to him when I do see him. Thanks for being there for me Chris.
Jan Wagner
February 6, 2015 at 5:41 pm
Will keep with the no contact for now I guess.
Jan Wagner
February 9, 2015 at 4:15 am
If there is any way I can help you promote your website, please let me know…you are one of the few relationship experts that actually make sense.
Desperate
February 4, 2015 at 9:08 pm
How do I know what his reaction is? I mean.. Here’s the story:
We were (or still are, or never were, honestly I have no idea) in a long distance relationship, but he doesn’t live that far away, like an hour and a half from my town.
So there were never problems like, you know, “I can’t take this relationship I miss you too much so it hurts” and stuff like that. We were always completely normal about it. Ever since July last year we were happy together, even though it never was official that we were dating. Flirting, texting all day all night (we were REALLY good friends a whole year before that as well, but since July it was obvious our friendship has grown into something more), basically we knew every small thing about each other, our routines, habits, both good and bad, each others friends, family… All those small things that distance made harder to learn about each other. We never were too emotional though, there were no direct confessions or anything
But somehow.. We’re both so shy, so each time we meet in person, it’s not quite as we hoped it would be.
I found both a good and bad side of the fact we’re shy (and I speak of extremely shy, especially him).
The bad thing is everytime we meet the atmosphere is all awqward and we barelly even talk, so we choose dates like some events like celebrations of things we both like (festivals and things like that) or going to the movies but.. Afterall that’s not a very good idea. Too many people, too much noise and since we’re both quiet it get’s.. well.. really bad.. Yet when we decide to be alone it also gets awqward and we both get nervous and everything’s just so messed up.. So in order to surpas that we’d have to be seeing each other more often. Unfortuately we can’t do that yet.
But the good thing is that we’re so full of understanding towards each other. I’d never ever get mad at him because our date wasn’t perfect or dislike him because I noticed his hands shaking while talking to me, in fact I find it cute.
We functioned so perfect together, it was all about fun and care (a bit more care from my side though, at least when it comes to showing it), we never even fought! Thanks to him though, he never got mad at me, it’s as if he can’t yell or get angry, and when I get mad it all just works out quickly. And I never got mad because of something huge, actually I never got mad for real. I just can’t imagine a couple that works so well together! I also can’t imagine a guy whose personality and interests fit me better! I love him.
But now.. Somehow.. I’m not sure if he cares about me at all..
A couple days ago he came to my town for two days. It was like a festival, similar to one we first met at. Something about Japanese culture that we’re both very interested in.
The first day we didn’t really talk much but it was really good, I got to spend a whole day next to him enjoying his attention. He would show me stuff he liked, he would comment on the programme of the festival and so on. Good enough for me! Last time we met was.. a couple months ago? Of course it would be like that. Seems natural to me.
But by the end of the programme, he met a friend out there and the friend called him for help or something so he just left with him without saying a thing to me. Around the time before his friend came, I was feeling a bit sick but I didn’t want to tell him before I get home in order not to ruin anything or make things worse in any way.
Once he disappeard for a couple of minutes with his friend, I had no idea where he was, I started feeling really bad and had to get out on fresh air. And so I did.
After like half an hour of waiting in front of the building, he didn’t call and I didn’t know where he was, so feeling a bit angry I decided to not contact him and go home.
Later that evening he texted me asking where I was, telling me his battery died.
No apologies did i get for the time spent alone out there. But anyways, we went there the other day too, at first he seemed quite interested in it all. The whole morning he was texting me asking where I was, when I’d be there. I felt like he wanted me to be there, so I was happy.
But that whole day (and I mean it), I completely spent on my own!
He was with that friend of his and he had fun while I was somewhere behind all bored and completelly alone!
After some time the two of them separated, and when he was alone I tried to reach out for him, always sit next to him and start a conversation so that he stays around, but he would smile, laugh, say a few words and then just leave after a minute.
Of course, he always left for a reason. Like a beginning of a projection, finding a seat and so on.
He did leave for a reason, but he always left as if I never was with him! As if I were just an old friend he met occasionally, said hi and then just went on with what he was doing. I got really pissed off after he took a seat leaving me in the crowd behind, so I had to stand a whole hour while he was sitting somewhere in front of me so I could see him, yet couldn’t talk to him.
After that he just left. Went home. Without even saying a goodbye?
Later that evening he initiated the conversation again as if everything was normal. Just the way we normally talked. He joked and all, completely ignoring me when I told him he wasn’t fair that day.
In fact, right after I asked him why he had left me all alone out there, he started talking about himself. How he had a great time, then he was saying he enjoyed the programme, made jokes about it all..
I went to bed that night and tomorrow day he initiated a conversation twice, but I just ignored him both times.
Then he started a talk again, but this time I ignored what he was saying asking him to tell me why he had left me there alone.
I asked hoping he would have a good reason or would just apologize, but all he did was COMPLETELY ignore me by changing the topic right away!
Why!?
Does he really think it’s alright what he did there? Does he really not think about how I felt and how I feel?
I’m starting to believe that all he thinks about is himself..
All I want is him being honest about what happened there.
I just want to know that he cares!
It’s been a few days after that last time he tried to ignore me asking about that day.
When him why he’s so mean and stopped talking to him. Ever since then we haven’t spoken.
I’m sitting here hoping he’d say something.. Give me a call? Anything?
I just hope he cares.
At first I thought he was the clueless one, but hey, he’s a really smart guy and only an idiot could think nothing was wrong after all this..
I don’t know if he thinks I’m a bother, if he doesn’t even care about me.
Yet again I hope he does care and misses me as much as I miss him right now.
I have no idea what to do..
I’ve read this article of yours (and many many others that could serve me) and I know you said it’s almost for sure that he won’t find someone new.. But I still worry about it!
I’m not sure about not talking to him for a whole month! We always talk, a couple days eve hours without him is a lot! How will I make it a whole month??
I know how desperate I seem but.. Right now I’m imagining him sitting on the couch watching Sponge Bob having “freedom” written on his smile!
I’ve been thinking about it a lot and now I think maybe it was wrong that I told him that first day that I didn’t feel well and that I didn’t enjoy much..
Since he’s shy..
He might have gotten upset..
Or he panicked..
I don’t know..
So desperate, I’m trying to find answers in everything.
I’d like to get a guy’s point of view here because I know girl friends always say things just to confort others without being honest.
Thank you and sorry for the long writing 🙁
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:24 pm
What you are worried about is a normal thing.
I understand your hesitance to do NC. However, what you are doing now isn’t working is it?
Teresa
February 4, 2015 at 8:43 am
Okay so mine is the angry guy, but I never did anything wrong.
HE did something unacceptable and then got mad at ME for bringing it to his attention. I didn’t want to be physical with him after that, so he got VERY offended and turned very angry repeating things like “don’t worry, you don’t EVER have to be with me again.”
It’s been over 30 days of no contact and still he has not contacted me.
He left a bad taste in my mouth at the very end, but I still remember the long great relationship before that. I remember the good times.
As the angry ex bf though, he was definitely not treating me well verbally because of his anger.
Should I wait another 30 days to see if he reaches out to me? I have nothing to say sorry about though because HE wronged me (so of course I’m not going to want to be intimate with him after that).
I want him in my life as a friend because I have never met a male who I connected with as well as him. I want to have him as someone to talk to every two weeks or whatever (throughout the whole rest of my life), but I don’t know how I can make that happen.
I WOULD be his girlfriend again except now I can no longer trust him in that regard, so I guess having him in my life as a BF isn’t even an option for me :/
I don’t anticipate getting into another relationship for at least the next 4 years, so it’s not like there will be another man in the picture to make him feel bad/jealous.
How do you think I can make my ex into the next best thing (a best friend)?
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:29 pm
Yes, wait the 30 days.
Teresa
February 5, 2015 at 1:50 am
Since we broke up, neither one of us has contacted the other in any way (and it’s been 35 days).
He was the angry ex
Teresa
February 5, 2015 at 1:33 am
I already waited the 30 days. It’s been 35 days. How much longer should I wait? 45 days or another 30 (60)? He’s probably still angry for feeling that I don’t want him physically, and I’m sure that he’d still have feelings for me if we were to re-unite. So I should probably give him time to stop feeling so hurt. I want us to have a platonic life-long friendship (if possible) but I don’t want to hurt him by being “there, in front of him” as something that he can no longer ‘have’ romantically.
So in my case should I wait 45 or 60 days or more??
Erica
February 4, 2015 at 1:49 am
I was in a long distance relationship for nearly a month. I know that’s not a long time at all, but this guy was different. I moved and I was uneasy about having a long distance relationship. He convinced me that it was the right idea. He said that he has never felt this way about anyone before and said that I was worth it. Everything went really well for a little while until one day he didn’t speak to me. Just one day. I asked what was wrong. We talked on the phone and he said he couldn’t do it even though only two days prior he was talking about visiting. On the phone he said that he still needs me. That he still wants me in his life. That his feelings for me haven’t changed one bit and he doesn’t want to break up, but we had to. I was in shock. Neither one of us has made contact for 22 days. I really want to talk to him, but since he initiated the breakup in a way I feel as if he should talk to me first. Considering all the things he said though I don’t know what to think. I know that I still miss him. He seems alright though from what I’ve seen on social media. Even if we can’t date, I still want him in my life just because I’ve never connected with a person like that before and now he’s not in my life at all. Should I continue no contact or wait for him to contact me or just send him a text?
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:21 pm
Did you read my long distance relationship posts.
Erica
February 4, 2015 at 4:24 pm
Yes, I read your posts. I just feel like how we ended wasn’t the typical way to break up. He basically said that he didn’t want to, but felt as if he had to. We’re both in college right now. It just seems like the 23 days is enough. We haven’t reached out to each other at all.
Although, someone tweeted something about me being adorable and he favorite it. That wasn’t direct contact to me, but it was about me.
It just doesn’t seem like he misses me.
Rosie
February 3, 2015 at 4:42 pm
Do you have any more information and tips on turning things around with the “Angry Guy”? I feel this most fits my situation and I would do anything to have him back in my life again.
admin
February 4, 2015 at 2:00 pm
Ah, the good ole “Angry Guy.”
What specifically about the angry guy would you like me to help you on?
Rosie
February 4, 2015 at 6:12 pm
I’m struggling to get him to remember all of the good things about our time together. The few issues we had have blinded him and I’m getting the “never talk to me again” treatment. I made the mistakes of begging and pleading and pushing for a while but am now laying low for a while in hopes the dust will settle.
Wether he will be the first to contact me or not, I’m still unsure on how to approach the situation when the time comes to try and reconnect. What techniques can I use to help him erase these negative images of me and remember how great things were most of the time?
I want to give him space and time but don’t really know where to start with getting him to warm up to me again when the time comes. Thank you so much for your response – love your articles. Hope you can help me further.
admin
February 5, 2015 at 3:19 pm
Well, you want to go really slow and think every little interaction through. Anything that could potentially be looked at in a bad way by him you should stay away from.
erica
February 2, 2015 at 10:23 pm
I was dating a guy for 4 weeks, i know short time but i truly came to care for him. He was on break from nursing school so he had more time, he told me he had one semester left of school and he wouldn’t have enough time as he did the first 2 weeks…we agreed we were worth going through it. Well as he started going back to school the change happen, he was busy, tired, would see him only hour here or there. I kept pushing and 2 days ago he finally said he needed space and he couldn’t do it anymore. I feel like i blew it, he said he may call me when things slow down but that’s it. I know i left a bad taste in his mouth by how i reacted. Do i do the no contact rule? So afraid i won’t see him again
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:18 pm
Yes do the NC rule.
Heather
February 2, 2015 at 9:25 pm
I was in a long distance relationship with someone for 6 months. Everything was going great! We really got along well, had alot in common, amazing sex/chemistry, but we didn’t see each other as much as we’d like especially since he works alot. Out of nowhere last week, he started acting a little distant, I expressed my concerns, and he basically told me that we should be friends. I told him I needed a break anyway because I was so upset. I said some kind of harsh things that he said he has a hard time getting over, but he called and texted me every day as if nothing had every happened. I then told him politely, if he doesn’t have any intention of giving it a second chance, I would prefer him to not contact me so that I can move on. He said ok, and we wished each other well. It has been two days and I am still hurting with the NC rule, but I am determined to do it. Do you think it is possible from his reaction that he will try to contact me by the way we left each other? He said that we’re “friends” but we had such a nice relationship, I have a hard time believing he doesn’t still love me or miss me. Thank you for reading!
admin
February 3, 2015 at 1:11 pm
You should really check out the LDR pages on this site!