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Kristie
March 20, 2015 at 10:22 am
Hi,
I wonder if any of the above applies to a relationship I had with a fellow colleague, who is married. I started the no contact rule a week ago, and I deleted and blocked his phone number and on Facebook. And I have had no contact from him, but he does know my email address and home address.
I know its wrong to fall for a married guy, believe me, that’s why I am breaking things with him now. It went on at work for 4 months, and I have fallen for him.
I am really struggling no hearing from him, as it has really made me feel like I meant nothing to him.
Am off work for 3 weeks as had operation last week, and thought that would be a good time to do NC. So I have 3 weeks not seeing him at work.
But it will be really difficult when I go back, to maintain the NC.
I would appreciate any advice on how to deal with this very painful time. Thanks Kristie
admin
March 22, 2015 at 4:17 pm
What specifically do you think you will struggle with when it comes to NC?
Kristie
March 25, 2015 at 7:52 pm
Hi, I am going to specifically struggle with ignoring him in person, and as he hasn’t bothered to try and contact me via email etc, I am feeling very rejected by him. Even though I put the no contact rule in place.
So its like I need to know if I should just blatantly ignore him at work, or be “friendly”.
Its just going to be really difficult and I would appreciate your view on how he will feel if I do the snubbing and ignoring as per no contact rule?
Suzanne
March 20, 2015 at 9:19 am
Hi Chris,
I am trying again, left a comment on Monday and it has since then vanished with no response, so I am posting my question again in hope for an answer.
After dating for two perfect months, a lot of laughs, fun, excellent chemistry, my guy dumped me without explanation over a text, a week later he showed up to explain (ignored 3 emails in that week), the explanation was that he lied about his age, and he is actually 8 years younger than me (me 35, him 27) and can’t see himself marrying someone that much older.
I have been in NC for 6 days now, have received 4 messages from him (most of them trying to get me to stay friends with benefits with him) I have ignored all and continuing NC.
My question is, given his reasons for breaking up, and me not even sure I was a man who could lie this way, is there any benefit to doing NC here? Will NC get him to rethink his beliefs (immaturity) about the age difference?
I would really appreciate a response
Sara
March 19, 2015 at 8:27 pm
Me and my boyfriend were going out for 3 years he broke up with me 12 days ago. The said he has been miserable for 3 years and does not love me anymore, he also told me he has not loved me for over a year but did not know how to break up with me.
We have had a complicated unhealthy relationship everything was good for 6 months but then i started university and i found the assignments too hard and i wanted to quit but he told me he would help me with them and ended up doing all the assignments for the whole time i have been at university; i am in my last week of my final year and even though we broke up 11 days ago he is still doing my assignments. but he has told me its just about the work he does not want to get back with me.
I feel like he turned miserable because of all the pressure I gave him with these assignments i knew once they were over i would fix our relationship and make it better but he broke up with me 3 weeks before it was all over, so he didnt even give us a chance to fix it. I think hes fixated on how miserable our relationship has been because from 5am-9pm he goes work and gym and then from 9-11 he was doing my assignments so i understand how stressed he must have been. but we used to have a good relationship for the first year.
another thing is he says i was a horrible girlfriend because i used to get annoyed at him for calling me BUT he called me 10 times a day and also made me skype him from 9pm-5am everyday, so as soon as he got home he would skype me even if we were not talking it would just be left on and he always used to message me every 5 mins it was a repetitive conversation he also expected me to reply back within 5 mins. and this is why i used to be annoyed because there was no space and if i mentioned to call me less he would get angry and say im horrible for saying that.
so all of this has made him miserable with me and not love me. if i do no contact can i get him back. this time i will be a good girlfriend and explain being with me all the time made him get fed up of me.
admin
March 22, 2015 at 3:49 pm
Well, there is a chance but it really depends on what you contact him with.
Emma
March 19, 2015 at 7:09 pm
Hi there,
this was a pretty interesting insight… bit I read
the whole article from top to bottom and didn’t find an answer to my only question : WHAT AFTER THE NC? What after he calls? What do I say or do to make him want to take our relationship to the next level?
BTW 12 days ago I broke up with a man telling him not to look for me anymore and I insulted him very hard because I was angry and at this time I really wanted to end this and to make him finally go away.
But actually deep down all I want is to take our relationship to the next level, but he is keeping me on standby mode for more than 2,5 years and sometimes it’s really frustrating. When we used to brake up earlier, he was the frantic caller,and this time he is the mid caller …he texted me on the 4th day saying “you forgot me so fast?”,I answered “are you crazy!?” and than he called and said d:”I have to cry and beg for for you to send me a line…” I said “Are you not angry???” He said “Why? You’ve done something bad? ,but I ended the call and wrote back “sorry I’m not alone anymore ” and than after a week of silence he texted me on the 10th day after the NC, but only a “good morning ” and I didn’t answer that of course …. I think that maybe he is done begging me. But It’s only 12 days now, what if it’s not over? What if he calls again? How do I make him keep calling me (cause I’m almost never the one who texts or calls first even when we are good)?
How do I get this to the next level …. if it’s not already over that is :);)
P.s. Admin you are awesome..keep doing this
Best wishes
P.p.s at the same time I finished this o got a message from him saying “even if you don’t love me anymore, I just want to tell you that every day you are more beautiful.I like your new profile picture ” (that but with a lot of spelling mistakes …probably his hand was shaking hahaha)
So what do I do next?
admin
March 22, 2015 at 3:47 pm
Thanks you can call me Chris.
You are on your tenth day of NC and you are shooting for 30 days.
As for what to do after NC. I have written about that multiple times throughout the site. My recommendation would be to take a look around.
Emma
March 23, 2015 at 7:33 am
Thanks Chris 🙂
Emma
March 19, 2015 at 8:45 pm
Admin please reply to me asap because probably he is sweating over by now and I don’t want to torture him too much cuz I love him you know 🙂
But I still want him to be afraid of losing me forever and realize that he can’t live without me … maybe I should continue ignoring him until he admits that ;)?
Ufff I’m restless too 🙂
admin
March 22, 2015 at 3:50 pm
Sometimes you will have to torture him though to get what you want.
cecilia
March 19, 2015 at 3:46 pm
Hi there,
I did a rather ballsy NC thing today,
not sure about it.
He broke up with me 18 days ago so this is day no 18 on my No Contact. (He keeps commenting casually on some of my facebook posts, but i never answer. He writes to my other friends, in my comments fields))
It is the birthday of my little twin sons. My ex (he is not the father) and his artist female friend together sent me two little designer t-shirts for the boys. Designed by her. She did all the work, wrote nice handwriting, lovely pink envelope, wrappers with animals and flowers on. She just included his name too, as Sender. I see this because i recognize her handwriting and style.
I don’t know if this gift counts as him trying to reach me; probably just him feeling guilt for having left me.
But I thanked only her, with a smiley and stars.
I have not said/written one single word to him.
(I know that you Chris say that one should not worry about the ex defriending me for being tired of my silence. But yeah, I’m nervous when I think about him probably defriending me any day/minute now. it is really a tempting thought to thank him for the gift, to not seem rude, but i’d rather stay quiet, really)
(LDR, lasted 11 weeks, met 4 times; before that, we chatted every day since the summer of 2013)
MisterJ
March 19, 2015 at 2:17 am
In my opinion, the one who initiated the break up needs to call first. In my situation I have this feeling that she wants to initiate contact with me, one of her friends who is a complete stranger to me contacts me and asks me how is it going between me and my ex. I am sure her friend already knows why would she ask me a complete stranger? My ex needs to contact me she ended it with no explanation she ended it by doing no contact. :/
Kuala
March 18, 2015 at 8:59 pm
During the last 4 or 5 months of my (now ended) relationship I kept a note on my phone and called it ‘monitoring’. Every time this man made me feel bad, was unkind, or did not value me i wrote a very brief note about this on this list. Now that we have split up (he is a self confessed commitment phobe) and when i sometimes have a moment when i am missing him (we were together for 2 and 1/2 years and had some happy times, until i needed more commitment) I open my phone and read the Monitoring’ list. It immediately reminds me of the pain and lack of self worth I felt during that time. It’s a great way of keeping things in perspective. Please try it- it works.
admin
March 21, 2015 at 3:12 pm
Wow, that is really interesting.
I have never heard of this before but I really like it. It keeps you on point for doing NC.
Missy
March 17, 2015 at 8:57 pm
Hi I need serious help.. I have been seeing a guy for about 6 months he adored me at first, we told each other I love you. He is in the process of divorce, which is almost final. He was adamant that he wanted to be with me. I realize a divorce is very stressful and there are two kids involved. But he professed his love and I thought it was genuine, unfortunately he broke plans to see me for the first time about two weeks ago and I sensed some distance prior to that. After breaking plans he told me this is too much responsibility and he has too many problems, and I don’t need or deserve that. I haven’t spoke to him since and this is a guy who always txt and called me the entire duration. Can you please tell me if this is a lost cause? is there a chance? Maybe he met someone else? I’m so desperate for answers, my heart is breaking. I am head over heels for this man. He doesn’t seem to care at all, I need some insight please!!!
admin
March 18, 2015 at 9:07 pm
Have you implement the NC yet?
He is probably wrapped up in his divorce still. Go ahead and listen to the podcast episode I did on divorce. I believe it was ep 13.
Missy
March 18, 2015 at 9:54 pm
I have gone 2 weeks now with no contact. This isn’t like him at all not to try to contact me. I guess I’m scared that since the divorce isnt technically final just yet that maybe he went back to her, since I haven’t heard from him. I can’t understand his change in behavior towards me, but I’m doing my best not to reach out. I will listen to the podcast thank you!!
Roxy G.
March 17, 2015 at 4:19 pm
I’ve been seeing a guy 7mnts. He always wanted a relationship with me but I preferred to be friends. We would always go out and have a great time. He would see other girls too.Didn’t bother me bc we were friends. There was times where he would try to make me jealous but I still kept talking to him.I only broke it off once but I took him back in a week.I txted him first. One day an embarrasing accident happened to me. He humilliated me for it when he took me out for dinner and a movie .(no too sure if he did bc it was indirectly, so I never knew if tht was intentional) I was very hurt. I didn’t take any chances. He txt me and wanted to see if we could talk on the phone. Convo started very cool no drama but in btwn I broke it off (with no drama I didn’t even bring up the humiliating part). i told him tht i felt like i was wasting his time & it should b good if we didnt talk anymore. He told me tht no tht instead maybe if I wanted we could stop going out but still keep in contact. I told him no. We ended in good terms finishing off with “thanks for always respecting me and for the invites” and him with “Thank you for never being rude or vain”. its been 7 weeks of nc no txts no calls.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:55 pm
At 7 weeks of no contact you are allowed to reach out. You know that right?
Roxy G.
March 23, 2015 at 12:13 am
I dont want to contact him bc he will problem have the “she still digs me” or “I have her right where I want “etc mindset.
If he really cared for the friendship wouldn’t he apologized for wht happened or if he did genuinely miss me wouldn’t he reach out a long time ago?
Ps.Thank u for the advice!
Roxy G.
March 23, 2015 at 12:14 am
Sry I meant “he will probably
Roxy G.
March 17, 2015 at 6:31 pm
He said he respected my wishes after I told him that we should cut all contact. He didn’t show any emotion.
I know my situation is diff but should I send a txt or remain nc? Or is 7 weeks too late?
Thank you!!
Cristine
March 17, 2015 at 12:11 pm
Hello Chris,
I was reading this and i thought it was very interesting so i’m here to ask your advice. I have been dating this guy for 8 months, which were really intense, we were spending almost every day together. We were having long term plans for the future, he just even asked me two months ago to move to his place and i was supposed to do so on May. Everything seems to be perfect, except the fact i have a temper, and sometimes, well this most cases after a few drinks,i used to go mad for stupid things and say things i didn’t mean. This didn’t happen that often, and i always apologized after that. It seems last time it happened he didn’t get easily over that. After two days he said he was confused and didn’t know what he wanted. So the day after,i just booked a ticket and got back home,Italy, for one week (we both live in Abu Dhabi and he is English)This made him become even colder, maybe because he thought i was just going there and meeting my ex boyfriends or so,he says Italians are unfaithful, but i have never cheated on him. The weekend i got back, he had moments he seemed to be really in love and other moments he was cold. So i asked for a serious no contact break, maybe in a rough way. He didn’t contact me at all, i just text because i noticed on Facebook he hided our relationship, he sent me a screenshot of the relationship saying it was still there. So i just deleted him from Facebook but he didn’t even ask why. When i met him after two weeks he said he was still confused, and i acted in a very arrogant way, saying that that was a break up, because i had too many men pending and could not wait for him. He replied we break up now and start dating again after some time.I said after sometime i might be dating someone else, and he said then he’ll have to win me back. That same day we had the same birthday party and i kept flirting with a lot of guys when he was there. After two days i popped into his place telling him that i missed him,i loved him,i didn’t want to loose him and that it could work between us.We had sex before this, he started first, not me, then he told me he could not think because hangover, and asked me to talk about it in a few days. The day after i asked him on whatsapp how he was feeling and he didn’t answer at all. This happened 16 days ago, after that i didn’t contact him and he did not either. Yesterday i saw he signed in back in a dating app, where we first met. Obviously he has seen me there as well. That was really something i can’t understand, why he just didn’t tell me it’s over? . Well i’m happy he saw me in this dating app, at least now he knows i’m not home crying. Last thing, he still has stuff in my place and i have stuff at his place. I decided i will never contact him again, unless he does, and it should be for a good reason. Do you think he’ll ever be back? Anyway this is such a mess, and i never ended a relationship in this way. We are quite old, i’m 32 and he is 31, but this seems a bit childish 🙁
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:49 pm
I have seen crazier situations succeed.
FYI you guys are not old.
Actually you are quite young.
Cristine
March 19, 2015 at 12:01 pm
Thanks for your reply Chris. I have been through your site and it’s so helpful. I’m using this time to improve myself, getting back the ungettable girl i used to be when he met me. I really needed to refresh my memory and remember my life doesn’t really have to revolve around a man. So i’m focusing on my work, started a training and diet program as well that will help me get back fit as i was when i used to model and some shallow dates, why not. I’ll let you know how it ends up.
Cristine
March 30, 2015 at 7:25 pm
Hello Chris, i did 28 days of no contact and he didn’t contact me. So then i just thought it was the case of asking him back my things and giving him back his stuff. I sent some cold messages and dropped his stuff in the reception asking him to drop my stuff in the reception as well. He insisted on giving them personally so i met him and he was so emotional, he became red, jumped, his packet of cigarettes and lighter fell on the floor just the moment he saw me. Well he asked me to meet him for drinks in the weekend.
Cristine
March 17, 2015 at 2:13 pm
I have applied this no contact rule many times with other guys and actually it does work, but i’m scared this time won’t work. I think he rated me high in the beginning and maybe it went down because of the fights. Thing is he might be back if he doesn’t find someone better than me, but is it right taking him back in that case? And why he didn’t even tell me it’s over? Scared? He is very self confident, and if he didn’t want to hurt me maybe was just better telling me it’s over instead of all this. That was just very mean. So i should go on with no contact till he contacts,if he ever will?
Kate
March 17, 2015 at 9:12 am
I recently found out my ex was very ill, we have been no contact for over a year. He ended the relationship, I ended our more than friends but not boyfriend girlfriend friendship thing post break up. He has never reached out in over a year and I wanted to contact about the illness but i don’t want to go back to him and make him think I’m still in love. I don’t know what to do, 16 months is a long time for no contact…
admin
March 18, 2015 at 8:46 pm
Wait, did you reach out to him yet?
kate
March 21, 2015 at 8:14 pm
No I haven’t said anything yet, I’m scared of breaking the no contact thing and having him think “oh she is still eating out of the palm of my hand” because for so many months after we broke up I was his shoulder to cry on, while I wanted more. He has never reached out to me since I asked for NC…but I always assumed he was just respecting my request for space. I always thought that at some point he would check in though…I guess I want to know if I will look pathetic reaching out or caring?
Tessa
March 15, 2015 at 4:15 pm
Hello, I have a question. My ex and I broke up about a month ago and we had been on a off between talking although now I know it wouldve been easier to apply NC earlier in the break up. he found a rebound (she’s going through a divorce. imagine that working out. ha.) when I found out he took someone on a date we argued about it and then we made up and I applied NC and he contacted me after a week and a half. he was still lashing out at me at this point. he’s really angry with me now and now we’re not talking. He was giving me fixed signals on if he wanted to work on it. The whole reason we broke up was because he has trust issues from a previous partner I assume. He thought I cheated one night when I was out with friends bit I didnt. Then after that we had more little petty arguments. I did become the emotional girl but even when I did give him space he was texting me things trying to make me feel guilty for somethingoes that didnt happen. he’s shows his hurt through anger. All of the overwhelming fighting has got me down. we seemed fine for a minute and the rebound didn’t matter. Im assuming he’s just using her for sex because why would he have talked to Me? The next day he said he Wanted to try things with her so I went off because the night before we were fine talking. after I went off I texted him the day after to apologize for the way I acted. he replied with this better be the last time you text me and I mean it. I haven’t talked to him for 5 days. I feel so hurt and I know he is too. we were so good together. He wasnt just my boyfriend but a best friend too. I wish I done the NC earlier I feel like it would’ve helped Better. Do you think he will Come around? What do you think I should do to better it? I love doing NC because I don’t have to argue. Should I just give him a lot of Time? I know he loves me a lot. The rebound is no threat to be honest. Just please give me advice I’m at a stand still.
admin
March 18, 2015 at 6:23 pm
I just think a standard 30 days is ideal. No reason to push it further along unless you want it to last longer. I am fine with it then.
Francine
March 14, 2015 at 1:15 am
Hiya,
I’ve been reading up on this for awhile and just wanted some advice. I was in a relationship with this man for 9 months, everything was going pretty well up until about 5 weeks before the breakup cause I was feeling neglected as a lot of the time I felt like everything in his life came before me. We broke up 2 weeks ago, after a fight I initiated but he broke up with me. I texted him the next day apologising for things I had said during the argument but he didn’t apologise and said he required space and not to expect conversation as this was his was of getting over a break up but that we’re “still friends” I haven’t spoken to him since. So he kind of initiated NC and its been 13 days; on day 9 he wrote to my friend asking how I was doing but not to me (confusing!!!) But I just want to know; should I contact him as he initiated NC or should I continue for another 15 days? Also how would I even start a conversation with him? It all seems like it would be too awkward!! He was my first love and I’ll always love him I guess.
Anyway, thanks a lot!
admin
March 15, 2015 at 4:31 pm
Hi Francine,
Have you explored the rest of this website?
There is some great advice on how to start a conversation with him.
Continue for another 15 days FYI.
Lisa
March 13, 2015 at 1:21 pm
Hi Chris,
I started the NC on Monday and the guy is aware that I do not want to talk, and has said that he will respect my wishes. We were not strictly in a committed relationship, but had been seeing each other steadily for over a year. He never wanted to commit to me fully so every once in a while I would throw out a strong statement, basically an ultimatum that I want to be serious or nothing at all. That of course never went over well and he always decided that he would rather just be friends over actually committing. He doesn’t appear to have ever been in a long-term serious relationship and at the age of 33 is living with his parents for financial stability, even though he makes decent enough money to live out on his own. My fear is that he is afraid of commitment, but does have loving feelings for me, and is just too afraid to move forward with our relationship in that way. He says that he always wants me in his life, but he did say that he had come to the conclusion that I am not the one. It all seems pretty clear, but it shocks me because we had just spent a lot of time together. We had a small falling out recently and during that time it now appears that he connected with someone new, and he told me that he has decided to see how that plays out. I told him that I would not sit by to see how it went, but secretly, I am curious to see how it plays out and how he will feel about our situation after I am gone, and he tries to move on. I do know that I deserve better than this, but I am still very intrigued by the NC and how it could affect things. I don’t know that I have the strength to ignore him if he contacts me, because mainly it seems a bit harsh. Can you tell me the purpose of the rule, is it so that I go ahead and start to move on, or to give him space to figure things out for himself? I realize it all depends on the situation, but what are your thoughts on my situation? Thanks Chris
admin
March 13, 2015 at 9:33 pm
It’s to do that a little bit yes but it also serves as a reset button so your ex is in the right frame of mind to take you back after NC is up.
Rachy
March 13, 2015 at 9:38 am
Talking to a guy for over a year, we met, kind of made future plans to meet. I sent a text stating I didn’t think he had much interest in me. He then said that scared him thinking I was trying to end it. Not had contact now for 2 weeks. What do I do now?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 9:27 pm
Finish out the next two weeks and create a game plan for how to move forward.
Lucy
March 12, 2015 at 8:26 pm
My ex and I broke up 8 months ago; I worked for him, at his family’s company, and it was just not feasible to stay together. He ended it, saying it was just too impossible of a situation, and maybe in the future if I didn’t work there anymore, it could work. He and I were quite happy together otherwise. I fell deeply in love with him, more so than anyone I’ve ever dated including an ex fiance. Now, I no longer work for his company (I recently quit due to finances). He had me stay and hang out with him one night a couple of weeks ago after I dropped his dog off at his home (we co-own a dog that I show). There was no touching, but he turned the lights out and there was a lot of flirting coming from him. I texted him a few days later to hang out, and his answer was he didn’t know about that yet.
Now, he’s been telling my former coworkers all about everything I’m saying and doing, how I’m “trying to look sexy” on Instagram, and how I had asked to hang out with him. I got upset that he’s turning my feelings for him into office gossip now that I’m gone, and so I started NC on Saturday. Sunday was my birthday, he texted me happy birthday, but I didn’t reply. 48 hrs later, another text about something random. 24 hours later, another. Then 12 hours, another. Yesterday I had to go pick up my final paycheck, thinking he was out of town on a trip. I was talking to friends at my old work, when he walked in. He walked right over to me as I was in conversation and said “Hey there”. I didn’t reply, didn’t look him in the eye, nothing. I walked out to my car to get something; when I had come back, I went to the restroom and he brought our dog downstairs from his office. I walked out, he said, “Can you at least say hi to your dog?”, which of course I did. Then he tried to tell me some story about our dog, and I walked off without acknowledging him. This apparently upset him enough that he told my coworker about it in the hallway. And then he texted me within the hour, how he gets it if I want some space, but I didn’t have to rudely ignore him when happen to run into each other.
I read the texts between him and my coworker. He kept saying he didn’t care, he just thinks it’s weird that I’m suddenly ignoring him. And that he hopes I move on, that I’m kinda loco sometimes, etc.
Is he really over me? Why is he telling my coworker about everything I do and say? Is this whole NC thing really worth it, if I’m just upsetting him and making him hate me when he’s already over me anyway?
Help, I’m so confused!
admin
March 13, 2015 at 8:29 pm
I think the fact that he is still looking into you clearly shows NC is working.
You are still relavant and on his mind.
Ashley
March 10, 2015 at 10:41 pm
Hi Chris
Me and my boyfriend have been dating for a year and a half and we were extremely close and did most things together. We are both 18 and in our senior year of high school. A month ago he randomly told me he wanted a break for a week to just have some space and figure things out. When that was over he broke up with me out of the blue after promising everything was fine. After that I begged and pleaded for him back for almost a week and we stopped talking for a few days and then he decided to give it another shot. We were back together for 2 weeks and he was extremely distant and was emotionally absent. So of course I tried to make up for his slack my being overly affectionate. Which pushed him away and then we just broke up again mutually Friday night. But then I realized I couldn’t let him go and that I need him in my life because I truly believe he IS the ONE!! He agreed to meet up and talk about things and I pleaded and begged for him back and he said he needed to think about things. That night and the next day I sent multiple messages telling him how much I love and need him in my life(which I’m not proud of) and he told me that he just needs space and that we can talk about all this again in 3 weeks after spring break. I texted him making a plan for when and where to meet so we don’t have to talk until that time when we see eachother, but he won’t reply. And that’s EXTREMLY unlike him!! Is there any hope for us? he thinks a relationship is too much of a commitment and that he still loves me and would want to be with me if he was ready for a relationship. Will the no contact still work!? I think hes a combination of the clueless, angry and the stubborn guy! HELP!!!
Ashley
March 10, 2015 at 10:59 pm
ALSO! is there a way to reverse the damage I’ve done? Please reply!! I need your help!!!
admin
March 13, 2015 at 7:04 pm
Hi Ashley, theres a way to reverse the damage and it requires TIME!
liz
March 10, 2015 at 6:38 pm
Hello, me and my boyfriend of 5 years are currently on a break, we both agreed to go on a break, since we both don’t feel appreciated . He ended up contacting me after 10 days but the text had no questions or implies that he wanted to speak to me. He just said hope you are well have a nice weekend. I replied the same thing but it’s now been 5 days later and he hasn’t made any contact. What does this even mean?why would he contact me in the first place?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 6:43 pm
Well, you should be doing the NC rule anyways so I don’t see the problem
The fact that he is reaching out isn’t a bad sign.
cristin
March 10, 2015 at 1:07 am
I just wanted to take a moment to thank you. I read your articles and bought your e-book. It wasn’t easy doing the no contact, but I did. It worked like a charm. I got the date, again I took your advice. Now we’re back together! Do you have a ebook about what to do at this point? I don’t want to fall back into the same old patterns, because clearly they were not working.
Thanks again!
admin
March 13, 2015 at 4:26 pm
I think I actually did write an article about what to do after you get him back.
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-keep-your-ex-boyfriend-once-you-get-him-back/
Dorothea
March 8, 2015 at 4:43 pm
Hi,
My ex broke up with me last week, because of infidelity and he confessed it. He called me one time, in the middle of the night the other day, but immediately blocked me right after. Shall I assume he does not want to talk with me ?
admin
March 13, 2015 at 3:28 pm
I am really sorry you got cheated on.
I would advise going straight into NC.