My Ex Stopped Talking To Me All Of A Sudden- What Does It Mean?

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Sucked in and Stumped

January 26, 2018 at 11:50 pm

Just continuing my post from 11/20/17:

Well my ex randomly texted and suggested we meet, we did, he even put his hand on my thigh at one point, we had a long hug goodnight and I walked inside a bit confused as to how to gauge the night. However he texted shortly after and suggested we meet again but earlier for more fun.

There were some exchanges and then he made a sexual reference that confused me. The convo ended shortly thereafter.

He never initiated after then but would respond, although they were all brief replies.

After almost 3 months of that I flat out asked if we’d ever hang again to which he replied, “probably not a good idea”. I said “alright, why did you text me at all then?” He said, “you have a lot going on and I have a lot I have to deal with”. I said, “Ok, I won’t text you again and please loose my number to avoid any more lonely late night texts. I wish you the best” and after silence I said, “can you please confirm receipt? I want to be sure we’re on the same page.” He said, “Ok”.

I regret not expressing to him my confusion during our meet up. I wish I had told him about was impressed by one of his stories. I regret a lot and am sad that after 2 years of silence we had that meeting and nothing came from it but more disappointment and me feeling like I haven’t improved at all.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2018 at 11:10 pm

when was that when you asked him? Because in those 3 months, you should have built rapport instead.

Camra

January 22, 2018 at 8:32 pm

I just feel like we could both work it out. If we committed to understanding each other and putting in equal effort.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 24, 2018 at 3:58 am

Yeah, but it takes two to do that and you can’t control other people..

Camra

January 22, 2018 at 12:34 am

Hi Amor I am replying to your question, how often we fight and how many times we broke up, because I don’t see any option to reply in thread.

We broke up about 4 times. 2 very serious. We would always get back together by the end of the day though. We would have a fight every couple months. Together a year. He’d always overreact with anger/stubbornness and admit I didn’t deserve it. I was not perfect especially at the start but I tried hard. I mentioned his illness (bipolar with schizo) and I do believe he is having issues with it again because we hadn’t fought in months. We took a trip in October and everything was good since then. All of a sudden his brother comes back, who influences him in a bad way, and the trouble starts. He started a fight Dec 10 despite me asking please not to, got back together the next day cause he begged me. He said let’s get an apartment, and we had 3 trips planned this year. He started another fight Dec 14, so I told him I accepted a date and that I didn’t want to get hurt anymore. He begged me back the next day. He said we need to talk “no matter how long it takes.” I didn’t answer until afternoon cause I had been up all night crying and needed sleep. By the time I answered he was mad saying the same stuff he did the night before. He refused to come talk and said it’s done because we fight too much. Even tho he admitted he did the fighting these last two. And I went on the date that night, texted /fought /talked to him trying to convince him, the whole time I was on the date. I told him I couldn’t enjoy it and that I left. Well he was done. A couple days go by we didn’t talk, and I egged him told him all I could work on and that we need to work this out instead of stubbornly leave it. He had told me repeatedly he hopes I don’t block his number, etc. That he wanted to be friends, liked talking to me more than anyone ever. I said that’d hurt me and said no. When I begged him Dec 18 (after 2days no talking) he didn’t reply so I said, “I don’t know if my numbers blocked by you. This isn’t right for me after all bc it shouldn’t be this hard. I’m blocking your number take care. I wish you the best.” He replied “Yiur number is not blocked but I don’t want to be with you. We need to move on.”

How could he go from wanting an apartment saying he can’t take the pain of not having me , to being done in 4 days…..

So now, I have texted him after NC.
Short replies day 1 and only one reply day 2. He never wrote me back either. Should I wait or should I apologize for any bad feelings I caused and wish him the best?

I love him and I know what I did wrong. I want him to do the same and come back. Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 22, 2018 at 5:06 am

I think you should move on.. It’s a toxic relationship..

Camra

January 20, 2018 at 1:47 am

Oh in addition to my last message. The wanting an apartment with me, and saying he can’t live w/o me etc…. that was 4 days before we broke up for good. Thought that night shed some light on this.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2018 at 5:08 am

Hi Camra,

How many times have you broken up? And how often do you fight?

Camra

January 20, 2018 at 1:36 am

He dumped me, said we fight too much but he was the one starting fights then apologizing each time for blowing it out of proportion. I’m not perfect but I tried very hard with him.

We had a breakup again (on/off) during the last two fights He begged me to talk which wasn’t like him. He has some mental issues he isn’t getting treated for. But he was ready to get an apartment with me said he couldn’t live without me, and wanted to meet to talk. By end of the day he didn’t want to, said we fight too much, told me all these things he didn’t like about me etc. He said he hopes I don’t block his number a few times. He told me he really wants to be friends and hates the idea of us not talking bc he loved talking to me and I refuse. He said “Let’s cut ties for good then” basically. I begged for two days and he said he did not want to be with me and to move on.

Did 30 days NC, text him saying he’ll never guess who I saw. Immediately he says “bad time” I say ok. He replies a little later asking “Who?” I tell him. He replies quickly asking “How could you tell?” I answer the next day. And tell him I found out something cool. He said “What’s that” and I told him about some upcoming events we both enjoy.

No reply. He obviously does not care at all. I just wanted to start small. And get in decent terms with him. But I guess I’ll quit trying? What should I do?
Renee

January 4, 2018 at 12:37 pm

Idk y my post don’t show or why I don’t get a reply

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 4, 2018 at 6:41 pm

sorry Renee, I haven’t reached your comment yet.. Restart nc.. stick to at least 30 days.. don’t answer if he texts you anything unless it’s an emergency or if he says he wants to get back with you.. not even if he’s angry.. focus again in improving yourself and in posting.. do posts that don’t disappear after 24 hours.

Renee

January 4, 2018 at 12:18 pm

No contact I did bout 21 days he contact me straight out of it we were talking for bout 2 weeks daily he even ask to see me but before the day came he got sick spoke to him on the phone he actually was sick but since we talk on the phone

I haven’t heard frm him phone convo went pretty well was abt a 2 Min call I ended it but since he text me once tell me he was still sick 2 days went pass then I text him happy new year he definitely replied but I responded ty get better haven’t heard frm him since and that was 3 days ago what do I doo?
Emma

January 3, 2018 at 12:17 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago. (LDR for 2,5 Years, intense relationship, I was his first true love. we broke up because of my disease and the following stress with his new medicine study)
I initiated contact via text after a no contact period of 2,5 months.
during no contact I postet several activities to show how I changed and showed things he is interested in. I also uploaded whatsapp status videos.
since the breakup, he always watched every single video/pic I uploaded. I know that he doesn‘t have any idea that I can see who watched my uploads…

so after I initiated contact he replied overwhelmingly positive! I kept the convos short and sweet and ended them. I initiated another and he asked me to call me when I‘m not to busy. on the telephone I showed him my interest in his study and all new things. but… he bragged about his life. I felt like he was somehow trying to show me he is doing great without me. he even mentioned a random girl in his new sports team that is listening to his fav band…(surprise)
we both share a great interest in this band. did he say that to make me jealous?
I ended the call and felt pretty bad. I thought he would be more „sweet“ or at least human on the phone but he seemed very selfish and macho. he initiated a convo since then but now I‘m the one that initiates all the texts.
but …everytime I do, he reacts in a very! positive way.
and I always mention his interests or great new things that I achieve.
I write in a confident, and supportive, nice and sweet way. but he seems to hide his true emotions or tries to put them aside.
I uploaded a video to show him that I sold my flat we once lived in when he visited me. that was the first time he „confessed“ that he has watched my video on whatsapp. he asked me about it and wrote: „oh I randomly saw the other day that you sold your flat?“…
is that a sign that he doesn‘t want me to know that he still cares?
but then the convos stopped again. I tried to initiate some convos with topics that he is interested in and again, meanwhile he watched all my uploads and pics. and he always replied.
for chrismas I tried to show him a little detailed „best of the relationship text“ with a very funny and sweet memory when we were in his hometown and I did not know how to order food in his native language and how great this day was.
he replied but he clearly ignored the relationship part and just laughed and focused on the embarrassing part.
I think he ignored the relationship part.. even tho my text was all positive. why did he do that?
it‘s frustrating that he rarely initiates contact, but always replies positive. I know he is busy with his medicine study but everybody has got some time now and then I guess.
and he rarely asks something private… as if he just doesn’t care? but then he offered me help for sports questions, watched all my uploads since the breakup. he never talks about the relationship or his stuff that is still in my house.

It‘s been a week since this last convo where I tried to break the ice with my Christmas memory text but I fear that he knows I‘m still interested. or does he just want a battle of „who is doing better“? Why did he offer some help or why does he always reply or follow my uploads when he is totally over me? why didn’t he just reply: „oh yeah that was truely a good day“, why does he brag about his new body or how easy everything is at his study. could he think by now that he has me save?
It’s like we are to strangers with no past. should I do a no contact to see if he initiates the next contact? What are your thoughts on his behavior?

thank you for your professional help!

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 9:22 pm

HI Emma,

I think he’s trying to brag because he can see your posts and wants to show off.. Just let him. Build more rapport before bringing up any relationship related topic.

Emma

January 2, 2018 at 2:17 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago and I initiated contact via text after a no contact period of 2,5 months. (LDR for 2,5 Years)
during no contact I posted several things to show how I changed and things he is interested in.
I also uploaded whatsapp videos. (he never blocked me and we had a very intense relationship, I was his first true love.)
since the breakup, he always watched every single video/pic I uploaded. I know that he doesn‘t have any idea that I can see who watched my uploads.
so after I initiated contact he replied overwhelmingly positive! I kept the convos short and sweet and ended them. I initiated another and he asked me to call me when I‘m not to busy. on the telephone I showed him my interest in his job and all new things. but… he bragged about his life. I felt like he was somehow trying to show me he is doing great without me. he even mentioned a girl in his new sports team that is listening to his fav band…
we both share a great interest in this band. did he say that to make me jealous? I ended the call and felt pretty bad. I thought he would be more „sweet“ or at least human on the phone but he seemed very selfish and macho. he initiated a convo since then but now I‘m the one that initiates the texts.
but everytime I do, he reacts in a positive way.
and I always talk about his interests or things I achieve or I do support him. but he seems to hide his true emotions or tries to put them aside.
I uploaded a video to show him that I sold my flat. that was the first time he „confessed“ that he has watched my video on whatsapp. he asked me about it and said: „oh I randomly saw the other day that you sold your flat?“
is that a sign that he doesn‘t want me to know that he is interested?
but then the convos stopped. I tried to initiate some convos with topics that he is interested in and again, he watched all my uploads. and he always replied. for chrismas I tried to show him a little „best of the relationship text“ with a very funny memory when we were in his hometown and I did not know how to order food in his native language and how great this day was.
he replied but ignored the relationship part and just laughed and focused on the funny part.
I think he ignored the relationship part.. even tho my text was all positive. why does he do that?
it‘s frustrating that he so rarely initiates contact, but always replies positive but rarely asks something private. but he offered me help for sports questions, watched all my uploads since the breakup. he never talks about the relationship or his stuff that is still in my house.
It‘s been a week since this last convo where I tried to break the ice but I fear that he knows I‘m still interested. or does he just want a battle of „who is doing better“? Why did he offer some help or why does he always reply or follow my uploads when he is totally over me? why didn’t he just reply: „oh yeah that was truely a good day“, why did he brag about his new body because he is doing more workouts?
It’s like we are to strangers. should I do a no contact to see if he initiates the next contact?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 5, 2018 at 6:35 pm

HI Emma,

I think he’s trying to brag because he can see your posts and wants to show off.. Just let him. Build more rapport before bringing up any relationship related topic.

Emma

January 2, 2018 at 12:28 pm

My boyfriend and I broke up 4 months ago and I initiated contact via text after a no contact period of 2,5 months. (LDR for 2,5 Years)
during no contact I postet several things to show how I changed and things he is interested in.
I also uploaded whatsapp videos. (he never blocked me and we had a very intense relationship, I was his first true love.)
since the breakup, he always watched every single video/pic I uploaded. I know that he doesn‘t have any idea that I can see who watched my uploads.
so after I initiated contact he replied overwhelmingly positive! I kept the convos short and sweet and ended them. I initiated another and he asked me to call me when I‘m not to busy. on the telephone I showed him my interest in his job and all new things. but… he bragged about his life. I felt like he was somehow trying to show me he is doing great without me. he even mentioned a girl in his new sports team that is listening to his fav band…
we both share a great interest in this band. did he say that to make me jealous? I ended the call and felt pretty bad. I thought he would be more „sweet“ or at least human on the phone but he seemed very selfish and macho. he initiated a convo since then but now I‘m the one that initiates the texts.
but everytime I do, he reacts in a positive way.
and I always talk about his interests or things I achieve or I do support him. but he seems to hide his true emotions or tries to put them aside.
I uploaded a video to show him that I sold my flat. that was the first time he „confessed“ that he has watched my video on whatsapp. he asked me about it and said: „oh I randomly saw the other day that you sold your flat?“
is that a sign that he doesn‘t want me to know that he is interested?
but then the convos stopped. I tried to initiate some convos with topics that he is interested in and again, he watched all my uploads. and he always replied. for chrismas I tried to show him a little „best of the relationship text“ with a very funny memory when we were in his hometown and I did not know how to order food in his native language and how great this day was.
he replied but ignored the relationship part and just laughed and focused on the funny part.
I think he ignored the relationship part.. even tho my text was all positive. why does he do that?
it‘s frustrating that he so rarely initiates contact, but always replies positive but rarely asks something private. but he offered me help for sports questions, watched all my uploads since the breakup. he never talks about the relationship or his stuff that is still in my house.
It‘s been a week since this last convo where I tried to break the ice but I fear that he knows I‘m still interested. or does he just want a battle of „who is doing better“? Why did he offer some help or why does he always reply or follow my uploads when he is totally over me? why didn’t he just reply: „oh yeah that was truely a good day“, why did he brag about his new body because he is doing more workouts?
It’s like we are to strangers. should I do a no contact to see if he initiates the next contact?
Renee

January 2, 2018 at 4:07 am

Done the Nc once for 21 days he text me day out of it
Renee

January 2, 2018 at 4:05 am

I’m back He reached out and we’ve talk I even started the stages of texting got far to we went to the phone call phase I ended the convo first to him texting me asking me out ,

now he became sick time of the date weather was horrible confirmed he was really sick by speaking to him on the phone , as the day approached to go out I knew he was already sick we’ve texted that morning I wished him well I heard nothing

after 3 days go passed I wished him a happy new year he wished me the same stated he was still sick I wished him well soon no reply wat I do next ??
AshleyJ

December 29, 2017 at 2:50 pm

Hi,
Long story short: we dated for more than 2y, lived together for almost one. Had issues of communication and arguments, I wasn’t at a good place, he left. Much of his stuff is still at mine.
After over a month of NC I wished him merry Xmas and happy bday. He answered and also sent a text of the type ‘you won’t believe what just happened’ to which I answered, it was related to a common thing, I reacted with a short message then he immediately asked how I was. I sent a short, upbeat but generally holiday-related answer about enjoying this time with my family. I asked him how he was and – no answer ever since. I am back to NC until after the holidays for sure. What do you suggest?

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 31, 2017 at 8:48 pm

check this one:
The Stages of Not Getting a Text Back From Your Ex and How to Survive Them

Renee

December 25, 2017 at 6:14 am

Ex recently reached out we were texting constantly all week until Saturday we were texting 50/50 and I wrote last and then nothing it’s been a day haven’t heard from him didn’t contact him since what happened what do i do

EBR Team Member: Amor

December 27, 2017 at 5:51 pm

Have you done nc? If yes, how many times and how long?

Marguerite

November 29, 2017 at 12:43 am

My bf broke up with me a week ago (2 days before thanksgiving). Our relationship was great until the last month where we argued mostly about how he doesn’t have much time to spend with me. He works full time and bartends almost full time. He says he loves me and cares very much about me but unable to make me happy. I begged that we work things out but he said that timing isn’t right. I’ve started NC 3 days ago. He texted me twice on two different days to make sure I’m doing okay. So far no other contact. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 29, 2017 at 2:53 pm

Hi,

Check this one:
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Sucked in and Stumped

November 20, 2017 at 3:43 pm

Hey, my LDR Ex and I broke up (1st time) 2013, maintained contact/heavy flirting throughout 2014 with an occasional text in 2015 after I’d moved to his city. Then he eventually told me that we needed to move on, its over, etc. So I did.

Then in February 2017 I woke one morning to a 2AM text from his un-saved phone number of a girl in a tank and cut off shorts. I immediately responded, “Who is this?” and silence. I then called and got his VM. Later that day I texted him a funny video but he never replied. I accepted it as an accident and moved on.

Then one Sunday night around 7:30pm he texted me that I should be at a music show. I responded telling him my name and that I wasn’t sure if he knew it was me. We then had some back and forth and ended up meeting for some drinks. It was nice conversation, we had some catch up (although nothing serious) and he dropped me off and I hugged him. A few minutes after he’d left he texted me that next time we should meet earlier for more fun. We had some back and forth and then a miscommunication lead him to telling me that there was too much sexual frustration and he referenced an inside joke back from our flirtatious texts.

The convo ended shortly after and I never heard from him. For fear he was I reached out before Halloween and he responded fairly quick (15-20min) with nothing too engaging, and asked me what I was dressing as and made a joke. The convo just stopped.

That was 2 weeks ago, has he decided against me?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 22, 2017 at 2:35 am

I think you took what happened too seriously.. If he wrong sent that message and it lead to meeting up, that’s good but one instance or meet up is not enough to say he had intentions of getting back together.. And if he did, now he’s either scared because he sensed it was moving too fast or he decided not to push because he can still see you have feelings for him and he can still see the old you because of the miscommunication…

Autumn

November 10, 2017 at 4:29 pm

my exboyfriend and I had not talked to each other in a few years, he started texting me a couple months ago, which lead to calls, the other day he called me 3 times and text me several times, basically he contacted me all day. I’m wondering if he freaked himself out because now I haven’t heard from him in 3 days. I’m not sure if he is ghosting me, or is rubber banding and thinking about things. Should I text him?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 12, 2017 at 11:39 pm

Hi Autumn,
have you initiated by now?

Amanda

November 5, 2017 at 1:14 am

Thanks for the advice Amor!

Two quick questions…1) if I decide to try again with him do I do 21 days or a month of NC? We did not have a fight or anything. We are on good terms, he just hasn’t initiated seeing me in weeks and it’s been me lately who iniates the texts. He won’t think it rude that I don’t reply to him when I’m in NC? 2) When it comes time to build a rapport after NC. What do I do if he asks to see me? If he acts like he used to (basically treated me at times like I’m his gf…cuddling while watching tv….kissing…and sleeping together) how do I act? Do I allow it? If I shouldn’t what do I say to him because I feel like he’d expect me to cuddle back and sleep with him again.

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 5, 2017 at 7:16 am

just stop initiating and replying for 21 days..Show through your posts that you’re busy and having a great time.. You’re not together, so, you’re not obligated to reply to him and if he asks you out right after you initiate, don’t be in a private place because you’re positioning yourself to be friends with benefits..

Amanda

November 2, 2017 at 3:31 am

Hello I need some advice with a guy I’ve been seeing since my long term ex. Almost 8 months ago I met a guy on Tinder and we connected right away. He seemed really into to me, and I saw him at least every week for the past 8 months. We never had a talk about what we are, and as the months went on I can’t help feeling he only wants casual with me. He is just so hot and cold. I felt secure though since he texted me every week and I’d see him too…however the past 2 months he rarely texts me, and I started seeing him less and less. This week though he revamped his tinder account, and the last time I saw him was a month ago. Which we have never gone that long without seeing. It’s upsetting. I’ve texted him every couple days and he replies right away. So it’s not like he’s ghosting next However he hasn’t asked to see me and he has not initiated a text with me in a month. These actions make me think he no longer wants anything to do with me and it upsets me that he doesn’t have the balls to say anything to me. I’m not sure what to do. I promised myself next time I saw him I’d call him out for leading me on and never establishing with me that wanted nothing more than fwb with me. What is your advice? Do I speak up with text? Go NC? Honestly I don’t think I eat anything with him anymore based on how he’s been treating me lately. He doesn’t deserve me or me giving him a chance because he has his opportunity to have me and blew it. What should I do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

November 4, 2017 at 12:16 am

Hi Amanda,

do nc and if you want still want to try, initiate conversations after it to slowly build rapport..

Hannah

October 22, 2017 at 2:03 pm

Hi, I was in a relationship for 9 months with a man I had known for 7 years. We got together in January, then in March he broke it off for a month because his family had told him it was me or them because of his culture. Throughout the month we were broken up he was in contact on and off with me and still made it very clear he loved me. Then in the April we got back together and was constantly seeing each other (we lived an hour away from each other) everything was perfect. We grew closer and closer but obviously the relationship had to be in secret from his family. Then at the end of August he ended it again as he said he felt we were getting too close and it was breaking him because we didn’t have a future together. But then 2 weeks after the break up he took me to France for 6 days. Now since we have come back off this holiday in September, we were still texting quite Abit but emotionally he became more distant from me. He said it’s because we can’t go back to bad habits and constantly text otherwise we will never move on from each other. Now we are in October we rarely speak. I stupidly asked him 3 days ago if he still missed us and he said he did. I don’t know what to do. Would NC work in my position because the only reason we aren’t together is because of his family rule, not because we didn’t get on well or anything. I worry he will find someone the family will accept. This has literally taken over my life and I don’t know what to do. The last time we broke up he came back ,this time there is no sign of that.

EBR Team Member: Amor

October 22, 2017 at 7:03 pm

HI Hannah,

check this one:
EBR 054: My Exes Mom Made Him Break Up With Me

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