My Ex Stopped Talking To Me All Of A Sudden- What Does It Mean?

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Katie

January 30, 2019 at 9:48 am

Hi Chris,

Thank you for your reply.
So, my next question is, what do I do from here as he hasn’t responded for 3 days.
Shall I do NC for a bit and wait for him to come to me?
Also, when he does get in touch again, I am thinking of asking him straight out why he is getting in touch and what he wants from it.
Katie

January 29, 2019 at 6:39 pm

Hello,

Need a bit of advice. So, I bumped into ex after 6 months of no contact and we had a friendly chat. He then texted me after and we texted for a few days – just general friendly chat and then he didn’t reply to my last text (which didn’t have a question.) Fast forward to about 3 weeks later, he messages me again and we have a text conversation back and fourth for about 11 days – again, general chat about travelling and food (which isn’t unusual as we used to chat about this stuff on a day to day basis) and within his messages, a couple of times, he brings up things from the past we shared. Again, he hasn’t replied to my last text (again, didn’t have a question.) I’m just confused about why he is getting in touch and then disappearing. I doubt it is the last time I have heard from him but now I want to know what should I do from here?

Chris Seiter

January 29, 2019 at 11:57 pm

Hi Katie…so some positive developments. Seems like he is trying to figure it all out. Testing you and himself. Its like he is trying on the relationship again to see if it fits and how he and you respond to it all.

Lania Dominique Wellington

January 12, 2019 at 5:56 am

I’ll try to make this short. One of my ex’s friends tagged him in a funny video on Facebook. It said “Bryce Girlfriend” (My ex’s name is Bryce) Now I’m wondering if he has a girlfriend. He pulled away in August and whenever I would suggest hanging out he said he would let me know but we would never hang out. In the month of December I figured I should just give up on him. But he sends me Snapchat videos of his day at least once a week. And he commented on my story last week. I went to Kansas on January third and just came back yesterday. He sent me another Snapchat video of stuff going on at his job today and I commented on it. So we’ve been talking today and he asked me how my trip was. (I guess because I put it on Instagram and my Snapchat story.) I’m just confused on what to do. I’ve read this article before and I’m scared to ask if he has a girlfriend because we don’t talk as much as we used to in the ex back process. (Because I felt like I was wasting my time) I’m wondering if he still cares. Should I just work on becoming an ungettable girl?
Julie

December 16, 2018 at 9:17 pm

So me and my ex stopped talking almost 4 months ago. It was his pattern to always come back and apologize and earlier this year he came back a couple months after unblocking me because I’d do no contact and it would work. In the summer the same thing happened and 3 weeks later he unblocked me and didn’t contact me (I have a feeling it was so I’d reach out first) and a few weeks later I contacted him. At that point we had not spoken in two months. I started a conversation and he answered and but then I tried to bring up what happened to hopefully solve it and he did not reply (my message might have had a bit of a negative energy). My text also had no questions in it so he probably thought it was pointless to reply. I am still unblocked and it’s been 7 weeks since I tried to work it out. Do I still have a chance if I continue no contact? In the past I use to beg every time I’d try to work it out with him and he wasn’t responding. I stopped doing that and haven’t contacted him since. Do men come back months later? Or does it seem like he’s gone forever? I’m scared that he’s forgotten me even though we have good memories and spoke all the time for 2 years.

Chris Seiter

December 17, 2018 at 10:52 pm

Hi Julie!

Some men do eventually set aside their ego and resentment and if he doesn’t then its his loss. There are many wonderful paths out there for you to explore as you see fit.

Angel

December 1, 2018 at 2:52 am

Hi Chris, thanks again for your advise! another question, is it alright if I send a thank you letter/message to his parents now that they know that we’ve broken up and that he has a new gf? 7-9 yrs with them is pretty long and I really want them to know how grateful I was being a part of their family.
Chanel

November 30, 2018 at 3:40 pm

My boyfriend and I were together over 2 years, both in our mid 40s with kids. He has been divorced twice (about a year before we met), and I had been divorced about 10 yrs. We both owned houses, about 30 mins away from each other. After a year, we decided I would move my teenage daughter into his house with his 2 girls (7 and 9), along with my 2 cats and dog – and sell my house, a house I loved and was proud of. After my house sold this past Feb, I became really depressed and it started affecting our relationship. We both became unhappy – I didn’t realize at the time that it was due to my lack of independence from selling my house – not from the relationship. He broke up with me unexpectedly in August – and I became an emotional mess – and angry at him – for selling my house, and now having to move my daughter and I out. He offered for me to stay at his house while I purchased again, but I decided to move closer to work & my daughter – and moved in for about 2 months with my ex-husband & girlfriend. My ex-boyfriend called and texted me for about 2 weeks, checking on me but then told me that he couldn’t deal with my anger and he needed time to focus on his own grieving. He was filled with a lot of guilt over what happened, and we were both in a lot of pain. My pets were still at his house, as well as all my things. He let me stay there a few nights a week, to pack (he wasn’t there when I was). Eventually I closed on my new townhouse and he hired me movers.
At that point, I went NC for 40 days. I reached out to him via “memory” text. He responded to both texts I sent that week.
The next week was Thanksgiving and his youngest daughter’s birthday so I sent her a card and some photos of the pets, because I know they were upset to not have them there anymore. I texted him on Saturday after Thanksgiving, hoping he had a nice Thanksgiving. No reply. Then I emailed him Tuesday, that I accept the break up, apologized for my emotions. Nothing. Last night, I found out my only aunt is dying. I just texted my ex just to let him know this. He again, didn’t reply. I emailed him this morning, that I get his point, that he doesn’t want to communicate, and to take care. I’m going back to NC.
I’m not really sure what happened. We had a great relationship, up till February. He is truly the best guy I’ve ever met and was everything I’d ever want in a boyfriend. I’m a bit concerned because he became very depressed after both of his divorces.
I’m going to continue focusing on myself, but I’m not sure what is going on with him. It hurts.

Chris Seiter

December 1, 2018 at 12:23 am

Hi Chanel!

I know you have been thru a lot. You are wise to focus on your own recovery. Pick up my eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book” as I talk a lot about your personal recovery and how to navigate thru the days ahead.

Angel

November 29, 2018 at 2:54 pm

Hi Chris, It’s me again. Thanks so much for your reply. Just an update, I’m on day 14 of going NC after he started ignoring me and it turns out that he has a new girl which he posted on facebook! 🙁 It’s just so disappointing because I thought everything was going well between us two when we first reconnected and I even felt that he still has feelings for me especially when he took care of me when I was sick, not until he suddenly became distant. I feel sad but am surprisingly calm, I’m not really sure. Any advise? Should the NC be for another 30 days? I’ve been constantly posting on facebook about things that has been going on with my life e.g. gym progress, travels, etc.

Chris Seiter

November 30, 2018 at 2:56 am

Hi Angel…you are making good progress and it sounds like extending NC somewhat longer may benefit you.

Angel

November 19, 2018 at 5:14 am

This is going to be a long post as I want to be very detailed because I’m really anxious of my situation. My ex-boyfriend first broke up with me last April but gave me a chance which lasted only until June. We started dating on/off for 2 years and were official for 7 years. We had a huge fight that caused him to break up with me. I started limited contact for a month last August and proceeded to no contact by September. I tried to reconnect with him after 40 days which went on good, I was the one who always initiated contact though. We also have met and hung out several times. He even took care of me when I was sick and I really felt that he still care for me by the way he caressed my face, hugged me and even kissed me. He also accompanied me to do errands. We’ve been in contact for a month now.

Now this is where it went wrong, last week we saw each other because I have to pick up some stuff from their house but got irritated because it was already getting late and it was taking him a long time to reply then saying that he has to do something else before meeting me. I also discovered something, he said that he is about to take an exam the next day. I was disappointed and asked him why he didn’t tell me about it despite texting each other a little while ago. I apologized after when we met and he seems to be cool about it. I got a little bit touchy trying to be my bubbly self but he acted cold on our way to his house and asked if he is uncomfortable with me, and he said yes. I told him that he shouldn’t be and just be himself. I called him when I got home, told him that I was happy that we get to reconnect and talk to each other again and that I just wanted to start over, and that he shouldn’t be uncomfortable and awkward me. He said he’ll try, and I wished him luck before hanging up.

The next day I texted him good luck for the exam, no reply. I texted him again later that night to ask how was the exam and told him that I need to get some stuff again as I was invited last minute to go to a hiking trip the next day, most of my stuff are still at his place, he didn’t reply. My calls to his phone can’t get through so I tried calling him on messenger 2x as I can see that he is online but he didn’t answer. I texted him again and messaged him on messenger as well the next day to follow-up about my text. He is again online on messenger but is not replying to my texts which are delivered. I tried calling him on his mobile which my calls still aren’t getting through, and on messenger several times but he is not answering. Since it was taking him a long time and I don’t have much time, I texted him asking if we have a problem and told him sorry if he feels uncomfortable and if there’s something I could do. When he finally replied, he told me that he is out of the country and he will just tell someone at his house that I will be coming over like I suggested. I actually figured out that he was lying about the exam a day before (his mom asked him about the exam the other night) and that explains why my calls aren’t getting through. I was disappointed and sad that he lied and kept it from me that he will be going out of the country. I was honest with him that I felt sad, he said sorry but he is really uncomfortable. I didn’t drag it further and tried to be positive on my texts and asked him until when he will be away (which he didn’t answer). I told him that I noticed that we went there during those dates 5 years ago which he also agreed to, I also told him to enjoy. He replied only to certain questions. But since I want to clear the air, I texted him that I understand why he is feeling that way, I just wanted to start over, I realized things and learned from my mistakes, I’m starting to correct things, make it up to him if he will allow me too, I want to enjoy what I have now and get to know him again, and that I am happy and always thankful for him, that hopefully he will open up to me next time. Also told him to enjoy his trip and that I am happy that he gets to enjoy himself. I also mentioned that I sent an apology letter to his friends which was involved during our breakup as I know that it was important for him (which ended on a good note with them). I texted him the next day asking him how was the trip, when he’ll come home, and telling him to enjoy. Also told him about my hiking trip and related our previous trip before. Got no replies but my messages were read.

I’m now starting to do no contact again. Now I noticed that he deleted our pictures from his facebook and instagram and is slowly untagging and deleting everything that includes me and him on our posts in facebook. I’m keeping myself calm but I don’t know what to think of it. I actually thought we were okay and doing well. Maybe I was a also a bit to fast and scared him off. Do I still have a chance or did I ruin it? Please help. Thanks!

Chris Seiter

November 20, 2018 at 1:39 am

Hi Angel…that was a long post, but it is said that getting things out can be cathartic and beneficial to you on the recovery side. My site has lots of information and resources about the NC process….so please tap in! And by the way…i don’t believe things are ruined. I have seen far worse situations.

Monday

November 17, 2018 at 2:32 am

Hey there,

So me and my ex broke up about two weeks ago and we agreed to remain friends after. We’ve been friends for yearssssssss and we also have the same group of friends so it’s not like I won’t run into him again plus I dont want to make things awkward. But I pulled back from our friendship for a while just because I couldn’t take being friends with him because Im still in love with him. So I decided to take a couple of days for myself because I was a total mess. He called me twice and texted me and I did not respond. I didn’t do it purposely I just have a lot going on in my life and it’s really taking a toll on me. When I finally got to text him back he did not respond so I texted him a couple of days later and told him to call whenever he got the chance. He called me when I was at work so i missed the call. When I found the time later in the day I called him back and he actually answered. He said he was at work and I told him to call me back whenever he got off and he never called. Is he mad at me? I don’t get it. Everything was fine after the breakup now he’s just being cold with me. He uses social media but he didn’t even care to call me back. Now I’m not stalking him or anything but it does hurt my feelings and I don’t want him to cut me off. I dont want to continuously text him and bug him because that’s not something I’d do, but I miss him still and it hurts to be ignored like this. What does this mean? Is he going to ignore me forever??? What should I do??

Ps. Our relationship is long distance so yeah… :/
Linda

November 1, 2018 at 7:36 pm

Plz help me my ex boyfriend left me a year ago a month later he got with someone else but contacted me every now and then she left him 3 months very big fight and we have been talking and seeing each other since but found out his going between both of us and then the other day he told me we won’t work coz he wants her I really want him back I’m heart broken

Chris Seiter

November 1, 2018 at 11:59 pm

Hi Linda!

I am sorry your ex is putting you thru so much disappointment. He seems selfish and only concerned about what he wants, even if that means using people. I think you should take a break from him. No contact is a dynamic strategy that can help you. I have written books and guides and posts and done videos all about this topic so feel free to dive in!

Peter

October 23, 2018 at 8:47 pm

Hi I’ve split up with my g/f of 16 years, 2 kids, she said no more chances not now not a few months, never. Said I didn’t do enough with her or kids?!?!? Had money issues last few months. We didn’t talk properly for quite a few weeks before break up and I over msgd her after. Really lost
Tracy

October 21, 2018 at 6:50 am

My boyfriend and I broke up last Tuesday. It has been a suffering week for me even though I was the person who started to ignoring him. I was too tired with maintaining our relationship. and because of this, I broke up with him for twice in our 3 month relationship. I think both of us know that this relationship wouldn’t work out because of the insecurity we both felt in this relationship. However, I do miss the sweet and happy time we spent together. When I started to not replying him, he was angry by complaining that I did not answer his 4 phone calls and how he felt our relationship was not progressing and both of us are drifting apart. He stopped contacting me after the first two days. I started to think if he will come back after NC. I know that he is very stubborn and does not trust people easily, so one part of me saying he will not come back because he does not want to get hurt again. But one part of me does not want to let go the romantic moments we had. I am so confused. What do you think I should do? Thank you.

Chris Seiter

October 22, 2018 at 4:00 am

HI Tracy!

Lots guys are stubborn, but sometimes NC can help with smoothing that out. Its early in the post breakup period so emotions are all twisted. All the more reason to implement NC. Check out my eBook, “The No Contact Rule Book” or any of my eBooks as Companion Guide to help you thru this process.

Shantae

October 9, 2018 at 3:03 am

Me and my ex has been going strong for about 9 months now we get along great he tells me he loves me we are very close but he has MAJOR trust issues And accuses me of sleeping with lots of different guys but I never did anything he accuses me of it gets to the point where it makes me feel guilty that I haven’t given him a reason n to trust me. He cuts me off for 10-11 days at a time then we make up it got to a point where I got tired so I’ve initiated NC. He didn’t call me the whole 4 weeks and when I reached out to him no response I popped up at his house he seemed a little happy to see me we had a good conversation but after that back to silence I called him 2 days later,then a week later still no response. I’m confused as to what happened should I move on?

Chris Seiter

October 9, 2018 at 3:53 am

Hi Shantae!

Your ex sure has some wild ideas. Is he very insecure or is it just talking crap? I wouldn’t move on quite yet. You have handled yourself well and have reached out a few times now. Ball is in his court. He needs to step up or he will just end up revealing that he is blowing it with you.

Tina

September 3, 2018 at 4:53 pm

Hi me and my boyfriend of 10 years broke up a month ago he is or was talking to someone else but he says he is going to come back here even stayed the night with me and the kids and he still said he’s coming back home he just needs more time. Now here comes the tricky part he left and said he had to help his boss and then he was going to come back and spend the day at the park with me and the kids and has never came back and he want answer his phone or text for two days what could all this mean? I’m so confused and I’m angry because he lied to not only me but our 7 and 8 year old yes I did call him a lot the first day not knowing if something was wrong with him and I sent him a few text nothing nasty just asking him at first what time he was coming what he wanted me to pack to eat and bring a cooler when he didn’t respond then I text him asking him what kind of game he is playing that if he doesn’t want to work things out just tell me don’t lie to me and the kids just be truthfully still no response. So on the second day I wrote him one more time telling him that I am going to give him a little bit more time like he asked that I am not going to call or text him anymore unless it’s for the kids but I also will not wait on him forever that my heart isn’t a toy and nether our the hearts of are children. I hope that was the right thing to do and say ? What could be happening at this point in your opinion if he calls should I answer him or just ignore him for a while?

Chris Seiter

September 3, 2018 at 7:45 pm

Hi Tina….the first thing that jumps out at me is the 10 years together. Usually that kind of time together helps in eventually pulling you back together. I agree, you heart is not to be toyed with and you are wise to implement limited no contact. Unless its about family, don’t respond and follow my program. If you have not already done so, I would strongly recommend you got pick up my 485 page eBook, “Ex Boyfriend Recovery Pro” as it will enable you to optimize your chances!

Meryl

August 3, 2018 at 1:17 am

Does this mean he has moved on? So the best thing is to just wait and not reach out?

Chris Seiter

August 3, 2018 at 4:05 am

In most of these situations….no one really moves on. What more often happens is people mirror each other. But time and space can smooth out the emotions are are a part of most people’s ex recovery plan.

Meryl

August 1, 2018 at 6:38 pm

After we broke up, my ex started reaching out to me and wanted to meet up. He said he wasn’t over me but has internal problems to work through. Then he would text me out of the blue, like memes that reminded him of the past. We also met up a few times to talk/hook up. Then I texted him that I know what I have to work on to make things work. He said he appreciated it and is working too. Then we continue texting and all of a sudden and I sent a “I miss you,” text and now there is silence.

Chris Seiter

August 2, 2018 at 3:16 am

Hi Meryl!

Seems like he is not sure what he wants. So I think your wait awhile…allow for some space to see where this goes. If nothing positive is forthcoming, then consider starting NC.

Also, go to my home page and tap into a lot of the tools and resources than can help you manage this whole process!

Cassie

April 14, 2018 at 4:35 pm

What my ex and I have been having great conversations every other day even during his work hours which he takes very seriously (he’s tsa) then all of sudden yesterday he stopped replying. We have to be in an wedding together next month also so I don’t know how to proceed. Please help I’d greatly appreciate it.

Chris Seiter

April 18, 2018 at 4:52 am

Hi Cassie….just ease off on reaching out so much. Wait for him to initiate. Just look your beautiful self at the wedding. Casually chat with other guys and hang gals. Act natural and happy. If you see him, smile and wave. Let him come to you.

sue

March 23, 2018 at 7:24 pm

My ex has been contacting me again and ringing me at work since valentines day when i sent him a hello message.. he asked me to go and see him and was staying in a caravsn and was joking that it was a caravan of love so i assumed that he wanted sex and so i made excuse . He has rang since twice but yesterday rang but said” bye “and not i will ring u later and doesnt normally say that . Ive since sent casual texts but no response . I know hes busy as away for weekend . Should i worry that not texting me again and blown me out as i turned him down ?

EBR Team Member: Amor

March 28, 2018 at 6:36 pm

Hi Sue,

If he’s really serious with you, he will do it the right way and not like trying to be friends with benefits with you..

Kari

February 26, 2018 at 3:30 pm

My ex and I hadn’t talked for almost 2 years. we dated for a good 8 months. It was the time of my life. He was my best friend and boyfriend. We were always together. The break up was messy because I was clingy and emotional, which I see now. And I’ve definitely changed and grown. Recently, he blocked me when I reached out to him. Then a few weeks later I was unblocked and he was commenting compliments and nice words on my profile. Then he started a conversation a few days later which was great. Then, the next day, we hung out. And the day after that. We were having a good time. Constantly laughing and smiling like before. He told me he blocked me bc of his gf at the time. I thought it was because he hated me, but he said no. And 2 nights ago, we got really friendly. And both of us kept hinting at liking eachother. He doesn’t share his feelings easily and I could tell he wanted to know if I liked him. I mean, he did call me cute. I was too nervous though. But the next morning, I sent him a nice text saying I loved spending time with him and that he’s just as fun and sweet. And hoped he had a good night. Then I was blocked…things were going amazing actually so I’m thinking either it was his ex-gf again (she’s really crazy and manipulative) orrrr he got scared of his feelings. Because I could tell from how he acted and talked. I remember how he gets when it comes to romantic feelings. It’s easy to read him. I’m just so scared that he is annoyed by me. I didn’t do anything crazy, just sent a nice text. He did post me and him hanging out so if his crazy ex gf saw it, I have a feeling that could be why. Also, she hates me and he admitted that. So he could feel guilty for talking to me if she guilt tripped him…or he is confused about his feelings. It’s really confusing and my mind is having a hard time processing this.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 27, 2018 at 2:31 pm

HI Kari,

when did he break up with his ex?

Sucked in and stumped

February 2, 2018 at 5:49 pm

for 3 months I was attempting to build rapport but he’d only give me brief replies, it never built up into anything.

We had that exchange and then I was out late at a popular music show and texted him a video of it saying that it’s hard not to think of him when I see live music. Then 4 days later late Saturday night I texted him a picture of me and a friend with a funny dressed man. The next afternoon he texted me a copy/paste of my telling him I wouldn’t text him anymore and I replie with, “lol I know. Unfortunately I remember your number now so when I see something I think you’d like it’s easier to share. It’ll get better though!” And then I texted him info about a fun party my friends are throwing with a popular band. He responded with the emoticon: .

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 7, 2018 at 12:29 pm

That means you need to start doing that for now.. Take it slow, don’t rush things.

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