How To Make An Ex Boyfriend Trust You Again- Ex Boyfriend Recovery

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Timea

January 23, 2015 at 1:41 pm

Hi Chris, I am nearly at the end of NC. We had a messy break up after a year of on/off relationship. I never cheated but we had issues and I acted silly. Each time we broke up we got back on the dating site we first met. (him first after 6 months lots of name calling from him fell out over a holiday we booked together he paid then asked for money back and sort of not wanted to pay till last minute and out of anger I put holiday on Facebook and he was too embarrassed in front of his friends, then I dumped him as he went on holiday with female friend without telling me, last was a break in October as I was getting on his nerves but we stayed friends and things were looking up after 7 weeks). Each time I was blocked everywhere so coud only wait for him to turn up on dating site. Should have done no contact but not seen your site then. Last breakup was sudden I posted something silly on Facebook about not being his priority he saw it even though I took it down. Midday he told me he is taking me off Facebook. My mind went crazy so I went on dating site in anticipation of him turning up. Sheer panic not thinking straight. A mate of his spotted the profile and he convinced himself I was dating others behind his back and that I had many things going on with different men. Told me to get out if his life. I first tried to explain myself in letters but got nasty replies. Spoke to his best female friend. He got angrier. Then I went into NC. I saw recently passive agressive posts of his on Facebook so he still thins about me but I could be reading into it. He could be genuinly done with me. I haven’t cheated though. And not really lied as when he confronted me with the dating profile I told him the truth and it was gone by then anyway so it was proof it was just lack of clear thinking on my part. We were very good but his friends convinced him I was no good for him. I learned a lot and being attractive/fit I now deleted lot of filk from Facebook (most were just fitness contacts only there never met them in real life, never flirted) only adding female friends, only socialising with females. I’m no slut or attention seeking whore like he called me when he was angry. What should I do? Should I just move on? Thing is I love this guy with all his flaws and I had flaws too so we were both at fault. Please help
Janet

October 19, 2014 at 5:02 pm

Hi Chris,

This is an update on the last situation that I posted on a few days ago. Been exchanging texts with my ex boyfriend, the good news is that we have been speaking about our issues, bad news is that he is finally saying that he doesn’t want to talk about it anymore and that I should let everything go. Let me not lie, he has been patient because I have been a gnat. Undoing some of my hardwork, but there were things that came out during the exchange that broke my heart abit – ok, a lot.

Summarising a long story, we’ve known eachother for a long time. I messed up years ago, we reunited, and then we dated. However, he wasn’t completely over his ex and a few months after we broke up because I didn’t trust him (and messaged his ex to find out what was going on), they eventually got back together. They recently broke up.

We’ve seen eachother a couple of times since September. Those went great and I guess I ruined them, because I really wanted complete disclosure about why he went back to her. We spoke a little bit and he touched upon me being part of his future, but made it clear that it could be another woman too.

Fast forward a few days, and we have been engaging in text exchanges. Talking about the past (from like 10 years ago) and he said that it wasn’t his ex preventing us from working on a future. It’s the fact that we have no trust between us and he doesn’t want to think about marriage and kids, if I can’t trust him 100%. I told him that I was trying to work through those feelings, but it requires two committed people to do that and start again.

The long and short of it is, I need to completely drop the situation about his ex otherwise he is saying that we will never be on any basic good terms. But I just don’t understand the fact that he made the mistake, yet his guilt and his perceived ideas of my feelings to the situation (which is semi true) is keeping him from working us out. ESPECIALLY when he is saying that he will always have feelings for me.

– How can starting a new relationship be seen as better than trying to work this out with me? Why doesn’t he want to fight this through? I mean, I am willing and I was the one who was messed around. He seems so adamant about moving on and doesn’t really care if I am not in touch (often, if at all).

I intend to go into no contact for a bit (not sure how long), but I just don’t know what to do. My ego/pride/esteem are pretty badly bruised.
Terra

September 27, 2014 at 2:36 am

My ex and I broke up a little over a month ago and I was taking it really hard because I was always sending him messages telling him I wanted him back and posting things to his wall on Facebook. I was doing some reading about the no contact rule and how it works to get your ex back so I decided to do it but I do have 2 questions. What do you do when you have a kid together and you work together? I see him everyday at work and when we are dealing with our 4 year old daughter. We can bring our daughter to work and she’s a daddy’s girl so when she sees him she runs right to him. At work he sometimes tries to play around and joke with me and talks to me here and there and we do a lot of talking on Facebook. I also can’t help but feel that he’ll end up thinking that I’m moving on so he should too and this no contact rule will end up back firing in my face. It also doesn’t help that he lives not even 5 minutes walking distance from me and he’s living with his parents right now and his ex wife and daughter, that’s a complicated situation lol, and none of them like me so they could all be telling him to move on and leave me alone because he’ll be better off without me.
Kitty

March 31, 2014 at 5:23 pm

Hi Chris,

I love your website. I’m in a tough situation right now. Please help.
I had a one night stand with my ‘now’ ex boyfriend’s friend long ago (we all used to work together, but now I’m back in my country, and they both are still working there), even before we started dating.
He just found out about it yesterday through his colleagues(that’s what he told me). He was really angry and confronted me and asked me if it’s true, at first I refused to tell him the truth because i was so shocked and upset that he would leave me but then I finally broke down and told him that i did. He told me he’s breaking up with me not because he judged me but the fact that I hid it from him all this time (we’ve been together for almost 2 years). I cried and begged him to understand.
But that incident happened a long time ago, does it still matter? it’s not like I cheated on him.
Now whenever I try to contact him, he says things like ‘this will never be the same again’, ‘please leave me alone’, ‘this will go no where’.
And it’s a long distance relationship. Not hours apart. but countries apart. I went to see him last month. Please help me. Do you think there’s a chance he’ll come back?
Do you do I was wrong? Please I need your opinion.

Thank you so much.

admin

April 1, 2014 at 4:47 pm

Have you by any chance seen my LDR page?
Kitty

April 9, 2014 at 4:40 pm

Yes. Unfortunately, I broke my first NC 🙁 by texting him a few times about normal stuff and he was replying me back but when I tried to talk about the break up, he blocked me on whatsapp, and told me, ‘it’s over’, ‘please leave me alone’ and ‘good bye’. I’ve started NC again, hopefully I’ll complete the 30 days.
Do you think I pushed him away for good? Or there’e still hope? He seems really angry and hurt. Do you think it’s my fault?
Thank you so much for your reply.

sammiee

March 13, 2014 at 8:09 pm

Hi Chris, your site has been insightful and helpful. Let me give you a breakdown of my story:

– My friend’s bf (they dated 3 months) and I slept together so he ended it with her but we never told her till much later. It was my decision to wait till she moved out my house but he wanted to tell her because he regarded honesty as a good thing.
– This guy and I kept seeing each other but he felt too guilty so nothing came out of it. This lasted few months.
– His friend liked me and he got jealous and freaked out so I stopped talking to him but he never let it go.
– Friend’s ex and I started seeing eachother again, no lable again, he ended up disappearing for a month and said he wasn’t deeply in love with me and didn’t understand my attachment to him.
– I got heartbroken and ended sleeping with his friend. Biggest mistake but kept in contact with this friend because he consoled me often and seemed to genuinely cared.
– Few weeks later friend’s ex came back and told me that he wanted me to be his gf so we dated for half a year in which he left me for another girl. Three weeks of no contact later, he comes back to apologise and I confessed that I slept with his friend before we dated. I kept it a secret and he is livid and angry. Said I lied to his ex gf and lied to him. That I’m not trustworthy. I’ve spoken to his ex gf about it later, confessed everything. I wanted to come clean and start again. He is mad that I still spoke to his friend that I slept with while we were dating but I told him I had no feelings for him and just saw him as a mate and still wouldn’t of rebounded with him after.

Its been a month and so far he has told me he had always loved me but then switch to being angry and calling me nasty names. I still want to be with him but things never went smooth with us. He kept leaving me and coming back but I doubt he’d come back this time. I know what I did was so wrong, I was insecure and resented him for leaving me the first time. Since he’s been back, I realise what I had lost and want to start fresh with him again with no more baggage. What are the chances in your opinion of him trusting me again? Would no contact for a while work?
bex

March 2, 2014 at 8:55 pm

dear Chris, i meet this ama wammmzing guy in 2012, i had just come out of hospital after 3 months he moved in things were going great until i was put on a very strong pain killer called tramadol, i was on 400 mg a day i started to sleep in the day pick fights and get angry, as time went on got worse i could not remember what i was doing, only what i have been told one morning he went to work i packed all his things and put them out side, when he came home he kicked my door in and i called the police he was arrested and given a curstion ( i don’t remember any of this) anyway we split and a friend came to me and thought i was on heavy drugs i told her and she told me to get of them they are oppeam based i came of them right away explain to my ex what happens said sorry held my hands up to what happen anyway we got back together on and of but i felt i could not be my true self as i hurt him he throw it un my face then i started to chance myself understanding meni know what i want but before i started looking into all this i kept asking if we were ok i pushed and pushed, so while i looked into the minds of men, we were together on 5 weeks ago now he has met another woman, i got myself together and went to speak to him, i open my heart held his hand looked into his eyes and calm poured everything out, he said he has met someone else and that he was really sorry, i didn’t get angry i said she was a lucky lady and that one day i hoped we could rekindle what we had but a rest start i told him that i loved him but we could not be friend said he understands and then said you never know what round the coner for us getting back together and it was early days for him and the new gf i have now put the no contact rule in place and started dating myself. i have read your 7 different types of men when in the no contact zone but i’m not are yet which he comes under is he still anger the fact he was arrested of pulled away because i kept asking how this were going he did say i push to hard i i have put all my past and forgiven myself for what happened as i was compas mentus he knows what the tablets can do the last time he throw it in my face i told him i was getting bored listening to it its in my past so Chris i would like a little help fingering out which kind of man he is he I’m not going to contact him at all xx i know i did the right thing by not being his friend as i do love him xx

admin

March 3, 2014 at 6:20 pm

I think its safe to say he is a stubborn/entitiled type of guy.

Julie

February 20, 2014 at 2:20 am

I would really appreciate feedback on my situation where I broke up with my ex because he was controlling and constantly lied and even cheated on me in the five years of us dating. The day i broke up with him I went out which I never do and I danced with a guy at the bar and he found out. To this day he says he could never forgive me despite how great I was to him and put up with all of his shit while we dated. Was what I did truly that bad.
Helena

February 14, 2014 at 6:36 am

I hate to shatter your perception on things but women cheat because we are horny. We don’t think about getting knocked up because we are so worked up in the moment that getting pregnant is the last thing on our mind. Men do to suffer consequences. It’s called child support and I tell ya what,I would rather be close to my children and raise them than have to pay child support. Lol I’ve loved my boyfriends and the relationships were great and the sex was great,but I get all worked up when I see a hot man. My curiosity and my urges consume me.

admin

February 14, 2014 at 6:49 pm

Well, while that may be true for you I have learned that most women cheat b/c of emotional reasons (lack of emotions from guys.) However, I will definitely take what you said and think about it. You are seriously the first girl I have ever heard say this so its interesting.

Lynn

January 28, 2014 at 9:42 am

Hey chris,
thank you for your guides they have been really helpful but there are some stuff i need to clarify.
So me and my ex broke up about 1-2 months back because he wasn’t treating me very well and I met another guy who could treat me like how I deserved to be treated. I went out with this other guy immediately after we broke up, but realised that I still loved my ex and wanted to be with him despite the fact that this guy treated me very well.
I stopped going out with this guy and tried convincing my ex to get back together with me but it was already too late because he lost his trust in me and he felt unloved. He was very upset when we broke up and he even cried in front of me.
After we broke up he acted as if he was fine and he still said stuff like he loved me. Then out of nowhere (after a few days) he became really angry and he raged at me every time we met and criticised me very often. I begged and pleaded him to come back to me (he would say no).
Now he seems fine without me and he wants to forget about me. He still likes me (at least he said so) but he doesn’t want to think about it. I asked him if we would get back together in the future and he always says “see how life goes” which is very confusing.
So what should I do? Will the no contact rule still help? Im afraid that he will take the opportunity to forget about me during the days that I dont talk to him. I really love him and I don’t want him to forget about me. Please help.

admin

January 28, 2014 at 6:37 pm

NC can always be helpful.

I doubt he will forget about you. How long did the two of you date?
Lynn

January 29, 2014 at 3:32 am

We dated for about 1 year. And he was very upset that we broke up. He still gets jealous when he knows that I have other guy friends around me.
admin

January 29, 2014 at 6:56 pm

Jealousy is not necessarily a bad thing when it comes to stuff like this.
Lynn

January 30, 2014 at 5:18 pm

He talked to my sister. He said that he still loves me but he doesn’t want to get back together with me because I require too much of his attention. In this case, what should I do? Continue with the no contact rule?

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January 24, 2014 at 11:40 am

okay so… i recently started hanging out with my ex again and when we first started having a thing i guess you could say we were in the honeymoon stage and everything was perfect but he wouldn’t tell his friends or family about it and then we were at a bar/club one night and all his friends were there and i was like you either acknowledge me now and kiss me in front of your friends or this wont work ( i may have been mildly drunk). He had admitted that he has fallen so hard in love with me again, yet doesn’t want to be in a relationship because he doesn’t want to get hurt. Last night he called things off and I saw him today and we were being a little couply but he said that he didn’t want to be in a relationship because he can’t trust me not to hurt him and he doesn’t want to lead me on.

Im confused- he admits he has fallen back in love with me, can’t go a day without talking to me, yet doesn’t want to be in a relationship because he can’t trust me after we dated for 2 years. I never cheated on him but he said that he simply felt ignored and not appreciated, and like he wasnt good enough and jealousy kind of got the better of us. He is also very committed to the idea of not getting back together. What do you think he is thinking and is it safe to play the ecstasy agony card? What makes a guy be just be like this girl is amazing i need her as my girlfriend?

admin

January 24, 2014 at 6:30 pm

Have you read any of the “falling in love” guides?
marsha

February 14, 2014 at 11:06 am

where’s that guides?
i want to read it
admin

February 14, 2014 at 6:37 pm

https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/what-if-he-doesnt-contact-you-during-no-contact/

Misty

January 14, 2014 at 1:16 am

I’ve been reading this website for about 2 months now & I finally decided it’s time to ask for help because my situation is ridiculous. I’ve gone back & forth with this guy for the last 2-3 years. In the past he would chase me & try to be with me because I was a challenge for him. Every time we started hanging out at some point i would get annoyed & walk away & be done with it. We would still see each other & ever time he’d kick himself for screwing up. Problem is he’s one of my best friends & we’ve been friends for 11yrs. I broke up with my ex over the summer & we were hanging out again & things were great. He was pushing to try again & said he was all in & really wanted to do this for real & settle down & so on. I believed him & finally gave it a chance. It was great. He wanted me to go everywhere with him, do everything together & he was really sweet. Eventually we started to fight all the time about nothing. He got really mean & always made me cry, I was never like that. I was always one of the guys with him & our other friends. I hate fighting esp with him & became a sensitive little girl & that was not good. I wanted to take things slow but he pushed for it but when I fell in love with him the roles flipped & he decided he wanted to take things slow & we didn’t need a title. I didn’t care about until he didn’t want it when this was his idea. Whenever I tried ending things he would get upset & not want that & that’s how he said we were together & he wanted a gf. We still fought & he put no effort into it & eventually we had a huge fight & stopped talking for a few days. He always texts me first. I won’t text him. I tried the NC rule but I can’t ignore him because he’s the type that will get so mad & it’ll make things worse. If he thinks I’m ignoring him he’ll text me a lot like I would do to him & then call because when he thinks I’m ignoring him I’m sleeping. When we see each other it’s great but right after it’s back to nonsense. He cares about me & misses me but won’t be with me for some reason. He’s not the type to hook up with girls or meet up with girls. He’ll always text or call me because he doesn’t want to lose me. He doesn’t want me to move on but I don’t know what he’s afraid of. It bothers him when I go out & he gets so jealous because we’re not together anymore. After a huge fight the first time we saw each other he heard my phone go off & asked to see it. He’s never done that & I always left my phone around because I have nothing to hide. When he started demanding to look at my phone I said no. I told him We’re not together & he’s not my bf so he has no right to ask. He told me if I showed him he would be the best bf & treat me so great. I still said no. I had nothing to hide but I was not giving him what he wanted because he never followed through on his promises to try so I didn’t believe him. I was texting a guy but I did not do anything wrong but I knew he’d flip out. He swore I was lying when I said there was nothing there which I was but it’s because I know how he’ll react. Ive never lied to him so he’s acting like I lied about something so bad but I didn’t. I can do whatever I want because we’re not together & he knows that but he knows I’m not moving on because I love him. We’ve been ok & have seen each other since & I finally told him i was texting a guy but it was nothing serious but that didn’t matter. He still says he was serious about being my bf but I ruined it by not showing him my phone. I told him I’m not giving him what he demands. We’ve seen each other since & things will be great but I still can’t get him back. I want him to chase me again & want this as much as I do. It’s so hard to see him because he never wants to but eventually we hang out. I need to be the way I was so he chases me again but I don’t know what to do anymore. Any ideas? At this point I’m so lost on what to do & it breaks my heart everyday. He always says I can have whoever I want & he doesn’t know why I want him because he’s not that great. I hate that. I love him & want him back but I have no idea what to do to get him back. Please help. I really need it.

Thank you!
Sarah

January 12, 2014 at 8:19 am

Hi, so I became distant with my guy and told him I needed a few months space to finish my degree etc which should be May this year. However shortly after he lost everything (his job, home etc) and the way sees it I wasn’t there for him when he lost everything, even tho I asked for space before hand. Now he’s seeing someone else, which everyone including me thinks is a rebound. Anyway, I’m currently in NC for another 9 days and it ends on his bday. What’s ur advice on regaining his trust in a situation like this?

admin

January 12, 2014 at 6:22 pm

It is probably a rebound. Just make him feel in the future that you are someone he can count on… someone who will be there during tough times.

Chris is a genius

December 31, 2013 at 10:06 am

I bought this system and it worked for me. Blew my hair back how well actually. My boyfriend broke up wit me. I did three weeks NC and he contacted me first. I was so excited. I wrote back (but in hindsight – I should of done the full four weeks NC – Listen to Chris). Anyway, I kept the messages after NC really light and breezy. he agreed to meet up (and I kept it really fun and light like I was out with a new person). At one point he actually said – “Aren’t you going to apologize????” but I didn’t like Chris said. At the end of the evening after just keeping it nice and light, I gave him a big hug and told him how much fun I had, and what an amazing man he was and that I never meant to hurt him. (No crying or crazy begging like Chris says), then I said goodnight. He held on to me for 10 minutes. We are back together now and HE actually asked me to go back and be exclusive. Buy the book, read it cover to cover, read it cover to cover again, take a deep breath and then do what it says and YOUR ex will be begging for you back. (even if you cheated). the key is to get out of your emotional cray cray pretzel brain girly can’t live without that man head space so you can execute this program like a classy dream girl. (Classy dream girls do not writhe in pain and beg for forgiveness. Yucky!) hahaha. The book is the reason I was able to turn the relationship around. He is actually MORE into me than before. Don’t try to figure it out and piece it together from just tis site. Read the system as intended and execute exactly as written.

admin

January 1, 2014 at 11:10 pm

Wow! I totally want to give you a hug! I am saving this comment this made my day.

mary

December 23, 2013 at 1:24 pm

My ex fiance and I broke up a few months ago. I gave him the ring back in a fit of rage. I was mad at him because I felt like he wasn’t respecting me. I hurt him, and I regret breaking up. We did no contact, and now we are friends. I want him back, but he is still hurt and angry about what I did. I tell him how much I regret my decision and my behavior. I apologized. He said he likes hanging out with me but doesn’t care that I’m hurting because he’s still hurt. I want him to trust me again, and know that I didn’t mean to hurt him. How do I begin??

admin

December 23, 2013 at 8:29 pm

NC seems like the ideal thing for your case.

Emily

December 20, 2013 at 7:00 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 months ago because he said he could not take the fighting anymore. I have this issue where I cannot control my anger and I yell a lot. Ofcourse over time I had limited on the complimenting and appreciating and it was all about nagging by the end of our relationship
I understand after the break up how much I had hurt him but of course I had never intended it.. now I feel so stupid because why would I do that and ruin such a great relationship?
He said he has no faith that I will ever change my ways but I’m willing to prove him wrong. I’ve been doing a lot of thinking and identifying why I yell and trying to seek ways to potentially control my anger. I even seeked professional help on the matter because I’m very determined and I’m proud to say I’m making progress.
I avoid talking to my ex now because I’m afraid I might lose control and yell at him over something and I don’t want to take the risk so I have been avoiding him for a while now. Currently I’m taking a small vacation away from everything to gather my thoughts and relax which will end in about a week. Now that I am making progress I want to show it to him and prove to him that I have changed. Since that was the main problem I am pretty confident he would want to try things with me again if I succeed because apart from that particular issue everything had been amazing for both of us and we were together for almost 2 years.
The problem is I am unsure how to prove myself to him. I know he has been really hurt and when he told me about my problem he was really angry and I don’t think I had ever seen him that angry before. He said he doesn’t want to have anything to do with me anymore and all that.
My heart tells me he didn’t mean it all because even I say things I don’t mean when I’m angry because I used to be the queen of yelling you know? Nevertheless due to what he said I am reluctant to approach him. If I run after him talking about me changing and being better it’ll come off as down right creepy and he might get even more angry because I know he is fed up. So how do I show him and give him space at the same time?

admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:54 am

Are you going to be doing the NC?
Emily

December 21, 2013 at 4:12 am

I currently am on NC and I’ve set a date of 15 days. Today is the 9th. I decided to shorten it because I know him very well and he would be very offended at the slightest sign of neglect not just from me but from anybody.
I’m thinking I should just be normal but not too into him. The ungettable girl as you say. I reckon if he does want to talk to me he will on his own time. Besides that I’m pretty much clueless as to what I should do..
admin

December 22, 2013 at 2:10 am

I think you should just focus on being classy! But not too much into him like you said.

Anna

December 19, 2013 at 6:58 am

Hi Chris, i dated a guy for 2 years and i have cheated on him a week ago. I cheated because i didn’t get that emotional closure that i needed for him. He caught me kissing another guy last week and i know i have lost his trust. I have apologised for what i did and he replied with a cartoon image holding a heart with the words saying ‘i don’t want it anymore’. It made me feel alot worse but then i replied that i will give him the time and space that he need and when he’s ready to talk he knows where to find me. In your guide on how to gain your ex back is that give him the NC for 15 days then send him a text saying that you apologised. If i have dine so before, will it still apply or do i have to di the NC for 30days?? He still has my number and has not deleted me of from his contacts..will there still be hope for me gain his trust back..?

admin

December 19, 2013 at 7:37 pm

Are you saying you have already done a NC?

hasmig

December 16, 2013 at 9:32 pm

Hi i have big problem i love my exboyfriend but he dosent trust me at all all the time he thinks that i cheat on him and im not but maybe because of my past i was cheater he thinks like this but when i was with him i never cheated but maybe yes i lied but for him this is a big think and also he block me in whats up and block my number what can i do help me he left because he thought that i cheat on him and im not.And also im so jealous if he talk to a girl i will make it for him a hell and also all the time i think that he is with another girl i keep askin him that if he like someone else he told me he get bored of my question i want him back i want him to love me i really suffer im thinkin about him all day thinkn wht if he is with someone else i want to call and check but the no contact rule and also im so jetelling him that if he like someone else and he told me no and also he told me that he get bored of this all the time im thinkin about him if he with someone else what can i do i really adore him and i want him to love me back

admin

December 17, 2013 at 6:38 pm

How long have you been doing the no contact rule for?
hasmig

December 17, 2013 at 8:39 pm

Only for two days all the time im afraid that he is with someone else because of that i call him
admin

December 18, 2013 at 6:25 pm

Do you think you have become a call/text gnat to him?
hasmig

December 18, 2013 at 9:12 pm

Yes ..and also people told me that he have new gf now so my suspects were in there place honstly i dont know what to do he block me he have new life and im still in love with him do you think i have my chances to get him back ??

Sarah E

December 12, 2013 at 2:43 pm

Hi Chris,

So my ex and I broke up on saturday night becasuse we were both drinking and I kissed someone else. We didn’t talk at all on Sunday and on Monday he sent me a text first. We talked a little and I admitted to my faults. He told me he would be willing to give me a chance to prove myself in the relationship but will be a long and hard journey to get there.. We did not do the no contact period but he also didn’t want to. I asked him if He would like for me to leave him heal and talk to me when he is ready and his response was ” No because if you do that I will completely shut you out and move on eventually and I don’t want that”. Last night I went over and we talked for about 5 and a half hours and he said at the end he could see this going somewheres again if I prove myself that he can trust me. I have made it very clear to him I had never done something like this ever in my life. Is there anything you could suggest that would help??

Thanks!

admin

December 12, 2013 at 7:33 pm

Well, have you implemented NC yet?
Sarah E

December 12, 2013 at 8:35 pm

No … He doesn’t want to when I ask him that.. I asked him 15 days he said no, didn’t want me to stop talking to him. I just feel like there is more I should be able to do

Rose

December 11, 2013 at 6:37 am

Hey chris, i read this post about gaining am ex’s trust back. In my case, my ex broke up with me because i lied to him about going to the movies with 2 of my guy friends. I have lied to him before but it was a long time ago. He says he still loves me and we have regular conversations where he’s responding really well and we met up once after we split and we had a great time. The thing is, ive asked him repeatedly why he doesnt want to get back with me and he says he doesnt know how to trust me anymore. He’s got it in his mind that whatever i do i am always going to lie to him. Now im trying to regain his trust but im not sure how and should i continue with our texting or do something else? Please help

admin

December 12, 2013 at 1:44 am

That’s it?

You aren’t allowed to see your friends? Are you sure you want this guy back?

Anjie

December 7, 2013 at 5:57 pm

So I have a question regarding my relationship.. I cheated on my boyfriend and I waited a month to tell him.. When I finally told him he was upset but it was like he forgave me right away.. You see we both have made mistakes and been through a lot. He hurt me in many ways and even though he didn’t physically have sex with another girl he had an emotional relationship with her while we lived together. Then he put all my stuff on the front porch and changed the lock on the house. He told her that he loved her and wanted to be with her and she was his everything and he couldn’t wait til she moved in and sent her pictures of a promise ring saying that would make him so happy. He also proceeded to say that the girl who was in his way wasn’t in his way anymore.. Meaning me. I saw this when I went through his phone one night when I slept over and we were working through things. They have been friends with benefits for 5 years. This caused me so much pain and even though he apologized I felt like he was never truly sorry and I could never forgive him. So because I couldn’t forgive I cheated. I explained all of this to him.. And he said he couldn’t trust me anymore cuz he never did anything with anyone. He admitting to screwing up by saying those things but he never actually did anything physical with anyone. He said he still wants to be with me and he just wants a little space so he can forgive me. He doesn’t want to break up. He still text me saying he loved me the day after I told him.. See my boyfriend is the type to act out of spite and I’m scared he’s broken up with every single girl who has cheated on him except me. He said he loves me and wants to be with me forever and can actually see a future with me.. But he also said those things to his exs who cheated and he just got them back to hurt them :/ so you can understand why we are both afraid.. We both have made mistakes and don’t want to hurt anymore.. But we love each other. I told him I deleted and blocked the guy off Facebook deleted and blocked his number and deleted the pics of us together to show I just wanted my boyfriend.. And he did the same for me with that girl but we both have a hard time trusting. I want him to fully forgive me and I want to do the same.. So my question is.. Even though he still wants to be together and he just needs a little space to forgive me should I still do the 15 day no contact rule? Or not? I told him it might be best for us not to talk for a bit.. But then he said well how will I know you won’t go talking to other people and I said because you have to trust me and if you don’t trust me then we shouldn’t be together.. I’m really confused as to what to do.. And if I do do the 15 day no contact rule.. What should I say when I talk to him ? I’ve already apologized and told him how it happened and why I did it I couldn’t stop crying. And he does believe I am truly sorry he just needs time to forgive me. He said he can be with me but just can’t have sex with me right now cuz all he will picture is me and that guy.. Oh and did I mention they know each other? It’s a really messed up situation and I’m clueless.. Help ?!

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