How To Know If Your Ex Boyfriend Still Loves You - Signs Your Ex Is Still Interested

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SB

January 29, 2016 at 8:23 pm

Hey,
My ex broke up with me in a LDR, and i have been in a NC period for slightly over a month during which he mailed me just once in this time span and no other of the above mentioned points happened. Is that enough to know if he still loves me?
Thanks

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 1:45 pm

Hi SB,

I want to say yes but no, it’s not enough. I can say though that he certainly thought about you.

kim

January 28, 2016 at 9:48 am

hi. my ex boyfriend and i were dealing with LDR problems and then he dumped me even when i’m pregnant. i found out he was seeing another girl but he wont admit it. i did what i thought was right to do, i begged him and pleaded for him to change his mind. this was really a shock because we were happy before he left to work abroad. this is the first time that he initiated a break up. he’s been so cold and distant. it’s been almost a month now and i communicate with him regarding the baby and the bills. he converses with me very casually as if nothing happened, like breaking up with me wasn’t a big deal. his last facebook update says he’s lost. but i’m not sure if it’s because of the break up. i don’t know what he’s thinking. he doesn’t seem to love me anymore. i don’t understand how he can just turn his feelings off for me lika that in a matter of weeks when he was so in love with me before he left for work. we’ve been together for 3years and our relationship was always on the rocks. his mother doesn’t like me and he’s a mama’s boy. in a nutshell, there was really a bad after taste for him. i want to just move on but there’s still a spark of hope. i don’t know what to do anymore. 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 9:07 am

Kim,

I just wanted to know first, is he providing for your baby needs and pregnancy needs?

Mina

January 27, 2016 at 7:36 pm

Hi, my bf broke up with me 2 weeks ago. He said he needed time on his own for him self and that it need it too (even if i didn’t know). He said he love me (still do after two weeks). We didn’t do the no contac rule. We spend time together, text and we had sex too. He came to my place to have supper with my family and i went to his place to have supper with his family too. He told me from the start that we needed to spend les time together. He gave me my thing back, pand wants his back. Thats normal we are not a couple anymore. He said that he want to be alone for a while, he love me but need to be alone still want to see me and spend time together. But he don’t know if we’re going to come back together. He said he was alone and want to stay alone for a long while. He doesn’t see somebody else and really don’t think about it. He just need time for him. What do you think ? And what should i do ? (I know for sure that if i don’t talk to him or no sex he will think i found someone else and i really don’t want he to think that)

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2016 at 8:50 am

Hi Mina,

You have to make a decision. If you don’t want to do all this, you to stop agreeing with it. Because from what I see, you don’t want what you’re doing but you don’t want him to leave too but the truth is, as long as you’re fine with having sex and seeing him during break up, in his mind he doesn’t need to work things out with you.

You think he’s going to leave you but he’s been clear that he wants space. If you give it to him by no contact, wouldn’t that make sense? You’re just respecting his request.
If he leaves because of no sex and no contact, that’s not because you didn’t give him it to him, it’s because he doesn’t want to work for it.

Anna

January 21, 2016 at 11:26 pm

Hey, just broke up with my bf yesterday. He cheated on me with his work colleague and now he moved out even after l told him that l will forgive and we will work things out.
However, we use to live together and l had some question about how to turn heating on etc.., just the usual stuff that he use to do round the house. I asked him how to turn the heating off as l am going to be away and he said l should keep it on so it will be nice and worm once l am back home. Does that means that he still loves me and cares about or am l overthinking things.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 23, 2016 at 12:00 pm

Hi Anna,

I’m not sure but what I’m seeing is, he sees you’re okay that he’s cheating.

Mrwa

January 21, 2016 at 9:22 pm

Hello
Plz I need ur help becuz my story is different.
I have been in a relationship with him for about 2 years and 7 months! we were perfect and crazy couple, but starting from Feb. 2015 things were in a mess, there were fights on stupid things from him, he was acting in a strange way, he keeps telling me he adores me and then he fights with me on stupid things. I know that i also did mistakes, and lied about small things that I dont even know why I lied about them. but he also lied on me several times on big things, I forgave him and acted like I believe him becuz I wanted to make this relation work, but lately just before the new eve by 3 weeks I had a feeling he is cheating on me with other girl. and It was true, he cheated on me he got into a relationship with another girl while he is with me! I confronted him and he denied it he said we r just friends *he celebrated the new eve with her got her chocolate and she writes love notes for him!!!* so I told him u r a cheater I dont wanna be with u, and we broke up. the sad thing he acts like he doesnt care he is still talking to her they celebrated his birthday together! but he keeps saying that he doesnt talk to her as a lover! i dont believe him becuz she posts love notes and tag him!

I still love him which makes me angry :S I dont know how to deal how to make him regret, how to act, he is still on my friends’ list on facebook, instagram, twitter and whatsapp

please help me how to do the no contact rule while he is still on my friends’ list.

Mrwa

January 28, 2016 at 10:33 pm

I don’t know, maybe he will feel bad to see me okay and that he lost me *stupid thinking* it’s just that other girl hangs out with him, takes his sweat shirt, i dont know if he is talking to her as a close person or a lover!
I keep remembering his words, his promises , and feel so sad, sometimes i think am i the one who take the first move to go talk to him and tell him if he wants me he should fix what he did, i am still in love with him sadly, and i am afraid that he thinks i dont love him anymore and that would make him afraid to make a move becuz of rejection
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 29, 2016 at 1:06 pm

Well, that’s the purpose. He has to miss you, so that he would want to be back with you. We don’t know yet if he’s going to be afraid of rejection and we’ll only know that if he says it so. Actually after nc, it’s alright if you initiate contact.
Mrwa

January 27, 2016 at 6:23 pm

Thanks for replying..actually I dont know how to act, should I keep him on my facebook, instagram ?? or what, should I act in a cool way and post happy things to make him feel bad? or what I am so confused, and everyday something new pops up about this new girl he is hanging out with! :/
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 28, 2016 at 8:29 am

Well, posting happy things can help your image but I don’t know why you think it will make him feel bad.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 23, 2016 at 1:53 pm

Hi Mrwa,
If you have to unblock him, go ahead. The important thing is you stand by your standards.

Madison

January 19, 2016 at 8:06 pm

Hi my story is a bit complicated and long, but I really need your help. Please hear me out.

I’ve been dating my ex bf for 1 year 8 months, while I’m dealing with separation issues with my kids’ dad. During this time, he devoted his time, money and heart to me. Two weeks ago, he got an anonymous life threatening email that concerns him and his family. This email changed everything, he told me he can’t continue to hurt everyone around me anymore, the email was the last straw. Even though he still loves me and wants to be with me, he can’t continue anymore. And that he’s made his decision.
After 3 days, I broke NC and he did open the door for me and even held me. But still he said he’s made his decision and wants me to go back to my family. I refused and after two days of communicating, he wants me to respect his decision and said he needs to be alone, and I also need time to myself too. I finally understand his decision and apologized to him for all the pain I’ve caused him. He said he “lost it”, ran out of gas to burn, lost his mojo. WHAT does this mean? I know he still loves me, I told him I’ll wait for him. When I ask him if we can ever pick it up again, he said “we will see”. I asked him to let me know how he’s doing in a few months’ time. We held hands and kissed each other for the last time.

Now I’m in pain, agonizing over if there is still a chance to get him back. I don’t want to lose my soul mate.

Is he just hurt right now and need space? How long should I wait to contact him again? Or is he really done with me? Or is he questioning if my divorce will ever go final?

How do I approach this? I’m respecting his space right now, but how much space is too much? I think at one point I should initiate contact, but not sure about timing and how to approach it?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 21, 2016 at 2:37 pm

Hi Madison,

I don’t get it. Did his family got a death threat because his having a relationship with you? Because how does the threat affect your relationship? Why can’t he continue the relationship because of that email?Why did he say he’s hurting the people around you?

Mj

January 18, 2016 at 12:13 am

What if me and boyfriend ended it in a good note? I mean there are no screaming matches, underlying anger or anything. What we basically have now is hurt. He broke up with me becaus he felt that he’s being unfair to me and he needed to do it, not because he doesn’t love me anymore. I learned from his bestfriend last night that he really didn’t want to do it and still loves me and misses me a lot.

This basically raised my hopes up in trying to get back together. What should I do? Should I still do the NC rule? Or would that just be detrimental at this rate?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 9:19 am

Its better if you finish it. but if he tries to sincerely explain in text that he wants to go back(not just say hi), why not go back together right?

Heartbroken

January 17, 2016 at 12:06 am

Me and my boyfriend broke up a week ago. I’m 17 and he’s 18 (he is out of state at college). We’ve been together for about two years and he was my first for practically everything (and I was his.) A week before we broke up we had a wonderful new year’s eve and new year day, and talked about how we can’t wait to spend 2017 together. He was in town for an extra week (I had to go back to highschool for that week) and it seemed he didn’t want to make time for me. On his last day, he said we couldn’t hang out and he was only allowed to get ice cream. (He promised we’d have one night together) I kind of freaked out because it didnt make sense, i asked if he fought for it, and for us. He said he did. The day we broke up, I said he needed to find a way to get more time with me and after ignoring me for 8 hours he said he couldnt get more time. I ended up finding out he never even asked his mom. He just mentioned to her that we are gonna get ice cream. (Lying to me that he “did all he could do.) I’m heartbroken. He called me shortly after I assume his mom yelled at him but I was so emotional and hurt, I ended it between us. He broke my heart once before and I said he had only one more chance and I was gone, so I felt I had to let go. He left for college the next day and I didn’t see him. It’s been a week and im so, so sad. I keep thinking of all the wonderful memories we have together, and if I made a mistake. A day after we broke up he called me to apologize things ended the way they did but then hung up on me midsentence (ironic right). I was even more hurt. The next day (two days after the breakup) I texted him, saying I needed some sort of explanation for not making an effort to see me, and that I didn’t want to end 2 years being madly in love like this because everytime I think about him my heart breaks all over again. He never responded. It’s been a week since we broke up and my heart still hurts for him. I want to text him, I want to hold him, and kiss him, and love him. He was my rock. I have sort of a messed up family life, and he always made me feel better whenever he talked to me, even through text. We had so many plans. In fact, three days before we broke up we talked about how happy we’d be if we could run away together and just live in a small house (he initiated the hypothetical dream). I just miss him so much and I don’t understand what happened. He has been selfish in the past, and maybe treated me wrongly, but I still love him. I never hurt him in our relationship and made many sacrifices. I don’t think I can ever stop loving him. I feel like he doesn’t even care though because he never responded my text just asking for some kind of closure. After so much time, it kills me to think that we are acting like strangers. He is out of state at school right now and I just don’t know what to do. Please help me, I need my rock.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 17, 2016 at 5:12 am

Hello Heartbroken,

I think what happened was decisions were made out of anger and frustration and now it’s a continuation of miunderstandings. Is your relationship going to end because of his last day there or is there any underlying cause. Rest from contacting him to have kind fo a reset.. Go with the No contact steps.

tooloyalC

January 14, 2016 at 2:38 am

hi! ik im too young to think the guy that ive known for 3 years is somebody i love but i do love him actually, hes 14 and im 15.
back in september he got in loads of trouble before that in june and july we were on and off, it broke me literally well it felt like it. and he got in huge trouble and got suspension for at least a month, yesterday was his 1st day back since the suspension was final. i get the vibe that he still has feeling for me but yet at the same time he has a girlfriend, but still hes not happy with the relationship hes in. i miss him terribly, even though hes most likely across the hall from me.. please help!

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 15, 2016 at 1:50 pm

Hi too loyal IC!,

Awww. Admitting youth and immaturity is actually a sign of maturity. Well, you’re not fully matured in all aspects yet of course but aren’t we all? Every body who’s alive is in constant learning. You mentioned he got a girlfriend and he’s not happy. How did you know? It’s normal you miss him. It’s actually harder when you see the person everyday and you don’t get to talk or touch him. Well, take it moment by moment. You should be enjoying your teen years as much as you can not just because you’re young but because it helps to teach yourself how to be happy on your future relationships, no matter what the phase is. This is the time you experience different emotions and feelings. Feel it and try to name them. Is it love or infatuation? Admiration? Or maybe there’s just something in the person that you fancy. It helps on how to cope up.

confused

January 13, 2016 at 2:44 am

ive been with my boyfriend for almost 3 years and recently i found out he was dating some one else for months, i try to be understanding because hes in school and work takes up so much time . now he says wants to be with me but he feels like he going through a phase cause he never had a teenage life (girls and sex and other things) and im the only person until recently that he has ever slept with. we lost both our kids (decesed) and we are on;ly in our early 20 . he tells me he wants it to work but his actions shows me other wise . what to do?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 16, 2016 at 10:45 am

Hi Confused,

Sorry about your children. You’re very strong to go through it twice. You’re young and that’s your edge in your situation right now. Your action will depend on what you want out of a relationship. Do you believe that a man needs to experience polygamy before going monogamous? In a different perspective, maybe it’s not about his lost teenage life, it can about the loss of your children. I’m not an expert though. Just looking at possible reasons why he’s acting out. Have you tried traveling together, like going for a honeymoon? It doesn’t need to be expensive. Just a new place, a new experience for the both of you.
confused

January 13, 2016 at 2:46 am

btw be have been on and off since 2009

avg

January 11, 2016 at 7:59 pm

Hey,

so i have a bit more complex of a situation. I met my ex while he was with a girl (he no longer loved) but he stayed anyway due to financial stability and having no where to go (he lived w her). gradually after time him n i started to develop feelings for one another. i waited about six months in secret with him urging him to leave her if he wanted to continue bc we were in love n it wasnt right. He finally did. He left her and moved to another state where his family was, so him n i could be together. We wound up dating for just under 4 years. In that 4 years, there has been chaos. Cheating from both parties, endless fights over literally everything..e.t.c. For some reason though, it was always one of us coming back for the other. we never wanted to let one another go. This past summer, he started talking to an old high school acquaintance. shortly there after, he broke up with me. He started hanging out with her more n more n disregarding me. He broke up with me 3 months ago, but has willingly strung me along while he has been seeing this other girl. Now, at first they were just hanging out and it surfaced that she actually was seeing someone i knew! lol but a few weeks later, she stopped seeing my friend. that was actually last week. Since then, it has only gotten worse. He hangs out w her everyday, she sleeps there…but he still insists to me they r just friends. like im retarded lol he always lies about the situation even though he knows i know of her. the l;ast time i saw him was last tues/wed morning in which of course we slept together n i feel like everything is great…until i leave. then its back to ignoring me n dovoting his time to her. just yesterday, he said he still loved me and was still trying to make me hold on to hope for us…last night while he was with the other girl and ignoring me (which is becomign the norm now) i finally got so mad that i told him never to contact me again. (him n i have both said this to eachother numerous times) but this time i am actually following through. secretly in the back of my head, i am hoping our relationship is salvagable. Although i really dont know at this time :(. I also forgot to mention that he is kind of like a sociopath and he lies a lot lol he is 30 with like no money struggling w no family here. he basically is the type of guy that needs to “survive” off of others. i am hoping that he was not using me for the past 4 years…lol please help! this is a hard case to crack but i really just want to be back to the happy state we once we r in togethrr 🙁 bc it did exist

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 10:06 pm

hi avg,
you said it yourself, he lives off of others. you’re only an exception to that if you don’t slow him to do. first, salvage your dignity, be firm that you don’t allow sharing him, unless it’s really OK with you.

Jenn

January 5, 2016 at 1:39 am

Hey!! ive been with my bf for 8 months and then broke up with me because he was so stressed, and he’s 29 and still have financial issues he’s nt okay that he’s nt ready yet… its been 4 months and he stills saying that he loves me and he wants me next to him but he’s nt ready for a relation.. he swears that theres no other girl in his life, and im the first one he loved and lived the most beautiful days with.. he always thanks me because i helped him to success in his job and life and he tells me im his push and without me who couldnt make it..
he refuses to stop talking or seeing each other; i stoped talking to him 10 days he kept on texting and calling me
but he still isnt ready for a relation now but he says im the one he will be marrying- bt he acts like he doesnt want me im confuseddd
do u think he’ll be back? or he’s just here for sex?
i reallly appreciate an answer… thanks in advance.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 11:22 pm

Hi jenn,
are you texting and having sex? or just texting?I think it’s best that you make it clear to him that you need to know what your relationship status really is in a calm way. if he wants to be with you, he needs to respect your standards

Ray

December 29, 2015 at 3:48 am

My boyfriend broke up with me recently after 7 months of dating. He said he was unhappy and depressed so he broke up with me but before we ever dated he was in a relationship with this one girl and he was always depressed and stuff but he didn’t break up with he until around this time last year but they were dating for 3 years and he broke up with me after 7 months I don’t understand that but I still love him
anonymous

December 25, 2015 at 9:42 pm

What if the boy’s birthday is during no contact?
My ex’s is tomorrow! It’s not like I can forget since it’s the day after x-mas.
I do not plan on doing anything…I don’t feel he deserves it. Thoughts?
Mara J.

December 22, 2015 at 12:52 pm

Hi Chris,
I am on my first week of the No Contact. He did contact me to ask whether I am going to a concert with a new boyfriend ( obviously he still wants to be in control and is becoming a little paranoic.) I responded very cold and avoided answering the question. But since then there has been no other contact. I also defriended him on facebook a while ago so it would be pretty obvious If I upload photos on facebook from social gatherings and set them to public that I want to make him jealous. Are there any other ways to indirectly show him I am happy and moving on when we are not talking at all?
Thank you
Loreen

December 21, 2015 at 12:10 am

Hi Chris,

I need your help. My ex boyfriend and I broke up a few months ago, I ended up doing no contact for 2 weeks, but gave in and responded to his text messages. We became friends for a little while, even hung out a few times where it even seemed like we were back together. He hugs me, holds my hand and even talk pretty much every day. However; just recently, he told me he has to let me go because he doesn’t love me. He still thinks I cheated on him, but I didn’t. He said he doesn’t love me and trust me. He was the one that told me that he doesn’t want to talk to me for a while. I am currently in no contact from him, but I miss him so much. What do I do?
Renee

December 16, 2015 at 10:49 pm

So, my ex and I were dating for about nine months when one day…poof…she was gone; she had ghosted me. Naturally I was heartbroken but after about two and a half months, she texted me, said she was sorry and hoped that if we saw each other again, I would be happy to see her. Since then, she has ramped up communication, and we see each other in a group outing once every two weeks. Over the last two months, she started out by just saying ‘hi,’ then sitting next to me, then hugging me and last week she made sure that she was touching me 100% of the time and looking at me deeply in the eyes.

She has a new girlfriend though [yes, we are lesbians] but she never talks about her or posts anything on facebook about her. My ex is also suddenly very active on my FB page. So what’s going on here? She tells other people how miserable she is and how much she misses me, but why isn’t she telling me these things?
nel

December 16, 2015 at 1:46 pm

hi, in my case my boyfriend leave me with out formal break up, the cause of splitting of our relationship is the church,. My boyfriend found a new one already but he is still staying on my apartment because his friend is my room mate and sometimes he will get some things of me without my permission. almost one year we commit another sex from the time that he leave me. But he always telling me that he doesn’t love. is my ex boyfriend still love me??
please i need your answer thank you.
Wondering if he cares

December 14, 2015 at 5:18 am

Hey Chris,

My ex did the ghost conversation with me. We hadn’t seen each other in a year and we met up on last week to talk. He said he was open to reconciliation. We captured via text throughout the week after the date but then he pulled the famous ghost conversation and I haven’t heard from him in 3 days. Which NC time frame should I do 21, 30, of 45 before going to step 2? Also does this mean that he is no longer interested in reconciling? Please help!

Wondering if he cares

December 14, 2015 at 5:20 am

Forgive the typo. I meant to say we chatted for a week via text not captured lol

Jenny

December 13, 2015 at 6:17 pm

Hi Chris
I’ve tried implementing th NCR for abt like 20days and he texted me on some work purpose (he’s my client). I’ve actually replied him, but should I ignore him in future if he texted me again for the same reason?

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