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231 thoughts on “Keeping Him Once You Get Him Back”

  1. sarah

    February 14, 2016 at 6:47 pm

    I really need some help, my on off boyfriend ended with me last month as he said I cheated, we was in a club and I was talking to his friend, nothing happened, it was loud and I was stood close talking to him and he had his arm round me, my bf flipped and said he couldn’t believe I had betrayed him, I apologised and explained it wasn’t like that and I was sorry it looked that way and I wouldn’t ever do anything to hurt him. He ended with me the next day and changed his number, after I cried and begged for him not to leave me, I realised that wasn’t helping so I said it was my mistake and I would leave him alone didn’t try to contact him, I said it was my mistake and I would leave him alone. A few days passed he rang, just general talk, then it started to get more frequent and we got back on track. Last week we got into a fight because I felt like he wasn’t trying to move forward, I ended it and didn’t contact him, a few days later I bumped into him and we was more or less how we are together, laughing, joking, we said we had missed each other he spent the night (we don’t see each other often as we live for away) and we said we would try again, I asked if he wanted to move forward he said yes, the next day he broke it off with me cos I was questioning him about his ex who had tried to get in contact with him, he got angry and said how do I have the cheek when he never cheated on me he ended it and hung up, I sent him a message apologizing but he ignored me, he rang me the next day to say we was 100% over and that he couldn’t get past what he did, with ot being with his friend. he rang me up again today to say he wants to try again, he said he cant promise anything and he doesn’t no if it will work bit he’s willing to try, I agreed to try to but he’s seeming off and angry with me. Is there any hope in this?

    1. sarah

      February 15, 2016 at 8:52 pm

      not really. ive tried to explain it but when I try he says he doesnt want to talk about it because it gets him angry thinking about it and he just wants to forget. when he broke up with me for questioning him about his ex he came back at me with what I did, he said he is always going to throw it back in my face because its always in the back of his mind, I asked if he ever thinks about it when he is actually with me in person and he said no.i do think we need to talk about it in order for us to get past it, but he wont and I dont what to bring it up incase he ends it with me again. we spoke today on the phone and everything was good, hes not as loving towards me but we was talking and laughing like we always do. we was friends before we got together and have known eachother for ten years. I should also mention that we was both in other relationships when we admitted our feelings for eachother, I think that is were the trust issues stem from.

    2. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 16, 2016 at 9:14 am

      Okay try one last time to work this out through actions first.. talk aboit the incident when both of you are in the mkst relaxed mood and he’s willing listen . if all of this doesn’t work out, do nc for a break

    3. EBR Team Member: Amor

      February 15, 2016 at 12:46 pm

      Hi Sarah,

      have you had a talk about what really happened that night in the bar?

  2. Renee

    November 10, 2015 at 9:13 pm

    Great article. My boyfriend is newly divorced and 10 years younger than me. I’m in my 50’s. I have been divorced for much longer than him and am ready to start thinking about having a serious relationship again. We have great communication and both agree that it might be best for him to try dating others because he never had the chance to have children and thinks he “might” want to be a Dad. I have a grown daughter who is in college and they get along great. In fact all of my group and family love him. I do too. I can see that time might lead to a committed relationship, but also that I should let him go. How close should I stay? How long should I wait? Should I wait? Its painful. He encourages me to date and I try but my heart is not in it. I love him. We keep trying to end things but cannot stay apart. Not sure what to do.

  3. Gwen

    September 9, 2015 at 4:49 am

    Well it has been an arduous 6 months but I got my ex-boyfriend back. I stumbled and had many a set backs regarding the no contact rule, but after a few times of failing and sticking to it, the conversations started to happen that led to other steps. If you all are looking for a quick and immediate fix, none of this will work for you. If you are willing to have your patience tested to the limits of absolute anguish, then you have the key to what you are seeking and the biggest thing you need to have this patience is …


    And before you think that my case wasn’t a big deal, my ex HATED me with a passion (or so it would seem). It was seriously to the point where he threatened to contact somebody and look into legal measures to prevent me to keep contacting him. Ladies if there is nothing else I can say, or nothing else I have learned from Chris:


    Let it GO. Men like to move on… with or without you. So if you are hell bound to go back and dig up bad memories and expect him to own it or whatever so you feel vindicated, its’ not going to happen. It’s not because he wants to win or hurt you, it’s just what men do in their purist and simple minds. They take the path of least resistance and simplicity and move forward.

    I will let you in on one comment I proposed to my ex (and perhaps Chris might want to consider this in his advice). My ex when he broke up with me said “I think I just want to ‘move on'” and I said to him “Instead of “moving on”, maybe once we have had some down time you will consider *moving forward*… but together. Moving on meant total erasure, but moving forward meant working on improving upon each other’ sense of self and revisiting our relationship intermittently.

    He responded with anger an hostility, so I let it sit.

    This afternoon, we were cuddling on a couch having the most blissful afternoon I could have imagined. My point is, make the choice to either grow up and have the patience to see this through if you truly believe it is what is construed as “true love”, or just keep picking the scab and watch it bleed.

    Chris’ stuff works. Side note: I’m not a friend, employee, marketer or otherwise. I am just a forever grateful woman that happened to stumble upon his site in the darkest of days.

  4. Erika

    August 25, 2015 at 8:37 pm

    Dear Chris,

    I have been an avid reader of your website. And I just wanted to let you know that thanks to your precious advices, I actually got my boyfriend back! Telling me he was an idiot to think about leaving me and that we should get back together. I accepted, carefully but happily. We didn’t broke up because we had a bad relationship, because actually it was great, but it was what you described in “will he break up to protect himself”. I don’t know where our relationship will go because I still cannot read the future, but we both agreed on working on it, and I am hoping for the best for us.

    So I really wanted to thank you, and also tell the other girls, that yes, it is possible!

    1. Chris Seiter

      August 25, 2015 at 9:45 pm

      Glad to hear it Erika!!! Thank you for updating everyone!

  5. Kate

    August 24, 2015 at 9:41 pm

    Dear Chrs,
    My ex boyfriend and I were together for 10 years. We bought a house together and have lived together for most of our relationship. Our relationship has been off and on during this time. Most of our problems stem from his relationship with his brother. The brother persuades him to go to music festivals and concerts all the time. I dont have a problem with him going but rather than tell me about this, he starts fights and goes into rages and then walks out, leaving him free to do whatever he wants. Later I will find out that they went to see a band or whatever. So it is a calculated move. In turn , I feel left out and plans we have made are ruined. About 6 weeks ago we got into an argument about him not answering his phone which is an ongoing issue also between us. I rarely call hom, maybe twice or three times a month. During the argument he shoved me and I called police. He was only made to leave for the night. The next day he moved out. I have done no contact since then. He hasn’t attempted to contact me. I’m not sure how to proceed. I would like to get back together, but not to repeat the same things that were wrong before. So I think I need for him to contact me or he won’t try. Some things worth mentioning : He only moved a couple blocks away, into a place with no heat and winter coming. He hasn’t gotten or asked to get most of his stuff. He still has my car insurance etc in his name and hasn’t changed it. He hasn’t looked into how to get out of our mortgage. Things you would do if you didn’t want to come back. I know he is angry because we live in a small town and I have heard him making loud comment’s direcred my way. Can I have your input?

    1. Chris Seiter

      August 25, 2015 at 5:15 pm

      I’d advise not to go back with him. Violence almost always escalates. I wouldn’t want to see you get hurt.

    2. Kate

      August 24, 2015 at 9:47 pm

      I should mention that we are 48 and 54 years old. So it’s not like he is a 20 year old who got deprived of partying. Also we dont have kids together. Mine are grown and on their own.

  6. confused

    July 6, 2015 at 3:39 pm

    My ex and I have been broken up for about 8 months now out of a 3 year relationship. Even though we left, we never necessarily left for good. Once in a while we would contact each other. As the months gone by and numerous bouts of NC that I started he would freak and find every way to talk to me. I have finally given in. Since we’ve been in each other’s life, there have been kisses, hugs, I love yous, and intamacy. He ended admitting to me that he regretted leaving me and that I am all he thinks about. He also admitted he wants a future with me but we can’t be together right now (his reasoning is understandable, he needs to work on himself). He wants me to be his friend, even though he is treating me like his girlfriend. I invited him to go watch some fireworks with 2 others couples and I mentioned being the 5th wheel. I actually invited him because he said he wasn’t doing anything (he ended up going out with some friends), but I think he took it as a date. His response “well go find yourself a boyfriend”. He said it in a sarcastic joking manner, but still he said it. I don’t understand why he flips when I’m gone and then he treats me like his gf but then he says this? How do I work my way around this?

  7. Ari

    June 3, 2015 at 8:33 pm

    First and foremost I want to say thank you so much for this!!!! I’m back with my ex boyfriend and we’ve been back together for two months now and here recently we’ve had a downfall with constant fighting due to I feel miscommunication and overreacting. but the scale tipped over when I found a pair of panties I found in his drawer(that he doesn’t even use) from a previous relationship (that I know he obviously either forgot or didn’t know was there) but the fact that I was heart broken from him before our relationship started again it has been hard for me to let the past go especially when I see a pair of panties in a drawer and previously found some old bday cards under a pile of clothes he didn’t wear (obviously he didn’t know was there either) how can I get through these things especially if something else pops up? I love him and want to make this work which is why I’ve read your story in the first place (which has taught me plenty so far)

    1. Ari

      June 4, 2015 at 7:05 pm

      it was while we were broken up

    2. Chris Seiter

      June 4, 2015 at 6:34 pm

      Did he have that relationship with the girl while the two of you were broken up or was it from way before.

  8. Cassandra

    April 13, 2015 at 7:02 am

    Hi Chris,

    My ex boyfriend and I were dating for 13 months before he broke up with me. We were in a long distance relationship for most of that time. Things got to the point where we were fighting 4-5 days a week and it was always about the same thing, him not being as romantic or affectionate as he was before. I told him that I realized that the honeymoon stage is done but I would still like some sort of spark, especially because we cannot physically be together. For example, we made a year the day before I was going to visit him for a week. He knew that I wanted to get him something special for this and I did, but he didn’t give me anything. Not even a card. Fast forward a month and things were looking up (at least from my perspective). But one night we got into a small disagreement and he blew up and ended it. The next day we talked and I was basically begging him to see if there’s anyway that we could work this out. The thing is that we are transferring to the same school next year and we were almost done with long distance. He said he just couldn’t work things out and he just needed to be alone for a while. I actually understood this because over the course of time I became really clingy and needy. I was at his every beck and call, and my life revolved around him and talking to him whenever possible. I finally accepted that it was over. The next day (this is two days after the initial break up), I didn’t talk to him and I was planning on doing the 30 days no contact with hopes that after maybe we could work things out. But that night he texted me. I texted him back because I do want to eventually get back together with him, and I don’t want to play games. He said that he wants to try a “do-over” and see where it goes. We have just been texting causally but I’m confused. I suggested a “do-over” before we broke up and he refused, and now that’s what he wants. I guess my questions are, 1.) do you have any idea what may have caused him to do this? 2.) Am I doing the right thing by texting him back and starting over so soon after the break up? 3.) One of his big reasons for the break up was because he felt that he just needed to be alone and not in a relationship. That being said I ‘m scared to text him first because I don’t want him to feel like I’m smothering him again but I don’t want him to think that I’m not interested because I never initiate the conversation. What should I do? 4.) Do you think that with a do over we can eventually be a couple again? Thank you for all your help.

  9. Yvette

    April 9, 2015 at 11:26 pm

    hi chris
    me and my x-boyfriend broke 4 months ago.. it was a bad break up.. but now he has made back and we are talking now. he invited me over for easter we talk a whole lot more. and little by little we are starting to see eachother. he says lets take it slow. but I want to make it official I miss him so much. not being in my life like before. any pointers??? also I need pointers on how to get him to trust me again

  10. Tammy

    February 17, 2015 at 4:31 am

    Hi, Cris,
    My ex is back from his half a year rebound relationship. But he misses her.
    It seems that he blames me for the seperation with her. It feels more painful to me to see that the person that i love is longing for another woman. I advised him to go back to her. But he refused saying that he made his own decision. What should i do. Any advice?

    1. admin

      February 17, 2015 at 12:52 pm

      So, you got him back but he is missing her…

      Have the two of you as a couple done anything exciting or fun?

    2. Tammy

      February 17, 2015 at 5:27 pm

      I guess not yet. Except being close and bringing the past issues. We still are working to give each other a trust. Its hard

  11. Jarett

    February 4, 2015 at 4:20 pm

    Hi, me and my ex were together for exactly a year and a half. (He left me on the 6 months mark.) We were very happy from what it seemed to me and we were supposed to contemplate planning our wedding that same day. His explanation to leaving is he became unhappy and lost interest, (the generic explanation as to why, sayings ‘it’s me not you’) Anyways, for two full weeks after the break up (even though I shouldn’t have) I constantly texted and pleaded for him to try again. He became hateful and nasty about it and said really horrible things. In all honesty at the time I was just looking for that missing part of my life because we had been together for so long and he kind of left very abbruptly. But then after awhile I started to really want to just try again.

    Here’s a big piece of info, I’m in the USA and hes on the northern tip of South America.

    A bit after we had been separated for over two weeks, I again sent him a text pleading him to at least try it, the conversation got heated and vulgar and then finally settled down to him apologizing for everything and how he had just up and left me and continued to treat me so horribly.

    At first he agreed to try things out because I said if it didn’t work out i would leave. Which obviously implied he was only faking an attempt with me in order to get me to go away,

    Eventually though, he agreed to give it a real attempt and said “okay” to it and surprisingly has softened up to the idea quite a bit. The only downside is although he says he isn’t so tense to the idea of giving it a shot, he doesn’t exactly “like like” me yet and claims there is still a 50/50 percent chance that this may or may not work out.

    I’m here getting my hopes up for something because things seem to have started getting better as far as communication goes but I’m afraid I’m only setting myself up for disappointment.

    At the end of each day I ask a question in a different form along the lines of “so whats the status of us” and he continually says 50/50. I’m not trying to rush this but this has been going on for a little over a week now, shouldn’t something have happened?

    I really don’t know what to think, but I do know I want him to start feeling the same way I do and just let this relationship actually happen. He’s slowly warming up but he insists that this “loosening up” to the idea, (as he calls it) doesn’t have anything to do with him liking me.

    Do you have any advice as to how to get him to fall for me again?

    1. admin

      February 5, 2015 at 3:06 pm

      Hmm… so its a long distance relationship.

      I wonder if that factored into his decsion to break up with you?

  12. Pat

    January 3, 2015 at 7:02 pm

    Hi Chris,
    My ex boyfriend did come back. He asked me back and things seem great on one part, but I feel at times like something is off. I’m not sure if it’s in my head part of my insecurity or if it’s real. He says he was with no one the time we were apart. I told him I wanted to start fresh with him without the past. He’s making plans to go on vacation with me, we spent the holidays together, he met my kids but only because he offered I would not have pushed that. I haven’t met his kids, which are older than mine. He has actually told a co worker he was with his girlfriend on the phone on front of me. There’s little things he’s done that he wouldn’t do before we broke up, that seem positive like talking about me to his coworker. He gave me a present this christmas. A perfume set. I still have not been to his house. I don’t know his adress but I know where he lives and if I wanted to I could find out exactly his home because he’s described it in detail to me. I also know where his favorite coffee spot is. I just want to know if men do this sometimes because they need to feel trust with a woman or is he doing this because he might be hiding something. We’ve been together since September 2013 and broke up for about 21/2 months. He has a job that is very demanding it’s a private job, there’s traveling involved. Let’s just say he works with crime. I just don’t know how to approach this without sounding like I’m accusing him of something. He said when we got back together that we broke up bc I didn’t trust him and accused him of stuff, in my emails I explained to you why. He said it took him a while to trust me again, but he was ready to come back to me after a few weeks. He had contacted me on my bday and saw each other but than he contacted me only when I initiated contact until I finally just stopped. He went looking for me at club bc he lost his phone contacts he saw me with a guy I was dating and he just flipped and couldn’t believe it and it’s when he started telling me he wanted me back and he loved me. Which was the second time he said he loved me since we’ve been together. When he’s with me I feel he does love me. I just would like some advice, I know he’s older than you, and he’s been married before, he’s also not very comfortable with affection or not affectionate. Our intimacy is great. I just don’t want to make the mistake of accusing him of something without trying to understand. I tell myself it doesn’t make sense for him to be with me if he wanted to be with someone else. There’s just no point. I know he likes to be very independent so is it possible that men will do this to feel independent?

    1. Pat

      January 5, 2015 at 7:59 pm

      Hi Chris, I didn’t get an opinion from u and I was really hoping I can get an opinion about my situation. I know everyone is different, but more important if u can advice me how I can talk w him about not ever going to his house. We’ve been back together since September 20something. Things were great moving forward than almost like a stall. I should mention he had looked for me in August and we went out and we spent the night together than I didn’t see him for another 2 weeks. He emailed me that he had lost my phone or his phone contacts but I chose not to respond and i decided to give another guy I met a chance. That day I went out with this guy and my ex showed up and saw me with my date he flipped and said that he had looked for me in August bc he wanted to be with me for us to give our relationship a chance. We talked and we got back together. I told him I wanted for him to be sure bc I did not want to go through the heartache like when we broke up. I wanted him to be sure he wasn’t w me bc he saw me w someone else and his ego was hurt. He said he loved me and it’s why he had looked for me in August. Yet I have not been to his home. He gave me an excuse but I’m not sure what to think of it. I realize we got back together not too long ago and i need to take things slow but why would a man not take his girlfriend to his house? Just want your opinion if u see my previous text I talk a little more about how he is. Thank you Chris ! And thank you for doing this for women it really helps to read your posts.

  13. katie

    September 19, 2014 at 2:07 am

    hey chris
    i just found this article and found it very helpful but i’m not sure how to handle my situation…i was dating a guy for 14 months why my ex started messaging me with some very inappropriate things that made me uncomfortable and my the guy i was with saw one of his messages. Because i didn’t know how to talk about it i waited a few days to talk about the message with my guy. We recently broke up and he said he feels he cant trust me because of those messages and how i waited to talk to him about them.now i’m not sure what to do, he still texts me and he knows how i feel about him and says he knows i could have made him happy and we have had awesome times but we cant be together because he feels he cant trust me. But i don’t know how to regain the rust after that

    1. admin

      September 29, 2014 at 12:52 pm

      I think it is important to know how you responded to those messages?

      Did you tell your ex off or not?

  14. Sinthuja

    June 10, 2014 at 12:04 pm

    My ex broke up with me for me not being able to communicate and lots of things he claims he got to know of me from other people. He blocked my number of everything on the day we broke up. However, we got back after 2 months of nc and during it i was focusin on myself and kind of having harmeless flirting with guys on social media as instagram. Now two days ago he saw these comments and got upset on how could I forget him in a month. I apologsised many times and then didnt talk for two days, tried again to talk and now he isn’t talking again. What should i do? Before i used to be the jelous type and a drama queen, now he is jelous type and getting angry of other guys. Before he didnt even mind me going on a dinner or clubbing with my guy friends. Should i let him be more in peace? Im afraid if i dont talk to him he may consider it as me not caring of him..

  15. Kelly

    May 7, 2014 at 10:53 pm

    Hi I’ve written to you before and you gave amazing advice! To update.. My ex boyfriend and I broke up 5 months ago. The first month I contacted him too much I know it’s wrong after reading this site but after I didn’t talk to him and have ongoing convos with him. Now within the past week I’ve been seeing his family a lot of places, running into them often. I know I can’t really say it’s fate and give myself false hope. Also my ex boyfriend and I started contacting each other again after these run ins with his family and it’s been super friendly and normal and jokes and laughter and me wishing him and his brother all the best in exams we are all currently doing. I’ve been keeping it casual as your advice suggests but I really did miss him I was just trying to move on but I really have been missing him and now that we are talking, I’m hoping for something more soon. I know I can’t rush things but when do you think is the best time to bring in feelings and flirting? I don’t wanna scare him off I’m ok if it’s casual for now but how fast is too fast? I’ve read a couple pages on your site and it’s been extremely helpful! Thanks! Oh we were together two years and mostly had a great relationship. I always missed him because he really respected me, treated me good, he’s smart, funny, and we knew what each other needed we always supported each other but we weren’t perfect.. What should I do?

    1. admin

      May 8, 2014 at 4:31 pm

      I think you should try to go on a date. Make that priority number one.

    2. Kelly

      May 8, 2014 at 10:37 pm

      I should try to go on a date with him? Ok well I’ll continue to keep it casual convos for a little while longer and see how things go and take up your suggestion soon with him. I know that us talking a lot and very friendly is a great sign and I’m taking things slowly and hopefully it works out soon! Thanks for the advice always great. I’m nervous to bring up feelings!! But in time…. Thank you 🙂

    3. admin

      May 9, 2014 at 3:34 pm

      Yes go on a date with him 🙂

    4. Kelly

      May 9, 2014 at 4:03 am

      How can I tell he’s becoming interested? I know us talking a lot and really friendly bringing up old memories teasing each other is a good sign I’m hopeful things works out great soon and taking your advice into consideration too.

    5. admin

      May 9, 2014 at 3:41 pm

      Have you read my guide on that?

  16. Louisa

    April 29, 2014 at 9:04 am

    I can’t believe I’m back here 🙁 my last comment was full of praise and happiness – I got my ex back thanks to your amazing advice. But things have made a turn for the worst.

    You see, we had been getting on great, our old issues completely sorted out. But unfortunately 2 weeks ago I lost a close family member, and this had a huge impact on me and my relationship. Intimacy between us wasn’t frequent, but not gone completely. I just needed some time to heal and get back on my feet but he took it personally and decided we weren’t clicking like we used to, and said my family member’s death wasn’t an excuse. He ended the relationship 2 days ago, deciding we have issues we need to face on our own before even considering getting back together, if ever. He booked a vacation 24hrs after the break up… with friends who have coincidentally broke up with their girlfriends too.

    He told me he still has a lot of feelings for me and being single for him isn’t about meeting new girls. He just wants time to himself and friends. This is the exact same reason he gave me for ending it the first time!

    I know the answer is in front of me, he’s a douche who wants to be single and have a girlfriend to come home to when he feels like it. But HE contacted me after our first break up and worked hard to get me back. (I was in two minds at the time, but once we met up those feelings came back)

    We spoke yesterday, talking about seeing how things are in time but I don’t plan on contacting him again, at least for the next 30 days like you’ve advised.
    But I’m so lost, I know it sounds like the relationship is over, but I’m still hopeful that it isn’t because next to the few bad times, there’s so many good 🙁

    1. admin

      April 30, 2014 at 1:21 am

      That is awfully immature of him…

      I don’t think he is a douche I just think he may be the type of guy that needs to be constantly reminded that you are there for him. He is probably used to being the center of your world and all of a sudden this family member passes and your center shifts for a little bit.

    2. Louisa

      April 30, 2014 at 9:31 am

      I guess my question is, even though we’ve broken up for a second time, is it possible that if I dismiss any desperation (like your most recent post explains) and work on being the ungettable girl (who I stopped being once we got back together) could good things for us happen again? Do third times exist?

      I don’t think I’m clinging onto something that clearly isn’t working, I just feel like we ended for the wrong reasons and there is something worth saving.

  17. Lorin

    April 6, 2014 at 7:50 am

    About five months ago I had cheated on my boyfriend and we broke up. Two weeks later we started working on things and got back together. We continued to have problems about it and hes still extremely hurt. Yesterday he broke up with me because he was to hurt still and didnt trust me. I think we got back together to soon and now im not sure what to do.

  18. Bridget

    March 22, 2014 at 2:18 pm

    Hi Chris!

    I actually left a comment on this site a couple months ago and thankfully your advice DID get my ex boyfriend back! The only problem is that we got back together for a month and then broke up with me last week. We had barely discussed our break up and our relationship status but it was assumed that everything was going well. After an amazing 3 days straight with each other I stupidly picked a fight with him b/c he was going away for the weekend and didn’t bother to tell me in person. I cooled down for a few days and then asked if we could talk in order to communicate better and get things out in the open. He was pretty nasty and said that we shouldn’t see each other. He came over the next day and broke up with me saying that his friends and family didn’t want us to be together and that’s what he has been hiding. He kind of/sort of left things open for a relationship in the future or at least a friendship (might have just said that to be nice). I know he wants to start settling down soon but for some reason had trouble committing to me. I also saw that he rebooted his online dating profile a few days after the break up.

    I guess my problem is that I feel that if I do the same things I did to get him back last time it will look like I’m a broken record. How do I mend the problem with his friends and family (they really don’t even know me, just a couple of occasions where I was shy and it came off as rude)? After no contact, should I just flat out say I want to be friends or try to actually woo him like last time?

    1. admin

      March 22, 2014 at 6:31 pm

      I am sorry about the breakup :/.

      I see your problem.

      Let me ask you this. What do you think caused the second breakup? That bad fight? What was it about? Is this a common issue in your relationship?

    2. Bridget

      March 23, 2014 at 3:14 am

      The fight wasn’t that bad, I think I just came off as a nag because he said he was going out of town during my spring break. I got pissy because I felt like it was something he couldve mentioned earlier… like during the 3 whole days we spent together. When we broke up he said that when we first got back together everything was perfect, like getting hooked on a drug again but by being naggy I made those feelings go away and he wasn’t willing to work through the problems with his friends/family. The only reason I was naggy was because we hadn’t had a talk about what was going on with us though! I made a very reasonable request by asking to talk it out!

  19. Nata

    March 17, 2014 at 12:23 am

    Hi Chris, I texted my ex after the 18th day. He didn’t seem that happy but now we talk a little on phone, he also didn’t mind to meet for coffee. I didn’t say anything about getting back or something like that. We are really close as friends too so we have a lot to talk about and he loves me too. I just did so many immature things all that pushed him back. Now when he talks I want to be patiant and maybe make him want more? Please tell me what should I do? As u said in your blogs, he is not as before with communication. ( now replies really late), and called when I ask him too. But we love each other a lot, so I do hope something will come out if I act patiently and logically. Plz plz give me some guidance I need it so much now !!!!!

    1. admin

      March 20, 2014 at 6:38 pm

      Well, have you done anything positive to rebuild attraction? Maybe you just aren’t texting him the right way.

    2. Nata

      April 3, 2014 at 7:38 am

      I again was texting him too much! Being desperate ;( I went into nc again

  20. meghna

    March 3, 2014 at 3:58 pm

    hie chris,
    OMG……I LOVE U LOADSSSS…..man,u are amazing….
    my bf is such a stubborn and hard nut……trust me,he came back after no contact rule……i am really happyyyy……..u are aweeesomeeeee……umahhh…<3<3<3

    1. admin

      March 3, 2014 at 6:55 pm

      Well thank you!

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