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Megan
January 10, 2014 at 11:23 am
Hi Chris,
I broke up with my ex because he’s much younger than me and he was having issues committing for a really long relationship and I thought I could do better. After we broke up, he still kept telling me I was the girl he loved the most and he secretly hoped to get back together with me years down the road. We were still hanging out and all that. However, we gradually stopped hanging out as much and 3 weeks after our last date, he started seeing this girl and even when on a trip with her. He kept it from me and throughout he was still texting me. When I found out, he told me that I’m still the girl he has ever loved so much but he can’t be w me now due to the new girl. He said he really likes her and he doesnt know about their future but she makes him really happy. I told him never to contact me again and he got so upset he cried.
One week into NC, he texted me to wish me for New Years. I texted back many hours later as I only heard about NC after that. But ive since stopped contacting him. Do you think NC will still work? Is the other girl a rebound?
How can I make him miss me and regret moving on? Our relationship was a really happy one and we both wished it didn’t end.
admin
January 11, 2014 at 1:55 am
https://www.exboyfriendrecovery.com/how-to-make-your-ex-boyfriend-regret-letting-you-go/
Angela
January 10, 2014 at 3:06 am
Hey Chris. Me and my ex have been in a relationship for almost 2 years now. We both loved each other a lot. He even used to cry telling me not to leave him when he goes to Med School to become a doctor. I loved him truly with all my heart. And I know that he did too. While I was with him and was having problems with him, I would go to my close girl friend and share it with her and ask for her suggestions. This girl and my ex were friends before I came to his life. I had no idea that this girl liked my ex. 4 days ago, she messaged him and told him every bit of what I had shared with her about the problems I had with my ex. I shared it with her because I needed someone to share them with. I thought I could trust her. But she instead, took my trust and used it to turn him against me. She told him smack about me that caused him to have trust issues on me. Eventually, because this girl said so much to him, he broke up with me last night. He told me that he needed a break and wanted to be single for a while but I know that isnt true because I have his facebook password and he doesnt know that. Im reading his messages to this girl while hes telling her how his heart wanted to be with me but his mind said not to trust me. Then now, him and this girl have been talking constantly every day. He’s messaging her every day and talking to each other. When he broke up with me last night, I told him that “its okhay. I understand. We can break up. Emotions fade, I totally get it. But I still love you though. And I dont expect ANYTHING back from you. Eventually my feelings will fade too. But for now, I do love you and Im not expecting anything back. I just want to see you happy and smiling.” Later he messaged the girl saying that he cried reading to my response to his break up and it hurt him deeply and all he wanted to do at the moment was go to sleep. When I read that he said that to her, I texted him again after a couple of hours asking him for a little chat. He hasnt replied me. And Before that, He used to tell her that shes such a great girl and he would love to give their unknown relationship a chance. Hes telling her that he always had feelings for her. Is this just a rebound? Will me doing NC on him work?
admin
January 11, 2014 at 1:33 am
I can’t guarantee it will work 100 percent BUT I can tell you that I think it can help you a lot.
Angela
January 16, 2014 at 8:52 pm
Do you think now there is NO chance of us getting back at all Chris?
admin
January 19, 2014 at 11:09 pm
I wouldn’t say that.. BUT I would say it will take some patience and I wouldn’t be shocked if things don’t go well for you for a while. Sometimes these things just take time.
Angela
January 20, 2014 at 10:55 pm
Thanks Chris. We got back together today after 2 miserable weeks. We met and sorted everything out. I stayed calm and listened, both of us apologized. It felt good by the time I came home. This distance really made both of us realize the importance we hold in each other’s lives. Thanks for all the support. God bless you 🙂
admin
January 21, 2014 at 5:59 pm
Good for you!
I am so happy to hear that.
Angela
January 23, 2014 at 10:21 pm
Thanks Chris. I dont know why things have gotten so awkward now days. I feel so distant from him and so does he. I told him this today and he said that he felt the same and soon everything will get back in its place. Im trying my best to get things back to how they were. But I dont know.. He tries too but he still seems to have doubts. Im clueless on what to do.
Angela
January 25, 2014 at 12:05 am
We broke up today. I knew this wouldnt work. I told him that maybe breaking up is the right thing to do. He agreed and said that its final now. Im back to depression. I dont want him back. It was lust, not love. But Im depressed. Cant eat, no energy and Im sick. Im taking time to recover although I dont know when that will be. I just cant stop crying.
Angela
January 10, 2014 at 3:11 am
Most importantly, do you think we have chances of getting back together? If so, how much chances? And by the way, him and this girl arent official.
kim
January 9, 2014 at 9:00 pm
CHRIS – Question, please answer if you can. My ex, who i have a child with and was with for almost 9 years broke up with me during the summer of 2013. In October of 2013 he moved in with this new girl, the relationship happened very fast. So he has a total of 3 months with her. What in the world are my chances. I want my family back. We talked about 1 month and half ago and I told him my regrets and how sorry I was for the mistakes I made. He said he was sorry as well. I said I want us back if it was possible that I still cared about him, said he still cared about me and missed me. We spoke for several days and texted back and forth. The girlfriend found our text messages and he called and told me he sorry but he was happy and wanted to see if things would work with this woman. He then told me to not contact him again, unless it had to do with our child. I asked him if this was the case why he couldn’t have told me this before, instead of giving me a little hope. He said he didn’t know and he was sorry. He lives in another state. I’ve done NC for 30 days, and sent 1 text since I’ve completed that. I got no response. I’m going to wait a few days and try another. What are my chances, I feel if I could actually get with him in person and he physically see’s me I would stand a much better chance, but right now I feel so uncertain. I know you get lots of questions, but if you have time to answer this one. Thanks!
Robin
January 9, 2014 at 8:22 am
Dear Chris,
Could you please give me some insight?
Long story short:
He was crazy about me. I was the one to break it off (had commitment issues), but regretted it and felt ready to commit so told him that I loved him and want to be together for 100% (words I have never told in a year).
He pushed me away, told it is too late.
I started NC, found out he has a new gf, that hurt, so did it for 90 days since I couldn’t be cool until then. This new gf seemed like a rebound to me and mutual friends(not his type, shallow) but now they’re together for ~4months so chances are getting less.
Applied your tips, wrote him every couple of days, always got neutral or positive responses.
Proposed meet-up, applied the week in advance tip, he said yes, and the day before the meeting canceled, no made up reason, but that he thinks it’s not such a good idea.
What happened there? I kind of ran out of strategies, but not willing to give it up just yet, but don’t want to seem like some stalker either.
P.S. Your blog has done wonders to my thinking towards relationship and men. Thank you!
admin
January 10, 2014 at 1:25 am
Hmmm… that is one of the risks with the day in advance thing. It gives people time to think and sometimes that isn’t always a good thing b/c nerves can take hold and cause them to cancel
one sincere action
January 8, 2014 at 7:20 am
Hi, Chris
I moved to this page from LDR because this might be a better fit to my case. I am the one who broke up with my ex-fiance about three years ago and stayed in contact with him. Now, he has a girlfriend. Anyway, I completed my 30 day NC. I sent him my first messages. He read it but didn’t respond right away. Instead, he emailed me back later with a positive response.
Then, I sent him the second messages next day to reply to his email. I can see he read the messages but there was still no reponse.
I know he’s more like an email guy but he used to respond through google hangout. My guess is it’s because he is with gf when he receives the messages.
Sigh, should I keep sending him a message or instead emailing him? I don’t want to look like a text gnat in my google hangout though I don’t personally like emails. 🙁
admin
January 8, 2014 at 6:28 pm
Hmmm I think emailing would be better actaully.
one sincere action
January 16, 2014 at 2:27 am
Sigh, yes, I emailed him instead and a couple of instant messages. I got a last email reponse (nothing negative, basically he said he would write me back later that night, which he didn’t.) last Saturday. Since then, I sent one instant message on Monday and one Email yesterday and NO response so far. In the last email, I even wrote that I needed some prompt response, because I have a justifiable reason. I know I may need to be more patient, but the problem is that my departure is in 9 days so I really need to talk to him about my trip and all, also because for 4 days ouf of 9 days, I will be in a different country for a business trip (Yes, I am a busy woman.:) ). So, I am running out of time. It’s not like driving 20 minutes to see him. It’s the international trip, which he knew already 2 months ago.
I don’t know what’s going on. Is it because his gf told him not to talk to me? or he just didn’t care? I am swayed by all these thoughts and guesses.
If I don’t get a response by tomorrow, I plan to call him tomorrow. (Of course, I will do my best to calm myself and stay friendly). What do you think? Should I just wait?
one sincere action
January 26, 2014 at 9:13 am
Sigh, I finally met him tonight. It was kinda late because I had to run a bunch of errands. Nothing special. We have talked what we have been up to and how we are doing… But it last for only a couple of hours because his gf kept messaging him. Apparently, she is upset about him seeing me. He said she had some anxiety issue, blah blah. Of course, it hurt. But I did my best not to show it but to stay cool about it.
Meanwhile, I told him to meet tomorrow for a short day trip before I came here and he knew about it and said okay. But his gf is upset about it too and probably tells him not to go. He texted me after he left tonight “Im not sure about tomorrow. It is hard for ** to understand because she doesn’t know you…” Sigh, I texted back “I don’t know her either. But, I want to know what YOU think. Hey, I am visiting ** in 8 years. This could be my last visit. (which is true) Am I asking too much?”
Then, he said “No….. I feel like I hurt both you and her. Im so sorry… I will go.”
So, it looks like we are going unless I hear from him otherwise.
I know I need to get FAR away from him and his gf. But, I am not sure if I did okay. I didn’t show any anger or anything (surprisingly I was very calm though I couldn’t smile in that situation)
My question is if you have any tip to avoid being caught in between him and her. I know it’s a long story for a short question. Thanks!
Christine
January 8, 2014 at 6:24 am
Hi Chris,
Love the work you’re doing here. Just a question… so I’ve realized that I don’t EXACTLY want my ex back. But for some reason, I’m still pissed that he got together with another girl so quickly after me. I want to watch the relationship fail, and I still feel these pangs of jealousy when I think of them together… I’m embarrassed by what he may have told her about me. I’m kind of confused about how I feel actually.
I do miss him from time to time. Still hate that whatever we used to do he’s probably doing with her now…
Is this my pride or is this me not admitting that I want him back…? I just don’t know.
admin
January 8, 2014 at 6:11 pm
To me if your not sure you want him back 100% you should sort those feelings out before anything.
Nic
January 8, 2014 at 4:22 am
Hi Chris,
My bf of 4 years (lived together 3) and i broke up end Sept 2013, he activated his online dating account almost immediately, within a few weeks, hooked up with someone, sleeping together on the 2nd date (fast mover eh?) He denies this, of course.
We maintained contact for a while, during which time he kept telling me how much he misses me, feels lonely etc (all the while, communicating with this other girl – wtf?), texting me, asking me to go to the beach with him (why, i don’t know, as he has this other girl).
I established NC on NYD, have received FB messages (i ignored), then yesterday he sent me a text asking me if i was ok, that he worries about me and if i’m not communicating with him because i think it’s for the best then he understands and will remain silent but that he misses me, as does his cat (another wtf?). I didn’t reply, then woke up to another text message about mail.
THEN on a site we’re both on, i see he’s changed his status to seeing someone… which really took the wind out of my sails, particularly as he’d said he’d only been on a few dates and wasn’t looking for another relationship!
It’s only been 3 months or so since we split, and in past messages i told him that i had hoped once we’d worked on our separate issues we could potentially reconcile.
What does “seeing someone” mean to a guy, is it more serious than “dating”?
What does this mean for “us”?
I’m gutted, and would appreciate your take on my situation.
Cheers.
admin
January 8, 2014 at 6:26 pm
Seeing someone usually means dating…
Nic
January 8, 2014 at 11:49 pm
Should i be particularly concerned, or view it for now as a rebound?
Why would he still be contacting me and telling me things like he misses me?
Nina
January 7, 2014 at 10:07 am
Hi Chris!
Last summer I was with a guy, we sort of dating but it was never really oficial. We were together for 2 and half months and one night, we were both a little under the influence of alcohol and we had a huge fight where he ended things saying that he couldn’t handle us and the fact that I wouldn’t work on my problems (I wasn’t in a really good place last summer). He said that his main goal with ending things was to help me become better. I never understood this, it never made sense to me.
After one week I went to ask him to reconsider but he said there was already someone else, it broke my heart. Only one week had gone by and he had already forgotten everything we had, he had deleted his feelings for me an moved on. A few weeks later I found out they were dating and they have been together for 3 months now.
The thing is, we always kept in touch (I even tried NC but he kept sending texts, sometimes he called and we would talk for hours, literally) and I have worked on all my problems now, I have improved.
Last week we went on vacation with a group of friends (she wasn’t there). He kept having tickling fights with me, hugging me tightly, kissing my neck, forhead and cheeks. He even cuddled me in his sleep although he says he has no memory of this and when I told him, he was quite confused and didn’t know what to say or do. It wasn’t the usual innocent hugging or cuddling, it was rather the passionate one. I confronted him about this whole pack of actions, saying that since he has a gf and given our past history it isn’t normal for him to treat me like this (I confided this to a close friend and she said he basicaly cheated on his gf). He admited that maybe he was a little out of line and that is the other girl would find out she wouldn’t like it. When I questioned the reason for his behaviour he admited that I was more than a simple friend, I was over the top great and that he never met someone so fantastic and so unique as me, saying that he cared about me a lot and that really liked me – he was greatfull to have me in his life – this were his words. It almost looks as if there is no difference between me and his girlfriend…
I obviously still really like him and I told him that – he didn’t react to this and doesn’t seem to mind, only said that the way he treated me was not with the intent of making me hopeful, but how can I not when he says all this things? The question is, is there still hope to get him back? I know it’s a weird story but still, is it possible? And if yes, how?
Emma
January 7, 2014 at 5:47 am
Hey Chris, I have been trying to do the no contact rule, my ex keeps texting it seems every few days to check in..it’s hard not to respond to him! Why does he keep texting me when he lives with his livin gf of 2 months?? I text him and said that I live him and he was my everything .. I said maybe I should be out of your life to make it easier.. I said do you want me out of your life? He has not responded ! I don’t understand why he isn’t giving me a straight answer..or heard from him ..do you think he is processing? We dated/lived together for 3 years .. He jumped in a relationship 3 days after we broke up..and is living with her!
April
January 6, 2014 at 10:55 pm
My ex bf and I had a LDR, he lives 2 hours away. I made the effort to go see him on weekends, and we stayed in contact via texting and phone calls. However, I ended up having some kind of mental breakdown, which I have no idea what caused it. After I left, he texted me saying that he didn’t want me coming back. I knew he wanted to break up, but with the help of one of my friends, I convinced him to take a break. I tried giving him his space and called once a week, but he later told me he had a new gf and to stop calling him. Its been 3 months and neither one of us has contacted each other.
Should I still go on with the NC? And how do I get him to like me again without causing any negative feelings? I miss him very much and want him back.
admin
January 7, 2014 at 6:42 pm
Have you read my guide on long distance relationships?
mm
January 6, 2014 at 7:51 pm
So the man I was with was cheating on me with some girl he worked with. He said he needed space and moved out. Finally I confronted him and told him I found out that he was cheating and I told him this like 3 weeks after he moved out to have some “me” time. Well within those 3 weeks he was still sleeping with her and I. He texts me sometimes and I always end up responding. Now I found out he has just moved in with her after the 3 weeks. Im traumatized as I did nothing wrong except give him everything and he used me like a sugar mama. I want him to feel my pain and I want him to think about me. Do you still think the 30 NC will work ?
admin
January 7, 2014 at 6:36 pm
It can still work yes.
sandy
January 6, 2014 at 5:46 pm
hello^^
i was in a long distance relationship with my ex.
then now i really want him back (still not live in the same country), but it seems he has a girlfriend(not sure they are in a relationship or not) now!
and im not contact with him from 1 of January, but i will go to his city on 8 of February, so when should i tell him that im going to visit there? on 2 of February?!
and i have another question, my ex and i we both have each others facebook and instagram, and should i still update something on there just like what i always do ?
thank you!
Sue
January 6, 2014 at 11:16 am
Hi Chris,
I know I have left many questions and comments on your page. I’m dying here. I haven’t spoken/messaged/contacted in any way my ex for the past 5 months and its eating me up inside. I’ve worked on myself and improved my life but there is one thing missing; him. He started dating a good friend of his 4 weeks after our breakup and they’ve been together for 3 months now. He seems pretty happy. I took your advice and improved all aspects of my life and I haven’t once contacted him but he has made no effort to contact me and I feel like I’m chasing a hopeless cause. I dream of him at night, that’s how desperate I’m becoming and I hate it. No matter how much time i spend with friend/exercising/socializing he still manages to be in my mind nearly 24/7. I also heard he was bad mouthing me the other day and he wouldnt attend a dinner party just because I was going. This man is driving me crazy.
Serena
January 5, 2014 at 11:42 pm
Hello,
My ex broke up with me about 2.5, almost 3 months ago, after being together for almost a year. We lived together, and even talked about things in the future, such as marriage and children with each other when the time was right. He broke up with me, and I did not see it coming at all. During the break up, he told me our relationship was amazing, and I had completely restored his faith in women. And, of course, being in complete shock that I was, I poked and prodded for answers. Answers that in the end never helped a thing. He gave me a whole array of reasons, but never stuck to the same one. Of course, I was devastated. In hindsight, I did a lot of things I shouldn’t have to push him away. I continued to keep in contact with him, even until about a week ago. There were times when I would try to initiate no contact, and then I would fail and fall back into the same routine. At first, for almost 2 months after the break up, he was still responding to my contact attempts. But, then, he stopped. And, has not responded to me since. Blocked me on facebook. Who knows, maybe even blocked my number, but I don’t know that, because I never made an attempt to call. Looking back, I can see why he does not want to respond, as I did pretty much everything under the sun in an attempt to get him back. In the beginning, I wrote him a letter, pretty much professing my feelings, I became a ‘text gnat’ for a long time. Recently, I found out he is seeing someone new, which has been going on longer than the time that I found out about it. I think it started not even a month after we broke up :/ And, she is someone who I don’t know, but seems to be pretty opposite of me. Probably within the last month I found out. I am confident that had I just left him alone, he would have come back, and before, even gave me hope of that. I have definitely realized my faults during and after our relationship, and am now making a complete, full commitment to doing everything right that I can to win him back. I have not texted him in 5 days, and have deactivated my facebook. I have done nothing to sabotage his new relationship, although when I first found out, I did text him, saying that I felt very hurt that I could be so easily replaced, but never trash talked her or anything. Instead of just giving him the space he wanted for 2 months after we broke up, in a fit of panic, I continued to contact him in a fear that he would forget about me. Now, seeing that our relationship could have been a mutual, ‘good’ one, I feel like I have ruined everything by being so resistant to it. Is there any way I can reverse what I’ve done? Is there any way that his opinion of me will go back to a good one? After how emotionally impulsive I was? I’m going to be honest, I can see why he blocked me, and cut me out of his life. Putting myself in his position, I can understand it. I know I can’t turn back time. But, if there is anything I can do to help my odds, or if there are any odds even left, I am very interested in your advice.
admin
January 6, 2014 at 6:26 pm
Yes, self improvement at this point is the smartest thing you can focus on .
Serena
January 14, 2014 at 11:21 am
Well, I made it 2 weeks without no contact. And then when I attempted to contact him (I know, I know) I discovered he has blocked my number :/
Serena
January 6, 2014 at 11:01 pm
Alright. So, for my situation, do you think 30 days of no contact is enough, or should I wait longer? I’m just anxious and afraid of the damage I caused, and however realistic or unrealistic this may be, I’m afraid he won’t ever talk to me again. :/ I just want to make sure I do things right.
Brooke
January 5, 2014 at 5:15 pm
Im on day 9 of no contact after telling my ex we should just be friends and on the same day he told me he loved me and i told him i loved him too and then he suggested us maybe getting back together in the future, ( he broke up with me because of his own issues) however he has now been going on dates with a girl he knows i hate and when he saw me with her last night he tried to hide then later on was looking for me but i have no clue why… Do you think i still have a good chance of getting him back? We broke up about a month ago
Keturah
January 5, 2014 at 10:55 pm
Hi Chris , Im on day 9 of no contact after telling my ex we should just be friends and on the same day he told me he loved me and i told him i loved him too and then he suggested us maybe getting back together in the future, ( he broke up with me because of his own issues) however he has now been going on dates with a girl he knows i hate and when he saw me with her last night he tried to hide then later on was looking for me but i have no clue why… Do you think i still have a good chance of getting him back? We broke up about a month ago
DD
January 5, 2014 at 1:54 am
Hi Chris,
My ex broke up with me weeks ago. We were together for 5 years. The break up itself was difficult because he seemed to not want to do it because he said that he was worried that he would be making the biggest mistake of his life. He said that he felt that we had problems that couldn’t be fixed. I had a stressful semester at college and I was sad a lot of the time. I know that I know that I did a poor job of making him feel wanted. Anyway, he recently got a new girlfriend. A week after the break up I called him and told him that I was ready to move on and I don’t want to live in regret so we agreed to remain friends. A couple days after that I came across your site and I implemented your NC rule. I am on day 22 of the no contact rule now. I am worried that the past rough few months that led to our break up are still fresh and I don’t know how to begin my first text. I guess my main question is did that phone call really hurt my chances of getting him back?
admin
January 5, 2014 at 8:01 pm
Day 22 wow good job.
Nah I don’t think it hurt too bad.
DD
January 5, 2014 at 8:39 pm
Thank you 🙂 I am proud of myself. He hasn’t contacted me at all so it made it easier not to contact him. Thanks for reply 🙂
Sandra
January 5, 2014 at 1:32 am
Hi Chris, I’m completely embarrassed to say this. But my ex contacted me Christmas eve. He was obviously missing me and had been drinking. I ended up meeting with him and we spent the night together. Then after that last night went to a hockey game together.
My question is how do I fix sleeping with him. He is still with someone else. It seems to be convenient for him since she is helping him pay for things..
I feel like he is getting over me when he sees me…or I’m easing his pain. :’( I’m so disappointed in myself.
admin
January 5, 2014 at 7:59 pm
You can’t you just have to factor it in now. Maybe cut him off until he commits.
Sandra
January 5, 2014 at 1:34 am
Should I do no contact or have I ruined my chances. Help…
Claire
January 4, 2014 at 10:22 am
Hi Chris
My boyfriend broke up with me a month ago.
He said he noticed his feelings were decreasing and
we have been in a similar situation before.
He said he didn’t want to hurt me again and wanted it to break clean.
The first time he told me that he told me about his feelings,
he mentioned a different girl and he noticed
before the girl that his feelings were already deteriorating.
For a while I didn’t contact him and then we started talking again
because I thought I was over him (I was overconfident).
Yesterday we had a talk and he mentioned this girl and said he’s going
on a date with her and that just broke my heart.
I told him that I still had strong feeling for him and that I don’t want to contact him until February (this girl is going to leave the country then and I’m on some probation time).
I wonder if I have destroyed the whole point of NC.
Claire
admin
January 4, 2014 at 7:06 pm
You may have hurt it a little bit but you can still do it.
Katy
January 3, 2014 at 8:12 am
My boyfriend just dumped me about a month ago and he supposedly has a new girlfriend who is one of my best friend’s friends and I am still crazy head over heals for him a.He knows I still love him and I’m not sure if he likes me even though he supposedly has a new gf.His lame excuse is his parents made him dump me because I’m a bad influence even though I am a saint compared to him!
I can’t do the no contact rule because I go to school with him and in a tech ed. we have to talk to each other because we share a locker that we store our unfinished projects and class work.I don’t know how to avoid him out side of school because we are in the same karate class and go on the same days.Chris please tell me what to do I know I’m only 13 but love doesn’t have an age limit and I am madly in love with him and I have now clue what to do please help me!
Katy
January 3, 2014 at 8:17 am
Oops I mean I’m in tech ed. with him
BD
January 2, 2014 at 2:21 pm
Hi Chris,
My ex and I dated for almost 4 years, but fought a lot the last year. After the break up, which was my idea indirectly, I immediately realized how much we should be together. He disagreed. At the beginning of our break up, he said he was trying to convince himself that we should get back together. We even went out on some dates every couple of weeks. But as time wore on, I let my emotions get the best of me and did all the things I shouldn’t have (cried, begged, constantly texted, etc.). He decided he was ready to date other people about 3 months in. But he said he didn’t want a relationship with anyone, just wanted to date people to get to know new people. That was when I saw your website and got your e-book and did no contact.
After no contact, we texted and things seemed to be going well. It had no been 5 months since we broke up and we finally met up. He was a little distant initially during our meet up and he told me had been on a couple of dates with this girl. (A girl that I think has been pursuing him since before we broke up). The girl lives in a different city about 4 hours away. He did tell me he thought I had a prettier face than her and I kissed better than her. He told me that he wasn’t ruling out us getting back together at some point, but he knew it wouldn’t be anytime soon if it happened at all. I tried to play it cool about this, but as the night wore on I drank too much and that led me to end the night by being overly emotional again and causing him to leave. The week that followed sucked with me falling back into my emotional habits of texting too much.
However, its been two weeks and I’ve had extremely limited contact, which has been positive. I think he celebrated new years at his friend’s house party with her.
I was thinking of doing no contact for two more weeks, working on myself to lose some weight and go out with a couple guys that have been asking me out, and then try the After No Contact part of the plan you outlined here.
Do you think that I have ruined any good feelings he has of me from our 4 year relationship by all the emotional responses I’ve given him? I feel like I have no chance with him.
admin
January 2, 2014 at 6:44 pm
No I think you just need to do a better job of leaving him to want more.
BD
January 2, 2014 at 8:50 pm
Thanks Chris! You’re reply made my day! I hope I still have a chance. I’m going to follow your guides and e-book more strictly this time after a brief no contact period.