How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If He Has A Girlfriend V. 2.0

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Christine T.

January 2, 2014 at 3:24 am

I’m really sorry I’m bothering you. I’m in a really bad place. Me and my ex of 7 months broke up almost four mouth’s ago. The first two months we were talking the third month I tried ignoring him (no contact) and he messaged me once a week. During that time i went on a few dates and bettered myself. When I finally talked to him he told me he was dating someone else and I was not prepared for it. We had a huge fight, I said something really bad and he said he regrets meeting me and he never wants to hear or see from me again. it’s almost a month and he deleted me off his facebook, won’t answer my calls, texts, emails, nothing. I know I should leave him alone but the thought of him sleeping with another girl literally make me sick. We don’t have mutual friends, and there is no way to bump into him except the grocery store. I missed Christmas, new years, his birthday is coming up, my birthday, and v day. I’m 22 and I have had several boyfriends all of which I never cared for. I have been in love once but this is worse. I am a beautiful, smart, sexy, sweet, caring, and just plain amazing woman. I know this in my head but my heart just tells me He is it. I need help. I love him and I can’t stand being without him. I’m scared now more than him being with another girl that he will never talk to me again. If anything I want to be on good terms or mutual terms. I feel horrible with him hating me. I sent him a message saying I’m sorry thanks for the great times and I want him to be happy and he can talk to me anytime. I don’t know if I can live up to it. Is there anything I can say or do before no contact that can hit home? What’s your opinion?

admin

January 2, 2014 at 6:33 pm

No.. usually the stuff that hits home comes after NC!
Christine T.

January 3, 2014 at 1:01 am

I got a hold of him. He said if I didn’t stop contacting him he would call the police and file a restraining order. I told him I couldn’t stand leaving things that bad. I asked if we could be friends and he kept saying no. He kept saying no we couldn’t be friends and when I told him I didn’t want him to think bad of me, I didn’t want him to see me as this crazy stalker, and I wanted an opportunity to be in his life as a friend. Eventually he told me he would think about it, but I needed to wait for him to initiate contact. He said he’s not going to delete my number or his but I can’t contact him at all. He has used that line before “I’ll think about it.” When he broke up with me and i asked him to reconsider, he said that and he told me he said that just to get me out of the house and make me feel better. Remember he blocked my Facebook and he is dating a new girl. It’s been four months since the break up. One of those months I did no contact which he stated dating someone and he has been ignoring me for the past month. I’ll leave him alone, but I love him and still want him back. I feel like he is lying just to get me to leave him alone. What is your opinion? Should I give up? What is the likely hood that he will ever contact me again?
Christine T.

January 5, 2014 at 8:04 am

Is my situation too far? He thinks I’m crazy and dangerous and him dating someone months after the break up so it’s not a rebound anymore is it?

Kat

January 1, 2014 at 11:15 pm

Well done for writing these advices so well Chris. I found them the best ones I have come across on the internet yet. It works like a charm (my own experience) if you have enough stamina to follow the whole process thru. Besides it turned my logic around regarding general approach to good relationships and attracting guys. Lots of times I remember quote from a movie ‘In the game of seduction, There is only one rule: Never fall in love.’ 🙂 My congratulations again for writing it so condense and yet very logical. XK

admin

January 2, 2014 at 6:29 pm

That is what I was aiming for! To create the best guides on the internet.

Lynn

January 1, 2014 at 6:35 pm

I did limited contact for 25 days….we talked in person once and started getting neutral text responses. Had NC for a week and he invented an excuse to call me on the phone and had a positive exchange with neutral and positive texting on an almost daily basis since then, and another long positive phone call. Had to stop by his house and pick up something of mine and I commented that it’s been quite a change of heart for him to be calling and texting, and he said it is just general conversation and he just wanted to see how I was doing. He then proceeded to say he had to go because he was going out to dinner (with his new gf of course). I have read your guide on when to quit trying, but it has only been a month since the end of NC and us talking again (2 months of him dating the new girl). Do I just need to give him more time to think about breaking up with her?
Lea

December 30, 2013 at 9:21 pm

Hi chris your guides have been so helpful!
So 3 months ago my boyfriend of 2 years left me, 3 weeks later he’s in a relationship with a girl who lives 5 hours away (ldr).
We have gone back and forth between contact and no contact and Boxing Day we ended up sleeping together (big mistake I know). He told me he still has feelings for me but is happy in his new relationship and wants me to meet someone and be happy too.
I am now back in strict no contact since this happened, I just don’t know whether there is anything left between us, should I just give up all hope?
Cyber stalking has set me way back recently and have just found out she’s down visiting right now which makes me sick knowing I was in his bed just 2 days ago!
Is no contact going to help this situation?

admin

January 1, 2014 at 10:37 pm

Definitely quit the facebook stalking hahaha. I know it is really hard but at some point you have to realize when things are harming more than helping. Definitely go NC for a bit.
Lea

January 2, 2014 at 7:50 am

I’ve blocked everything so I can’t see anything as found out she met all his family which has killed me, which makes me think there’s no hope left at all? Also because I’ve blocked him he can’t see anything I’m doing, is that the right thing to do?
And do you think under these circumstances I should do nc for 30 days? She lives 5 hours away and I expect she’ll be going home any day soon

Jay

December 30, 2013 at 4:11 pm

Hey Chris my ex broke up with me after us getting back together and is now dating someone after us being broken up for 2 days, at first he texted me evryday but neutral texts and I didn’t reply but then he textd me something that really pissed me off and I told him off nicely! I just want to know if him texting me means that he could still be interested! I know sometimes I get over emotional and he said that’s why he left me! But the other day he even told me I look nice! Should. I.do the no contact again? His current gf isn’t rly good looking and my ex really loved me we wanted to get married now I don’t know its the 3rd time for the year that we broke up! I broke up with him the first time! Help!
Rose

December 29, 2013 at 2:04 pm

Hello Chris,

Thanks for your posts. They have a lot of good information.

I need a bit of help please (sorry if my english is not perfect, is not my mother language).

My boyfriend left me 3 months ago after 2 years together. He said he loved me but there was something missing. During the weeks after the breakup I only contacted him twice and the 2nd time I told him that if that was what he wanted I would respect his decission. Since then I have been in NC for a bit more than 4 weeks now.

On Christmas eve I received a message, very neutral. “Hello Rose, I really wish you a Happy Christmas and a wonderful 2014”. I didn´t respond that day. I waited until next morning. My respone was also very neutral “Thank you very much. Same to you”.

Today I have seen on the Internet a picture that shows that he is with somebody.

I still love him and I don´t know what to do. Some days I feel I should let him go and some others, I just can´t. Any sugestions?

Thank you very much
Person of interest

December 29, 2013 at 12:54 am

I have a few questions regarding my situation is there an email I can email personally

admin

December 29, 2013 at 6:50 pm

Well, I really don’t respond to emails anymore. It was just overwhelming me.

John

December 26, 2013 at 1:56 am

Hello Chris.

I came by your site today, and read a couple of your articles, and i must say i was caught. Now, i know i might be ridiculous for writing this wall of text, but hope you might be able to help. I’m not your usual case though, because i’m a boy my self. Now i guess that the point of this site, is that you are a man yourself, and thus you know what goes on inside the brain of a male. But since you seem to be rather clever on these general matters i’m sure you might be able to help me out in some way.

I broke up with my ex a month and a week ago. We had been together for 22 months. Roughly little over a month before we broke up, my girlfriend told me that we had problems. Those problems were mainly that she felt irritated at me most of the time, for reasons she didn’t know, and she felt that our love feelings were mostly gone, and we had become just friends. Now don’t get me wrong, i’m sure there were still a good bunch of feelings at the time, but most had probably faded a bit, and we considered each other best friends. And thats true. Not only were we the perfect couple, but we had an amazing friendship at the same time. I guess at the time i was happy with being more friends, than romantic (i’ll get back to this in a bit), but she felt it was a huge problem. At the time i had had a period where i had felt less attracted to her sexually, and our sex life was not as good as it used to be. We both decided that we would really give it all we possibly could, and would invest everything into making it work again. I don’t think i really knew the exact extent, and thus i probably didn’t take it as seriously as i should. two weeks passed, and i started to work a bit on it, and she confronted me, telling me she didn’t feel things had changed, and we agreed that we’d not be seeing each other privately, would still text as usual, and would talk when we met in school (we go to the same high school, different classes though, and we’re both 18), and when we met up at parties with our friends. More time passed, and the time we spent together was more affectionate, and i felt things were actually going somewhere, but then she suddenly broke up, as nothing had changed for her.

She had given it everything, and had nothing left to give. I was shattered. I love her a huge bunch, and i was convinced we were meant to be, and so was she before all of this. We had plans for the future, and everything looked perfect. The month that followed the break up tore me apart. We talked a bit on the phone via texts, and when we met at school. On 4 occasions i contacted her to propose my ideas and how i was convinced things would work, and every time she let me down, every time more confident than the one before. 3 weeks ago she said that it would be very nice if we would fit together again in the future, but it wasn’t something she had as a goal, and i’m pretty sure she doesn’t really believe it to happen, at least not any time in the foreseeable future. Now i’ve really reflected upon things, and i know it’s real feelings. I do miss all the benefits of being in a relationship, but what i really miss is her, because she really contributes to my life, and there are so many amazing things about her that i love (Yes there are also things i hate about her, but i can definitively live with her flaws, and they don’t bother me). This last weekend (5 weeks after the break up) i finally reached some degree of inner peace. Last monday i told her that i was finally on her side, that i understood everything, and had accepted the situation, believing it all to be for the better. I decided that i would work on myself, and improve upon the things about me that led to the break up, and through meaningful contact i would try to show her that i had improved, and make her believe that a relationship could work for us again. A new and improved stronger one that is, and that way i’d try to make her want me back.

As i chatted with her casually i asked her what she’d been up to in the weekend and she told me that she had been to some sort of christmas lunch with one of her friends family. Now this friend is one she’s known for a very long time. Their parents go way back, but they never have talked as friends before 3 months ago. They started texting, and things went nuts, and they had contact all the time, and started seeing each other privately. I was starting to get worried, but tried to forget it. I know she tells him everything, and he’s helping her with all of this. Now as she told me about this, i felt it was a bit weird, and told one of our mutual friends, who then told me that my ex, and this boy had feelings for each other. They’d talked about it (my ex and him) but had decided not to be in a relationship, since both had just come out of long term relationships. I know they spend a lot of time together (i even have a feeling that it’s on a daily basis, and that they might even be doing stuff – gosh!). I sort of try to consider this as a rebound relationship, just without the commitment, and official title of being in a relationship.

How should i go about this? Should i step back to let her miss me? I’m worried that if i stay around as a friend, shell just see me as a secure plan B, and that’ll give her secureness to be with this guy, and thus the chances of the rebound working out get higher, and my chances of getting back with her are shattered. But at the same time, i’m worried that NC will increase the emotional gap between us, and that will then prevent me from being able to show her that i’m a better me, and work on things. Help!

admin

December 26, 2013 at 6:19 pm

If you stay around as a friend you will get friendzoned.

NC is the way to go. Trust me, if you are friends with her and she begins to lean on you she will just use you for making herself feel better.

Karen

December 24, 2013 at 1:48 am

Chris, i got him back but after two weeks he said he needed space because he felt like things between us happened too fast. We dated eight years and broke up 3months. He also rebounded. He told me he wants to feel if indeed he was doing the right things in his life. He messaged me and told me he loves me so much but can i just gve him time to find himself. He’s pulling away. Should i pullback and stay outside his reach or should i keep the communication line open? I was thinking of pulling back and just let him come to me and i wanted to gv hm the chance to miss me. I also think that he is really attracted with the rebound and he’s weighing things. I’ve changed physically and mentally during the NC and he was really happy with that. I am more logical now. Tell me what to do please. Thanks chris.

admin

December 24, 2013 at 7:13 pm

How long are you doing NC. Sorry, I mean how long have you done it for?

Nj

December 22, 2013 at 2:07 pm

Hi, Chris!I think I lost my post at your LDR article, I have tried reposted twice,still didnt work, I saw other girls comments seemed to be missed too that LDR article, so I come here to try my luck,sorry for the bothering!
Thing is since the last time you told the secret to get him back is to maintain that intensity once hes been contacted again,Ive been working hard on that, and things getting pretty good, though its slow, We kept contacted each other everyday and he gave positive feedback to my bring out good memory text, once I even said “I wish you were here “to him regards Christmas , he answered with a pity face, cause he will travel around Vietnam by his motorbike with his colleague during Christmas holidays, this is exactly what I worried about, I mean the things between him and me is just getting better by our constantly text, now he will be away for travel for about few weeks and not back to Saigon (city he stayed )until Jan 3,he actually started from today, so I will not be able to text him for such a long time, even can, that still will be limited, cause hes travel around, dont think he can get wifi all the time. I sent one text to him today and not heard from him till now, he still said good night to me yesterday, I am worried the travel will weak our connection, what do you think Chris? what can I do about it? just wait?
thanks a lot for your advice!
Bsrgs
Nj

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admin

December 22, 2013 at 8:01 pm

No problem!

It might weaken it but it is something you will have to deal with. You should just work on being patient and trying to do the little things to maintain what connection you do have.
Nj

December 24, 2013 at 5:36 pm

I see ,again ,you advices worked ,he’s been contacted again,thank you very much Chris !wish you a very very Merry Christmas ！
bsrgs !
Nj

Claire

December 21, 2013 at 9:49 am

Hey Chris,

So tomorrow will be day 30 of NC. I found out my boyfriend started dating some other girl around 2 weeks after we broke up – they’d been casual friends and mutual friends set them up. It has been about a month and a week since we broke up, 30 days of absolutely no contacts – not on my or his end.

During this time, he has made it very apparent to everyone he’s dating this new girl. She’s all over his Facebook and Instagram according to friends (I have blocked his updates on these to heal better, so I’ve only caught wind of this), and he’s seriously flaunting her.

I don’t really know how to proceed with this at this point since they seem reeeaaally happy right now – again they have mutual friends/are in the same social circle and his friends don’t exactly like me considering how rocky things were when we broke up, and how different I am from them.

In the meantime during NC, I definitely have been focusing on myself and working on healing, ignoring him and this new biddie.

We’re on holiday right now from school and won’t be in the same vicinity until January 13.

I was wondering what I should do. If I should wait it out even longer because of how fresh things are, if I should start sending subtle texts soon to get the gears moving since it’s already been 30 days since our last contact? Along with your guide I have also purchased TXB so I was planning on using that system when the 30 days were up, but with this new girl in the picture, I’m just not sure what to do.

admin

December 22, 2013 at 2:24 am

I am really sorry this happened.

I think you should still contact him but maybe generalize the texts more.
Claire

December 22, 2013 at 4:57 am

Thanks for your reply Chris 🙂 would it worsen things/hurt to give it another week before contacting him? And what do you mean by general exactly?
admin

December 22, 2013 at 7:46 pm

No it shouldnt at all. And just don’t load up the text with a lot of emotional stuff.
Claire

January 7, 2014 at 1:34 am

Hey Chris,

So a couple of days after christmas I sent him a text saying, “hey, had [meal that we had everyday together during summer] today and randomly thought of you haha. Hope everything is going well :)”

He replied TODAY. “Saying sorry for not responding sooner. Been pretty busy lately, but I’m in [vacation spot] and we passed a [hotel with my last name] and thought of you as well. Hope break has been good to you!”

…what do I do now? We get back to school this week so idk if I should even reply, considering the fact that it took him 30 years to send me a text, but that may just be because he was unsure of what to say because it was outta the blue? Idk.
Claire

January 9, 2014 at 10:31 am

Hey Chris,

Was wondering if you had any advice on this?
Claire

January 11, 2014 at 9:39 am

Hi Chris… so I read your latest article on regret, and while I sent a similar opening text he replied to it over a week later. I ended up not replying to it at all… I interpreted his text as (read it above), he didn’t think mine was important enough to respond to in a timely fashion and he’s just replying back because out of politeness.

…what should I do now?
Claire

December 21, 2013 at 9:56 am

And to give context we had been dating for 8 1/2 months and had some really amazing experiences together (each other’s firsts, traveled abroad during the summer together)
Claire

December 21, 2013 at 10:00 am

Also,I became a shitty emotional wreck during the last 2 months of the breakup due to depression/anxiety, and this helped drive him away, but I’ve really gotten a lot of clarity since then and have redirected my life/goals to a positive direction – just to give more context haha.

JJ

December 21, 2013 at 9:24 am

Hi Chris,

I have completed the nc stage and I’m ready to send a message now but the last time I spoke to my ex he said he didn’t want to talk to me, as your article stated his new gf ended any remaining friendship between me and my ex had
Would it not seem crazy to send him a general text now (as the one in your guide) with out mentioning the argument we had before we stopped talking.

admin

December 22, 2013 at 2:22 am

No I don’t think its crazy but make sure its relaly general.
JJ

December 22, 2013 at 10:23 am

I was going to text him about a bar a recently went to. We spoke about going there when we dated. Does it need to be mote general then that?
admin

December 22, 2013 at 7:55 pm

I think that will be ok.
JJ

December 23, 2013 at 11:32 pm

I got a neutral response..better than nothing I guess. How long do I wait before I send the next message?
admin

December 24, 2013 at 7:00 pm

Not the greatest but not the worst.

Wait around 3 days.

Emma

December 20, 2013 at 3:14 pm

Hey Chris, I started the no contact a week ago with my ex bf.. Within the week he text me” I still think of you and I hope I didn’t make a mistake ” I reply that I think of him as well and I miss him and love him! No response from him on that ! He has a gf.. Since we broke up a month ago.. I did buy your guide.. And found it to be very helpful! Thank you! But I am not prepare for these texts from him out of the blue! What does it mean???! We dated for 3 years!! And we can’t even talk about it., should do no contact again? What if he says a text like that again?

Emma

December 21, 2013 at 6:23 am

No I only lasted actually 4 days on NC.. Shameful ! 😉 does the NC works if he moved out of town and travels for business?
admin

December 22, 2013 at 2:12 am

It can work 🙂
admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:51 am

Yes did you last the entire month?

Anonymous

December 19, 2013 at 9:17 pm

My exboyfriend broke up with me 4 weeks ago. He hasn’t contacted me since then. Today I found out he already has a new girlfriend 4 WEEKS ago. Is itt still a rebound or not? Is there still possibility he’ll talk to me?

admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:16 am

It is still in rebound territory.
Anonymous

December 21, 2013 at 4:43 am

Could it be possible that they’ve been liking each other since they live in the same apartment building? If so, is there still a chance I could get back with my ex? He blocked me on facebook, never replied to any of my text. My friend messaged him on facebook, but he blocked my friend as well. Does that mean he finally moved on? How long does the honeymoon phase last for rebound relationship?
admin

December 22, 2013 at 2:11 am

I want to say however long it takes… it is different for each couple. Some can last for 6 months other just a few weeks. It is like throwing a bee at a dartboard.
Anonymous

December 22, 2013 at 6:50 am

Thank you for your response. Yea, it’s hard to recover from this. After saying he doesn’t love me anymore to cheating with 2 women and making me believe that there was no someone else, and saying he wouldn’t get into any relationship right away. I don’t really know what to believe anymore. It makes me question everything that happened and even myself. Leaving me twice, doubles the pain that I’m feeling. Weeks have past and l still don’t know how to handle my feelings for him. I’ll just let God do everything for me. Thank you for doing this site, it helps a lot.
Anonymous

December 22, 2013 at 6:56 am

There’s no more ways I can think of for him to talk to me. He blocked on facebook and never replied to any of my texts even if I’m the one who apologized first. I don’t even know what I did. I’ll just give up since he has given up on me more than twice. I was just this stupid girl, accepted him, flaws and all.
admin

December 22, 2013 at 7:50 pm

Do you need help on getting over him?
Anonymous

December 23, 2013 at 1:07 am

I really do.. I tried forgetting about him but at the end of the day, I always think of him. I always wake up in the middle of the night crying because I think of him. He has came back to me before after a year, and sometimes I do hope it happens again. But everything is different now.
admin

December 23, 2013 at 8:13 pm

I am really sorry about that.. I can’t imagine what it is like for you.
Anonymous

December 23, 2013 at 11:23 pm

Thank you for responding to every comment, I appreciate it a lot. There are times I wonder why do i love someone that much and they end up hurting us. I know I might have done something to him, I might not have reached his expectations and needs. But I know i tried my best to be a good girlfriend to him. I am accepting the fact that he already has a new girlfriend and has moved on but it still hurts me a lot.
admin

December 24, 2013 at 7:05 pm

I know it hurts. Believe me I know. But there is a light at the end of the tunnel. Don’t lose sight of that fact.

anonymous

December 19, 2013 at 2:37 pm

Hey chris, btw any new guides coming up? or an updated ebook? Version 2.0 of your ebook perhaps? Hahaha.

admin

December 19, 2013 at 7:48 pm

I am working on it!

A new guide should be out this week and I am working on a new product. It is taking longer than I expected though so I am sorry about the wait. I kind of needed a break lately but I am back grinding away.

Jane

December 19, 2013 at 10:44 am

Well Chris, after our first breakup back in February my ex started living with a new girlfriend who I heard was “perfect” and after 5months they broke up and he wanted me back but I wanted to take things slowly. Then out of the blue in mid September he told me he didn’t want me anymore and that he has a new girlfriend, he actually called her “wife”. 2weeks later he started living with his new girlfriend, they’ve been together now for 3months. During our breakup he told me that his girlfriend is not as pretty as me but that he still loves her.

I have come to realize that my ex is, I think needy of having a lady around him all the time bc he used to insist on me to move in with him but I was not ready, and so he felt like I didn’t love him enough. He did not date his current “wife”, they just started living together immediately. I do hope that its a rebound relationship like the first one but still have fears that it might not be bc he still hates me as from September and he wont reply my texts even after I wrote him an apology letter. I have never seen him as from July and was thinking I go to his office in person since he will not reply my texts, I have never called him. What do you think from all this.

admin

December 19, 2013 at 7:43 pm

He called her a wife…

May I ask why you want this guy back?
Jane

December 20, 2013 at 12:46 pm

hahaha, sounds crazy. Yes he said he has a wife, but that really didn’t shock me probably because I have seen him tread on that road before. Remember the perfect girl they lived with together for 5months and yet treated her as a “wife”. He left her with all her perfection.
I want him back b/c am still in love with this guy Chris, and I believe we can make a great couple, deep down I believe he still has feelings for me but his pride and ego are my biggest challenge, and for the fact that I know he is using this lady/ladies to make himself feel loved and valued, he needs someone to prove to him that he still has it as a man. I think he is afraid of communicating with me and being my friend simply b/c he knows he’ll get weak and his feelings will get reignited. Now, does this make any sense or am I telling myself lies.
admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:45 am

… Well, if he has a wife… I would say move on..
Jane

December 20, 2013 at 1:09 pm

Chris I am not really saddened or scared by the fact that he is seeing someone else right now. Ever since I found real happiness which is inside of me and valued myself more, I found peace and acknowledged that fact and am OK with it. I believe in destiny and fate, I believe in the old notion that if we were meant to be, then we will be. What I wish is for him to at least be my friend. That is all/mostly what I am asking for and I intend for him to see it that way. I believe forgiveness and friendship is more important than his love. And love begins from friendship. If he’s my friend, then its easy for him to love me again. I don’t understand how one can hate a fellow human being for this long, much less someone you once shared a life with. Is asking for forgiveness and friendship too much to ask from a man?? I really don’t get it, I still don’t… I now want a friend back, not an ex boyfriend. Chris can you help me on this one?

Chris, now let me rephrase my need and request to you…..”Chris how can I get my ex to forgive me and be my friend”??? Help me out on this
admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:49 am

With time, patience, trust and a bit of luck.

Clara

December 19, 2013 at 1:45 am

Hi Chris!
I completed N.C. with my ex, who had a new girlfriend, so I didn’t contact him even when N.C. is over…but he has consistently initiated contact with me, and a few days ago he said “you are Clara to me and always will be 🙂 I do miss you and your smile.” I wasn’t sure how to react, so I said a cool “I’m smiling a lot these days :)” and we moved on with the conversation. He has told me he has guilt over the way he handled things, and asked if I was seeing anyone new. What does this mean? I’m hesitant to get excited, but then just last night he facebook-ed me just to tell me “I am going to break up with K. It’s not working out, too many red flags already again (this was their third try, and they got together 10 days after our break up. He and I dated for 4 years.) ” And then he immediately did it! completely flushed her out of his life. He hasn’t asked for me back, but does this mean he is thinking about it? He and K didn’t even make it 2 months, and he was contacting me the entire time. Any advice would be helpful 🙂

admin

December 19, 2013 at 7:20 pm

I think he is!
Clara

December 19, 2013 at 11:23 pm

so, what should be my game plan at this point? I am currently serving a 10 month term in Americorps NCCC in CO, but am about to go home for a 2.5 week vacation…how do I prepare, I’m pretty sure he’ll want to meet up with me. Thanks for any help 🙂
admin

December 21, 2013 at 3:22 am

Well, I guess the first question you have to ask yourself is if you want to see him?
Clara

December 21, 2013 at 8:32 am

I am only mildly ashamed that, yes, indeed I do. lol I still love the man, even though he is obviously confused.
Clara

December 20, 2013 at 2:50 pm

Scratch that, he DOES want to meet up with me…but he called me last night while I was out dancing with my friends (which is weird, because we haven’t spoken on the phone in over 2 months). He told me that he didn’t actually break up with K…that he went over to do it, quite angry, but she didn’t react like he thought so they are working it out. Not in a relationship, but dating each other casually or something, I don’t know. I’m so upset about it…I feel like the idiot for getting the wrong idea.

abby

December 18, 2013 at 5:32 pm

hello, chris.. 🙂 well i want to tell you about my processes to get my ex back. i think, i have to struggle for it about months. maybe years. what i want to say is, i am happy now. 🙂 and i am afraid to make a contact with him again. but thats not a problem because, like you’ve said, its about my happiness. i suddenly realize that i was not happy with him like i am now. i guess i have to find myself first. my identity. who i am. because, all this time with him i feel lost. for three in a half years. and now i noticed that in the facebook, he’s not happy. he kept commenting people about something that is lame. and i know him. and i know that deep inside he’s hoping for me to take him back. and i saw the differences between the period of our breakup (from the freshness..gee i hope you understand) and the current period that he’s getting bored of himself and his life that eventually he is missing me. but yeaah, i have to find my trueself first. and as i’m getting far from him, i saw that i am waaaay beautiful than he thought. 😉 i am much more confidence right now. 🙂 and more happier. is not that because he’s not mine anymore. but it seems like i found out why he’s so bored of me. and my personality right now is better too. 🙂 i’ll be in the college soon. 🙂
anonymous

December 18, 2013 at 12:39 pm

Hello chris! Just to give you an update abt my situation. I’m back in contact with my ex; second time NC. Which i did for a wk. Day before he texted me gd morning and after i replied him the same, he didn reply.

I tried again today. This time i send a gd morning msg and included “lunch with me today?” He replied he has a lunch meeting. Said that if he didn have a lunch meeting, he would have lunch with me. Fair enough. I replied saying its okay i understand some other time perhaps. Then our convo went back and forth abt work (since he is now working in the same company as me) we have a company event coming up. He asked me if im going. I said “the venue is too far for me but if you’re gonna bring your gf, im curious to see the lady who won your heart. Hahaha” to which he replied “hahaha. ive no gf. And i might be too lazy to go anyway”

So thereafter the convo cont for one whole day, we texted back and forth abt work and stuff. His replies are quick! Within a few mins. I made sure i take my time to reply him. I’m surprised that our convo lasted this long.

I’m thinking of doing NC again for a few days to see if he would initiate contact. And if he doesn, i have a plan on how to initiate contact. Also, i cant help wondering why is it when im less emotional towards him, if i dont freak out on him in any way, he’d claim to not have a gf. But if i happen to get all emotional on him, he’d bring up that he’s seriously dating someone. I dont know if i’m reading too much into it but i cant help noticing that pattern. I wonder if indeed he has or doesn have a gf? Or if indeed he is, why oh why does he seemed far so secretive abt her? Is he just making up having a gf to escape frm me when im emotional or he’s just plain lying to me when i’m not emotional so that i dont get emotional? Am i making any sense. Haha. Hmmm.

To be honest, sometimes i feel that he’s telling me he’s dating other cause he doesn wanna lead me on. But when our convo gets to the point where he feels comfy, he lets down and say he’s not dating others cause at that point; he may feel like giving me and him another try. i dont know! Why am i wasting brain cells thinking abt this. You’re the expert, pls tell me. Why he changes his ans on having a gf or dating others.

admin

December 18, 2013 at 6:58 pm

Sorry changes his what on having a gf or dating others?
anonymous

December 19, 2013 at 1:07 am

He says he doesn have a gf. But he is seriously dating someone. But he is not in love. So what does that mean?

Also, ive noticed that i was the last lady he seriously dated. To the extent of my photos being all over his facebook. And he introduced me to everyone he knows as his gf etc.

After me, it seems he is just “dating ard” a few ladies at one go. Maybe at least 5? Or more. And claims they are all “friends” I dont know for sure if he has “tunnel vision” on one particular lady since he claims to not being attached.

Oh. I went out with him sometime in sept. Asked him why he doesn want to “check in” fb with me since when we were together back then He was very fond of that. He said “if i check in with you, other ladies will qns me” now his fb is clean. No check ins with ladies. No photos of other ladies. Ive seen photos of him with a few ladies from his friends and his family members fb, but he removed those tagged photos frm his fb timeline. He seems careful to show pple that he doesn have a serious gf.

One more thing. If he seems to be unsure abt commitment, assuming he is dating a few ladies at one go, do i stand a fighting chance? For now he doesn seemed interested to dating me anymore 🙁 but its hard to say really since at times his replies to my text seems positive.
admin

December 19, 2013 at 7:18 pm

Are you saying he is lying to you about dating someone?
anonymous

December 20, 2013 at 2:06 pm

Yeap dating someone. He’s always saying that he’s single. And i believe he currently could be in contact and dating with a few ladies in one go. You see chris, my ex is planning on settling down soon. He’s 27 this yr and he used to tell me how he’s planning to get married by 28 or 29. You know the saying “women get married when they feel that they have found the right man. Men get married to whichever lady they’re dating at the point of time when they feel they are ready for marriage” thats what i fear 🙁

We broke up in april. I only really started trying to win him back in nov. He seems nicer to me now frm his texts. But since nov till now we’ve only met twice. First time, i asked him. Second time he asked me. Now lately i’ve been trying to hint to him for another meet up but he always makes up excuses. I kinda get the feeling since he has a few ladies on his list, he crossed me out 🙁

Advice pls?

Julia

December 18, 2013 at 10:26 am

Hi,
I had a Long dinstance relationship.
We broke up 4 mths ago. He is contacting me every 10-15 days. Sending me pictures with things I might like or other stuff. I always responded very short. “Cool”, “wow”… 2 weeks ago when he send me something I asked him ” how are u?” Then he responded “how are u?”
So I wrote him that I moved in a new apartment and that I’m very happy right now. He didn’t wanted to tell me anything. Than he called me and we were talking for 10 minutes. 2 days later I saw an fb that he was on vacation. I couldn’t resist so I asked him were and with who?
He answered: with people I do not know.
Now he called me again just out of the blue. I picked up…
I heard from a friend that he was with a new girl at a wedding 2 months ago. Should I start the nc rule now? What can I do? My bday is next week. I didn’t invite him. Should i pick up? Should I write him that I want to stop the contact?

admin

December 18, 2013 at 6:44 pm

Have you read my LDR guide?
Julia

December 18, 2013 at 6:20 pm

Sorry Not a New Girl.. It was his ex

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