How To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back If HE Broke Up With You

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Bee

February 12, 2016 at 12:17 am

Hi Amor,
I havent heard anything from him (apart from him watching my snap chat stories but i dont think that counts for anything). Anyways its now been almost 3 weeks Nc. A mutual friend and i have been chatting and she mentioned to me yesterday that he has gone travelling. Just booked a random trip somewhere snowing but she forgot the name of the place. I dont know who with and how long for, i didnt want to ask questions cos then it would seem like i care (which i do haha). Its made me feel so emotional again and ive been doing so well. Just finding this out made me so sad for some reason. Does a guy book a holiday when they are really trying to move on? Im going to extend NC till no when hes back. I doubt he would be gone for more the 3 wks as he runs 2 businesses.

Bee

February 22, 2016 at 8:32 am

I have completed 1 month nc. He hasnt reached out but he does look at all my snap chat my stories still .alot of friends i met through him have reached out and even his secretary commented on my fb photo saying she misses me. But nothing from him! Im not sure if hes still travelling or what, but i just sent him a text about 3 hours ago. Still no reply 🙁 it was purely a business related question. If he doesnt reply i think that will be my closure to move on. Do you think i should give him a couple days to reply? I still miss him but i feel like as time has gone by im more angry aboit how things have panned out.
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 23, 2016 at 11:09 am

Yes give him.more time since we don’t know if he’s traveling or not
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 12, 2016 at 2:48 pm

We can’t assume that.. What if he got invited there? Or that was business related?

Meme

February 10, 2016 at 5:36 pm

Me and my boyfriend broke up two days ago. I still don t understand what happened and i m so confused if i should do something about it or just let him go. I was so frustrated that he will not have enough time for me cause he s busy with his bachelor thesis but I m too and i can manage to find time for him and my friends especially when I know that he will leave the country soon. We ve been in a long distance relationship and he was coming home and i visited him too and it was fine. yet it was sad that we couldn t spend more time together. So when i told him that i wanted just more than two hours to spend with him and told him that i just want to be with him more now when he s leaving for a longer time and that i understand that he has a lot of things to do with his bachelor thesis but I do too. Also i mentioned that the uni is not the most important thing in the world but i repeated that i understand the fact that he has a lot of things to do. Then he came to my house and was more quiet than in other days. and i asked him if he s going to be like this till april and he said then that that s what he was thinking about. if our relationship has a future or something like that cause he wants to work during summer holidays so he might not be here and he plans to have internship and i told him that s ok we can work it out somehow. And then he went like i don t want you to feel unhappy. So i started crying cause i haven t think that this day would come. I asked him if he loves me and he said yes i love you. I love you like a girlfriend my friend as a person as well but the love is changing somehow and i don t see us together. He wouldn t listen to my arguments at all. His friend told me that he was with him that day and he just briefly told him that he is overwhelmed with everything and doesn t have time for things and that he looked pretty sad about it. Now i m still thinking about him and i wish that he will text me or something that he will realize that he wants me back in my life when he told me that he loves me, he even cried three times in my bed and he is way too rational for this. So i don t know what to do, if i should let him go or text him that i want to talk with him. We were happy together when he was in the city or i was at his place. I just maybe was too demanding, i mean for his attention. What do you think? What should I do? Or is there any chance to get it back together?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 11, 2016 at 11:22 am

Do you consider doing nc?

Ray

February 4, 2016 at 10:17 pm

My boyfriend and I dated for 10 months. We were happy and things were going great, he even told me he loved me the week before we broke up. The last two months of our relationship I started dealing with some obsessive negative thoughts caused by anxiety. I didn’t know at the time what was causing it. I criticized him and made his feel like I had some anger or sadness towards him. Picking at things and hurting his ego. We had a lot of good times together. I was close with his family. We fought maybe a few times and it was always after I had been drinking and I would express unhappiness or my insecurity to him. The last time we hung out I got way too drunk and cried and blew up and said a bunch of things I regret. Things I’ve really thought about and I truly don’t feel. He’s a mature man and has been nothing but good and honest to me. When we broke up he said it was like I was looking for something to be mad at him about, and said “This just isn’t working”. He hugged me long and hard like it was goodbye. I miss him and I’m working on healing and speaking with a therapist about my anxiety. I want to break my pattern of negative thoughts. I have no desire to drink because when I do I can’t control my emotions and I need to be in control right now. Do you think it’s possible for him to hear me out and forgive me? After we broke up he left my house and I haven’t contacted him since. It’s been a week and I haven’t heard from him.

I miss him so much and wish I could take it all back. I’m in therapy and working on dealing with my obsessive negative thoughts.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 5, 2016 at 10:14 am

Hi Ray,

That’s good that you’re in therap and that you have given each other space. Talk to you therapist also about this because she can help you too. I think there is a chance. Especially, now that you’re working in yourself. So, focus on that for now.

Koralin

February 4, 2016 at 2:52 pm

Hi there. My ex-boyfriend and I have been together for almost three years, and I would say that it was a generally happy and fulfilling relationship. We were the kind of people who like to think long-term, so us getting together wasn’t a light decision, and for the most part we both knew that we wanted a life together. We also weren’t the kind of couple that would fight a lot: we had a few misunderstandings , but we were open to each other about how we felt, and things would usually be resolved in one or two or three days. The break-up took me completely by surprise, and I would say it probably was because he had a lot on his plate. There was a lot of pressure from family, and even more pressure at work, and all of that came at a time when he felt like he didn’t know what he wanted in life. And so he called it off, and he said that given his priorities at the moment and given his temperament (he had always been the kind of person who liked to try and solve things on his own), he felt it was better that he be alone. I tried to reason with him, but I realized that maybe it would be better to give him time to sort things out, though at the same time it worried me that he would never want to get back together. It broke my heart, especially because I knew that it wasn’t because there was something fundamentally wrong with the relationship. I haven’t contacted him for two weeks since he broke up with me, and given the circumstances of his and my work we’ll be in different towns for the next four months. I’m not quite sure how to approach this anymore.

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 5, 2016 at 7:26 am

Hi Koralin,

That’s good that you know that there’s nothing wrong with you, but if he really needs the space, that’s the best thing you can do. If you push to get back with him now, it may get worse. But maybe after the nc you could try to contact him and guage if he’s still stressed but make your first contact casual. In a way that he doesn’t see it that you’re trying to get back with him
Koralin

February 4, 2016 at 2:56 pm

In the two weeks also that we haven’t spoken, I’ve gone over our relationship and thought of things that both he and I could’ve done better. I know where I went wrong, and I know how to make those changes if we get back together. And I also know where he went wrong – and still, I want him back, not to change him but because I know those little quirks are things I can live with, and also because we had always helped each other become better people.

Lana

February 3, 2016 at 4:51 am

Hi,
My boyfriend (24) broke up with me(19) a few days ago. We have been dating for 4 months. He says that I broke his trust because I didn’t stop talking to a guy who kept asking me out. He broke up with me over the phone and he said that nothing I could so could change his mind and that the relationship would not work out. To him, trust is the biggest thing in a relationship and he told me that if someone broke that he could not forgive them. The difference is that in the past he has never really been as serious as he has been with me. He introduced me to his parents as well as all his friends. We all meet every week at church and his parents really like me. We both made each other really happy and even though we never said ‘i love you’ to each other, I think we both know we did. He did say that he had thought about the decision for two days and that he spoke to every about it and then came to this conclusion. I did apologize and begged him to give me a second chance but all he replied was ” I can’t” and that it was better if both of us just moved on. After he hung up I messaged and called but he didn’t reply or call back. I really do want him back and I’m desperate for help on how to do that. I am currently implementing the no contact rule for 30 days. What do you think is going through his head right now ? What else should I do to help me get him back? Please help. Thank you so much for your time and I really hope for a reply.
Bee

February 2, 2016 at 6:43 am

Me and my Ex were together a year and a half before it ended roughly a week ago. We had an amazing relationship never argued much, spent lots of time together, were close with each others families, want same things in life and the list goes on. Here is where it gets complicated. He had become extremely busy in the last 3 months of our relationship as he runs 2 businesses. I have always been incredibly supportive of this and have helped in any way that I can. although in the last couple months i felt like his attention shifted focus from me to his work. This caused me to become more naggy and clingy and get upset at him more often as i feel he was more withdrawn. Although he would always re assure me that he was working extra hard to spend more time with me, that he loved me etc.. Anyways, it was roughly a week ago that we had a huge fight. HE told ME that we would get through this and wouldnt let it affect us. I was so upset that i kept pushing it and I initiated the break up in my emotional state. It was when he started to come around to the idea of breaking up that i immediately regretted it and wanted to make things better. He then had it set in his mind that we were breaking up. i was absolutely distraught trying to ring him all night and all morning untill he finally answered. We agreed that i would go to his house and talk things out wich i did. He was still certain that we should break up and even said “we have lost the connection” and “i love you but not enough to continue”. Im still in shock as to how he could just flip like this. He literally told me he loved me when i was upset at him the day before. My whole family is shocked as much as i am. I know with all my heart that this was a rash decision of him because i pushed him to the limit. only just the weekend before, our parents all caught up together. Things were really moving forward and i was so excited to spend the rest of my life with him. Its heart breaking that all of a sudden he feels he ” isn’t sure what he wants”. All i want is another shot at this relationship to be the girl that he fell in love with so hard at the start. I know we can be amazing as we once were, and although things became a bit mundane in the last 2/3 months, we can easily get it back. The few days after the breakup i was messaging, calling, begging and the rest. He only responded once with 1 paragraph saying he was incredibly sorry and has a hole in his heart and he can’t continue on not knowing what he wants. i continued to try and contact him (stupidly) but he just never responded. i then came across this site and decided to put the NC rule into full effect. He has been viewing all of my snap chat stories but i have not seen his. i also deleted him off Facebook but have made it so he has full view of mine. I’m praying with all my heart that he realises his made a mistake and comes back to me! my question is. Does it seem realistic? everyone is telling me i need to move on (which i am doing now, but still he is all that i am thinking about deep down). would love to hear your perspective on this.

bee

February 5, 2016 at 1:52 am

Thanks for replying Amor.

I will take your advice and do 21 days. Its his birthday next week and its going to be really hard not to contact him 🙁 but ill continue on for a further 2 weeks (its already been a week and a bit of nc). When no contact rule is up, and if he still hasnt contacted me, could i ask him a question related to a business venture that im doing? I know that would be something he would reply to, and its not related to our relationship. or should i go down a different path? i could start by saying something like “I have an important question for you!” what do you think? thanks
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 5, 2016 at 10:23 am

You’re welcome. 🙂 Yeah I think that’s a great first text
EBR Team Member: Amor

February 3, 2016 at 12:46 pm

Hi bee,

Yeah, I think it was his ego. When you started to chase him, it was easy for him to ignore you but when yiu stopped it got him to think. I’m hoping but I also think nc will really work. Go with 21, if you reach 21 days and you think you need to extend to 30, go ahead

Kayleigh

January 31, 2016 at 4:31 pm

Do you think it’s okay to start talking to other people at the same time to try to move on?

EBR Team Member: Amor

February 1, 2016 at 7:45 am

Yeah.. of course.. Actually the process of moving on and getting an ex is one. It’s the same process.

Em

January 30, 2016 at 8:47 am

Sorry, this is long. My ex-boyfriend (22) just broke up with me (19) yesterday. We dated for a year and a half. After the first six months, he started going through periods about once every 2-3 months where he seemed abnormally unhappy/unfulfilled/not interested in being with me and would fish for reasons for us to break-up, while I was constantly talking it through with him to try to salvage things. Most of these talks seemed to satisfy him in a logical way, but he always seemed emotionally unsatisfied somehow. Finally, yesterday he told me that he was breaking things off because we were ‘too different’ but didn’t explain what the differences were (although I’m guessing that it’s because I am a very emotional person and he tends to be a more logical, fact-driven person). He also told me that he was always ‘waiting’ for himself to fall in love with me, but it never happened. However, he told me that the first 6 months of our relationship were great. I, personally, can only see one change from when he was happy to now. (I haven’t been treating him any differently, am always kind and supportive of him, and we get along just as famously as we did in the past. Just days before he broke it off, we were still having long, winding, thought-provoking conversations about just about anything.) The one change I can see is our individual sense of purpose in life. We met in college, where we were admittedly both just trying to start a new chapter in our lives to make us happy again. But this flame of enthusiasm and fake fulfillment over something new soon died out and we both ended up quitting our courses. Since then (about 5 months) we have not found jobs and have been spending a lot of time together doing nothing. I personally think that he is so unsatisfied in the relationship lately because we HAVE been doing nothing and going nowhere. Maybe that scares him? Maybe he’s started to associate me with a stagnant life-style? Or maybe he just thought that having a girlfriend would automatically make him feel happier/more fulfilled, and it didn’t? He has just now started a new job, and I too am starting one within the next week. I am planning on using all the tips in this, No Contact, improve my life direction and self-esteem, etc, but I’m wondering if it’s already a broken relationship. Is it possible that his lack of purpose and drive in life coupled with my own could be holding him back from really trying in this relationship??

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 3:47 pm

HI Em,

Your last statement actually made a lot of sense. It pretty much summed up why he’s acting weird plus the fact that both of you are young. So, that’s normal. From what I see, it’s like when the honeymoon phase ended, he got lost. Of course he doesn’t know that the first 6 months was probably the honeymoon phase of your relationship, so when that was over he was “waiting to fall in love.” Actually, that’s true because falling in love and being/staying in love is different. It’s like he’s looking for the feeling of “falling” in love again.
To be honest, the more important thing right now is making both of your lives better. It doesn’t mean that you stop loving each other but if he’s like that, you might be right that it’s because he lacks purpose in life. In the simplest word- he’s not matured yet. He’s not ready yet for a relationship that only mature people can nourish. So, take everything slow. Enjoy life. You can do NC and maybe after that, the first goal you need to do is build a strong connections with each other first before diving back into the girlfriend-boyfriend status.

Emily

January 30, 2016 at 3:35 am

hello
my boyfriend broke up with me and its been like 4-5 mouths that we haven’t been together but ever since we broke up I still cant get over him because I still have feeling for him but the thing is that he has a girlfriend already and every time I see them it reminds me of how me and him use to be and plus we go to the same school and I see him every day at school and it hurts me even more to see him with her and I see him at other places too not just at school and when I see him I get sad and start to cry sometimes I think to my self what did I do to make him brake up with me and also the girl he is going out with is one of my friends well use to be my friend but not anymore because she is going out with him now and it just doesn’t feel right to me and to be honest it doesn’t even look like she likes him I don’t know I just need some help forgetting him because I cant get him out of my head anymore we have so much memories together but I just don’t know what to do anymore

please can you help me!?!?!?!?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 30, 2016 at 3:16 pm

HI Emily,

I think this post fits you more. He Dumped Me For Another Girl… What Do I Do?

Kayleigh

January 29, 2016 at 6:34 pm

Although I did forget to say, he became friends with my so-called ex-friend on facebook a bit after we broke up which really annoyed and upset me. He’d said he wasn’t interested in other girls, but I worry & get jealous in case he’s moving on.
EBR Team Member: Amor

January 27, 2016 at 11:50 am

Hi Kayleigh,

If you really want to make sure you did everything, complete the no contact rule. don’t contact him in any form and don’t fb stalk him. Try it first, then think about again where you would want the relationship to go.
Hana

January 24, 2016 at 3:37 pm

Hey.. So my boy broke up with me in August. We’ve been together for 2years and nothing seemed so bad, till the last two months, when we fought a lot. We tried to fix it but we couldn’t. Someday he just said he wasn’t happy with me and that he’s sorry that I’m not what he’s looking for. So he broke up with me. First month I couldn’t help myself.. I missed him a lot and I was trying to get his attention but nothing worked. I then stopped writing him.. Saw him once more, where we talked like we were old friends and it was really nice. But then 2months nothing. His neighbour started to write to me and we got attached. I mean.. He was just a friend to me, but for him, I was much more.. He wanted to be with me but I couldn’t because I loved my ex.. He soon heard about this from my friend(female), who he was writing all the time.. I don’t know what they had, but it seemed like they were pretty close, that’s why our fights happened in the first place… So now.. after two months of not talking.. we talk agin.. but only if there’s someone else in the group… we play a game together, but never just the two of us… and we go skyping… it’s nice to hear him again but it’s killing me, because i still love him and I want to get him back.. what should I do?? He’s constantly getting on my nerves, sometimes he even says something bad about me.. i don’t know what to do.. 🙁

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 25, 2016 at 10:22 am

Hi Hana,

If you’re in contact with him and you see him personally, that’s good but whenever he gets in your nerves, separate yourself from the situation. walk away for a while, and then go back when you’re feeling better. You need have a good and positive time whenever you’re with him if you want him back but I think you need to consider his attitude too. Why does he say bad thigs about you?

Sarar

January 19, 2016 at 10:19 am

Hey Chris
help me please. My boyfriend broke up with me saying that he dosnt wanna be with anyone. he cant be with anyone right now. we have been together since May2015 and we were angaged. never had problems till November2015. he started working partime. he got busy and he kinda started ignoring me, i call him and i complain. then he suddenly took a break from. bt he call me but stopped seeing me like he used to do. he would call me only to have sex and i would still complain, i couldnt take it I waas soo angry and hurt and started having trust issues. again after few days he tries to make me understand that everything will be fine after his exams which ends on the 28th of jan2016 hes now got a permanant job and he said he was stressed, he evn has to do his assignments, he was always angry and he always shouted at me. i was just crying all the time, he gets angry with everything, then on the 12th i started complaining because he was ignoring me and he got really agry with me, started using filth and i shouted filth back at him. Next day told me to stay away from him that he hated me and hes never gonna be with me, if i evn text him he would just start shouting at me and he blockes me from everything. I caled him from my office phn, my friends phn and he would just shout and hung up on me. then on 16th his cousin met me and i told him that i wana seee my x. he came with my x to where i was, i told him y and he told me that he hav to do his exams and hes really bxy with the job. chris i was really sad 🙁 He told me that i cant force him to be with me (which is true) he said that he dont wana be with anyone and he left. I havent contacted him since then but i am just really hurt. i wakeup cox i miss him, i really cant explain the love i have for him. what should i do? pleeaase help me.

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 19, 2016 at 10:29 am

HI Sarar,

You definitely need to do no contact period for now. He’s got a lot on his plate. I understand that you need time too from him, but that’s just the reality of life. He’s got school, work and you all going at the same time. I think all the anger came from being overwhelmed from juggling those demands at the same time. That’s the sacrifice you need to do as a partner. Either you help him lighten his load or be part of his stressors.

Sierra

January 18, 2016 at 4:49 am

Hi… My boyfriend left me about a month and a half ago. He said he needs to focus on school (he is in college) because he is having a hard time. His mom keeps contacting me saying to “give it time”. I think his parents had some Influence with the decision but I dont know for sure. I am currently in NC. We ran into each other the other fat but neither one of us said nothing. How does a guy feel after a breakup if HE is the one who left?

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 8:45 am

Sierra,

Ir differs in every situation. I think his parents was right. Just give it time. It’s different if they said you should just leave him alone.

Chelsea

January 17, 2016 at 4:36 pm

My ex broke up with me about a month ago. He wasn’t really straight with me as to why he broke up with me but he told all of his friends a different explanation such as I made fun of his family and bragged about my grades which neither were true. We’re only 13 so I don’t know if it has something to do with the level of maturity. I tried to ask him why he broke up with me and he just said he wasn’t comfortable being with me, again with no specifics. I broke my ankle, so he’s still helping me in the elevator. I was maybe wondering if I should hug him out of nowhere one day and just say Thank you for everything you were one of the most amazing people I’ve ever met in my life and even if we’re not together I’ll always love you as a friend. I was planning on not mentioning anything about getting back together, even though I want to. is this a good idea? if not can you give me any tips? Thank you

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 18, 2016 at 11:15 am

Hi Chelsea,

It might because he’s immature or its just his character to brag. I’m not sure. if you want to thank him, why not?

Destiny

January 17, 2016 at 3:20 am

hello,
its been a month since my ex broke up with me he wont tell me why either we see each other at school every time i try to talk to him he walks away we had it goin good then he just left me when we first met my cousin had took me to her friends house an i met him there we talked an everything im a wild person an everything i have a wild side an when we were datin he kept saying he wanted to see it well that weekend he broke up with me i was throwing a party so he would of been able to see it but he left me an when we were dating he would go outside but since he left me he stays inside now is there anyway i can get him back what can i do i loved him an every thing an i want to atleast be friends with him if we cant date can anyone help me with this problem???

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 17, 2016 at 4:45 am

Hi Destiny,
Have you tried the no contact rule?

gemini

January 14, 2016 at 9:01 am

i need help. my guy broke up with me he said its not working out as we had been fighting everyday and i was irritated and said a few ugly things then he started ignoring me and said he wants to break up in text i went to his home town and begged him on my knees not to leave me but he left me now hes been liking nude pics on insta and has gone into gymming and says that he doesnt love me anymore. what to do how do i get him back

EBR Team Member: Amor

January 15, 2016 at 1:30 pm

Hi Gemini,

How long has it been since you’ve broken up? and how long have you two been together? Are you going in the no contact period right now? I know that’s going to be hard. Your emotions are just telling you to sort it out now and from your reaction of what he’s been doing lately, I get the feeling that you feel like you’re losing him. But first, do the no contact period to assess what you really want out of a man. Begging on your knees is all for making him show how much you love him but it also shows how you much you’ve got for yourself. Yourself should come first because love is only true if you’re not needing it from another person.

Karen

December 20, 2015 at 10:47 pm

Hey Chris,
So my boyfriend broke up with me after a year in a half saying our sex life sucks. He tells my friend there is nothing wrong with her she’s perfect and everyday I don’t talk to her I miss her and feel like I made the biggest mistake of my life. But I have contacted him every week since we have broken up crying. It’s been two months now. Last week he was being a jerk saying if I keep calling him and crying like this he’s going to block me. But still on his birthday I wished him and said happy birthday I love you and he replied saying thank you I love you too. Idk what’s going on with him. I feel like his excuse was just because he’s confused since he’s never seen a good relationship and he’s terrified of marriage and kids.
Loe

December 9, 2015 at 3:56 pm

My boyfriend broke up with me 2 weeks ago after one year because he was having some personal issues, he needed to sort out I guess. We both went from past marriage to this relationship. We got a long great, he says he’s never had this kind of relationship, We were in bad ones previous. Our kids get a long great, we get along great then bam, he says he no longer wants a relationship he wants to focus on himself and his kids. For one week we did not communicate then he txt we meet up talk, he tells me he loves me but has issues to work on, we decide to leave my personal things there for a month, he said I could still keep his key. He’s currently out of town working for 4 days and we have txt, face times like nothing has changed, if I don’t respond right away he txt our mutual and said someone must be coaching me. I love this person so much. We have been through a lot. I know he loves me but I don’t know what to do. I don’t want him to think he can have me without being committed. Do I not respond to him. It’s like things go super great and he gets scared and says he doesn’t want to do it anymore because he had a failed marriage. Please help.
ali

December 7, 2015 at 9:24 pm

I need advice from an outside perspective. My boyfriend and I have been together for three years. I am 23 and hes 26. I would eventually want to get married and have children, he on the other hand does not. I love him so much that I am willing to completely sacrifice those two major things for him.
1 Year ago I found out he still had feelings for his ex, without thinking I broke up with him.
we were separated for two months. during those two months I had sexual relations with an old friend. ( I NEVER CHEATED ON MY BOYFRIEND AND I NEVER FLIRTED WITH THIS GUY WHILE BEING WITH MY BF) I honestly was so hurt and vulnerable i did whatever I could to take my mind off of him.
after two months of being split up we got back together. I told him everything I did while we werent together. He was highly upset and said the only way we would ever get back together is if he can have a free hallpass to have sex with someone else. I agreed. Its been a year later and he still has not done the deed. he says its too hard emotionally for him and all he thinks about is my sexual encounter from last year. I feel horrible. we are trying this distance thing now (on his request).
Idk what to do?? how do I get him to forgive me? I feel like an awful person. I dont want him to think I dont love him. I love him so much and would do anything to get him to see that. I wish I could take it all back, but obviously what happened happened. I just want to move forward with him still by my side. PLS HELP

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