How To Get Your Boyfriend Back If YOU Cheated On Him- Advice & Help

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Adam

April 10, 2019 at 12:17 am

Hi
So I’ll try to make this as brief as I can bringing in the back story. I met my gf of 5 years when she moved to my city for work. It was only ever a temporary placement but was supposed to be 2 years. She had been split from her husband for about 1 year. In that year you could say she enjoyed herself with lots of different guys. (Which I get). We started dating and it got quite serious quickly over a few months let’s say. I found out she was dating other guys while with me, skirt with a couple in the first few months but I put it down to crossover and not quite yet settled. She then found out she would be moving back home from a job placement but we stayed together and said we would work through it. During the first 7 months together there were a few sexts to guys. She went on holiday and got with a guy and the seen and slept with him again when they got back. I found this out from a text that popped up on her phone. Now she was always this way as she had affairs when she was married. But, she promises me (and I believe her) that ever since the day I saw that text, it hit home that she could lose me and has never even talked to a guy inappropriately from that point on. I honestly think she has changed and she soo regrets the person she was. Should I be wary or just trust and be happy?
Buddy

April 3, 2019 at 4:57 pm

Hi I love my boyfriend very much.. both had gonna of love. There is one guy entered in my life and spoiled our relationship. Seriously I had no feelings in him. I am too sensitive nd he used to tell his past stories.. some how I devited nd had sex.my boyfriend came to know about my cheat. Now he is not at all digesting or accepting my mistake. I knew how difficult it is to accept. I begged him. I felt so sorry nd tried to gave space to him. In this meantime one girl helped him lot to deviate from his past and she loves him. He said she helped her alot. Now he is in dilemma whether to choose a cheater like me or her. I really loved him. And still loving him. I gave lot of support to him. I don’t want to cheat any more. I want to spend my live with him. What to do ?
Shay

March 8, 2019 at 12:17 am

Hi Chris, my boyfriend of 5 years caught me in the car, the other night with one of his guy friends. After he caught me I was so in shocked I didn’t go after to reconcile. I lied to him where I was going to be and i lied that anything happened.

I came clean but now he wants nothing to do with me. I’ve apologized over and over again. I’m even trying to give him space
but I don’t know what to do. I don’t think he will ever forgive me or want me back.

Chris Seiter

March 8, 2019 at 2:27 am

Giving space can be a good measure. Are you following my Program?

Prakash

March 5, 2019 at 6:47 pm

Hi Boss, Why don’t you advise these **es to find some other d**k or stick for a while with one they ditched with and leave their pathetic BFs alone. If they have even a little care they will never re enter their lives. After being cheated on life become hell. At least help forget the hurt for it would never go. For God’s sake never cheat, it’s hurt inexplicably bad .. it’s hell. If not satisfied just tell it nicely or even break.. but nothing on the back. It’s like being back stabbed by the person whom you trust most. All ladies(?) trying to get back their bf would never for they are gone forever … even if they get some of them back they are not the original.They are only a crude version for they would never trust you. You should better move on. But you will be known in boys circle for what you did. Their is no replacement for faithfulness.
Kat

February 24, 2019 at 11:16 am

Hi Chris, I Cheated On My Boyfriend With His Bestfriend Younger Brother It Was a 1 Time Thing & Never Happened Again He Recently Found Out About It Even Tho What I Did Happened Months Ago But He Left Me And Continues To Questioned Me On Facebook If I Did I Am In Denial Of It But His Bestfriend Brother Told Him & Now He’s Left Me And I Don’t Know What To Do In This Situation Can You Give Me Advice On It
kateyy

February 6, 2019 at 3:03 pm

hi here looking good
Sezi

January 29, 2019 at 9:04 am

My man doesn’t like me to go out and chill out with my friends.. But i used to lied alot and also i used to flirt with another guy through texts.. My man caught me doing this and he also knew that i lied to him and chilled out with my friends.. Now he has blocked me from everywhere but i know he still loves me.. I have apologized for all this things.. But he said he wont trust me anymore and he won’t talk to me anymore. And i badly want him. What should i do?
Angel

January 15, 2019 at 3:37 pm

I’ve been with my ex boyfriend for 5 years. He broke up with me because he saw a msg on social media that was very sexual to another guy. I didn’t have any intention of sleeping with the guy, but now I lost the love of my life over a stupid mistake. He says he could never trust me again but I truly believe we can make it work. Do you think I stand a chance?

Chris Seiter

January 15, 2019 at 11:16 pm

Hi Angel!

5 years is a solid amount of time to be together and roots are formed which tends to pull the couple back toward each other. Jealousy can cloud the mind. A little time and space may do the trick and bring him back around.

Anna

January 7, 2019 at 10:38 am

Hi Chris I have a question? Do you think it’s best and do you think it’s the right choice to give my ex space for 2 months to heal and for him to figure out if he wants to date me or not? *please read this* So me and my ex have been broken up since this December and he broke up with me because of a messed up lie I told him (I basically lied to him about cheating on him with some other guy) I lied throughout the whole relationship and told him the lie about those guys with different versions of the story and cheated by hanging out with those guys from my past and sent some messed up texts to those guys we dated for 6 months he basically put up with me and stayed because he said that he’s still loves me and we still talk but it’s complicated we act like a couple we still hang out and do everything as it were the same but he’s been distant more recently he doesn’t even text me as much anymore and he doesn’t call me as much too he says he loves me but it’s not the same time he’s been losing feelings for me he’s basically conflicted and has mixed emotions because of everything that happened please help me fix this and get my ex back please.
Anna

January 7, 2019 at 10:03 am

Hi Chris I have a question? Do you think it’s best to give my ex space for 2 months to heal from this so we can date again? * please read this* and So me and my ex have been broken up since this December and he broke up with me because of a messed up lie I told him (I basically lied to him about cheating on him with some other guy) I lied throughout the whole relationship and told him the lie about those guys with different versions of the story and cheated by hanging out with guys from my past and sent some messed up text to those guys we dated for 6 months he basically put up with me and stayed because he said that he’s still loves me and we still talk but it’s complicated we act like a couple we still hang out and do everything as it were the same but he’s been distant more recently he doesn’t even text me as much anymore and he doesn’t call me as much too he says he loves me but at the same time he’s been losing feelings for me he’s basically conflicted and has mixed emotions because of everything that happened I just want to know how to fix this so I can date him again because I really do love him please help me
Mde

December 25, 2018 at 5:39 am

Hi there

I met this guy in my “single and playing phase”
But things got quite serious between us… when we met I was fooling around with someone and basically entertaining other guys (I never slept with these guys, but they just did things for me and I just continued flirting with them)

After a couple of months my boyfriend goes through my phone and finds out about all these men but didn’t say anything to me, until I went through his phone and found things too and when confronting him he told me he went through my phone and found things.

We continue with our relationship and I just had the urge to go through his phone only to find that he still goes around flirting and wanting to have sex with all these women.

Fast forward… now we’ve been together almost a year and I go though his phone again and don’t say anything to him but he finds out and basically dumped me because he says “he can’t live like a prisoner” and that I invaded his privacy. During the argument he mentioned some of the things he found on my phone and said he can’t be with someone who sleeps around. Although I did not sleep with all those guys I understand that from where he’s standing when reading the texts it might seem like I slept with these people when I actually just slept with the one guy.

And to make matters worse we are in or rather “were” in a distance relationship.

I really like this guy but I somehow feel that he will never forgive me nor forget what he saw on my phone. By the way I stopped all contact with all these people even before him going though the phone.

Chris Seiter

December 25, 2018 at 11:39 pm

Hi Mde!

Perhaps a break…some time and space away from each other can cause him to appreciate more your value and importance to him. You can read up on my site about no contact and long distance relationships. Use this time for your own healing and doing those things that reinforces your value.

Anna

December 16, 2018 at 1:13 pm

X I was with my boyfriend for 2 years , the first year was great but I have doubted him alot , he kept travelling to my home country for the reason that he just love being in my country even if hes a foreigner in that country , his ex gf was from my same country and he has alot of friends there as well more than i have ( we both grew up and based in his country) , the entire 1st year i felt neglected , i felt unsure of my standing with him , i felt i had to beg for his attention and time all the time , the last time he went to my country i gave him an ultimatum told him him and i are done if he would still flyout and so he did still he said hes not doing anything and he just wanted to relax from work , so we did we broke up – i partied hard with my girlfriends to forget about him , on the day of his flight i went to a concert that he bought for me but out of my anger after the concert a friend who i know who likes me called up to meet up for a few drinks and so i did i met up we got drunk one thing led to another next thing i know woke up in his bed next to him , after that never met him again continued partying for days while still arguing with my ex over text which made me feel super paranoid. One nightout i met a guy in a club somehow enjoyed talking to him made me forget my hurtings over my ex , till the day has come my ex came back from his vacation. He came back on the 30th bday of one of my bestfriend i found out he will be there , so hurt and scared to see him there i decided not to go and instead went out with the guy i met in a club , unknowingly my friend got super mad at me and he told my ex all my infidelities , my ex reached out and agreed to fix things between him and i he promised to be more loving and will stop sll his travels and work his shortcomings on the way he treated me. But even we began working on us and i forgave him he started interrogating me with the guys i met , he told me he know about the guy i met after the concert he never told me who told him but i admitted everything. Then one day the guy i met in a club gave me a surprised visit in London while i was in london for work unfortunately my friend who snitched me was there , then again she snitched me to my bf , my mistake was i let the guy stay in my room for the reason of wanting to talk to him about us and that we need to stop whatever we have , thjngs began to be super complicated between me and my ex . I regret everything , for 6 months my ex has been questioning me , i know he wanted us to work but everyday i felt like i needed to defend myself to him , things began to be so hard for the both of us , i felt so small he felt betrayed , one day we are ok happy and loving , one day its world war 2 between us it was so exhausting , till our 2nd year anniversary he began to be so cold on me and on his birthday which was a month after our anniversary he decided to break up with me i tried to win him back but he said he cant do it anymore , we cried and i felt that we both dont want to lose each other but he still left after 4 days we still managed to see each other and felt like we never broke up we still slept together and still talking like nothing happened , then he said he wanted to talk to me then again we spoke a, i again had to defend myself and ended up arguing , he said he only wanted to know the truth when i already told him everything thats needed to be said i admitted everything i did yet for him it wasnt enough its like hes waiting for me to admit something that i dont know what, for my side i gave everything already and admitted everything already , he started to hate me so much and told me once he leave my house him and i will be really over , i was mad and angry so i let him i didnt stop him at all , and now he stopped talking to me deleted and blocked me on his social networks he told me he wants me to stay away from him he said he doesnt love me nor hate me he doesnt have any feelings towards me , i jnsisted to fix us but he doesnt like he told me he has a new one now , i got mad cos i told him why was it so easy to replace me , i called cursed him called him names , then he replied that he only said that to keep me away from him but the truth is he never met anyone and he said he hates my friends and anyone from my country and will never date anyone from my country , its about 3 weeks now since we stopped talking , i still love him so much and i dont know what to do , i want to text him call him and win him back , but i could feel that he is still very cold and just want me away from him. Do you think we are hopeless and i just need to move on? I feel so scared to see any other man now , cos all i want is him. How do i win him back?

Chris Seiter

December 16, 2018 at 4:16 pm

Hi Anna!

It looks like you have been thru a lot. Consider picking up my some of the resources I offer

Jennelle

November 21, 2018 at 8:25 pm

I was in a 1.5 year relationship with my 24-year old boyfriend (I’m 20). About 6 months into dating him, I started seeing my best friends husband for a year. So I’ve been cheating on my boyfriend for over half of our relationship. There’s no doubt that I love him though. But he wasn’t emotionally there for me and he treated me like a friend a lot, instead of his girlfriend. He never bought things for me or took me out or made me think he was proud to have me. I wanted to feel special and attractive, and my friends husband had shown sexual interest in me in the past. So for a year I was sleeping with him. A few nights ago, I was kind of forced into telling my boyfriend because the man I was sleeping with was mad at me and wanted to tell my boyfriend himself if I didn’t. So I told him and he broke up with me of course. But I love him so much and I would never ever even think of cheating again. I just wish I never did it and I don’t know how to fix it. Our current situation is that we’re living together and we will be until November 2019. How do I get him back, please!
Madison

November 10, 2018 at 5:59 pm

So me and my boyfriend have been long distance since we first met. We have been dating for almost 2 years and he’s the only person I want. One day I was stupid enough to sext one of our friends. He ended up finding out and he’s deciding what he wants to do. He keeps asking how we are going to move forward with this and how he won’t forget it. I feel horrible for what I did and I’m still not sure why I did it. I guess it was so he would like me? I love him more than anything in my life and I know if we work for it we can fix this. I told him that I’m willing to do anything to rebuild the trust. I’m willing to work so hard to fix all of it. I’m still not sure what I should do or what I should say. Can you help me?

Chris Seiter

November 11, 2018 at 3:26 am

I would point you to my site’s home page as I have a ton of resources and tools that can help you!

Sole

November 10, 2018 at 10:11 am

I cheated on my ex, we have a kid together and he found out a week ago. He says he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me but he wants to have sex with me and we have been having sex. He wants to see me, text me and call me every time, if i dont keep on touch he gets angry. What do i do?
Sandra

October 17, 2018 at 3:25 am

Hi I’ve dated this guy about a year ago we lived together for two years and had this amazing chemistry the relationship was kinda toxic, I started going way out of the line so we split.. After a year n I met ma bf he’s soo fucken amazing and everything I Eva wanted.. So last nyt my bf and I were asleep or atleast I thought he was and. Suddenly ma ex calls me.. We’ve never had closure since we split ways and for sm reason I don’t know why I told him I luved him.. I know it’s crazy.. So my bf wakes up picks his stuffs n storms out of ma house.. I begged him for hours knelt down, cried n had an entire break down infront of him he said he needed space.. And now he hasn’t reached out to me.. He’s told ma best friend that he can’t b with me animore I’m soo hurt Cuz I luv him soo much and I haven’t even spoken to ma ex for year till yesterday… Plz I need your help.. What do I do?

Chris Seiter

October 18, 2018 at 11:41 pm

Hi Sandra!

Sounds like a jealous rage and his passions got to him. Give him some space and time. Take it slow. Give the emotions time to settle back down.

Maya

October 2, 2018 at 12:17 am

I cheated on my ex with trying to seduce my other ex and make him regret for loosing me but i didnt sleep with him. So i think its not a big deal. Plus my boyfriend was mad at me for still having my male normal friends, that he didnt want me to even talk to them. I really love him and the only reason i did this was that i was stuck in my past. But now i have completely moved on from the past. And i want to have him next to me. Now that im strong and sure that i will never even lie to him once again. We were great and had no problems no fights and no bad days and finaly he found out that i cheated on him
I do want him back

Chris Seiter

October 2, 2018 at 4:10 am

Hi Maya… I am glad you are leaving the past behind you and moving forward. Certainly, now that you ex found out you were trying to seduce your other ex, there will be some trust issues that the two of you will need to work thru. But it can be done. Sometimes giving him time and space to work thru his anger is a first good step, limiting your communication. He will eventually need to know you will be open and transparent if you get back on talking terms. If not, then consider going into No Contact. You should find out about how to do it correctly and I have written about it extensively.

Charlie

September 6, 2018 at 10:04 am

Hey Chris,

I admitted to my boyfriend about a week ago that I had been with someone else, we weren’t technically together but had been on a break because I didn’t feel like myself lately and wanted time to get back to me. That being said we were still hanging out and didn’t cut ties during this break and the person I had been with is someone he hated as he has tried to make moves on me in the past and I did not listen when I was told his intentions were no good. We spoke on the phone last night and he said that he sees himself forgiving me he just needs time and space and does not think I am being in a relationship right now because I need to work on myself, he said he wants to do the break the proper way this time and fully take space but still tries to see himself with me just had to find a way to accept what I have done.

Do you have any advice as to what I should do now? Are these good signs that he is saying? I have a fear of the unknown but as much as I try to think positively from what he said my mind wanders and always thinks negatively during this time.

Thanks for your help.

Chris Seiter

September 7, 2018 at 4:02 am

Hi Charlie….love your name! Definitely give him time and space and tell him you are doing the same to focus on being the best “you” and work through some of the issues that plague you. Get up to speed on my program. Go to my home page as its full of resources of how you can do that! All of my books deal with recovery actions, so that will benefit you as well.

PALLAVI VERMA

August 27, 2018 at 7:26 pm

I cheated on my bf and one of my friend told him everything. He broke up with me. I love him and I want him back. I know he also loves me and he also tried to continue with our relationship and forget everything but he was not able to forget the incident. So he got cold hearted again but I want him back. I feel soo low because of my deeds. I betrayed him.
We are now in a long distance relationship. Plzzz help me. I love him and he also loves me. But problem is that he is not able to forget.

Chris Seiter

August 28, 2018 at 9:48 pm

Hi Pallavi!

I know you feel bad and wish you could take it all back, but it happened and its in the past and so long as you take lessons from it, then there is positive to gain from the experience. Cheating is not uncommon and it doesn’t mean you have no chance. Its best to get up to speed on how you can improve your chances and that is what my program is about.

Ruth

August 24, 2018 at 9:26 am

Dear Chris,
I wanted to ask, when to know when I should stop fighting for my ex and let them come back to me, if they want to?
One year ago, I confessed with a broken heart to him, that I cheated on him. I was honest because I knew if I ever want a chance to be in a relationnship with him I have to be honest, even though it will hurt him so bad.
Since then we had weeks of no contact and then I would message him, that I miss him, he would say it too, we would meet up, got close and right after or a couple of days later, he got cold again, shut down and eventually broke it off again. This exact cycle happend 4 times!!! The last one was 3,5 months ago, him saying he “needs to be sure to commit to a relationship and he is not currently.” And he doesn’t think he “can build up love again” even though he still likes me a lot. I said I respect and accept that and that I can’t be friends with him. He replied: “Yes, it will be better that way. at least for the time being. Otherwise I could not turn that off forever.”
What does this mean????
Since then I respected his decision, I stayed in no contact. I have grown so much, I learned so much, I reflected so much and have realised so much why this all could happen and what went wrong with me to do such an awful thing. I so wish I would get another chance!! I know I am in such a good place and I am proud of myself becoming this person now. Not proud of what happened, but can’t change the past.
Is there anything I can do? If I could just know, if he wants me to fight and to hear from me, I would!!!! But I want to respect his decision.

Chris Seiter

August 25, 2018 at 12:10 am

Hi Ruth!

I am thrilled you are learning more about yourself and are growing with life experiences. I am proud of you too. And don;t be too hard on yourself for any mistakes you think you may have made in the past. Look…everybody screws up. Its learning and improving and finding fulfillment when it all over…that is what is important in the final analysis.

Just keep carving you on path. If he wants back in your life, he knows where to find you and you need not wait on him to move forward. Lots of paths in life.

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