How Long Will It Take To Get Your Ex Boyfriend Back?- The Three Timelines

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Mandie

April 11, 2015 at 10:23 pm

Hi Chris! So my bf & I were together for 6 months & were crazy about eachother but we argued a lot. He broke up with me 3 months ago but we’ve still been hanging out every once in a while & he says he thinks well get back together he just needs time. & we still kind of argued & he said he thinks we need to go our seperate ways for now & can’t be together right now. We agreed on trying to get back together in a couple months. So it’s only been a week of no contact & I really want to talk to him but I think I should give him a real break. But i don’t know if that will push him away or what. He said he wants to be alone for a while… Do you think I have a good chance on being with him again? Or no?
Susan

April 10, 2015 at 7:19 am

Chris I love your website this was the first time I was here and Igained a lot of insight into the “male mind” Wow you guys think so totally different than us girls here is my story I have always been a strong rather opinionated but loving and loyal girl I loved my boyfriend soooo much but now after three months of being broken up I have gained insight into what I did and why he did what he did I was critical of him once too often he knows I LOVE him dearly but after 5 years together and exasperated with some of his antics , An incident I will not go into detail occurred that he allowed to happen it almost ruined our lives Chris it is over and done with now and everything worked out ok but during the time it was happening I went on the war path becoming more and more critical of him putting him down hurting his feelings and I dint know how to come down when im on the “war path” an incident that almost ruined our lives I Well he’s a man and most of the time he walks away from my loud mouth my cussing and putting him down crap II grew up in a housewhere loving fighting and loving were all tied together Im a hot blooded Chili pepper I love hard and I can fight hard. Well this time he does what I had feared the most he starts in with another woman Well I find out and a volcano erupting would have been mild in comparison I did not have to be told NO CONTACT. I haven’t spoke to him in 3 months and during these 3 months much of the fault for all of this I have had to lay at my own feet here is my question I now see my part in all of this he has texted me yesterday for the first time. He said Susan Ilove you. AndI love him. Now where do we go from here ? how do I keep my fat mouth from asking questions like who was she what’s her name etc.,, I already feel myself getting angry how do we go on from here ? Do we just go back to boyfriend girlfriend ? How do we repair this ? He told my father two months ago he wants to marry me at the time I was too mad to listen to anyone but I am telling you I want to marry him and I want to be the kind of wife I should be but how when you do get back with your boyfriend how do you get over a cheatung issue as a woman how do you move passed that? how do you both become better to INE another ? I guess I’m asking how do we both forgive one another and move on ?

Chris Seiter

April 16, 2015 at 4:39 pm

Are you asking how YOU could get over cheated or how a guy could?

Single Pringle

April 9, 2015 at 7:57 am

Please reply to this Chris as i’ve sent 3 comments and none of them answered 🙁

My ex broke up with me about 2 months ago (LDR) because he said we like different things and that he loves me but isn’t in love with me and we are at a different point in our life. He’s 28, im 21. Towards the end of our relationship I was depressed and never went out and never made new friends and I can see now why i wasn’t attractive. He’s a fitness junkie and i used to be too, then put on weight over xmas.

I went NC for 40 days in which he contacted me by text once.

After keeping in touch for a week after NC (he was friendly) I found out he was seeing someone that has the same name as me, as well as hair colour and just generally looks like me but is his age. I’m hoping it’s a rebound.
Anyway, once I found out, I tried not to lose my cool and just said ‘thanks for breaking up with me, you didn’t treat me right at times and I liked you too much to say’ to which he then apologised and claimed he should have broken up with me earlier but ‘no regrets’. Then I told him to f himself to which he thought I was joking. (I’m naturally quite banterous) 😉 I didnt reply and removed him off all social media because he hurt me and I thought a stricter NC where he cant see what im doing at all will make him miss me. I don’t know.

I’m in the process of becoming the ungettable girl. Almost have abs and my fitness level is on point. I just think it’s a deal breaker that he doesn’t really love me anymore but then I’m not the person I was 3 months ago.

My actual question:
Have I ruined all chances by removing him on social media?

How do I show him that i’m who I was originally when I’ve just gone and removed our one form of contact? I was thinking of keeping him removed for a couple months and then adding him again when I’m hot stuff haah. What do you think?

Thanks Chris, you really have helped me get through one of the worst times of my life and because of you i’ve been able to pull my head out of depression and better myself. Thank you.
Sam

April 9, 2015 at 4:43 am

I broke up with my boyfriend a couple of days ago because he had started to become very distant. I didn’t hear from him as often, and he didn’t make as much of an effort to see me as often. I asked him what was up and he told me about how he was super stressed out with everything going on (his new job, debt, etc.). I understand that it is hard for a man to make you a number one priority if he feels as though he doesn’t have his life figured out. But I was expecting the break up to scare him into showing some effort. Dumb, I know. Well we talked about it 2 days after we broke up and I told him I miss him and I want him back and he said he just wants to be friends. He doesn’t think right now is a good time for him to be in a relationship because its a lot of pressure but he said I’m the best girl he’s ever had and he will always love me. I was honestly devastated because I wasn’t expecting that response. I have never been so serious with a man as I was with him. We talked about getting married and living together. He said its not over forever, just for now because if its meant to be it will happen. Which sounds like bullshit to me. I just want to know how and if I can get him back. I know the no contact rule is a must, but what are the chances that he will even want to get back together anytime soon? He is super unemotional and acts like nothing upsets him, so even if he was upset I would never know.

Christie

August 2, 2015 at 3:51 am

Same here. I broke up with him about a month ago because we were fighting very often and due to silly things. I also thought the break up would make him react but when I realized it didn’t, I told him I rushed and wanted him back, he refused and said we were better this way and we should remain friends. I haven’t heard from him since then 🙁 How did it turn out for you guys?
aimee

April 22, 2015 at 7:34 pm

Omg I have the same exact problem with my ex…… He said his life was too stressful at the moment and that he just wanted to be friends for now and “Maybe” date again someday…. but I havent heard from him in a few months, im the one who has to contact him with him to rarely even reply.. so I haven’t talked to him in about two whole months. I mean our relationship seemed perfect, I knew that we were genuinely in love! we were planning on moving in together and planning a future together but then all the sudden he said his life was just too stressful and that he was sorry for it but we could just try and hold things off for another day! but if he really felt that way, don’t you think he would have called or text by now at least just to keep in touch? If he even still wanted to be friends like he said he did, wouldn’t I have heard from him by now? idk…. I understand the no contact thing but I mean if he felt the way he did when we were together, which in his on words were that we had a (Soulmate status) and we’d need multiple lifetimes for our love, wouldn’t he have at least said Hi?? lolz men confuse me sooo much!

Laura smith

March 29, 2015 at 3:39 pm

Well where to begin. My ex wants to be friends but I don’t want to be put in the friend category. If he text me I’m polite and text him back don’t know if that’s good or not. I’m trying to give us space and time to heal in hopes he’ll come back. But my question is how do I know if he wants to be friends or if I can get him back someday. I don’t know if I should keep in contact like I have been or just don’t respond anymore.

Lauren rogers

January 21, 2016 at 7:23 am

I’m going through the same thing
admin

March 31, 2015 at 9:56 pm

Well, getting him back is often a function of how well you can touch him on an emotional level.

Samantha

March 19, 2015 at 3:13 pm

Hi Chris,

I’ve been with my fiance for 5 years. He’s a single dad and following some issues with his young daughter’s response to our relationship we both emotionally checked out and briefly entertained other people. Two years later I struggled to move on from him speaking to someone else and I kept pushing him away (with accusations rooted in fear of him hurting me again and mistrust) despite his efforts to show me how much he loved me. I admit that he has carried our relationship while I’ve sat on the fence. Last week after a period of fighting we agreed that I needed to make up my mind about what I wanted and that I would only contact him when I made my decision.

I waited just over a week to do so, thinking it through all the way. When I called him I asked him if he’d met anyone or started anything new since we last talked. He said he took notice of a woman but that he hadn’t acted on anything and was telling me because we agreed that he’d be honest no matter what. He said his interest in her came from him not getting commitment or fulfilment from me and that he doesn’t know her personally only professionally. I immediately freaked out and accused him of cheating. He blocked my contact so I left him angry voicemails. When we finally spoke he said I’d punished him for telling the truth and killed the hope he had for us to work. He said he needed to choose him for once and breakup with me.

I told him that I respect his choice and admit that I was wrong but that I couldn’t guarantee that I’d wait for him to change his mind. He got upset and said it bothered him that my seemingly rational self was going go be enjoyed by another man because he’d loved me and tried to get Mr to see that for 5 years. He later apologized and said he was hurt and that we should relax on discussing us for right now. I forgave his outburst and we agreed he’d call me later. He called a day later and left me a voicemail saying he was calling to finish our discussion. I haven’t returned the call – it was a day ago.

I love him and since he hasn’t changed his mind I think I need to not set myself up to be a backup. I don’t how he could be so hurt when this was his choice. Should I continue NC? Do we have a chance at reconciling?

admin

March 21, 2015 at 4:11 pm

Yes conitnue NC.

Also, how long were the two of you engaged for?

Bree

March 18, 2015 at 1:58 pm

I’ve commented before asking a for advice but it was during a break. This time we actually broke up because he felt as if we were in two different stages in our lives. I wanted to be exclusive, but he wants to be wild and free without feeling guilty and hurting me, as we are in college and I completely understand and respect him for being so honest. He says I’m his ideal girl and I would be the perfect girlfriend, if he wanted to be involved with anyone. His family likes me, they say that he should not let me go. But like I said, he didn’t want to string me along since he was so wishy washy. He says how he sees so much potential in me with a future career, car and how I will meet a guy that would be lucky to have me. He said we can be friends since he cares a lot still and still hang out, but I’m in the no contact stage (it’s day one lol). It’s a little difficult because we met through mutual friends that we hang with. He said he thinks he’s going to regret breaking up with me in about 2-3 weeks and he feels like he will be begging for me to take him back, but I don’t want to feel like I’m waiting around for him to come to realize that. We both voiced that we don’t want to see other people, but like you’ve mentioned, I’m terrified that another woman will come into the picture during this no contact/timeline and he will forget about me. He’s expressed many times that I’m a special girl, and I’m very important and he cares a lot about me. I’m just scared of my chances of getting back with him are slim.
Rose

March 16, 2015 at 6:35 pm

Hi Chris. First I would like to say thank you! Your website has been so helpful during my break up. My ex dumped me 8 months ago and we have not been in contact since. We were only together for 5 months but it was a whirlwind romance. We fell head over heels in love with each other and we were convinced we were meant to be together. He even discussed marriage and starting a family with me. Throughout the relationship, we argued a lot and although I took the blame for a lot of the arguing it was really both of us causing the fights. In the end, he said we needed time, time to work on ourselves, but that was 8 months ago. Holidays and birthdays have come and gone and not one phone call from him so I just gave up on us until I saw something he posted online. He made a compilation of songs he dedicated to me during our relationship along with a few “I miss her,” and “I want to try again” songs about a month ago. He has no idea I look at this page so I know it wasn’t necessarily for me but just a way for him to express himself. What is strange to me is that he still hasn’t contacted me. I still care about him and would like to give the relationship another try but he doesn’t call. What should I do? I really don’t want to contact him because 1) he broke it off when I practically begged him not to and 2)I don’t want to be vulnerable again. I feel so sad that we haven’t reconnected in all this time despite our feelings. Please give me some insight Chris.

admin

March 18, 2015 at 8:26 pm

Hi Rose,

Pretty name!

Glad the site has helped you.

I think maybe he is not sure what he wants yet and that is preventing him from reaching out to contact you.

Grace

March 3, 2015 at 1:06 pm

Hi! PLEASE HELP!!!! I was with my bf for 2 years we split after his ex who had a very bad break up with came back on the scene and they decided to make things right again. I did NC for 3 and a half and sure enough he contacted me saying I was right, their relationship was a car crash. She was controlling, hadnt changed in the 2 years they were apart and he wasn’t happy with her so it ended. We exchanged a couple of messages and he intiated meeting with me. I hesistantly went and had a good time. We saw each other a few more times then he completely pulled back again….once again leaving me broken hearted! I then found out through a mutual friend he had gone on holiday……with the ex! Apparently it was something they had booked when they got back together, she was still going and contacted him to ask if he still wanted to go!! Clearly he did, despite telling me how ba their relationship was and how many issues she had! So my question is do I stand a chance of getting him back again by doing NC for a second time? Would he come back a second time and admit he was wrong? He has said he still has feelings for me but the ex is very messed up and manipulative (his words not mine!) HELP HELP HELP!
Thanks xxx xxx xxx
vivian

March 1, 2015 at 10:50 pm

My bf and i ve been together for almost 7 years but we had off n on relation.In dis 7 years he was with a gal for 2 years but he realised that i was the one and came back to me 2 years back.we were happy n going great and we started living in together.during this 2 years we had broke off n he moved out sevaral times and this time i think he is gone forever.he told me not to call him or msg him and have blocked me from calls fb and all social networking site.it was my fault this time i asked him to leave.do you think he will com back…please reply

admin

March 2, 2015 at 9:30 pm

If you do things to significantly raise your chances you might have a shot.

Sarah

February 25, 2015 at 2:00 pm

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend of 3.5 years and I broke up 5 weeks ago. He’s 28, I’m 29. 6 months ago I asked how he felt about marriage. He said he was not ready and I was ok with that, but after furthur questioning he said he was not sure if I was the one – which was kind of heartbreaking to hear after 3 years together. Since then he distanced himself from me, he closed himself off from me, and I felt he no longer cared for us so we ended it… but I regret it. After a month NC, I’ve tried contacting him last week via msgs and calls but he ignored all of my attempts in request to discuss things. It was only when I texted saying I would no longer ask to talk anymore, that I will respect his decision and move on if that’s what he wants, that he replied that he thinks breaking up was the right decision, he loves me but he doesn’t want to get back together, he said he doesn’t want to waste my time, told me to take care of myself, and thanked me for all that I had done for him. He doesn’t wish to remain friends and has cut me off completely. He said he doesn’t believe in the idea of staying in touch with an ex.. even though technically I was his first love. We were really happy most of the time, and I can imagine us being just as happy in the future if he could get over his insecurities and uncertainties from what he wants in life. In many ways I feel this relationship was the right person, wrong time. I want to elevate my chances of possible reconciliation in the mid-long timeline, but I don’t know how. Our “mutual” friends really aren’t that mutual at all, I’ve never socialised with his friends without him in the past so it looks pretty obvious that I’m trying to keep myself in their lives in the hopes of my ex coming back, and I don’t want to give my ex that impression at all. I’m willing to take the time neccessarily for him to figure out what he wants in life (hopefully not too long), and work on myself on becoming the UG, but ultimately I still want him back. How do I elevate my chances when he wants to cut me off completely forever?
1111

February 22, 2015 at 6:20 pm

Hello chris please help on this thing
My bbf broke up with me for a reason that our relation of 5 years has become lately a routine and because we are loosing respect , for him i am the perfect girl that meets his standards and iam sure that he wont find any girl that looks like me inside out.
He is 23 yeara old and when we used to go party each time he tells me that he does not like this sort of life (partying and drinking and all of that ) but when we broke up all i see is him going to pubs and partying with friends
before he left me he said life without me is lifless.
What does that means ? He lied ? Or he is just filling His time to forget about the breakup and me

admin

February 23, 2015 at 9:16 pm

He may have been afraid of other guys hitting on you during the “partying” which is why he said that.

Eleanor

February 10, 2015 at 10:43 pm

I’m really panicking. My ex dumped me 6 weeks ago because he said he didn’t want a relationship anymore. Basically we went to the cinema at the weekend because he said we could still be friends but it was getting really awkward at work (yep I have to work with the guy) and I wanted it to stop being awkward and at least be able to look at each other.

When we went to the movies he started flirting with me all night, asking about my uni friends, especially the guys and asking about this guy I was at a staff party with just over a week ago. We both got drunk and me and this other guy kissed and unfortunately my ex saw. I left the party straight after. After this I didn’t think he would want to go to the movies so I asked him again and he said he was free Friday night.

Anyway he continued to flirt with me all night and we ended up kissing. Then 15 minutes later he text me saying he had a really good time and he was sorry about the kiss. When I asked why he said he doesn’t mean to be harsh but he still doesn’t want a relationship.

By this point I had had enough because for the past 6 weeks it’s like he had been playing games with me. One week he can talk to me and then when he hears I went out with a guy he just blanked me which left me so confused because he’s the one that broke up with me.

Anyway I text him back saying I couldn’t do this anymore and I was done waiting. I said he was a kid who didn’t know what he wanted (He’s 18 and I’m almost 20 which is probably where the kid part came from out of anger). He responded saying he didn’t care what I said and he was just going to enjoy his night. He said just because he doesn’t want a relationship doesn’t mean he isn’t still attracted to me. I didn’t respond as I didn’t want to argue because that would have only made things worse as that was one of the problems I had during the relationship. I wouldn’t back down so I thought this time I had better leave it and just let him enjoy his night. I haven’t spoken to him since.

The day after at work however I had to work with the guy I kissed and apparently according to him my ex kept looking and giving us dirty looks and rolling his eyes at us.

Have I completely blown any chance of getting back together with this guy? I love him so much but I really don’t think I’m going to be able to get him to change his mind about being in a relationship. I’ve been reading your advice and I read about the no contact rule after a breakup and I definitely did not do that. I probably contacted him 2 weeks after the breakup. Have I blown my chance for good?

admin

February 11, 2015 at 2:01 pm

Well, if your ex is still rolling his eyes it means on some level that he most care.
Eleanor

February 10, 2015 at 11:14 pm

I just want to clarify that I have been going out with guy friends but that is all they are, friends. I haven’t been on a date since the breakup. It’s because I posted it on facebook and he must have assumed it was a date. I’ve been posting pictures with friends from nights out and things like that but after what happened Friday night I decided to block him because I was just getting so paranoid about what he was doing all the time. Blocking him has helped a little but I’m worried he sees this as me just throwing a strop. This couldn’t be further from the truth. I’ve just been so down and haven’t really done anything since the breakup. I even failed my exams because I was too upset to even think about revising for them. I had to draw the line because I didn’t think there was anything I could do to change his mind. After reading through some of your posts I realised this may have been a mistake. Have I blown it?
admin

February 11, 2015 at 2:05 pm

Well, going out with guy friends is fine… Just don’t kiss them or anything.

Rhi

February 5, 2015 at 4:46 am

Hi Chris,

My ex and I were together for exactly two years before we broke up. We lived together for a 1 1/2 as well. We broke up on October 15th 2014, 4 days before our 2 year anniversary. I love him dearly and I’m so lost still without him. I feel like I’ll never get him back. He is my soul mate, as cheesy as it sounds. He just recently started dating a girl, who works near me, yet my ex lives about an hour away. We recently had some backlash towards each other, but we forgave and water under the bridge. The thing that gets me is that he said he had to bury his feelings when we broke up and that he said he “fell” out of love with me, yet he was diagnosed with depression and I believe that alone and the medication, from hundreds of articles I read, was the primary reason he couldn’t fall back in love, which he said he tried so hard. I feel like he is really the right person, wrong time. He was the only man in my 27 years that I could picture a future with.

Chris, I need your help! I still cry over him and can’t picture my life without him. I’ve lost my best friend, my lover, and my partner in crime.

admin

February 5, 2015 at 3:40 pm

What was his reason for the breakup if you don’t mind me asking?

(the reason he gave)
Rhi

February 5, 2015 at 5:34 pm

Well it is very personal as to why. I was diagnosed with postpartum depression (we don’t have the child, lost it). I got to the point of being very depressed and had no clue I was. He said me doing what I did (i.e. – tried to take my life), something snapped inside of him and it changed everything. I’m not postpartum depressed anymore. The hormones are out of system finally last month. I just feel like he is the right guy, wrong time. Our 1st 24hrs dating, my uncle died. That December 2012, his best friend died. Then March 2013, his father died. That August 2013, his Uncle died. In between his dad and uncle, I had a few people die as well. The house he was living in, was thrown onto him while we lived together and was in his dad’s name. Life got stacked against us.

The thing is the girl he is dating, she was with a guy for four years, which she was engaged for a year, married for a year and now divorced in September, she is only 28 years old and he ex is 40. I’m 27, my ex is 35.
admin

February 6, 2015 at 2:02 pm

Man… you guys just have tragedy after tragedy…

I am so sorry 🙁 .

So, you are worried she will marry your ex?
Rhi

February 6, 2015 at 2:53 pm

It’s up in the air that idea. Who knows at this point. He knew when he first saw me he wanted to marry me. I asked him after their first date if he felt the same, he said you can’t know that early on. Plus he says now that he might not even get married. So, on some level I’m not too worried. He also tired up a fight again between us last night and his “new” girl decided to get involved towards me in a mean way. I told him if she was so secure about being with him, she didn’t need to go there. She’s a lot like his ex’ before me with the way she acts and looks. Both are very insecure with themselves and that is why with his ex before me, it ruined things between them.

Clare

January 27, 2015 at 6:38 pm

I made myself too available within the first three months after the break up and after NC…it’s been four months now and my ex seems less interested in talking with me. Have I completely ruined my chances? I feel so hopeless and sad right now 🙁

admin

January 28, 2015 at 3:16 pm

No you haven’t ruined your chances.

Define too available for me though?

Claudia

January 25, 2015 at 9:15 am

I wrote the last comment. Please help, Im so confused. I want to reach but don’t want it to make it worse.
Claudia

January 23, 2015 at 9:39 am

Hey Chris,
My ex broke up with me about 2 months ago. We were friends for about 2.5 years before we dated and we’re together about 10 months. Our relationship was hard on both of us as it was long distance. When it ended, he said he needed to work on himself and he didn’t want to hurt me by constantly failing (he put a lot of pressure on himself, I never said that he was disappointing but he used to say it a lot) but he also didn’t want to leave me hanging with a time line because he didn’t have one. Now, I agree that he needed time to re evaluate but I don’t know if that was just a line. It was left as we should stay friends but we have only exchanged a couple texts on Christmas. I don’t know when to try and reconnect. I’m afraid to do it too early but I also don’t want him out of my life. I know the short time line isn’t realistic but I want to be hopeful we have a shot. I love him and miss him. I want to respect his space but also want to still be in his life and truthfully want him back . Please help.
Sarah

January 21, 2015 at 1:56 pm

Hi Chris,

Well my ex and I dated for a brief time, like about 4 months. I have been in 2 significant long term relationships. I can tell you I have never felt the way I feel about him then with any other man. When we met, I knew he would be moving about an hour away. I also knew he was a police officer that worked the 12 hour night shift, and I keep daytime hours. I knew his parents were greatly influencing his decision on his house ect. Anywho, one day I was checking to see if were going on our date tomorrow and what time it would be at. His response Yes, that should work, but I don’t know what time because I am closing on my house tomorrow. So of course it sent me into confusion and anger, we had never been in a fight about anything we have never argued about anything he was always super thoughtful and made time for me. All around best man I have ever dated. But I obviously didn’t take the news very well, and I didn’t ask any questions, except HOW COULD YOU NOT TELL ME ABOUT THIS?! Anyways now, my then boyfriend was going to move an hour away, work a 12 hour night shift, and we already were trying and succeeding well in making time for another, but it wasn’t easy. I just thought of my last relationship and I saw it all flash before my eyes. A few hours later, he was still at work mind you, I said maybe we should quit while we are ahead, he didn’t take that well and said that we needed to have a conversation about this later, well the next day he was acting as if nothing had happened the prior day and I told him you know we have to talk, he said he had much to think about. Of course silly me pressures him into having this conversation and he was still super upset, but said he agreed with me. As it stands now we are happy, but it takes a lot out of both of us to make this work and we are very happy, but I think it would be delaying the inevitable. So now I implemented a NC rule which I USUALLY do anyway before reading this site, and I have to admit I am failing miserably. This was over a month ago that we broke up. I miss him, and I know I can easily make this work (Most days I can work from anywhere), I just wish I didn’t act so rash. I come to find out that this house was not his idea, that I knew about it, that he just thought the deal didn’t go through and that was that. The morning well afternoon he woke up to go to work on the day he told me was the day he found out. His parents basically told him buy this house or not, GET OUT! So he went for it. I just feel so crushed. That I made a grave mistake and he will never forgive me for it. I just want to move past all of this and at least give us a chance!? I think it would be stupid to not even try. I was just being scared. I just don’t know what to do. When I went home for Christmas, he watched my animals cause he is super nice and promised me he would do that before we ever broke up, but when I came back he placed a very nice gift I had bought him for his new house months ago in my laundry basket. He said that he felt he didn’t feel right about having it and clearly didn’t deserve it. What am I supposed to do? I know he is unlike any man I have ever been with. He makes me laugh and smile and feel special. He is one of those thoughtful introverts and we are exact opposites, i loved that. I loved us together, and I cannot imagine what my life will be like if we don’t at least become friends again.

admin

January 21, 2015 at 3:28 pm

Who borke up with who?

Was it mutual?

Jessica

December 9, 2014 at 4:09 pm

Hi Chris, me and my ex dated for 5 years and decided to mutually break up about three weeks ago. It was really my idea at first because I told him I felt like more of friends then a couple. I also told him that I did not like him anymore.. We went on a 5 day break ( no communication or seeing each other) and then when we saw eachother he told me that he missed me, and I told him that I did not miss him as much as i thought I would but because I knew I would see him after the break ended. He then said “I only missed you a little” that day we planned on talking about our relationship the next day but I ended up texting him and telling him that if he did not want to be in a relationship with me we might as well end it. So we broke up. I know it was naive to do it over text after 5 years of being together and I already regret it. That night we both said how we were upset and how we would talk about things later on that week. When we saw each other again I told him that I made a mistake, and that I did like him and wanted to get back together. He told me that he needed more time to think about what he wanted. I told him that I understood but I could not wait around forever. A week past and he did not say anything so I asked him if he decided and he replied saying ” I don’t think I want to be together right now” so I did not reply. He then deleted me off of every social media. However, a few days later he added me back on one. The next day we ran into each other at school and made eye contact and then he walked a different way. Since then we have not talked and I think he is already trying to distract himself with another girl but she is in high school!! We are sophomores in college. I am not sure if he’s just trying to get me off his mind but my question is how does he not miss me yet after we dated for so long?

admin

December 10, 2014 at 3:15 pm

Probably trying to get you off of his mind would be my best hypothesis.
Jessica

December 10, 2014 at 3:47 pm

Do you think he will come around soon? I’m really trying to move on but after dating for 5 years it is so hard.
admin

December 12, 2014 at 3:11 pm

No time limit on this type of stuff so I can’t say if he will come around soon. The question is if hes worth it or not.
Jessica

December 17, 2014 at 3:36 am

Thank you, you are right.

Rachel

December 9, 2014 at 2:33 am

Hi,

I emailed you my story, it’s under “Confusing BU.”

admin

December 9, 2014 at 1:32 pm

Got it!

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