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Jamie
October 19, 2015 at 3:43 am
Hi Chris! Great website. It’s been a great place to focus on “pulling it together” and see I’m not alone in a tough time.
Any advice for someone who was dumped over lack of sex? Of course things are complicated (always are, right?) but the short story is we had a satisfying sex life for a few years, then things fizzled a bit (I think it’s medication related and am willing to address it, and I let him know). We lived together, and were temporarily long distance when he broke up with me (we live in the same city now). I moved out. We had been together 5.5 years. I did 30 days NC which I ended yesterday and was met with very friendly, though shallow texting. Prior to NC (I wasn’t NC between the breakup and moving back for about a month) he would like/comment on nearly every Facebook post of mine until I unfriended him (it was messing with my head). The last week or so he’d been kinda poking me by liking my comments on mutual friends posts. Part of my confusion is he is very adamant about remaining friends with his exes (to the point he still gets drinks/dinner with old exes and their husbands/kids) so I’m worried he’s just being friendly.
My main question I guess is how to proceed by showing him I want to work on our sex life? How is it even possible to “show him I’ve changed” with this? Will the hot/cold, “danging toy” thing be too much of a tease, or will showing attraction still be just as effective? Will he be wary of my advances because he has a history of being friends with exes? To my knowledge he has not been dating (or at least has been very discreet about it) so I don’t think this is a “sex with anyone” scenario so much as a “sex with a person I love” scenario.
Jamie
October 21, 2015 at 1:28 pm
At our worst I would say it was maybe weekly? Maybe a little longer a few times if I was really busy at work.
Chris Seiter
October 20, 2015 at 9:42 pm
Lack of sex…
Hmmm…
How much of a lack was it?
Jeanette
October 19, 2015 at 12:57 am
We started talking online since June. We got to be good friends. Talked about meeting a few times but things got in the way. Over the last few weeks we have gotten closer. He commented on my facebook. He liked lots of my pictures. We changed our profile pics for eachother. He told me he liked me. I told him I liked him. He even took my tests on facebook. We were going to meet a week ago his idea but he was having financial issues and begged me not to be mad about meeting him. He even wanted to kick this guys butt for giving me a hard time. He had a family funeral last weekend and one this weekend of family members he wasn’t close too. He wanted to meet this weekend. His idea. We were going to spend Saturday and Saturday night together. He only messaged me once this week which was Tuesday. He was still excited about the weekend. He confirmed 3 times about coming. His back was hurting and he missed three days of work though. I noticed Friday 20 of my friends were missing from my facebook. They said they didn’t unfriend me. Facebook was glitch inch. Happened to another friend of mine. He was one of them. I messaged him to tell him and talk to him. He ignored three messages. I drunk texted in the we hours of Sunday morning 3 times. He ignored me. I then texted the following day to say I was sorry about the drunk text. I asked what happened and if I did something wrong that I didn’t understand. I told him if he wanted nothing to do with me just tell me and I would just go but we had been friends for so long I thought I deserved to know. I texted like 4 or 5 times. I told him that was the last time I was messaging and it is. I told him I miss him and I really liked him and wanted to meet him but I respect his choice. Then I told him I was sorry for the text messages I just cared and good bye.
What happened???? I don’t understand. I no that no message is a message but this seems like it happened out if no where. It was his idea to meet.
Cherry
October 19, 2015 at 12:57 am
Dear Chris,
My bf of one year broke up with me over a (very respectful, if not to say warm and reassuring) text message. It didn’t come out of the blue, things with us have been VERY rocky for a few months. There were many issues, but the biggest one was my jealousy and lack of independence (temporary). I used to also get aggressive and withdraw, which really hurt and confused him. He would say that he loved me, but would wanna take breaks from us, after which he would contact me first, but things would fall into the old same patterns.
In the past two months leading to the final break-up, he’d been getting progressively more distant, even though I could still feel the love and care. About three weeks ago he messaged me saying that he didn’t feel appreciated and couldn’t do it anymore, for things don’t ever seem to change with us. Since then I contacted him on a few occasions. The communication have been positive, I saw him in person a couple times too.
When I tried to initiate another meeting today, however, he told me that I should move on, as that is what he is doing and that he doesn’t know how much time and space he would need to e me more than a friend, for there is still a lot of hurt and confusion in him. In fact, I can see it every time we meet up.
Do you think the NC would help here?
Thank you!
Chris Seiter
October 20, 2015 at 9:39 pm
I absolutely do!
I think NC would definitely work for you.
Ruthie
October 18, 2015 at 11:19 pm
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I dated for about 4 months. Within three months of being together he’s introduced me this family and friends. He’s 32 divorced and I’m 31 divorced with two kids from my previous marriage. My family and kids love him and his family and friends. We talked about moving in together down the road.
About 2 weeks ago, my boyfriend and I got into a big fight and broke up. I knew that I was in the right so I did not contact my boyfriend back but he contacted me four days after our break to talk. When I answered his call, I asked him what he wanted to talk about and he said he wasn’t really prepared but just wanted to talk. So we talked for a little bit and hung up. The next day he texted me generic stuff like “good morning” and “I hope you had a good day at work.” Eventually I brought up the idea of meeting up for dinner in which he agreed to right away. When I showed up for our meeting I noticed that he looked terrible and he looked so excited to see me that he couldn’t even contain it. We talked about somethings that we realized during our mini break and ended up hooking up that night. I talked to him the next day and he said it’s not meant to be a “hookup” and that he still loves me. He said he had trust issues and it is something he needed to work on. I told him if he needs time for that, then he can take whatever time he needs I just won’t wait around. We talked for a little bit and we decided to give it another go. I wasn’t totally convinced that he would be able to work it out while being around me but I decided to give it another go. Well we got back together but he became even more distant. He would call and text me when he’s out with the guys but he was spending more time with them than ever.
A week after our reconciliation, we had planned for date night (also the first time I’d seen him since our “hookup”). He was super excited to see me and was absolutely attentive and engaging, he was the boyfriend I remembered before our big fight. Throughout the evening he would give me hugs and tell me that he loves me. The next morning he made breakfast and we sat and talk. He accidentally let on that he’s been thinking and caught himself. I told him to continue since he already started talking about it and he said that he’s not sure what he wants. He’s 32 he has a career and he’s single and he feels like he needs to do something with his life and doesn’t want years to pass by. I told him that he should do what makes him happy and if he wants to move back to Denver, then he should do it. After I left his place, I couldn’t shake off how distant he had become; it was eating me up alive. This morning he finally responded to a text I sent him last night but I didn’t respond back so he calls me. We joked around here and there and eventually he asks me what’s wrong. I asked him why he was being so distant. He said he doesn’t know what he wants to do because I’m a big factor in all of this – he wants to figure out what to do but he doesn’t want to lose me. I told him that I love him enough to want him to be happy and healthy and if it means taking time to figure things out, then he should take that time. He said he’s afraid he doesn’t know how long it will take him and I told him if he needs a month or two or if he needs to go back to Denver to figure it out, then go ahead and do what makes him happy because I’ll do what makes me happy. I ended the conversation by telling him I left some stuff behind and to leave it at the door of his place and I’ll pick it up.
I love this man and we had a good thing. We always have a good time together and as you have mentioned in several of your articles about relationships being a bank and the good times are deposits and the bad times are withdrawals. Our good times outweighs our bad times by so much. I don’t know what to. Should I give him space and not contact him at all or should I implement NC? I don’t want to push things if he’s not ready but I wonder maybe it’s me that he doesn’t want to be with?
Chris Seiter
October 20, 2015 at 9:33 pm
Definitely implement the NC rule!
Linda
October 18, 2015 at 12:53 pm
Hi Chris,
I dated a great guy my age for a few months earlier this year. We are both 35. I’m ready to settle down with someone. He lives in a shared flat/community kind of building and one of his flatmates is… his ex, whom he broke up with after a relationship of a year. They broke up a couple of months before he met me. With me he always wanted to take things very slow – too slow to my liking and was very cautious and hesitant. He broke if off end of August saying he’s not ready for a relationship. In the beginning he said he needs to solve that situation with the ex and was completely crazy about me so he talked to her and we started dating. Then he started pulling away after being overwhelmed by (and scared of) my passionate and committing feelings for him. In the end he stopped answering my calls or messages. This all hurt very much. I do still miss his company very much and believe we are a great match, if only the timing were better (the ex has plans to move out). I started NC and am at day 19. Do you think I’ll benefit from NC and rekindling through text messaging after? I’m scared to contact him as I’m afraid he’ll still not answer – he is a very stubborn/proud (read: sensitive!) man too.
Thank you very much for your help!
Linda
October 22, 2015 at 8:11 am
Hi Chris!
Thanks so much for your great reply! You’re absolutely right, he is a runner! The reasons they broke up are quite interesting:
– she wanted to a polygamous relationship, while he wanted monogamy (I want nothing other than a monogamous relationship!);
– she is involved in a sort of hippy-sect that adverts polygamy (yup, shocker, I know!);
– she was just as noncommittal with him as he was with me about planning for dates – this wishy-washiness was the very character trait of him that annoyed me very much;
– she didn’t like the way he touched her (I love his touch).
At first he didn’t want to tell me but when we argued about his noncommittal behavior he finally answered me when I asked again. (Note: with noncommittal I refer to him being absolutely unclear about a date, if it was still on, what time, where we would meet; he was absolutely not interested in other women). I found these reasons interesting because it seems that he’s doing to me what she did to him! I wonder if he acted to me the way he did out of passive-agressive-rebound-psychologically-subconscious reasons, you know, the way parents act towards their kids as how they were (mal)treated as children.
He hasn’t contacted me during NC (day 23 today). I do think he misses me (because, how can he not? We were quite close… or perhaps it’s my wishful thinking) and is too stubborn to contact me. My plan for the fabulous text is to tell him how coming across the summer dress I wore on our first date when clearing out my closet for winter, gave me a smile on my face. True story! In the meantime I am working out, meditating, dating other guys (who I don’t like that much of course) and working on setting up my own design agency. Just so you know 😉 Looking forward for your thoughts! Thank you very much again!
Chris Seiter
October 18, 2015 at 3:40 pm
Yes I do think you can rekindle that relationship. You will have to take this VERY VERY SLOW. He sounds like the the type that is what I like to call a runner. Some men are afraid of relationships if they’ve been extremely hurt in the past. For example, a man that has been cheated on with his best friend might have that type of reaction to any new relationship. It all depends on the man’s personality and character if they are the type to run from relationships. The other possibility is that this ex keeps coming in and out of his life. He could be choosing her over you. In any case, the no contact rule will be your best chance at getting him back. Make sure your texts are amazing when you finally reach out to him again. I would give him the full 30 days no contact.
Do you know what happened with him in that preivous relationship? Why did they break up? Has he tried to reach out to you during NC yet?
ashley
October 18, 2015 at 10:55 am
Hi, so me and my boyfriend of 2 years just broke up. He dumped me and didn’t really give me a reason but told me that we didn’t want the same things and he just wasn’t happy with me anymore. We had just had an argument a couple days before then we were trying to work things out and he just dumps me. He has dumped me before and he got back with me. Does this mean I should just give up?
Chris Seiter
October 18, 2015 at 11:36 pm
No it means you should reasses your game plan.
Sarah
October 16, 2015 at 5:07 pm
Hello Chris
My boyfriend and myself broke up a week ago ( had a fight and ended it on angry words over the phone). He has a heart surgery scheduled on October 29th, 2015. Since I am following the no contact rule, do you think it will be a good idea to send a supportive text to him for his surgery. Also previously his mother wanted me to wait at the hospital with her on the date of surgery. Should I still go?
Thank you for being awesome and understanding.
Sarah
October 18, 2015 at 6:25 pm
Thank you Chris.
I hope this is true. So should I still text him and go for his surgery ?
Chris Seiter
October 18, 2015 at 11:38 pm
If you are in NC… then no.
Sarah
October 17, 2015 at 12:14 pm
Chris
It was mutual I would say. I wanted to hang out and he wanted to watch football. The back and forth led to us both telling each other to go to hell and that we are done.
Chris Seiter
October 18, 2015 at 6:07 pm
That is a silly reason to break up. Did you two fight about this a lot. Was he more of a homebody and you were more outgoing? One of you will need to adapt or compromise when you get back together. After no contact I think he will realize it was silly to break up over that.
Chris Seiter
October 17, 2015 at 12:31 am
Who broke up with who?
MLD
October 15, 2015 at 8:43 am
so i am one week away to when i can make contact with my ex. i saw him last weekend but he didn’t see me. he was out with someone but i couldn’t see who it was to determine if he was dating someone new. my question is we have the same mutual friends and one of them is having an event on the 11/01/2015. Based on your information should i skip the event in order to go through with your entire game plan? as well as i have some news that i would really like to share with him? Can i use this as my means of contact for a brief phone call of like 5 mins?
MLD
October 16, 2015 at 8:55 am
No i would be out of the 30 days NC by then. Planning to contact him next week….the end of my NC period.
Chris Seiter
October 16, 2015 at 3:05 am
I would still go but depending on where you are at during the strategy I would treat the situation differently. Will you be in NC with him during the event?
vam
October 15, 2015 at 6:20 am
Hi Chris,
I see you are helping lot of poor girls and boys here. thank you very much for that and keep up good works. here is my story. please help me. i will make it short.
i met my boyfriend in 2012. but at the time i met him i was worried about my 1st loves’ passing away on 2011. it was a great shock for me hope you can understand that. he also understand that or pretended like understood. however i was the one who found his phone number via facebook and call him first. we were like student teacher relationship. however we go to know each other and after an year we sort of had a sex life too. eventually he asked to marry me. I said we will marry but give me some time to tell this to my parents.( I needed time to make things clear with my parents coz we were in a “cold war”inside my house). he said ok. then later he suddenly started to change. because i didn’t continue with my sex life because i didn’t want to make it that far. later he thought i lost my feelings on him. i didn’t. but i was so busy at the office and had lot of stress too. i shouted at him sometimes coz i was under pressure. he said ok for everything. and now after 3 years of affair he became so rude and ask me to leave him alone. i cant and i don’t have time to find another boy and i only planned my future with him. tried this 30day thing once but in the middle he called me. but after 30days he still says he need to be alone. he do not say that this affair is end. but also he do not go on with me. i mad at him. then begged him sorry. and now again stared to do this 30day silence. but im afraid he will not come back to me again. it makes me so mad i can run and hit him. please help me. i love him as well as hate him coz he left me. what should i do? please help!!!
vam
October 19, 2015 at 8:27 am
🙁 thanks for the reply. but What shall I do now? please help me. it has been 2 weeks now i have stopped talking to him. it killing me. im scared he will get another girl. please advice me. what should I do?
Chris Seiter
October 16, 2015 at 3:04 am
Well, it seems to me the biggest issue is that you aren’t doing the post NC strategy correctly.
Niharika Reddy
October 14, 2015 at 10:01 am
Hi Chris,
I failed in the texting phase thrice after having successfully completed the no contact phase thrice. I got agitated with him not replying properly and I called and screamed at him . Sometime begged. This third time during the texting phase , I didn’t beg or scream but I called when he didnt reply properly. Do I carry on with the texting phase or it doesnt make sense now that I already called ? Please reply Chris.
Chris Seiter
October 16, 2015 at 2:17 am
I am actually writing an article on texting after NC and even wrote a book called the Texting Bible.
Alley
October 14, 2015 at 8:55 am
Hi Chris. I’ve read all your posts and even comments by all the ladies. I thought I clearly know what to do after that , but it seems like I can’t get my head straight. So here is is, My bf and I decided to give each other a “break” for a month to sort out his feelings. His excuse for this break was he can’t commit to this relationship, he says maybe his feeling for me has faded , maybe it was the past relationship where he got dumped, he felt betrayed. And at the end he says ” it was him , not me” , where I have read your post , it clearly means he don’t think I’m worth it .
But again if a guy wants a break , you will never know the real reason behind it. At the moment it has only been two days of NC, 28 days more to go, still sorting out my ‘legitimate reason for getting back together’. What if .. I clearly want him back , but he doesn’t want it anymore ? I can’t help but keep looking at my phone waiting for his text. He doesn’t have many friends to talk to , besides his only best friend is his ex-gf. I’m not sure if it’s something I even need to be worry about .
I’m looking forward for your reply to my situations.
Chris Seiter
October 16, 2015 at 2:14 am
Sometimes reading and planning don’t quite match up with reality.
I would say you better have a killer first contact text message planned.
Samantha
October 14, 2015 at 3:10 am
Hi, my boyfriend and I broke up less than 2 weeks ago. He is still in high school and I am a year older than him so I can understand the stress he is under. He basically feels very overwhelmed and feels that he needs to focus on himself (he was also injured and missed some school which added to the stress). We had a very healthy relationship and I don’t think I can even recall a fight. We were (and I think still are) in love. He would discuss the future with me and imply he wanted to marry me and then suddenly he decided he needs some time to himself. At first he said he planned on it only being temporary, and we have been in contact. I told him to figure out what he wants and to let me know, but I tried my best to let him know I won’t be waiting for him (even though I have). Last night we hung out to try to be normal and wash away some of the drama. It was a little awkward because we wanted to kiss but I told him I couldn’t because I didn’t know what that would mean. I said I cannot talk to you for a little while and he acted upset. I am so confused by what he wants and I think he is too! Today is the first day of the official no contact, but I feel like if he texts me should I reply? He told me he’ll think about his feelings and text me. Please help
Samantha
October 27, 2015 at 12:21 am
He texted me recently saying he had kissed another girl and he felt very guilty. We had a brief conversation and I told him again not to talk to me until he figured out what he was truly feeling. More than a week went by and he said he missed me and wanted to hang out so I agreed because I was feeling really strong about myself and like I was in a place of content with life. I had stopped crying and thinking about it, and I thought this meant we could try to start over and he agreed. We hung out and everything went really well. We laughed and talked like normal and when we went to say goodbye I said “are you sure you want to do this” (start over) and he said yes. We kissed and then he said he’d miss me and went on the next day and today by saying other flirtatious things like that when we’d talk. I texted him earlier to catch up on the more important stuff because we agreed we’d have to talk everything out at some point and he then decided he’d changed him mind again. He “loves being with me but likes having his freedom”. I questioned why he would kiss me then and he said because he still likes me. I am so confused. He apologized for this happening and said he was mad at himself for everything but that doesn’t make up for the sense this is lacking. He said he wouldn’t talk to me at all until he knows for sure what he wants. I just don’t understand what is going on in his head and now I feel stupid for going through with it. Am I delusional for still wanting it to work?
Chris Seiter
October 16, 2015 at 2:14 am
Nope, not if you are in NC.
Just ignore.
help!
October 11, 2015 at 2:11 pm
I need your help! Me and my ex got back together. It’s only been a week and he started questioning whether I talked to someone else while we were broken up. I didn’t and I told him I did not. He continued asking and saying for me to be honest otherwise he wouldn’t be able to forgive me later. I again I told him no. This then turned into an argument. Then he broke up with me again and said I am a girl who needs attention. What do I do? I told him the truth. Why is he ruining something he wanted? He came back to me. Please help
Chris Seiter
October 13, 2015 at 12:06 am
Sounds like he is a bit insecure.
He might need some extra reassuring.
Anastasia
October 11, 2015 at 9:41 am
Good evening, Chris. I’ve read a lot of the posts on here and honestly I think I might have a very unique story. My “ex” and I were “together” for about 5 months. I use the quotations because our relationship was more of a situationship. We were never officially together but there were genuine feelings and emotions there. So anyway, like I said we were talking for about 5 months. We talked everyday, we did things together, we would fight, we would make up. Just the typical type of stuff. So after awhile of our situationship, I text him and told him I didn’t want to do it anymore. Okay, so we didn’t talk for a few weeks and then after a few texts here and there we got together. I was so unbelievably happy. Then a few days later, my mother sent him a message. Now let me back up a bit. I have been divorced from my ex-husband for close to a year. My mother (who is unlike any other) has wanted nothing more than to have my ex-husband and I get back together. So she sent my ex a message and basically told him to stay away from me and a lot of other ugly things. He immediately text me and said we were done. I was devastated. I truly fell in love with this man over those 5 months. So for the past month and a half, I text him a million times trying to apologize, telling him I missed him, etc. He finally said that it sucks we can’t be together but too much has happened and he won’t forget it. I completely understand him feeling this way but my thing is, I didn’t do anything. I had no part in any of it. So after looking like a needy loser, I found your website and decided to try the 30 NC rule. I’m on day 11 now. I want more than anything to get him back. I just feel like our chance at happiness was taken away by no fault of our own. I have been doing everything you’ve suggested. I’m working on bettering me, went out on a date, etc. But at the end of the day, I want my ex back. Do you have any suggestions that might help this VERY complicated situation or is it too far gone?
Anastasia
October 13, 2015 at 6:08 pm
I have been working on mysef, both mentally and physically. I am following your advice. I want to do everything the right way. If this is my only chance at having another shot, I don’t want to mess it up.
Chris Seiter
October 14, 2015 at 1:12 am
Alright, continue doing that. Lets start practicing your texting game.
Specifically your first contact text message.
Chris Seiter
October 13, 2015 at 12:05 am
Well, lets start with what you are doing during the no contact rule. Have you come up with a plan for self improvement?
Paxton
October 7, 2015 at 6:38 pm
Hi Chris, My ex boyfriend and I broke up six months ago. I did all the wrong things trying to get him back. He said and texted nasty things like to find another man, no one can live with you, you are selfish, I don’t want to be in a relationship with you. He was rude and hurtful in his words. I kept on trying to keep in contact with him and he was starting to get nicer in his words. I thought he was coming around but he said he wanted just to be friends. I asked if he has someone new and said that I wouldn’t disturb him if he has a new girlfriend. His answer was that he doesn’t want any relationship and doesn’t want anyone anymore. So, I was hurt and backed off, didn’t call or text him for a few days. To my surprise, he started to call and text to ask about me. Excitedly, I replied to his calls and texts only to get him back to his on and off again self. This has been going on since the day we broke off. The conversation we had since the break off was cold and lukewarm. We did meet up last month twice and I did ask him to give another chance but he said, he was cool about it but didn’t think it would work out and it really didnt. Now, I feel that he has a new girlfriend from the way his response to my text and calls, short and simple. I don’t know if it was a rebound, I hope it is. I just would like to know if I still can get him back if I apply the no contact rule? I hope I get a reply from you soon. Thank you.
Manu
October 14, 2015 at 2:12 pm
Wow I’m going through the exact same thing except when we would speak he would tell me he loves me but then afterwards he would back to being extremely distant and take hours to answer my text messages and act like I’m annoying him. I also thought there was someone else but he said there isnt but he wants to be single for the moment. Our relationship has just been up and down but mostly down since we broke up about 5 months ago. Im also wondering if the no contact rule will help?
elena
October 7, 2015 at 10:00 am
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend end I broke up 3 months ago he broke up with me. He told me that it wear al small things and that I loved him more then he loved me that we couldn’t change that, that I was better of with someone else.
I have done no contact 2 times, after the first we met up and we had a great day and we kissed. After the kiss het told me that it felt better then the times we kissed during our relationship (that was not the thing I wanted to hear) and a lot of other stuff like that I shouldn’t think of him anymore. We talk for a week and he wanted to start sexting I did that (a mistake I know) so I did no contact for another month.
Me myself I was doing really well. I lost weight, I started painting again, I hang out whit friends and I started seeing other people. But how more I start seeing others how more I started missing him.
After the 2nd time no contact I had again an amazing text (same kind that you recommend) and he was really energy with me and told me; I don’t now what I have to say and I don’t know what you want. I told him that I was doing thing for myself (he did answered back but sceptical). I tried contacting him after a view days again and then I waited another view days before doing it again I get no response or yes and no answers.
I am really happy with what this made of me and I feel better and am happy. 1 thing that would even make me happier is when I have him standing next to me.
So do you have a view tip for me??
-XX- Elena
Anna
October 7, 2015 at 9:58 am
Hi I have just split up with my fiance. It has been nearly a week of no contact and 5 days since I moved out. I text him that I I would love him forever, no reply and another day I said I was still here for him,again no reply. I really don’t know if I should ask to talk to him as I still hope that we’ll get back together or whether that will annoy/push him further away. It was hard enough to split after getting engaged but also having to move out too.
I told him the first week we mutually split that I didn’t want to end but he said he’d had enough of the same argument that things never changed and would never do. I think he’s given up on us and it really hurts.what do I do?
kelly
October 6, 2015 at 7:05 pm
My boyfriend broke up with me about 5 months ago after being in a 2 year relationship. We had an amazing relationship, we never had any problems. He broke up with me because we were both starting school again and I think he wanted the whole college experience. But we are still good friends and we go on trips together with our group of friends. He is very nice to me and we get along well. The only thing is we still hookup with each other. I feel like I made a huge mistake because I am not letting him miss me at all. All I want is to be in a relationship with him again and I dont know how to get him back now.
Sara Kent
October 6, 2015 at 3:07 pm
Just as my instinct had told me, but was too blinded by love…my husband is sleeping with my best friend. O God! He is even in love with her. I even was informed about this by an attendant at one of the grocery stores I patronize, but rebuked her rudely and angrily because I taught she had an eye on my husband. Times went on and days went past…I was living a life of ”blinded by love”. My husband and I have been married for 3 years now and I was surprised when I found out he has been living a ”happily married life” of pretence and deceit with me just because of my financial flamboyancy. This was how I found out about them (my husband and my best friend)…There was going to be a dinner for couples that resided in the estate, since it was the estate feast day. But I was down with an unknown illness so I told my husband that we wouldn’t be able to make it to the dinner due to my condition and he agreed (this was on a Monday morning and the dinner was dated for Friday). The next day, I called my dad and complained to him about my illness which the doctor had examined and told me there wasn’t anything wrong with me, of which i knew wasn’t true because I was going through hell inside of my body. My dad told me not to worry and asked me to contact our long time known herbal doctor (Dr. Payo Shalo) (who has been God sent to my family in terms of spiritual help; he helped cure my dad off cancer, my mom off fibroid, my brother was awarded a contract with the world bank, just by his spells) on his email (payospiritsshalospells”AT”yahoo”DOT”com) which I did. I didn’t get a reply from him till Thursday morning which he explained and blamed on his busy schedules with other of his customers that sought spiritual help. We swung into actions with the procedures of getting me cured of this unknown killer disease that was bent on getting rid of my life. I did all I was instructed by the doctor (herbal). On Friday morning, my husband woke up and told me he was going to be away for about 3 days on a business conference. When he left, I contacted the doctor for the final rites. When everything was done, by 1:45pm just as the doctor had promised, I was well again. I called my dad and informed him about this miracle. I went to my parent’s house which I haven’t been able to do in a long while because of the illness…everyone was happy. I was with my parents till evening, and after having dinner with them, I went to bed. Just as I was going to sleep, I got a call from a neighbor in my estate telling me that she could just see my husband with another lady at the estate’s dinner for couples. I couldn’t believe what she was telling me. Immediately, I drove to the venue and my eyes saw my ears… my husband just leaving in his car with my best friend. I couldn’t believe my eyes, so I tailed them for about 15mins and they drove into a hotel…hmmm. I went back to my apartment and without hesitation I called Dr. Payo Shalo and told him of what I just found out. I told him I needed an urgent spell to make my husband develop sudden hatred for my best friend and immediately come back to me as soon as then. The doctor told me what to do, late that night, I got everything done. At about 3:18am on Saturday morning, my door opened. Who is this in my house this early? …My husband? In tears, he is confessing all he had been doing with my best friend and asking me to forgive him and accept him as the husband he used to be … I wept my eyes out. I immediately forgave him for I love him with all my heart. Now, my husband and I are living faithfully to each other and my illness, gone forever. Are you in need of any kind of spiritual, medical, financial help? Please contact Dr. Payo Shalo on the above email address for your rapid solutions. (Re-write the email in its right form)
K
October 5, 2015 at 9:34 pm
Hi Chris,
My boyfriend and I of 9 months broke up a few weeks ago. We had been going through changes , and he was trying to transition out of the marine corp. After not getting into the academy and stressing, he ended our relationship without giving me an explanation. The day he did it, he said he loved me called me babe and was communicating all throughout the day. I had texted him 2 times since the break up but have not received any communication back. Please help!
K
October 16, 2015 at 2:22 pm
I hadn’t eead the article before doing so. I started NC and its been almost 3 weeks, but haven’t heard anything from him. We have been broken up for over a month now.
K
October 15, 2015 at 2:01 pm
Hi Chris!
I had sent two texts during our no contact period. I started no contact after the last text message, and it has been three weeks. He still hasnt tried to contact me and it has been a month. What should I do ?
Chris Seiter
October 16, 2015 at 3:08 am
You sent two texts during NC? You aren’t supposed to contact him at all during NC.
LOST
October 9, 2015 at 7:26 am
Does NC work if my ex boyfriend said he doesn’t love me anymore? He said he has been considered for a long while. But we were fine one week before the break up.
He seems so calm and shows no sign of sadness in front of others( He just texted me to break up so I didnt know how he was when saying break up)
We have been together for 3.5 years.
He hasnt delete our photos on social media.
Chris Seiter
October 6, 2015 at 3:54 am
Have you done anything from this page on him yet?