The Definitive Guide For Getting Your Ex Boyfriend Back

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ashiaana

October 26, 2015 at 3:03 pm

I like a man…he was my facebook friend….we were friend for 3 years in facebook but we did not meet each-other….many times he wanted to meet with me but I did not meet because on that time I was busy with my study and he was giving me time ..he did not mind that much …..after my study I wanted to meet with him but he could not ….because on that time he had a travel planning for going abroad….in middle of this time we did fight and miss understand eachother…he deleted me from his facebook and blocked me….and now I am in “” no contact rules “” I wish I could meet with him and get as my life partner 🙂
michelle

October 26, 2015 at 5:01 am

Hi Chris,
My boyfriend of two years broke up with me after having another one of our “dumb” fights. It is true that recently we had been having so many of these dumb fights that I knew a breakup would come. It has been almost 2 months now since our breakup. Immediately after us breaking up he was insisting that me and him still remain in contact and still remain friends because after all I’m still the one person who knows him best. It was hard for me to accept because I was so angry and hurt by our breakup. I would try to ignore him and do no contact, but would end up giving into his phone calls and bombarding text messages. It was all because I had hopes in us getting back together. Also it is hard to completely avoid him because we do have the exact same group of friends. Recently I’ve tried to cope with everything by working on myself when I can, I never initiate contact with my ex. He always hits me up and I give in. I even agreed recently to eat dinner with him alone at a place where we used to go on dates, only to realize that Im misinterpreting his friendliness and getting my hopes up again. Ive cried about my hurt feelings numerous times and he actually knows I’m struggling. After dinner that night I had to tell him that I needed space to get over the relationship because I still have feelings for him. And yet he would call me and try to cheer me up which is very counterintuitive. I would get mixed emotions again because I don’t understand why he would still contact me when Im trying to get over him. It’s unfair because he knows I still have feelings for him whereas he no longer has romantic feelings for me. I don’t like being hurt and confused by his actions. I realized that I really do need to stick to 30 days of no contact. But I’ve already made the mistake of trying to start a friendship with him. So how should i go about the situation now? please help.
Erlinda

October 23, 2015 at 1:30 am

I was bored and thinking about my ex boyfriend when I found your page. I don’t really have an undying interest in getting back with him because it’s been a long time and I’m kinda over it. At times I will think of him but I assume that is normal. Anyways when we broke up he said that he never wanted to go out again. And when it happened I begged him back for a month then after that I was over being the only one trying and stopped. He never reached out to me which made me sad because I was really close to him and his family. I started to wonder , do guys purposely make themselves move on even when they really don’t want to? Like is there so much pride and anger in the way that sometimes they just absolutely do not text you first ? I know he wanted me to move on but at the same time I kinda know he never wanted me to.
Jay

October 23, 2015 at 12:44 am

Hi Chris.
So I recently broke up with my boyfriend and he is really stubborn and passive aggressive. He said it was over and this is it. I’ve tried to talk to him about things between us and he said if I kept trying to talk to him he was going to put headphones in. He seems to be happy about the break up and his new freedom. When we were together I tried my best to keep him from messing up. As soon as we break up, he’s in and out of jail. Being the caring and needy person I am, I told him every time that he could talk to me , I hope he’s okay, blah blah blah. In hopes that he would see that and come back to me. He answers like “yuh. I’m straight” and stuff (he’s not a thug or anything that’s just how he types when he’s uninterested) I started NC and at day 3 I cracked when his mom told me he brought me up and I asked what she said. She told me he wanted a girl over. Yes we’re juniors in collage haha. She said no and he laughed and said he was kidding as I made him uninterested in ever dating again! So he asked that just to bring me up and talk smack ! She went on and told me how badly he saw me although he always told me I was great. But he also made it clear he doesn’t want to hear from me or about me, so my question is :
Does this mean he misses me? Do you think he will ever try to have a relationship with me again?
Joel

October 22, 2015 at 9:11 pm

Hello Chris
ran across your site and I felt for a few days that I could win him over. After thinking I noticed that since we’ve broken up before he’s very negative about me being any different. He really doesn’t care anymore and said he is done trying to work things out they should just work. He says I pick a fight over stupid stuff all the time and he is sick of me being negative and moody all the time. He blocked me on all social media and will not answer mY calls or texts. He isn’t the type to reach out first or at all even if he really wants to. He has family and his career ahead of him and I have nothing but my aunt who lives a block from me. I have nothing; he was my everything. What should I do about this? Thanks!
sarah

October 22, 2015 at 7:47 pm

dear chris,
i’ve been with this guy since nine months. he’as really sweet in the starting. he cared about me a lot. he used to be very loving and caring but now.. everything has changed. he says that he doesnt love me anymore, his feeling are gone and he used to love me but not, he doesn’t. All this has occured cause of me. i am the reason behind everything. i’ve made him changed. this guy was so in love with me but at that time, i was not. i didn’t care about him. honestly, i behaved with him like pathetically. i have made him cry so many times. i was his first love and i have behaved with him so bad. i have said hurtful words and harsh things to him. then, he realised that he was wrong in loving me and he started ignoring me now. he doesn’t care at all!
what should i do? is NC applicable to me as well or it will craete even more distance or he will forget about me for ever?
Lilly

October 22, 2015 at 7:24 pm

Hey Chris
I recently broke up (he broke up with me realy) with my boyfriend we were dating for 1 and 1/2 year. He is the love of my life and I want to be with him. He said that I am the type of girl that if you give her a flower she would complain it’s the wrong color, or if you give her a note she would complain that the handwriting is bad. I will say I have a problem with perfection but that is all me myself and I. I love him and I would never want him to feel like everything he does is wrong . I just have a lot of personal problems. He will not answer any of my messages . I’ve been texting him about giving us another chance for a month now & I talk to his family a lot about him in hopes that he will give us another chance. He tells his family he doesn’t want to be with me so they should just stop talking to him about me and that I will never change. I think this time has made me open my eyes and change but he doesn’t think so. What should I do?
Rin

October 22, 2015 at 5:03 pm

Hi Chris, I really need advice. This is going to be long, so please bear with it.

My ex boyfriend broke up with me nearly 3 months ago after 4 months of dating, the reason for which was that I wanted a long-term relationship and he wasn’t able to give me that and he felt like we weren’t doing us any favor by keeping the other locked up (to give this context I’m a local and he’s an expat working here only until December – at least that’s the case for now). At first I thought he lost interest in me so I was ready to let him go and move on, but as time goes by I miss him more and more and feel like our chemistry is a rare occurence, so I want to get him back. I’d like to follow your advice but things are a bit different with us so I don’t know what to do.

You see, the problem is that we were coworkers, so we had to meet and talk everyday. Our interactions were more or less the same as before the breakup (we still joked and laughed with each other, shared stories, confide in each other, texted after work and sometimes even hang out together just the 2 of us), so except for the physical part of the relationship we were just like how we used to be, which complicated things a lot. I felt like I was stuck in a never-ending circle, so I quit my job 2 weeks ago. After I quit he still texts me and wants to hang out and talk to me. I’m quite confused now and really could use some advice. My concerns now are:

1/ How does he feel about me now? Does he maintaining contact with me mean he still thinks about me and likes me, or does it just mean he wants us to be friends? Our breakup was very clean, I didn’t beg, plead or act desperately at all. Didn’t even cry (I did tell him that the breakup hurt me deeply even though I tried to put on a strong front, though). Do you think my lack of reactions after the breakup was a good thing or bad?
2/ Because of the ‘coworkers’ deal I couldn’t follow the no-contact rule. Is it too late to do it now? After nearly 3 months of staying in contact would it be weird to disappear now?
3/ My friends keep telling me that he must still have feelings for me, but if he does why isn’t he doing anything? (like asking to get back together, or ask me out – he only asked me to work-related events, but he agrees to and enjoys everytime I ask him to hang out)
4/ What can I do now to get him back? During the past 3 months I’ve been ‘moving on’, going on trips, trying new things, investing in myself, going on dates, so I’m in a good place. But I still miss him and want him back so much, I believe that we’re meant to be together and I want to show him that. Please, do tell me what to do to achieve that.

I’d really appreciate a response, Chris. Thank you so much in advance.
anonymous

October 22, 2015 at 1:13 pm

Hey Chris!
My boyfriend broke up with me just over three months ago. There was no begging on my part and the first two months (before finding this site) were no contact. Recently I have reached out to him a couple times this month, but Im not sure how to read his signals or responses to me. He will respond to all my texts and every time he is kind of withdrawn at first but as soon as I begin to bring the conversation to a close, he starts asking questions and continuing the conversation. He never initiated contact until this last week to return my things (which I asked for three months ago before no contact). When we met we talked for an hour and when he left things seemed friendly between us. I was completely taken by surprise in seeing him. So even though the meeting up went well, I wasn’t needy, and I didn’t bring up the relationship, I also didn’t put my best foot forward as far as showing him the things I have been working on improving in myself. He has not reached out in a week since we saw each other and since then I also have tried to follow him on Instagram, which I didn’t think of as a big deal to him as he follows all his exes and social media never played a big role in our relationship, but he has ignored my request. I realize that its just social media and I may be reading into things too much, but after he reached out to me and drove to meet me, it confused me that he would ignore such a small step at reestablishing contact in our lives. I am not sure how to read his reactions or how to proceed now that he won’t respond to my request. Since seeing him again I miss him now more then ever, but the signals he’s giving me all seem neutral or mixed. Do you think I even still could have a chance at winning him back by continuing contact or do you have any advice at all about how to read his signals and proceed in the future? I feel completely lost and really really would appreciate any advice or opinion on his behavior that you can give me! Thanks!

Isaac

January 10, 2016 at 5:08 am

did it work for you

Kelly Anne

October 21, 2015 at 11:05 pm

I also forgot to mention sometimes he would drop comments that I’m too needy and was starting to get annoyed with me when I tried so hard to make him happy. But I won’t change who I am for someone who “doesn’t know what he wants”.

Chris Seiter

November 19, 2015 at 1:52 pm

You will need to do 30 days nc.

Kelly Anne

October 21, 2015 at 11:03 pm

Hey Chris!
So me and my “boyfriend” for a little over a year just broke up. I put boyfriend in quotations because after getting out of a 5 year relationship and meeting me a few months after, he was never really “ready” to do the commitment thing. This hurt a lot but I also liked him a lot, so I stayed with him hoping he would be ready. He never was a fan of posting pictures of us or anything. I just wanted him to want to show me off and say this is my girl. He always said it was because he doesn’t want people knowing his business but I thought it was because he was talking to other girls. He always shut that down and said he wasn’t. Him not being ready to commit to me was always in the back of my mind and always caused problems between us. I suggested a few breaks hoping that it would show him he does want more with me. During this break I slept with someone else, which was the completely wrong thing to do but I was so hurt and felt like nothing. I wasn’t thinking straight when I did this and I regret it to this day. I know it wasn’t the solution at all and it made things worse. He used this as an excuse to not be committed to me and it felt like a slap in the face. After things got worse, things got better and I was starting to see hope in us. Then we started fighting because he was being shady with his phone when I saw a girl texted him or he would text so that I couldn’t see. That brought out the crazy in me which I wish it hadn’t. I wish I kept my cool but it was so hard. He was also becoming distant and not texting me as much as he used to and we just began to fight about stupid things. So we broke up. I made excuses and gave him reasons why we should stay together, which now I look at it as me being weak. We eventually broke up a few weeks later. I tried again to get him back but nothing was working. I can honestly say I looked stupid and desperate trying to get him back this past time. I was sending him long text message, blowing up his phone, drunk texting him, saying things I wouldn’t usually say. I am an emotional person and I fall hard. I just miss when we were always texting and hanging out. I want things to go back to normal. When I think about him being out of my life and with another girl I feel sick to my stomach. Every time I try to ignore him or not contact him I either cave or he texted me and I answered. I’m not sure what to do anymore. Do you think there’s a chance? Or did i completely blow it?

Chris Seiter

November 19, 2015 at 1:53 pm

I think theres a chance but do you feel like you can fully trust him?

Lynn

October 21, 2015 at 6:40 pm

Okay so me and my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up about a month ago. We’re both in high school , but very very in love (or were.) when I met him , my dad just went to jail and I was with an abusive stepmother. He was literally a blessing as he came into my life when I most needed it. I ended up moving in with him and his family who absolutely love me. They put me in dance, volleyball , and always helped me if I asked for help. I finally felt like I had a family. Being so young , I was so scared we would get sick of each other and break up. I kept telling him this, but he said he loved me so much and we could work through anything. I didn’t believe him at first because I’ve seen my parents and other adults say this and it go down hill. After some time , I was convinced that he was here to stay and we could really work through anything. I was so unbelievably wrong. He started to sneak out, do drugs like weed and pop pills , and inhale stuff. I wanted to help him, I tried to handle it myself and I couldn’t. I was so scared for him I told his mom. Maybe a mistake? After that, he was never the same. He stopped telling me stuff stoped talking to me the same way,ect. It showed in his eyes he was getting annoyed and started to resent me. He soon broke up with me , and his reasoning is I’m materialistic (I’ve never asked him for anything, he couldn’t afford it.) he says I treat him like he’s never enough (I do have a problem with perfection) and other things like this. I looked into it and realized I do have those problems. I told him I would change but he said we’ve been here before and I promised to change and i didn’t or I would for some time and go back to it. I moved out his house , and with my mom across the country. He’s my blessing and I think I blew it. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar depression, which may had caused a lot of the problems. He said that he thinks I should move on and that I messed up relationships for him forever, when a month before our break up he was practically begging me to stay with him forever and he’s never loved anyone like he loves me. He also says he will always love me he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship. That relationships are the worst thing to get into, more then drugs and alcohol. I would do anything to have him back. His mom tells me that maybe he will open his eyes and try to get back together with me, but as of right now he doesn’t want a relationship at all and he ignores me completely. He always saying he knows I care but it doesn’t Change the fact that he doesn’t want to be in a relationship with me. I feel like we could but it’s the wrong timing, but he’s extremely rude and always ignoring me. This is day 2 of NC
Areej

October 21, 2015 at 5:24 am

I recently broke up with my boyfriend of 4years. Yesterday to be exact so the wounds are really fresh. Prior to that, we had our major breakup 2years ago because of a third party but we mended and patched things up. The next 2years were great. We just celebrated our anniversary this October 2 and my heart bleeds that that would be the last time we would celebrate it.

I am unemployed for 9 going on 10months right now and struggling to find a job. My frustrations and depression of not being able to find a job was lashed out at him even though he tried to be supportive for me. He eventually became infatuated with an officemate and kind of entertained it. When I caught him and asked why, he told me that he missed talking to someone happier and positive. He asked for a temporary break but could not give it to him so We said we’d try to mend it one day at a time. It was working but then I already had trust issues. On monday, I called him and his phone was busycand I automatically assumed it was this girl he was talking to when it was just his mother. I lashed out at him and there he said that he was tired and drained. I was also hospitalized this week due to typhoid fever and he rushed to my aid yesterday but also broke up formally with me. Though we talked yesterday where I made the mistake of begging and pleading, he said he was tired, needed space and just wanted to be alone right now because h d oesn’t know what he wants. When I asked him if he would get back together with me, he said don’t expect.

While I know I am not the only one going thru this, my heart is really breaking right now and all sorts of thoughts are inside my mind. The problem is I cannot find it in my heart to be amgry with him and just want him back again, like we used to. But let’s face it and we both know that right now it would not be the same even if we got back. I keep checking my phone for messages of him, cannot sleep or eat snd everything just reminds me of him even if I am staying at my parent’s house because he used to frequent this place too. My dog was given by him but I cannot get rid of him. We traveled so much together this year and as I began trying to delete all the posts and pictures on social media, I break down everytime. I cleared all his belongings tand all the things he had given me. Whenever I try to go out to distract myself, I see him everywhere where we used to hangout. And my heart feels like it is being stabbed whenever i think he has a new girlfriend or has moved on from me.

I will not lie and say that I don’t want him back. I will not lie and pretend that I do not have urges to call or text him and regularly check my phone for texts and calls from him. Nor will I lie that I want to give him the space he wants from me in the hopes that he will miss me.

But more important, i have no work to distract me right now and my motivation to find work just went down the drain. While I am foolishly hoping that we would still get back together, I would like to kill that hope and really just get myself to focus on myself. I keep analyzing his words that he doesn’t know what he wants but

Someone advised me to not kill my hopes and write him a letter explaining myself abut also giving him the time he wants. But others advised against this and most of my friends told me to keep moving on, respect his space and not hope for anything as that would just destroy me if in the end I have nothing to really hope for. Today I am back in the hospital snd out of routine, my mom texted him and it feels like a slap in the face when he simply followed thru with his wanting for space and not even bothered to reply or check on me at all. I miss the routines, the calls in the morning and goodnights and iloveyous at night and now Ichave to learn to live without it. It’s only day one and I feel so rubbish already. I dont want to and know I am not supposed to but I am counting the days till he talks to me again or till I initiate contact. Would 2weeks be enough? What if he’s moving on from me now? I cant stop the thoughts

I keep reading articles on how to get your ex back here in and other blogs and sites and I dont know if it is good that those articles keep me hoping for more.

I thank you in advance for taking the time to read my post and hope that you can give me advice or just talk to me. Since my friends can only talk to me after their work. I ahave already applied the NC rule and today is just day one and it’s so hard
Olivia

October 21, 2015 at 1:00 am

Hey Chris,

My boyfriend of two years broke up with me on my birthday, which was a week ago. We were talking about marriage and even had a ring. We were discussing wedding colors and location and he was looking for work near my hometown. When he did it, he just kept saying, “We’re done,” and it hit me so hard because I really didn’t think he would do it so abruptly. I kind of saw it coming because we had been getting into dumb arguments over things that don’t really matter. Usually when he’d get frustrated over something silly I’d just let him work through it, but after he yelled at me in public over making a dumb joke, I just got so frustrated that I walked away. I stopped doing as many nice things for him because I felt like he needed space, but I think he interpreted that as me not loving him anymore.
This year has been a very bad year, and he’s been there for me through all of it. I was rear ended late at night over the weekend, and I was so scared and upset I broke the no contact rule. I texted him and we corresponded several times throughout the following day, and long story short, I did not keep my cool. I mean I didn’t blow up his phone at all, but I brought up old stuff and apologized and asked if we could talk. He agreed, but I know now that it’s too early to meet up if I want us to actually get back together.
I wish I had found your website sooner because I feel like I already broke too many rules. He really does mean the world to me and I feel like the breakup was so spur of the moment. I expected him to want to talk it out, but he just ended it and left. He’s my best friend, and I really enjoy his company. I’m worried that I just ruined my chances because I texted him so soon. Do you think there’s a chance I could still get him back after breaking the rules so early? What should I do if he decides to meet up? I could really use some advice, I’m worried I blew it already.

Olivia

Olivia

October 21, 2015 at 8:28 pm

So even if he texts me and says he wants to meet up, I should ignore him? I made a big mistake leaving the ball in his court like I did.

He had connections who were looking into a job, but he hasn’t heard anything yet. My cousin offered him a job as well, but I told him working with my family may not be a good idea, so I don’t think he accepted.
Chris Seiter

October 21, 2015 at 8:16 pm

Hey Olivia, Sorry to hear your having such a rough time. Weddings can be a very stressful time. The planning and the input from family members and friends can put a strain on any relationship.

Yes, I think if you do no contact and give him space he will come around. He needs time to miss you. Make sure you do no contact properly, DO not respond to him until NC is over. You will do great. 30 days would be good for your situation.

Did he ever find work near your hometown?

Olivia

October 21, 2015 at 12:55 am

Hi Chris,

My boyfriend of two years broke up with me on my birthday, which was a week ago. We were talking about marriage and even had a ring. We were discussing wedding colors and location and he was looking for work near my hometown. When he did it, he just kept saying, “We’re done,” and it hit me so hard because I really didn’t think he would do it so abruptly. I kind of saw it coming because we had been getting into dumb arguments over things that don’t really matter. Usually when he’d get frustrated over something silly I’d just let him work through it, but after he yelled at me in public over making a dumb joke, I just got so frustrated that I walked away. I stopped doing as many nice things for him because I felt like he needed space, but I think he interpreted that as me not loving him anymore.
This year has been a very bad year, and he’s been there for me through all of it. I was rear ended late at night over the weekend, and I was so scared and upset I broke the no contact rule. I texted him and we corresponded several times throughout the following day, and long story short, I did not keep my cool. I mean I didn’t blow up his phone at all, but I brought up old stuff and apologized and asked if we could talk. He agreed, but I know now that it’s too early to meet up if I want us to actually get back together.
I wish I had found your website sooner because I feel like I already broke too many rules. He really does mean the world to me and I feel like the breakup was so spur of the moment. I expected him to want to talk it out, but he just ended it and left. He’s my best friend, and I really enjoy his company. I’m worried that I just ruined my chances because I texted him so soon. Do you think there’s a chance I could still get him back after breaking the rules so early? What should I do if he decides to meet up? I could really use some advice, I’m worried I blew it already.

Thank you,
Olivia
MLD

October 20, 2015 at 8:39 am

Hey Chris, you didn’t answer my other question though..cab i call him as my first contact with some good news about me personally. i.e. a new job that he was cheering me om for which i got

MLD

October 22, 2015 at 11:17 pm

So i did send a text message as is suggested i got a neutral response, but he did agree to talk and we kinda brought one another up to date on our personal lives. i mentioned that i did see him out the other night and his response was shy i dint tell him hi…i am still interested in getting back with him, so do i still continue with the game plan or so i have to switch it up as we have spoken. he did however he did go back there….sounded a little angry but we had a calm interaction. i told him i just wanted to tell him my news and that’s it and well like i said he shared some good news as well. Advise me….please.
Chris Seiter

October 22, 2015 at 1:09 am

You can do whatever you think will work best for you. You know him best. I think you should really focus on something other than yourself though. You don’t want to come off as bragging. The point is to make him feel good.

M

October 20, 2015 at 8:36 am

i have some news that i think my ex would like to hear about me..it is the end of my NC period, can i call him and use this as my first means of contact? He was supportive of my situation a the time so would like him to know the change.
PLEASE

October 19, 2015 at 9:24 pm

Okay so me and my boyfriend of almost 2 years broke up about a month ago. We’re both in high school , but very very in love (or were.) when I met him , my dad just went to jail and I was with an abusive stepmother. He was literally a blessing as he came into my life when I most needed it. I ended up moving in with him and his family who absolutely love me. They put me in dance, volleyball , and always helped me if I asked for help. I finally felt like I had a family. Being so young , I was so scared we would get sick of each other and break up. I kept telling him this, but he said he loved me so much and we could work through anything. I didn’t believe him at first because I’ve seen my parents and other adults say this and it go down hill. After some time , I was convinced that he was here to stay and we could really work through anything. I was so unbelievably wrong. He started to sneak out, do drugs like weed and pop pills , and inhale stuff. I wanted to help him, I tried to handle it myself and I couldn’t. I was so scared for him I told his mom. Maybe a mistake? After that, he was never the same. He stopped telling me stuff stoped talking to me the same way,ect. It showed in his eyes he was getting annoyed and started to resent me. He soon broke up with me , and his reasoning is I’m materialistic (I’ve never asked him for anything, he couldn’t afford it.) he says I treat him like he’s never enough (I do have a problem with perfection) and other things like this. I looked into it and realized I do have those problems. I told him I would change but he said we’ve been here before and I promised to change and i didn’t or I would for some time and go back to it. I moved out his house , and with my mom across the country. He’s my blessing and I think I blew it. I was recently diagnosed with bipolar depression, which may had caused a lot of the problems. He said that he thinks I should move on and that I messed up relationships for him forever, when a month before our break up he was practically begging me to stay with him forever and he’s never loved anyone like he loves me. He also says he will always love me he just doesn’t want to be in a relationship. That relationships are the worst thing to get into, more then drugs and alcohol. I would do anything to have him back. His mom tells me that maybe he will open his eyes and try to get back together with me, but as of right now he doesn’t want a relationship at all and he ignores me completely. Do I have a chance at all at getting him back? I feel like we could but it’s the wrong timing, but he’s extremely rude and always ignoring me. This is day 2 of NC

LB

October 22, 2015 at 6:35 pm

I’m a little worried he won’t care , since he’s been ignoring me , talking bad about me , and swearing that he wants no relationship at the moment. His mom really wants us back together , she said she tries to talk to him about me all the time and he says something on the lines of “ya know I could give her the world and it still wouldn’t be enough”. I told her respectfully to stop talking to him about me so he can remember the good times instead of being reminded of how much I want / need him. I also told her that I wasn’t going to be talking to her because it’s too hard for me, I think I’ve been making all the wrong mistakes on trying to get him back. I was thinking two months to let it really sink in and forget the bad (plus were on and off ALL the time) but if you think 21 days I will do that !
Chris Seiter

October 22, 2015 at 1:27 am

That is so nice to have his family step up like that! I think he felt like he couldn’t trust you, that was teh real reason he broke up with you. Yes you have a chance at getting him back. Do no contact for 21 days and then reach out but make sure your text is positive and nothing about the breakup. Think about something that makes him happy that you did together. ex. watched a certain show every week, favorite movie, any hobbies you did together etc.

Shera

October 19, 2015 at 7:30 pm

Hi,
My ex broke up with me in mid september, on 3rd Oct we bumped into each other in town and he hugged me and we kept in contact for 3days then broke contact and started the NC. The problem is i met him through a friend and the friend and i kinda had a thing going on. So do i still have a chance with my ex or not?

Chris Seiter

October 22, 2015 at 12:03 am

I think you still have a chance for sure!

B.W.

October 19, 2015 at 6:19 pm

Hey,
so this page gave me a lot more confidence in hoping to get my ex back than I had before.
We’ve been together for a bit more than 7 years, have two small children together. We were engaged and gonna get married next year. We’ve been thru a lot and things were finally falling into place for us and we had lots of plans for the future.
Now I didnt see it coming at all, but about three months ago he told me he just didnt think we should be together atm, he wanted to take a break, but stay close so he could be there for the kids. First he still lived in our flat, always saying things like: “There’s always hope” and holding me when I was crying, but then very coldly turning away and ignoring me. For three weeks I lived in uncertainty, never knowing if he actually felt anything for me.
He went away over the weekend and we chatted via txt and he said that he of course still had feelings for me, but it turned a bit more complicated now, meaning, he stayed the weekend with a girl and of course slept with her and was starting to fall in love with her (he met her at a party two weeks before that). I told him I couldnt let him back in my flat knowing this, so he moved in wit her straight away, in a city about 3 hours drive away, one week later they made it official on Facebook.
Now despite that I really want him back, it’s been three months and I have had plenty of time to myself, I’m trying “No contact” but since he’s seeing the kids every two weeks its a bit hard.
I must admit during the three weeks he still lived here I have been ridiculous and begging him not to go and I have been very angry and we had some cruel fights via whatsapp. However, things have calmed down a few weeks back and I have started not to contact him at all. He keeps writing me how I was and that he was worried about me. I have heard rumours that they split up last week, he even said to me after seeing the kids he is thinking of ending it with her. However I’m not gonna rely on third party rumours anymore and cant be sure of that information.

Do you think there is hope I could get him back or have I messed that up already? I would say he definitely still cares for me, but I’m not sure if he just wants to be friends or if there is more. I hate when he says: “You will always be the mother of my children”, because I would like to be more to him than that.
So, you think I should go ahead with the “get bf back plan” or is it a waste of time and effort in my case?

Chris Seiter

October 20, 2015 at 9:52 pm

I absolutely think there is hope to get him back.

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